Outrage And Anger Cannot Be Our Default 

THIS! THIS, THIS, THIS! I call myself the friendly neighborhood atheist when I post. Some of the many reasons I left Christianity is it was exhausting to always be so outraged because hate and anger… There’s a lot of us here listening to a Reverend preaching a religion we aren’t a part of… Because the lack of hate is so refreshing… The honesty is amazing. And the Reverend is genuine.

@@EverettVinzant I see NOTHING in this man but love, respect, and kindness. He brings BOTH religion and politics to the simple HUMAN perspective. If you've never heard of her, look up the Lutheran pastor Nadia Bolz-Weber. She is also amazing.

@@StephenBlackWolf I totally agree with your assessment of the Reverend. When funds present themselves, I will look into your recommendation. Thank you.

Lol, The Reverend is human. He gets very angry about "Prosperity Gospel" preachers!

@@contrafax I’ll accept that. I have a low tolerance for bull sh… nonsense too.

No, they are normal. Humans are wired for survival. Any opposition to that is seen as a threat. We used to have lions and tigers and bears. Today we have ideology that threatens our very existence. To say they are addictions is to a) misunderstand addiction and b) to misunderstand human nature. It's elevating to say that, isn't it. "IIII don't have anger but if you do, then you're addicted to it" is petty.

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And I say amen!

I don't know about "us all", but I know that I am. My son hates when I say this about myself (and mean it). Uli at the train-station was getting angry. Elena had been yelling at me for not giving her enough money. "How can you take this guff from her? You just brought her breakfast and everything." I explained that she probably had a bad day (life) and needs more than she knows to accomplish. I further stopped him from trying to enlist me in his anger-team. "She's not the one with whom I'm angry. Don't hang onto your anger about her anger. It's a maze without exit. You'll never get out of here that way." Love.

I hate when people do that: using the word "idiot" or "stupid". It's extremely rare for me to consider someone stupid (I think I've only ever met 5 people max I'd call idiots in all my life). It seems disrespectful. Plus, these words are always thrown around by people trying to get some psychological upper hand over others, like narcissists or psychopaths. That's why I always tell people: never allow anyone to talk to you like that, not even yourself. You make mistakes, sure, we all do, but you're not an idiot, we're not idiots.

An observation I’d like to offer. Consider leaving out the word tolerance. No one likes to be tolerated. If it’s all the same to you, maybe the word acceptance would be a better one to consider. I only point this out because I’m having to tell myself constantly, “acceptance and patience.” Not because I’m reminding myself to do this for others, but because I need it from others, and I hope by showing them acceptance and patience they will reciprocate. It’s selfishness for a good cause.

@@EverettVinzant You're right that nobody like to be tolerated---but there are things I will tolerate without accepting them, myself. I'm not sure I can find another word that means "put up with" but not "accept." Suggestions?

@@user-qj8uc4tb8n Would it help if we both narrowed acceptance to accepting a flawed human trying? Their method may be questionable, sometimes people don’t know better, and we all perform better when we’re not being yelled at… I’m not saying accept a threatening situation, I’m saying accept that sometimes our presumptions lead us to inaccurate conclusions? Am I headed in a more acceptable direction?

@@EverettVinzant No one likes to be tolerated? I like being tolerated. As long as people don't chase me down the street with an axe, I'm good. I don't need them to welcome me into their lives or befriend me or anything. I don't need praise, only them to leave me alone and I'm the happiest I can be. You remind me of my managers asking what they could do to make the workplace better and that question always stunned me. As long as they leave me alone to do my job and don't yell or swear at me, I'm good. It seems excessive to me to ask for stuff like "we need a ping pong table" or anything else beyond a chair, a desk, a computer to do my job and peace and quiet.

@@octavianpopescu4776 Tolerance is putting up with a persons presence because you are required to. Acceptance is a choice. Some of what you described was acceptance (giving you what you need, not what other people think you need). Acceptance doesn’t require praise. You’ve jumped to conclusions, put words in my mouth, and smothered my comment in a layer of nonsense. That doesn’t mean I don’t accept you.

Amen

Just look how Jehovah got about Sabbath breaking, strange fire or Jericho loot, of course. Left Him maybe, so worn out... he had no energy left, for slave trades, blood libels, or Inquisitions, later. To, well - find as detestable, anyway. Anger can be quite draining - and constant anger, more greatly so.

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"Go for the eyes, Boo! Go for the eyes!"

There's more to it than that. It's not about having some moral high ground in the eyes of others, it's about you maintaining your balance. You're hurting yourself by being angry. Let me give you an example: a while ago there was some guy who was mocking me in YT comments and I told him to go ahead and insult me, if it makes him feel any better. Why? He/she was angry at me and I wasn't doing it for some moral high ground, I was doing it because I realized it didn't really matter. Words on a screen don't hurt me and in the grand scheme of things: I honestly don't even remember what the argument was about exactly, I don't even remember the person's name. Something political. But that person still lost, he/she felt better for a moment and? He/she was still angry afterwards, because his/her problem was still there. So what exactly did that person win by venting his/her anger at me? Nothing. Not money, not status, nothing. So why would I respond in anger to someone who's only hurting himself/herself with a negative poisonous mindset? They said their piece and the sun still rises in the East, life goes on and there are more important things than social media outrage. I tend to treat YT comments like banter, but some treat it like a war or something. So, it's not just a matter of moral high ground, it's a matter of pragmatism.

I'm sorry, emmanuelb. It's tough needing to fight over an interpretation of a prejudice about a preconceived notion of what is. We don't need to, of course. And if someone wants to define who I am, I certainly needn't accept their definition which is often so far from my understanding that it's funny. Someone else's anger does make me stop and reassess before I make a decision of my own. My own father's rage are things I still vividly remember about him - 40+ years after his death. Now that I'm much older than he had been, I'm able to let his "anger-lessons" go. Poor guy - victim of his own rage. Love.

You are right about it being the default, but I'm inclined to think that all covid and what went with it did was accelerate what was already happening. Think about the response so many people had at the beginning of the pandemic, refusing to follow basic guidelines - wear masks, stay 6 feet away from people, only go out when necessary, etc., because someone was telling them what to do and they didn't like it, like overgrown toddlers. What was going on in the US in terms of lockdown was nowhere near as comprehensive as what people saw in other countries. Some friends of mine were stranded in Morocco at the beginning of the pandemic and through their lockdown. When they had to go out to the grocery store, only one of them could go at a time. Things like that. Churchgoers whining about not being allowed to worship was a prime example. They didn't want to isolate, so they didn't. Church became a super spreader vehicle and a lot of people died as a result. The US, in particular, was susceptible to the outrage machine because we'd already been living in it for almost four years, maybe longer, when the pandemic started.

Love.

My cousin told me that he had no time to get angry - this 10 years before he died of old-age. I think that you are wrong in your assessment: the driver wasn't angry because Ed held him up. That's a misreading. More likely is that he just was angry to begin with and Ed's behavior gave him an opportunity to lash his anger out. Only by understanding this was Ed able to accept his own mistake (the green arrow) and not get angry back. Love.

@@howardcohen6817 Ed was in his way. It doesn't matter if that was a physical obstruction or a time interference. He may have been angry already or on the edge of anger. He had a choice to ignore the situation and go on his way. He instead went out of his way to chastise Ed. He could have been understanding, but he chose negativity instead. So, I believe that you are mistaken in your assessment.

Getting annoyed at something is not the same as coming to situations with anger and letting it out on the world. My getting angry is MY problem and not yours. Especially not if you are being sincere - which you are. Good to see you. Love.

Thankyou. ❤

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If they did, there would be no need. Love.