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Sadly- he wasn't a legal step- parent.......had he been he likely would've had more rights (depending on the state!) That's y years ago- when my kids were VERY young and my hubby and ai 1st got married- I changed my will and gave my share of custody to my husband (they were 5 and 8 and said "if something " happened and Mama wasn't here- they stated "we wanna b w Daddy!" So we r in Iowa and my husband and my X husband would have been sharing custody (my X would've had to petition the court to remove them from my husband's custody and that NEVER would have been granted by a judge since we divorced bcuz he molested them!)

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@@shannonobrien9922 And your case would fall under certain circumstances like Judge Vonda stated where your husband would have had some standing and because their bio father had done something to them to make him unfit to be around them. In general, step parents do not have any legal rights to kids as long as the other parent is alive unless there are certain reasons why they can not have them. My kids lost their dad at the end of 2021--keep in mind they are adults now but if they had been minors all custody would have come to me. We had joint custody. Their step mom would not have any "standing" to be able to keep them. When my kids were under 18, their step mom tried to run how their dad and I handled things that concerned only our two kids. She had no say in visitation, education choices, who the doctors were and she even had no right to know their medical history with their doctors but their dad gave her permission to do so in his place if he was not able to be there and it was on his time. There are so many things that are considered where the custody is concerned.

@@evelynwitt2529 correct except when I filled out my will to update it after we got married- my attorney did it and I was assured in MY state- my husband couldn't would b inheriting MY share of custody! (I always assumed it was BECAUSE of the extenuating circumstances i.e. the reason we were divorced! Bcuz my X could NOT retain physical custody!)

Amen❤️❤️

100%

I DID 😢

I’m crying

I really wish they could work together and raise the kids together.

They do, but the stepfather is of no actual relation to her. If the father really wanted his daughter, especially after the mother’s death, he could certainly have her and the father shouldn’t even have to go to court!

Amicable. Great vocabulary.

@@LotsofLisa pure law wise you would be right. however I do think that if the child has a deep emotional investment in both (and they clearly have a investment in said child). removing one of them might be way more harm to the child in the long term. It might be that as the two adults they might need to find a way to work with that fact.

It’s not his child.. men get territorial. There’s no place for 2 dads..

I had an amazing stepdad !!! He knew his place, because I had a Dad already.

He's not a step-dad he just stepped up

He isn't a step dad he did step up but the courts should've taken the kid and put her into the bio family. Mr Ward has zero claim to the child period he didn't adopt her

True, but you can’t paint the real Dad like a deadbeat. That’s wrong

He is. And now he needs to give that man his daughter.

It’s a great show to watch!!👌🏽

@Nihcas is it really?

I keep watching them too..loll

@Nihcas what? I don't understand how could it be fake?

@Nihcas it’s all fake? Huh. So is she not a real judge? :(

Sad that’s so rare to find ppl who really love children these days….

The stepdad is going to get bit by this. Either it's going to be the daughter saying he's not her dad or the bio dad screwing him over. If I were him I'd cut my losses. She's not his kid and he shouldn't be held accountable for any expenses for her. If bio dad wants sole custody I say let him have it. Stepdad needs a clean break. That poor man and child. He's practically raised her and the bio dad still has more authority than he does. Honestly I think that when it comes to stepparents it should be a co-parenting situation. But only if they agree to it. Maybe even think of it as a babysitting thing. If bio dad is wanting stepdad to take care of the child any number of days, charge him for it. Tell him you want a signed agreement whereby he pays him for it and he provides food and such. The pay is for the use of the utilities and the food is to take care of her. Bio dad doesn't just get to keep taking advantage of the stepdad.

They in more than likely gave bio dad sole custody.

Courts I mean.

​@@kingdjack6 Which would of been sad and sucked. Cause the step father, seems like a great dad.

I think it's more a question of authority. You can't be a parent while constantly being hobbled by "You're not the dad". It weakens your authority with the child. The stepdad built the trust and love of this child and now he's being told that he has no say in her life. It's not fair. You can't take the advantages of having someone else look after your child while not giving them the authority. It always leads to an imbalance of power. If the bio dad were willing to do a co-parenting kind of thing then it would be fair. But he's not. The stepdad is only asking for a recognition of what he does for that child. The child support is meant to acknowledge that. Even if he was just declared a co-parent where they share expenses for the kid that would still be reasonable. I feel for this guy. I'm sort of a stepparent myself and I can't tell you how many times I was told they're not my kids. That I had no say. I had to watch as my boyfriend's kids got screwed over by their own mother and both me and him had no say in it. And me even less. It was so sad and it was the children that suffered because of it. If the bio dad truly loved his child, he would've worked out a co-parenting situation for the two of them. Or some kind of visitation. Instead, he's going for sole custody. I suspect there's a reason for it, most likely financial. If I were the stepdad I'd say all support stops right now. If bio dad wants him to watch the daughter, stepdad gets paid for it and bio dad provides food for the child. All expenses are paid by the bio dad. If he wants to treat the stepdad like a babysitter than they have a babysitter arrangement. Otherwise, he can take up his parental duties and be the sole full-time parent. His call. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too.

​. Seems to me (however good intentioned) stepdad being reasonable. As the judge said, mom had custody not step-dad and he should not be able to usurp the biological father (without a legal reason to do so). In fact, he wasn't even fighting to adopt her.... her was in court looking for the money his wife was entitled to when she was alive. Good call Judge.... Step dad has no standing and if he really loved "Little Bit" he would encourage the relationship with her biological father. No child wants to see the people she loves fight. Step dad is wrong here. He is very emotionally attracted, and it's clouding rational thought.

Think of the child. Love. Love. Love. Do not hurt her. She needs both.

I think you wear black and whites well, bit I love color on your. That Tourquoise is one of my favorite colors on you. Second is red. RED IS GOOD TOO. I BET YELLOW WOULD BE TERRIF I C TOO. TRY YELLOW.....I'LL SEE IT HOPEFULLY ON ANOTHER SHOW.

She found two good men who wants to take care of their kids

I’m so sorry to hear that. My condolences to you.❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss

Sorry to hear that.

My condolences 😢

I'm sorry for your loss 😔

The dad was in paternity court if am not wrong

Me too!! ❤️

Same! These 2 ladies are doing gods work

Me too. From Paris

Me too🤣😂🤣😂

Because he doesn't want her he wants to be free of her

Dad said after 3 days of working he gets her 4 days. I don’t see that as waiting to take his child plus court is not a quick process. I think he’s a fine father, they just don’t like each other

Probably wants to keep the step dad in the girls life . Because the step dad Probably will get fazed out slowly being the girl with dad and his family helping out .

@@ebonykemp ? Step dad loves her vary much and dad needs to work so why not, yall need to think about it more

I would have had my child the day my wife passed away..He probably doesn’t have the help as far as a babysitter when it’s time to go to work

He wants the clout but not the full time responsibility. I mean, he made it sound like he does a lot but I dunno. He didn't seem to do too much as the only actual living parent.

Legally no it doesn’t speak volumes, if a parent dies and they’re married the courts won’t just place the child with the living parent if they have step parents still in the household. It’s to do with removing a child from an environment they know most especially after a traumatic event

@@EmpressChu that’s bs they had joint custody. All he would have to do is take it to court and ask for revisions to the agreement. Very simple process if he is already seen as fit to have joint custody. The step dad was not included as you heard the judge say. Dad isn’t really putting in the effort he should. No way would my child be staying with the step dad if mom is no longer alive.

@@kentyrialashawn882 it’s not as easy as that though, I work in the courts. It would be fantastic if it was as easy as that

*EXACTLY*

Or when she sips her tea so she can fill it with what the people in her courtroom are spilling 😂😂😂

Omg yes!

😂😂😂😂😂

What is the biological father not doing? He’s doing just fine!

I hope the step dad gets full custody when her mum was alive the court did not give them shared parenting so something was amiss if the court would not give them joint custody. I hope the biological dad takes a flying leap and leaves his biological daughter were she is loved and wanted her step dad does nothing in her life but take her bowling etc No don't like him give stepdad full custody 100%

Me too

Exactly. I thought the child go with the other parent.

They r married but if he had adopted her still no cause his name will be on her birth certificate

@@KJ-rx5phthey were engaged not married

That means he hasn’t gone to get his child. Even if he was married to her mom, he could have gone to get the child when the mom died

Nahh we just need more Dads like him and it wouldn't be any room for any step dads lol.

Exactly this point!!!

I think that’s the reason the bio dad has let her remain with the non-bio dad as long as he has. Technically, he could have snatched her away full time after the funeral.

right right

Can someone tell me whats wrong with tea🤔?

Nothing .ilove tea tooo..

Thank you so much!😘

I'm here because of tiktok also 2

No he's not a "great actor" he's not convincing at all.

Dramatized

Exactly fake ass shit

Sooo, is this real or fake?

@@maurovaragilal4620 so fake

Same. He said he drops her off at his moms.. so you only see her for 4 days and you drop her off somewhere else? Like I get going together and visiting grandma. And it’s easy to do the fun things, but how is he going to handle the day to day roles of a parent. Idk.

@@miekaash6831 first he actually has to get there. Can't be a full-time dad with part-time custody 👉💯 And you just can't take a man's child just because you call yourself falling in love with it it's still his child and he's doing everything that he can while making sure he maintain a job to be able to do it. The first hit you should have looked at was the fact that The stepfather had the greatest piece of evidence possible was to prove him wrong but yet he couldn't about anything that he was saying he does for his child. So with the child not staying with him literally and him having a job it's kind of crazy to think that he's supposed to do way more than what he's doing in the position that he's in but he deserve a chance that his own child. 👉👉💯💯💯💯💯

Damn😞

that shit is cold,

YOUR WRONG...A MAN THAT TOOTS HIS OWN HORN WHILE THROWING SALT ON THE REAL FATHER...IS NOT THE MAN WHOM HE MAKES HIMSELF OUT TO BE...YOU BEST BELIEVE THAT IJS

@@domjones_who3849 So you're saying that the fact that he's fighting for custody means he doesn't care about the child?

The fat jolly guy doesn't have any rights the child's real dad is still alive present and active in the child's life... don't matter who u would choose to trust more for whatever reason... don't judge a book by its cover

@@BiancaBee.340 So you're saying the fact that he's fighting for custody means he doesn't care about the child?

Thank God you can’t make decisions. Sounds like it’s based on a long ‘story’ and Santa looks.

you mean between themselves? 😂

The bio father is also too.

Step dad seems clingy and if what the father is saying is true about him always over her asking questions I wouldn’t like that very much either

Its crazy how when a biological dad is pushed out and forced into a lesser role by women and the "family" court system that they end up having a smaller role. WEIRD!

@@diorbarbie7953 it also seems like he's holding on to the little girl as she is his only connection to the fiancee.

Thankfully it’s just a mock trial

Not true fat man is holding the child hostage I've lived this fat man needs to let go it's becoming criminal

@@tropiclucas9130 I agree. This transition needs to happen soon.

@@TrueGenius that’s not how the law works at all. If the child died when they were together, and they were engaged he’s considered a domestic partner and can have legal custody over the child if he’s been present long enough.

It sounds like the biological dad was never really involved and so the kid got left under step dads care because bio dad only comes here and there.

That's what i say too. Im glad im not the only one that saw this.​@anonymoususer4866

soy on a burger?

@@hahayes5881 Burgers were not something I put it on. I said pretty much anything. Not anything lol.

@@foramoreperfectamerica8490 i shall bite the bullet on this intriguing inquiry

Try Tamari. Its naturally brewed and lower in sodium.

I put A1 sauce on everything.

F what the daughter gon say to the court. Mama dead , she need to go to the father.

@@MrRauguste the daughter can speak. Since, I can figure you don't know anything about child custody. The man has her most of the time, not the biological father. The court can keep their arrangement as is.

@@TBWL829 you are wrong. The moms BOYFRIEND has NO Legal grounds to keep the child from her FATHER. And a child can pick which PARENT or in some states they will let the child pick other COURT APPROVED FAMILY MEMBER they want to live with at 13.

@@gabrielmilagro8906 say that to the courts that have given ex stepparents legal rights of a child.

@@HaosOnline that's VERY rare. And only in extreme circumstances.

That's what I said too

Well if the kids father has not been stepping up why would I step back if I truly love that child and know that her father is a piece of shit sounds like the child’s father needs to step off and pay child support

What if she doesn’t want to go with her dad though? Sounds like bio dad isn’t really doing anything but paying and do some occasional days together but dropping the girl off with her grandmother a lot. Stepdad should get full custody