23:20 "Marriage is not a reward for doing something right, Singleness is not a punishment for (doing something wrong)" Wooooow, definitely needed this x
Hey Love, Just to put this into perspective for you, think of allllll the people out there who are not living lives for Christ, that are married or in a relationship. Do you really think that God has rewarded them for the lives that they have been living? They lie, cheat, steal, have multiple sex partners...you name it. Look at Hosea's wife, she was a prostitute, he was a man of God, a Prophet, to be exact. God to told Hosea to MARRY her. Was that a reward for her "good behavior"? I think not. TRUST ME, I struggle with this too, but I remember that God has a plan for me and He knows the desires of my heart is to be in a relationship and then married. So I TRUST HIM to work it out for me. And while you're waiting, as the Pastor Todd said, "Maximize your singleness!" Enjoy being by yourself, accomplish your goals, go back to school, travel and just enjoy life's simple pleasures. Remember: getting married is not the goal, STAYING married is. Hope this helps, I tend to ramble ha!
BuzzyBeeJones but being victim to somebody who's playing around(hoes, playboys and all that is) it's your(my) own punishment for liking someone who would do that to me and being naive when ppl were warning me to get out of that situation
I believe god wants ya to love and learn nog lovd abd loose out on thay learning process so please take changes and chances god wants you to be loved and love another as you do him its part of the life plan x
This entire series is bittersweet for me. As much as I NEEDED hear hear this series it makes me be honest with myself and realize that I have work to do
We all have work. But he is good and is with us on our journeys. God bless you and may he give you the strength when you feel like there is none to be found
I watched the five (5) episodes in a day and God has answered some questions I've had in my heart for a while. I love the simplicity, realness and transparency in the teachings and from the people. God bless pastor Mike and the Transformation Church.
Makes me want to listen again and again to make sure i get it all down in my soul. God is good and knows what we need! We learn from.our own experiences but also others
I think that singles have a hard time with the season they are in because the church and the world makes it seem like there's something wrong with you when you aren't married or dating. People will ask you or tell you you're so pretty and smart and this and that I'm surprised no one has picked you up and it makes it seem like man is there something wrong because no one has decided to put a ring on my finger.
Not just church, I think it just happens a lot in our society in general. Not just with marriage, with school, career, life goals expectations (fancy cars, owning a home by a certain age) etc
To be fair, sometimes there IS something wrong with us which might explain our solitude. This is an exercise in self-improvement and self-awareness. A partner or spouse is not a reward for being ready for one, but the absence thereof might be due to our own issues that we need to resolve.
Deal Maker: Someone who's passionate about God and serving others. Deal Breaker: Immaturity (e.g. emotional immaturity). I don't want to be dating a child.
I've been the immature one because of child trauma and emotional and verbal trauma from my marriage. But I'm growing out of immaturity, and looking at the reasons why I am so reactive and defensive. The lord can help those plus who are struggling with growth.
How did I get to Part 5 in only two days?! This has been blessing me tremendously. This delivery and level of understanding is crazy. I have been learning so much about myself as well as God - especially as it pertains to relationships. Thank you Pastor Mike, thank you God.
JaKeya Baker I said this to another commenter but honestly if you love this pastor as much as I have and you haven’t watched the “grace like a flood” series .. you are missing out Not a lot of people are aware of it because it was a couple years ago and doesn’t have as much views as this series but it deserves it ! Trust me on that . Especially if you want to understand and start learning more about who god is
I am 17 years old and I have never been on a date. I started watching these a couple of months ago and stopped. I picked it up again yesterday. There is a girl I love and who loves me and Because of these videos and God using Pastor Mike as a vessel I am becoming a better godly man every day. I don't watch sermons online, but I love these. I am tearing these apart because doing a relationship the right way is something I want. Something I'm certain that most Christian's want. Thank you for showing me how to do this the right way
@@lawandstreeter7074 we broke you for a month and miraculously met an event where she was sorry for everything she said and did and we have been given another chance. Someday we want to get married. She isn't the same person I knew. My parents have restricted me talking to her and it's so very hard on but I'm not giving up faith
@Greg Morrell here's another great resource The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why? www.amazon.com/dp/1434704890/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_IPypEbSSW1BBP
0:00 "How many people have been blessed by this sermon series?" *Raises both hands... even though I'm at home.. in Canada...* Haha but honestly though, this series is BLESSING me in more ways than I can express!! Thank you Jesus for leading me here and I pray God continues bless this ministry!!
This "Relationship Goals" series is so amazing. God brought me right to this series as I partake on a new journey of celibacy and my continued length of singleness. I have been ready to have kids and get married, but didn't realize me being single is great to find myself "before the person. I've dealt with loneliness while being single and feeding my loneliness with fornications. So thank you Pastor Mike and Natalie Todd for these videos. Thank you for allowing your testimonies and services be recorded and shared with the world. All the time I'm on RU-vid and I never seen you all before. When I tell you God introduced this video to me in the right time of my life. Thank you all for the help during this journey I'm beginning.
Dusty Lee I did the and thing. I suppose to got married but he wasn't the one right for me. Now I will celibacy journey like I was and continue my relationship with God.
Honesty and Transparency: When I first met my fiancé, we had a conversation through a wall, like literally not seeing each other’s faces. I just realized, how we was so transparent that time. He told me about his life (his family and all that) without me asking me anything about it. Am amazed, how he confided me all those stuff. 3 years of being good friends, 2 years officially dating, 2 years being separated (I went to pursue my dreams, the season of my singleness I got more intimate with God). Now we are into the engagement stage, and we both are preparing for marriage, spiritually, mentally and financially. God is so good!
I am 25 and newly single. I’ve always struggled with being content as a single woman. Thinking that sex meant love, and confusing my single time with being deprived of love. I also thought that I’d find my husband through sex. This series has helped remind me of Gods love for me, and that my husband will be a Godly man, but I need to do ALOT of work before I can even get there. Thank you transformation church. I feel the Holy Spirit and love in all of these messages.
Glitchez is right. However, it is good to find a wholesome, wise, loving church (building) in order to fellowship with those who are like-minded. Church is a place to learn.
I pray that you've found Him! He is the BEST thing smokin' and such a life giver! Lifting your name in prayer that you invite our AMAZING God into your heart and He just blows your mind like only He can do!
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +234 9156047151 ) tell him I sent you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you.............
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2348150364549) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you God bless you richly
This really blessed me & my sons father we have decided too separate until we marry & are practicing celibacy & putting god in the center of our relationship this go around we are young & we want too make sure we do it the correct way this time thank you so much I took so many notes too help me become a great wife too my husband 🙏🏾
If I may, he is still a man and I assume your husband. Keep God first in your life and let God do the transforming. As stated in the previous series, you have to take care of the single you first with God on the inside. It was also stated that one woman with God on the inside can save a whole house. But through it all, remain a good wife and if not married yet, remember the advice given and be ready for when you do say "I do".
That's awesome. My partner and I seperated and thankfully we are coming back together... but this time in a faith based relationship including celibacy. I'm so pumped to be doing it this way.
After her divorce, God showed her how He was a provider she saw the hand of God in her finances while she was single. I can attest to this in my very own life! I'm in the process of learning how to be content in my singleness!
"love grows with knowledge. you have to learn to love someone. your love for god grows with knowledge. as you begin to experience god, you learn to love god. when god takes you to deep places and brings you out my soul looks back in wonder how i got over."
"Cause I know I look good!" Yes Pastor Barbara, you're my mood goal , having more confidence then all these insta models out here, at 67?? She just won in life for me and Jesus is the source of it
@@cheybrown3063 From my perspective intentional friendship is where you learn about that person in depth and up personal, no touching, lol nothing vertical, you go into it knowing that its a friendship and your getting to know that person like a true friend not letting lust and hormones get in the way of that.
As a single person, who only recently felt called to marriage, I wanted to answer the question on how to be content in singleness. Totally agreed with Ms. Wilson. I found contentment in healing and being self aware and taking care of myself. I learned what I enjoyed, learned how to take care of my physical health. I love to run now. It’s my me time and helps me deal with stress. I found friends who have my back most of which are married. But I have my group. I tried new things. I traveled. Nationally. Internationally. I found what centers me in stress. How I cope. I found my purpose; I found my strength and place. Which has made me secure, and has prevented a lot of potential heartaches.
I am very intrigued by the couple who decided to submit their relationship under leadership while staying committed to dating intentionally. Do they have a channel or any resources to explain this process and why they chose to take this route?
I hope this is not to late, i know two Christian couples here in youtube, search for Paul and Morgan, Nate&Sutton they teach mainly about godly relationships ❤️
Pastor Barbara was amazing. I’m 35 and just experienced a divorce and that is true it is not the end and you can be so free within the process! That was encouraging
You think this is amazing !!! Watch the grace like a flood series . A series that was made couple years ago that not a lot of people are aware of compared to this series but it’s just as amazing as this one ❤️ seriously this pastor is gonna save this generation
This series is soo good. I'm home sick today but I discovered this and I'm binge watching. I've never had a word that I can't wait to get to the next part...truly a Blessing.🙏
You are amazing. God is amazing. Transform Church is amazing. I am Abundantly happy that God placed your video in my feed at JUST the right time. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2348150364549) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you
I love how God shows up and gives me exactly what’s needed for growth and maturity. I love the different levels of wisdom on this panel. Faith and Focus 🔥 🔥
I am a 55 yr old male. I was married for 27 years and I have been divorced for the past 8 years. I have been struggling through the dating scene and have been ignoring Gods plan for my life. It is with tears in my eyes that I listen to this amazing young man teach an old dog am new way to fulfilling happiness Gods way. The only true way to happiness. I can’t begin to thank you enough for this series. Your words are truly inspired by God. Bless you !!!
Amen that message and series change you around i know that i am late i am watching this in 2020 December 14,2020 i am singleness but have daughter that teenager 18 year old but living with mom. i was young been mother at 24 year old not be married been wedlock i am 46 year old so i am trying do better . christian man only. this is helping growing to close to God churches have doesn't talk like this for series that you have watching online to listening untied states church services. i am Toronto,Ontario Canada.
I came across this series at the perfect time. I was feeling so lost and so lonely and this has helped me so much thus far. I can't wait to continue to listen!
LOOK AT GOD! Suddenly I feel so content being single. I pray this lasts until God brings the right one. Pastor A & his wife especially the husband that we got to hear a lot from, mannn that WISDOM! This why I love transparency if only our churches & pastors & parents where this open & Godly with these subjects with us. 👏🏾👏🏾🙆🏽
Today I pray for you.. A heart free of sadness, A mind free of worries, A life full of gladness, A body free of illness, & a day full of God's blessings. Amen.💕 Amen.💕
2 years later, I am listening to this amazing series and my life has been changed ever since. I listen to each episode 3 to 4 times and I just can't get enough. I can't wait for the book. What a time to be alive in Christ!
This was an amazing series. I'm currently divorced and have been feeding my loneliness with ungodly relationships, because of my brokeness. Thank you for showing me that being single and alone is two different things and that this is a time to rediscover myself and allow the spirit of God to fill me. This series was such a blessing and came right on time ! We need more of this type real world teachings in churches.
Tera Collins Amen hun, I’m in the same boat but after discovering Master Todd and this series I’m filled with much of Gods Unconditional Love! And more.
listening to this message truly opens my eyes to how backward the world truly is in the eyes of God and how much work and willpower it actually takes to be a true, full-blown Christian... honestly... its no joke. I'm watching this in 2019 and it's like, 2 years later the message is still so valid...honestly... dang. Thank God for the internet and this church. Honestly speaking. I'm so grateful.
“While marriage is a blessing, marriage is not a reward for doing something right and singleness is not a punishment for not doing something.” I felt that!
This series has been Blessing me! I'm divorced and have been for 2 years we were separated for 3. I tried dating sometime after the divorce and found myself not getting what I thought I wanted...and the entire time God wanted ME all to HIMSELF! I'm happily Single and enjoying this season God has me in
This series came out a few years ago and today in the season I am, as uncertain as things seem.. I am learning to say "God I do not know what this means, but I trust you." Growth is sometimes painful but it is necessary, perspective and wisdom is just as difficult to gain... BUT GOD!!! God is greater... He is an all-knowing and merciful God. God bless Transformation church and Ps Mike for ensuring that these things are addressed. By far the most moving panel discussion I've watched. Grateful!
I've been binging this series for the past few days! I'm going through a breakup and this is breathing hope into me. I recently had an epiphany that I suffer from codependency, I come from a broken and dysfunctional family, I've always tried to use relationships to help me feel whole. I'm learning that God is the only one that can do that for me. This series is helping me to understand what a healthy relationship looks like.
Watching this has blessed me so massively..as a 17 year old i have so many questions about relationships and i have made a lot of mistakes in the past..listening to this has answered every of my question and given me a new and fresh strenght and hope to start all over again in the right way. Thank you Jesus❤
Yes, I have 4 teenagers, better believe they will be listening to this whole series. I wish I had this when I was a teen. But God is a God of second chances. I'm single again and want to do it right this time.
I'm 41 an I've been married 4 times lol🤦♀️ but my last husband passed away . I've been watching the series an I just love his excitement about God an the marriage an the way it can an should be . This is very encouraging to me. I love this thank you
Honesty - when you're asked a question vs transparent - sharing WITHOUT having to be asked. Submit relationship to couple(s) that are where you want to be. Set boundaries, 3 months of intentional friendship. I wish I knew which Jimmy Evans book PM had them read. And singleness is NOT A PUNISHMENT. GOD IS USING THIS SEASON TO DEVELOP YOU. MAXIMIZE IT!!!!!!!!! I will take the knowledge shared in this serious with me into my next relationship.
This panel was GREAT! so many nuggets of truth. Wow...A few key nuggets: 40% of divorces linked to Facebook/social media...wow. There is a difference between honesty and transparency. If you are asked about something you are being honest but if you volunteer information you are being transparent. Surround yourself with people who will be honest and push you guys together. Friends of the opposite sex that's not your spouses friend...asking for insecurity issues...wow...wisdom. I AGREE with this. You must guard and protect your marriage. I knew this but we were not in agreement about what guarding your marriage looks like. This was GREAT!! Nuggets for my future relationship. Thank you!
It’s Jan 2022! I am watching this series. I want to give a shout out to Brenda for so much wisdom and understanding. Thanks for giving me a confirmation about divorce that it is not the end of my life that I will get on my feet and stay strong. Thanks To everyone on the panel and thanks to TC nation
James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
The couple in the back left that's dating is a picture of how I want to pursue a relationship. I have never seen anyone date intentionally the way they are. I am 19, I have never had a boyfriend, and I'm starting to be content with that because of these teachings. This series is really changing my life, thank you so much!
From this panel discussion, we can see that each couple had different expectations for marriage and a partner. Each couple has shared what season they are in and how they came to that stage in the progression of their relationships and their own individual development. As they evolved with deepening spiritual roots, developing maturity, how to lovingly confront, how to build trust in an effort to develop honesty, growth in communication, expressions of love (The 5 love languages), identifying and addressing areas of weakness (past trauma, complex or inter-generational), lack of behavior modeling of desired traits or an over reliance of a particular model which translated into how they interact with their interpersonal relationships (familial, romantic, platonic, working, business etc) , discontinuing unhealthy behaviors, how past hurts and trauma (childhood and otherwise) is transferred into their relationships and marriages, becoming whole people prior to coupling, financial preparation etc we can see the fruits of their growth
4yrs now...and I'm just getting to listen to this series of RELATIONSHIP GOAL. I'm not gonna say "I wish I saw this earlier" because there is a reason and season for everything.
This series has really got me thinking about everything I thought I knew about relationships. I have been so blessed to come upon this informative platform. I am a spiritual, yet practical person, so this couldn't have come at a better time. I wish to share what I have learnt with my partner, as well as everybody I love, not only through posts and words, but through my prayers and actions. I am really intentionally being mindful of my relationship with my creator as well as with myself as an image of my creator. Today I just lost one of my side hustles, which is actually one of my passions, but despite the shock, bitterness and disappointment, I chose to talk to my creator about it, and to entrust Him with my life. I told Him how disappointed I was, and that I accept that He knew that this would happen before I would, that I accept that only He knew what my next venture would be, and that I was entrusting Him with installing the desire to pursue the next goal. I wont lie and say that I suddenly feel awesome after doing this, but I can say that this prayer has inspired me to be hopeful, to light a lamp as a symbol of hope, but also as a reminder that as long as I tend to the flame, I could remain hopeful and aware of GOD'S presence in my life. I am a teacher, and one of my duties is to be a parent to my learners, so this series is also teaching me something about parenthood because when I think of of all the good things I wish for my children to have, it reminds me that God is also parenting me, that sometimes He may allow for somethings to be taken away from me, or He may even take them away from me, or rather FOR ME, in order to fulfill His interests for me, which can only be prosperous and beneficial to my upbringing. I feel like the physical growth of children is a symbolic representation how God is actively involved in my growth, despite the fact that I am not always initially satisfied with the decisions he makes regarding my growth and upbringing.
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2348150364549) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you
And sometimes God will pull something from us, because we have not been treating it or nurturing it in the way he intended. By pulling it away from us we get the lesson often said as realizing what you have after it’s gone. And from that we push to better ourselves (Romans 5:3) . And with that God is pleased and sets you back on that path. (1 Peter 5:10) And you as a better person unified with God, creates successes far more than you could have ever thought before (Romans 8:18). God works in amazing ways. He knows how to speak to His children. And He does it all for our good. (Romans 8:38) Thank you so much for your testimony. I pray we all are able to trust God in every situation we end up in. As bad as it may seem. (James 1:12) For God forms beauty from ashes.
Beloved, I don't know you in person but God knows you. God ministered to me in a revelation when I was on your profile to see things around you,I saw blessings but spiritual attacks holding onto them,in prayers,i saw a woman in the realm of the spirit monitoring and plotting delay in your life, with an evil mirror, and with a motive to destroy. But as I speak to you now her time is up, Render hand of favour with Anything you can afford or give to these motherless foundation (Godstime MOTHERLESS FOUNDATION) in kebbi state nigeria before 2DAYS with faith, as I Rise my hands towards heaven and pray for you they shall serve as point of contact wherever you are, you will receive double portion of grace to excel and total restoration of breakthrough in your life and in the life of your family. Ask for their acct details and help them call the MD in charge of the orphanage to get their details on (WhatsApp or call them now on +2348150364549) tell him I sent an you. For it is not by might nor by in power but of the spirit saith the lord (zechariah 4:6). You shall testify to the Glory of God in your life. God bless you,God bless you richly
WOW, I WANT TO THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAY, "KEEP GOING, JUMP, SCOOTING, ANYTHING, JUST KEEP GOING AND GOD WILL GET YOU WHERE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE" BECUASE I GAVE UP AND GIVE UP SO MUCH BECUASE ALL I EVER FEEL IS IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH AND "I SHOULD ALREADY KNOW THAT, OR THIS AT THIS TIME....YOU ARE THE FIRST ONE EVER I HEARD IN MY PATH TO CHRIST TO SAY, ITS OKAY, YOURE RIGHT WHERE YOURE SUPPOSED TO BE, TRUST HIM...YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH THIS WOULD HAVE MEANT WHEN I WAS A GIRL GROWING UP, AS A CATHOLIC THEY TAUGHT FEAR AND PUNISHMENT..AND WE WILL ALWAYS FALL SHORT, BUT NO ONE EVER SAID, WHAT YOU DID, THIS IS GOING TO BE THE NEW WAY...PROGRESSION OF CHILDREN OF GOD AND FOLLOWERS OF CHRIST , FAITH BELIEF, JUST KEEP GOING...TY
I'm watching this at 28. After a failed engagement and the last three years in singleness. I needed to hear some of this. I've been watching this series over a couple of days. I am grateful for this because I have learned so much! Thank you. Just seeing all these couples in different stages and rooted so deep in faith is just inspiring.
I continuously come back to this series as I progress through relationship, not only with my boyfriend, but with friends as well. And it continually pushes me and brings me back to reality. Like he was saying “being content” is something I struggle with for sure. I need to love the season I’m in before I can move on to the next, otherwise it will never be enough. I’ll continuously look for the next thing.