I know divorce is way easier said than done but the second OP is basically a doormat with “step on me harder” written on it. He caught her lying, caught her cheating on him, knows that she’s continuing her emotional affair, and is being accused of all sorts of nasty things. OP should strike now when his wife is stuck in the affair fog.
You can say that again I'm 25 but I get mistaken for 16 everytime I go out I had a 16 year old try and flirt with me I told him I'm 25 he didn't believe me I told him I didn't give 2 fart knockers I'm not dating a 16 year old
Story 4: Some things can never be forgiven. OP's just protecting her child, and there's no guarantee that BIL won't reoffend. As for the in-law family, shame on them for being so adamant on bring BIL to places children would be, that's asking for disaster
Having worked with offenders, my guess is the family is going through reunification. (especially at two years post release) It is well documented the success in reunification drops recidivism. Seems like there is an obvious cause of the BIL "trauma" and family wants to keep that quiet cause they don't want people to know.
And even if everything with BIL is true, there’s still one big problem: OP does not know BIL in the slightest beyond his terrible deeds. Most people don’t trust strangers with their kids much less strangers _with criminal records._
Especially using the argument "he didn't understand what he did was wrong, he did his time! " as though that's somehow supposed to just make any future interactions *not* worth worrying about with that mentality?
@@alexanderhenby1362Thank you for your service! Working corrections has to be one of the hardest jobs you can do. I'm glad there's a program like that which helps with rehabilitation. Unfortunately for offenders, when it comes to P-Word crimes, very few people can be forgiving of them. I don't blame people for feeling that way though. If the offender in the story is truly reformed, I hope he stays reformed. But OP has every right to refuse to let her daughter around her husband's brother, even if it means divorce. I'm glad that there is at least some who do truly reform. Unfortunately, it doesn't fix the hurt they caused. It's a heinous crime.
Story 4: WHY IS THE FAMILY STILL WANTING THAT CREEP BIL TO BE AROUND THEM??? WHY IS HE INVITED TO A 12 YEAR OLD’S BIRTHDAY PARTY? Seriously it’s a very bad idea to let ANYONE who has attraction to minors be anywhere near a minor.
One of my ex friends is dating a pedo. His excuse was "I was on bad meth and blackout drunk". She's a preacher's kid who thinks she can change him 🤢 not to mention that he is a white supremacist with the tattoos on his body 🙄 and she decided to bring my 3-year-old God kid around him.
Further proving OP needs to get the heck out of that family! They are actually trying to rationalize BILs actions. I’m also betting they would’ve tried to distract OP at the party and introduce OPs daughter to him since she’s new in the family.
Story three: We all know, right? That lady ain’t caring about if the kids are deprived, she’s just mad that she can’t claim that child support for herself.
Absolutely, she wouldn't be bitching about it otherwise. And I don't recall child support ever being involved in 50-50 custody, so there's a good chance it might not even be legally mandated, but just a formality
@@brendanboomhour7606 As some people in other comments mentioned, with cases of 50-50 custody, they look at wage disparity, which is basically who makes more money. If they both make close to the same amount, then neither has to pay, but if one makes more than the other, especially significantly, then the one who makes more pays. And clearly OP makes more than she does, as he used to work 12.5 hours a day, 14 days on 7 days off (which basically means they work for 14 days in a row, and then get a week off) and she's a teacher. Even with him working a less stressful job, he probably makes more money than she does, which is why he has to pay. If she made more money than him, then she would have to pay.
yeah that's basically it, a teacher's salary isnt great, she could live quite well when she was with her ex and now she's mad cause 800$ isnt gonna cover luxury for her, it definitely more than covers cost for the kids since she only has them 50% of the time. That's probably why she still get support cause her income must be a loooot lower than his but the 800$ is more than enough for the kids, she's just mad she can't enjoy the good life anymore.
Last story: "You denied me the chance to make things right!" Me: You happen to have a time machine on you? The ONLY way you could make things right is to not have slept with them MARRIED your brother's wife.
And he didn’t want to make things right. He wanted to make his brother’s situation all about him. And screw OPs wife with the “I understand but…..”. If you understood you would respect the deceased sons wishes and not hold it over OPs head.
@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah, he didn't feel bad for what he did, he just didn't like that his family didn't like him, which is why he demanded forgiveness. He didn't want to make things right, he just wanted things to be made right.
I know, right! I just about fell over when I heard that. I wonder what he thinks he could possibly have done to 'make things right'. The words I have to describe that younger brother and the wife are probably not allowed by YT.
And when are people going to get that the VICTIM gets to decide the extent of any forgiveness and the boundaries of any relationship. A perpetrator wanting to offer an apology does not give them the right to inflict further harm on a victim by disregarding their boundaries.
*First OP:* It's bad enough that OP's dad is a PDF file, but he's one of _those_ who try to justify it with, "technically, that's not a" P-File. _And_ he dated his ex's daughter?! Ghetto! OP is NTA. *Second OP:* You vs the man she told you not to worry about. OP should divorce his wife. He wouldn't want to put her in a cage, would he? OP is NTA. *Third OP:* Lol at OP's ex getting mad at OP for having to pay less in child support. This all could've been avoided if she hadn't gotten her back blown out by other dudes during their marriage. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* Condolences to OP and his wife. OP was honoring his son's wishes. He was being a good father. OP is NTA, and F cancer.
honestly yeah, he's just trying to justify himself while he's clearly in the wrong, but the fact that people (from the US/anglosphere) tend to group infantophilia, pedophilia, hebephilia and even ephebophilia under the pedophile sticker isn't helping their case. The word has a certain meaning and broadening it this widely makes it lose it's meaning, just like people calling everyone they disagree with a nazi.
@@PotatoSmasher420yeah while all of them are terrible the difference is important. Expecially in regards to how victims can deal with the consequences and what therapy is appropriate.
It could be because of income disparity, like since OP makes 6 figures and his ex probably makes around 50k as a teacher, OP may still pay child support (even if it’s 50/50) but it depends on the state
Income disparity I know a dead beat with a rich mom who managed to get cs off his ex wife cause on paper he was poor and had no money. The biggest bs was he had 40% while the mom had 60%. Dude didn't take care of the kids when he had them instead he would get high. His mom paid to have a good lawyer on retainer for her man child.
@@tmansmith2110 I agree that parents have the freedom of choosing who to associate their kids with and I never said they didn't. The problem is that SOs have a re-offend rate that quadruples over the 20 years after release from prison. On average, it goes from 10 to 40%. These stats are probably low as they only include reported crimes and many times these crimes aren't. So keeping them away from kids is paramount
My cousin got arrested for trying to solicit a 13 year old. After that, he sexually harassed me (although I was 27 at the time it was still very wrong for so many reasons). Somehow he "got out" of any charges after he got arrested. He should have went to jail. The good ole boy system sucks. My family blamed the girl and kept silent, and my mom told me not to tell anyone about him sexually harassing me. It's been years and he is almost 40 and still single. Still living at home. They claim he's "doing better." But I don't see it. My guess is that he just hasn't gotten caught.
There is literally only one appropriate response to finding out someone has those inclinations, but unfortunately doing that will result in you spending the rest of your life in prison while society decides YOU are the bad guy for it.
4th story: don't let him near her. I was exploited by a 28 yr old man when I was 15 and they might have a change of heart but they still have the urges. It's not up to op to help him feel reformed.
I imagine when something happens to the niece, the family will pressure her to stay quiet because "he's changed!" I hope OP stays in contact with her to make sure she's safe cause her family obviously won't 😑
My aunt's BIL was a PDF file. He did things to my middle sister and two of my cousins while his mother was hosting playdates/babysitting. I'm fairly certain that he would've gone after his sister's daughter as well. I know that it wasn't until my youngest cousin talked about with my aunt that she believed the older cousin's accusation, and it wasn't until my sister had extensive therapy that she was able to admit that she was one of his victims.
You'd think If he's so "reformed" he'd just volunteer to not come too close to kids. Also thinking he's entitled to forgiveness just because he served time? Absolutely not. Hope the niece is never too close to him.
You know what? Even if the age of consent is lower than average where you live, it is STILL fucked up to pursue a relationship with a person the same age as your child, I'm pretty sure there was a Bojack Horseman episode with that EXACT story
yeah, teenage girls lack life experience. Any grown ass man actively pursuing anything with a 16 year old is undeniably creepy and groomer behaviour, even if its technically "legal". A lot of things are legal but still unethical
@cielbie8251 assuming that story was from the US, it would still likely be illegal. While there are a lot of states with age of consent at 16, according to a quick Google search it would still be illegal for anyone 20 years or older to be in a romantic or sexual relationship with a 16 year old
Sadly can't post pictures here, but this is described perfectly by that meme "Regardless of the law, you should have a moral obligation to not fuck a child."
@@theickster3008yeah don’t those laws usually state that it can only be a 3-4 year age gap for it to be legal. Which it’s still weird that anyone over 18 would wants a 16 year old.
S4: If he's mentally 15, shouldn't he still know what he did was wrong? If he was mentally 6 or like 10, I'd MAYBE agree, but, 15 is still old enough to know it's bad. Wtf?
I’m wondering if they said that for well to try to get him off the hook but if sentenced, he be placed under protection from the inmates? Inmates don’t think highly of people imprisoned for sexual related crimes.
It's just them justifying it, unfortunately, and further pushing stereotypes. If he's mentally 15, he 100% knows it's wrong and is using it as an excuse.
I thought those were normally covered with the “Romeo and Juliet” laws, which don’t lower the age of consent but rather make exceptions for those who are close to the line on either side?
Unfortunately, it actually means they can date/sleep with 40 year olds if they want to. You are thinking of the Romeo and Juliet clauses some states have, but if the states age of consent is 16, she can consent to sleep with anyone 16 and up.
but thats assuming they are in the US depends which country they are also in and the kid is technically wrong on the term hes not the p one hes one of the other philes
Also, I looked it up. Here, the law is if you're 15, you can be in a relationship with someone who is less than 4 years older, and if 15 or 16, within 10 years. So at least not a TOTAL free for all. /s
Story 1: if I had to guess he assumed that since OP's his kid, they would automatically be on his side. And I will never understand the delusion of people like this, do you really expect your friend to be okay that you are dating their under age daughter? Nevermind that part about giving them a piece of his mind, like dude, are you trying to get jumped? And I'm going to assume he was telling the truth about the age of consent in your state, because I would imagine the mom or any of his former friends would have already called the cops by now.
I think you're right. I'm also guessing that OP is male, which is why a) the dad thinks he can speak 'man-to-man' to OP and b) why daddy isn't hitting on OP.
Exactly. Anyone thinking the younger son will try to get his wife pregnant so they can name the child after the deceased brother and make up their own story?
@@lorilancaster5917 Yep, they're already creating the narrative that they were victims and kept away from dying family. What horrible people. I hope they both cheat on each other.
It's not pedophilia, it's ephebophilia. Ephebophila is when you're a pedophile, but because your targets are teenagers you want to act like technically you're something different or better(it's not) so you can feel better about yourself(you shouldn't).
Technically it's for the older teenagers, typically 14-17. Between p*do and ephebo you have hebephilia, which is for the preteens, typically 11-13. However, most people just generalize it all under p*edophilia.
And they wouldn’t keep an eye on her. They would try to introduce her to him behind OPs back and go back to partying. They don’t want ti face the reality of his crimes and the fact he he hasn’t reformed. I’m also betting he never genuinely apologized to his victim nor her family
Story 2: okay first of all stop letting her think you're stupid, friends don't regularly hug and kiss each other, they are so clearly dating. In the fact she tried to make you seem like a jerk for not wanting your wife to not date her boss, it just damn pathetic. And for her to actually use the argument that you would take money from her is a sign that that might be the only reason she's still married to you. OP you gave her an ultimatum and she clearly made her choice, and she apparently has no respect for you, she's not even hiding it you know she cheating and she's guilt tripping you for not letting her. I'm sorry but your marriage is over.
Yeah when she couldn't keep a job for over a year and suddenly she keeps this job and loves it... it's because she's doing more with her boss than kissing 😂
This guy really is pathetic. He finds out his wife is cheating on him and does nothing. In fact he continues to let his wife work for and see the man she cheated with. Then when she continues to cheat on him is like “oh I think you need to stop seeing ur bit on the side, is that ok with you.” FFS op grow a back bone.
I remember a comedian saying something like "technically it is ephebophilia, but if you try to explain the difference from hebephilia, ephebophilia, and pedophilia... you sound like a huge pedophile."
@@allisonwilliams7455 Yeah and "imprinting" is basically another way of saying "soulmates." Also, Bella and Edward's daughter was growing at a rapid pace. She became a teen by the end of "Breaking Dawn," but it's still icky. Surprised that nobody batted an eye about it when it first was released. 👀
Story 1 : ahhhh is this an adult video storyline?? NTA.. Story 2 : " she was furious accusing me of breaching her privacy and such" ahhh the rare cheater double take .. NTA.. " shes only had jobs for 1-2 years" is it because she rode her bosses out of the job?? Op just leave.. your wife is clearly riding both you and her boss.. Story 3 : NTA.. the ex is really trying to have her cake and eat it too.. " I cheated but you better keep paying me for it".. welcome to the court system Rslash where it's almost always men's fault. Story 4 : NTA.. kid touchers can't be trusted no matter what..op your doing the right thing by being preventive and not reactive .. " everyone is pissed at me because he did his time and tried to convince me several times that what my Bil did was a one time thing" yeah op is doing the right thing with making sure it's a 1 time thing .. op hasband is a complete donkey dude it's not a hard decision protect the kid from a kid toucher..if anything op gets -5 out of 5 a hole this is a hill to die on op do not let the toucher around your kid in any way shape or forum... Story 5 : NTA.. why would you tell a backstabbing bleephole what happened to his victim?? He doesn't deserve jack only to be shunned.. op your wife is cray cray and just plane awful as person she's upset that your youngest is mad well maybe he shouldn't have slept with his brothers lady .. the youngest burns the bridge to his brother by stabbing him in the back and is throwing a tantrum that he's not getting the chance to " make things right" Dude don't betray your brother and think " im sorry " is gonna fix it.. op youngest and the cheating hussy get 4 out of 5 a hole and op wife gets 4 out of 5 a hole as well trying to defend the indefensible " let's just but it behind us and heal " op needs to start checking if his wife is cheating on him ..
Small update on the boss kisser story and more info: thanks for all your support. It’s also hurting me some of the messages. I feel so dumb. But I’m happy with all the reactions too. I should have asked earlier… thanks also for the genuine, empathic messages. Thanks for all your support. Love you all. Comment by op: Forgot to mention that her boss is married and has a new born with his wife. The poor girl. And I have her phone number. I’m so on edge to call her tomorrow and explain everything.
2nd story: *HOLY FUCKING SHIT, SHE REMINDS ME OF MY EX,* gaslighting him, lying, making consolations. And this dude needs to stop being so pathetic. She cheated on him myltiple times, he makes the tiniest of demands and what? That’s him “putting his foot down?” “Drawing the line?” Dudes been walked over 16x ways to Sunday and is like, “ok…you can be around him, but you’ve gotta…ooh I swear…you’ve gotta pinky promise to be professional, ok?! *OK?!* 😠”
Last story: OP it wasn't your decision it was your son who made it very clear he wanted nothing to do with his younger brother or his ex-wife. And you're young it doesn't get to be mad that his brother's final wish was to not be a tool to help him get closure. To quote BoJack horseman "you have to live with a shity thing you did, and know that it's never going to be okay." That's the kind of closure your youngest is ever going to get.
Note the age of consent in the states that are 16 years old. It's when the other party is under 4 to 5 years difference... So an 18 to a 20 year old can't lose their life for dating 16 year old if both parties are consenting.... Not for someone with a 15 plus age difference....
I can almost guarantee this is a "he was the sole earner for years" situation. So they make adjustments based off the earning potential. If she's a teacher and he's making six figures there ya go. It's a messed up system that needs to be changed
@@victoriakinny9210I guess OP should be thankful he doesn’t have to pay alimony. Let her flings take care of her since they’re worth throwing her marriage away for
Wage discrepancy. If you make a certain amount of money more than your partner you will end up paying child support reguarless to maintain the child’s “standard of living” while at the other parents house.
@@victoriakinny9210 It's not messed up, it makes sense. If custody is split evenly, and one person significantly makes more money than the other, they should pay child support, so the child gets equal support from both parents. Otherwise, you'll have a case where the child starts siding with one parent over the other because "things are nicer at dad's and he buys me things because he makes more money"
*2nd Story:* Unless that boss is the owner of the company, OP should definitely go up the ladder to let them know that a boss & employee are having a not entirely professional relationship.
Regardless, he and the wife should’ve consulted a lawyer long ago. I’m not going to let the wife off the hook completely, but the boss is the biggest bad guy here. OP said she didn’t have a lot of work experience. I think he definitely took advantage of her. She let the situation get out of hand, but he abused his position.
Should be that way, but the courts are heavily biased toward women. During my divorce, that was what my ex tried. She even quit her job to lower her income, but I had a shark of a lawyer who took no bs.
@@camarofan2008 not always. there was a judge in Michigan that sent kids to some kind of camp and called them liars because they refused to spend time with their (allegedly, not entirely sure) abusive father.
@@camarofan2008 If the difference in salary is massive, you can still have to pay child support so the kids don't end up missing some necessities at the other parent's place. Also, your ex's a cunt! lol
Story 1 is exactly why I don't wanna hear "whats in the contract" or "what's in the will" when it comes to AITA. If you can only defend your actions on legality, then people probably dislike you for a good reason.
Story 3: It sounds like the children are doing okay, so why is the wife throwing a fit about it? She is making money herself, and OP doesn't need to work as intensely anymore, so what's the issue?
@@lorilancaster5917 100% that's got to be grounds for breaking probation. I'm not a parent but I taught for 9 yrs and anything like this happening to my kids was my biggest nightmare. 💔
That fourth story brings back an old memory. When I was a teenager, one of my teenage cousins began to get very inappropriate in the way he touched me. My older sister made the same complaint about him. We had the good sense to just stay away from him when visiting the relatives. I am forgiving in the sense that he is very slow in the head due to childhood trauma. He has bad learning delays and it showed when his hormones kicked in during his teen years. That does NOT mean I want to visit him and I definitely do NOT want him anywhere near my daughter, even when heavily supervised!
I like going on Reddit to see the incredible stupid responses people make. Like “In some European countries the age of consent is 16. So YTA for not defending your father because hE’s fAmILy”
Funny enough here in State of Georgia the age of consent 16 but they do have exceptions to it like the Romeo and Juliet law. Even so it's very creepy regardless.
In my country, the age of consent is 15, but I *guarantee* that people would still think it was super sketchy for a 38 year old to be dating a teenager. Honestly, he should just be thankful that nobody has turned up on his doorstep to kick the crap out of him.
@@1985toyotacamry In my state the only exception is if they're more than 3 years older, so 19 would be the cutoff age to date a 16 year old (pretty sure that's still Romeo and Juliet law though)
Story 4: If BIL was "reformed", he would opt not to be around children/teens at all. The mere fact that he not doing so is the greatest red flag imaginable.
S4: NTA. I don't blame you because you are completely right. People like that don't change, they might repress, but they don't change. They should never be around minors ever again and anyone that believes otherwise is negligent to put their child around them.
Story 1: WOW!! Not even sugar coating it with a softer story. Just right into it! Darn R/Slash! Also dude realizes he’s a P-word CUZ THE GIRL IS UNDER 18! Age of consent in any state/country doesn’t matter. The age of the CHILD is what matters. Story 2: OP didn’t “breach her privacy”. She opened that door when she tried deleting the message she got. And then that confession…the constant texting on a family trip…and the increased contact. This woman lost the plot and it’s obvious her family is no longer a priority. So she doesn’t have the right to get mad that she’s been given an ultimatum. Story 3: So wife cheated cuz she felt “neglected”. And because OP stopped working the “normal amount”, her normalized standard of living that she felt entitled to is practically dead due to working less hours to have more time with his kids. Woman reeeeeeeeeeally didn’t think this through (or ignored all the talks about how the money would be cut when OP changed his hours) Story 4: Holy hell…2 of these stories in 1 vid?! All the yikes. Why is the family so set on “he paid the price for his mistakes, so get over it” isn’t an excuse to allow a pred around kids again?! OP is in the right to protect her child and not allow a predator near her child. And since the husband is so “torn” then OP has the right to leave him so he doesn’t have to “choose between family”. Story 5: Wow so OP is definitely caught in the middle. Good on her for protecting his older son’s wishes. But the fact the youngest son felt entitled to know his brother passed AFTER BETRAYING HIM. So I agree with OP that the youngest son doesn’t deserve to be at the funeral. Blood isn’t thicker than water when such a deep rooted betrayal happens. What he did was grounds for disownment.
Slight disagreement on 5: everyone gets that saying wrong and therefore keep taking it as Family is more important, the full saying is The blood of the covenant is thicker then the water of the womb.
Fourth story: So your telling me these people are not only excusing a rapist but are protecting a rapist as well. Everyone deserves 10/5 bholes! The only way op WOULD be in the wrong is if she stays with her husband, and shares custody with her husband after the divorce. I 100% bet that if op shares custody that the husband WILL bring her to family events, and that child WILL be around him.
She shouldn't be divorcing her husband, they should communicate. The brother never once, according to the story. Tried to get the daughter around the rapist. What he did do is lament that he's lost his family because of the rapist and is being harassed
@@lorilancaster5917 Probably not, the family is probably lying to them. I'm also certain that his 'childhood trauma' is that he also got diddled as a child and the family is trying to cover that up as well.
@@Manorbis Exactly. Some people are acting as if he's siding with his family and thinks like they do, when he's just upset and feels like everyone is giving him an ultimatum and forcing him to choose. However, this is where he is the AH, because it shouldn't even be a choice. He needs to do everything in his power to protect his daughter, even if it means going NC with the rest of his family.
What makes the fourth story even worse is that the familys excuses don't even work. "He is mentally behind and didn't understand that what he was doing was wrong." That makes it WORSE! He doesn't think r wording a kid is wrong?
So… OP’s wife made out with her boss multiple times, and is mad at her husband.. for being mad at her? And as for the, and being honest here, pedophilic rapist, if he got arrested for what he did, surely he’d be on some sort of registry, right? Sex offenders aren’t supposed to be near children. That’s like if I kill someone I hate, then my friends beg someone else I hate to let me hang out with them.
14 days on, 7 days off is actually not an uncommon work schedule. Its very typical of those who work on oil rigs, and many mine workers and/or those who work in isolated places related to natural resources. I suspect the 3rd OP is an oil rig worker, which lines up with his income and transitional reduced income.
That last story is just further evidence that people shouldn't be allowed to marry their siblings' ex-spouses. If anything, sleeping with a sibling's spouse should be treated like incest.
10:14 “lack of concern” girl you can make your own choices, but you don’t have to stretch the truth so far that it breaks 11:00 over react much? 11:06 ah yes men can’t cry I forgot 11:10 whatever Dabney 😒
Story 5: you must have been stable enough since he kidnapped her. Also how long ago was this exactly because I thought when you get out you you're still on parole and can't be anywhere near kids anyway? Yes I believe in redemption and believe he can do better in his life but I also understand that at the end of the day you have to watch over your kid and you don't trust the rest of the family because they've been trying to convince you that nothing going to happen because of all the excuses. I'm sorry your husband's stuck in the middle but I went to apologize for putting my daughter, or any child for that matter first.
2nd story: well op time for your wife to become your ex the fact she disrespected your boundaries, allowed her boss to basically use her willingly and was sneaking romantic texts and calls between them while being married is just disgusting, also the fact she's mad at you basically means she knows it's wrong but doesnt want to do anything about it.
Someone is not being a “whiny baby” because they are caught in the middle of family drama. To be clear the mother is not wrong to keep the child safe and he should recognize that is all she is trying to do but it doesn’t invalidate his feelings. Trust me I’ve been in the middle of family drama and it sucks.
I thought it was autocorrect when I saw it in another comment and couldn't stop laughing at it. Don't you just love censorship. It forces people to come up with innocent sounding phrases that means something NSFW even though we're all adults and it's obvious what you're talking about. That's like banning the word "water" but it's okay to say H2O instead. Nothing is being accomplished.
I think some OPs deserve an AH score when they're being an AH to themselves. OP 2 is a grade A jellyfish. I give him a 2 score for putting himself and his kids second to his wife's infidelity and abuse.
That Child Predator in the first makes my stomach churn as a matter of fact it’s people like him that make me believe that monsters are real. Op is not in the wrong and hope op disowns her dad
Crazy how the husband in story 4 is being bashed for being unhappy that he can no longer connect his family’s because of what his brother did. At no point in the story does it say or show that he wants to bring them together yet he gets the cold shoulder from his wife for being sad and called an ahole here. Wild
kind of, she gt the term wrong hes on of the other kinds the one shes going with is ones who target actual very young children hes one of the ones who dont target the very young ones
It frustrates me when people find out their partners are cheating and are so much of a doormat that they basically go "stop cheating with me or else I'll break up/divorce you!" as if that's going to **magically** solve **all** of their issues. They aren't in the wrong, it sucks that they're getting cheated on, but **come on,** you're just setting yourself up for more heartbreak.
This is why I love laws where I live. The age of consent where I am right now is 16 as well, but its a bit stricter. If you're under 16, the age gap cant be over 1 year (e.g. 2006 - 2007) and if you're over 16, the age gap can't be more than 2 years (e.g. 2006 - 2008) then when both are legally adults (18+) whatever age.
Story 4: I disagree with the husband being the AH. He never once in the story tried to convince his wife or anything of the sorts. the man was crying because he's losing his family because of his brother.
Holy heck that story hits too close to home. I have a family member who...touched a kid inappropriately. He's been in prison for about twelve years now and he's set to be released soon. My parents want him to come live with us. I'm an adult now, but I am not comfortable living with him any more, even if we still talk. I'm saving just in case he actually comes back, I'm moving straight out of my parent's house as an exit plan.
First 6 seconds 0:58 technical he’s right about that is he bad yes is he right legally yes he’s right 7:49 ok that’s just straight up illegal so obviously op is not the a hole 9:24 jail / prison dosnt do that tho
Boss kisser story: O.P. deserves a 1.5 out of 5 score for letting your wife continue to work there with a boss SHE KISSED!!! and TEXTED while on VACATION....O.P. please leave. Wife 3.5 out of 5 and boss 4 out of 5......
On the first story, I'm already rolling my eyes at the "It's not PDF if they're not pre-pubescent" excuse. I'm getting tired of hearing people try to make it sound like the victim not being in middle school makes it any better.
Story 1: NTA! Your father IS a PDF file! Also, REPORT HIS ASS TO THE AUTHORITIES 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 STORY 2: I would've said "report to HR", but she wound up CHEATING on OP with HER BOSS!!! NTA! She gets 🚩🚩🚩🚩 STORY 3: people who cheat don't deserve any kindness! Your ex may be a teacher, but her getting child support out of you while you share 50/50 custody is nuts. 🚩🚩🚩🚩 NTA! STORY 4: WE GOT ANOTHER PDF FILE!🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 omg, it's worse than the first story, and "step daughter"? THAT'S WORSE! And the family backing up the pdf file?! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 OP, it might be time to either get out or call the cops because... Shouldn't he be NOT ALLOWED NEAR KIDS AT ALL?! OP, NTA! Get out of that family! STORY 5: oh jeez... OP, sorry for the loss of your oldest. Glad you respected his wishes of NOT telling your youngest. Your wife needs to understand that your youngest CHEATED with your oldest's ex! NTA. They messed around and found out. 🟢
"Oh, he would never do that to family!!!" Statistically speaking, most chomos go after kids that know them and trust them, such as family members or friends' kids. Its very rare that the chomo and the kid dont know each other.
11:06 - “I’m giving your husband 3/5 for being a whiney baby…” WTF, rSlash?! What the actual F***?! The husband did nothing in this story aside from cry because he’s caught between his correct wife and seeing the rest of his family, some of whom he still wants to see. He wasn’t defending the brother, and he wasn’t disagreeing with the wife. All he did was cry about being caught in the middle and that’s somehow deserving of 3/5?? What the toxic masculinity BS is this????
And tbh, I don’t see why the husband can’t just go to these family events on his own, without his wife and kid. I had an aunt in my family who I *never* saw during the holidays because she just didn’t want to associate with our family for whatever reason. It’s not unheard of.
Especially since she cheated? People have theories. One is the judge values moms over dads. Second is due to OP having significantly more income after he changed jobs and worked less.
It could be for a number of reasons. First, the judge valued moms over dads. Second even with 50/50 custody OP is still the higher income parent. Third OP didn’t have a pit bull for a lawyer.
I bet that, before the guy got caught, the family thats keeps insisting hes reformed now would have also said "he'd never do something like that" right up until he did. Probably for a while after he got caught too, until it really sank it.
This wasn't even in my notifications.. I kept refreshing, wondering where today's video is, and had to come to his page to find it been posted for 4 mins 🤦😡. RU-vid notifications suck sometimes. Sometimes, I don't get the notification for some videos til hours later 🤬😡
One unfortunate bit of personal knowledge I have is that if the person is past puberty but not a full adult yet, the technical term for that is if epibophilia. Of course, by simply sharing this information, I'm sure some people are going to call me the other word.
