OnlyJayus: TikTok's MOST HATED Creator... 

Sorry for not posting for a while! I had to focus on my mental health and family for a little bit but I'm gearing up for some exciting videos in August! Hope you are doing well

as someone who is also 17, it's really not that hard to just... not use racial slurs

How to be a normal human: Don't be racist Don't be homophobic Don't message minors Be kind to people Seems that many influencers on internet forget.

Ghosting people because of ADHD is a real thing. I’ve personally ghosted a couple dozen people by accident in my lifetime because of my ADHD. BUT each time when I’ve realized what I’ve done, I feel terrible and make profuse apologies and amends if possible/appropriate. The guilt and remorse is overwhelming. I could completely understand OJ ghosting by accident, but she should have been scrambling to apologize and collab as soon as she realized what had happened.

I was called a “n- lover” by a neighbor, and lemme tell you that the fear that it put in me, and my African American partner… it’s literally indescribable. I had a full blown panic attack, one that I had to seek emergency medical intervention for. I didn’t leave the apartment for weeks, my husband was so angry that he threw up. There’s no excuse to call ANYONE anything like that.

Hiring a ghost writer for your tiktok apology is WILDLY hilarious to me 😂

As a psychology student, we all already hate the tiktok people making short videos on a topic that’s way more complex than a 1 minute video can explain. It’s even worse when people like OnlyJayus would take random theories/research papers from only one study from the internet and claim it as truthful, when it’s clear some of those studies were done to specifically benefit a company.

Social media is literally no different from middle school. People just bully, point and laugh, and start drama the real world doesn’t care about

Honestly I only knew Jayus (and disliked her) because of the misleading 'facts' she kept spreading. So it's wild to hear how much more there is

ADHD can absolutely make you forget things like responding to emails, etc. and I empathize with Bella on that front. But, it’s still your responsibility to deal with the consequences of not responding and screaming and shouting about it when someone calls you out is absolutely not the way to deal with it.

It shows just how huge and niche TikTok is. I’ve never heard of this creator until now and they have a massive following.

The racism apology is absolutely bs lmao, calling someone a “n*g*** lover” is unforgivable in my book. You don’t pull something so severe out of nowhere. I have ADHD and I forget really, REALLY important things, I don’t take criticism well, and I say insensitive things I regret on a regular basis, so I think some of their explanations make sense. However, things said in anger always come from a genuine place.

The most hated tiktoker should be the doxxing pharmacist. She's way worse than this creator.

Forgetfulness IS a symptom of ADHD but I feel like it’s a convenient excuse here. Like Gabbie Hannah, I think they’re using ADHD as a shield against criticism. That’s unfair to other people with ADHD because there is already a lot of misinformation and negative connotations.

So I was homeless for 2 years, and I had to panhandle to survive. I had a group of teenage boys come up to me and they took a bunch of pictures pretending to put money in my cup, then after they were done, one of them said to me "so you're disabled?"(it was on my sign that I was waiting to be on disability) and after I said yes, another one of them grabbed my cup and they all ran. This was in like 2018, so far before Isabella was big. But in my opinion, it goes to show how the general public think of disabled people(easy targrts) especially homeless disabled people.

This is a very fair and balanced look at OnlyJayus. You revealed the inexcusable dark side of OnlyJayus, yet made made me feel compassion due to the situation they got themselves into undoubtedly caused by severe childhood instability and the damage that can only be caused by having a religious zealot as a parent. If there were cameras or a permanent ledger of things I said and did when I was 17, I'd be immediately committed to a psych ward.

The "joke" about service dogs made me so so irate. My dad is a disabled vet and has a service dog. I could never imagine somebody STEALING from him while in crisis. Everything else she said made me so angry but that was by far the icing on the cake.

What I don't like about public apologies is that A. People are forced into doing it which makes it insincere B. People will sit up there and criticize the apology even though we all know it's forced C. We can't tell how sincere it is bc the people who criticize apologies already influenced our own decision to forgive people.

"i can be ableist because i have ADHD" well that's...uncomfortable. you don't speak for every neurodivergent person, and despite being both physically and mentally disabled, I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable shaming others for their symptoms. not to defend jayus' actions, I just think that person was also in the wrong.

I am Indonesian. To make it simple, "Jayus" is equivalent to "Cringe". Btw, thank you algorithm for showing me this content. ❤️

i can only speak as a disabled person, but i can’t imagine making comments like that even as “satire” to MILLIONS of people! the world is not kind to us, and those jokes have real consequences

That doesn’t excuse their racism ofc but forgetfulness is absolutely a symptom of adhd and I find it infuriating when people online try to immediately discredit someone’s diagnosis just because their disorder doesn’t present in exactly the same way

A lot of recent “influencers” rise to fame always reminds me of what Markiplier said at one point. Along the lines of, We are never meant to socialize on such a massive scale and when a huge influx of people start following you, you are never prepared for it. In no way is it a good thing to have a huge following overnight because it changes so much of your perspective. Mark has always had a humble mindset despite striving to be out there with his creativity and it’s a lesson I think we can learn from his experience.

4yrs Bachelors 2yrs Masters 2yrs PhD 2yrs Internship Forensic Psychology and Applied Behavior. It blows my mind that people believe someone like this over me....

For those who don't know, Jaysus went to foster care because their parents sent them to a conversion camp so fucked up that Social Services had to get involved. They have talked a little about getting abused in the foster system. This doesn't excuse their behavior but I wish more people would recognize trauma responses which their reactions to things is textbook trauma response reactions.

"I can be ableist because I have x disorder" is a really bad take no matter the person or disorder.

Not to defend Jayus specifically, but wow do I hate it when people say, "Well I have X disorder and /I/ don't experience Y symptom." Like... cool? That doesn't mean that other people with that condition don't have that experience. I have ADHD (with a few comorbidities) and it makes _me_ extremely forgetful. There's obviously evidence that Jayus was lying, but on the face of it, ADHD can and often does cause memory problems. I guess I just hate it when higher-functioning people with a certain disorder question the lived experiences of lower-functioning people with that disorder. It's extremely ableist (and happens to be a specific point of trauma for me). Edit: Some people have mentioned that functioning labels are outdated/ableist, and after doing some reading I agree with that, especially in the context of ASD. I don't know the correct terminology, but I do NOT mean to reference people's intellectual/communication abilities. I am talking about how difficult someone with a disorder/disability finds day-to-day activities. Anyway, I apologize to anybody I may have offended with those terms! LMK if there are better/more accurate ones I can replace them with.

Task paralysis, time blindness, and struggling to keep up on communication are absolutely real symptoms of ADHD. But having ADHD doesn't make you the kind of person that screams their head off at people and use racial slurs. As an autistic person married to someone with ADHD, it really pisses me off how common it's becoming to use those labels to excuse terrible behavior.

I really appreciate your balanced and nuanced approach to onlyjayus' "controversies". The way I see it is that NO ONE can have the life that Bella has had and be mentally okay. It can take years of therapy to unravel that much childhood trauma. And while Bella has said that they have gone through therapy, I think that their social media life only serves to undermine and undo any progress that they might have made in therapy. It's been said that having a mental illness is not your fault, but addressing it is your responsibility. Bella needs to take a cue from Bo Burnham and just walk away COMPLETELY from social media, from public life, for several years-Bo Burnham went away for five years-, and focus on growing and healing, which they have not really had a chance to do yet. Bella's outbursts are not excusable, but they are also not surprising, given Bella's personal history.

I was so sketched out by Jayus from day 1. As a psych student whose special interest has been psychology for years, the way they were boiling down incredibly complex psychology content until it was pretty much meaningless and contributed to stigma really bothered me. At first, their videos didn’t seem to contain anything factually incorrect, it was closer to lies by omission, but it still felt super clickbait-y and really bad for perpetuating stigma (referring to their videos on “five WEIRDEST mental disorders!”). I didn’t have any concrete reasons for that sketched-out feeling, so I assumed it wasn’t a huge deal and I was just being too sensitive. But honestly? If you’re comfortable getting your clout from stigmatizing real mental disorders and miscommunicating complex scientific concepts that worsen the public perception that psychology is pseudoscience, i honestly think it’s not too “crazy” to assume you might not be a super compassionate/well-rounded person.

its odd. when I was a kid, I would panic if 3 people knew about something I did or said, especially if it was me acting the fool. Today, kids will document and record the most ludicrous, damaging things they could ever conceive, and then broadcast it to the world. literally, the world. To follow them forever. This is unprecedented in the history of human behavior and societal development. Then to top it off, these are kids.. They are at the apex of development identity formation. This is a brutal cocktail. and we wonder why some kids are committing suicide for more likes. The invasion already happened under our noses and I just watched multiple generations get their childhood completely sucked away and blacked out - never to return. , Yet sadly they will be haunted by the electronic ghost of every failure they put out there.. its just.. profound sadness

What I enjoy most about your content, is that you dont actively bury those people in your videos, but you put their content and clips and allow them to bury themselves. This allows your viewers to make their own opinions. So you dont talk down to your audience, and it keeps you above the fray and the dirt. You seem to be the only one taking this route and it makes your content interesting and different, and I hope you continue this and hopefully others will start to take this route as well. It is a breath of fresh air. Thank you

Younger people don’t understand that if you’re apologizing, any “reason” or “explanation” is seen as an excuse. Just apologize and make amends through actions. No one cares why it happened, they only care what you’re going to do different. Like I tell my daughter, “I’m sorry” means “I’m never going to do that again” so prove that. Past actions are brought to light to see HOW the creator will handle the situation. How they make amends will say more about their character than what they’re actually being accused of.

I love 3 things about you. 1: you do so much research and truly try to show all sides to an issue 2: I've never heard you judge anyone 3: You are one of the kindest people I see on here.

i’ve never understood the excuse of people saying that they said a slur “because it was the most hateful thing they could think of and they were coming from a place of anger”. idc how angry you get, escalating to the point where you decide to use racism or any other form of oppression just because you’re annoyed is unforgivable and disgusting. it just doesn’t make any sense to me. edit: you guys can give all the explanations and possible reasons for why people might do this as you want in the replies, but i truly do not care for them sorry

I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with explaining that ADHD causes memory issues. I HATE communicating through email because if I don't get a notification (which happens more often than not) I will forget about the conversation entirely. Being forgetful is a really big issue for a lot of people with ADHD and forgetting to respond is completely believable in my eyes. I also completely understand being angry that the issue was made public, but to then go back and continue the conflict publicly rather than apologizing and discussing it privately is where they went wrong. I see some serious anger issues that need to be checked

The ADHD denial irritates TF outta me, I literally get in trouble all the time for 'ignoring' emails, voicemails, and messages.

Jayus reminds me of Gabbie Hanna. The actions aren't always the worst, but the responses make everything worse. I think that leads to an entitlement in both of them that only leads to more bad decisions.

Why is racism just a quirky trait in most of these large creators backgrounds rather than a warning sign? Is being racist a how to guide to becoming famous?! It's ridiculous. Her words were intentional and disgusting and it really shows how prevalent and insidious racism is within the United States. It also shows how "normal" it as well since people.. just...brush it aside? It's a disgusting character flaw that has lead to centuries worth of brutal killings and torture. Why is being racist being treated like going through puberty for these large creators?🙄😬

Your presentation, organization and editing is literally better than most documentaries I've seen. This is quality content!!! Keep it up- I absolutely love this channel ❤️

as someone who was once a young person with ADHD and the lack of impulse control And with RSD I get why she reacted how she did. I am autistic/ adhd myself and her screaming reminded me so much of melt downs I have had as a young adult and teen. She looked so happy in the start but like at some points even her face looks haggard and sad. I was very much like OnlyJaus in many ways at 16-17. I was trans in foster care from 17- 19 and most of that time was not even in foster parents it was psychiatric wards. The very words "What are people mad at me for now." I know those words. It's a rough life.

Regardless what they went through, it’s not an excuse for racism

Every word we utter will always be recorded whether its online or in peoples hearts and minds. Words cannot be taken back and the feelings we left behind will always linger no matter what.

It’s one thing to forget about using the n word in a song/casually in the past. It’s another thing to forget about how you insulted someone by saying they care about black people - while using the hard r. An apology video doesn’t cover that territory.

I feel a catch 22 from the adhd thing. While being forgetful and having time blindness ARE adhd symptoms, the fact that there was proof from the woman that she DID message them more than once, shows it’s just being used as a “excuse my bad behavior because of my neurodivergence even if my actions hurt people.” But ALSO the fact of people being “I have adhd and you can’t say that is a problem” feel that other people are doing is also bad?? Because everyone experiences adhd symptoms differently and at varying levels of life altering. I can’t explain this well,

holy crap. I've been casually following OnlyJayus on RU-vid for a few years now and had NO IDEA ANY OF THIS!! What the actual hell?! God I will never be able to look at their face again without feeling INSTANT ick and anger for their horrible behavior. Thank you for thoroughly explaining this issue and educating us

I love the cut here, how we just see the Beady Long Legs' shadow rapidly approaching when it cuts off.

Seeing how people reacted to them explaining their ADHD causing the forgetfulness honestly worries as me as a fellow ADHDer. Whether it was true for them or not, it could so easily be true for an ADHDer. Luckily, my memory problems aren't that bad but I've forgotten incredibly important things because my brain doesn't work that way. There are definitely people who will use ADHD as an excuse, BUT you can use anything as a disingenuous excuse so maybe we shouldn't react so harshly at first.

Important clarification: *Hurt people do not hurt people.* People who don't know how to process or express their feelings properly hurt people.

I love your videos, I’m a new subscriber. My only small critique is the repetitive clips. Thank you for putting so much effort into these videos. ❤

Why does their apology to the black community feel a bit like that quote from Bojack Horsemen when he says “I’m the one who has suffered the most of the actions of Bojack Horsemen” it feels so not self aware and self absorbed…

Forgetting things is a huge part of ADHD and I believe is a valid excuse for not getting back to aunt Karen. HOWEVER, as someone who also has ADHD, I think it’s important to take responsibility for when our forgetfulness affects others. I think it was wrong that Bella used Karen calling her out as an excuse to cancel the collaboration. I truly think that if they had reached out to Karen and been like “hey, I’m sorry for not getting back to you, my ADHD can make it hard for me to keep on top of my messages, but I’m still interested and let’s talk about how we can move forward with this collab” I think this whole thing could have been resolved a lot quicker/better

As someone who has several mental health issues, i can understand where onlyjayus is coming from and feel bad for what she’s going through, but we can’t excuse the things she’s done. I hope she gets help and works to become better.

This is a wonderfully directed and researched video and the first I've seen from you. THESE video essays are some of my favorite. Also them talking about Alexandria's Genesis literally made me CACKLE out loud.

i just really dont know about them forgetting that those screenshots with the slurs in them were real. rejection sensitive dysphoria is SO potent, especially if you don’t know how to deal with it, which it seems is the case with jayus. they had friends who were black, they had said the n-word with the hard r. my rejection sensitive dysphoria doesn’t let me forget shit like wanting to be alone from my friends for awhile and then feeling like a horrible person for not being there with them all the time. people with rsd that i know and myself, we wont forget things that we even regret THINKING, much less saying, especially if we’ve spent a long time reflecting on it and changing. it just seems like they were trying to avoid accountability.

I know that a lot of people who have ADHD have chimed in already. I just wanted to add that while Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is a part of ADHD and can be a very difficult issue to work through, the fact is just that. You have to work through it! Mental illness, trauma, addiction, even a lot of chronic illnesses are never your fault. But it is your responsibility and you are accountable for your behavior, regardless of where it stems from. It isn’t your fault if you experience RSD, it is your fault if you respond to that aggressively and lash out.

ive binged watches almost all of your recent videos and im OBSESSED with your calmness and clear standpoint on certain topics. it really makes you even more enjoyable to watch. have a great day!

How would she not realize in her apology video that saying the “@&!$ lover” comment was “the worst thing she could think of” to call them? lol that’s more revealing than anything else…

The video was amazing but can we talk about how dope and professional your intro is every thing is a perfection keep it up queen ❤

Needing a ghost writer for an apology video has to be one of the most cringe things ever

i am SCREAMING at them spreading alexandria's genesis, a major tumblr hoax condition, truly marvellous

there are people who mess up online and never get redemption because the people handling it are out for blood. this is not that. they were given room to grow and they threw it in peoples faces.

Even in her apology videos she sounds aggressive and angry that she's having to apologize at all (or at least that is how it came across to me) but it goes to what that one guy was saying about her having ulterior motives. She definitely strikes me as the type who sees themselves as a perpetual victim in any and all situations.

As someone with ADHD, if she did forget why would she then blame that creator for getting mad??? It was her fault. ADHD isn't an excuse. Whenever I forget things, I know it's MY FAULT and I don't blame other people for being hurt by that.

Blows my mind they had the opportunity to redeem themselves after saying one of the worst slurs possible. Not only were people willing to let them keep their platform just for upholding the promises THEY MADE and they still didn't take the opportunity.. the entitlement is insane. How they yelled at Aunt Karen was genuinely upsetting.

Just found your channel and this is my first video I watched. I know this isn't the thing to take away from this, but when you said "hurt people hurt others" that hit me so hard I cried. I needed to hear that ❤

My least favourite aspect of social media and tiktok specifically is how people use one person's high profile cancellation to boost their own profile. I'm not saying that people shouldn't criticise others, but it's very obvious that drama is just blood in the water for some of these creators. No apology will ever be good enough because they don't want the drama to end, they want to drag it out as long as possible so they can keep getting those outraged clicks.

I had literally never heard about this person until your video appeared on my feed. But the second I saw her first angry outburst my mind immediately went back to your video about Gabbie Hannah, especially the part when they're trying to justify their words and behavior due to mental issues/trauma.

I blocked their content because it became annoying. didnt knew there was drama around.

Not everyone is meant to be or should be famous. I think all this drama was a blessing in disguise.

If people would just quit giving attention and views to problematic people, the issue would resolve itself. Bringing attention to them only drives their engagement, whether it's through curious people checking out her account, or people leaving hate comments, it's engagement and they'll continue to thrive.

Hurt people hurt people has never sit right as an excuse for me, everyone experiences hurt at some point in their lives but we can decide to turn that hurt into a positive or let it fester as a negative. We're responsible for our own trauma and our own emotions, with or without a diagnosis, especially as a grown adult.

The stealing a disabled person wallet joke wasn't that serious. No one who wasn't already going to rob a disabled person os going to actually take that as legit advice.

The fact that she said that the slur she used was “the meanest thing that she could think of to hurt someone” says all I need to know. GIRL BYE.

I think the story of OnlyJayus is exceptionally important for people who want to enter the content creation sphere. It shows what not to do

It says a lot to me that Isabella didn't go out and do her own research and learn about racism and the history and pain behind all of it. Nope. She clearly stated that others came to her and educated her. Which tells me she wasn't interested in learning and growing and changing, other people were telling her to listen. That, mixed with that HORRIBLE "apology" tells me all I need to know about her.

Your content is always so refreshing to me, you approach things in such an empathic way it’s nice

Ok before the video start I just found your page and I love the way your thumbnails look!!

It's funny they get mad about stealing content when they get all of their information from websites and never cites sources or gives any credit.

So I have pretty bad ADHD, I was diagnosed in elementary school and it's disrupted my entire life. I can definitely attest to the fact that people with ADHD often have problems with object permanence, so if something is out of sight, it's also out of mind. I literally have photos of my family, and my best friends right by my bed so I remember to check in with them. I can honestly say if I didn't have pictures of them next to my bed, I would forget to check in with them for months, if not longer. The thing with ADHD though, especially in Isabellas case, is that there's lots of info and support out there to help people with ADHD live as normally as possible. For someone who literally does information based content, you'd think she'd research her own disorders and how to help them, and she would definitely know to NEVER use ADHD as an excuse for bad behavior. The more people that do that, the worse the stigma gets. We have to take ownership for our actions. I have pretty bad sensory problems, and I have melt downs pretty regularly. I never ever treat the people in my life badly during a meltdown, then just say "it's my adhd". That's insane. I remove myself and disconnect from those I love so I don't say or do anything to hurt them, and if I do get snappy or something, I'd always apologize after. But I'd actually apologize, not just say "I have ADHD. It's hard. Whoopsies" like Isabella is doing. It makes me so mad when people act like dicks, then blame it on their mental health.

Hey BEAUTIFUL !! LOVIN’ your in-depth episodes!! Hope family is happy & healthy in these times of today. ✌️💙😃

I've been getting their content pushed to me *aggressively* recently on other platforms. And because I don't do TikTok, the history and context was never there for me. I didn't even watch this video when it dropped bc I didn't know who the person was to have the "most hated" title.

Dude. I'm so sick and tired of people's acceptable and not acceptable age for _"oh they were young when they said/did that"._ It always changes from influencer to influencer and some of them have said or done far worse things but some of them get the _"oh they were young"_ pass. It confuses me and pisses me off whenever it comes up.

Their apology made me so nauseated it felt like one giant performance. If they said slurs to hurt someone in a fit of anger, that tells me that they truly feel that way deep down. I say stuff I regret but I would NEVER call someone a slur.

This was a really well done video, you have a kindness and understanding that makes me feel like you’d do well in social work or mental health care. It’s a very specific energy.

I've watched several of your "tubes" lol. Your very respectful and seem very knowledgeable of the facts which I really appreciate so thank you for that!! Keep up the great work!

As a black person with ADHD, it's still very annoying and disheartening that people (in these comments) are still giving Jayus a "pass"/ignoring the fact that Jayus ASKED black creators to go on their platform, and when black creators responded to that proposition proceeded to lie, ignore, and literally scream at those creators and using ADHD as an excuse for her actions. How are you gonna be mad that YOU GOT CAUGHT calling someone "nwordlover" and then want black people to do the work of rebuilding your reputation for you and then say "well I have ADHD so it's hard"? As a neurodivergent adult, you are responsible for your own executive function and coping skills, if you are struggling but proceed not to get help for yourself through therapy or other methods, you have no one else to blame but yourself. If you KNOW you struggle with those administrative duties and it's getting in the way of how you function on a daily basis, but you proceed to do nothing to improve your quality of life with the resources that are available to you, you are the issue. Am I forgetful all the time and miss emails, or forget to text back? Yes, but it is not acceptable at our big adult age (keep in mind we're the same age) to limit yourself and use it as a crutch to not handle basic responsibility/business. The world isn't gonna pause for you, so it's up to ourselves. ALSO Bella has the ability to get an assistant, literally no reasonable excuse. Do better.

Your voice is sooo soothing. It's perfect when you talk about chaotic topics or people. I'm so obsessed with this channel, please never stop making videos!

I think that she’s an extremely miserable person and the best way of approaching this is “just don’t look.” If people choose to watch her content, then that’s on them. They’ll have negativity rub off on themselves and eventually understand that. The people who engage with her are only going to bring her more attention. She seems like an “any attention is good attention” type of person. Ignore it and she’ll go away.

I hope I never do something stupid and end up on a most hated RU-vidr list. I strive to be the good vibes cinnamon roll of RU-vid 😊

It's fascinating how she's screaming "LEAVE ME ALONE!" yet she remains on the platform. All she has to do is leave social media and boom problem solved.

As someone who has ADHD I don’t use adhd as my crutch, I have to coordinate my day everyday, there’s many different people with ADHD that also have a hard time, but they can do it in a calming manner and not yell fuck off towards everyone.

This is my first time seeing your channel and omg your voice is so nice, soothing, calming, relaxing omg you should do meditation videos lol

Ironically I have the same problem as they do with my ADHD. I forget to respond to texts, emails, and etc. so much that I try to make a habit of going through things three or four times while Im waiting for responses from people. At this point in my life I try really hard not to say I'll do things because I heavily procrastinate and have a hard time saying no. At the same time this is why im not on tiktok or youtube as a creator. But the only reason I have still been watching her videos is because I didnt know about any of this. I kinda ignore any kind of drama that goes on while its happening because I like to be able to stand outside the tornado and give my own opinion. I really wish I had known about this sooner though.

TikTok is a wasteland. When I see who mostly becomes popular on that app I’m glad I never started using it. Yuck.

As someone with adhd, it’s really frustrating to hear them use it as an excuse to not answer an email. I forget about emails all the time, especially ones that make me uncomfortable but I have worked with my psychiatrist and counselor to help me to make sure I have a process and proper medication to help moderate that problem. It’s the truth that time blindness is a thing but you need to own up to it and correct the situation, not use it as a shield to be a crappy person. I have some sympathy for them but a lot of the issues are things they created but then refused to own, so that kinda on them.

I have found when people have had difficult upbringings, they generally have a mentality of I will hurt you before you can hurt me. It's a survival mechanism.

I do have anger issues. Rage is like an addiction because of how good it feels to just lose control.

She's the easiest person to get a rise out of, shes a bad person who thinks she's a good person and hates it when people call her out for it, she feels the need to respond to every negative comment & video

As someone with ADHD, I can confidently say that we don't claim them. Most ADHD people I know are extremely extremely sensitive to rejection (myself included) are often hyper aware of how others are feeling and tread carefully.