You know.. I was thinking in those cultures where one has no choice in who one marries this could be a blessing. Lol I don't know how they can even get aroused to consulate the marriage.
That's the thing. If it's appreciated, fine, even then not everyday. But if they leave it for leftovers or something it's frustrating. Now I understand why my mom would get mad if my dad brought food home when she cooked!
You’re absolutely right. My longest relationship (6 years) I acted like a spoiled princess who was never satisfied. He took care of me, random expensive gifts, romantic candlelit dinners etc. my shortest relationship (1.5 years) I was a pick me. I cooked, cleaned, everything and got treated like crap in the end. Notice the amount of time I was in each relationship, ladies! 💓
After listening to your videos, I told my fiancé I wanted to have cleaning service when we get a house, at first he protested, then I told him “it’s the price of a palette and a lipstick” like u said in the last video! And he reconsidered and looked into the price, he realized it is a good investment 😊 you’re helping me set myself up for a happy marriage, for real!
Married ladies listen to this woman.... because eventually what happens is that your feelings toward your husband began to change. You get tired of being taken for granted, and you want out of the marriage. For most women it takes a lot for us to stop loving our man......but once we do it’s no going back!
Dan Winnestaffer NO. house work is non stop around the clock work, you spend 8 hours at work and get to clock out and go home at the end of the day. there is no OFF for housewives. + with KIDS? you out your damn mind billy!
I just discovered you today, started taking what you’re saying… and my husband has been double checking if I’m okay, bringing me strawberries and things I like.. 😂🍓 trying to take care of me better already! Instant shift!
This is confirmation!! The Color Purple is literally on TV right now. It was turned on by mistake by my infant who was playing with the remote!!! Almost creepy how this happened!!! Omg
@@SheRaSeven1 and get this....it started at the scene when Celie and Shug found the letters and Celie went from a Dusty to Leveled up!!!! Shera... You are scaring me! How can you talk about that movie and that scene and my baby put it on TV... I literally cried..... This is crazy!!
I found myself caught in this routine because i do love to cook but the more you do the less they appreciate so you do have to ration it out do half of what i could do so that its still something special its just human nature to eventually take things for granted
This happened to me I was a live in he paid all the Bills and I became the house maid and treated like shit..I ran across a Derick Jackson video and Ashera popped up next and my whole world change... most women are program from little girls to cook and clean and we are told this is what we need to due for our family and to KEEP a man. Give give give and hope and pray that you get a good God fearing man...
The "bag" can disappear in marriage. Businesses can fail and the source of income dry up. What then? If a woman has too many children and the focus is on the kids and not on the husband or herself, he might start looking for his trophy wife. No more than 2 kids ladies and never get complacent......you might just be warming the spot for the next woman (lol). Even in marriage, find a way of getting your own independent stream of income. If you aren't well educated, go back to school and learn something. Nothing is forever these days..........
I love her advice so iam leveling up as we speak and my husband all in my face like you want something you ok your phone ringing and all I did is get my hair blown straight put some makeup on and shopped my closet because I own lots of makeup and clothes and I’ve let myself go badly but thank you to women like shera you guys are awesome 🥰
Been watching you baby 😉!! You have made me do a 360 degrees turnaround & have em licking of my plate. I was the one beggingg for marriage. Now 6 months later. my feet is up and everything is under my command. You’ve got to love yourself ladies I’m telling u shera is right if u love yourself and have your price tag ready that will be the minimum for him he will always aim higher for you. Only love God! And love how he made you so perfect for u ❤️!! Never let air of negativity ruin u. 😌🤫 “It’s my way or the highway”. Thank you for being an older sister. Much love from 🇬🇧 xxx
I had this thought yesterday and was shown this video a few hours later. Im done talking, having conversations about it. If he's too mad, there's the door. I'll be looking forward to my alimony check
Thanks to listening to you at the age of 36 I got married for the first time it was like a grieving process at first to grieve all the time I wasted with losers lol… i’m a stay at home wife and I do my RU-vid when I feel like it…I wish I found you when I was 20 I was such a gorgeous girl in my prime lol
🌸I’m reading the book: “THINK AND GROW RICH” by Napoleon Hill, and it is in alignment with what you talk about on your channels; especially on the chapter: “Towards Riches: Sex Transmutation,” where he talks about how women gain their power. Can you do a video on the book please. I just want to hear you talk about it. 💕💕
👏👏👏👍👍 And I say...treat people like they ....TREAT!.....YOU....and that will solve so many problems 😊 P.s.....and when they change...you .....CHANGE...Period.
This is how I think in my marriage..It cause problem.. so what !!!I’m 10 yrs in what is he going to do.. divorce me and give me half or Ido what I say .,lmao
Hey beauty. I'm all about making deals and making him miss me in my marriage. As a stay at home wife/mom it's easy for them to take us for granted. My hubby KNOWS he has to pay up.
Whew, i need to get my hair, nails done and go shopping bc I’ve been slacking for myself. It’s a lot of work for the upkeep but it’s the truth. Ima try it out. Thank you for keeping it real!!!
Level Up 2019! Thanks Ms.Shera for the uplifting words of encouragement for the betterment of the lives of women (and men little do they know)..lol,You are going down in you tube history for sure❣
I was watching your video for no longer than 20 minutes and my husband immediately went to fix the fridge that's been broke for weeks, and he went to buy my favorite cocktails for me and all my friends because I was calling my friends to come bring me a shot 🤭🤭🤭
Hi I’m new to your channel have been watching you consistently now for two days I’m currently one of these women at the moment reprogramming (husband) It’s going very well it was my thought in the beginning I had a stander, I dropped it but I’m glad I know it now and it’s not too late. thank you so much for your tips. But I will say I’ve never been a 50-50 wife. Think that’s why the reprogram it is going very well. Thanks
Its nice that wives buy little gifts for their husband..I can believe her when she said James loved that wallet lol..when you ARE loved(in everyway) the woman wouldn't mind thinking of him from time to time lol.
Also talk less this will really annoy them n they r sweeter to u when u become from yapatie yap to a reserved person n wonder why you r ignoring him just b polite but let him start conservation then believe he respect you more” thank you Shera for this advise “....❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗......because Shera says the minute u r sweet n lovey dovie he starts disrespecting n take u for granted etc 😌😌 u also need throw attitude sometimes so m zipped most time with him if I wanna talk Go into my yap yap Mode I call or talk text with my friends my mom or my sides;)
Hey SheRa nice video, you are right for the most part. If you are married to a man than you should be able to let him know what you want or expect. I wouldn't feel bad if I got my wife a gift and she asked could we do this or that next year that's her right. I got a wife who is a beautiful woman men and women always tell her she is so beautiful ask about her eyes ask about her make up which she doesn't wear any. It just confirm what you say that beautiful women do get what they want generally and I tell her all the time that if she was ugly I would not put up with her nice nasty attitude.
U r right In all cases either bcoz of u or the man, if u don’t feel appreciated gradually u ll come to hate yourself & the relationship . Then I’ll wake up
I know this one female who purchased a nice car around income tax time and had other females thinking her husband got it for her but he didnt he said he he paying that high azz car note!! Lol
Everyone gets in life...what they truly! Deep Down.... Believe they.... Deserve!..And their life reflects it!..... P.S.....So just look around...at.... Your!.... Life! Folks.✌
Its a learning process..I get it..if he's paying the bills and you're riding in his nice car, you weren't feeling as if you're lacking and you weren't..I luxury car is always nice of course 😊 but as long as you were getting all of your needs met and was satisfied the new car was a bonus! @SheRa7
All of this is true I did all of this cooking and cleaning work sex etc... I slowed up the process of a lot of these things he claims he doesn't care but nnow I'm a cheater I have bf/gf a prostitute he talk bad about me to his family and calls my job when he never did !
You should do a daily routine or habits a women should have to maintain themselves as a bad bitch and I love in one of your videos you talked about how we complicate things with emotions “slave to our emotions” but we should make our makeup complicated or our outfit. Love!
sabreenflee She always says she: 1. wakes up early 2. makeup 3. gym 4. shower 5. makeup 6. eat & watch calories 7. work 8. read 9. learns new knowledge 10. stays at peace of mind etc etc etc :)
My husband's car is seven years old. But mine is 20 years old! I had my car when I met him; he bought his after we got married. When he first got his new car he used to let me drive it and he would drive my old one. But somewhere along the way he stopped driving my old car and now I have to. It's a piece of shit, but I don't have the money or means to get a new one right now, so it is what it is. I tell myself, at least I HAVE a car, because plenty of people don't. I am a little resentful, though...
Thanks for the tips, advice, time. Will you do a video on you don't have to be polite. When your raised programmed. Thanks for helping us see what's up. Because like you said they know. And you know better knowledge because James older. Tell your sister thankyou as well. You look so cute and chic and boho.
