r/AmITheA--Hole My Brother Hit On My Wife! 

Story 3: If debating is "literally her job", then hand her 500 dollars every time you want to debate her.

First story: Ok seriously. That guy is both a horrible husband AND a terrible father.

"Nope. Next story." made me laugh out loud so hard that my dogs are looking at me funny now.

I noticed how some people who cries about "I only want to debate, it's not my fault they take offence to it", often get most offended about everything. "You're just overreacting", says the guy who reacts hearing about someone being a stay-at-home dad.

When you get married, your days of hitting on people other than your spouse are supposed to be over. If you can't stop, then maybe you don't deserve to keep your marriage. A father who gets drunk at their child's birthday deserves to get shamed.

Story 2: fishing is damaging to the environment, but only if you do it with a giant net, several boats, and disrespecting the reproiductory cycle of the fishes you are fishing. Saying that one man with a fishing rod is endangering the fish is the same as saying one man with a campfire is causing global warming.

I just love how he went "Nope! Next story."

Literally laughed out loud when rSlash said "Nope, next story" without reading the story for not wanting to see the father's affair baby. Got some looks at work...

Thé story about nova and her « deadbeat » dad ends pretty well. He talked to his daughter saying he loves her unconditionally and that he would take her and he apologized to her

"Nope! Next story..." 😂 That's how I feel about a lot of these. Great line.

The last story reminded me of the time my purse was pick pocketed/stolen while on a school trip to London. I was devastated as I had taken money I’d saved to buy Christmas presents as well as needing to buy food. Most of the other kids (17-ish) really didn’t care, except one guy I really didn’t know that well - he came with me to a police station to report the theft, encouraged me to eat a big breakfast which was included in the hotel stay and then he bought my other meals for which he refused to be paid back later. Damien, wherever you are now, I still remember and appreciate your kindness. I wish that someone in OP’s friend group had been more like Damien.

Oh wow. The lady who left the table and her friends told HER off - get better friends, lady. Dump them and your boyfriend all at once. Clean slate.

Story 3: I'm married to a man with two degrees worth (bachelor and master) of education in a social science field (political science). I can't say for certain, but from how OP portrayed her husband, I am almost positive that her sister has provided citations and studies to support her assertions and OP's husband dismissed them out of hand. I see it a lot.

He's definitely not the butthole for trying to discipline his daughter. I think he might have worded it in a bad way, but if she's misbehaving and being disrespectful he should definitely address that. Me personally I would have said yes you can come live with me, and then told her to understand that living with me means she is following my rules and she's being respectful. I would lay out a clear guideline of what I expect from her while she is living with me and then talk to her mother.

The last story.... Oh Lord, the last story.... Op needs to not only throw the whole man child away, but also find a new group of friend! I cannot believe that no one seemed in the least bit concerned when OP said they were robbed! No one offered to even just loan her the money to cover her meal, no one bought her meal, then they had the audacity to say that she was the one in the wrong??!!?? Nope, forget them. Ditch them ALL and find yourself people that genuinely care about you and your well-being!

Also, on the last story, not only would normal people (not only just friends, but even a lot of acquaintances) not just let their recently robbed friend starve on front of them, but pay for a meal for them and at least one to take home so I know they have something to eat later. Even if I didn't have the cash on me, I'd put it on a card I may already be struggling to pay down because they're probably struggling more at that moment and a little kindness goes a long way. $50 extra for two meals at an okay place isn't much but helps a lot. Or, the friends could have suggested they skip and head to McDonald's together. It's not hard to be decent. Wtf.

Story 3: Political thing aside, Tom really needs to shut the fridge up. Not because of his opinion, but because him constantly shoving it into other people's business is pretty childish. But of course, he would only see it as everyone disrespecting his opinion.

rSlash: "You gave him exactly the amount of respect that he deserves as a father." Me: "Which is none."

"It's not MY fault they get so easily offended" Me: "It is when your INTENTIONALLY attacking their values and opinions with the ONLY object is to get them into a heated argument!"

"Shaming a father on his child's birthday" Oh, you mean the child he literally said ruined his whole life? Yeah, gotta respect that guy, right? 🙄

Last story: how the fuck does an entire group of people disregard a friend who just got robbed and insist that they just stay there and be hungry while everyone else eats?

I feel a parent expecting their child to follow their rules when living with them is just as reasonable as a child expecting to be taken care of by their parent. I see where you are trying to come from in Nova's story, but you miss the nail. Nova has already shown to have issues with his authority, and it's only reasonable for him to say, “I expect that you at least follow the rules.” This is how a parent coming back into the life of their kid should act. He is willing to step in, but he is setting realistic expectations and boundaries for her. He definitely WAS a deadbeat dad, but he clearly is trying to turn that around, and he is doing pretty amazing IMO. I feel like you rated him more for the ten years prior to the story rather than the story itself. OP's mom does deserve a butt hole score, though.

"I wish I could passionately hug someone else and not my UGLY wife, and my stupid kid RUINED MY LIFE!" "Wow, that's pretty messed up man." Everyone else: "OP! That's so rude! How can you disrespect him like that??"

Completely disagree with you, r/Slash, about the girl staying with her father and him setting boundaries. Those boundaries are important. They're the entire nature of a parent-child relationship. If she literally will not respect his rules for his house from the outset, he's can't be an effective parent. You can't love a child and raise them without boundaries, and please respect my home and rules is the bare minimum boundary. The other problems is it sounds like they don't have those coping skills to do it so that's a whole different issue. In any case they didn't say the love was conditional they said the living situation was conditional. I literally know a household that tried to go without this and the mother never regained any semblance of parenthood. She was essentially her kid's roommate and used manipulation and verbal abuse to get them to do anything. Absolutely toxic and messed the kid up for years.

Honestly, Novas father just worded it badly. He should have set it as an expectation, not a condition. Like, make it clear she won't just be allowed to continue her current behavior.

Ok hold up no the dude in the co-parenting story literally said "you can live here if you follow the rules" that's literally the bare minimum to ask plus how was he not disciplining her he set punishments but when she had another house that won't respect the punishment what is he supposed to do in that situation.

The last story: they are not friends and she should break up with her boyfriend.

Hold up, he NEVER said he didn't love his daughter. Now of course his daughter isn't to blame as she's a ten year old. The mother is kinda wrong as she clearly never patented her, and the dad is maybe a little bad, but he doesn't deserve that kind of score, he's trying to parent her, just not quite right.

The Nova story: you say the dad needs to give the daughter some discipline and try and give him shit for it in the same breath. The Dad is new to this and trying, the only thing he did wrong was how he spoke to Nova when she asked to live with him full time. Also not giving the grandma any butthole points is hypocritical, i doubt she's the reason he regretted abounding Nova and parented the "deadbeat" sounds to me she had the same raising style as Nova's mom

That last story is so depressing. Whenever my friend group does anything they will let you know by force almost that they will get you something. Now we would all pay it back guaranteed, but we all have enough empathy to know how much losing a wallet sucks.

The guy with the 10 year old was not in the wrong at all. He was setting clear expectations for his daughter. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love her unconditionally.

Third story: A smarmy and classist sexist. And I think he is also kind of a narcisistic because he is looking for a reaction to show he can control OP's sister.

1st Story: LOL! Dad? WHAT dad? All OP sees is a drunk who can't even be bothered to do the BARE MINNIMUM for his family. He openly drunks on his wife and creeps on OP's partner ... and his family has the audacity to defend him? Gross. I feel bad for that wife and child. 2nd Story: I smell a sequel. The Legend of Karen: HOA Princess

Story 1: NTA. Even before he got drunk, the brother was already a douche. Not helping out setting up the party, and even had the audacity to hand his OWN DAUGHTER to her aunt and go "you take her". Anyone who calls OP the AH clearly only got the brother's (twisted) side of the story. Sometimes they say that when a person gets intoxicated, their drunken words are spoken from their true self. If this saying is true, OP will be wise to distance himself from this brother, cause I have a bad feeling he will try to impose himself on his wife if he tries to think that way. Story 2: NTA. Almost tempted to go with NAH, but I wonder if the neighbor is deranged or thinks she is hot garbage to assume she can impose her will on OP. I am a little worried, cause I have heard enough horror stories about HOAs, so OP better watch out. Story 3: NTA. OP, I have to ask: why are you still married to this drama king? Your husband sounds like the type of person that needs to constantly flex his intellect and "superiority" over others. Plus, unlike your husband, at least your sister has mellowed out. Your husband provoked your sister, and you told him he would be upset, and well, you caught his BS and he's not happy about it. Not saying you should divorce, but you should consider if this is the man you want to stay married to. Story 4: NAH. I really think it's just a case of poor communications. I am not against OP for setting boundaries, especially for a 10 year old child who has never been disciplined, but the wording could have been better in my opinion. Story 5: NTA. OP, consider this robbery a blessing in disguise, cause you just found out exactly what kind of person your boyfriend truly is. Not only does he refuse to pay you back, but the lack of empathy shown by him and your so-called friends is very disturbing. If I was in OP's shoes, that would have been an instant deal breaker. Dump him as fast as you can, and do not associate yourself with these so-called friends, cause the gaslighting and psychological manipulation will come soon enough.

Story 4: How is OP the butthole for expecting people that are gonna live in HIS house to follow HIS rules? It doesn't matter who it is. Being his daughter doesn't exempt her from having to follow the rules he sets in his own house.

I was the friend in high school who didn't have money due to bills. I would be invited out to eat, only to not eat. Sitting there while everyone else got eat food stung. It was constant. I did not have food at home the majority of the time either. It took a few good people in my life to learn no one goes home hungry. EVER. OP is not the butthole.

I think you got it all wrong on the father and the 10-year-old daughter she needs to understand that if she comes to live with her father that's going to be boundaries and it's going to be rules that's normal that's how you show a child that you love him/her children need boundaries they need rolls they need to know that rules are in place I mean I wouldn't make that indicative of whether or not the child lives with me he just should have said yes you may come live with me but you know just understand that they are going to be rules you need to follow them

that "NOPE NEXT STORY! " made me laugh so hard OMFG 😂😂😂😂

My two cents on the final story: I had my card info stolen a day before I was supposed to move, and had to cancel my card ASAP because someone was using to steal from my account in the form of amazon gift vouchers. The amount of money stolen was only about £150, but it still sucked because I had no cash and I couldn't use my card on my day of travel, including a 4 hour train ride and a couple of hours on a bus to get home, where I was gonna stay until my new place was ready. The train ticket was fine because I had booked it about a week before, but I had to ask a family member to come and pick me up from the station because I couldn't get the bus without my card or some cash (I live in the countryside, the station is about 2 hours away from my home and I don't have a car, for context, so without the bus, I'm left with no choice but to ask for a lift from family or friends). I obviously told my friends because I was pissed about it, and the first thing my friends asked if I had enough money to get me home, or if I wanted one of them to pay for my ticket. I didn't need it so I refused, but gave them heartfelt thanks for showing their concern. OP, there's so much your bf and friends could have done, i.e. buy you a meal, share their meal with you or just rearrange the dinner date altogether, but no. If your "friends" just shrug you off on a day that you've been robbed, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your friends.

I never laughed so hard when you said, "Nope, next story." and really went into the next story. Priceless.

Aweee, i’m sad you skipped that story, I wanted to hear you tear the cheating father with the affair baby a new one😂😂😂

"Follow the rules & be Respectful" it's normal to have this rule to be enforced in any household but in OP's situation differs where's his involvement w/ his daughter is non-existent. OP is a bit AH but he's right, the kid will end up growing to be entitled brat if OP can't raise her well.

Story #2: Most places have limits on how many fish and what fish types you can catch and keep. I have a fishing licence and looked it up. It isn't bad for the environment. It helps it in a way, keeping the fish population in control.

Favorite part of this vid: Rslash : Am I the butthole for not wanting to see my dad's affair baby? NOPE NEXT STORY! Absolutely agree! We really didn't need to read the story but man you are awesome Rslash! This is why I love your content!

Your response to the affair baby was short but epic. As you were reading it and said, Nope, next story ... I almost hit the floor laughing. Good one!!!

First story: OP wasn’t the one shaming a father on his child’s birthday….he shamed himself plenty

I'm very curious about that affair baby story now

Story #1- Paul is a terrible person, but an even worse husband and brother! Story #2 I really hate those know it alls like Sophie. Lol I love that she thinks that the HOA can do something about him fishing. Story #3 Tom should respect other people's homes. His wife asked him nicely. Story #4 I agree with you he should allow her to live with him. He should constructively teach her to respect boundaries since she has never been taught how to. That is part of being a freaking parent! Story #5 That girl's boyfriend is a butthead in the worst way! Their friends are as well!!!

rSlash, you owe me a new keyboard. I spit my coffee all over it with your "Nope, next story" statement.

“Am I the butthole for not wanting to see my fathers affair baby?” “Nope, next story.” 🤣 chef’s kiss!

The affair baby one 😂😂 ‘Nope. Moving on’

"Am i the asshole for not wanting to see my dads affair baby" - Nope, next story bro that was really fast 💀

For those curious about the affair baby story, op is 16f and her and her mom discovered her dad cheated a year ago and he left them to live with the other woman 2 hours away, then asked op to come to a baby shower for the affair baby and she says no because she can't consider the baby her sibling and he called her an immature brat

OP needs to let the wife know he and his gf are always available if the wife needs them or if you need somewhere to stay in that first story. Because that husband is only going to get worse

No chapters? *First OP:* The daughter is a baby, so it's not like she'll remember it. Also, OP didn't make a big scene when he rightfully called his brother a "disgusting piece of 5hit." OP is NTA, and I hope Lisa divorces OP's brother. *Second OP:* The moment I saw HOA I thought OP is NTA. After reading the story, my decision stands. Could OP have handled the situation better? Maybe, but he's not obligated to do so, IMO. *Third OP:* OP told Tom not to provoke Marie and explained the consequences if Tom did so. Tom provoked Marie and is now facing the consequences. Sounds straightforward to me. OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* I can understand OP wanting his daughter to be respectful to him in his home, but I think he should've had a conversation with her to see her point of view. OP's mom is right: if OP's daughter would rather stay with OP (who abandoned her initially) over her mother, then something must be up and OP should take her in. OP is TA. *Fifth OP:* LOL! OP is NTA *Sixth OP:* Poor OP. She got robbed _twice_ . How is she impolite for not wanting to watch other people eat while she eats her boyfriend's scraps? OP is NTA, and she should consider dumping her boyfriend _and_ her friends.

Story 4 might be the difference between parents and non-parents. I think it's entirely reasonable that he set the expectation that if she lives with him she needs to follow his rules. The fact that the idea of following his rules was enough to piss her off says a lot about her mom's poor parenting. Not the asshole, the girl overreacted to a simple statement of fact.

First time I see rslash skip a story, that's insane.

Story 2: Unless he's leaving hooks and stuff all over the place and generally making it unsafe for people, wildlife, and the fish, he's not doing anything wrong. And he's using what he catches to _eat,_ that's something people have been doing for _centuries_ so pitching a fit about it and trying to get him in trouble for doing something harmless, and something he pays for legal permission to do, makes no sense.

I had to pause the video to laugh for a few minutes at the SKIPPED STORY, JUST "NOPE, NEXT STORY" AND THEN BOOM, NEXT STORY WITHOUT MISSING A BEAT LOL. You never fail to cheer me up, Dabney 😂❤

No political position is immune to having antagonistic people amongst that group that can't just exist without conflict or arguments all the time, let alone with not letting someone say something without feeling the need to debate and/or consider it a challenge.

AITA for not wanting to meet my father affair baby.... Nope next story 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Last story: since when is it expected for friends to just sit there and be polite when they are hungry and just got robbed? Why did OP even continue to dinner? If I had gotten robbed the night is over. I'm going home for the night. Mood is ruined. If the bf didn't have enough money to pay for OPs food, why did he continue to eat? Shoot, my friends would have said 'oh you can't cover for her? Oh let's go to McDonald's and I got both of yall'. OP has some sucky ppl in her life

13:20 made me crack up 😆

The "Nope, next story" made me laugh. Done with that, carry on.

The story of the conservatives vs the liberals: Op, why would you want to be with someone who fundamentally doesn’t respect you because of your gender and/or sex? And who fights with all your family who believe slightly different things than them because they only ever want to be right. And the story of the dad setting one condition to his daughter: Rslash, I understand where you’re coming from and I know your head is in the right place, but I don’t think you’re really understanding what’s going on. Nova is misbehaving and her behavior is becoming a problem, OP’s one condition is just that she has to behave. Should OP take Nova to behavioral therapy to help her understand her feelings and process the emotional trauma in her moms house? Yes. But does that mean OPs condition for Nova to live with him is unreasonable? No. OP isn’t saying that Nova won’t be loved by him or won’t be allowed to live with him if she doesn’t behave. He phrased it weirdly in the post, and if that’s the exact way he phrased it to Nova I’d certainly give him like 1-1.5 buttholes, but I don’t think him wanting her to try and behave and learn to accept punishments for her bad actions is a bad thing. So long as they’re general punishments like grounding or an extra chore or two, or a few days without things like TV or social media etc, that’s perfectly reasonable punishment. You can’t really expect a 10 yo to understand what’s right and wrong if they don’t get punishment in their normal household and instead just get cussed out(which isn’t healthy). OP is trying to raise a responsible person and I think his heart is in the right place and he should definitely get Nova therapy if he’s able to, but I don’t think he deserves the butthole score given to him.

9:48 - "I'm not saying that one group is right or wrong." Really rSlash? Because, here's the thing; the group that thinks women are 'less than' is definitely the group that is WRONG. "If you are neutral in the face of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor." -Desmond Tutu

1st one Paul deserved it. Plus flirting with Amy. Plus everything else. He is lucky he wasn't hit in the face by a few people and divorced.

“By getting drunk at his kid’s birthday party” - sounds like my dad :)

“AITA for not wanting to see my dads affair baby” Oh this will be interesting! “Nope, next story” 💀

I love listing to these before work and while cleaning my apartment i just love his voice and his laugh

Second story, I would've said something like, "Thank you for the free toilet paper" HOA Karens are the tools of the Devil.

Last OP: To safe money just spend no more on the boyfriend and that "friends", throw them all away, nobody needs People like that in ones life. Nope.

"Nope, next story" My fucking sides

I was like “ I could have sworn I’ve seen this headline thingy before” and I did. weird

Semi-off topic: My half-brother was NEVER punished, including always being bailed out of jail. Now, he is a HORRIBLE person that no one wants to be around or deal with. (Heck, I'm so scared of him, I walk through my own house, he lives elsewhere, with my switchblade in my hand when he's around)

*Jerk Husband:* Debate me! *OP's Sister:* No. *Jerk Husband:* _[Confused screeching]_

Rude to leave ? Excuse me?! You had no money and your friends shrugged saying “oh well sucks to be you!” As they gobble up food. Smearing that salt in the wound.

“Nope! Next story.” Was iconic and perfect. Didn’t need another word and I agree full heartedly.

Story 4: As someone who also didn't accept punishment as a child, the lack of respect comes from the abuse of the mother. Confirmed by the "cussing her out". I was self diagnosed by my mother with odd but the fact was that I was being abused by her to such a point that I refused to accept punishment. When existing gets you punished, you stop listening.

To the girl that got robbed , Get new friends and a new bf. Everyone you know is stupid.

The story before the last one with the father and daughter (Nova): As a child of divorce and abandonment at the age of 8 I can say that explaining that living with her father will require that she listen to him and accept punishment is an acceptable condition. He did not say he would abandon her if she was unwilling to accept the condition, that he would no longer be in her live unless she was the perfect child, he said that if she wanted to live with him it would be under the rules of his house. Unless those rules include mental or physical abuse, it is a perfectly acceptable condition. As far as I can tell, she is not asking to move in because she is being abused, and it is likely due to the fact that she has so many siblings; either the fact that she is expected to help with them or because she feel she is not getting attention, both of which are not considered abusive unless her mother is placing the responsibility solely on her child. It is likely that she desired a less stressful living condition, which is perfectly valid. At the same time, it is completely acceptable for her father to say, yes but if you live under my roof you must follow the rules. Is it so insane to require discipline from one's child? To make sure that she understand that this is not a vacation away from her mother and sibling but placing herself under the responsibility of another person, who will not only provide her with better living condition, but also a more stable and structured lifestyle that "Gasp" require that she actually listen to him? Seriously?!

"Aita for not wanting to see my dad's affair baby? Nope next story" Lmfao 🤣

LOL i’m so amused that you actually skipped over a story just went “ nope !next story” Love that

That "Nope, next story" got a laugh out of me

The baiting thing for arguments is EXACTLY what my dad does, but it's always with political "debates" and arguments where he just wants to convince you his opinion is right (he's very conservation I should add). He's my least favourite person to talk to.

Love how he just said nope after hearing "AILA for not wanting to see my husband's affair baby"

“Nope! Next story” Rslash has me dead 🤣😂😂😂 I had to go back to make sure I didn’t mishear that

I love how r/slash was like "NOPE Next story" real quick

1. You had me mad laughing reading just the title and moving on. XD 2. The father is already a self-proclaimed deadbeat dad and not-good person, but he's trying, even if he currently lacks all common sense/understanding of what it means to be a good parent. I hope he's able to rectify the situation with his daughter and learn as he goes how to improve himself.

“I was wrong to shame a father on his child’s birthday…” a child he openly admitted “ruined” his life. NTA.

“You’re doing the most sustainable form of putting dinner on the table. It must be bad for the environment” 🤨

Story 4: I agree with the father if someone wouldn't respect you in your own home I wouldn't want them there. However I wouldn't let my daughter live in a bad environment I would get here out and set rule along the way little by little so I see both sides I guess

Second story: The alternative to op fishing, would be for him to get in his gas powered car. Drive to the store, and then buy a fish. Which is gonna be worse for the environment then him legally fishing on his own property. Plus since he's prepping the fish for dinner, he's probably using every part of the fish that he can. Vs a package store which might be more wasteful. The Karen doesn't care about the environment. She only care about her properties view and doesn't wanna see a guy innocently fishing.

Getting mad at a guy fishing just for himself and his family is like yelling at a bear for catching fish. I agree that commercial fishing with nets and giant ships is one of the worst things we’re doing to the ocean, but it’s one guy in a lake.

Even when we ignore the part where he actually drinks, Paul's behaviour still looks like that of someone with a huge alcohol problem.

Third story: I knew the husband was a right winger as soon as OP said he doesn't respect that her sister doesn't care to debate anymore. I understand being passionate about politics. I know I sure am since I think the most important thing in the world is for my fellow human beings to be able to fulfill their basic needs, to have maximum freedom for all - especially freedom from oppression - and to eliminate bigotry. However, I know to pick my battles and stop when it's not worth it or when the other person becomes too upset. Also I don't know how people can strand having a bigoted partner when they aren't bigoted themselves. I don't mind many differences in a partner, but I couldn't be with someone who sees other human beings as inferior.

Gunna have to disagree with the Deadbeat Dad and Nova story judgement. It is perfectly reasonable to establish rules in ones house and having expectations that someone's offspring is going to follow those rules, while in that parent's house, is totally normal and should very much be expected. I wouldn't have given it a condition and would have said something along the lines of "from now on, you're going to follow the rules I set if you live in my house." Further... where was the butthole score for the mother? If she's indeed screaming at her daughter and cursing her out, setting that bad example, then she is an absolute terribly mother. Now the part where the dude wasn't around for his kid, seemingly by his choice, definitely earns a butthole score in of itself. I would venture to guess that the mother would likely block him from punishing her when she acted out but it's impossible to tell. Noticing you're being pretty bias in favor of women in these stories lately. C'mon dude, measure everyone with the same yard stick.

I literally can’t breathe after the “nope next story” i’m sick as is i’ve been sent into a laughing coughing fit lmaooo

The last time I went to dinner at a really nice place with my fiends, one of them went to the restroom at the end of the meal and on their way back they payed for everybody.. no, none of us were robbed and we could easily pay for our food or do the same. This is how friends should be..

Story 3, op shouldn’t be surprised when her sister finally decide to cut her out of her and niece’s lives for exposing their family to a raging sexist and probably all-around bigoted idiot. Getting along despite having different opinions is about supporting different sports teams or having different tastes in food, not about putting up with ppl who think humans shouldn’t all have basic equal rights.