Porn Addiction Is Misunderstood: How To Actually Stop - Dr. K Healthy Gamer 

Good video you beauty

You tease. I want the full version, jk. Got arouse and then fufill. basic buisness model

im so glad you brought on dr k. this man has genuinely changed me from a lifestyle perspective. i cant wait to see him enter more of the mainstream side of podcasting and youtube

Where do you buy your plain tshirts? what is the brand?

Here's the Islamic perspective: In islam this dark force and "whispers" is the voice of satans/demons. There are many satans/demons amongst man and jinn, varying in power. But there is only one "iblis" (he is the original Satan that approached Adam and eve, (may peace be upon them). He has sworn revenge and eniminity towards humanity until the final day. This life is a test to see who repels evil with love/good/patience having believed in God. And follow God's guidance and avoid sin and whispers of iblis/satans. In addition to this our souls (rhuu) have the ability to do both good and bad without the whispers. God tells us to take the path of goodness. The part of our soul that lends ear to desire and weakness and excess love for this worldly things, is called the "nhaffs". When one battles with his nhaffs to do good while a believer they are fulfilling the purpose of their creation. The jinn reside in the filthiest of places. In the home those places are usually the bin or toilet. Guess where the tissue goes after watching po**? This way they gain access to ur seed. The life forming best part of u. And u give it away cheaply for a fleeting pleasure. When this happens a type of magic takes effect and this can amplify their whispers to u. Possibly causing low self-esteem, anxiety, paranoia, self doubt, fear. Notice that distinction sense of guilt, shame, embarrassment straight after PMO. If u were interested this is just a perspective. You are feel to believe and explore as u will. Providing its legal. Peace

"And when you can't find either, one sublimates their life away into finding meaning" - Me.

Let's get real P### IS NOT THE PROBLEM, alcohol is not, neither sugar, nor weed. U name it, SELF control 😅

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"When a person can't find a sense of meaning, they make their pleasure a meaning." - Me

thats common sense how is that a quote

What tipp helpef you the most? I realiced I tried no fap but then porn use increased.

Have you fixed the relationship with your family? God bless you sir I hope it has fixed.

I needed to hear this. Thank you.

I saw thiis on reddit on pornfree

You haven't wasted your life. There's a lot of things you still need to live, so not everything is lost. Even though you suffered a lot in the past, you did your best to eliminate that pain: you have quit porn and masturbation, two habits that are usually problematic and affect a lot of people to this day. Don't look that much to your past, enjoy your present! I hope you have a fantastic life.

It’s not cuz they want us to be addicted lol

You and me both

@@evanmorse8778 that’s the same reason why everything else that’s addictive is legal. Take it from me, a person who is voluntarily excluded from gambling in four states… Making something illegal or putting personal legal consequences on your use of that thing does not make you want to use it less. You have to do the internal work to put yourself in a better mind state.

Even if it was, in the age of the internet, it would pretty much be impossible to keep it out of people’s hands if they want it.

I don't think it should be illegal as people deserve their rights and unlike substance abuse doesn't cause physical harm to others. It's use anyway. Can't speak about its production. However something should absolutely be done. Education if anything.

Keep it up bro

Same goes here, on day 6.

Can you believe near the end of the video they where saying its a problem that we dont want porn normalized?

You still going bro? Keep going strong!

Same! I was exposed to porn at the age of 12. A classmate in elementary school introduced me to porn, anal sex porn for that matter. It has now traumatized my brain like never before. After anal sex got boring, at the age of 15, I started watching a genre called sloppy blowjobs to get a new dopamine high. It has just been downward spiral up until I was age 19. I started slowing down on porn consumption. Age 23 now, one month clean from porn, 40% to a Bachelor’s in CyberSecurity, lost healthy weight, confident, my communication skills has improved.

Okay okay....high effort Dad pun of the year appreciated 😊

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Unexpected second pun made this good.

Prawn hub

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Keep going it’s worth it!

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I quit years ago. I've now realized just how much coping goes into justifying its use. Now I'm totally against its use in many aspects. It's so weird, like it was brain washing.

@@DoubleOhSilver Yeah, makes you wonder what else is programmed into our brains huh

Godspeed in your journey 🙏

THE ONLY WAY TO RECOVER IS FROM PORNOGRAPHY IS TO MASTURBATE WITH YOUR PHONE ❤

Can I email you or get in contact with you somehow

were u a gooner

@@zou8492 no I wasn’t a goner in the sense of being completely consumed by porn but I use to watch it religiously before going to bed. The time watching could vary from 5 mins to an hour, keep trying to get more explicit content to feed my dopamine.

@@rorinotengo173 yes of course you can

@@gearoidmcsweeney6234 how

Big love man

I genuinely saw this and gasped! This was the collab I'd thought in my mind would be awesome and it actually happened! Love your content - working through your Guide. GG.

Dr. K! I found you recently and you have AWESOME material that is so relevant for the modern world and it’s challenges. Thank you!

Here's the Islamic perspective: In islam this dark force and "whispers" is the voice of satans/demons. There are many satans/demons amongst man and jinn, varying in power. But there is only one "iblis" (he is the original Satan that approached Adam and eve, (may peace be upon them). He has sworn revenge and eniminity towards humanity until the final day. This life is a test to see who repels evil with love/good/patience having believed in God. And follow God's guidance and avoid sin and whispers of iblis/satans. In addition to this our souls (rhuu) have the ability to do both good and bad without the whispers. God tells us to take the path of goodness. The part of our soul that lends ear to desire and weakness and excess love for this worldly things, is called the "nhaffs". When one battles with his nhaffs to do good while a believer they are fulfilling the purpose of their creation. The jinn reside in the filthiest of places. In the home those places are usually the bin or toilet. Guess where the tissue goes after watching po**? This way they gain access to ur seed. The life forming best part of u. And u give it away cheaply for a fleeting pleasure. When this happens a type of magic takes effect and this can amplify their whispers to u. Possibly causing low self-esteem, anxiety, paranoia, self doubt, fear. Notice that distinction sense of guilt, shame, embarrassment straight after PMO. If u were interested this is just a perspective. You are feel to believe and explore as u will. Providing its legal. Peace

Dr K is the best! Harvard trained Dr, Yogi and Gamer who has insights that beat most Drs

Have you been a drug addict?

My dude, have you seen crack whores? Or meth heads?

lil bro, having "fantasies" isn't something you recover from. Bad thoughts don't exist, it's completely natural and normal to have immoral thoughs. Acting on them is a different story.

​@@therealzizmon1748 Idiot

⁠​⁠​⁠@@therealzizmon1748 ​​⁠​⁠​⁠ porn addicts see people as sex objects first and foremost. Often regardless of their age or gender. That’s not normal or healthy and definitely something that can be changed.

A lot of my friends even bring up situations that can trigger it. It's hard to find groups that will even understand it, let alone support you.

I feel for you but the thing is you've just made that up. Actual drug addicts do get some empathy, as do porn addicts. But there are a huge contingent of people who just say "shouldn't of done drugs then" and leave it at that

​@@stefanmirica6485you are so right

Check out an SAA meeting. There is support, fellowship, and a solution

Absolutely. One momentary slip up of the wrong type of thoughts and you can relapse before u know it. I’ve been an on and off addict for years now for this reason.

I looked on Fight the New Drug, and one thing that might help is knowledge that the porn industry is notorious for abusive practices toward workers. There is no guarantee that it's been ethically produced. It took the major credit card companies cutting off Porn Hub for it to delete a ton of its stuff.

Not only that, but you actually need technology for your everyday life, which would be the equivalent of needing to carry a bottle of Jim Beam to work if you're an alcoholic.

Using something like Covenant Eyes would help.

Look at it this way: I pay my time, my mental and physical health, I pay my life.

Honestly, he's been one of the most requested guests by you guys so we had to make it happen. The episode is 2 hours long and absolute MONEY. One of my favourites this year. Pepper your angus.

Couldn’t agree more

@@ChrisWillx Thank you for making it happen. His community is genuinely one of the best, most accepting online communities I've found.

I found him first (his longform interviews with regular people are his BEST work) last year and then Jordan Peterson. I've hoped for the two to talk to each other in camera since.

​@@ChrisWillxdude please podcast with Dr Trish leigh

awesome job, how did you stay clean for so long?

Good man

Bro howw?

@@dovidschecter8623 bro dont watch porns i swear there boring ass fuck play fifa mobile at night or watch movies go to Training its better for u...

@@dovidschecter8623follow Jesus Christ he wants the best for you

I’m on day two. One at a time brother.

Let's see who's stronger I'm on the day 1​@@DocMC86

​@@DocMC86day one for me. How you doing

Good shit brother u got this

This is much harder

Right, i completely agree. I have watched him for a while as well, but this is the first video I see of Chris, ever. Man, I gotta say the opposite of your comment is true for this guy. While Dr K articulates himself perfectly and you understand everything he wants to convey, you can't even understand the QUESTION Chris is posing. How can you not articulate a QUESTION when a man on the other side is busting himself to answer and help people?

How pleasurable was it? Could you tell us? Use as much detail as possible and type slowly.

@jessicaras4540Yeah, no. Don’t do this. Grew up one of Jehovah’s Witnesses and it just made me feel like shit whenever I’d relapse, not only am I failing myself, but God’s going to damn me.

Who cares if it’s condescending? Do you want your life back or not?

@@sssweetnesss3483 not really.

⁠@@sssweetnesss3483, he said “ he is NOT condescending”.

THE ONLY WAY TO RECOVER IS FROM PORNOGRAPHY IS TO MASTURBATE WITH YOUR PHONE ❤

THE ONLY WAY TO RECOVER IS FROM PORNOGRAPHY IS TO MASTURBATE WITH YOUR PHONE ❤

Dude it really hit me in the head, when he said the people addicted to porn have been experienced porn before puberty.

Could have been my story with a few alterations, my teen cousin’s were my babysitters, around 4-5 yrs old, and they introduced the porn at that time. Boy did that mess me up, then my middle aged brother in law manipulated me into a sexual relationship the summer before I turned 12. I’ve struggled with what I see as severe perversion since, given the strict moral code found within the Catholic faith that I grew up in. Due to the sex of my abusers I was sickened by males, despite having romantic feelings towards them, but sexually I am only attracted to feminine women. It has been one of my most difficult trials…❤

That's true. I lived in rural America up to my early 20s. I would play video games so much because there was just nothing productive or fun to do that wasn't to get constantly drunk or high. I've been living with my parents for the last 3 years again due to pandemic-related reasons and so has my older brother -- I'm 31 he's pushing 40. My parents went on vacation for a couple of months and I don't have the best relationships with him, so I found myself escaping into video games after work. I felt like when I was younger all over again. I just felt so like, trapped. As for porn, I don't use it as most people do but I think the amount I use is enough to affect me. I had moments where I got deep into it because for years it was touted as "healthy", smh. I think I usually do it when I'm feeling either lonely or when I'm alone and just horny -- sometimes it's been out of boredom. Lately I've been trying to pick up hobbies though, which makes so much damn sense that not having a feeling of purpose helps people get out of that addiction. I'd go as far as saying one needs purpose and an overall healthy lifestyle -- hobbies, relationships, and physically/mentally healthy activities. I was in college and pretty addicted to it, even though my purpose was school, had friends, but my physical/mental health was shitty due to stress and not working out. I'm slowly making strides towards improving myself. I'm better where I was these past 3 years. It's very good to recognize the triggers.

Great words broski

​@@joaquin67 Thank you bro, if I can give you some unsolicited advice, the reason you're both back in the same hosue isn't some coincidence lol i'm deeply spiritual, i'm not going to tell you what to do about it or how to do it but i know the universe doesn't create 'coincidences'. I'm sure you'll get there but pron should be the first thing you kick out. It opens the door to many many other changes, I know it did for me.

​@@jessicaras4540we need a therapist for this person please ^

​@@jessicaras4540"Pretending God is reality works for some, but not all.

​@@jessicaras4540community helps

Women toooooooooo

Do you help women too?

Well you can find a way to work through it now. If you haven't already. I also started rather early and honestly I needed it to survive. Why did you start, what were you dealing with, what are you dealing with now.

I am 17, and was exposed to it at like 14. I should have been more intelligent to avoid. I regret it so much.

@@Aurora-bv1ys that kind of attitude is going to cause you a lot of problems bro. Don’t hate yourself for it. Accept what happened and understand it.

@@coollary1 You know, you're right. I'll won't be bitter, rath I'll be better

@@Aurora-bv1ys keep watching doctor K, and meditate. Dude serious. Meditate

he said men lived life on easy mode when it came to dating and also gave a really awful study about men "opening up" that was called out by several people in which they had to take down the video because it was just an all around awful video.

​@@yeahright3901 where did he say this? I have a feeling it was much more nuanced than what you're presenting.

@@TheDezo0 he said this on a video addressing "incels of the community" and was talking about the dating scene. And no. He said it word for word. Regardless of context saying that is inexcusable. He didn't even apologize for it and at best he said "we at healthy gamer arent the best at tackling gender problems". Its just scummy and gross.

@@yeahright3901 kinda shocked and scared by the fact that most people don't understand how useless those online therapists are, it's literally an info-scums, same as all those celebrities with their "motivational" videos which all looks the same and very cliche and dumb

@@CamelliaFlingertit’s crazy because you actually whole heartily believe you’re right and you’re probably miserable. He’s helped me so it does help in a way, just because you’re miserable doesn’t mean everyone else is. If he doesn’t help you thne move on, stop leaving these comments.

Not only that, but the comparing yourself to the guys can make you feel inadequate, because often they are ripped, have a ton of stamina, and are very well endowed. Some guys can screw for hours without ejaculating and they can go like jack-rabbits for most of that time. I would lose it in five minutes at best, usually long before the woman felt satisfied.

It is indeed a very difficult desire to not succumb to, because how deep it's ingrained in our biology as humans to reproduce. But nonetheless there's a natural way to combat the desire. It has been shown that loneliness corelates very strongly to porn usage, hence why I myself am still struggling to quit. It's easier said that done, but try to prioritize social contact with whomever and if that's not possible, find meaning in other activities to fill your day so you won't get the urge as often and strong.

Then why you dont put that time and energy into getting real life women who look and fuck like that? Loooksmixing, game , social skills, using tinder and other apps, meeting women in real life ect. To actually moving towards your goal.

Hire prostitutes instead of desiring a girlfriend, this way she will be able to satisfy you like a porn-star, and unlike with having a girlfriend you will still have freedom

Well said.

I highly recommend the book “The Importance of Suffering” by James Davies.

@@arnoldcantu9583 thanks for the rec ! I'll give it a try

Yeah, thats a very fleeting part of the video but is something that far too many people need to hear and understand. Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it is inherently bad or should be banned. We live in a strange time where some of the people who preach tolerance and acceptance are some of the most closed minded people you could hope to meet and they don't see the contradiction.

1000000% this. I have access to sex but most of the time instead of inviting someone over, which might be a 30min-2hour process depending on how quickly they come, I’ll just masturbate. Porn has made relationships harder for me because they feel like too much effort.

If you are a guy that the girls actually want, there is little effort you need to put into it. If you are an average dude, don’t bother.

Well, as I said, there is still the physical effort required to actually perform sex. Also, you definitely should make efforts. I’ve personally witnessed myself, average looking guys who do have a partner. Beside, how do you determine if you, yourself, are pretty or average? We’re not really our best judge.

@@cubescihist6737 I guess by the level you attract females...

This is ironically why sex and porn are two completely different things. If porn was as hard as having sex then it wouldn't be nearly as appealing to people.

Ya not for me. Much harder giving up crack and booze. I think it depends on the person.

@@filippians413 isn't crack on a league of it's own when compared to Alcohol? Like a league with all the best canonical hard drugs like meth, heroin and other like substances?

Thanks, so when does he talk about how to stop like the title implies

For those wondering...this is how you lose your family. The porn takes over your brain and becomes your priority. It becomes the coping mechanism fir all your problems. You ignore the ones that love you, porn becomes the great escape.

Thanks my g!

I have no idea how a man can prefer his death grip hand to an actual real vagina. For me it's the exact opposite. Maybe that's why so many dudes are obsessed with butthole these days

My life motto has been "Real Men Don't Bust" and/or "Real Men Say No!" That way no woman can ever reject you if you don't express interest, and no woman can falsely accuse you of rape 37 years later if you don't put it in. C'mon bro. Porn use has become political!! Last time I climaxed with a woman was April 1, 2010. But I bet you I've orgasmed closer to 5,000 times since with OUT any need or participation from a woman. (aka: "the assholes of the world"). Not busting lets the woman know she has NO purchase or power over you. See, it's men chasing women who have become simps. It's pitiful. Women today have absolutely ZERO value and totally NOTHING to offer a man. A vagina?? Wow.

I mean, that's better than premature ejaculation. I'd venture to say it's the only positive part of porn use in men from the female satisfaction pov. I want to make it clear I think porn is one of the worst things people can get addicted to and nobody should be using porn too much and it's better to not use it at all. That being said, we can all agree that one of women's biggest problems when they have sex with men is their inability to go for as long as women like them to go. You see a conversation between women with no judgement and they'll always mention that a lot of guys simply can't last. Whether it's ED or premature ejacultation, that's a big issue. So the ONLY good thing of all the effects porn has might be just that. If those guys don't already have ED, they can at least go for some time. Even then though like I said, I want to be very clear that obviously that doesn't at all make it a positive to be addicted to porn or anything like that. I very obviously advice against it's use.

I had that problem, it was SSRI’s. Now im on the other end of the spectrum

yep, i'm 15 months free. Figure out why you're using it in the first place, what you running away from? and now that you're 6 months off, what are you using as a substitution for pron? caffine? games? weed? Are you dealing with yourself first and foremost? I could go deeper into this but it is a journey that will last your whole life, congrats on opening your eyes, it gets deeper form here on in. Pron won't be the only thing you 'quit'

@dejuren try quitting for 30 days and tell me how you do LMFAO

@@dejuren1367 well first, it's gay because you are touching a man's p3nie, but it also takes away your drive, your will to go seek it in real life

@dejuren It's shameful because youre watching people have sex... and pleasuring yourself to it. masterbation on the other hand has the handful of benefits but the cons out weigh them 10 fold, all i recommend is to do your own research (youtube,medical studies) and you will see what its actually doing to you. Also just to get you a perspective imagine watching yourself in the third person view watching porn and masterbating and then you will probably see why its shameful...

The problem is the more you do it the less desensitized you get, while also depleting your body of vital nutrients needed

@@jessicaras4540 I asked God for help, that’s why I’m here.

​@@ryanbailey8588i know right. God failed the task a long time ago 😅

It’s just so damn available and connects to innate drives! It is so so damn hard. Good job cleaning up life man :)

I agree. Externally injected test makes one fukin horny

Read The Freedom Model

@@RandomKing_12 Never give up. One day at a time. If you mess up tell God you are sorry and ask for help. You can do it. 👍

Well, you have a wife, so you have sex with her. What about people who don't have partners? Most people who don't masturbate have partners, so it's not that hard for them.

Or find a partner who enjoys porn too. Porn with your partner is fun

great response

Haven’t you seen ‘Don Jon’?

I believe in you! Everytime you try and every time uou get up after falling you improve and grow and improve!! You can do it!

My dude, if you are not having a sex life, you are just trying to deny your sexual desires lol. Unless you are watching porn and fapping every day - you dont have an addiction. If you are doing it once to 3 times a week - you are fine. Coz thats the amount of sex your body would have been happy with. Seek out real women, invest in looksmaxing, game, social skill, new skills , hobbies, education, ect but dont feel bad coz you choked the chicken once a week coz you dont have a gf. lol.

You might not be religious but one thing I did was return to church (now go every Sunday) after so many years. I confessed (personally) to God about my sin of lust and have been porn free for several months. The physical urge is wearing off but the visual practice off watching is gone. My advice to you is to find something that gives you moral obligation to do better!

How'd u do?

@@jamisonbernhardt3310 so far moderation. It’s been tapering off. Every now and again I delete videos from my computer. Beyond that I’ve also been very busy with my art so I don’t want to waste the time I have on porn.

:(

think like it's a skill, your assest, one of your strengths developed for years of effort. now that you cared for yourself long enough.. you now have to take care of yourself family emotionally,financially.. for that you have to do something meaningful for the society.. you can only do it if your willing to sacrifice or put yourself under healthy amount of stress. cuz world is also so selfish and so complex that nothing comes freely, or comes instantly as you wish. you gotta provide some value.. wishing you best times ahead

Interesting. Most people (men) use porn because of lack of quality women/ sex. Im curious, what kind of porn categories get you off? I'm 48, and personally, I've found that sex is outrageously BORING compared to porn. As an avid user since 1985, to this day, after sex many times, with many different women, I can honestly say, PORN is 1,000x times better than sex could ever be. Sex to me, is nothing more than an over-rated, underwhelming, boringly objective social construct. BORING. Many women lived for decades, centuries, never achieving any orgasm. Good luck!

I was addicted to porn since like 11 or 12, porn caused me no interest in real women, absolutelly 0. Also the difference is with porn you can go every day 3-5 orgasm, no rest. With real women wouldnt be possible. Its too bad for mens brain, because girls are too hot. And low testosterone because of nonstop orgasm is real thing,thats why men are lazy nowdays,less musclular, less facial hair. But it will not stop, its too late, people are exposed to p.rn in very young age, thats why we have tons of single men and women are either sharing guys who live old-school life or single as well. I am on semen retention actually my highest streak 27 days. No masturbstion no orgasm no porn,also closing eyes/no sound when there is erotic scene in movie. I wish you luck, i would like to know if girls were also addicted to p. rn i thought its mens thing.

You have intimacy issues i guess, sort it out

​@@jessicaras4540I've prayed until I cried my eyes out...promise I would never do it again. Next day...watching porn. Just praying won't stop you from watching porn. You have to find the root cause along with support and love.

You would love his channel. Healthy Gamer GG.

Because he knows the science. Same thing with Jordan Peterson, people online were not used to that, it blew their mind. There is a difference between those who have read 100 books on productivity and those who studied the science behind it for decades

@@drchtct It's the science for sure, but both Peterson and Dr K are highly influenced by religion/tradition/spiritual practices as well. There is a lot of wisdom in those areas we cannot yet explain with science. This is where even many scientists fall short, imo.

@@okaySam True. Maybe I should have said they are very well educated, and combine spiritual wisdom with rigid science, and life experience. They have a deeper knowledge than the average 23-year old "I read the 4-hour work week" self-help guru who can only talk about the surface problems often times. That's what I wanted to express.

@@drchtct Agreed

@@drchtctStudied extensively and constantly, as well as had a large amount of experience.

For all his "this isn't a replacement for therapy" - I spent hundreds on therapy in London, from a well known and reviewed therapist - and it was borderline useless compared to the value I've gotten from Dr.K. His videos, and particularly "Dr.K's Guide" are very solutions orientated. Thats what I needed - therapy might be helpful for some people, but this was much better for me personally.

@@The_Reductionist Therapy has become too oriented to just talking out your week's problems and not feeling guilty or lonely about them. That's why people like Jordan Peterson and now Dr. K have become so popular, SOLUTION-ORIENTED. It's very common nowadays for people to feel helpless and every day there's less need to eat well or meet people or even leave your house, so it's way easier to spiral down.