I watched Gabbie Hanna’s video on her journey with cosmetic surgery and it really resonated with me. Gabbie’s video: • My botched plastic sur... patreon.com/Th...
I have yet to meet a single person that is attracted to people who undergo major plastic surgery/Botox treatments. A facelift when someone hits 60 makes sense if they’re particularly self conscious. Seems like an unnecessary risk.
I do tend to see it in my age group. Mostly lip fillers, Botox and subtle stuff. But, that stuff needs upkeep or it will dissolve. Over time it definitely takes a toll to feel pressured into maintaining your Botox and fillers, which can turn into getting full on surgery.
@@CrookedLadyI believe surgery can be done right if the professional knows what they are doing and it is not a major part of the body. But I am not very atracted when person undergoes with a plastic surgery so severe that it looks unnatural and uncanny for me. Latinamerican countries tend to undergoes to some surgeries to look bit more eurocentric or have the prototypical latinas body shape having big butt and curvaceous and lighter skin. The indigenous features or african features are not desired or seem discriminated against. Also most gen z of latinamerican also goes to titok and famous body standards and tries to emulate vía surgery. Asia have also a chunk of surgery done on them. They tend to fix their nose to be straight, have big eyes, be as thin as possible , have to be very pale, have a petite frame to be atractive. Asian are not into dark skinned or big framed bodies.Also I saw some men going through surgery as well , I saw a case of a man elongating his legs to be taller. Some man do surgery on their faces or do exercises to have strong jawlines to be more masculine.Honestly, I find it odds how obsessive we became with our looks than before. Although, many cultures did practiced surgery and did have their canoon of beauty and did habe their own ways to be more atractive back then , but I do not remember them be obsessive to such a magnitudes like today and comparing each other on global scale on internet. My mom was not in that high levels of stress of being beautiful or caring much about it and my mom and dad were average on modern scale. I guess we became more vain and insecure and bit narcisistic? I mean I no expert but me being of 25 yrs old do not recall people were suffering this body dysmorphia on social media, circles, dating , gym on both sexes.
@@Erastoneus45no please by all means keep giving me something of a 1000 word essay about a boring 4$$ topic about a thing like plastic surgery of all bc your comment was clearly just not long enough
I love the objectivity and honesty you showed here. You know your self-esteem is what needs work, and hoping you don't want to get surgery later on shows that the real you doesn't want it. I feel like you're making progress toward improving your self-esteem based on your thoughts and comments here.
Plastic surgery is a business just like any other, and unethical behavior aimed at gaining money is prevalent in every industry including in hospitals.
when i see people who are ugly talk about plastic surgery as a solution or aspiration i slip away from the conversation. I dont want to alter my face I just want to like it.
kinda random but you have really good cheekbones like they are really defined in the best way possible i think they are such a stunning feature, love your videos by the way, they have helped me a lot !!
I just want to say I appreciate every video, you will get through this, you are a true warrior even with the bandaid or not you always look amazing and interesting/cool, you always help me recognize some behaviors I have that are not healthy about myself,thank you and praying for you 💙🙏🏻
Great job realizing you would rather focus on improving self-esteem than get plastic surgery, that's a huge turning point for you! I know I'm generalizing a bit, but I feel if you're getting work done for cosmetic purposes then you're never gonna be happy with it. Idk how to segue into this, but perfection can be boring if everyone looks the same. What you may see as imperfections, others see as something beautiful. In my eyes, you are very pretty.
You look pretty today. The cat ears are cute. Wow. Sounds like this was quite the revelation for you. I'm happy you seem to have good instincts for scammers. It's okay to get emotional. This video makes me happy, you are growing before our eyes.❤
It all comes down to insecurity. It needs to be overcome. That does not mean fixing the "flaws" that make us feel insecure. That has nothing to do with overcoming insecurity. Overcoming it, is realizing that you need to overcome the fear of negative judgements by others as well as yourself. It starts with an old saying, to grant yourself the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Watch Dr. K's in depth video on overcoming insecurity. It's amazing.
Thank you so much for posting this. While I do not subscribe to the DSM labeling, I can relate. I also agree with you about Gabbie H, I hate that even know about any of that drama at my age..but I felt like an anomaly when so many people were attacking her and being cruel..the girl spent years as the butt of the joke thanks to the vlog squad nonsense and clearly had issues from being compared and having to compete with other women, constantly coming up short and being devalued. That messes with the mind. She was the perfect target when she slipped up, as this world offers people like her no grace. She also became the perfect target for the cosmetic surgery industry. It’s unfortunate. People place all of the blame and taboo onto those pursuing cosmetic surgery and the victims of it ..instead of the predatory cosmetic surgery industry and the superficial society that lured and pushed them into it. I know so much about the corruption and utter failures of that industry. Unfortunately from personal experience. I had a damn nice nose (not perfect but not one you ever touch) but I had been mistreated severely regarding my overall appearance and I did not know how to assess what the issues were accurately..I didn’t know any other procedure that proposed to change the whole look of the face..I didn’t know how to help myself at that age..so I unfortunately focused on the wrong thing and the wrong solution. Truly a horror to ruin one of your few decent features..and right in the center of the face..affecting the look of the upper lip and eye/inner cheek area too. Especially with all the sh*t my surgeon pulled, in every part of my nose..inside and out. My septum is basically gone. The procedure was supposed to help my breathing and the cosmetic alteration was referred to as a “finessing” (which would have happened with age anyways, so why on earth touch the nose of a minor!) despite the fact that the computer “morph” looked bizarre and way too thin. I was so alone, with very harmful parental figures..I was conditioned not to speak up for myself, between my family and the bullying/ostracism..so I didn’t know how to speak up to a surgeon either or imply that I didn’t like their aesthetic. (Not that a teenager knows what they want anyway..I mean come on!) I managed to ask questions about grafts for some reason because I was overly concerned with not wanting foreign material in my body..but I had no real idea of the countless other risks and the consultation was so short..so nonchalant…I’m not sure how much of an opinion I really got in. The surgeon wasn’t pushy and seemed like he wanted to be conservative. Said my nose wasn’t “that bad”..but how the hell am I supposed to interpret that? (In hindsight my nose already looked better than an “after” so idk why he worded it like that..like admitting it’s unnecessary without scaring away a walking check $) But then he also said I will have the surgery done by his colleague..I hesitated but he assured me of the other guy’s skills. This meant that I didn’t even meet the surgeon who performed the surgery until the morning of. The other one was present..so idk what they were doing. It was very odd. I think it may have been practice! Like what happens with fellows, who are trained by a more experienced surgeon. A good nose hacked away at, for no reason but $ and possibly surgical experience. I honestly wonder if they thought my nose was a great base to practice on and that because the rest of my face was not pretty anyways, it didn’t matter if they messed me up. Surgeons are as lookist as anyone else. They could probably also tell that I came from a family that wasn’t going to sue if something went awry. I was a teenager. I didn’t even come from a well off family whatsoever..I think insurance paid for some of it..I was not the stereotype of the type of person who ends up in a cosmetic surgeon’s operating table. There was no previous vanity..nothing but desperation to become beautiful and thus free of all the burdens and barriers and nightmarish experiences that come with being the opposite. Big mistake. Made me 100x uglier and weird looking..just no longer a human..and the psychological damage was something impossible to comprehend in totality unless you have experienced it yourself. Not something the human brain is meant to process. Especially if you were already bad off. Also because of my retractive camouflage orthodontia and premolar extractions as a child (plus wisdoms as an adult) my mouth and smile receded, my lips lost a ton of fullness and my nose and chin became more prominent and heavy looking in comparison I believe this influenced my fixation on the nose, despite having no negative comments on it (one of the only things that wasn’t commented on negatively) and despite never having focused on it until the braces did their full damage. I didn’t put two and two together until later. I was called ugly before puberty but after braces, it got MUCH worse and even I started to become disgusted with my school photographs..I preferred the ones when I was younger before my teeth were removed and before my mouth/jaw area was restricted from growing.. i had a gap/overbite:ovejet and an open bite, asymmetry..but my teeth weren’t even crooked. If anything I may have needed jaw surgery or a palate expander..but the orthodontia just made a questionable situation worse than it ever would have been..which then led to yet another horrible intervention. I was like 11 when they started by ortho, and a little over 15/16 when they removed them I believe. So the majority of puberty..they restricted my face from growing and destroyed bone/tooth roots..etc. I am riddled with a list of issues thanks to the ortho, I’m probably going to lose my jaw joints pretty soon. And it didn’t end there. Though I never had another procedure despite desiring a revision…I had my skin damaged and a ton of my hair fall from my head. I’ve deteriorated greatly. Also, the stress and insomnia are unreal. Anyway, I’m rambling now..but let me tell you..don’t touch your face any further in those manners. You will regret it. The option just isn’t up to task. There is no informed consent and no patient rights when you fall into cosmetic surgery. The doctors will not take responsibility, they will gaslight you and they will use your “BDD” label to dismiss any complaints or concerns you may have. The identity crisis will be insurmountable..the alienation will be extraordinary..you might even go mad or off yourself. It’s very common. And tbh..most cosmetic surgery makes people look worse. It really does. And it doesn’t age well. I don’t know how our vision becomes so blurry that we buy into the curated before and after pictures. I remember the day of my surgery…I saw an older patient there..and she looked awful, I am so sorry to say it..but totally abnormal and not good..yet she was coming to a cosmetic surgery office AGAIN. A lot of people think patients like that are delusional and can’t see how bad they look..sometimes I wonder the same thing. But I think the more likely scenario is that when you get one thing done..especially if you have a poor base..it throws off any natural balance of the face and just never looks right even when it’s called “successful”..so then you have to try to fix it or reverse it..or address an adjacent feature to rebalance it out..but that doesn’t work so you just keep going..trying again..one after the next. One leads to another..and you’ll lose your mind early on, no doubt. As well as any character in your face. I can’t believe that there is no entity regulating the cosmetic surgery industry..even the “Board Certifications” are a joke. A false sense of security. This is one of the most life-altering procedure in existence and we do short one-off consultations!? That alone, and so much more.. is why we have to be critical of this whole operation. I know people who had work done by “top surgeons” and those surgeons admitted to them that they were on dr*ugs while in the operating room. And in another “top” surgeon’s office.. fellows of surgeons..students..were performing the surgeries when the patients thought it was being done by the established surgeon. Tons of lying and omitting on paperwork by most of them too. I could go on all day..
Can’t edit on mobile so apologies for any typos or more oddly phrases statements. I am a bit loopy rn too. Just got done sobbing and then took some cbd to try to rest. Life is hell.
I just wanna say that I like to hear you talk,and people need to care because the body may end up rejecting it has no way of knowing that the body will reject it until it simply rejects the change
The desire for plastic surgery is a symptom of BDD. I personally never desired plastic surgery for myself because I probably wouldn’t be satisfied with the results and start hyper fixating on another part of my body that I’d like to fix. It’s just an unending cycle of dissatisfaction that is never satisfied. Not shaming those who do but it usually doesn’t solve the underlying problem of low self esteem. Love your cat ears and think you look beautiful just the way you are ❤
It is not a symptom of “BDD”. It’s very normal to desire a change in appearance when you had no say in it..and especially when you’ve been bullied or mistreated over your looks. The cosmetic surgery industry preys in these vulnerable people.
I’m accepting and supportive of people regardless of how they look without the extra stuff I’m here for you if you need me to I’ll always try to help you in anyway that I can
Without having the history of your suffering present in its entirety: Have you ever heard about C-PTSD as a consequence of childhood trauma (emotional neglect, abandonment and abuse)? Reading about it was a major breakthrough for myself when trying to get a hold of the deepers reasons for my twisting history of mentally suffering in similar ways as you do Sincerely hoping not to hurt anyone's feelings with this post ...
My right ear sticks out slightly more than my left ear, when I was a teen my little sister noticed it one day and teased me about it, back then it really upset me but today it doesn't bother me at all. No one has a perfect body, and the thought of me spending money to have it "fixed" seems like a total waste imo. Think of your pets, if your pet had a physical flaw that did not affect their quality of life would you have surgery performed on them? would you love them less due to that flaw? Of course you would not, you would love them the same regardless. This is how humans should see ourselves and others with "flaws"
There are natural ways to pump up the muscles in the face. It will give someone more angular chiseled features. Eat wild salmon. Do facial resistance exercises. Look it up. You can pump up facial contours the way you pump up muscles 💪🏾 in the biceps. That being said… you look STUNNINGLY beautiful today. Wow!!!
yeah please don't get plastic surgery I think deep down you do know you're beautiful but your body dysmorphia won't let you believe that even the actor Margot Robbie thought she was ugly and we know how beautiful she is
with what you were saying about your coworker, i feel the same way as them. i think all these beauty standards are superr overrated and honestly just dumb (not that it's dumb to feel effected by them because we all do at some point), i've always adored the little details on people's faces that makes them unique and i think there are tons of people out there that feel the same way. Yes there will always be "conventionally attractive" people or whatever but that doesn't mean they are the only ones that are attractive. Especially with teeth i do not care at all if someone has yellow or crooked teeth, actually i find it really cute and HUMAN. As someone whose delt with bad acne in the past i feel the same way about skin blemishes/wrinkles they just do not at all effect the way that i am attracted to someone, instead I get this strong endearing feeling that sometimes even makes me more attracted to that person like i can't explain it. I'm sick of watching movies and everyone has these crazy perfect teeth and skin ya know ? Maybe it's because I am an artist that I feel this way haha because i feel so happy to draw unique traits on characters that distinguishes them from everyone else. Also your cat ears are so cute!! Much love to you ❤😽🫶
I really like your videos because of your honesty. Like the ears! Your cat is so cute. I am a cat person too. Like you said, no one is perfect, but you do look good. Have a good evening!
@@CrookedLadythis is why you need god because without it you’re stuck being miserable worried about what others think of you and you try your best to fit their standards
Cute cat and hope you don't get plastic surgery, you are naturally beautiful and don't need work done. I don't think people should get plastic surgery unless something happens to them and really messes up their face, plastic surgery is just a business and know because everyone is obsessed with their looks mainly on social media they can take advantage of that. Quite a disgusting practice, hope you're having a great day and thanks for the video.
Apparently people that desire plastic surgery have a tendency to look at specific features on their face/body and not like them, instead of looking at their face/body as a whole, and how everything's in proportion to everything else. When other people look at you, they see the whole picture, which is why everyone in the comments sees you as the beautiful person you are, but when you look at the mirror, you'll look at specific things that you think don't look right... Try to look at the forest, rather than the trees
Dude! So, first off, love the video! I don't know if I have any video recommendations but, something I do want say is: I would love to grow some gray hair and have people call me silver head! That would be awesome! But, if I was to grow some wrinkles, I would like to start mumbling to myself while rocking on the front porch, then buy myself a cane that I would beat my christmas trees with! O, and I want to learn to run at 20 miles per hour while having gray hair-- that would make the silver head name more badass! Now if I was to start balding, I would puff my hair out in the back and sides and become a mad scientist! That one I want to happen more though! Become a mad chemist or something! :D
I would just get my nose fixed as its a polish nose an really sucks but at the same time id rather not risk being worse after surgery. I just wish i could wake up for once not hating myself an feeling literally disgusted with my face. Again i really appreciate you an yr vids it helps me too know im not crazy. Also you are very beautiful.
I looked up polish nose, and if your nose looks anything like the ones I saw, it’s beautiful! I’m a sucker for uniqueness in noses. But what truly matters is how YOU feel about your nose. Definitely do what makes you the happiest, regardless of what others think.
Lmao ouch. I'm also Polish and have a huge nose. Which is fantastic considering I'm a girl 🤡I understand your pain though. I personally feel really masculine with it and lowkey feel suicidal about it. It sucks so bad.
Well I know and I'm pretty sure that everyone of your subscribers would agree with me that you are beautiful just the way you are and you don't need all that ridiculous work done and it's good you're starting to realize that
Ok idk how i came across one of your videos but it was disturbing and looking over ALL your videos it seems your really caught up on looks. Can i just say that idk what kinda friends you have or people in your life but you actually ARE pretty! Perfect teeth thanks to your braces beautiful natural full lips that i wish i had flawless skin, i mean, come on, the only thing your lacking is confidence. Confidence is the one thing that makes a person sexy. You could get ANYONE you wanted.
I find myself wanting someone while in my state of seclusion. But I ask myself, do I want them because I'm lonely, or have I always wanted them all thier entirety. I can never truly know, not because I can't, but because I won't. I ahve learned to love myself in my time of need, when no one was there to love me, I choose to love myself. The beauty of life(yet regrettable) is learning to let go. I have seen you speak more positively of your self as the years went by, you were once a girl that was possibly lost, but you are currently a woman trying to find herself in the world(so as I). Never let anyone make you feel that you aren't good enough(because there was never a time you weren't) , not even God ❤.
@@CrookedLady if you don’t want to show your face why not just wear a mask or just not have a camera on. Because in all honesty, the Band-Aids, just bring more attention to your nose
Gabbie Hanna is terrible person. Just look up some of the awful things she has done. Other RU-vidrs that are known to be nice have gotten nothing but support through their problems. It is hard to support Gabbie, because she has made a career of being toxic towards other people.
I haven’t researched everything she’s done, but you are right about her past actions being toxic. I think her perspective on plastic surgery is on point, though. I was honestly surprised to see her be that honest, I didn’t expect it, which is why I felt compelled to make this video.
@@CrookedLady I agree with you. She is the way she is because of the way she was treated. Maybe she had the "get them before they get me" attitude. I was mostly just explaining why people were so mean to her. I would never actively post negativity towards her, but I also wouldn't go out of my way to support her.
You make sense, though I’m very cross. Me personally my bdd stems from my nose and brow bone. I don’t want to look hot, I just want to look average really. Of course this is just my own predicament, but I think if you genuinely just look average you shouldn’t get plastic surgery.
ur not a candidate for plastic surgery. ur symptoms are more likely related to your hormones, which i've always stated. ur face doesn't have any condemning features and ur young enough to get l@id rather easy. it may be that u just can't attract Chad in the way other girls can. I think if u compromise a little with ur options u can attract someone at least average.
Plastic surgery did help me be slightly less ugly... I went from being a giuy who no womem wamted, to a guy that gets laid occasionally, that no women want
I think that cosmetic plastic surgery is a bad thing to do, in fact. Why? Well. I think that this is a form of lying. Self-lie and lie to other people. Making surgery does not fixes the underlying genetic code, isn't it? So, in fact, this is a from of permanent makeup that you can't easily remove. This is indeed a very bad thing.
I'm just one person, but in my 56 years, I have been with dozens of women, from one-night stands to several relationships that lasted over 5 years. The women ranged from a former model to a woman who could have been a model, to average women, to below average women in looks. Not one single time, did I turn down a relationship on the basis of their looks. On top of all of that, plastic surgery is one heck of a dice roll... if it turns out bad, you are marked for life. And not just marked for looks but marked as a person willing to risk mutilation to change their appearance. I prefer character to appearances.
@@CrookedLadyhealing takes time, it took me 25+ years to heal from my past low self esteem I am still struggling it was baby steps and it wasn't easy I am thankful I'm getting there, with the help of my mind that is not influenced by mean people who used to talk down to me, I don't allow myself to talk to people like that anymore.🤎🤗
@@CrookedLady I understand you're going through body dysmorphia. I just want to say I have noticed the improvements in your cheeks over the last couple months. You'll get past this :)
