Parents, Could You Always Tell That Your Child Was Gay? 

The lack of dad's responding to "I'm gay" with "Hi gay I'm Dad" is frankly very worrying.

When I told my mom, She just said "I know dear and is your girlfriend spending the weekend here? I need to know how many steaks to get for the BBQ on Sunday". She's gone now but she was the best mom that anyone could possibly ask for. I miss her every single day.

that moment when you're sad because you don't have a gay cousin, then remember you ARE the gay cousin.

My mom bought me pride stuff without me coming out so yea I think they know😂

last day of pride month and i came out to my fam today. i’m bi and my mom was just like “ya i already know you made your barbies kiss even tho you had ken dolls”

I"m not a gay man, but it needs to be said, Gay man does not automatically equal effeminate.

“Yes, my daughter’s mom and I-“ hold up- **remembers husbands exist** OHHHHH

My little brother is Bi. I was the first person he told and kept it quiet for years until my mom asked me if I thought he was gay. (Shes bi too) I tried to keep my mouth shut but have never been very good at keeping secrets from her. So I gave it up later because he was being bullied at school. I told him he needed to tell her and his dad. He did and he switched schools right after. Everyone at this point already suspected but no one was gonna ask because a lot of our siblings were raised by homophobic racist bastard grandparents. Hes mostly out now and has a boyfriend that everyone loves. The homophobic hags still dont know but they dont need to. It's none of their damn business

When I came out to my whole family in 2019 as lesbian, they all said "We knew it!" and it made me laugh and smile.

My mom though i was gay, no, I'm just so socially awkward, that I'm still single, THANKS FOR RUBBING IT IN

Luckily I’m straight, because my parents would disown me if I came out to them.

"My mom always says I'm gay and says that she's okay with me being gay, but I don't know why she thinks I'm gay. I'm just a normal dude who sleeps all day with my boyfriend, i don't know why she thinks I'm gay"

My mom told the other day that she was surprised I am straight. She told me I used to do stuff with girls. And I completely forgot. And now I’m questioning my self

I'm still yet to meet a straight guy who likes britney spears

I suspected my cousin for years and it was only until this year when she came out to me. She was scared but my reaction was just “me too.”

My dad insists I’m a lesbian. I’m a trans boy. I have told him this. He tries to tell me it’s okay to be gay, and I’m not a boy.. but well, duh it’s ok to be gay. But I’m trans, not gay. Update : turns out I'm trans And gay. I have a boyfriend now! Thanks for all the support I've gotten over the past 4 years

This one guy who I barely knew was convinced I was lesbian. I was probably 12 at that time and he was 13 or 14, so I was very much unaware of how sexual attraction worked and was sure I was straight (I even had a crush on that guy) Around two years later I came out as bi so he was close to correct at least

Me and my boyfriend sometimes like to pretend to come out to each other and act shocked like omg you're gay? I would have never guessed all the while he flat irons his doll's hair

I wish my parents were still alive so I could ask them what they thought. I’m more on the asexual side so did they think I was... well, a robot?

My mom and dad would always tell me “it’s okay to be gay!” To only me,,, i would always deny it and be like wtf,, and then i came out a year later 😙✌️

My mom is CONVINCED im gay i keep telling her most of my friends are and that im an ally but i mean she's not wrong i am bi

Closet lesbian here :p

I have a friend who had been depressed for a while and their Dad asked if they were gay. When they said yes, their Dad responded with something like "Oh thank goodness". He was just glad to understand a bit better.

My whole family thinks I'm gay I guess it's always been that way

This was actually me to my girlfriend. My very subtle way of asking her to date me was (and I quote) "I know you're gay, so can you just date me already?"

Me: mom did you know I was bi before I told you I was Her: i caught you making out numerous times with your “best friend” when you were in 9th grade. I kinda figured it out.

My mom always believed my brother, a typical theater kid, was gay, especially when compared to our father. He recently came out as bi.

yeah, ended up coming out to my parents twice. told them I was gay a couple years ago and they had figured such. recently realized I was not gay though and in fact trans, and I didn't so much come out as much as getting asked "you've been dressing really manly lately are you trying to be a boy?" essentially, yes mom, I am.

Had a crush on a boy when I was little but My parents were not surprised when I came out as Bi. Always as kinda tom boy, Hung out mostly with boys, had a EXTREAMLY strong passion about Pride rights, and had always been that person to be like She's hot and so is He. HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!

Annoying story about my grandmother. My cousins is lesbian, and my grandma is (kind of, she’s better now) homophobic. When my cousin came out, my grandma wasn’t happy, but she didn’t do anything to change it. My cousins live 5 hours away, and there was a concert that they were going to around where I live. Her and her friend were going to the concert, along with my aunt (who is very accepting and all that). Well they were _supposed_ to stay at my grandma’s house, but my grandma was being weird, and “uncomfortable” about my cousin having a sleepover with a friend that is also a girl, because she is gay. My cousin’s friend isn’t gay, they aren’t in a relationship, but my grandma wouldn’t let them stay at her house, because they were both girls. SO! My cousin stayed at a house that we were borrowing at the time, that was by my hospital, because I was having surgery during that time. Now I’m here. Kind of wondering if I may be bi. And scared of loosing all love that my grandma has for me. I’m not positive that I’m bi yet, and haven’t told anyone. I want to wait until I know for sure. But honestly, saying this, writing this comment that says I’m bi, feels right. My parents will accept me, I know they will. I have a very accepting family (aside from my grandma, but she’s getting better.) and I know that I will be okay. 😊 ❤️

Don't disrespect another man's Jenny McCarthy Playboys.

When i told my dad i was a lesbian he was like “Yeah i know, you once asked me to take you to go clothes shopping at bass pro” 🤣 My mom just said she knew. My brother went cool then kept playing his video games. Same for my aunts grandparents ect. Its nice that they are excepting but i wish somebody made a bigger deal out of it ya know? Im one of those rare people that like big public displays of affection like prom proposals and stuff.

My mom, out of the blue: Have you started liking people yet? Me: I like girls. And that was it. My mom is awesome.

My mom always asked me if I was a lesbian when I was like 9? And I alway told her no, but she would insist "You know I'll accept you either way" but when I told her at 13-14 that I was bi she said "It's just a phase" and uh. I'm still bisexual

i've been using the he/him pronouns for myself ever since 4th grade, never had long hair my whole life. used to be called a tomboy when i was younger but now some of my relatives think i speak and dress the way i do to be different or something i think the only reason i havent been accused of being gay by any of them is because i'm into bts or as they call it "those Korean boys" if i came out as bi and gender fluid it would probably be a "disappointed but not surprised" situation lmao

My mom knew I was asexual since I turned 11. My brother made a lot of dirty jokes, but me, in the other hand, didn’t.

3:22 I love this one so much

My parents never expected me to come out as pan, that was a surprise for them

I love all the loving parents who accept their children UNCONDITIONALLY. Thanks for all you awesome, wonderful, magnificent, loving, beautiful, tolerant parents. You are doing the right thing. Love you all.❤🧡💛💚💙💜

I'm lesbian and my older brother is gay I didn't know until my mum and he told me and I remember saying "Cool, when is dinner going to be ready?" Then a few years later I realised that I liked girls and still haven't come out my best friend knows and she says that my mum knows because mothers just do

My cousin introduced us to her first girlfriend at a family party and thought this would be her coming-out, obviously prepared for a big scene. The family exchanged looks and was like "yea, no shit girl, we knew all along" and just went on accepting the girlfriend as one of our own no questions asked. I'd never seen my self-assured, loud-mouthed cousin speechless before that 🤣

My parents never knew that I'm gay until I came out. I've never really met any of the stereotypes and even dated a few girls to throw people off my trail. They thought it was extremely out of left field since I'm into death metal and work as a mechanic.

OMG! That last one!! My mom didn't believe in bisexuals and said straight people go through "curious phases". She asked if I wanted to be a guy in 8th grade when I got frustrated and kept asking to buy men's clothes. No, Mom... I'm bisexual. Lol and a tomboy.

Big sad for the homies who are deep undercover.

I never had a big Very Special Episode sit down with my parents about it. I just got on with it. If they ever had a problem with my being gay, they wisely kept it to themselves.

My entire family has thought I was gay since I was 3 years old. They would always joke about it saying the expected a daughter-in-law from me and look at me now I’m a full blown lesbian xD

Mother, I'm *BEE* lol

for those saying that feminine doesn't mean gay, and tomboy doesn't mean lesbian, you're right... but also they are stereotypes for a reason...

I came out back in 2016 when I was 11, thought I was gay but then bi, it worked out tho bc I LOVE guys

Pretty sure my nephew's gay, as the only out person in my family I've been making sure he has someone to confide in when he figures it out/decides to come out. My sister and her husband are very liberal so I don't worry about their reaction but remembering how hard it was for me to tell them knowing they would be fine with it I want to make it easier for him

I lost more than half of my family after I came out at 16, today as of the writing of this post I just turned 26, my mother has come around and I have my grandparents, but everyone else has pretty much written me off as “a victim of satan’s liberal lies” their words not mine, I suffer from bipolar depression, severe anxiety, and I tend to be overly emotional about the smallest things for no real reason at all,, I’m not sure why, but today I’ve mostly recovered and the man I’m dating is a 5th grade teacher and we couldn’t be happier.

Nearly every time I come out to someone, they either told me they got strong gay vibes from me or they had no clue. Interestingly enough it's always the gays who get the vibes. *We are one.*

I swear by now my mom has to kinda know that I'm not straight(im a girl). We went shopping and I got button ups, ripped jeans, a chain, one of *those* belts and she even picked me out a rainbow ring. Ps. I also have an eyebrow slit. She just *has to* know by now

You need to make the letters smaller, I can still read it

My parents knew that I’m gay before I did

I don't know what it was, but my friends were unsure of what sexuality I was forever, like they couldn't figure it out. Then my SBF described me coming out to others basically as, "You we never in the closet, just confused, and when you came out, you burned the closet." 😅

My parents were very homophobic, and I was clearly different than my older brother 'Butch". I knew that I was not like other boys from age 6. At age 8 (1958) my Mother screamed at my Father that "He's turning out this way because you never play ball with him!" Dad spent half of an hour or so throwing a baseball at me very hard...It didn't have the desired effect. I was more gay every day, so dear old Dad who had set rules for everything a man does in life ( Army and Air Force veteran) gave me lessons in how to be a man, I was pretty straight passing under his eagle eye for limp handshakes and crossing your legs wrong, I had to get it right; he was relentless. I was lucky, I was tall, blonde and good-looking, it made being gay easier. Girls loved me, which helped my never dating in high school less controversial. I am forever in my Dad's debt, he made me very popular with men and boys. I could go on dates and not attract the 'wrong kind of attention' from strangers, we were just two regular dudes hanging out. the 1960's were a transitional period, by the 70's being gay was widely acceptable. I came out to my entire University in Alabama, it was a great experience. I have never been in the closet since 1970. Eventually my parents came around, but it was far too late. Their hostility and threats turned my love off like a light switch, I never felt affection for them again, never trusted them. I faked our relationship, always wary of their ability to betray me in the worst way. I was very lucky to have many gay friends who had my back when my parents threatened me with jail for being gay in 1969. Like the baby that was referred to as looking happy to get away from Mom's vagina, I came out feet first in an Air Force Hospital and mercifully had my eyes closed. That was my first and last time of being anywhere near a vagina. My husband and I are celebrating our 34th anniversary this summer, we were friends for 9 years before that. I've never regretted a single moment of being a gay man, it's still delightful to be gay at age 73!

I find it funny. The first time I met a friend's parents. She'd invited me over, the four of us hung out, had a great time. After I left, her mom ask my friend, "So how long have you known he was gay?" she responded, "Well if he is, he hasn't told me yet." I got told after the fact after I DID come out to her. I had to laugh while trying not to burst out in tears and asked her, "Well, why didn't you tell ME?" Her response to me was, "Well, WE thought you already KNEW."

My dad has been straight up asking me if I'm into girls since I was 13. He also knew I was into boys too though. He knew I was bi before I did.

The "No I'm transgender" bit at the end got me ngl😂

I asked for a subscription to Martha Stewart Living when I was 9. That’s prob when they knew.

Um, I know if I come out I'm most likely going to get kicked out so I'm gonna wait till 18 which is a while from now;-;

I didn't know it was a thing until I was 12. Then I was told it was bad so I kept dating guys I didn't like to keep me straight. When I told my mom 2 years ago that I was a lesbian she said "no you aren't" and took my phone. My dad ignored it. 2 years later they forgot and I came out as Pansexual. Mom made me stop seeing my friends saying "the LGBT community is corrupting you." Dad wont let me talk about it. They got divorced and my stepdad is more accepting than my mom. Even my 13 yo brother is homophobic. I've been out a year now but I still feel like I'm hiding. At least my step brother is supportive.

Not my kids. My cousin Joe. We knew from an early age. When he finally came out when he was in his early 20’s, we were all like “Yeah… We saw that coming from a mile away.” He was all bent out of shape because no one made a fuss or disowned him. He actually called me up bitching.. I was like, “Hey Ass Hat… Let me get this straight.. You’re pissed off because no one cared that you are a homo? Am I right? Are you listening to yourself? You should be happy that everyone is fine with it and you. Some who come out aren’t as lucky. Stop acting like a toddler in need of a diaper change.” Thirty years later, he still brings this up at parties and other family gatherings. It still gets a lot of laughs. I am Conservative leaning, but I have no beef with gay people.

My mother hasn’t thought I was straight since I was two years old I have always been super obsessive. I actually drove away my first friend away because I was too possessive of her, I also had a massive obsession with blonde girls it lasted till I was about 8. I remember at 8-11 knowing I would be safe from the crush question at my homophobic catholic school as they would always ask “which guy do you have a crush on” I would respond with “none boys are gross” while crushing on my best friend at the time. I came out to my mother at last year and she said “I’ve known since you were 2. I’m out to almost everyone now (brother mother friends etc.) except my father as I am waiting for the opportunity to send a meme.

I came out to my mother as bisexual, she said she suspected that and she told me that she came out as bi around my age too. I'm not surprised that she is supportive, my godfather (one of my mother's best friends) is gay so it makes sense. For all of those who are having trouble with their parents because of their sexuality, please know that you aren't alone and you will find new people that who will love you for who you are, those people are your true family.

I remember how I thought the genderfluid flag was the bi flag (which I was aware I was) and later on I realized I was genderfluid and I was like "foreshadowing"

I'm not gay and I don't know anyone who is but...

I have my flag in almost all of my social media pfps, which my mom has definitely seen. I think she’s waiting for the right moment to remind me that I’m gay.

No one in my family excepted me to be bi. My mom was very surprised but incredibly supportive when I came out.

I'm pan and i had a crush on my female best friend (I'm also female) and i had another friend who is lesbian. My friend's mom straight out said "You definitly arent straight." She even asked my best friend if we were a couple, so that compelled me to come out. I was so obvious literally everyone knew before I did😂 Still best friends till this day.

I wish my dad wasnt homophobic. he'd probably hate me if I came out. I live with my sister but I dont want my dad to hate me... my sister did say shes ok with gay people but i won't come out until I'm older. my cousins are so lucky, everyone is accepting.. one of my cousins was allowed to buy a trans, rainbow, pan, and ace flag and my other cousin has a bi one I would give up all of my robux and minecoins for a lesbian flag

I came out to my mom as bisexual. She thinks I am lesbian. Now I am scared of telling her I'm also genderfluid. (I switch between she/her and they/them). Thanks, nanay. ('mom' in Tagalog)

My parents knew a bit. My whole family knew before I did. They based it on the fact ive always been a huge tomboy (i know its not a great indicator, but yeah). I told them, but i dont have a gf right now and i guess they just dont think about it. Because occasionally my brother and I comment on girls we see and I’m like “she’s hot” or my bro asks me if i prefer boobs or butts and my parents get all shocked before they remember.

I don't feel like my family was surprised looking back. I used to bring my Spice Girls CD to my grandmother's house for Christmas every year and play it😂

I'm Bi. I overheard a friend of my moms ask my mom if she thought (knew really) that I was gay. My mom gave the best answer, even though I had never talked to my mom about being Bi. Mom said, "I hope my son never comes to me to tell me he is gay" (my heart dropped a little at that moment). "If he is gay, I want him to bring his boyfriend home to meet us, and just say, " mom, dad this is John Doe, my boyfriend", "we will accept whoever he loves, it doesn't matter if it's a girl or a boy, we love him and want the best for him". I gave my mom the best, longest, hardest, sweetest hug that night. She asked what it was for and if I was okay. I said "I overheard you talking to Mrs. X, and what you said made me so happy. I know you love me and I know you will accept anyone I love and want to be with. Thanks for being the best mom in the entire Universe, I love you". She said, " I love you too and I meant every word if your straight bring a girl home and introduce her as your girlfriend, if your gay bring a boy home and introduce him as your boyfriend, as long as you're happy, they are good to you, I don't care, I love you". Then she swatted my butt and said, "no sex in my house with boys or girls though". Love you mom, I miss you and think about you every day. I wish I could spend time with you and just talk, I still need my mom. RIP mom 2009.

My friend was shocked, SHOCKED that none of us were surprised when she came out at 38. Like, who forgot to tell her?

For years I believed that my 2nd son was gay because of his behaviour & his extreme dislike of girls & the female form in general. I've seen him throw up after seeing a playboy centre fold. When he was a teenager he stole his brothers magazine photo of Paris Hilton in a swim suit & said how vile it was & ripped it up. Girls always chased him but he was never interested in them. He never dated a single girl. His best Male friend & himself we inseparable. Last month at the age of 30, he got engaged................. To a girl !!! I'm in shock. I had gotten used to having a son whom I thought was gay!

I just realised my parents probably know because of the silence when discussing boys... fml 😅

That now go take out trash part killed me lol.

I honestly don’t know how my parents are so clueless I watch Rocky Horror and RuPaul obsessively

I have something to add to this lol So I came out to my stepdad about 2 months ago and he said: I knew it. I was pretty sure that you weren't straight for a while. So yeah, that happened-

I have a close gay friend, we were friends since we were about 2/3(my mom and his mom went out with us on the same playground). When he came out to me (I was probably the first or second person he came out to), even though it sounds bad, I told my mom and she went "Yeah, duh do you think I'm stupid" Turns out she knew since we were about 8.

I’m gay. My mom had no idea. I have been a Lady Gaga fan since age 10 or so, had only girl or gay friends, chose to take French in High School, loved wearing colors and watching RHONJ with her. Basically all the stereotypes except theater (though I did say that if my school ever did Hamilton I would want to play the King). I still have ZERO idea how she didn’t figure that out

Gay male, 49, I was about 22 and told my mom that I was gay. She said, "Are you sure you're not bi? It's more socially acceptable." I told her I was bi for a few years, and I'm sure. She said, "As long as you're happy, just be safe."

I’m of the believe that if you couldn’t tell your kid is gay as they grew up you’re either a terrible parent or are actively in denial. No child is that good at hiding it.

I was SO sure my parents knew I was ace. I mean, I was like 19 and had never expressed a single interest in anybody ever. Kinda blindsighted them when I casually mentioned it one day...

(My username is a dr who reference I am female) my mom was supportive and my dad was unsurprised and happy to have someone to go to the bar and discuss/check out women with .

My mom said she had her suspicions since I was little and I was like “???”, But apparently at the ripe old age of two I told her I wanted to marry my friend I was taking pictures with at the time lol The fact I wore an Ellen DeGeneres shirt to church in 8th grade also probably didn’t help lol (I’m not religious but was raised as such lol, dw everyone in my life is really accepting :D) And the fact I bought a pride shirt “””as an ally””” between 7th and 8th grade ...okay yeah I wasn’t slick

18:13 Not me but a friend of mine was I'll call him"Dumbo"for privacy purposes I've known all my friends since late Elementary to early Middle school, I've known "Dumbo" since I was in the 3rd grade(he was in 5th) "Dumbo" & I go to the High School he went from the average car loving, messy eating, trouble making 5th grade boy to a Femboy that we literally thought he was talking to someone else in middle school he went through some changes, from his bedroom to shampoo he uses screams that's a trap, literally all the jocks mistook him as a girl. I remember asking him on the bus on our way back from a field trip"Dumbo, how did you know you were gay?"& he said"I went to one of those same gender schools, there was huge bully they named dahmer's son because he look liked him but had the body of Eric carotmin, he'd pick one someone to hate & I was one of his targets, he wrote on his locker"U, ME, AT LUNCH, so lunch rolled around the bully give the 1st punch Dumbo dodge it pretty quick, then the bully speeded up, grabbed him by the thigh, placed him on one of those outdoor cafeteria tables, unbuttoned his pants & started humping him & Dumbo in the most legendary thing he did, let out the most loud, wet & gay orgagaism in the world, was so loud, everyone in the library heard him, the bully stopped & started crying & scwelling like a little kid saying he's gonna die from cancer, the bully was expelled from the School, to this day the ones whom witnessed it told the 6th graders like some Kinda folklore they call the legend the cat & the demon guard, some middle schoolers even made this into a book going by the same title" I just replied in shock Cool, about your dad. T.L.D.R My Femboy friend got his butt spanked(Literally) & in defense Moaned the gayist moaned even he's heard & was considered a legend "Dumbo" your the Trap I inspire to be one day

I will be honest, i think no one ever knew (other than my older sister at the time), because wen i come out to my family (i was 15) my father nearly cried and my mom even admitted to me later that none of them EVER imagined it, but it was ok. I am a generally masculine guy and at first glance looks straight, but i had no ideia i looked that much like a straight guy. Probablu because i was very timid at the time (and still am) so we never talked about girls or anything like that. I'm glad they accept me the way i am tho. But seeing my father nearly cry that night still makes me a bit sad sometimes...

my mom literally told me oh, i knew you're bi an my dad was like "an ur mum is too" now that took a turn...

My dad always has his suspicions that I was gay and now I pretty much am lol

- So, I'm bi. - (head down slicing lettuce) Is that a new cult? - No, it means I need to openly date men and women to validate my orientation in front of the lgbtqia+ community so that I don't have my bi certificate dennied... - Hen, well... (suddenly turns the head up, stares at the nothing for long seconds and turns to slicing the lettuce) Sounds like a cult to me...

As a kid around 7 I told my mom that there is something funny about Mike one of my younger cousin. I don't remember if at that age if I said anything about being gay but she said Ohh no that's just the way he is. Yeah he was. Everyone was cool with it but not his dad, it was sad

came out to my brothers (i have 3) and they literally all just said "knew it"

11:18 No it’s not a choice- ITS A COMPETITION AND IM WINNIG! HAVE YOU SEEN MY PARTNER??

I was with my dad last month at our local park for my brother’s grad. We were talking about liking guys and then he said “you know you can date girls too” in which I said I like girls too (I’m bi) and so either my dad knew it before and this was his smart way of basically saying he knew I liked girls or he was just like hey this is an option. I’m also wondering if this talk has just flew over his head or not lol Called my dad and he told me he definitely thought I liked girls so um the talk definitely solidified to him that I liked girls lol

My mom is one of straight SUPER allies and when I was in my early teens she got fixated on me being gay because I matched all of the stereotypes. So she would always be like “Are you gay? It’s fine if you are!!!! You should join the ‘gay club’!!!!!”. At one point I snapped at her and she stopped, the issue was about 4 months later I developed a major crush on a person of my same gender and mostly because of this, I’m waiting until if/when u get a boyfriend to tell them.

when i told my best friend i'm trans,he was just like "oh that actually makes alot of sense"