PSYCHOTHERAPY - Donald Winnicott 

Winnicotts definition of love: "Love is about a surrender of the ego, a putting aside of one’s own needs and assumptions, for the sake of close, attentive listening to another person, whose mystery one respects, along with a commitment not to get offended, not to retaliate, when something so-called ‘bad’ emerges, as it often does, when one is close to someone, particularly a child or even an adult."

everytime I feel down about criticism I often receive about how I raise my child as a single parent, I watch this video and feel a little bit better. It's tough.

This is an excellent overview and distillation of Winnicott's work, so clear, so concise. But given the critical importance of his concept of the "good enough" mother (or "good enough" parent) to his psychology, could you perhaps make another video focusing on this? It doesn't have to be a great video, a "good enough" one will suffice.

Raising children is normally looked down upon in our society as a job for people too slow to achieve. The biggest effect most of us have in this world is our children. For good or bad, the choices they make after you have instilled a moral compass will effect generations to come. Well after your death, things you did or did not do for your children will be felt. I would like to thank every person who cares for a child. You have changed the world. I pray we always strive to change it for the better.

很不错的视频，很有洞察力的心理学家，引起了我的很多共鸣，我就有一个有心病的爹，从小就把他巨大的期望压到我身上，而且我都感觉他这个人有心理疾病对自己的家人都特别苛刻，但是我小时候特别懂事就拼了命地满足他对我的要求，我一直过得很压抑、很不开心，直到遇到我的女朋友我才慢慢走了出来。说真的，碰到差劲的父母，懂事的孩子真的没有糖吃，太懂事就会压抑自己的欲望和需求，对自己很不好。但是一味地寻找过去的原因是没有用的，要通过不断地行动去改变自己的生活，想得再多也是没有用的

".......that small, mysterious, beautiful, fragile person whose unique otherness must be respected in full measure" Very beautiful lines really! Thank you. They reminded me of a book from my reading list, by the wonderful writer Andrew Solomon. I thought I should mention it here, for anybody interested. Because it is all about that " otherness" from which we all suffer in one way or another. It took him about 10 years to finish the book. They call it a " monumental work". Here is the information I copied: "Solomon’s startling proposition in Far from the Tree is that being exceptional is at the core of the human condition-that difference is what unites us. He writes about families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, or multiple severe disabilities; with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal, and Solomon documents triumphs of love over prejudice in every chapter."

In providing the gentle introduction snd getting me to reach out for literature I had no prior exposure to, this video as all the others are invaluable. Thank you! 💕

This has been very insight. It is so good to see someone who had that much foresight in the early development of psychology with children and parenting. Some of the these mentioned here I can definitely relate in my own life with my parents as I was growing up!

In the late 70's, Dr. Rachel Pinney, used Donald Winnicotts model of parenting translated into intensive child directed play therapy. It was an astonding success and many children healed themselves within this environment. The therapists were trained in creative listening and non judgemental listening. Dramatic play a function of the creative imagination and way to play out in 3D whatever issue was formost in the child's experience. There were always at least 2 adults present to fill the roles the child wanted to play out. Danger, damage and impropriety were responded to and defined by the therapist in order to create a safe environment for the child and others in the therapeutic space. Children quickly understood the potential for self direction and intuitively worked on the issues that they needed to see clearly. The process was Creative Listening.

Wow, finding your channel has made me so happy!!! One source for so much information!! Thank you so much!!

Carl Rogers and Carl Jung please! The shadow and the core conditions of a psychotherapeutic relationship are really relevant!

I just recently found this channel and i want to say to the people who created it, THANK YOU from the bottom of my hearth. you are changing so many peoples life for the best.keep up the good work.

Parenting: the most important yet the most taken for granted job. Funny how it is the only job which everyone indulges in yet no one trains for. Do people realise the value in it?? You're raising a goddamn psyche! A completely vulnerable psyche!! And then you blame the psyche for being the way it is! 👏

Having never heard or read of winicot myself, i can only agree with what he proposes. In my patients and my own life all the negative feelings and behaviors seem traceable to a disfunctional adaptation during childhood, often cause by bad parenting in combination with other factors. I suspect we would need very few psychotherapists if we could come up with a good method for parenting and have all parents learn it before they have children. Most parents are bad parents out of ignorance, not out of being assholes.

Beautifully told, I love the narrator's voice.

*.* I love "The School of Life" ! It is the best channel on youtube. thank you for the great videos :)

First, i wanted to thank you. Your videas and articles have really helped me to develop in an emotional, in a philosophical and in an intellectual sense. I read and watch them almost every day. I also wanted to suggest, to make a video about Viktor Frankl, the founder of Logotherapy. Other than Freuds "will to lust" or Adlers "will to power", he emphazises on the "will to meaning" (taking Kierkegards philosophy as a reference point). Being the meaninglessness of the everyday life nowadays a widespred condition, I think it would be good to share his main ideas.

As a counselling student wrestling with Klien's Object Relations this has been really helpful and I especially love the humorous picture play which helps get the information into my brain in the nicest way. Thank you SOL!

This is my new favourite. I was a little bit familiar with Winnicott's work, but this video is excellent and I am sharing it on social media at once!

The volume on all of these is really low. When I plug in a speaker and turn it up to where I can comfortable hear the narrator, a horribly loud commercial comes on and blows my speaker out. Please increase the volume, and I bet you will get more views and likes on all of the videos on this channel.

He is amazing. His approach is so so helpful.

yeah I agree they could benefit from being louder. Thank you.

This lesson will be extremely useful to me. Now I know how I can start to think properly about how not to commit with my children (who are still on their way) some of the mistakes my family made during my raising. It is a really advanced starting point, not only to try to be a better parent, but also to understand some of the things that went wrong in our history. Thank you, and, please, keep uploading content about child and family matters.

''to process its melancholic feelings'' --->Leonard Cohen photo.Ha-ha ,good one.

Do one for Heinz Kohut please! I love your series on psychotherapy.

Very interesting analysis of Winnicot.. Thanks for bringing all these videos to light :)

Learned lots but those visuals are terrifying!!

Wonderful video, incredible man.

excellent choices of pictures😄. Thanks

It is a very useful initiative, even for those who work in this field. Fun and effective! Thank you!

Brilliant summary of this great thinker's work.

I understand many signs of my personality...Thanks Winnicot, Thanks De Botton.

Winnicott is one of the greats along with Mahler and her cohorts

Are you planning or working on videos regarding Jacques Lacan and Julia Kristeva? I see you already mention some of Kristeva's ideas on defilement, but I would love to see full-videos dedicated to their ideas.

Another good entertaining educational motion picture that took me down the rabbit hole again. A+

Thank goodness by point 2, I wasn't quite as messed up as I thought I was. Book no. 7 ordered. ✌🏽❤️

Love that Jimmy Carr pops up when he's talking of the plagues of the world!

Eye-opening. Thank you!

"Tax evasion"with a picture of Jimmy Car, the SHADE!

Absolutely! Parents need to watch this! I see this mistakes constantly!

The ever brilliant Alain de Botton. This video is very effective in communicating some of Winnicott's ideas but perhaps misses the very specific meaning of 'good enough', in relation to the developmental importance, at the right time, of manageable parental 'failures'. It could be confusing for students, as it doesn't distinguish between Winnicott's developmental stages i.e. the particular environmental needs of infants (at the stage of 'absolute dependency') as distinct from slightly older children (at the stage of 'relative dependency'). But perhaps this would need more than 7 minutes...

These are very interesting clips about diferent topics of knowledges and it is such as you have your very good library at your home. I love the ways they are made. But this time the sound was very low and I could not listen to some of them very well. Even tbey are good for those of as who likes this kind of shortly actualized information from social sciences. Thanks for thinking on people like whose enjoy them.

Handiest videos for pre exams thank you

Fantastic presentation ! well done guys

This is best channel on RU-vid

This is great stuff! I can't believe I've never heard of Winnicott before.

Thank you! I really love your videos so helpfull, please keep it up!

Thank you!

I liked it...it was good enough. Today I am inspired to paint good enough.

Best channel

Brilliant! Thank you. : )

This is brilliant. I was disappointed and almost lost interest for the series due to the Freud episode. i must say I am really relieved. Although it is true that Winnicolt's work is a bit shaky as well (not as badly as Freud's of course). he definately deserved more publicity, The best part is that, in the video, Winnicott's stance wasn't held is the absolute truth as it were back in the dreadful Freud episode, a marvelous improvement. keep up the good work School of life!

This was so inspiring!

great job attaching great ideas to the ideals of the nation - the most colonizing nation ever

make a video about Lacan plx :D

@3:13 pertainst to how NPD, BPD and Codependence develops. The authentic self of the child is abandoned in favor of the false self that the parents demand the child to be. The child's true sense of self is thereby mutilated by the parents (or by the child who tries to secure parental nurturing and protection).

Beautiful

Fascinating.

A vicious cycle it is. Alas!

Sir can you add more videos here especially contemporary psychotherapies.

Brilliant!

While some of ideas seem to be missing components and maybe the wording doesn't fully resonate with me,it sounds like Winnicot's heart was in the right place. Never really thought about psychotherapy as it applies to parenting despite having heard of older ideas like the Oedipus and Elektra complexes __________________________ I'm kinda wondering if we'll get to object relations theory at some point.

Love Winnicott!

That was beautiful :)

Okay, I will come back here to watch this video when I become a mother. But not anytime soon I guess..

Hey guys, weird question but where did you get the picture of the woman holding the kid with the angel wings at 3.34??

Ótimo vídeo! Gratidão!

What about a Fromm's one or a Piaget's one. Anyway, this one was fantastic, as a psychology student i've never heard about a british approach.

I was thinking to myself that the narrator's voice sounds a bit like a more subdued Jimmy Carr, and just then Jimmy's photo comes up to illustrate "tax evasion". Gave me quite a good chuckle.

Anyone watching in 2019?

Thanks for the videos, they're really great!, but , why just psychoanalisis?

Excelente

Donald my man

Do Frantz Fanon, please?

Never been a fan of psychoanalysis, but after all these videos on these psychoanalysts there should probably be one on Sabina Spielrein and Carl Jung.

Make one of Carl Rogers. :)

can someone please tell me what the painting is at 6:07 ?? thank you!

i love your channel

great insights!!

Brilliant as always. :)

Can you do Kid Rock plz?

Pleaaase do one about Francoise Dolto

someone has seen the girl in the midle of the room making a weird face ate minute 3:08. what is the name of the paint?

videolar çok faydalı. Jung, Beck, Adler de gelse harika olur

The man

Good Enough Video :)

✅ good video

Hey Alain, would you describe your parents as being chaotic when you were young?

The link to "Your Transitional Object" is broken.

Which thinker said the true self is the non-physical mother who we are still attached to with a non-physical umbilical cord?

does anyone know where i can find the essay where Winnicott talks about the "good enough mother"??? I've looked everywhere. if you can help me please respond.

Super introduction to the thinking and work of Winnicott! Inspiring graphics too.

I am a bad mother. I know it. But I just keep trying to be better.

What is that children sketch at 3:46?

wtf is wrong with these 2:54 unskippable ads? force people to watch an ad consisting entirely on "bird photography" doesnt make any change for gods sake. RU-vid, u better fix it!

Eugene Gendlin please...

Winnicott

Interesting! For further reading I recommend Maggie Nelson's engagement/critique of Winnicott in "The Argonaut". Something that was a little annoying about this video though is when they showed six adults of representatives of "success and respectability" they were all white men. Hm. Also the emphasis on the mother-where's the father in all of this? What about families with two fathers? I understand that is Winnecott's perspective and the times he was in but School of Life please address be as Winnicott suggested, "adaptive" for different humans and the modern world. :)

can someone tell me what map that is at 1:48 ?

voice not audible properly even at the highest volume level!