My God, I really hope this guy finds love. I don’t see an incel. I see a hyper-analytical, overly self-aware, overly self-critical, not ugly at all, and simply very lonely man of sound principles without a woman to share those same principles with in his life. Best of luck to Paul. If you really pay close attention to the entire video, he’s a moral man. Just lonely and in pain with that loneliness.
What astounds me is that he thinks he‘s overweight according to the first stream eventhough he‘s normal weight. He actually looks good imo. Ofc he‘s not a supermodel but he looks normal with a dad bod and most women tend to prefer that anyway. Btw I don‘t know why men think that balding is automatically considered unattractive. I‘ve been attracted to bald/ shaved heads all my life. It just looks neat and adds a lot of character. What I also like about Paul is that he seems very thoughtful and kind. I really hope he can overcome his insecurities and that he‘ll find someone special.
Over-analytical, totally not self-aware and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Most his problems came from his inability to look on the bigger picture. He constantly looks for excuses for why he is single (ugly, not confident, wouldn't smile). He is just not a happy person and unfortunately no one wants to interact with unhappy people. First thing to do in life is to learn how to be happy with thyself. Being single is not a burden or curse and people need to realize this, relationship will not fix anything and even so, create more problems. Learn to be self-sufficient.
But why did he tell the girl he had feelings if he knows the boundaries and was going to pushback if she was not willing to pushback. It sounds counterproductive.
@Abhay Patel dude I'm a average looking guy with a very cute girlfriend. Prior to finding her, I was an incel (not self identified). Through humor confidence and charm, at age 25, I seduced my now girlfriend of 5 years.
Idk if anyone else sees it, but compared to the first session, he really became more ‘receptive’ and less ‘defensive’ - which really makes me interested in a third interview to just see his progress…it’s a bit inspiring to see that he’s changing in real time and just looks…happier…even if just a little
The fact he put a “pearl” on the wall, despite dr. K saying that was not the point of the interview last time is hilarious. Paul has a great sense of humour
thats also taking alot of momentum out of it. laughing at your biggest insecuritys and fears. it was just really authentic thats why it connects so deeply
HE PUT THE PEARL ON HIS WALL. PAUL YOU ARE SO SWEET AND THOUGHTFUL. I BELIEVE IN YOU PAUL! YOU CAN OVERCOME YOUR SELF DOUBT AND HESITANCY. YOU'LL FIND THAT GIRL ONE DAY
I am glad you are happy about that, as I am. I JUST (3 yrs late) watched the first interview. When Paul said "This is pointless, I'm not exactly going to put that up on my wall" I stopped the video, and commented you FUCKING SHOULD! NOW, I click over here and he DID IT. THAT tells me SO much. I was beaming that's so cool
He's actually a pretty good looking guy, shaving the head definitely helps. His problem is he thinks too deeply about things and is not confident in himself.
@SUCKRPUNCHED He would probably be faacing a harder challenge, but even the ugliest of fuckers can find love, there are plenty of people out there that care much more about aspects that arent looks
@@friendlyanders9225 I'm not sure about this, but I think blaming solely your looks for your lack of relationships is a defense mechanism, like "I can't get a girlfriend, there is nothing wrong with my mind, so it must be my looks"
It's like Dr. K said: he gets in his own way. Imagine if he was a D&D character with a high Intelligence bonus, only it gets inverted into a penalty to his Charisma checks and Will saves vs. despair. Geeky as hell to explain it that way, but I think quite fitting.
The beautiful thing about that story is while he was right that she might never have offered him half a loaf instead of the full loaf if he had been standoffish and looked unwilling to talk, even just him realizing that his smile made the interaction better was so wonderful and positive. It made me very happy for him.
Hey guys, so this is a reupload of Pauls interview part 2, I cut some stuff out for privacy reasons. This is an oversight on my part as the editor, sorry about that! Here are some wholesome comments from the previous upload: He shaved his head! Good decision. Takes guts to be vulnerable like this... fairplay mate hope you find some progress. Straight off the bat I know that he's concerned with approval or saying the right thing. Apologising for being a bad patient is proof of that. What is a bad patient anyway? I speak from experience. I see a lot of myself in how he acts, particularly how I used to be when I was a touch younger Congrats to Paul for having the courage to get a follow-up! The original video was visibly intense for him, and for there to be a 'next time' is a big step up. The shaved head makes him so much more attractive I LOVE YOU PAUL
Hey Dr. K, just wanted to let you know i think you forgot to blur out his info at 16:41. I don’t mean to get people to see it, i just thought you would like to know since you took the previous video down for that reason. Keep up the great work!
From a pure views perspective Paul's 1st video is like top 5 of his channel though. I agree that new streamers would get more views still but I don't think Paul's vids would do bad. Especially considering they have the word "incel" in the title lmao
On the off chance Paul ever sees this comment, I want to say thank you for being so damn brave on the internet. I cried when you cried and I could not have let go of my own pain that way without you doing it too. Years later, your tears aren't something to be embarrassed of, they're a gift to this world
I wept like a baby on the first discussion because I felt so happy and sad for him at fhe same time. I went through thay emotional roller coaster with him. I may be wrong but I feel like he felt seen in that moment and that someone reqlly understood him and it was both beautiful and sad at the same time. I'm rooting for Paul. I've got lots of friends who aren't too far away from Paul in both looks and demeanor and all of them have found people to love. I am sending Paul all the love ❤
@@mandokirbecause when a comment gets some likes, it is prioritized and shows higher in the feed and thus gets more likes. Because people tend to not explore every comment only the ones on the top.
I hope you have this guy on a 3rd time. I know you said it's his turn to find a pearl on his own, but I think it would be cool if you had a follow up at least one more time some time in the future, maybe after he's had some time to figure things out on his own.
@@HunterBelkiran if you watched the "Why people lie" video Dr. K has you will hear him talk about a major reason that Paul is more comfortable here. To be brief Dr. K during the last conversation got past some of Pauls control mechanism (which are in place because, as he talks here in the early video Paul tries to control how people see him.) Dr. K got him to be more of his real self and when that happened it wasn't as negative an experience as Paul expected, it might even have been "positive" as Paul said. That experience lessened the terror of being himself and the anxiety he was taught by the "thousands of conversations" he had in his mind.
paul, don't feel shame for crying, i cried along with you, crying is powerful and needed, and you might not see the pearls now but you will soon, just like the previous session
duman173 I wish I could cry more. Something Dr. K said from Paul’s last visit in here was “the laughter of children is so beautiful.” And you know I’m pretty active on YT, and especially with online comment debates and the more I see the more I’m upset at the state of the world. Even when I go out I see some of the stuff I read and debate about in my real life and it really upsets and even angers me. I’m so tense at all time if you stuck coal up my ass it would be a Diamond within a year. When you hear a kid laugh and you listen to how genuinely care-free and happy it is.... it makes you think maybe not everything is done for; perhaps there’s a chance after all... if I could just cry and forget I would.
@Negopi Lirshar Crying is just a healing mechanism in the human body to help release stress, pressure and emotions. It is like a mental first aid kit. It's necessary to cry sometimes in order to assist healing.
"Smiling is OP" might be the truest statement in regards to human interaction I've heared. There is literally no one that can resist a genuine and sincere smile.
Zack fiat I went there. I was being dead serious. The post said “Literally no one” when there’s exceptions. How exactly can you perceive a smile through tone and voice? If you’ve never seen a smile before. I’m genuinely curious about that.
@@FryedPidgey i see,well from what i know people who born blind pick up social cue with their ear. just like its hard to fake a smile, its hard to simulate your voice to hide your mood. like if youre angry your voice automatically tenses because your mood subconsciously tenses your lung, like most social cues happen in the subconscious and if you genuinely smile, your voice lighten up. well that the case for me at least from my own observation
@@FryedPidgey Not blind myself, but over voip, friends have called me out for smiling while saying something cheeky and they have never seen me. Humans can be stupidly randomly perceptive about arbitrary shit. Look up humans being able to tell the difference between hot water(steam dampening the sound is my guess) and cold water being poured, so many things we can pick up on, its amazing.
You can tell there's so much authenticity, self-expression and just general awesomeness hidden in this guy, yet he is so wrapped up in his "I'm not good enough" mindset and I just wanna scream at him because he's such an amazing guy. I feel like last time we saw a caterpillar engrossing itself in its cocoon... This time we're trying to nurture the cocoon, yet Paul is basically a butterfly that's too hesitant to hatch and spread its wings.
and its so unfortunate because he’s been convinced his whole life that the caterpillar is the only stage the whole time, that the butterfly doesn’t exist.
This guy hyper analyzes everything. Very active thinker, so much to the point he stumbles over his own thoughts. There's so much stress built up in this guy that I think an early AM exercise before work would make his days SO much better. He's starting to see the bigger picture but has a hard time letting go. Having a good outlet for stress is super important for this guy.
@Qs Rt An exercise in the morning. Morning time is also referred to as the 'AM'. An example would be an exercise such as a morning jog or walk, or even a quick workout at home such as bodyweight exercises or yoga, before starting the day.
Dann I feel that Paul. Insane how such seemingly innocuous and arbitrary moments in our lives can hold such a strong weight for so long. Feel that. Not invalidating it.
@@Methylglyoxal Yeah, but we tend to be dismissive of the impact it can have on us. Like "that was so long ago", or "I don't even think about it anymore"
@@Methylglyoxal also I said "seemingly innocuous". Even to some extent despite his feelings, Paul could see the ridiculousness of the importance he was giving this story by making fun of certain aspects about the situation. The only reason that "making fun" of the situation did not work entirely (apparent in that Paul carried this all these years) is that he believed more in the negative aspects of it rather than the funny statements that question that same story.
The only thing making him all incelly is that hopelessness that keeps creeping up. He says no one wants him and I find it hard to believe. He's definitely attractive. He comes across as intelligent and introspective enough for me to guess he'd be a considerate person. His flat looks like he is at least okay at adulting. So it's his defeatist nature. Goddangit, Paul. Just be Paul and smile the Paul smiles.
Was looking for this comment. He is in fact attractive, and his level of intelligence is an absolute plus. He's actually adulting better than me tbh. He's seeking help when needed. I in the other hand will let it burn and say, "this is fine."
Y'all don't care that he harassed a woman at work because she went to lunch with him for two months and promised to bake him a cake? And after 15y he still hasn't figured it out that this was wrong. That's neither considerate nor intelligent.
Yeah, right? My first thought after hearing him speak was "Wait, how is this guy an incel?". He's smart, he doesn't look bad at all. And theeen he got so defensive about being unlovable and hopeless and I thought "Ah, yeah, okay. I wouldn't want to deal with that either." Although I am sure he can figure it out. He went there and unearthed his trauma. Someone who can do that is the opposite of hopeless in my eyes.
I think one of his biggest issues is that he sees himself as objective and unemotional, when clearly he's battling with emotions and wanting to appear a certain way constantly. I think this only makes the negative sides of those emotions even worse.
I think his logic and cynicism and skepticism has kept him “safe” from hurt but really has only kept him from being authentic and pushes people away. He’s smart so he can overanalyze and criticize everything but it results in him being too much in his head in the end. I think there’s a lot of dudes like this who have been crushed and disappointed and disrespected and their hyper-rationality is the only thing that keeps them feeling capable and powerful
@@awsambdamanYES. i completely relate to this. i think it’s a cope from being inadequate anywhere else (particular place or not), so the only place they can’t beat you is where they can’t access, your mind. so, you increase intellect and awareness to the point it makes you miserable because all that’s taking up your brain power to actually experience things, is being used to *think* about what you’re feeling and if it’s correct or logical to get good results, or prohibits you from seeing it in the first place.
Since most people have their first relationships at a younger age, they won't suffer the same kind of serious repercussions as Paul did for breaking it off in an 'immature way', as Dr.K put it. Having your company and HR involved in one of your first "break-ups" must've been really rough.
It's interesting that after he let the story out, he started mentioning being a troll and the OT and that was the most genuine I've seen him be in the 4 hours I had the priveledge to watch him. Paul, you're the man. You're super attractive naturally (you accidentally got girls with boyfriends into you TWICE), you just stopped trusting yourself after you've been hurt.
I think this behavior stems from his childhood, where he had to move constantly and he studied in all boys school, so he had probably seen lot less about interaction with women.
I remember my first time with a councilor I started having a panic attack and he just told me it's okay and I immediately started bawling so hard. It sounds dumb but I was so high strung from living with abusive parents that an adult showing me even a small amount of kindness made me break down. It was several years after I ran away from home, too. It's weird how you carry these sort of painful memories with you.
I've never experienced such a turn around of my feelings towards someone. At the beginning of the last session, I was getting frustrated with Paul. Now I have nothing but compassion for the guy. It shows me that I should never judge.
Taking very long to answer questions, processing them over and over, trying to answer what he thinks he shoud answer instead of what he actually thinks made me think Paul was either stupid or dishonest. Wich is probrably not the case. This explains (i think) why people in the past have thought i have been dishonest or dumb, when i haven't (that i know of).
@@alainerookkitsunev5605 Back when I was trying to manage people's thoughts and emotions, I was considered "quiet" and "standoffish." It's hard to talk when you are trying to think both sides of the conversation! And it is impossible to connect with people.
@@ColinFinkle Yeah, I would say that one of the keys to get out of that cycle is to leave assumptions at the door. Like, if you come up to me to get to know me, but you already made an opinion in your mind, what's even the point? Come with an open mind and people might surprise you.
I'm a woman but heavily relate to Paul in so many ways. It's only now in my late 30s, after finding some really supportive friends, that I finally started to properly accept myself and actually love how I look. Throughout school and my careers I NEVER had anyone show any romantic or physical interest in me, and it was really heartbreaking to see friends get 'popular' with boys while I was always kinda seen as the weirdo. I was even bullied for my looks. When I tried to seek advice I was just always told to change who I was as a person, like "wear make up" "dress in a pretty dress" "act more feminine" etc, but I always felt so uncomfortable doing those things, and I knew deep down that wasn't me and I wasn't happy to do it. After decades of that, you just grow to accept "I'm ugly, I'm the problem, obviopusly no one likes me, just look at me." It really really fucks with your self esteem. I dunno how I really crawled out of it. I still struggle with self esteem to this day, but I just slowly started to look at parts of me that I liked in myself, and ever so gradually it became self acceptance. I think age helps a bit too; I've always stuck to my guns, but definitely as I get to middle age I've very much grown into my period of "well I like this, so fuck anyone elses opinions, and if you like it too then awesome." I really hope Paul can get to a point of self acceptance some time... I think one of the greatest things he can do for himself is step away from the dating scenes, and instead look for groups in his area that share similar interests. Find a walking group, craft/art group, board game group.... whatrever he enjoys, and share his enthusiasm with like minded people. That's when they'll see the real him, and its where he'll see his true self.
4 things. 1- I love this channel. 2- I genuinely like Dr. K, his authenticity is much needed. 3-Paul, as a total stranger, I'm proud of you and I'm sending you my best wishes. 4. Please bring Paul back on, his continued sessions on this show are doing good things for everyone. P.S. Paul's and Mitch's episodes have been so amazingly cathartic for me. After watching one of the Mitch episodes, I decided to quit smoking cigarettes and to keep a daily bullet journal which would help in the quitting process. I'm 26, I had my first smoke when I was 9, smoked regularly since I was 15, I haven't had a smoke in over a month and it's been a breeze pretty much. I can't remember where exactly, but I broke down during the Mitch episodes and decided it was time, not to "try" to quit but to just quit, full stop. Peace out everyone.
Paul spends an hour dancing around the conversation using despair as a shield to protect the ball of pain he keeps in his gut. The pain is a precious thing. Circle, circle, circle. He's very good at fencing.
@@qweasd9153 A testament to what good introspection and guidance can do for people, most of the worst off people, especially incels, only need to find out what they're thinking and how to address it.
"Sometimes its kinda sad because we give the worst versions of ourselves to the people that we're closest to, and we give the best versions of ourselves to strangers" Wow.
Love how he didn't just pull back when dr K asked if frustration was okay. He could have easily just said "yes" and moved on, but instead he explained his reasoning which lead to a productive conversation
I genuinely think Paul is my favorite person out of all of these sessions I've been watching. I really, really hope he comes back for more, I want to know how he's doing.
I agree tbh. Definitely one of the more interesting people in this show, he’s able to challenge what’s being told to him which most people are not. I see that as a good thing in most cases but idk what others feel about that.
This dude was actually a good guy. It seems like he was trying to do the right thing and he got smacked in the face for it. I wish him luck in the future.
The revelation that we aren't taught how to stay connected with friends that aren't in our vicinity really hit home for me. I feel I know how to make friends to some extent, but I have no idea how to build on, maintain or rekindle friendships when the person is no longer in my vicinity. My mom and my partner are both quite good at building and maintaining connections with people and It's something I envy for sure.
It has been 3 years. Has anyone heard from Paul? He seems like a genuinely good dude who has just been knocked down a lot. I relate to him so much, I wish him the best for real! Paul if you see this, give us an update on how you're doing! We're all rooting for you.
@@mandokir Do you want all episodic sitcom stories? Plenty of people enjoy a good longer arc, especially if we can relate to it and learn something from it. Paul's story is reflected in some way by every single person who has seen this video and struggled to find a partner. This is such a central story to the human condition that it's practically lowest common denominator, if lowest common denominator was a nourishing feast full of vegetables and proteins. You say 5, but it's more likely 50,000, based on the video's view count.
“Be you and let them pick.” This is so apt. The amount of thought you have to expend when you have to manipulate a whole other persona on top of actually dealing with whatever is going on is massive. You’re recursively simulating reality in real time to achieve optimal result. Like playing a game in a virtual machine, the experience is worse than playing the game on the normal system. If you can recognize when this starts, maybe you can start to let go of it.
I am so proud of this guy. He has come so far in such a short time because he was open to it even though it was hella uncomfortable. I hope he kept going and is leading the life he wants.
I really hope there is a third time. These two sessions have been very transformative and informative for me, and others as well I'm sure. I relate a lot with the feeling of hopelessness Paul has: the doubts, the anxieties, and the rumination that he suffers from are things that I have struggled with and still struggle with. The absolute courage this man has to even go on this stream is a true inspiration. Paul you are a great guy.
Once an identity and set of beliefs hits critical mass, it becomes a heroic task to change. Because your mind cannot stand the void that would be once you lose everything. On top of that, if it envolves being at fault, the weight of responsibility is icing on the cake
@@LucasRibeiro-po4pb a good psilocybin trip would help this man 100 percent. So effective in breaking that cognitive loop that many have dealt with. It's so hard to break free of something you don't even realize you're in.
I saw this guy stands up; he's not overweight. He's smart, has a beautiful smile, dresses tidily, seems to have a neat home, and looks great. I hope he processes his issues so he can see that too.
Paul went Bald and is already smiling way more in the first 2 minutes than he did in the previous video! He already looks so much warmer, the way hes talking is so much different to the last time 😊 Im so routing for this man. I hope hes doing well ❤
I think he did exactly what Dr K told him. He took his insecurity of going bald and embraced it/laughed at it by shaving everything off. Now he appears more confident. And now he has to do the same with his psychological insecurities 😄
We gotta get this figured out. Because young men and young women want to spend time together very much. It's only natural and beautiful that they do. But men are socially clumsy and accidentally scary, and women's ability to reject causes men primal fear. What can be done?
I remember the feeling the first time I decided to unpack my trauma and give unabashed compassion to my former self. We are all connected by pursuit to connect with ourselves, and I love that we all share that in this community. I love Paul so much and I hope he has many more of these moments.
I am only 13 minutes in and so happy to see the change in Paul. Totally different then last time. I would really love to hear how things were going in between.
This guy has blind spots and latches on some ideas but I really like how he formulate his ideas, with precision. It makes it easy to follow compared to other guests. I also like that he doesn't shy away from showing his skepticism or misunderstandings
Hey Paul, thank you for authentically going through this, because a lot of people have your problems too and so seeing the Dr K go through them with you is helping a lot of people.
As soon as I heard him say he went to a single-sex school it clicked. Exactly the same situation that I was put in. That shit messes with a pubescent boy's head so much. Mental abuse if you ask me. I thoroughly resent being separated from the opposite sex during my teenage years. Shit should be banned.
@@wilcoxtam810 well single school doesnt mean i support intermingling and all that i meant school were both genders can converse however i dont support some warped view of gender and sex studies in modern schools
@@raghavnamasivayam5098 I came to the conclusion recently that a teenagers “social grades” matters much more than his/her academics. Parents need to pay more attention to how their children are faring socially especially with the opposite sex. Incels are a thing because a generation of parents failed their kids
7:24 He literally just said the meme of oh no I'm going to get a bad grade in therapy. Something that is not only possible to achieve but normal to fear.
Horses for courses. Sometimes he needs to be that way to make progress with people, here that is always met with disapproval from Paul. So he chose patience and more silence. Paul wanted him to be in control and seemed very put off when a plan changed from week-to-week, so Dr K threw that back and put him almost completely in control for times, but needed to be calm to allow Paul to gain leadership without realising it (like holding a kid on a bike and letting go without them realising, and they're riding on their own).
As a person who is very alone myself and basically the same age as Paul, I need to see a 3rd appearance from this guy! I really hope his life is turning around for the happier!
Absolutely weird world we live in. I'm not going to unload all my baggage here in a RU-vid comment section, but I have an eerily similar story to Paul's in my own life. I mean absurdly similar, around the same age, incredibly traumatic and changed the way I feel about intimacy probably forever. But I'd like to think I've worked through most of it today.
2:04:55 "Paul with his colored shirts and trollish qualities...it's the girl who can appreciate that who will be the right one for you." In complete agreement. Best of luck Paul. You are a good man.
I truly love how much growth and progress he has made from the previous video to this one. Many commenters are fixating on the hair, but I honed in on the fact that Paul is: Much more emotive More aware of his cognitive biases Seems to have more friends Realizes that he is not an "incel" You are on your way, Paul, and we are all rooting for you. His last interview helped me so much, and I credit it to my improved success with women- the need to be "unburdened" is so so crucial. I relate to his struggle of being bullied by an administrative body because a woman cried foul against him. I had an ex make false accusations of abuse and harassment against me, and it led to legal action. All of the charges were dismissed because it was all BS, but it hurt my confidence and interactions with women going forward because I had anxiety-PTSD type symptoms of a similar thing happening in the future. I seriously want to give this guy a hug and have a moment of solidarity with him because I know what it is like to be painted as the bad guy because you are a male vs a female, and to have nobody on your side in that moment- not even your family.
I have huge respect and admiration for Paul to share his story and vulnerability on the internet and I hope the very best for him to improve himself, love himself and hopefully find a partner he can fully be authentic with
Mannn that actually made me laugh so hard. We go through this huge emotional thing and he just says ehh she probably wasnt even that good. Man i feel that so much , now i guess.
I wish Paul was more of a regular on the show. I really wanna see him get better and the AoE healing will be massive, we all have to deal with guilt/regret and it's ramifications to some extent.
I would LOVE to see Paul back for a third session! I find him super endearing, and just a lonely, uncertain, overthinker trying the best he can in any given situation. He’s not unattractive at all! He kinda looks like a cool artsy dude, I could imagine him with a black turtle neck and a baker’s hat haha he seems so sweet. Heck if I was older I’d go on a date with him, and I’m sure it’d be lovely! I hope he finds what he’s looking for, I know he has it in him :)
It’s amazing how simple the rule is: “the most likable people show their vulnerability and being vulnerable around others makes them like you more” and yet guys like me hide my every flaw as if anyone wants a mate or friend who’s perfect. “Perfect” friends are the worst, nobody truly likes them. This is why big (as in very overweight) outgoing people oftentimes have the most friends and closest relationships and seem so dang likable. People who aren’t perfect and own their uniqueness make us comfortable with ourselves and able to open up & that’s what a friend is for.
There's no way for me to know, but I hope K and Paul have had some behind-the-scenes sessions since. If not, I really hope there's a third session, because he is an incredibly rare case of someone willing to bare themselves to the world in the hope of getting personal help.
I think Paul is actually a huge romantic and full of heart. He doesn't want to change himself just to find love. He wants to stay true to who he is and find someone that will like him regardless, but he also knows something isn't right and it needs to change. That's a lot to try and balance and as someone that has the tendency to overthink, it's a nightmare. I hope he's able to be patient with both himself and others as he learns and grows as a person.
About mid-way, I had already had a number of revelations about my own anxiety and mind and when Paul said it was a trainwreck I was like No! You're doing so great! This is such an amazing conversation! I know this is an old video but I hope you're doing well Paul, you've been a pleasure to learn alongside with
Again man. The video begins and im like "lets see how long it takes lowering down his defense this time." But im not gonna lie. Paul is the one guest i can relate the most to, because im in a similar situation. Thank you for sharing your story! I can imagine how much courage it took you
I think it makes sense considering his environments of an all boys school, and then working in software / IT. That defense is so necessary in these circles... but there comes a time where people want to make a change. Glad dr K can facilitate that and also this great comments section with everyone sharing such thoughtful comments. It's amazing that somehow, we all care so much about this guy, just from him sharing his issues, wanting to improve, and show that vulnerable side
@@_e8a definatelly some bullying involved aswell. In many places all schools are all boys and all girls schools and they dont have that much of incel issues as "mixed" school countries often do.
I hope Paul realizes how much he helped other people by being so open and vulnerable with us all. I definitely recognized some things in myself that are similar to him and that are holding me back from being happy and content. Thank you so much Paul!
Paul is incredibly brave and admirable for allowing to be vulnerable on the internet like this. Super inspiring and I wish only the best as he goes on the difficult but rewarding journey
Watched the two parts back-to-back. I wasn't expecting to shed a tear myself at the beginning, but fuuuuuuuuck... the two hour mark got me on this one. I might be on a binge-spree now.
Damn that "self-hopelessness" is real 51:50 You can see his face, attitude, demeanor and voice all change in an instant when Dr.K mentions they have a lot problems to address. Hes been telling himself for way too long that theres no hope. I wish the best for this guy.
There's tons of this type of comment already but- WE WANT MORE PAUL! Can you come back, Paul? Many of us can relate and wonder how you're doing now, years later. Peace to you, brother🙏
Man, when dr.K asked him smile, think about happiness and he replied “happiness…what is happiness..” that hits me hards and feel sad for him at the same time 😔😭
I love Paul. He seems really smart and he's definitely gonna be able to work through his problems with the right guidance. I think it would be great if it was you Dr.K. Love this. Hope to see more of him.