Yess the high expectations is sooo real tip like I could have a 94 in math and my litttlr sister could get a C and my parents don’t mind and also the blaming always happens I hate it
Same, but my parents treat me and my younger brother according to our ages. Sometimes I feel they spoil me too much, like treat me like a child younger than my age (I like it). So as an oldest child I can't relate to this. They treat my younger brother the way they treated me at his age. Btw, this (the way my parents treat us) is common in my country.
@@tahiti-themagicalplace7007I’m a oldest child and this is how my younger sister is treated. It’s bad parenting it’s just some people don’t accept the fact that some parents are bad. I’m sorry for you.
This is literally my life: I'm tired of having to go home afraid that someone will tell me something because I got an A- instead of an A/A+. I'm tired of always having to have a thousand responsibilities. I'm tired of being blamed for anything. And I’m not perfect, my sisters CAN’T be like me because my life isn’t the best. Finally someone who understands me. Thanks girl, I respect you 💕
I non stop study to make my parents proud as they're always digging into me that I need to work harder so I don't end up like them and I can achieve my dreams. This makes me extremely ambitious and rarely get to do things that I want to do. But they don't realise this. They always call me lazy and say I spend to much time in my room but it's were I do my work and the other bit of time I have left is what I would actually spend in my room. I'm really stressed out alot of the time but they don't think I can be because I'm "just lazy" and think I'm using it as an excuse. I rarely want to eat, I struggle with sleep and sometimes don't, I lack motivation but when I have motivation, I REALLY have it, I have so many procrastinating thoughts, I pull my hair, etc. but they don't realise any of it. However, teachers who barely know me know more of it than them and have even told them but my parents just ignored it and got worse. However, they're always bragging about my intelligence to their friends but then moan because I don't/can't help out with chores as much and constantly compare me to my cousin who always does chores because she doesn't focus on school work like I do and has time but she gets paid for it.
this so relatable. especially the getting blamed part. people are always like “you’re lucky you’re the oldest.” no, come on. if this is luck, i’ve been lied to lol
Ikr, my brother had a broken toy and he blamed me for when I did nothing about it, I am a teenager I don't want anything to do with the toy! Yet I got blamed, but the thing is, now I have been blaming him right back for stuff that I know he never did and now I am the " rude person", sometimes you never win being oldest 😔
this is so accurate. being the oldest also ment you had to pick up the whole house cause your siblings "don't do it as good as you" or some stupid reasons like that.
No I swear it’s first like: “you have to be a good role model, you should be a good example for your younger sibling” Then it’s like: “you should be like your younger sibling” I just don’t understand parents sometimes
@@CopperxxIt's a fundamental fact that some parents are ... well, I don't want to insult anyone so I won't say it. But it would be nice if they stopped and thought of the adverse impact on their kids for once.
Nothing feels worse than getting As all throughout elementary, being exited to tell your parents and them being just as excited, then the reaction slowly fading into ‘well that’s just the expectation’ then the only response you get when you work your ass off in high school to have a 4.0 and they barely blink twice. Then you get another sibling, and the expectation for them is barely Cs because ‘they’re not like you, they’re like I was in high school.’
Listen to this: So my entire elementary and middle school life, I gave my parents straight As, except a couple of times in middle school where they were Bs. I'm going to eleventh grade. A couple of months ago, I got a C. My father got the audacity to start calling me a "C Student." I'm still hurt by this bullcrap. And now my youngest brother uses it on me in arguments, knowing it hurts. No one even cares anyway. I'm "just being too sensitive"
I am the oldest so i can relate a ton. They always blame me for something my sister did. Like if she made a huge mess. My parents would say it’s my fault. Its not fair 😔
I’m a younger sister but an older cousin, so I can at least relate a bit when it comes to that. “You’re older so you should’ve stopped him” but when you act older “You’re not his parent, stop that”. You can’t win.
I can relate a lot to the last one, it’s always like my mum doesn’t even care, she always blaming me for everything that my little brother does, when we get in a argument she blames it on me saying I must of done something to annoy him
I am the oldest sibling and I can relate soo much. I also love how you make people understand what problems people around you feel, and what they have to deal with. I will definetly recomend your channel to my friends (even though I have only 1)
Bro can’t relate my older sister can do whatever she wants and won’t get in trouble for it, like she stole the rent money once. But I feel bad for every other older sibling they have it rough.❤
@@flimedbylia i told her and she just said hit him back and when i did i got a whole lecture about how he is older and my brother and as his sister i should respect him
@@niggasgang8784 I mean he has a PS5 he doesn’t even use that he got for Christmas. I had to return a gift or 2 so I could get a laptop, shoulda returned the PS5.
as an oldest child and a middle child I can proudly say I love looking after my siblings there so funny, smart and interesting and also I love kids as long as they're not those kids that keep asking for your phone and then your parents force you to give it to them
As the oldest child I'm happy to see finally someone who values the oldest child but Yeah it's pretty accurate we always get blamed for things we didn't do (and the rest is also true
The "just revise harder next time" is so real, like I did my very best and you guys said you'd be proud of me but when I do my best I just get hit with a "try harder next time" like what?😭
This is me fr i love ur vids they r so helpful, especially as an autistic kid with anxiety and bpd and eating disorders/body shame. i have become so much more confident since i subbed so ty
The high expectations one is so relatable especially because I am "smarter" than most people so my parents expect me to do really well even though I am bad at tests
The grades one especially hurts when your younger sibling(s) get a higher grade and your parents are all proud of them but say "Its ok. Just try harder next time" to u
Very true I am the oldest and it’s hard bc u try rly hard and shit and you just want to take one break but the u feel like you didn’t do enough or u think u r disappointing ur parents and if u feel like this too just know that ur not the only one out there and it will always get better❤❤❤❤
This is sooo true the oldest child always gets the blame like me but it is not our little sisters falt it feels like that our parents don't even care about us only the youngest child
As the oldest sibling in my family, I can say that this is true. Also my brother takes advantage of him being the youngest to blame everything on me and get in trouble. There's more down sides than positive effects to being the oldest.
The funny thing is that I actually relate to this it’s my day to day life of the oldest child and I started to talk back but then just decided that it’s not worth my time
As an oldest child I'd like to say that this happens alot and it feels bad tbh it lead me into deep depression! SO ALWAYS KEEP UR HEAD HIGH AND NEVER LET SOMEONE MAKE U FEEL SMALL! ❤❤❤
