I feel you so much there was a time when I used to be so attractive back when I was 16 and had kind of a nice self-esteem but now I´m 21 and have reached a point in my life where I can´t even refer to myself as a woman I feel like if i say something nice about myself in public people will make fun of me. I cut my hair short because I thought It would look great and It just made everything worse, I just hate myself so much I never feel feminine or desirable I always see myself as disgusting or awful I had opportunities to have a bf in the past but I have no chance now. I´m too old to find someone, my standerds are too high and I have nothing to offer to anyone, no matter how much I try to dress up every day It always ends up looking terrible, I´ve had people ask me if I´m a lesbian or something. I´m at a normal weight for my height but I feel too fat, nothing will never look good on me unless I´m underweight and I don´t even know If that is true or if its just my idea that thin women are more feminine. I just hope It gets better for us, sending you so much love and support.
Ugly is a state of mind, Your NOT ugly, but Your just feeling down on yourself at a low ebb, get some help and work on Your self -esteem, easier said than done but " a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.. " Good luck.
Im a bi woman. Im looking at you and thinking... they called YOU ugly?? Girl you got those high cheekbones, pink lips, soft eyes, dark hair.... you not ugly.
I don’t know if this is bait, and I don’t want to assume that you may be farming views or attention, so I will try to be honest and direct, since I feel exactly like that about myself even tho I am a man. I saw other videos of you and you are right about the fact that standard beauty can open doors and make life easier, and it hits even harder when you are a woman. I heard more than once that this is why makeup and beauty stuff like nails/hair etc are such a market. That said, I won’t be here saying my opinion about your looks, since you will probably not listen, not bc you don’t want to, but bc you are unable to bc of your experiences irl. In addition you don’t know me in person, so my opinion is pretty much useless. However I have been there. And I can confidently say that I strongly disagree that being pretty (standard beauty, not subjective) is a ticket to happiness. I’ve seen literally models irl going through the exact same line of thought that you are having. I will go to the lengths of admitting that I hooked up with some of these “standard” women, just be be really bored after a few days (sometimes even in a few hours of the first date). What I am trying to say is that the issue is inside and not outside. You could look like the most perfect goddess, you would still see yourself as unattractive. Why we feel like this? Bc of all the bullying, gaslighting and humiliation that we endured. We were conditioned to see us through that lens trying desperately to to “fix” ourselves in order to be accepted and live life like we see our peers do. But the reason they are able to live normally like they do is not bc of their looks, but rather bc they were not conditioned and wired like we was. That’s the key. If you can, please seek professional help to guide you through this lens adjustment. Please be safe.
9:54 i don't say you are imperfect or super attractive but i think your eyes and eye brows are really beautiful. Believe me. I am an unattractive girl too. TBH really ugly. Not the one's you ignore but those kinds you'll notice their ugliness as soon as you see them. I am 26. Never dated. Never being asked out. People think i am dumb. They stare at me because my ugliness is too obvious and it really hurts.
People say things anonymously online because they project their own insecurities and shortcoming in an attempt to hurt others, same mentality as a mass shooter. Suffice it to say you are beautiful and I'm under no obligation to lie to you. The issue is not all the ways people could compliment your beauty, but is to recognise your harmful automatic negative thoughts lie to you and are not objective facts - but something you brainwash yourself to see as fact. Look into CBT and possibly medication. Work on loving yourself, no one else sees what you see - so you should start to look at yourself through a more true lens and not via a broken mirror. Good luck
P.s. the anonymous comments I should say pick on whatever will hurt that person's weakness, and are rarely true or accurate. Secondly, this isn't a high horse post. I've dealt with a bout of depression in the past that was very bad - but took the steps listed and it was helpful and been proven effective in science - for conditions like OCD which you may suffer with. Practice self-love over all else and stop viewing yourself from a traumatic twisted lense.
I know this might not be an ideal perspective for you to consider coming from a guy but people who judge you from your natural born qualities are not worth having in your life at all anyway. When I speak to women what I look for is what ideas she has. I look for her being consistent and kind, compassionate, and empathetic. I see all these things in you and i can't be then only man that genuinely thinks this way.
Im a 13 yr old girl, and in gym class a boy my age tried to punch me in the chest. I asked him why and his response was "cuz you look like a man"... Oopsie lol.
It’s hard because trying to tell someone different that they are pretty still reinforces shallow feelings and assigning value and good treatment based on something transient like looks. That I’m just affirming arbitrary rules about beauty by noticing that you are symmetrical, have facial harmony and by any measure of beauty are beautiful. But the moment we try to measure beauty we reduce it. Commodify it. lessen it. You’re a cute girl. You’re sadness and pain reads on your face. I’m starting to think the jerks that you had in your proximity that tried to insult you or remind you you’re not pretty noticed you were insecure and took the chance to boost their own confidence by trying to sell you short and make you feel less than.
you don’t have to be pretty to be treated like a person, stick with god be yourself and bealive me.. when the time comes fate wil bring you the exactly right person who you are made for who will love you the way you are
I think shes not posting vids lately because she likes the feeling she gets when we worry about her. She uploads a video about suicide and then POOF the stops uploading. This is my second attempt on sharing my opinion because she deleted my first comment.
Stop with the numbers attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder not everyone is going to think im attractive just like I'm not going to think everyone i see is attractive we are all unique in our own way by the way i do not think you are ugly i don't know if you genuinely think your ugly but I do not see it hope your day gets better hold your head up high
Your not ugly or average dont listen to people us as humans we dont like the way ourselves look it is just a normal thing everyone has there own opinions on what attractive is be yourself dont focus on your looks because your just going to pick yourself apart every time
I clicked on this video to find out if I was going to hear what I think what would be said, and it was said. I genuinely don't believe its possible for a woman not to find a guy. She cannot even fathom the idea there are guys who literally cannot be with 'anyone' as in, its not a matter of choice
If you feel like you are no the standard, then just dont be it. Being normal is boring. Try listening to punk rock or david bowie, you will feel better if you feel like an outcast.
I don’t want to ever settle with someone who I find unattractive. It’s very important in a relationship, unimportant in friendships but as a lover I’m supposed to get close to? I have to find them attractive and as if I could ever get that with how I look
Sweetheart, you honestly need a few minutes with a professional cosmetics stylist (or whatever they're called) and have her highlight your qualities. I mean, at least you're not a guy. All I can do is shave and get a haircut. Please consider my suggestion. Take care; be well.
Honestly, Sweetheart, you aren't ugly at all. If I wasn't aware of your presentation's theme, I would've honestly thought I was seeing a young lady suffering from a bad cold or flu and was just understandably miserable. I sincerely suggest you go to one of those makeup ladies who work in the Department store's cosmetic department and have her highlight your qualities. Take care; be well.
As someone who grew up not necessarily being "ugly" but as feeling I am, I guarantee: you look good, and the more you take care of yourself, the better you'll look. If it's about people not treating you like that, it's because you probably haven't met enough people to find the right ones yet. Beauty may be subjective, but in your case it's just about finding the right crowd. Not saying you should move somewhere looking for people like that, but that in the future you will meet them and when you do, be careful not to let it get to your head. I know it's hard to deal with that. You feel like you're pressured to look out for your looks to please others, but eventually you'll grow out of that phase, and if not, therapy can help and is always good to treat yourself better. How you look for yourself is more important than for others, the only exception being a health concern, then it's better to hear a doctor. Now, if you're saying this because you don't want to be seen as good looking, then I suggest going to a therapist because that's more worrying. Rather it's because of a traumatic event or because of some fear of letting that change you, both affect you negatively so you need to get rid off that mindset. You're sabotaging yourself as a defense mechanism. Either way, you don't have to feel bad about your looks or even wanting to improve them. You're free to do any, as long as you're safe and feel good about yourself. Edit: just saw this is an old video, but if the text speaks to you anyway and fits you somehow, that's all that matters. Just hope my words helped someone out.
