This happened to my mother. My grandmother forced my mother to marry someone she didn't want to. When my mother wanted to leave the marriage due to domestic violence, my grandmother forced my mother to stay using the religious card of you have to listen to your mother. Reputation was valued more than the mental and physical safety of her own child.
I became the more rebellious types because of this and how numb I’ve become to hearing “obey your parents” because of the traumatic abuse I’ve been through and my parents using that to justify what they are doing. I had to find Islam through actual knowledgeable people to reconnect with it
May Allah save us from these hypocrites. This was done to me and my family by my mum's relatives. Then the same did not apply to other relatives or there own children. If I was to tell you you'd be shocked.
ولكن مع وجود هذه المشاكل تبقى بارقة امل في الامة الاسلامية واول هذا الامل هو مناقشة هذه المشاكل وسبحان الله دائما اذا كانت الغاية مرضاة الله سبحانه وتعالى فسيوفق الله الامور الى الخير وجزاكم الله خيرا
Nothing wrong with luxury or super cars (even though most are money pits) but if he’s driving a Toyota or Honda or even a Lexus then he’s spending his money wisely on a vehicle which shows financial responsibility/maturity to an extent.
@@nxronite9994 There is EVERYTHING WRONG with luxury cars. I can basically tell how old you are by your comment. Hopefully you'll grow up before you get yourself in debt.
@@8KilgoreTrout4i owned three turbocharged german cars from age 16-30. Money pits. Fun money pits that made me wish i had an Accord instead by the third one
One mistake. Mostly religious parents use birrul walidain emotional blackmail. As for non religious parents, they dont even know about birrul walidain.
Baarokallahu fiikum. Brother, i think it would be best if you check on the captions because they're a mess and not capturing what you said actually especially arabic terms.
سبحان الله كثير من البيوت لا زالت قائمة ولكن نشأت للاسف بهذه الطريقة وان كان لاسبيل لكل من الزوجين الا الرضا بالآخر غصبا عنه لكن يبقى الضحية اولادهم الذين لن يرو شعاع حب او ود او سلام في المنزل حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل
Need takwa Allah in ourselves and our kids and the young and be just and lead by example Fear of Allah its responsibility and guidance is from Allah so sad many parents do not make their children feel Accepted or feel worthy or know their value and purpose of life and purpose of their existence let them in darkness and lead them astray
That’s often the reason why young Muslims in the West stop practicing Islam. Because they are surrounded by other people, who are "nice" to them and call them to sin, while their own parents are harsh and tyrannical. Allah musta’aan. 😔
I dont agree. I feel that most muslims are simply lured into the fitnah and even many of the Muslims that come to the west already come with the mentality of becoming like the western people, "free", even if hidden sometimes. Just this last job I started I got this muslim brother (I'm not even sure it's adequate to say that) speaking bad about Islam all the time only to be appreciated by the western people. I'm western. So when he met me he even spoke worse about Islam and many Muslim nations and peoples. When I told him I am muslim he was shocked and silent. I was waiting for the right moment but he started going deep and lying and as I know if I don't correct him Im sinful, I told him I'm muslim and corrected his lies. Alhamdulillah this man has a good wife and she pressures him to invite me home because it's good company insha Allah. There's also another Muslim brother that used to drink with a non Muslim guy who is my neighbour and his entrance door is basically 10cm from mine. They invited me to drink. Remember I'm western so they don't know I'm muslim. I said I don't drink. Later he discovered I'm muslim and became super shy and doesn't drink with the other guy anymore nor comes by his house. Many Muslims behave with us westerners differently than with muslims. May Allah guide us and them and protect us and them from this humiliation
Gabriel you discussing real issue nobody discuss these ways is wrong and oppressing and usually have big effect and bad and reverse effect. many young lead astray and struggle in life because bad examples and toxic culture they think that is Deen but in fact Deen is good but a lot of parent lead their kids astray