Panel Discussion: Finding Tranquility in Marriage | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi & Guests 

Anytime I hear a born Muslim, especially one with a platform such as this, say, “We need to support our revert community,” I’m touched-except when I hear that followed up by a marginalizing statement such as reverts only going one of two ways in their practice of Islam: rigid or relaxed. Let’s take care to avoid perpetuating stigmas with over-generalized statements such as this one. 1:00:25 Born Muslim or revert, every single Muslim experiences ups and downs in their iman. Listen to the sister carefully as she backtracks and admits born Muslims experience the same thing. There’s no difference when it comes to that fluctuation we experience. In short, the reply to this question was disappointing and probably should have been more carefully addressed without bias. We must uplift each other as an ummah and politely encourage one another to embrace the other, regardless of our backgrounds. Let’s remember the examples of the original reverts known as the companions (may Allah SWT be pleased with them all). As a revert sister, comfortable in her deen, looking for marriage, I was seeking advice in this video and esteemed panel. I took a lot of good lessons from it, but then the surface-level tips and obvious discomfort from the panel in response to the revert question left me feeling demoralized.

I was saddened at what I saw at 1:00:25, when asked “What advice would you give to someone planning on marrying a revert?” The dead silence followed by laughter felt as if no one knew how to “deal” with reverts. Reverts are every bit as Muslim as born Muslims. When the sister in the blue said “she can come to the rescue” because no one else had any advice to offer regarding the question being asked, I wondered “why is this a topic requiring rescue?” As a born Muslim with revert friends who inspire me to be the best Muslim I can be, reverts shouldn’t be made into outsiders of the Muslim community the way seemed to be in this lecture-requiring born Muslims to work on THEM. I know reverts who practice 1000x stronger than I do and many others that I know. The silence and laughter and “advice” given in this lecture make reverts seem like they’re the ones that need our help. Not ALL reverts should be generalized like this. A Muslim is a Muslim period.

We have to try harder in our marriage. 1. Change self talk about your spouse 2. Change the energy you bring in the relationship ( your happiness is your responsibility) 3. Change the way you make your spouse feel 4. Show more affection 5. Change your approach 6. Change your focus (live and love with a higher purpose) Do it for Allah sake.

May Allah grant us righteous spouses and may Allah grant us solutions to your problems but most important grant us Jannah firdus

Ma shaa Alloh, shaykh Yasir, I respect and admire you so much. I am in a process of searching a righteous lifetime partner, Alhamdulillah, Alloh taala giving you an ilham to prepare lectures on this topic. Thank you very much shaykh, I ask from Alloh taala to give a barokah to your ilm!

Maybe there should be a course for parents-in law to be.

Yaa Yasir qadhi may Allah SWT increase your emina,health ,life, wealth, and most important things give you jannaha fardowsa. May family love you millions and infinitely for the sake of Allah.

اللهم صل و سلم و بارك على سيدنا محمد ❤️

I have not listened to the whole conversation. But from the short part I listened to, I heard many beautiful talks ( not being dismissive of the speakers' expertise and knowledge[Jazzak'Allahu khairan to them all]) but I think the reality is often different and not merely about spouses not appreciating this and that, not making the required emotional connection, or not communicating effectively. The problem is not much about what they might be doing or not doing but rather what makes them behave the way they do. A person may have good social , emotional, and interpersonal skills but if he/she has the wrong partner ( meaning someone who they have nothing or too little in common with, a shared view or vision to a certain degree ) these skills wont make it work. Based on my own experience and understanding I believe the key to successful marriage is having a partner with whom you have something in common ( a shared world view, a shared passion about the deen or something else, a shared goal etc.) And even if you don't have anything "worldly" in common but you are both muslims who understand the basics of your roles and responsibilities according to Islam and try to fullfil them to the best of your ability and sincerity, that will be enough to save a relationship. I also believe that even though we can make some generalizations, relationship issues should be analyzed and treated case by case into their real context, given real circumstances and factors etc.

MashaAllah Tabarakallah. Thank you Shaikh YQ and Epic team for this lecture. I think next topic should be mistreatment to daughter in laws in a 3 generation household .

Alhamdulilah for this enlightening panel discussion and Q&A. Very beneficial advice to the young and those actively seeking marriage. Jazak Allahu Khayran to Sh YQ and the panel members.

Allah ❤

Machallah tabarakallah!

May Allah bless them and I am happy to arrange marriage such a way

jazakallah khair

From beginning to end, such practical and doable advice. MashaaAllah.

Thank you for this informative and useful discussion!

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Rabbana hablana min azwajina wadzuriyyatina qurrata a’yun waj ‘alna lil muttaqina imama

Al hamde li Allah الحمد لله. Look up souls assorted and cognitive functions

The NOI

As-salamu aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu who is the reciter at the beginning ?

Please, if anyone can tell about the reciter in the beginning and at the end.

A W W

Salamu alaikum my comment here is about the wife what if her parent have all daughters is this for the daughters to take care of their parent since the parent dont hae sons

How do Muslims view the nation of Islam and Louis Farrakhan?

Too many ads ruins the experience!

Just give me the solution regarding in-laws and finances, I will take care of the rest. 😅

Sir please make a vedio on gog and magog

I have a question.

' Assalam Mulaikum . Shaykh , sometime man & sometime woman quarrel , but this is not the fact . ' Tact is devil . evil make man , woman fight . When the fight is over we are good or bad . Ugly devil .