People Who Insult You -- Dealing with Haters and How to Stand Up For Yourself

Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc

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#meangirls #haters #toxicperson In this video, you will learn how to respond to people who insult you. When dealing with haters, you can learn to stand up for yourself and get them to leave you alone. Bullies don't expect you to turn the tables on them, but when you do, they often learn to regret insulting you. Learning how to deal with aggressive people helps you develop more self confidence in your ability to set boundaries with people who exhibit toxic behavior.
Remember, narcissistic friends, project their insecurities onto others. If you are the brunt of their sarcasm or jokes, you become a target. Learning to speak up for yourself with self-empowering key phrases helps to heal the negative self-talk in your head so that you no longer live in fear of mean people making you their target.
When we live in fear of other people's criticisms, we often attract toxic people who have a way of exposing our insecurities. Learning to speak to yourself in empowering ways, helps to alleviate internal insecurities. The next time someone tries to dominate or control you, turn the tables by offering them one of these 8 key phrases to help turn the spotlight back on them.
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@1986nitya Год назад

Hi Lisa, I was watching a video of yours titled 'How to crush the fear narcissists create in your head', and I am amazed by your brilliance and the depth of your insight on the subject matter. You are an incredibly intelligent woman! I always have multiple 'Eureka' moments while watching your videos, which is so cool! Thank you for graciously sharing your wisdom with the world. I am so so grateful, you have no idea! Shine bright, Lisa! May you always get the best of everything good in this world. Namaste from India!

@aaloha2902 Год назад

Thank you Nitya for mentioning that video. I am going to watch it as soon as I can! 🙏🏼🌺

@Leatherneck1057 Год назад

When they accuse me of not knowing “how to take a joke,” I look at them and say,” The problem here is that you can’t tell one and just don’t know it.”

@cynicalafflictional1725 Год назад

Brilliant

@brianb7869 Год назад

oooo oooooooh oooooooo thas batty

@bettyveronica9880 Год назад

👏🏻❤

@adsicks Год назад

One might also point out the David Letterman once said if you have to explain a joke it wasn't funny....lol

@LinYouToo Год назад

🔥🔥🔥

@Rosie82333 Год назад

I always say: “why are you obsessed with me? It’s getting weird.”

@lovefaith6285 Год назад

This is a good one!!😆

@tedbkd1 Год назад

People who talk to you in ways that lead you to believe you're not worthy are the ones who are lower status.

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

❤❤❤

@jenniferlawrence5750 Год назад

It’s amazing how many “mean girl” adult women are out there….. good video and good ideas stay strong ladies and spend time with the good gals

@llkellenba Год назад

I’ve been dragged back and forth over that nice girl mean girl fence repeatedly-yes narcissistic people are drawn to me quite naturally and I’ve definitely played my co-dependent role wholeheartedly. Working on healing myself now that I’ve identified my cptsd backstory. I’ve definitely found my new persona is upsetting the apple cart within these relationships. The meanness factor has really escalated among numerous people in my circle. It’s not a large circle but I’ve obviously accepted some pretty difficult behavior and possess boundary problems. Observe that the more vulnerable parts of my experience that I have shared both past and present being weaponized and slung back at me in a hurtful or sarcastic manner. Why I’m still genuinely surprised when this happens given repetitive patterns of a kind of Jekyll and Hyde behavior, seems to need further attention and different responses. No i never wish to shame other people-nor desire to purposely hurt others feelings. I’m certain I have likely hurt others feelings unintentionally despite trying to avoid being cruel. Cringe at public harassment or making fun of others. Thank you for calling out some of these mean girl behaviors and sharing examples of responses. I’m dealing with a specific person’s problematic behaviors and can use the guidance.

@Roxy0405 Год назад

That's because mean girls grow up to be mean women!

@sunnydaye5942 Год назад

Less words!!! Say to them, "INSECURE MUCH?"

@debmontana4233 Год назад

I like it! 🥀 🌹….. it’s perfect💃🏻…..the Less said, the Best said!*. 🦉

@DH-ve5bl Год назад

A friend of mine who was single and not very good with the women, used to get ridiculed a lot by a guy in his office. One day he sarcastically asked my friend, in front of many co-workers, when was the last time he had sex. Without batting an eye, my friend said ,”Ask your wife.”

@mysticalvibe4241 Год назад

Responding to DH that was the best comeback I’ve ever heard. I laughed by butt off😂 I think humor can stop ✋ someone in their tracks. Too funny

@katesun2957 Год назад

That's great!!! 😊 🎉🎊🎉

@keariewashburn4680 Год назад

Say " it's a drag being with you" " I don't have to be around this junk" I have responded to it saying " you ( the narc) are so nauseating " and I remove myself from them. I have told myself that I don't have to put up with it and I care enough about myself to get away from the stink.

@rickkillian2378 Год назад

I heard the 1st letter and I immediately thought of Dr. Ramini Durvasula's "DEEP" technique. Don't Defend Don't Engage Don't Explain Don't Personalize She has video on this while on "Women of Impact"

@meghan9436 Год назад

Sounds like a variant of JADE (Don’t Justify Argue Defend Explain). Interesting!

@jchur7128 Год назад

Thanks for this reference.

@TeaRoseLover Год назад

Why should anyone have the power to make fun of you constantly in front of others? Tell them to stop ✋🏼 making fun of you and being abusive. Tell them “You’re an abuser”. This works for me.

@ranc1977 Год назад

Or "You're toxic". Might work better since most people not trained in psychology will equate abuser with physical abuse.

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

I just stare at them like they are stupid. I have to deal with a lot of coworkers and customers and I give them my silent “you are so stupid” look. While smiling 😊 It really makes them uncomfortable.

@davidJohnsonguitarguy Год назад

I said to the narc brother, " Is that how you feel good about yourself by trying to drag someone else down?". It stopped him dead. If I were to say it today I would say, " Is that how you (try) to feel good about yourself by trying to drag someone else down"

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

Exactly- they try.

@tinaralls3936 Год назад

I think I'd come right out and say "You were one of those mean girls in high school, weren't you? Yeah, I thought so." 😉

@suzysherlock4003 Год назад

Touché Sister❣

@gem7078 Год назад

I swear I’ve thought this about my mother so many times. I can just see her in her mean clique laughing & making fun of someone

@i_am_whole_again Год назад

This past holiday season was very disheartening b/c I felt myself once again being dragged down the toxic rabbit hole by my husband's disrespectful & hurtful behavior. The "I'm not worthy" mindset kicked in & I couldn't seem to get out of it. It's so hard when you try so hard to heal yourself & someone you can't get away from goes out of their way to undermine your efforts.

@rlnstn9300 Год назад

Please know that the other people in your presence wonder why the hell he feels the need to treat you that way. He doesn't seem to realize he's making an ass of himself being so mean and hyper critical of you. I hope some day you can go no contact with him. Bless you❤

@lovinglife2232 Год назад

I grew up being made fun of and convinced that I was just too sensitive to take it all the while it was others that couldn't take being made fun of.

@ranc1977 Год назад

I was told that I am the baby and child for reacting negatively to their put downs and unfair jokes and remarks based on lies.

@aaloha2902 Год назад

‘You’re too sensitive’ is just a narcissistic way of reasoning why it’s your ‘fault’ and not theirs that they can’t or won’t respect your boundaries. Even though, as an adult, it was their responsibility. It’s definitely not your fault that you couldn’t stand up to this kind of manipulative abuse❣️🙏🏼🌺

@cooloften Год назад

I prefer just walking away. Don't need to prove anything to anyone.

@lorrainemarcone6912 Год назад

The only thing that ever worked for me Lisa is completely ignoring them. Getting away physically if I can. Also, mentally I must use tunnel vision where I choose to not “see” them even if they are right near me. I’ve tried to stand up for myself my whole life but they are a wolf pack with no morals or empathy and if I try to say ANYTHING they will attack me much harder, like a wolf pack that tears their victims flesh apart. I’m sorry if this is graphic but it’s been my experience that they are Much better at turning the tables on me than me to them. They love love love a chance to fight and they will jump headfirst into destroying you and your reputation as soon as you open your mouth to them. Then their flying monkeys take over like vultures after the leftover bones. Their minions silently stalk me on social media and they report back to the chief narc (alpha wolf) who calls me up and causes extreme chaos. It’s a mess. Act like they don’t even exist even in their presence. Play dead like in the wild. For me, that’s the only way. They are bloodthirsty and I have been their prey too often when I speak up. As you say, shutty, shutty 💙

@oddanneout Год назад

Exactly. Why stoop to a petty level, when you know where your energy is.

@juliedahl1892 Год назад

I hear every one of these women. It’s my life to a T. For the past 40 yrs. I get dragged in by conversations , even on the phone. Like I can’t stand the attitude or out look my husband has. It bring me rite back to negativity.. I was doing pretty good for awhile. It’s his attitude, the way he talks to me, the way he deals with others , compared to the way he talks & treats me while one on one. It’s sickening to hear him sometimes. Like what a farce, when he speaks. I believe some of my health issues stem from conversations with him. I now have high BP for the fist time in my life. I’m 67 & can’t deal with his crap… on meds. I hate the atmosphere I live in. I have animals, so I can’t just leave, I would have to give them up. 6 of them. 🥲🥲

@lorrainemarcone6912 Год назад

@@juliedahl1892 I feel like you just explained my life. They are believed by others bc they are so charming and “nice” and they play the victim soooo well. It is truly sickening as you say. I mostly do really well in keeping them away from me emotionally and physically and have been at peace. But recently a situation with our child came up and I lost it in texts with him bc he wouldn’t act like a father. Of course he shared my texts with his flying monkeys and the wolf pack went after me. I’m now the “crazy one” again and I was just trying desperately to coparent with him about a serious safety situation with our child. I’ve been since told to NEVER ever try to coparent with a sociopathic narcissist. I have to do this alone

@davidJohnsonguitarguy Год назад

I can definitely relate. It's the animal kingdom, that's the only thing that makes any sense, humanity just has a bigger brain.

@Crimsondream01 Год назад

I can relate to this 😢

@hijones2968 Год назад

So true! I spoke up and was told "oh, you just always have to be the victim, don't you..." My response was "I'm the opposite of a victim because I am standing up for myself and I'm ok with walking away." Best to just believe who they are, message that you deserve dignity and respect and walk away. Love this!

@aaloha2902 Год назад

My father was like that when I was a kid. He did this with colleagues, at every birthday, sports classes that he taught and I was (forced to be) in. And I’m shocked how many grown ups participated in it towards a little girl who was also frequently punched & beaten just for the ‘fun’ of it. No one (who didn’t actively participate) said anything about it, and my mom still kept saying I was his ‘favorite’. I was my dad’s ‘favorite’ punching bag and my mom made sure to reason ‘why’ it was me. She just didn’t want to be ‘it’ herself. Needless to say I’ve had severe trust issues and difficulties with social situations since then 🙏🏼 Thank you Lisa 🙏🏼 your posts are very useful and informative. They are part of my recovery process 🙏🏼🌺💕

@jayWalk8 Год назад

Makes a lot of sense. I'm always taken back when people make mean comments - often said as 'a joke.' I always think of a cutting retort 3 days later lol

@eurokay4755 Год назад

I find commenting on myself, and avoiding any mention of them, their thoughts, beliefs, opinions, is effective. For example, "I'm not willing to participate in a conversation based on insulting me", I don't find jokes at others' expense amusing", "I find that remark unfair, uninformed and not worth my attention" and NOT "You must think you're better than I am" "You've always treated me like I don't matter" or "You don't understand what it's like to. . . ." In my experience, they are energized and entertained by any conversational opening that allows them to discuss their ideas, thoughts, beliefs and opinions and they're just waiting for you to open that door by commenting on those. Instead, stating clearly what you objectively know, based on objective reality, gives them no alternative but to either escalate to becoming more and more obnoxious and irrational (which may eventually reveal their toxicity to others), or to leave you alone, because they get no fuel from a conversation in which they are not the expert. You, not they, are the expert in conversations about what you experience, know, and and will tolerate. They will describe you to others as "no fun", "arrogant" and "uninteresting" very quickly, when what you actually have become is a painfully effective narc-repellant they seek to avoid at all costs. Eventually, you'll get to the point where you don't need to state your position out loud at all because they stop trying to bait you. At that point, you have achieved true immunity to their silly but harmful narcissistic shenanigans.

@christianprincess1878 Год назад

I wouldn't waste my time or breath. I would NOT hang out with her in my presence.

@kimberlymccracken747 Год назад

These are all good. For me, I found it best not to respond. It's not worth my energy. HOWEVER, these days I wouldn't put myself in that situation after one or two incidences. Great video 👍

@davidJohnsonguitarguy Год назад

I didn't respond for 50 years and I found that their insults and putdowns accumulated in my psyche, and after 50 years their insults and putdowns were my constant companion in my head. At which point I had to literally say out loud to myself in private, " They are divorced for a reason, His adult children don't want to be around him for a reason etc. I found this had a great effect on stifling the bad programming of their voice in my head.

@ranc1977 Год назад

@@davidJohnsonguitarguy Yep, you are talking about having good agent inside our head which leads us to new train of thoughts - that are functional and healthy, as opposed to be stuck in the same programming that we were conditioned to believe and lean onto which are toxic and self defeating - such as being silent and always shutting up to unfair treatment.

@carolutley6523 Год назад

Thanks Lisa! Great ideas to deal with the narc. The most important takeaway is to plan and rehearse the response in advance. Even if it's a plan to not respond. ❤️

@hazknow12 Год назад

Those who will not be considerate will not be considered 🤓💯🙏❤️

@ninamc6116 Год назад

I love this! I’m using it

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

Facts

@lunarae8037 Год назад

When I had to keep leaving toxic environments I realized that there was work to be done inside of me to be able to be able to stay and face these people head on. It’s a good feeling when you empower up! Thanks Lisa for all you share it’s made a difference

@rachelleroy8724 Год назад

Lisa, you seriously need to write a book of comebacks for different kinds of narcs in different kinds of situations. ❤

@peterknyk1942 Год назад

Get away! Run! It's for your own salvation! 🕊

@LOVEtoPLAYdrums Год назад

I have 5 managers at work. 4 are awesome. 1 is a big bully. He tried taking money from my hourly pay... The 3 managers told him if he ever did that again... He would need to find new work... Now I just avoid if possible... Awesome when your bosses stick up for you~!~!~! Thank you for making your videos!

@goodenoughgirl8102 Год назад

My mother. I finally just became facetious about it. I think last one was her calling me a “Princess.” So I did a little wave and adjusted my invisible tiara and over the top owned it. You really have to stop caring tho seems like. She’s mocking me so I just mock her right back. She just sat there all quiet and dumbfounded and then decided to drop it and go back to being normalish. Lol. Whatever they call me ya know or accuse me of, I just got fed up and very ok with not even trying to “measure up.” Just started owning my “rogue” status. It’s a magical thing when you can finally drop any kind of need for some “great reputation” or having to be “correct” or “right” or like my namesake “good enough.” Another one with the step father also. He started in on me and I retorted honestly back to him until I ran him out of the room. Back and forth until he had nothing else to throw at me. That was a miracle Bcuz in the past it had always been the exact opposite. 😅😅 And just realizing too that these people have huge issues. It would be a crying shame to adopt in my own head what they think about me (or really think about themselves) in their own extremely undeveloped pea brains. And it WAS a crying shame, but not anymore.

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

#meangirls #narcissisticabuse #pushthemback #standupforyourself #lisaaromano

@carlymeehan442 Год назад

You look lovely Lisa 😁🥰 something different. It works, you look great 😇🥰

@LAZY_PHILOMATH Год назад

..."HAVE YOU CONSIDERED PROZAC?"

@LAZY_PHILOMATH Год назад

It's humor that brings light to their mental disparities while also deflecting damage ; )

@Chahlie Год назад

I just realised that the woman who I thought was my best friend is actually a narcissist. There were hints and I was careful, but then it went sideways. I asked her several months ago if she would go to an event with me and she harshly declined ("I'm not going to THAT"), so I invited someone else, then of course she called last minute to say she had changed her mind, but too late. So then she flooded me with photos of the event, from the papers, and how she was glad she didn't go due to crowds etc. Since then It's been crafty digs- apparently I am safe to travel alone to an Arab country because I am "frumpy and ugly". I've been told to apologise numerous times for things that she bizarrely took offense to. Now I know why her former neighbours slashed her tires..... When someone mentions their 'arch enemy' and 'nemesis' it's a red flag. I have men figured out, but this woman snuck in and caught me out. Grrr.

@eurokay4755 Год назад

Any woman who brings a grocery bag of drama into your first few conversations: red flag. Not that it's easy; most people enjoy 'spilling the tea' or at least listening as it's spilled. But if you develop the ability to notice how often this person relies on gossip, jokes at others' expense, and running people down in general, you'll be well on your way to identifying toxic people. A positive side effect is that you consciously will cut way down on "other-focused" behavior yourself and also begin attracting people who have strong interests in more positive, constructive things, like ideas, activities and growth in general.

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

The worst are narcissists customers- I’ve been fired a few times because of their complaints- I don’t baby anyone. but I’m standing my ground. Last job I got fired last October and I said thank you! 😊

@dampergoldenrod4156 Год назад

5:14 this infuriates me when someone goes around in life trying to avoid trauma and in the process everybody around them it's getting hurt because they don't want to face up to some sort of hardship or some sort of antagonist or some sort of bad experience

@Cowface Год назад

I hate that double standard. People who can dish it out but not take it.

@pinkposey8134 Год назад

They like to box you in, and then wait for reaction. Thank you! I need the this information, this will help with family dynamics.

@kamori01 Год назад

I don't believe saying anything works. A mean-spirited person doesn't negotiate. They careless if something they said hurts someone so there is no use in telling them what they said could hurt someone. I say ignore completely or laugh at them when they say something mean, and then say, "Oh, this again."

@lindyinclusive8163 Год назад

No I’m not clever. I’ll be aware I need to love myself and have no contact as it’s not my job to teach them Lisa. No way it up to me to take care of myself. Don’t focus on them , on myself

@lindyinclusive8163 Год назад

I never had the ability to know about giving their own medicine so this is way beyond what people can understand

@davidJohnsonguitarguy Год назад

I like what Dr. Phil said, " We need a M.E.R. minimal effective response. Which means the minimum thing we can do so we feel like we stood up for ourselves.

@ranc1977 Год назад

"It's not you, it's only your programming" Yes! 🎯💘👆👍

@raebutler1407 Год назад

I love flipping it on them. Call me a b? Thank you. You're right! Now I see a new chew toy. C'mere, come back, you amuse me. Then bark at them.

@pinkposey8134 Год назад

Taking your power back is important. Awesome!

@rebekahraymond4412 Год назад

perfect timing Lisa! Thank You!!

@alight4090 Год назад

Excellent advice and really appreciate your helpful, sensitive and sensible vids. This vid was exactly what I needed today. I love your beautiful and kind spirit for helping so many that have been so hurt and abused. You’ve helped me immensely.

@michaelremillard4215 Год назад

So true … I’am living proof

@greywolf6146 Год назад

How about this one? "You're just not a good person to be around." It turns the focus back on them and there is no need to explain it. I don't like you. End of story.

@katesun2957 Год назад

That's great....I didn't realize we were that close to joke around like that....perfect!!!

@michaelrinegar3825 Год назад

Lisa, Compliments to you, 2023 a great year for your healing ministry, for lack of a better word. Over time, you have refined, distilled, without extraneous a very clear powerful, on target, straight to the point, healing and life changing messages to us. Changing lives, making a difference. Awesome you!!! You have, like so many of us you are helping to understand we are good enough, have grown in your own healing journey. Your earlier years you talked a good percent of your message(s) about your past, ie family of origin, ex-husband, etal and less about the healing dynamics you’ve learned / discovered. As you grew in confidence, comfortable in your own skin, a very high percent of your messages today are about healing content, with occasional applicable references about your past. Your healing maturity, of where you are today, is such an inspiration to us that we too can mature in our own healing, as you have. You are such a great role model, mentor. Thank you!

@rickkillian2378 Год назад

Thank you Lisa for all you do. With your guidance and Dr. Ramini Durvasula information My recovery has been easier than I expected but certainly "Not a walk in the park". Thank you for all you do

@meghan9436 Год назад

A great retort when asked about why you don’t drink for example, you can ask “Why do you want to know?” Another is treating them like a child, and simply asking, “Can you explain why ABC is so funny? I don’t see why XYZ is so funny. Please enlighten me. I want to know.” I like these expressions more because they really put the attention back on them, and chances are that they will flounder and sputter for an answer.

@cindyhernandez152 Год назад

I wish I'd known this when I was going through an abusive "friendship."

@donnakelly2677 Год назад

Yes, perfect timing. I am dealing with a similar issue and pray for insite, and here you are! How do we change our energetic field and/or vibration? I know if I learn to live from a higher vibration than the bully, she will have to leave my experience. I am 57 years old for goodness sake and still attracting bullies! How do I change within myself Please and Thank you!!

@davidJohnsonguitarguy Год назад

I read a book that said, "People will always try to put you on a level lower than what they see themselves occupying".

@susanralph274 Год назад

they do not understand humility - but we can show them the power ful force of nature

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

I will say… truly as a mother raising 2 kids with a narcissist father. Their father- the children are the true victims who cannot always defend themselves. My ex beat up our 11 year old son for something so stupid then blew it off as a little “spanking “ BS. I wasn’t there to protect him that morning before school. He walked to school sobbing and in pain and forced himself to stop crying before going into class. I’m done. My son stay with me now and his dad keeps asking son when he is coming back. Today my son said “never” bravo. As an adult you can leave a partner, friend and a job. The helplessness a child feels under the abuse of a parent is Not comparable. I know it’s not easy for my son and I tread carefully, let him cry it out, hold him and I listen. He’s a sweet boy. He’s also a truth teller and so am I. The abuse ends here. I come from a line of narcissists and so does my ex. No more. It ends with our kids. it is a horrible cycle that just carries on for generations. Because no one is educated nor stops it. I’m stopping it. Enough is enough. Just say NOAP. my son asked me “do you have any advice on how to deal with a narcissist?” He is 11! I have him and his sister watch Lisa and little shaman. It’s never ending until they are old enough to walk away for good. 🙏❤️🌈

@johanjansson2723 Год назад

Actually Lisa, i think a kind of "gray rock" technique would be better. Instead of flipping the board and start a conflict wirh someone that you really don't know if it is narcissistic style or a fullblown narc you are dealing with. Best if the smug remarks neither stick nor bounce.

@InterestedCitizen Год назад

Practice the tone of your voice, and gaze at them as you say: that (pause) is really not nice of you! No weakness in your voice. Then wait. Practice 🥊

@rturney6376 Год назад

I recently called my sisters out for gossiping behind my back. Rather than say “I’m sorry “, her response was “why bother.” She deflects from herself by talking about me. She and my other sister worked together behind my back to help me rent/buy my other sister’s home. It was 👍. But, the other sister(a narcissist) changes terms of agreement all the time. So, while it was nice, I think it was information ℹ️ behind my back 😢that I needed to know up front.

@lmvicente1 Год назад

Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

@MakaylaCole123 Год назад

I love this so much!!!!

@f.t.9889 Год назад

Great video! Thank you! 😊

@tc7486 Год назад

So helpful! ❤

@claremaidofthewave251 Год назад

Thank you ❤

@izawaniek2568 Год назад

Thank you Lisa. Just in time ❤❤❤

@sparklingloveandlight Год назад

Thank you 😊 💓 we appreciate you Lisa. 🙏 need this !

@begonia3546 Год назад

Thank you Lisa. This video speaks to me!

@maxwell-cole Год назад

This was excellent advice. Thank you.

@michellescalia2142 Год назад

Thank you Lisa! You’re a gem!

@truebelieverinthelord7823 Год назад

Thank you for this message!💕

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

You are so welcome

@ninamc6116 Год назад

This video came at a perfect time for me. Thank you Lisa!

@Rich_Engine9977 Год назад

Thank you Love/ Lisa Romano;)

@sabrinaa7679 Год назад

Very informative... I needed this 😊 I am ready for my bullies 🙏

@angie_estrella Год назад

Great information thanks!

@FB-yf7yz Год назад

As always, Lisa, thank you for being the angel we are working on becoming for ourselves. 😇🥰😇

@hcmangs3634 Год назад

More of this! Love the specific phrases!

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

More to come!

@treeze_it7800 Год назад

Good advice!

@harrietpeabody2118 Год назад

Thank you beautiful soul

@Jess-kn8vl Год назад

I laughed back like a witch, they got the picture 😁

@jettunik2514 Год назад

What if they are a supervisor who is young enough to be my child?

@lucybraun8969 Год назад

So, much dysfunction out there! But we won't get rid of it until the tools are there for us to chip away at it. Thank you, Lisa.

@Motherheal Год назад

Thank you

@sandramullins612 Год назад

Thank you!

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

You're welcome!

@Nuverselive Год назад

Great advice. This wisdom is encapsulated by dark feminine energy. Dark as in subconscious mind and the feminine hemisphere is creative. These feminine traits are useful for trauma survivors because this courage in showing up for yourself heals subconscious patterns as u teach ppl how to treat u. Ppl who don’t learn to respect your boundaries don’t deserve your time and energy💯 We fear being perceived as mean due to rejection and abandonment wounds, at least that’s the case for me and many clients. But imagine how great your inner child feels when u are asserting your boundaries to empower yourself🧲 next you’ll attract less combative, mean spirited ppl, which is incredible to experience ✨💎LOVE & Happiness to each soul on this journey of self love✨NuMESTAY

@c.brownell8618 Год назад

Good ones.

@kristinbolinder5955 10 месяцев назад

In my experiences with this, what works for me is to "not play" This exploitation recently happened with me. I didn't care. When this woman in a class with me was exploiting me, I explained the truth about what she was trying to get everyone to notice about me and it took away her fun, "thunder" She sent a couple of her friends to interrogate me (flying monkeys) as to why I was in that class...what were my health problems to make me eligible. I noticed they both asked the same question within a couple of minutes of each other at two different locations in the pool area as I was leaving. I gave them so many facts, I think they were bored. I went on and on about myself. It looks like it worked. Two days later at class, they all went back to their normal cliche. I already knew this ring leader woman is a narc, not covert so it is easier.

@nagpalpriya32 Год назад

Lol well said 👌

@JosephGarcia-zr3qk Год назад

Thankyou Lisa... Tony out of Minneapolis

@stanleymaestas5441 Год назад

00:08:55 That is really an interesting point, Lisa Romano. You utilized your intuition, followed by head logic. Not the other way around of trying to problem solve your way out of the negative conflict. 💯

@katesun2957 Год назад

All your responses are so good. 💖 You are young, so you probably don't remember when those awful nude pictures came out of Madonna. It was pretty near the beginning of her fame and I was interested in how she would handle it, because back in those days, that could kill the career of an up and coming star. Madonna said, "All publicity, is good publicity!" She just turned everything right around in her favor. First she commented that she was so flattered that the men's magazine spent so much for those awful pictures of her. Then she made a deal with Playboy and posed professionally for them. So, the pictures were great. After she did that, a lot of women stars posed for Playboy. She started a trend. In my family, growing up, being the center of attention was never good. I was in my early 20's when that happened with Madonna. After that, I always tried to always think, hey being the center of attention is always good. Most of the time I can bring it around to being good, but I'll never feel like going into a shell and disappearing again, because of Madonna.

@katesun2957 Год назад

I wasn't rude back. I would just make being the center of attention good, and start talking about something else. In three years, I ended up being promoted to NYC, as Director of Administration. The company completely moved my husband and I there. My new boss LOVED that I could take anything, without it bothering me and come out on top. He said I was a regular New Yorker. Then five years later, I got promoted to LA, again moved completely by a different company. Unfortunately, my dad started writing to me daily, saying I was too young to have a job like I had and I wouldn't be able to cope, I then believed it too. It had been so much better, when he was ignoring me.

@rlnstn9300 Год назад

G and H are EXCELLENT

@sunflowerroark5170 Год назад

The narcissists behaviors I have been around renders me doing a no contact. The sayings that you mentioned except the last one only causes them to triangulate them within our peer group. The narcs seems to have a natural almost spell type nature to do this. I just can't do this. I was not included in a two friend trip that I had stated a week before that I would like to be in their little shopping trips. She made sure to state her chosen friend and her were going on their shopping trip in a very snarky way. She knew exactly what she was doing. I was so shocked. I stated that where I am from that the more the merry is typical. I am moving on away from that group quickly. My nose would make them a good Sunday face. There is a ten year age difference. I don't dare tell my other friends, or the news would travel like a wildfire, and it would blow up in my face.

@stanleymaestas5441 Год назад

I am enough. 🙏 🙏

@uponcripplecreek1 Год назад

I have always loved that piece of tree artwork behind you!

@susanralph274 Год назад

lois lane said 'you could use a few tucks yourself sister" we need to bring back the American Art of the Come Back

@undercoverbird8592 Год назад

I don’t understand insults and criticism. Sounds like crickets to me…. I’ve become very skilled at this. These people are looking for a reaction. Don’t give them one. Moo cow face…. 😊❤❤❤

@joseph6036 Год назад

Hi have been watching your videos because someone called me a narcissist and wanted to know what a narcissist is. I see that I have many traits of a narcissist and have been in a narcissistic relationship all my life and now I understand a lot of the traumatic things affected me the way they did. And why I am the way I am. But I do differ on some of the things you have talked about in characteristics or or why some one who is a narcissist or with the trait. I have found your information very valuable and helpful in helping me get back to finding life and confirming a lot of thighs I have noticed in myself and the others around. I don’t know if I am codependent or not but I’m working on trying to break free of this relationship and if I do leave now I’ll just live in the streets because I have no where to go but I feel that is the best thing do to if I want to live and not end my life because I have hated myself for years and still do. I just want to tell you thank you for what you are doing in helping others.

@lisaaromano1 Год назад

Believe in yourself and know you are worthy of the good life has to offer. The more safe you feel the less codependent or narcissistic you will be🤗🙏

@SuperBjanka Год назад

Grab the attention and make people laugh with you, instead of them laughing at you.

@keeponkeepinon9363 Год назад

I'm thinking that in this case the real problem with her boyfriend. The fact that he laughed instead of defending his gf is not cool at all. Bottom line....she shouldn't wait around for bf to change....find different bf who treats her well.

@camcamlady8068 Год назад

Here’s one: “are you ok? (Pause) That was such a weird/rude thing to say and it’s concerning. Maybe you need to talk to someone.”

@SM-ly6in Год назад

Ugh for me I would be worrying about only my husband who would miss out from hanging out with her husband on these double dates..yeah I know what a codependent I was..now I am divorced