Opinionated Fiancé Insists His Bride Wears A Poofy Dress | Say Yes To The Dress: Atlanta 

Would you say that about her if she told him what color suit he would wear? Oops! Lots of brides do that. Almost all, in fact. Why can't he be interested in what she wears? Feminism is equality. It is both of their weddings. She gets the major say about what she wears. And he followed through with that. I see. You don't like that he had an opinion that differed from hers. And voiced it. Oh, the horror!!! Got it.

​@catladyfromky4142 Here we go again.... responding to every comment that exposes you?? hahaha

​@catladyfromkunderstand your point, but he's a bit too controlling for me!!! Too much "my way or the highway".

@@catladyfromky4142I agree and I wonder how people would react if the genders were switched and she told him what to wear? I bet many would be praising him for trying to please his woman. The double standards.

@@MsWarriordiva, but it wasn’t his way or the highway. Even though it isn’t what he would have picked he didn’t throw a fit.

Spot on!

😂

He is disgusting. How old is he? 17?

She should seriously reconsider this guy.

I would never bring my fiance to the bridal salon! And it would weird me out if he wanted to be there.

...And he is letting her decide what she wants to wear. Are you going to say the same thing if the bride decides on the colors of the groom's suit? Isn't he old enough to decide for himself too? Yet lots of brides make those decisions instead of the grooms. It is not a crime for the groom to be interested in what HIS and her wedding will look like. Especially since, after he made his own opinion about her dress, she decided on her own which dress she would wear. And he didn't complain. I don't understand why women today can't let men be themselves. We want our opinions heard, but we can't take it when með do the same. There is a disconnect here.

​@@catladyfromky4142 Hi, controlling husband from the video! I'm sure you are divorced now, my condolences to you, but not to her, obviously. (Nice username "cover"..it almost worked 😜😂)

​@@cc-sb1is I don't think the guy from the video could have written such a coherent statement. 😂

@@catladyfromky4142 How about neither of them tells the other what to wear? The couple should be agreeing on some colours and maybe general style together to make sure the wedding party looks good as a whole (if that's something they care about). And each party individually should be able to pick what they wear as long as it's fitting in the vision they have together. Giving opinions to each other is obviously fine, I sure would want my partner's opinion for instance, but being so pushy and controlling isn't cool from either side.

She is settling.

I can tell you that my friend said that she was getting older and her husband is a good man before they married. She never once said she loved him too. She is now happily married to him for 16 years now. You don’t need to say you love someone but just show it.

Well not necessarily.If there is genuine liking between them,commitment to each other and to the marriage, and if they have no deep flaws in either one’s character there is on reason things can’t be faced and resolved.Every marriage needs some level of adjustment and will encounter problems requiring resolution.

​@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj it's good to hear from the person you're going to marry that they love you not just show you.

Huh? Lost coherence in the middle.

@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj that's called settling & you acknowledged that in the first sentence... people who feel like their time is running out, will settle for less ie the first guy that comes along & is a "good man". Reminds me of "Little House on the Prairie" days... "you gonna marry him Laura? He's a good man & you won't do better!"... She likely isn't happily married, she's complacent. BIG difference, but it can look better than tolerable, because the person has their securities in place thinking it's what's expected. People stay with people, even marry people, they don't actually LOVE. They just love what that person does FOR them, & even if they're not truly fulfilled, they won't say anything... I can speak from a very clear place, considering my parents did this...

I think he's in the closet personally

He's what? Are you a psychiatrist? If not, you are diagnosing someone from an EDITED video from 2 hours in their lives. Would you like us to watch a part of your life and label you something? No. He didn't say that she couldn't wear her pick. What is wrong with that? If a bride is picking out what the grooms wear in their wedding day and blows down the groom's opinion, do you also call her a narcissist and tell him to run? I don't think so. So it is not a crime for him to be extremely interssted in what she is wearing. He still "lets" her make her own decision, which is a lot more than lots of brides do for their grooms on their wedding days. So you and all these other people stop throwing out these words when you are not capable of properly diagnosing these people. You wouldn't want people to label you with personality disorders via your comments, yes?

Aw the term of the day people just love to use. NARCISSIST! Do people realise it's only diagnosable by a qualified Doctor after multiple sessions? A little clip in a video is hardly sufficient especially for a non professional. Can people please stop using this word for EVERYONE they dislike. Its getting annoying AF

@@catladyfromky4142Exactly and the double standards really kill it.

@catladyfromky4142 so basically you just told me you are in the same type of abusive relationship the bride is in based on your comment. Go see a shrink.

That’s what got me the most too!!! How could those words come out of her mouth?

I was gonna say the same, it's literally your dress, it's entirely up to you! Blows my mind that she really said that with no awareness.

It goes both ways, sometimes women control what their men wear. I had a guy I was seeing talking about if we got married he wanted to wear the toxic green color tuxedo and I was like nope.

I never tell my husband what to wear and he doesn’t tell me. 38 years and couldn’t be happier. We are each our own person and we want each to be happy.

Girl, run as fast as you can!!!!! You can definitely do better than this a-hole

@@DulcessExactly!

@@pamm3776Exactly!

I wonder if they are still married?

YES!!!!!!!!!

You say above they've been married for 16 years, did you look them up?@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj

If they are I wonder why!

Did you copy & paste my comment? Weird😂

I thought that too. He is extremely good looking but he looks high maintenance too And very hard to please

That he likes to joke? Because, if you didn't notice, they had different opinions about what dress she should get. She decided for herself. And he didn't complain. So. Again, his joke about having an interest in the bride's dress was the "red flag" for you. His acknowledgment that men don't usually do this (per his joke) is so terrible that you want her to ditch him. Even though you still don't know him better than she does.

@@catladyfromky4142I agree and he had his opinions but he still let her pick what she wanted. I wonder why everyone is looking at it so negatively?

​@@catladyfromky4142Hi, Jonathan (the groom to be) it is your controlling behavior that is the "red flag" that people in the comment section are referring to.

​@@catladyfromky4142The comment means he's a closet gay.

When people apply to get on the show, the show chooses them for a certain storyline. They probably prompt him to say certain things, because the storyline is the opinionated groom. It's usually fake drama.@@cupcake1406

This is from 12yrs ago and looking Sonya up it seems they're still married and live in South Carolina.

Cozycountry1 She must have the patience of a saint

@@Cozycountry1really? I’m so sorry for her.

Exactly!!!!

😂

Exactly. If he wants poofy, then by all means, he should wear poofy.

Poof, not pooch! No woman wants a pooch! 😂

Poof as in poofy, not pooch.

He is NOT husband material!!! He'll control EVERY aspect of her life. Run the other direction!!!!! Open your eyes and see the whole truth!!!

They all want to be on TV

20 yrs for me. And once I did see the red flags I stayed so as not to break up my family.

Did she get to attend his tux appointment? My guess I no. I'd love a follow up on this. She's either miserably married or divorced.

@@cindylouwho6762No, they are still married.

She has a young daughter. That is not the example of a husband I would want my daughter to grow up seeing.

He's a jerk for being interested in what she wears? Or is it because his opinion is different than hers? Would you call her a jerk if she picked out the suit color of the groom, AND the colors of THEIR wedding? By herself? No. We all know that. So why is it so bad when he voices his opinion? Point to where he told hwr she couldn't get the one she wanted. If you can't, then you are not allowing HIM to be a full person who cares about THEIR wedding.

Older bride with a child at a southern wedding. I think he's a bit uneasy that it's a non traditional wedding for that part of the world

@@longarmoftheOOHLALA Think of a short name for Richard and it’s not Rick.

A Richard 😂 Good one

You mean Richard Cranium

@@9094nancyj Either or works. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

So glad she decided for herself 💪🏼

If I get married someday, I would like to have the groom with me to chose the dress. Not because I don't trust my own opinion, but because it's a moment I would like to share. Plus, if he's trying to control, I could still dodge the bullet. x)

Good grief she was lucky enough to be able to change her pjs at 99 yo. How is it to be compared with a 37 years old woman.

@@mariesmith1616 I was just saying that the older a woman gets, the less embellishment she wants in a gown. A lot of girls want huge ballgowns when they’re young. As they get into their early 20s, it changes to an A-line, then a decade after that they want a more form-fitting or simple gown without any underskirts. I’ve noticed this pattern on all of the American versions of SYTTD. I haven’t watched enough of the international versions to say it’s universal. My point is that a 37yo woman is not likely to want a puffy ballgown. Also, my great-grandfather’s second wife passed away at 97. I’d too be impressed if she could change her PJs at 99.

The Dad was a breath of fresh air after that previous fiancé.

He’s a minor celeb in Atlanta with billboards and commercials. “One call, that’s all!”

You think he had a job? I’m not so sure

I totally agree!!!!

It made me laugh too

Did he control what dress she picked? Nope. Would you say the bride was a selfish jerk if she picked out the groom's suits? I bet not. He has an opinion. That must be a red flag to you for some reason. He really likes the other dress. Oh no!!!!! ...And she still got the dress she wanted. Ok. So where's the problem again?

Why? She picked her own dress. So what is the problem? He had his opinion that was different than hers. Oh no! The other women told her which dress they liked. That was why they came. They didn't come to help the bride, because she's a big girl and can make her own decision. I see. You're upset that he cared about what she wore. And it was different than hers. Ok. But is it the end of the world? No. She got what she wanted. The end.

right???

I know, right?

I wonder if he is, wink wink 😉😉. She may be settling because of her age. Never know.

THAT'S what you took from this??

LOL. Would you say that if the bride picked out his suit for the wedding? Lots of brides do that. She got the dress she wanted. So what is the problem? I don't see it. I saw a man who weirdly cared about the dress as much as she did. But it isn't a crime.

@@catladyfromky4142 Yes, my husband picked out his own suit and his grooms men’s suit.

Exactly what I came to the comments trying to find out

I hope not!

No, they are still married.

Would you say the same thing if the bride picked out the groom's suit? Lots of brides do that. It is both of their wedding. They both have to see the photos. He had his opinion, and he gave it. And then she picked it out with no fuss from him. Isn't that the way it SHOULD be? In the equal world we all want?

Sorry for your loss

Ch'ui d'accord !!! C'est pénible tous ces gens qui donnent leur avis et qui ne payent rien...

He's not manipulating her. He cares about the dress because it is also his wedding and he will also see the photos. Would you say that, if a bride picked out the groom's groomsmen suits that he needed to run and that she just wanted to wear it later? Lots of brides do that. Should you call them all closet lesbians? I don't know if you meant to denigrate him for being interesties in fashion, but you did. I wasn't aware that the groom didn't get to participate in his own wedding plans. Yes, he has a strong opinion about the silhouette. But she got the dress she wanted. Where is the problem? That they disagreed on something? Oh no! That should never happen in a MARRIAGE!

@@catladyfromky4142 The sheer amount of comments I've seen you leave on people calling this guy out is concerning. Unless you are/know this guy you are way too invested in how people view him. You keep saying "what if the bride picked the grooms suit" as if her not valuing his opinion on his attire isn't viewed as equally shitty. The reason a lot of brides pick the suit is because a lot of men don't care and would rather leave the work to her, not because his opinion doesn't matter. If the groom truly does care what he wears and the bride came in being like "I'm princess charming. We're not here to pick out a suit for him, we're here to pick out a suit for me. I understand he wants that style but I want this style." then yes it would be a problem...just like it is that this groom did exactly that. Yes she got the dress she wanted but not without him trying to make it all about him first. The problem isn't the result it's his attitude right up until the very last second which, let's be honest, probably only changed because this is a TV show. There is a difference between having an opinion and pushing your opinion on someone. "I liked the other one but does this one makes you happy?" VS "I liked the other one, are you sure you don't wanna put the other one on again?" One is supporting her opinion while voicing his, the other is pushing his while undermining hers. Which one is closer to what he said? Also why the hell are you bringing sexuality into this? Nothing in the original comment called him gay, unless you think a man buying a poofy dress makes him gay in which case your outraged respons is very hypocritical.

He's trouble because he cares about what she wears? Is she trouble if she not only cares about what the groom wears but singlehandedly picks it out? I bet you would have a different conclusion. It is both of their wedding. Most men don't care about what the bride wears. This one does. Oh, the horror! I can bet you that she cares about what he will wear and will, at least, get to voice her opinion about it. Feminism equals equality. It shouldn't remove the ability of the man in the couple to have an opinion.

What would she have done if Daddy didn’t like the dress??

He might want to try it on later. I hope I'm wrong for her sake.

With a tiara too? And sparkly high heels

Not that there's anything wrong with that... Just let the fiancé know.

Right ​@@annewagner196

​@@annewagner196even my own dad said, "There is nothing wrong with wearing a dress now and then." He was considered manly, well dressed and a pillar of the community.