PATTAYA, THAILAND A TRUE STORY FROM A THAI BAR-GIRL 

Great story.. My friend married a bar' girl in 1971 while in the military. They are still together. Anything can happen. Nice story.

Great story, sounds so familiar to my wife. Met on Thai Friendly and then in Phuket. I bar fined her my whole trip and then kept in contact, I didn't want her to continue working on the bar so I helped her until I could bring her back to California. Been married 6 years now and loving life. Best person I've ever met. Brought her daughter over who is now my daughter. Like this story it can work....

The bar girls lie to the customers and the customers lie to the girls. Her job is to make the customer feel handsome, interesting and desirable. The guy usually wants a passionate love affair, but he knows he will soon have to go home to his normal life, so he temporarily plays the role of the man he wishes he could be all the time.

That was a great story. We should not judge others. We dont know the entire story. Some girls do things because it's just who they are and some do things for survival.

Good to hear this girl had the right mentality, learned the language, got a job, got her own money and really made an effort to make it work. Thats the only way this could ever be succesful in my opinion.

I've lived here for a while and have never met a bar girl that's worth dating seriously. It was probably a lot better back in the day before smartphones and social media. Meeting a normal honest girl in a bar is near impossible now unless she's very new.

Fantastic story!!! Well done. What a tearjerker! Had few hankies on hand. Thank you for sharing.

Thanks Peter for bringing this story. All people deserve a great life. I do find it heart warning that these two people were able to navigate through the hardships of past life and develop a life together. And you are right the girls are only doing what they need to survive. Thanks again.

A very honest account from both sides and a benchmark for acceptance for any other couples meeting this way. Sounds like they both needed to tell this story to bring it to a close, all the best to them both.

Nice story, Peter. I have lived here a long time and met many bar girls . Lots are nice girls and many looking for that golden ticket. I wish them all the best.

Well its 2 :30 am and I took a long lunch break (night shift me) for this one . Totally awesome story by Lek and Paul. I see a lot of parallels obviously. Loved how Lek described those young guys in the bars expecting something for nothing and all that. I may have been just as arrogant and self assured as those young guys back in the day if I hit the bar scene in Thailand. Thankfully I was older and wiser when I did. Lek tells such a heartfelt account and Pauls bit at the end is quite emotional too. I totally get his anxiety and worry. My wife and I have a saying "Past is Past forget about it Buddy". It makes sense to an Australian . Its beautiful to see That sometimes it does work out as it has for Paul and Lek. See guys not everyone is out to scam you. The whole dilemma of continuing to work for Lek was a big issue and a total gut wrencher I see that. Paul trying to adjust and accept her past also. At the end of the day the future is what counts. How could anyone wish for more, a beautiful intelligent Thai wife plus children and a happy future it doesnt get any better than that . So big thanks from 2 people like you Paul and Lek. You overcame a lot and can be soo very proud of the life you both have today. To any potential critics this story was long but beautiful and so glad it didnt get cut down and Pete dedicated a whole show it this one special story.To critic number 2 . No Pete could not have dreamt this one up while he was watering the daisies with scotch on the weekend . My wife is going to love reading this one BTW. 🇦🇺💯%💯%💯%♥♥🙏🙏

great last story. very inspirational. however, I'm surprised Paul still thinks about Lek's past "exercises" when he's happily married n has a child. i had an amazing former ktv girlfriend n never worried about her past. I realized she needed to do that given her circumstances. she would even tell me white lies but I always responded, "I'm ok. you needed to make money." she always responded with a smile thanking me for my understanding. I hope he will eventually forget

It’s great to hear a bar girls side of the story

You were right Peter this was a great story with great insight into Lek’s life and the decisions she had to make . I hope people see this and understand bar girls a bit better . Not all bar girls are scammers , treat them with respect and hopefully they will respect you .there’s an old saying : Finding a diamond in the rough and Leo fits this perfectly.

A great story with great and humble people. Wish them all the best for their future.

Beautiful! Lek's words are so genuine and she explains honestly why bar girls do what they do. Her husband added by honestly explaining how he felt.

Top man Pete, aint no body like you telling stories as genuine and detailed as yours.

Peter I really enjoyed this. Seeing it from two perspectives was really helpful. I sometimes think western men don't really understand how things work here. She made a decision because of her family and helped them. eventually she found someone who she loved - nothing wrong with that!

Wow that could have been me and Jeab except we have no children. I said to her after I left the 1st time, you have to do what you have to do,but I'll be back soon..4 weeks later I was back. Stayed with me for the whole 3 week holiday. 12 years later I love her more than ever.It can work with a bar girl we are proof of that..

That is a very very good story Peter. I only hope their lives continue in the way it seems to be heading. Good luck to you, i am very happy for you both and your little boy. Thanks again Peter.

Too true I had a tear,I’m afraid I’m probably too cynical to trust this lady and possessing an insecure jealousy I would have missed this man’s achievement of a loving future with this beautiful lady, may they be happy for life.

Great story Peter, nice t-shirt as well! Lucky I didn't use my hanky, it's still soaking from the monger minute haha

A very well written and well narrated story. Very interesting and informative. Totally worth the half hour of my time listening to it. I'll keep my negative opinions of the characters to myself though. It's obviously worked out well for all involved so my opinion is irrelevant.

A real love story ❤️

Great true story Peter, so glad it’s worked out for both of them and especially that she was able to have a child. Most people have no clue the difficulties that those who grow up in poverty have to deal with and some of the choices they have to make to get by. There is no social safety net in Thailand with generous benefits like in the west, it’s a struggle everyday.

Great story Peter, as long as they're both happy and content that's all that really matters in the end. Life is not 'one size fits all'.

Great story Peter, it’s good to have one story with both parties telling their point of view, and the struggles they went through to arrive where they are. By the way Peter, Congratulations on hitting 40K subscribers 👍🏼

Came straight from the Live 👍

Thanks so much for sharing your story, Lek. I'm very happy for you that you found your soulmate

Thank you very very much for this wonderful story. Superbly and impeccably written and narrated, kudos to Lek, her husband, and you for such a vivid and eloquent 30 minutes. Subscribed and liked! It really shows amongst the hundreds and thousands of horror stories revolving around marrying bar girls, there will always be that diamond in the dust. I think the key difference in this success story is the age or "readiness" of the girl to actually settle down to a normal life rather than those 20-somethings who aren't actually out to settle down but rather to find the bigger sugar daddy down the line. Beautiful.

Thank you Peter (and Lek) for a fantastic story. The life story of most of the bar girls in Thailand could not have been told in a better way. This honest explanation of the different feelings that happen between a bar girl and the customer is something that all new visitors to Thailand need to know about before they let their heart control their body and mind. One very important thing for all to remember is that this happened with a girl already over 30 and may never happen with a bar girl around 20 to 25. I get the impression that most of the young guys that visit there (especially those from Australia) only do so for as much sex as they can get without showing any respect for the girls and that to me is disgusting. I think this may also apply to many of the young guys that visit from India. I am a gentleman and think that it is time for a lot of the younger guys in this world to find out how to respect females. The guy's life would be much better if he did and I know that from experience. Show them more respect and they will show you more love.

Beautifulll story Peter.... nearly had tears in my eyes....we all know such endings are rare..but it does feel good to know that many are happy at the moment after all the bar experiences...love to all

That was your best story yet I love how you show the bar girl and her eventual husbands side of the story that was really really good

Great show Peter,I really look forward to your stories every week, just like to say thank you

I really enjoyed this story. I enjoyed hearing Lek's point of view, but also how it affected Paul. Open and honest. I fell in love with two girls too. It's not easy.

Great story & I’m thankful that the lady had the courage to be so honest about her personal life, & to the gentleman, why waste your time thinking about yesterday? Today & tomorrow are important ( we all have a past )

Fabulous to hear a ladies perspective 👍🌴

Thank you. This is an important one. We're all human.

I sincerely wish the 3 of them the very best and fullest life as a family.

Great story ,I learned a lot from it , I wish Paul and lek continue to have a great life for the future ,cheers Peter hope there is more story's similar to come 😀

Wow. Excellent podcast. Good to hear woman’s story. Both people are special and lucky. Their honesty is touching and poignant. Good wishes to them … and all striving for a better life here in Pattaya.

I’m really enjoying these videos! Thanks for sharing these stories!

It's nice that the story has a good ending! Every guy is different. Most guys don't want to get married to bar girls because of jealous thinking over her past. But if they can get over that, all power to them, and happy life for them! :-)

Throughly enjoyed that story. Happy for them. Nice to hear a success story. Thanks again for the great content

This story has such a nice ring to it. I wish them well. Touching video

This is the best video I’ve seen. The story is very heart catching and told very sincere, I love it deeply. I just wish I was as lucky as this man was, never judge a book , by it’s color. It is so true, all women want the same thing, love and peace forever.

Peter, this story is a gem! It was fascinating hearing Leks story and what she went through, finally ending up in the UK - almost put a tear in my eye. Very best wishes to Lek and Paul.

We listened to this one again. It is a nice one and yes some of us are worth a risk. Lek story is a lot like mine and nice she wrote it. She probably comes from a village not far from mine. Good luck to you always Peter from Isaan Aum.

Best story I've heard from all of the stories, and you told it like a pro 💪💪 yes I have a tear in my eye but was beautiful ending 👍❤️

Paul was very brave. The best for him and his family!!!

Such a great story! Really enjoyed hearing the point of view from a bar girl... We in the West are spoiled and rich. The girls need to survive and protect their families. I totally get they do what they have to do to make it. Who can really blame them.

I know exactly how that guy felt about what Lek did for a living.. I'm still in love with a bar girl from Isaan I recently spent two weeks with in Chiang Mai. It makes me squirm when I think of her back in that bar, doing what she has to do to earn money for her family.

I knew a older massage lady in CNX ( great body) who now lives in Denmark with her husband. Not the only story like this. But I always hear, "once a bar girl...". Not true.

Such a great retro story from 199s/200s )) Today, the internet has changed everything.

Great Story !!! For me one of the best !!! Greetz

Inspirational story happy they survived the challenges to be together. Young girls with the world on there shoulders. I cant imagine...thanks Peter

thats a great story i hope they have many happy years together i did like the way she explained how it all came about working in the bar scene i suspect a lot of girls from poor homes tell a similar story.

Great one Peter.One of the best so far

For all the individuals who judge, my suggestion is look in the mirror if everyone knows your past what do you want to be with you. Secondly the heart wants what the heart wants, we don't pick and choose who we fall in love with, the only real question is, is it genuine or is it about the money. We are all human and we should treat others with respect and dignity no matter what, And this is coming from someone who goes to Thailand for anywhere from 3 weeks to 3 months at a time, Just remember do not BS the working girls because they've heard it all.

Great story Peter. Probably the best so far.

Excellent story. Viva Pattaya!!! Viva the bar girls!!!

Awesome perspective from this lady.

Emotional story, Paul found the needle in the haystack. Some of the girls in Pattaya are really decent and looking for real love, but that's usually towards the end of their pro career.

Great Story. Thank You for posting . It is good to hear one that worked out and there is happiness !!

Great story Pete, nice to hear both sides of the story, didn't bring any tears to my eyes, I use the tissues for other occasion 🤧 🙂

Great story. Best of luck to Lek and Paul.

That was an Absolutely Marvelous Story, with a wonderful ending. Thanks for sharing it. ☺

Wow Peter great story, hats off to Lek and Paul for overcoming all the pain and obstacles and making that Long Distance Relationship Work. You never know How things can work out in Life I am Happy for Both of them for what they Had to Overcome and Wish them all a Lifetime of good health and happiness. I admire Lek for taking on the responsibility of supporting the household at a young age. I'm sure like her and many of the bar Girls that wasn't there dream job, I'm sure they all had dreams of being an actress, singers, movie star, doctor, lawyer nurse working in an office Etc. I'm sure some of your viewers will say they have choices. That's true but everybody has different abilities and circumstances to earn a living. How many kids in the Westin country could go out and support their family at Leks age. In the west it's the opposite the kids live off their parents. It's a shame that girls have to resort to working in the bars and sell their bodies to make money to support their family. The really sad part of it is at the end of the day they are someone's daughter. These girls and their parents probably never expected to end up in that circumstance when they got older. Not all Bar girls are bad I'm sure they have feelings and not all girls that work in businesses, stores and offices are good. Go figure it defies logic. If there's a God I hope he watches out for the bar girls and keeps them safe. All the best to Lek, Paul and their son. THANK PETER GREAT JOB AS USUAL.

Great story. Thank you for sharing this!

A great story,which will be repeated for decades to come, hopefully ending up with a good result like yourself, you deserve everything good, life has to offer,soon as a girl returns to a village with gold and money every girl in that village ends up doing the same,i have even heard of bargirls getting big bonus from bar if can bring back new girl with her when she returns from holiday,amazing what they do for family,they are so brave and it is also so sad they have to do this ,i have 3 daughters in Australia and they dont know how lucky they are ,never having to think this way to survive, all the best mark 😊

This is a story from the other side of the coin, so to speak! A totally different perspective on the bar girl story! I have to admit, I warn friends about bar girls, but also tell them that it's so hard to earn a good living here in Thailand! I love this story and yes, I felt the emotions! Well read Peter, you did a great Job! Well done Paul and Lek, I wish you all the best!

this brought tears to my eyes from the beginning of the story

Thank you for sharing these stories I appreciate it I’m definitely learning more about Thailand everyday

Very emotional & pleased it all worked out well !

what a beautiful story. Very happy for Mr. and Mrs. Paul

Stories already. Friday is a double whammy from Peter!

Sometimes things just work out. These are two very lucky guys.

Thank you it is very nice to hear from the girls side

Great story and pretty much confirms everything we know, but good to hear it from her perspective. She was openly honest about how they lie to customers (if that makes sense) but also how customers lie to them so its a quid pro quo thing. But also good to know that underneath it all she is just like any other human being, looking for a loving relationship, a decent future and solid ground that she can depend upon. But probably a 35 year old bar girl might be more open to settling down than a 25 year old who just sees the money. Bar girls are still a highly risky prospect, and each individual is different but yeah, we’re all human with similar hopes and dreams! 🤷🏼‍♂️

Excellent story and to hear their side of it!!

As you said Peter you are sure many listening have a tear in their eye, well I sure do, beautiful, great, story I wish them well 👍👍👍

Hi from the beautiful southwest in the states love the channel Peter and will be in Thailand for the first time for five weeks starting in February. Looking forward to it after hearing your great stories.

Great story, so nice it all worket out well for both of you. Another success story.

Thanks for sharing , great story , glad they both found happiness , Take care .

I love these stories.

Suddenly very dusty in my living room listening to this🥲. Going through a tough time after 20 years. Sometimes the issues that arise are just human ones and have nothing to do with the origins of the relationship. "เล็ก" ขอขอบพระคุณมากฯ ที่เล่าเรี่องชีวิตครอบครัว อย่างนี่ ผมเองแต่งงานกับสาวบุรีรัมย์ เมื่อ 20 ปีที่แล้ว เรามีลูกชายคนนึงเหมือนกันครับ

I really enjoyed that story good to hear her version of life as a Pattaya bar girl🙏

Many things here are so very true. When I was with a very beautiful bar girl I was lucky enough to have a job that paid enough for me to go to Pattaya for 6 months and return to England and work for a month before going back again. The one thing Paul didn't really have to say anything about was knowing the lies the bar girls told. To a Thai bar girl I love you means I love your money. I ended up leaving Pattaya and going to live in Korat, Nakhonratchasima where I started teaching English. I met a girl who became my wife. She was a teacher in a technical college so had never been a bar girl. We've been married for more than 20 years and have a daughter who is now nearly 13 years old. We still live In a house we built together in Korat where after living here for 23 years and now and me being 69 years old, I'm sure I'll be here until I die. I am planning to take my daughter to England for her first visit there next march 2023. I bought our tickets in January 2020 just before Covid started and We've had to wait nearly 3 years to be able to go.

A friend of mine, also an military pilot, and married, fell for the most beautiful girl in the bar near our base in Thailand. Her name was Rain. We left Thailand near the end of the war. Not too long later he was in a reception line at his base in the US, with his wife, mother and father. His father was a General officer and they were greeting troops who had returned from the war. There, in the reception line with her Sergeant husband, was Rain. They shook hands.

Excellent story. Luv it when an older one escapes.

Very touching story, about the Pattaya bar - girl and her husband

What a lovely story.....I love it ...

Great story. Thanks

A good honest account it would seem......I had to smile at the end when ' Paul states " I don't know why I chose to go to Pattaya....but some friends had said it was fun " ...😆....I think he knew the script.

The tides of life pushes and pulls decisions right or wrong can make you empty or full, what others think or say, cares nothing for your life at the end of the day.

great great story... thanks so much for that.

Everyone has history and a body count.

Great stuff especially from the eyes of a bar girls life

This was your best one! Heartwarming and insightful!!

Great story. Maybe a key to the situation is (age) At 40 years old a bar girl is ready to settle down and it can work. The possibilities of a 20 year old girl leaving the bar life are a lot lower.