Parenting Hacks Teaching Kids Obedience and Responsibility 

Thank you for explaining these things. I have five boys, (12 years old on down) and we implemented your laundry system maybe six months ago. It’s been a huge weight lifted off my shoulders and my boys are doing a fantastic job with it. Each person in our family washes their own coat, sheets, and bath towel as needed with their laundry, and so I only end up doing mine and My husband’s wash once a week! Amazing. It’s been so fun, we clap and congratulate each boy on the morning of their laundry day, and they think it’s so funny to encourage their brothers along. We have quite a sense of humor about it, but most of all the boys feel so proud of helping me run the house. Thank you!

Hi Nancy, It was so lovely to see a new video from you. I didn't have lots of children as you do, but I never had to clean my home because it was always kept clean each day. My mother had told me very early on to ignore the bad and praise the good. Children don't know the difference between the two at first, but they will always seek praise. I never once nagged my children, and my children also never rebelled. We enjoyed every single moment with our children, and they knew this and craved that attention as well. What a great system you have created for your children! Interesting video!

Wonderful. Healthy common sense parenting the world desperately needs.

There’s an abundance of wisdom in this video. If you’re in a time pinch, speed up the playback a little, but I would encourage every single parent to watch it all the way through.

Sounds like you are raising responsible children who will grow up to be responsible adults. I love it ❤

Here's the questions I have haha. And content ideas in general. I'm a LDS mom of 5 and love seeing how larger families function. 1 - Why do you have that many kids? Religion? Don't believe in birth control? Life calling or enjoy the challenge etc. 2 - What do you do to be able to afford that many kids? 3 - What has worked for you to maintain your sanity? 4 - How have you and your husband been able to maintain a strong marriage with the heavy life load? 5 - What systems have you developed for your family(like this video)? 6 - Meals

I love your approach. You’re humble, you say what worked for YOU, and you’re not trying to take credit for special or revolutionary ideas, or gimmicks and trendy methods.

Congratulations!!! You have a big beautiful family! God has blessed you all abundantly. Ignore those who don’t understand what a gift children are. ♥️😊

I'm so happy you posted a new video! You're so full of wisdom and experience and always so encouraging. As a mom, I love seeing how you do things and learning from you sharing your ideas. It's obvious how much you love your children and are such a wonderful mom. You and your family truly are so blessed.💗

20:42 So true about checking the kids’ work every single day… hard to do but I’m learning the importance of this myself. They say “inspect what you expect” and that rings true for family responsibilities. Thank you for sharing all this in a video, it’s really helpful to hear both the broad ideas and the nitty gritty details of exactly how you make it work for your family.

I very much appreciate and admire the work and diligence you put into everything. Thank you for sharing!

What a wonderful system you have. I send you heartfelt congratulations for raising a big, beautiful, and responsible crop of children, who will go on to live productive lives as adults. We need more people like this in our country and in our churches. Thank you SO MUCH for showing the way for so many families who so desperately need to learn how to raise children. I am so sad that many people nowadays don’t want to have children, and I think one of the reasons is that they don’t know how to raise them properly, so that they will be a joy to be with-not only for their parents (who tend to be able to tolerate more than others) but also bring joy to others-teachers, friends, etc. that they interact with. May God BLESS you abundantly as you raise these precious children!

Good to see you, Nancy!

This was great! I'm excited to implement some of these things. Thank you!

A well, thought out plan that is working. Wish the electronic tools and your program was available when my children were young (1990s). Great motivation and self respect gained when child achieves his/her assigned goals.

So nice to see you, Nancy!❤ Keeping shining your bright light, sharing your pretty smile and helpful tips 👍 You are an amazing person and Mom❤

I love that you have a different system for the youngest kids. I've struggled with a one size fits all job system and felt the littles get left out in participating.

Beautiful family ❤️❤️❤️ God bless you all 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Love the pompom idea. I will try on my two year old:)

Great stuff! I also enjoyed your laundry hacks video. Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮❤

The training videos are an awesome idea ! ❤

Hi! As a mom of 4, I find your knowledge invaluable! Several tricks I got from you in the past, and was surprised today to see that the checkmark chart I recently implemented by us is a bit similar to your blackboard. Will definitely keep working on all those!

This is great! Looking forward to more videos in this series

Wonderful teaching!!

I love this so much! I would love to see a video and watch all of your training videos once you have them uploaded just to see how you teach the cleaning methods for each zone!! Thank you!!!

I love this! I’d love to see a video on how you kept a tidy house before your children could help you! I have a newborn and work full time and the house is SO hard to keep up with.

I’ve been waiting to implement something like this until I have older kids. My oldest just turned 6 so I feel like I need to get some sort of chore list and formal structure going. Thank you! I can’t afford prizes and feel differently about money and rewards, but I still appreciate your methods and styles on this aspect!

Ooh i was looking forward to seeing how you are getting on with house. I trying to do the same. Looking forward to this series

This is just awesome!! Thank you for sharing what works for your family. I am going to try some of these ideas.

You are very blessed. My husband is the messy one and I was never taught how to stand up to him!

I always enjoy your videos!

Thank you for this! I’m super curious how to help teens (13/14 years old) who have gotten out of the habit of obedience. Due to some life changes I have been less consistent in my parenting so I know that I am the key but some tips specifically geared towards teens would be helpful, thank you

I love that you make training videos!!!! I need those for me!!!! 😊 That is a brilliant touch!!!

Any kids have emotional restraint collapse after school. Wanted to mention this. A lot of kids need some down time and something to eat after school to recharge or shake of the day. I have never had kids who would be able to jump right into homework when they come home. Just mentioning if someone impliments this system and they have issues with the after school stuff.

Awesome! Maybe in the future. I only have one daughter and she’s a great helper, but she is so so so messy. I wish I could teach her to not make such a big mess. I feel like she’s always being told to clean, because she is always messing up so much! 😩 she’ll be twelve on Saturday and it is a constant struggle!

Thank you for sharing. I would love to see the training videos and how you made the chore chart. Also, how did you get the reward jars to stay up on the magnet. We have 5 kids and always look for new ways to help us all to work as a team in our home. Thank you again

Always love your videos! Would love one on how you handle the video games! We also only do the weekends

Thank you for sharing your training videos! I'm just blown away at your level of organization! You've certainly mastered being a mom and house wife! I almost need a nap now. 😅 Good job Mama! I'm sharing this video with my daughter whose on baby 2. It seems like a great idea to get this in your mind when babies are still under 2. 😊

This is exactly the kind of content I’ve been looking for. There’s not a lot of help out there for moms of large families! Thank you so much!

I think you are amazing

Great job! It seems like most parents these days don’t give their children chores and then they expect everyone to do everything for them.

This is great for school schedules. But what about for summer? What does your summer schedule look like? When the kids can do their jobs in a couple hours, and not risking letting them stay on the screens for the rest of the day

WOW!! Thank you for this…also my kids are 4,3 and 1….if you have any specific recommendations for the toddler years when you don’t have as much help from the older kids. Thanks so much!

I love the system that you have!! I have looked into that skylight several times,just havent decided yet!You wouldnt happen to have a printout of your childrens ages and chores by any chance would you?

This is a great system, how do you use it during the summer when theyre home for a longer period of time? ❤

How do you sustain your energy and health with so many children? I have six kids 10 and under and I feel depleted exhausted and like I will faint most days

Thanks Nancy!! Such great tips. This is what I've been searching for as I raise my own 7 kiddos. Could you link to the obedience chalk board? Or did you just use a blank one and write it all in yourself?

Hi Nancy. Is there a video on hours the Pom Pom system works yet?

Thank you so much for this! I have been waiting for your progress video! I don’t see a link in the description for how you made your responsibility chart. Would you be able to provide one, please? I love this system!

We have 11 children and have to constantly remind them to do what is expected… every day! Even though they know what is expected, I’m always having to repeat it. The Skylight looks amazing!! I am excited to implement some of your tips and I will be looking for your next videos explaining more about your system! I would totally use your training videos if you make more of them! Thank you for sharing all of this!! ❤

I would love to know what, in your experience, is considered appropriate zone chores for younger children? I have 4 boys, ages 6, 4, 3, and 1 and I’m not sure where to start but I take on a lottttt and it’s taxing in this season.

How old are you parents I’m curious how you’ve birthed all the 17 children? You’ve done a great job organizing your children’s responsibilities! It’s sounds military in the process! Kiddos!

Do you have the same scheduke and expectations throughout summer?

Can the skylight be used for homeschool lesson planning?

You mentioned having a video pertaining to the video games. Where is that?

What skylight do you have?

Wonder how something like this could work in a low/no tech home.

Do have certain kids that struggle with things like focus or remembering to do things. We have ADHD and and executive function issues and working memory issues in our family. You seem very organized by nature naturally. Do you have kids that struggle with that. I know I my self still struggle with organization and consistency and it isnt a lack of effort on my part. And i know there are lots of different brains out there ao i was wondering if there were things you needed extra support on or encouragement on. Or a different system in addition to the main ones.

Hey, may God bless you and your family. I was wondering do you breastfeed? Any advice on baby weight gain and breastfed babies?

Salute to u dear mom! Can u plz tell us secret how do u conceived so easily plz give tips to whom those r strugglig to have baby

Is there a way to make it so the kids CANNOT edit the calendar?? So they can’t get out of things and claim they didn’t have to the jobs?

17 kids is a lot of helping hands. What if you only have one who makes the mess of 5?

I wonder isn't that system complicated or stressful for children? I even tried to imagine how parents dealed with their kids centuries ago. May be regular reminding is better and not so much of reward. I mean a habit usually doesn't need constant reward. And explaining why it is important to be clean and organized is helpful. Just for the sake of experiment, what if you remember and observe who does and doesn't do things around the house without their reports and talking to those who skip their duties. I don't find it effective in a long run to reward for every tiny thing they do. 🙄

are all 19 kids yours? o.O

“Responsibilities” is misspelled on your board 😐

Stumbled upon this video, Beautiful home and family, your kids are very fortunate to grow up in such a lovely space, the word obedience really made me shutter as well as people pleasing, positive reinforcement isn’t a new idea and is the standard now in behavior management, but u can teach ur kids to be respectful, listen, and responsible without being an obedient people-pleaser, because obedience is a negative term and u can be kind and friendly without being a people-pleaser which is also negative… not a fan of how the older kids have to assist the younger ones, reminds me of Duggars buddy system - u decided to continue to be blessed with babies so up to a certain age, u should be responsible for them - older kids can babysit and help out but should never be in charge of oversight of little ones daily… In theory ur method is nice and necessary I would imagine to some extent, but most large families, most families in general don’t have the benefit of a huge home with baby changing stations and 2 dishwashers, etc. - please don’t use ur family on the internet to make money, it never comes out ok…

Wow; lol. After how many kids? And I’m not judging because our animals are just a much our kids as our kids are. But to compare? LOL. Dogs don’t go beyond 3/4 yrs old. How many kids did you have before you learned this from your furry family?

Great approach! Many parents these days treat children like they're destined to play & have fun and don't give them any tasks to do. Unfortunately, such a thoughtfullness will cause a harm to their children, as they won't be able to deal with life. Btw. Do you homekeep on your own or do you share home chores (excluding those which are assigned to children) with your husband? I am asking as today is tendency to expecting that a husband will cook, clean house, do a laundry, babysitting and other traditionally feminine chores in a same or similiar amount of time as a wife. I saw that yours family is christian, so this suggests that you, and your husband are fulfilling traditional, biblical gender roles, but as I know from observing, there are many marriages, even these christian, who are opposite to the biblical order in the marriage. Best regards!

How old are your children when they start doing their own laundry? How old are they when they start cleaning everything ?

My gawsh lady😮 theyre kids leave them alone! Would you want to come home and do you work and have to go out and do all these hobbies when you're exhausted from school yeah they should play outside sometimes and chores are fine but you are so intense and your kids probably have anxiety they need to be able to relax

I haven't watched your video yet..but there is NO WAY that 17 babies came out of your body??! U look like u are 17?!

Is this like how the Duggar kids were raised? With the older kids basically taking care of the younger kids? Some good ideas but I dont agree with the older kids having to do laundry for the younger ones . Thats mom and dads job to help and teach them, imo.

Wow are you pregnant again.

She doesn’t have a full time job.

That is insane. Responsibility is one thing, but looking at that chart, they might as well run their own home. Yikes

Oh pornDios estas familias gigantes que terminan haciendo family youtube, son un peligro. Siempre terminan mal. Deberían estar prohibidos.

I feel like this is too much. Any suggestions on something to write down on paper if you are not really into computer stuff. This seems only for people that work well with computers. How about the little kids???? I do agree with positive reinforcement and praise when they do well. And of course follow through is very important. Kids need a routine and rules to follow that’s for sure. I think too many parents are using the computer for their babysitters. This is lazy and it is harming their children.

The emphasis on desire to please and obedience really rubs me the wrong way. How are these qualities important for their adult life?

I don’t think it’s right that the older kids are responsible for the younger kids washing and chores believe me those older kids will grow up and resent having these responsibilities how do I know this it’s because I lived with my dad for a couple of years and this was what my stepmother would do and I don’t care how much you say your kids don’t care if you really sat down and ask the older kids exactly how they feel about doing the washing I bet if they are allowed to be honest with you they will all say they don’t like it.why have so many kids if you expect the older kids to take care of the younger ones. You give of a lot of vibes similar to the Duggar’s and we all know how they turned out

"Create a desire to please... learned by training dogs." I wonder when we'll see the huge, breakthrough scandal from this wholesome influencer family

I can’t believe you even have a 1 yr old doing chores I feel you have had too many kids because you have them doing the chores that you should be doing as a mom. I hope to god your not LDS. Because that is just going to add more trauma on these kids then they already have