People in the comments expecting jolene to be act mature and reasonable when she went through life with nothing, no life skills apart from survival, no "common sense." Not only did she not get to develop, she was broken by abuse early on.
Also, she was still a kid. Those ppl who judge are either bitter or haven’t even lived a few decades on this Earth. She had no business getting married at that age
@@TruckieLooks4Aliensmany people naively marry as an escape from an unhappy existence. It often ends badly. You’re right about all the judge mental commenters: bitter, immature. No doubt many are misogynists; there’s plenty of them trolling around.
@@TruckieLooks4Aliens i’ve lived four decades on this earth, I married young I was proposed to many times in my younger days. I also was abused and controlled by a narcissistic mother who expected me and ordered me to be a player. I went along with it when I was younger ie 15/16. However, as I got older and grew into my own person, I realized that that wasn’t right . I decided to be a good person. Long story short, there’s no excuses 🤷🏻♀️
@@TruckieLooks4Aliens she wasn’t a kid the entire time at some point in the movie she does become an adult. And after several relationships and several sexual partners (304). She should’ve known better🤷🏻♀️
@@astridediva no, most people aren’t living completely different lives than what their initial conditions might predict, and definitely not multiple Times over
@@palashkaleI am 23 I speak four languages, I was a married Muslim woman at 18, I am now nearly in medical school, on path to be a physician in the navy. I was divorced at 20 because he did not agree with my career path. I am now engaged to a catholic man who loves me dearly. I was adopted at the age of 18 by a family, the man and his wife are both doctors, they gave me my first car for free, and made their home my home too, they inspired me to become a physician and mentored me. I am sending this while laying in my bed there. I grew up poor, worked hard and treated others with kindness, and I have found myself so fortunate.
Have I been in situations like the woman in this movie? Yes, but I learned and they made me stronger and more compassionate towards others. I have lived many lives and yet I have always been myself. Despite a rough childhood, I now have a family who wants me and loves me, a man who treasures me, and a bright future ahead of me. Everyone possess potential, it would be best if it could always be linear, but I never worked that way, I went through so many changes to be who I am today and I am so proud of myself. I am a declared Christian, but I still go to the mosque, and appreciate the beauty of a culture I once knew.
Recap fails to mention Jolene was 15 when she first got married and her first husband was emotionally unavailable. Also they make it seem like she was a willing participant the first time she was ass*lted. Then only after was she a willing participant but again… she was 15. And in case you’re wondering… the husband was NOT 15
@@thelegacyofgaming2928 She was cleaning the house and her husband's uncle came up from behind her, then grabbed and kissed her. She did not ask for that moment. She did, however, eventually go along with it. The former is assault and the latter isn't.
I feel like the rich old guy who got taken out was actually good to her. He may not have been w her for the right reasons, and was in a dangerous job, but he seemed to care for her to a decent degree. Their relationship was too short lived to see any other major things besides age differences and life styles
@LotsofLisa I think he wanted to marry her first, or needed to adjust a will.. my thoughts are kinda just that their relationship had an untimely end. Like he died before he could do anything official
A lot of creepy men in the comment blaming an underage child for “cheating” when she was tricked and forced into a marriage says a lot about their characters.
Y'all don't even know her age, she seemed 18 or at least close to it, she wasn't a "child" and she knew what she was doing and if she somehow didn't, I guess men shouldn't trust women's intelligence because apparently they need to turn 18 before they fricking cheating is wrong. Also, weren't y'all the ones saying women are more mature. Even if she was 16 or 17, by your logic, that's still equivalent to a male 18 or 19 year old? Funny how this "women are more mature" BS always falls when women have to actually show maturity. Then they show they can't meet the bare minimum of maturity someone their age should have.
@@tylersmith3139she was 15 though and I can’t really blame her because the first guy lied to her and never protected her from his aunt or uncle, he should have noticed the way his uncle looked at her or at very least protected her from the aunt, she also stated that bro had no ambition in life🤷if he really wanted to be with her he should have moved out with her to an apartment or something
@@tylersmith3139 you're really exposing yourselves here. She was 15 when she married, clearly a kid. She did not cheat on her husband, she was groomed. By the uncle who was atleast 20 years older than her. She was repeatedly sexually assaulted even as a young orphan kid before that. You just exposed yourselves.
She was married at 15 or 16, she was an orphan. Her husband was immature-ish and naive himself and couldn't take a stand for her. It was bound to be a disaster.
@user-fk7sk9ut1t usually there is a moral grey area to these things, the closest thing we have to that here is her being a minor, but that begs the question of how she got married in the first place.
@@5hane9ro Age 16 with consent from parents, or being emancipated from them. 18 in all other cases. Technically, she is emancipated from her parents, in the US you can leave the foster care system at 16.
Her beauty could have been a virtue towards her if she had a family of her own. Like REAL biological parents that really cared and loved her and would want the best for her. But it proved to be a curse when she gets abused again and again and take advantage of even as a young kid in the orphanage. And then being blamed for it. Only if she had a good parental figure in her life and was Rightly guided. And dirty past? She was just trying to survive. This makes me want to think about the real life women that are living the same life as this movie character. It's hard being a woman in this world, much less is hard being one when you're an orphan women. I'm grateful to be born into a loving family with parents and people around me that really care about me.
The streets will eat you up, and it happens much quicker when you are attractive . Without any guidance you are easier to exploit, and you'd be amazed at who will do it.
Lots of incels in the comment section again. Like flies, they are attracted to recap channels. Just enjoy the recap, the character is not the girl that left you in high school😒move on.
A lot of these comments are really f***** u*. That's a girl with the first husband. She cheated on him. There is a framework. First of all she was a teenager in high school. Her husband brought him to his family's home, Were they treated her like a servant. Is just mistrated by his aunt. She was disregarded by her husband. He gaslet her very valid concerns. She was not being seen or heard. This is emotional abuse. And then her husband wasn't giving her any attention He wasn't opening up to her. And then the uncle who's supposed to be a grown a** adult to know better, Took her. Gave her attention, Saw her, Treated her better than the rest of the household. Made her feel like she was wanted safe and loved. Until the aunt found out. Than everything was her fault. The high Schooler's fault. I'm willing to bet none of that would have happened if her husband actually took her concerns seriously and didn't disregard her. He allowed his family to treat her that way. He was not being a man protecting his wife. It doesn't doesn't say in this recap but Jolene was being abused in her foster home she's being physically abused by her foster mom and sexually abused by her foster dad. Which means she is groomed to accept the advances a father like figures. Then when she marries Mickey she's brought into a home Tready aunt and uncle are not much different than her foster parents. And Mickey disregards her concerns. He was supposed to protect her and he didn't.
@@wimsylogic65 I know but chill, no need to take a movie that seriously.... Not to mention it was an average movie at best With a topic that had tons of movies made on it ,and better ones as well
@@vivekkparashar I wasn't defending the movie I don't care about the movie. Or even the characters. I'm speaking up, For those being judged in similar situations in real life. If people are making such comments over just a character in a movie, I don't want to support that mindset over people in real life. I'm not upset, I don't need to calm down. And I don't want to. I like speaking my mind and giving my opinion or perception. And sometimes even enjoy the challenge of someone debating me. In short I'm bored. And particularly passionate about this, I guess. Also and probably this is the most important thing I write my comments for myself. People are free not to read. I live fairly isolated on a mountain I don't do much actual talking. Thus the good people on the internet get to suffer Through my avalanche of words. If they so choose. I wish Anybody that reads this has a life filled with as much laughter And love as possible.
People in comments are sick in mind.. she was abused as a kid, got forced upon again after marriage after her husband lied about having a house, and people are blaming her, a child 😒 Most abused women dont even have sense that they're being abused till much later. Y'all need to read about abuse and mental health, the most fault she had is not trying to deny her husband's uncle
Literally making up whole plot points from thin air because it suits your weird narrative. Seriously, you people are so unhinged you can't even hold it together over fictional people.
Why couldn’t her last husband be more understanding of Jolene’s past and still love her anyway? If I was in his position, sure I might have been surprised if I learned about her past, but I would’ve accepted her and treated her kindly and lovingly (never abuse her). I also would’ve stood up for her against my parents if I was him.
@@ftniceberg874 Excuse me. Do you completely forgetting that she was like 15, 16. Her husband was not being a man. He gasolit her concerns about his family. And then his uncle just took her. After his aunt was basically making her servant. She was being mistrated in that home. And her husband wasn't doing anything about it nor opening up to her. She was still in high school. All the blame was put on her when she was a Teenager. The uncle is where the blame lies. Wtf is wrong with the people in these comments.
@@wimsylogic65 Exactly, thank you for making that clear, you took the words right out of my mouth. By husband I was referring to her 2nd husband whom she had a son with. I hope that both she and her son will reunite in the near future.
Time to time I go back to this film and realize more that Jolene definitely has a personality disorder. In many ways, it’s not her fault. A 15 year old orphan who breaks free from foster care. Jumping from one scenario to the next. She has some type of pull to men & women. It’s magnetic. Similar to a cluster b type of personality disorder. My heart goes out to her. She is never truly happy or satisfied. Things go astray quickly & turns into a nightmare for her. I hoped as she got older she would find the therapy she needs. Has potential to be great
Any men blaming an underage girl for “cheating” and expect her to stay faithful is mentally deranged. The brain is not even fully developed until 25 !!!😢
It is if not giving puberty blockers as matter of fact. Puberty is onset trigger of adult thinking. Nuro physiology fully formed into adult by 16-18 years old. Although not an elder state of wisdom tell latter. Most 10 year olds know basic right from wrong if rased right anyways. She knew she was wrong for it just like the scumbag she wanted to betray her husband for. She cared nothing for the people in her life only what she exploited out of them. She didn't even go for visitation of her son after she failed to secure him as an income source. Ya that part of her life was past your magic 25 years old too.
The last guy doesn’t make sense!? Like she declined his proposal, saying he doesn’t know anything about her, but reassures her he doesn’t care and then gets mad when he hears she’s been with like four dudes and one lady? Is he mad that she’s been married? Like I don’t see any reason that explains his reaction to beating her up to that degree.
Some men get disgusted when they find out the woman cheated once or have been with many men, implying that in the future, she’d cheat on him. Therefore, SOME men lose their mind and beat up women 😔
she shouldve stayed w Kendra tbh, kept working and tattooing if she wanted to and stayed single. coco is bad news! and i feel sorry for a sad beautiful girl like this.
Reverse the roles and you will find these women complainers men sympathizing and standing with a male lead character saying he was being abused and groomed.
You guys are awful. She was 15 and being sexually abused by her foster father and physically abused by her foster mother. Mickey was 20 years old when he married her. And he brought her to his family where they weren't much different than her foster home. He did not protect his wife he disregarded her concerns. He allowed his family to mistreat her and did nothing about it.
What is wrong with the people in this comment section?! Were you inspired by seeing example after example that belongs in a Recognizing Abuse 101 lesson that you wanted to create examples for a Recognizing Victim-blaming 101 lesson?
This movie recap is somewhat related to mine. It's not like living with many men, but metaphorically men are life struggles in my life. Serious health issues, chronic migraines, ups and downs at performing jobs at work, mistreatments from close relations. These setbacks in life traumatize me. Eventually even after finding the love of my life, he mistreated me, abused me, the same way Jolene's husband beat her with the painting. Many times, I have to call police for his behavior and finally taking divorce. Now sitting alone, I always think of my fantasy world of living a happy married life with children but that is not possible. I always smile away the thought and finally realized instead of wanting for which is not possible I should explore my inner skills and build myself.
It is revealed in the movie that he was dying his hair dark brown to cover the gray the entire time & that he must have stopped dying it during the trial.
It doesn’t really has to do with her looks (I mean it’s factor just as an attractive lady having more men interested in her), abusers can sense if a person will let them get away with it. They start with small things, and keep escalating if allowed to do it, are not told a clear “no”, or just dumbed by any person with logic. That is why many women seem to “repeat the same mistake again and again”, are told to have “bad taste in men” because relationship after relationship they seem to end an abuser or a cheater. It’s not them choosing this guys but them having some psychological issues. And I say woman because the movie is about a woman but it’s same for men.
Damn y’all fr showin u true sides in this comment section, y’all actin as if it’s the girls fault for getting abused and left every time, it wasn’t her fault with every man fickin idiots 😂
If she hadn't cheated on her first husband, she could have had a happy life once they saved enough to move into their own house (which they were already working on). Instead, because she was temporarily dissatisfied with the way her married life felt (since it came with very real, human difficulty) she willingly and happily cheated on her husband with his own uncle and fully intended on abandoning him. The rest of the relationships throughout her life were a direct result of that choice, and her approach to the rest of her life decisions stemmed from the same short-sighted, selfish mentality she shows through most of the story. That woman belonged to the streets from the moment we met her, regardless of what else happens. She was a shitty person who kept bringing equally shitty people into her life, until she finally ran into the arms of a bigger piece of shit than she was. It really is, quite literally, all her own fault.
@@justagirl8757 17 to an early 20-something is, by no means, a completely unusual age difference nor a 'much older man'. The uncle she had an affair with within a week, however, was INDEED a 'much older man'. Also, there's nothing that claims she was 'abused' as an orphan, only that she married an older man who loved her to find a BETTER life; literally her primary goal is, was, and remained using others to find a life that was easier on her. The fact that you people have to make up whole extra plot points in your head to justify never holding women accountable to their own actions is fucking laughable; you can't even help it when discussing fictional people!
Movie seem to be okay , only intresting thing going for it is having Jessica Chastain as the main lead . Idk why it had sparked debates in the comment section, there are many and Better movies with the same concept
@@ftniceberg874 it's really strange that the only thing you got from this movie was that the girl was using people.. can't you see that she had no parental figure in her life that she could trust, she was repeatedly sexually assualted even as a young orphan kid. Her uncle took advantage of her, she was 15. People took advantage of her. When men talk about women in such a simplistic, simpleton way, i could really just straight away judge them to not be good sort of people.
@@berthonycadet5441 Piss off, incel, go cry in the corner. She was abused by most of those characters, and yet you talk about ''accountability'' in regards to her not her abusers? She faced the consequences fully, have you, incel?
IT WAS Screwed UP The Life SHE Lived N I Couldnt Imagin Havin2 Give UP My Kid Like SHE Did Either THAT Would HAVE Hurt ME MORE Than AnyThing IN THIS ❤️❤️💋 World2 Walk Away From My Kid Knowin THAT I Would NEVER See HIM ❤️❤️ OR HER 💜💜💋 Again GORGOUS 💓💓 HUN
I’m confused on what was in her past that he beat her and took their baby she literally had been getting abused since a child and the only thing she did was survive and be chased by men who broke her down and broke her heart
