Only YOU Can End Your Covenant With The Narcissist’s Entity 

The narc is the brutal opportunity we have to build inner validation and educate ourselves about toxic people who want to feed off us. They never change, but we can.

If you are really 80...you are the most beautiful and smartest 80 year old I have ever seen....with a sweet dog by your side!💜😹🐶

Ephesians 6:12 we struggle not against flesh and blood but forces and rulers of the dark world.

It just blows my mind at how much the demons are attracted to the light.

It's a tether; they attach to your soul. And they hook into your psyche. They're scanning/ reading you every moment to detect any vulnerabilities, wounds, insecurities, and even the things you care about most. Whatever your highest and truest intention is that you embody; your true essence; the goal is to destroy that. That's why the minute you leave breaking your bond and your relationship with the children is the main focus and goal. You must break, bind, rebuke, cancel that tether in the spiritual realm. You can visualize cutting that tie as you speak aloud detaching that contract from your soul.( Mind will and emotions) You can then loose God's will over your life and your temple. God gives us 1 spirit; a spirit of love power and a sound mind! Bind and return to the abyss anything outside of God's will. Pray also that every celluar memory of trauma abuse and cruelty be removed from your temple in Jesus Holy name! When we're born we're naturally wired for love and connection. Pray that your brain be rewired back to it's natural state for love and connection in Jesus Holy name. And that your spirit and essence and integrity be returned to its natural state in Jesus name 🙏 AMEN 🙏🙌

28 empty years. Am a widow, will stay single, happier now, on my own w my cat family.❤❤😊

It’s an incredible feeling the exact moment when you break the trauma bond. I literally felt lighter. It was wonderful. Hang in there if you’re not there yet. It’ll happen sooner than you think.

I can do allthings thru Christ who strengthens me

As painful as it was I'm glad Jesus gave me strength to go no contact, I felt like an addict going cold turkey as I felt so addicted to him. THANK YOU Jesus my Saviour for setting me free. They are fallen angels

Let me congratulate myself for conquering that demon, I have overcome thank you Jesus ❤❤❤

For the last few months I have had an adorable pic of me at age 4 . The pic makes me sad because I know that little girl was fighting for herself , trying to figure out why her own mom did not like her . My mom was a narcassist with mental illness . I was always walking on eggshells . I kiss that pic every nite and say you darling girl .. little did that little girl know that she would encounter several romantic relationships that almost killed me . We have done the work together and at age 62 I know that little girl is the only approval I need .. this made me cry .

Remy is an integral part of this amazing work.

You have to have gone through this horrible demonic experience to fully understand. I’m so graceful to have healed. I got my life back and Never again.

Paula, I come from a toxic family and have a severely narcissistic sister. Breaking this bond was a superhuman feat. As you say, I don't need her, but she does. Thank you. 🌹

I didn't know about narcissism until 23 years into my marriage. Once I learned about it I realized why I felt like I was sleeping with a 12 year old boy...still working on getting out at my very ripe old age.

"Dog Is My Co-Pilot"

Soul tie, and the 😈 knows exactly what we crave for, then they try to destroy us

He'll never get a reactionary response from me again! He's trying, but he can't make me mad enough anymore. I'm free! ❤

3 1/2 years gone and still think of him constantly. It’s never ending

Remy the dog the co producer 🤣

My bond has finally been broken with him. Now I have more time for myself and more money as well. The relationship (if you can call it that) had drained my body and mind. I had a plan and over months gradually carried it out towards getting him away from me. The local police who caught him driving my car unlicensed and with drugs in his system....this had a part in making things easier for me. I'm ok now and I'm rather sure I will never be attracted to a covert narcissist again as I now have the knowledge. I feel stronger and healthier. I don't desire to be friends with a demon.

When I was still in the fog and suffering, my cats always cuddled me with extra dedication, comforting me. I know they picked up on my anxiety before I myself even realised in how bad a state I was. So yes, Paula, animals sense the Truth. Often before we do. I don't know where I'd have been without their unconditional love.

I did need the narcissists when a child. It was so empty for my heart! Big fancy home, it all looked so good and others told me so. The loneliness was soul breaking with periods of hype and glitter. Such cognitive dissonance. My mother gave me the silent treat for 13 years. Her grandchild. It was mind boggling. Therapists said let it go, I couldn’t. I didn’t know it was on purpose to control me. I do now. I can’t understand it, you’re right. So many years questioning me, family blaming me because she did it. No specific reasons anyone could even give me. What a life to break the covenants and be free of what is not mine to bear. It is not easy and I won’t give up because so many love me and I them and it’s so different. I’m a moth to a flame to narcissistic people, my first caretakers sadly.

You are so right. I married to one. He is beyond evil.

Definitely a false demonic covenant takes place when the relationship gets physically intimate. Yuck

The best revenge is to live a good life and be happy. It takes real focus, what do you want, what makes you feel good? It takes some time, it took a while for me to understand that they are not like us, they do not think like most people, they are indeed evil. Accepting that helped me move on, I still do not understand it how anyone could be that malevolent, but it’s not for me to understand. They are actually very weak and frightened underneath it all and yes we do not need them. I want people in my like who have my best interests at heart. Thank you for these videos, I love your dog. 80 ? Pull the other one 😆😆😆 what utter rollocks! “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten”

These witches and warlocks know that there master lives inside of me who they have to submit too.

Supernova and over and out. It’s the empath’s triumph to break the trauma bond. Putting an end to all potential bs coming through. And don’t the narcissists just know it when we’ve moved back to sanity corner - where we deserve to be. To the pinnacle of indifference and beyond. Thank you, Paula.

Prayer shared from a priest: “By the blood of Christ, I command the demons of (say the type, eg desire or lust or loneliness, enmeshment, etc), to leave me alone and get to the foot of Christ’s cross to receive your sentence. Amen”

Thank you Paula for talking about this topic. We are dealing with very unwell individual's who will never heal. Tortured souls who torture others..

Paula, your ability to describe this horrendous life we lived is amazing 👏 . Love all your videos. Thank you ❤

My one year anniversary of no contact was this week. Finally free! Yes, Paula, you’re right. I had to break it. I did it. He controls me no longer after a decade.

Witchcraft... Narcissist

After I had gone no-contact, I tried a ceremony with burning sage and imaginary scissors to cut the ties to the narcissist, as one more step in the healing process.

Always be prepared for surprises- yet they are so predictable..

Beautiful Perfectly Helpful and Encouraging Talk Today - Thank you. Coincidentally I found my self literally standing in check out line behind the horrific parasitic abuser narcissit that captured me several years ago. I recognized him from behind and silently slinked back to hide / blend in with a very tall woman looking at dishes at the 2nd hand resale store. I vented a bit to her and verbalized how awful that man over is and was to me - - - how long I had successfully kept him away from me - - and there he is - - a few feet away. I have had several near misses with this person - usually easy to go by when I am driving in town and recognized him on the street or crossing the street while I am going about my business. But yesterday was very close - -same physical space sharing close and I snapped instantly back to a position far away and waited it out until I could finish my purchases and go home. I have at times been upset just for these crossings - - taking them as a "sign" that there is still some connection - I call karma - with that person. But now I see they are just tiny momentary chances for ME to SEE WHERE I AM WITH THEM. Not Near Misses of Being Hooked - - as I was so preoccupied with dreading before. Now I SEE I WOULD NEVER GIVE THEM AN OUNCE of my PRECIOUS TIME -- I gave as much to that person as was humanly possible and they almost ate me alive. I Understand Deeply Today What You Are Saying In This Talk. How I Got Trapped in the False Idea of the Relationship. How I Wanted Love and Respect and To Be Heard and Seen and He ACTED LIKE THAT WAS HAPPENING - - but was all the while data mining me to get fuller and fuller control while I took care of his every need and made up with my great skill and full functioning heart for his utter empty black power hungry angry baby tantrum disfunction. Paula It Is a Thrill and Honor to Sit Here Today Hearing you Speak About Loving The Little Person Within Me and How Wonderful It Is To Know I Am HERE FOR HER ! I WILL NEVER BE HERE TO BE TAKEN UP AS A MEAL FOR THE HUNGRY DARKNESS THAT THE NARC SADLY IS FULLY BONDED WITH. Much Love and Appreciation to you.

Well your looking pretty bloody good for 80. 😅 Hope you hit 100k soon. Love and Peace

It's funny how when they are in a relationship with us and they reject us, they tell us they are not rejecting us and that it is all in our heads. But then, when we break up, they tell us that they are the ones rejecting us. It's always about what makes them feel good about themselves.

The last time I was still bonded I lay on the floor in a fetal position thinking “please come back through the door and feed me”… that was when I realized my inner unfed infant in me was who was bonded to them. And I realized I had to feed myself and to do so I had to heal my under eating disorder from not being fed enough from birth.

Remy, the silent producer in the background

He replicated the never ending parent pleasing I had as a Child. Like in a pscyhological Role Play, I were his (hated-loved) Mother and at the same time, the Daughter he abandoned and the Son (he were), abandoned for his Father. All mixed up, spiritually.

Oh!, and about that nasty comment you got, you don´t look 80 at all Paula, and Remy gives always a warmth feeling, sleeping comfortably on the background. Especially when talking abut this very dark subject, that has caused us so much pain. You and Remy are part of my healing process, so let the evil ones say nasty things, you’ve got us to tell you beautiful things.

That was my relationship completely! 23 years , I'm so thankful I'm out!

Remi is squirming in the background saying, not again bloody NARCS 😂

more than a year - 3 years in my case. because family narcissism is the cause of attracting narcissistic partners so after leaving the partner you have to heal from narcissistic family wounds which are much deeper and harder to overcome.

Bingo, this is exactly how it went in my case. I became a parent and later he verbally started to punish me for who I am. No matter how much I gave in, it was worse and worse.

They know the arrangement is set against you, they know.

I have had this twice in my life, this time was for longer and as an empath I started to loose myself by becoming like them, I became more co-dependant than I ever was and while they filled my cup up in the beginning the devalue stage came and the discard and it made me feel like I lost myself at such a time I had some family issues, when the hoover came I went back (I still had brain fog after being ghosted for ages) I later saw them brag about reading the book ‘Power’, and realised I was done, I removed all numbers, media from my phone and blocked them. If they try to come back by another means I’ll show them what rage is.

I was the daughter and the parent; weirdest dynamic ever. You are so spot on

Channels like this have helped me a lot. Once you survive, the Narc learn how to protect your heart. That's our responsibility!❤

I am on the road to healing. I count all my blessings. The blessings will always be more than the pain. I still have flashbacks, however I think that is normal. They left a scar on our heart. Even healed, I believe we will always have that scar. Even with that scar we still didn't sink to their level. Paula. The person that made fun of Remy does not know a dog knows the good people from the bad people. I have just adopted a little dog. I talk to my dog all the time.

The covenant was broken on Mother’s Day when I went no contact. I feel like there is now a peace and shackles have fallen off. I was adopted so I do not have the blood bond.

Who ever understands this massive massage and feel it in side your self. It is your everyday decision to be become in peace or to live in heaven. And The rest will be Your story. But seek first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33).

I would never do that to anyone i love helping people but i cant anymore i have to go away to nature from everyone if i cant get over this aftermath. Lol. Im so happy to be alive right now. ❤ i feel like i healed most of my inner child.

THAT was the greatest N presentation EVER. EVER !!! Thank you.

It will go on for the rest of your agonising life until you educate yourself about what happened to you. I survived 50 years of it. I am now putting my knowledge on how to leave them for dead into action. When they realise you have changed the pin number to your soul it is like an electric shock runs through them. SSSSSSHHHHHHHH! xxx

Yep, nailed it. Thanks paula.62 days free.

Dead on paula dead on!! That's exactly. What it feels like unconditional. Love that you did not receive from your caregivers. And it's intoxicating so addictive. And Crushing when you find out. Not only is it a lie, but it's being used deliberately to hurt you. It taints every aspect of your life. It hurts your soul.Your spirit changes the way you look at the world around you and at people it's evil to the core. I've just finished four e m d r treatments. I've been trying to get apart from this for 8 years. I didn't know the first 2 years, so it's a total of 10 or 11. But this is beyond anything I've ever had to face. EMDR has helped a lot.

thank you ❤🙏 my covenant has been broken. through God all things are possible. im better than i was before

Artfully, spiritually, and truthfully very well illustrated.

been discarded so many times it doesn't hurt like it used too...

My lady i believe i have listened almost 98% of your videos but today you are at gods level with this knowledge and warnings,it shocked my soul and i felt my inner child scared a bit about what you counted for the narcissist to come back,whats shocks me is that when we broke up she told me ,let be friends and i denied and she said she is going to sort her life but mayb she will come back ,i said no I won't allow you,she said then she will find a way because i belong with her and ahe left. Anyway that shocked me but i thought she was just saying not aware what i was dealing with really,and because we have children,when i speak to her over the phone ,she sound like nothing bad happened between us like everything it normal,and that always shocks me and now you explain this part ,guys this lady is so true we must be becareful it more than physical this thing ,i slept with a demon my self not knowing, guys

Another thought provoking video Paula. You've nw put the fear of God in me, that my female narcassist will come back to me at a later date,two years narc free If you are correct I will see if I'm fully healed and educated myself properley, if she ever was to come back. Cant wait for part two.... You are correct that not just my female narcassist but my narcassitic mother never thought I was good enough and I would see them both enjoy any failings on my part, put downs , criticism, I used to think to myself that my relationship with the female narcassist was like being with my mother. Looking back I should of realised they both were one of a kind,narcassists, I even told my female narcassist that my mother was a narcassist. I look back and can see the similarities! Once you realise they don't think like normal people ,your half way there! As your never understand them! Great video paula👍

I am the type that attracts narcissists. And so have had to sort out a number of situations, some lasting decades. Every time I listen to one of your podcasts Paula it is like another layer of lies peels off. And now I understand why people have not understood my plight and this phenomenon. It is quite complex. I have had to begin again by spending a lot of time alone and I must say the Covid thing actually helped. Some times I think it took all this just so that I could learn how to say no. You are a blessing in this world!❤️

Took me over 20 years to get to this point. After breaking it off a big weight was lifted. At the same time is was a grieving process. It was like I lost that person for real now. Two weeks later I stumbled upon your videos and now found liberty. No guilt, no obligation but strength and power in realising the truth. Truth does set you free. I’ve lost so much with a narcissistic mother and covert narcissist of a sister. I am 43 yrs old and it took me this long to see it for what it was, i wish i knew it earlier though. Blessings to you Paula. Thank you for your channel

Another video ringing with truth from one very smart and caring lady. Just reading the comments and seeing the powerful, educated, and uplifting responses from so many of your followers shows just how much healing you are bringing to this special community of folks who are breaking free from these psychological con artists. I have been up and down on this journey, and will keep watching these videos as a touchstone when I start to struggle again. It is spiritual, no doubt. The devil tied a big knot around my relationship to a narcissist “best friend”, binding us together. I am still working on getting those knots undone. Thanks to an educated community of counselors and survivors, I believe I will eventually get the last knots undone. With a new relationship with “little me” - who I am really starting to respect and like more and more. Thanks Miss Paula. ⛅️

This is 100% accurate!!!

What an amazing master class! Paula, you are so precise, everything said in this video is so amazingly true! I don’t know what to say, this level of precision and clarity is like a shower of bright light, thanks for this master class! God bless you Paula (and Remy!!!)

It is the spiritual and energy connections which you speak about that are helping me to understand the deeper realities of my own puzzlement from my experiences with narcissists. Thank you for going deeper. Thank your for sharing your knowledge of how narcissistic relationships play into the spiritual realms, the intentional mis-use of energy to control and take energy from another, and the energetic realities of what is really going on. Thank you so much!

We forget because we are all healing or dealing with the dark souls that we only think of our problems so i would like to say thank you to Paula for continuing to fight and help all who listen and i would like to say to all the dark souls who pass by to listen long enough to change and let the light in.. stay strong Paula.

It’s been a couple of years for me even though I did have an encounter with my ex narc in December but it was mostly because I felt lonely. I know I am ready to move on but no matter what I have done I have had no luck meeting a man to fall in love again with. This is what really makes me sad.

Great video and lovely to see Remy so comfortable. I love it how he rests throughout while you talk about narcs.

Thanks BEAUTIFUL Paula full of light! I love how none of us worry about the narcs finding us on these sights..hahaha..they NEVER THINK IT'S THEM

Please 🙏🏼 do not stop making these videos. You have helped me tremendously! I am going through a painfully messy divorce with a narcissist. Your videos have helped me navigate the process of finding myself again and REALITY. It’s honestly very complex and unless you have lived it YOU HAVE NO IDEA.

2 years have passed, a year has passed without contact. I have never felt such pain in my life. It's interesting that your channel came out to me the other day, and I've watched so many of them. It seems that I was not ready for some answers before. I have come all this way on my own, with the help of God and people like you. I couldn't explain to people here, they don't even know what Narcissus means. Just then, my friend said to me, start praying and turn to Jesus. And immediately, not overnight, it started to get better. I would only add that when we kissed I felt nothing, like a wall to kiss, and then I wondered for a long time: Am I so empty? Thank you for everything, God bless you

This video is on point on how the bond/ trauma bond/ covenant is made. The parent child dynamic with the narcissist is so difficult to break and it was when i stopped sleeping with him that i was then able to see the relationship for what it was 25 years was too long and i had to make the break I am finally divorced and the bond is broken. Whats loosed in heaven is loosed in earth i never thought i would be free from this toxic evil relationship. Its hard work but its possible and the freedom that comes with it is indescribable Believe what paula says its 100% accurate God bless you Paula for this work which is literally saving lives 🙏

This is pretty spot on. Could be vulnerability, sadness, loneliness, empathy, physical attraction. My Narc got to me with a combination of these, exploitation and attachment. I was not in good place. When we met I felt bad for them and their family life. I felt like they needed me. I looked after them. Then it all went to hell. The Narc went cold, but mean, angry, unloving. Mentally abusive. Still, even though I pray, bind, rebuke, and pray for my healing … I can’t break it off. The mental anguish of just the thought is so overwhelming.

I do think about this person almost everyday. I look foward to the day I begin to think less and less of him, as it is I want nothing to do with him ever!

Yes! Exactly. I tried to please the ‘parent’ (narcissist partner) in return for the unconditional love I was receiving. I didn’t actually want to quite often, but I felt I ‘ought’ to. (And, yes, I hadn’t received unconditional love as a child. And I acted/act the same way to my actual mother.) He then pulled back. I wonder what would happen if you didn’t try so hard to please the ‘parent’/narcissist? Would they still pull away? Could it be the over-pleasing that causes them to pull away? I’ve been told by other narcissists that I ‘gained power’ when I walked away/ignored them, and they have even advised me to do the same with my mother.

I still think there’s a difference between male and female narcissists as it’s a lot easier in general for women to pick up men than it is for a man to pick up another woman. My experience for example, my ex narcissist gf had a long list of applicants on Facebook to replace me as her new supply. So this plus the fact that I had called her out as a narcissist means there’s zero chance of her hoovering me now.

Especially with an empath ,. As when they are intimate they open thier energy up in the highest vibration and can be easily inprinted by the narc .

It would be very beneficial if we start seeing these individuals (narcs) as old souls from a Spiritual stand point of view, it is imperative to understand that these individuals ONLY operate from a very lower level of vibration, they only operate from their 3 lower chakras hence this is why they show no Empathy, Love, Remorse, Feelings, etc. etc. But because they operate at a very low level of vibration they ONLY see Control, Power, Greed, Money, Envy, Jealousy!!! If you that are reading these lines and so far you can make sense and all resonates with your being. This will be enough reason as to WHY you should NEVER go back to your narc and make use of the NO CONTACT rule/covenant and everything else that was said in this video. They need us MORE than WE need them very WELL said Narc Con. Forgive, Forget and Move-On.

My mother used to treat me badly and then carry on as if nothing happened. No ability to applogize. And if I ever brought ot up, she would lash out.

Hi Paula and Remy .. You are quite accurate, Paula. I've studied psychology, and I am speaking the truth when i say .. It's one thing to have psychological studies under my belt. However, nothing is more detrimental after being in a relationship/ role play to the Narc. I've been there, and i entered into a deep fog, / illusion so to speak, quiet quickly.. It's, in my opinion ,through my experience with the Narc.He definitely mirrored his mothers behaviors and very false entities. I escaped once i sacrificed myself to this powerless entity. After the brain fog lifted, and i realized it was more a parental alienation .and both the narc and mother were on the same page and controlled whomever they used the illusion on. You want to run to the hills. The strength i gained from you, Paula, through your podcasts, has been very intuitive. I walked away with a better insight, and I never looked back..now I'm not saying that it wasn't tough or that they still felt entitled .. But i stood my ground, and now have happiness and complete solice within myself.I truly love myself and accept myself and nothing less .❤. PS.. I've followed you. A while now Paula ,and I'm so sorry. I had to miss your 80TH birthday... LOL.IM BEING VERY FECICIOUS!!. YOU LOOK AMAZING GIRL. SOME PEOPLES KIDS .. ❤ ON A HAPPIER NOTE I'D LOVE TO ADD .A HUGE THANK YOU TO YOU AND REMY.... SENDING MUCH LOVE ❤️.

Yes Paula, only if we let them 🙏❤️

I break any and all covenants with the narc now and all in past in aJesus name fill us. Definitely spiritual

What you say about “ embracing that little person in you”, become an adult free from such abuse, with such a strength, even if you have some pain in your heart for always, … that little person in us, is so wonderful that ❤🎉 And yes, they try to say” ohhh look at you how tierd and bad you look like, so I don’t recognize or need you anymore “! It’s really satanic

Thank you for this Paula, through ALL the pain years ago I do see myself in completely different light, 💡👏👏👏👏👏

I had a covert narcissistic ex who I did not know was this personality until the day of the eclipse his mask fell off and I can’t unsee it 😮 every time we had sex I always had dreams about vampires and demons like my body was trying to tell me but I wasn’t listening

Ty as always Paula 💜 You should be our public speaker!

I perceive that the ability to generate your own peace, joy and happiness is the thing that toxic narcissist, who's got you in their web, attacks until it no longer avails so that they then control that aspect of you (more manipulations).

My little person thanks you and Remy

I remember that video you mentioned your fur baby to be part of the making of the video, I had commented there too. Being a pet parent I completely understood what you meant...

Yes in my case the narc's wounded inner teenager connected with my wounded inner teenager on an intense sexual level. I believe both of us had had our sexuality squashed in adolescence by ambitious domineering mothers living their lives through us. This may not resonate for everyone here. It happened on a subconscious level. It is definitely a parent child dynamic with very little adult in the transactional psychological model. Yes in the parent child dynamic it is like a form of incest. I think the narcissist is acting out what happened to him as a child trying to free himself from this mega trauma.

I've been watching videos 2 yrs now(I need to wean myself off)so know quite a lot and what sort of person I was dealing with. Her life is chaotic so she has come back cos she needed help. Like I said even though I knew what was happening I fell for the fake tears and amazing acting skills. I know she'll come back again. I simply have to say no and ignore the Oscar performance.

Beautifully conceptualised and communicated. So much value and benefit here. I am reminded of the stages of growing up where an older sibling will discover that they can tell lies to their younger sibling who has not yet matured to the point where they can conceive of telling lies and "fooling" another person. At some point however, the younger sibling grows up and realises that they have been lied to all along. There may be a period where the younger sibling keeps this discovery secret but eventually they will, by their actions, reveal that they know the truth - that they have been cheated and lied to. This is where the relationship ends and can never be repaired again.

Shadow lurcher is likely a narcissist, angry because your so on point.

Becoming 'present' is the only freedom!

"A portfolio of investments"! Well said! 😂💚🙏

I appreciate the effort to help people and spread awareness. Thanks for that. I have seen from my personal experience that it's all easier said than done. I have seen people struggling all their lives to get out of the clutches of a narcissist. It took my mother 50 years to finally break the covenant with my malevolent narcissistic father. People need to know that the narcissist is basically an immoral person with a burning desire to win at all costs. They also learn to hide this fact well and put on a mask to manipulate people. That's the essential underlying trick.