Pros & Cons of LIVING WITH YOUR PARENTS in your late 30's 

Let me know in the comment section ? What are the Pros and Cons of Living at Home with your parents?

I’m 34, will be 35 in August and I’m still at home. I don’t mind it and don’t care what anyone says. I pay rent and help with utilities. My parents don’t bother me and I don’t bother them. I’m saving money and I’m able to go and do what I want when I want to. I don’t have a husband or kids, it’s just me. I don’t want to pay $1200-1600 for a one bedroom apartment & I don’t want to live in a house alone. Im going back to school in August and I have to go part time so I’m happy to be able to stay home in peace. Im happy to have parents that allow me to stay there, not everyone has that blessing.

As I age (close to 40), I realized it is best to make decision based on what works for you and not based on what other ppl think you should. Because people could judge same event differently depending on whom/when they make comment about it.

I am 32 , not married or have children and live at home with my mother . My mother is up in age and needs assistance. I am not where I want to be in life to live on my own . We help each other . She needs me and right now I need her. I am trying to finish my degree and I want to start my masters degree. I pray that God sends me a husband lol , but I want to be out of my childhood home before 35 .

It’s a blessing to even have the option. That’s the pro!

Tomorrow it's my 38 birthday. I'm living on my own since I was 20. I'm really considering going back to live with my mom. My landlord again wants to raise the rent I live in for 10 years and already I pay too much. Been moving so many appartments and lived in shitty places. I feel like a failure but I'm tired of chasing my own tail and not getting anywhere financially. Thank you for the video

I sold my condo and moved away and got home sick. Now rent and condos are so pricey I am just staying with my parents until I fully get back on my feet. I am 38yrs old and nice to see others doing the same! I might just stay until I meet Mr. Right lol

i’m currently thinking of moving back with my parent in my early 30’s so that i can save up some money

I’m 31 and single with no kids.i still live with both my parents. I’m experiencing work burn out/severe anxiety/overall laziness and depression that I just quit my job and now I’m not even paying rent anymore.My parents are disappointed because I quit my job.Honestly I feel like a huge loser that needs to grow up.I don’t know what I’m going to do anymore.

I know I’m late but I just turned 39 and I’m not married, no children and my beliefs are similar. I was living on my own until Covid turned everything upside down in 2020. It’s been 3 years and now I’m having the hardest time living at home because I sometimes feel like a kid still, eventhough I am grown. My parents are still married so I deal with two personalities all the time and I work from home. Just like you I pay rent and help monetarily around the house with other things because I definitely feel it’s fair. Way cheaper then doing it by myself. I’m now considering moving because I really need my own space and I work from home full-time so it’s becoming an issue. I’m trying to wait on God but the wait has been so long. Thank you for posting this because I don’t think many people understand and it’s so nice to find someone else in the same place. ❤

I’m 33 and I have a one bedroom apartment but I’m waiting until my lease is up and imma move back in my parents house and stay rent free. So I can save up for my house and pay off my college debt

I'm from Sri Lanka (South Asian) and we have a similar cultural norm here too where it's not weird to live with your parents as adults either. It goes beyond the economic conveniences to live with them. Me being in my 30s, I do get into my head space a lot feeling like a failure to be living with the family so I hear you...there's pros and cons definitely.

I’m laid off from work and my lease is up in July. I’m really thinking about moving back home. This inflation is killing me.

Number two in the "CONS" section is REAL! I am a 40 year old baby! My parents and even aunts still send me money randomly. I love it! I wouldn't change it for anything. I have a very supported tribe. I lived with my parents til I was 17, moved to NC, went to college, had a baby at 22, then moved back home. Stayed home til 29, moved out got married at 30, had another baby at 32. Separated from my husband, moved back home with my parents at 33 and was there til I was 36! There is nothing wrong with living with your parents. In my case, my parents helped me with my kids. My mummy cooked meals everyday and my daddy picked up the kids from school while I worked. While I lived with them, I paid the utilities because they had no mortgage. I think the only people who have something to say negative about it have bad relationships with their parents. I had friends and even cousins that envied me because I could always rely on my family. I can't help it that I'm the favorite! LOL!

I’m 29 and I always lived with my grandma who adopted me. For me even if we didn’t see eye to eye most times for me the Pro to this was being with her until her last days she just passed away in march so I got to enjoy her until God picked her up. Con would be I was sometimes treated as a child with her getting upset at me for chores she needed me to do her way even though I did chores my own way. Still I’m thankful to God for being able to be around her until her last days. Most times I did feel like a loser like there’s so many people my age who live on their own.half of me was thinking one day she will be gone and I don’t any any regrets on the time I couldn’t or wouldn’t spend with her. Now she’s gone and I feel like it’s a great time to not like with parents anymore even though she was the only parent I had left

Thank you. I needed to see this, how a woman my age speaks about living with the parents and doesn't justify for doing so ❤ It's stupid to think that I am a failure because I don't spend 70% of my salary on a 35 sqm flat just to be like everyone else. I spend that money on my loved ones and to support my family. I'd love to live in separate apartment next door to have that me time or have the silence I need as an introvert. But there is nothing bad about being around your parents while they are still alive.

I am 40 gotta move back in... feel disappointed in myself but need to start over my apartment was Hella 2 years toxic. Wish me luck :( idk

I'm 37 I've never left home unless when I was travelling and engaged I'd be gone six months abroad. But still in a family house lol. I've just recently graduated, single and unemployed. I'm African and my mums only child left since my brother passed last year. When I was younger I never envisioned my life like this. Now I just want to be close to my mum but I also now feel trapped. That being said I do feel God has a plan and my mum is the sweetest and honesty wants the best for me but I have realised I've been spoiled and molly cuddled so I'm working on being more independent and getting out into the world. I really want to spoil her when I gain employment. I'm also very traditional and honestly desire to be a homemaker. I'm so grateful to have God and my mother but I do feel I need to be more independent. However she's my best friend and I'm all she has now and she's also retired so I just want to take care of her as much as possible.

I love your self awareness! It’s such a super hero strength and it was a joy listening to your story, thanks for sharing 😊

I love this! Keep living with them for as long as you can ❤

Lol I just turned 32 years old. I have a college degree and work full time but still live with my Mom. I really don’t know how I should make out of this. My Mom doesn’t seem bothered by it at all. I was contemplating of buying my own place but she told me what’s the point of buying a place when I will inherit one of her houses one day. I did read a lot of financial books that from an investment perspective home ownership can be a very expensive decision and can be burdensome.

I am so grateful that I am not alone 🦋 I love living with my parents. I’d prefer a greater house that could afford the growth of my children as well and I wished my mother had boundaries on who she allowed to live with her and who she didn’t. Other than that; I could be good if you need it to be good 🦋

Everyone considering going home to save money..be.. go save your money.. be a grown kid and let your parents have their baby back.. you'll be so grateful you did

Totally understand the point about when u live with your parents, u keep child-like qualities. This is something i observed about my mom that i resent. When i was around 7 years. My mom got pregnant by a married man. When this happened, she uprooted me and my big sis from our home which had been made in one state and moved back home to her mothers house. Within 2 years of living with my gram and papa, we moved into our own home 7 mins away. But even still my gram was a huge part of my life which i cherish. But in alot of ways, its like my gram became more of the mom and my mom was just not very maternal at all. For example, we went over my gramma's house virtually daily to eat. My mom hardly ever cooked for us. I resent this because i never got to see my mom actually take the responsibility of fully committing herself to being a mother. Even to this day, she wont move from that town though it hasn't been good to her. She keeps making the excuse of her mother is there, so she has to stay. I left at 17 and never been back. My mother is not in good mental or emotional state and its multiple reasons but this is one in my opinion. I feel that she stays stuck in a kid mentality of having to be told what to do instead of taking a stand for herself and it impacts her decision-making and ultimately her health and happiness. Not saying this is your situation, it clearly doesn't sound that way. But just reiterating your point that being under your parents forever can stifle u in ways that rob you of fulfillment and happiness and productivity and confidence that comes from bein dependent on yourself.

super helpful and informative video! and thank you for saying that about taking on childlike behaviors- i paused the video, ran downstairs, and took care of the kitchen.

Thank you for your video! And you are not loser if you live with your parents but in contrary you are very rational person who can have rational spends of money. Good luck to you! 😝👪😜

Definitely related to this! Thought it was just me thinking like that in regards to me time 😅

It's weird because most of my friends that don't live with their parents, have been handed apartments to live by their parents, so they only have to worry about making some money to pay for food and bills. And the rest of friends that don't live with their parents have coupled and they support themselves as a team, or they find support on both families from both sides. I have only one friend that actually works and pays for all his rent and all, but he got lucky and got into a friend's company that gave him a very fine job selling coffee. It's all weird, most of them have inherited apartments, cars or even jobs. I'm 37, I'm a musician and have always struggled with money, I've been independent for 10 years now, renting places to live and paying all my bills and food. My parents didn't give me anything, which is weird because my parents did inherit an apartment and a car when they got married in the 70s. Ah, what a hell.

I’m 28 and moved out… it’s been 4 months and I’m considering moving back … I feel so happy when I go visit home- I feel sad having to leave 🥹 I have reales benefits of living alone such as peace and quiet/ privacy and my own space but that’s literally IT. I haven’t had any friends over, I’m older now so I haven’t had any guys over like I probably would have in my early 20’s… the only thing I’ve been able to do is that I couldn’t do there is foster kittens and dogs.. and I don’t even want to do that anymore LOL I’ll probably be home very soon. This video made me feel better, there’s just so many mixed opinions on my mind about it

Exactly …. My friends live at home

I’m moving back home to save money and to build my credit score up so me and my daughter can live in a better environment. Moving back home is going to be a burden lifted off my shoulders

I lived with my parents for 3 years after moving back home, bought a condo moved out for 2/3 years then moved back home due to the pandemic and my condo not being conducive for my puppy. I put my condo on rent and have the help I need from them not to mention I spent several months of this year dealing with medical issues. I couldn't do it without them 😁

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Me and my mom's live together. My dad passed away then my grandmother got sick. She soon passed there after. Now my grandfather is sick. So being close to my family is most important to me. I stayed in another state for some time but i ended up being on the road every weekend to come home. So I decided to move in with my mom. Split the bills. And I'm good.

I like it

I see nothing wrong with living at home with your parents. The way I was raised was you don’t leave home until marriage. And some people are actually not ready to leave home when they think they are.

I live with my parents because I mutually pay for mortgage but I love my them so much and I want to be with them and support them for their last days, I feel shameful about my situation but I don't feel like I should have to.

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31 years old and living with my parents since I was born😅. I have had only a job in my life of two months which allowed me to save money for travel. Moving soon and excited for it, want to do it, get married one day and have my own home

This only works of your parents like and respect you.

Exactly thanks … I live at home at 30 going on 31 I just cannot financially sustain myself ….

I hope my kids would live at home if they are still in the same state as us. They’ll pay rent, BUT my plan is to save it so they can have even more of a down payment for their first home. Prayerfully, there’s a basement or FROG in the house so they can still feel like they live independent. Annnnd married almost 9yrs andI require daily me time, even if that’s just 20-30mins. However, hubby & I also have mastered the art of being alone together, might be touching in one or another but we’re both engrossed for a time in whatever we want and not conversing, & he knows when I’m talking to myself vs him 😂😂😂

Moved back with my parents to save a clean $50k for the year. I’ve been renting for almost 10 years. I’m over it. I’m ready for ownership. So saving money back home so within year 1 or 2 I can purchase a condo.

This is necessary in today’s economy

That’s my worst nightmare 😅

You can stay with your parents as long as you have a job. Because living with them without it is terrible. It’s frustrating, you experience judgment, humiliation and they treat you like a child. I’m suffering so much because at the age of 33 I have no job, I’m still finishing university, no friends and no boyfriend. I’m in pain almost every single day but I have faith in God. I hope that one day everything will be fine also for me :(

What 20 ,30 , 40 age enjoyed your and be happy 😊👍

SoOo related to this ,,,

I’ve been struggling to be at peace with this … I’m 30, finally graduated - started my masters, got a great paying job but the market in my area is RIDICULOUS. But here’s the thing - my partner of over 4 years doesn’t seem to care about us living together because he rents his own overpriced apartment. Idk-I’ve been in my feels about this stuff lately

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There’s lot woman w kids who live at home too remmeber that and the grandparent shelling because there’s a dusty dad or dads . We r single and I don’t pay rent because my parents home paid off they just want me to have for me I do buy grocery or what ever my mom ask for but that’s sll

Now living with your parents at 30 and beyond is trendy 😅

Everyone has a different experience and story. No criticism from me. Late 30s living with family as well. Looking for a good woman to start a family with and lives to build together.

I'm 36 years OLD STILL LIVES WITH MY PARENTS AND IN A 4 RELATIONSHIP RECENTLY loss my baby October 10/11/22 so don't nobody has room to laugh and picking because working and saving money helped

I’m 39 years old and single parent I got job I’m still living with parent most money go into my son so my parent help out and cheaper

If their normal people then this is OK mine are nuts 😂

got into argument with mine about chores

If anyone is against people depending on their parents , here's a tip...Dont take out student loans.

Im trying to get my boyfriend to move back with me 😭🤣🤷‍♀️. I'm like you know how much money we will save rent is between $1700-1900 for a good 1 bedroom. I'm like this sounds like a great plan and he don't want to do it like be smart now so we don't suffer in the future.

Im 37..i bought my own home 2 years ago and wasnt doing well living alone...im gay in a small town and meeting a partner is not an option so i moved back in with my parents after 2 yrs...i hate them more than ever and they hate me too...i am lookin forward to getting the fuck out of here

Remmeber guys our parents r getting f older this is it once we leave we most likely will have our own home our own family husband kids some day our parents are in 50-60s now if we are 30-40 at home is true is different living home now … Right gurl most immigrant families or kids w immigrant parents get it

I’m here not married no kids and I was able to save rebuild credit and our home paid off I do whatever I want t ohhhh see im Asian my parents want me here just like you ur not married me neither… kids w immigrant parents will get it my brothers stayed til they bought homes right before pandemic before 30 and not it’s so bad. See! I did same thing thinking I’d find someone to buy a home n settle w etc but they r broke lazy I realize I gotta get the house my self I’m ready credit wise have my small business I’m good but now I’m freezing my eggs I’m 37 I just don’t trust men to even do 50/50 and 50:50 means u still need them or they need u. I never wanna be stuck on a relationship I never was I would just leave

Your problems isn't that you live alone, the problem is you need a life partner

There is a lot mental problems today, people who can't handle a job or social interactions. I don't recommend therapy or pharmas. You need atencion, thats it.

Well I’ll give my two cents from a guy, “man’s” perspective…firstly, if you have a job and feel financially stable enough, you tend to want to become independent and want to ‘spread your chest’ and move into your own space. As for a woman, especially living with both parents, I can see why they would not just prefer, but they would tend to stay at home longer because of a sense of security.🤷🏿‍♂️

This is terrible. What about the parents? Do they really WANT to subsidize their adult kids indefinitely? Do they ever want to reclaim their privacy? She needs to move out.