Yeah, conservatives tend to be ignorant and brainwashed to begin with, so the refusal to see fault in oneself or their own family...? Yeah... I do feel kinda bad for Meg, because theres just NO way this isnt the result of conservative parents beating control and obedience into her. Hopefully she sees the light but, oof...
Right? If anyone had moral common sense, they would be scolding their family for doing something so...cruel. But Meg basically just said "They didn't mean it." Yeahhhhh...I would be looking at her differently after this.
Bravo to OP for kicking the inlaws out! Being a big "dog guy", I am appalled at their stupidity letting the dog out after being told not to, then not caring a bit about the dog. They are callous and uncaring, to the point of endangering the poor dog. OP definitely needs to rethink this marriage. 🤨
Eva saying OP shouldn’t have called out their mom like that, but she probably felt a sense of pride. Like why the hell not call her out the aunt was talking about OP and his brother.
and the mom had the nerve to be mad at OP for not cooking! No human being should be able to eat with the load of guilt pressed on their gut for what she did and their lack of action. Sounds like they just wanted a free place to stay and a free large meal. I bet mom letting Lucy out was a ruse to get OP out of their hair so they could use his place without dealing with him.
And it ticks me off that Meg didn’t have her boyfriend’s back and is instead justifying her parents’ actions. tHeY mAdE aN hOnEsT mIsTaKe, you mean by letting Lucy almost get killed by a wild animal? If the roles were reversed and it was OP justifying HIS parents’ actions after THEY let HER pet run away and almost get killed, she would be reacting very differently. If I were OP, even if I didn’t break it off immediately, I’d be giving an ultimatum: Me or your parents. Meg has demonstrated that she isn’t someone OP can go through with marrying.
@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah, the family is entitled trash and Meg apparently feels the same way. They didn't help look for the dog, they didn't offer to pay AND they whined about OP being busy fixing a problem THEY CREATED. Hope he pumps the brakes on that marriage! 🚩🚩🚩
For the 1st story here is a line that I think sums up the situation. "Shut up Meg." Her parents nearly killed her fiance's dog and acted nonchalant about it after she was found injured after they let her out. Meg you seriously cannot be defending them.
The grandparents from the inheritence story are TERRIBLE people, and I'd argue the grandmother is actually worse. The grandfather disowning his son because he chose to be with a woman who already had a kid is despicable enough, but after he died the grandmother started seeing them again, reformed a relationship, and pretended to be fine with everyone again, only to reveal that she STILL hated her son and never accepted the adopted kid into the family after her death. Who the hell were these people? Old school lords from a BBC drama?
Dabney's analogy is interesting. He's asking if the biggest AH you know is an AH for spending his money the way he wants. Assuming he only spends his money selfishly, booze, hookers, cars, etc., he isn't, but by your own logic, he's still an AH for everything else. The grandmother knew what she was doing when she left the OP that money, she knew her grandchildren didn't know about their parentage, and she knew she was not only dropping that bombshell, but that she was adding money to the mix. He's right that the OP is NTA, but the grandma clearly was one. BIG TIME. So to continue his analogy; the asshole has earned 500k, and chooses to spend it how he likes. He decides to start a business. A weapons factory. Only he doesn't sell them for home defense, or even national defence; he builds bombs and other weapons and sells them to foreign dictators, who he knows are likely to use them on civilian targets. You have the right to spend your money, or use it however you like, but no matter how legal it is; you could still be an AH for the way you choose to use it. The grandma used hers to knowingly destroy her son's family. The OP is the victim of that, but a victim who profits.
The grandpa might have a last wish kinda thing wanting his inheritence to go to his real line, and grandma would likely honor that wish even if she reconnected and doesn't hate her son. Especially if the son is already financially well off and isn't in desperate need of money. It seems their wish is for their inheritance to strictly go to their own line, so giving it to the father would mean it would eventually be split down the line, half going to the adopted kid.
@@tarynbarker2107 Well, they are aholes for cutting contact just because of their son marrying someone who already has a kid. But well, you don't think they are entitled to receive inheritance or anything like that yea?
@@Electric_Wizardwith the analogy as well, not even to go that extreme, the AH is stealing candy from kids or something like was said. And let’s say the AH gives you that candy he just stole from a 2 yr old (or refused to share with them). Are you no obligated to eat that candy in front of the crying 2 yr old? I’d say you’d be an AH too for not sharing it with the kid. It’s your candy now so you can do what YOU want with it. The AH can do what they want (even if it’s an AH move) but that doesn’t mean you have to continue to do it. You could if you believed somewhat in what the AH believes in but if you are entirely against it then you have a right not to honor it.
I couldn't do it. I loved my mom more than anything in the world I could never keep her inheritance. I may be on the minority but I think she's putting money in front of her relationship with her dad. Is money really worth more than a good parent? With all the awful parents out there I think There isn't anything more valuable than a GOOD parent. There's no way I could keep his money from him knowing that it was withheld just because he didn't live the life his father dictated to him.
Legally op isnt the butthole, but id say tht op is for feeling like she couldnt trust her family after finding out about her sibling. Thats not the issue here, the issue is her grandma and holding onto the resentment of her dead husband towards her son, while playing nice with them and building up that familial connection. Only to still essential do her son over in the will, all becuase he loved a women who was with child and he stepped up.
It sounds like it was a good thing OP and brother never met the grandpa and didn't see much of the grandma. Horrible if their toxicity rubbed off on them. However OPs dad was disowned and shouldn't expect anything from the will. Maybe OP could share with brother if she wants? Either way I think OP should tell his dad she knows.
The second to last story: OP's daughter is just precious! "Mom, can I sneak out of the house? Here's who I'll be with and what I'll be doing." It's so wholesome and adorable.
@@bibigamer502 They were going to manufacture a reason then turn around to everyone and say "see what we were forced to do???" In hindsight I had an ex who tried to do that to me for six months. When I didn't respond to her bsit with an outburst of some kind she eventually just moved out while I was at work.
There's an update: Update: AITA for beating my parents to the chase and moving out in the middle of the night? Reposting this on my profile because my post got instantly removed because I mentioned a RU-vid channel. Well, I certainly wasn't expecting to see my story on RSlash when I woke up this morning, but here we are. I honestly forget about this account, and struggled to remember the password, but here we go. A lot of shocking information was revealed and this is just my brief, messy account of it. So, like you all suggested I do, I told my grandparents what happened with screenshots of my parents' texts after I went to Riley's house. Let me tell you, that they were livid at what my parents were saying to me and the fact they were planning to kick me out. I ended up meeting up with them, and staying with them at their place for a few days while they tried to figure out what the fuck was going on with my parents. My mom and dad were being sent money monthly by my grandma and grandpa for my college fund since they mostly depleted it, after my brother Alex moved out because he was tired of them begging him for money due to their gambling addictions. My mom admitted that their plan was to kick me out, but act like I moved out willingly because I found an apartment, and get double the money that they were previously getting to help out with my rent money once they asked my grandparents for it. Grandma yelled at my mom over the phone and told her that she'd never see a dime of her money again. She told my mom that she would rewrite her will so that the money my mom would get would go to me, which my mom freaked out at. My dad blew up my phone one more time before I blocked both him and my mom's numbers for good, calling me an evil cunt and telling me that he wished my mom aborted me. So yeah. I talked with my brother, Alex and the only thing he really had to say, or ask, I guess was why our parents' scummy behavior hadn't been called out when they were trying to legitimately steal his paychecks to go gamble. I'm sorry if this is kinda rambly, but this was the best I could do at the moment. Thank you all for your advice and I'll maybe give another update if anything else happens, but I doubt it will. .
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 what is it with parents acting sucky, getting rid of what’s essentially their golden goose then getting mad at the person they tried screwing over
@@lasagnalovingcat5335 I was just getting ready to post that I figured that the grandparents were sending the parents money for the kids, but the parents spent it. Gambling is such a horror to a family when someone is addicted. It sounds like both of your parents are addicted. I'm sorry for you and your brother. I hope you both live a good life, a successful life and never look back. You have a good head on your shoulders and will be fine. I am sure of it, because at your age to make these plans and carry them out shows you are amazing. Keep you eyes on your goals and do great!❤
Yea... Seemed weird to have gambling sponsors on Reddit videos. A bit unethical to, I remember a while ago he had this same sponsor and he said it wasn't actually gambling.
This would be the same as to say poker is not gambling, since it is skill based on probability calculations and body signaling. But as far as i know, poker is still gambling 🤔 In many places this kind of advertisement would even be illegal since he specifically said ‘it is not luck based’. Which is false advertisment.
Yeah and the response wasn't even rude. It was just factual. Their bio mom hasn't been a parent to any of them in 7 years. Their legal guardian is the closest they have and it sounds like soon she'll legally be their parent. And honestly for the 2 year old she might be the only mom that she can remember.
And screw the people siding with her! Everyone knows the deal and still wants to villianize Eva? I hope OP can have a serious talk with Eva to let her know that he will always have her back like she has his and their brother. So that will mean that from time to time he'll have to keep a hag in check.
What's wrong with two children helping with a holiday meal? When I was 17 I was expected to help my parents prepare holiday meals and if anyone had said anything then my father would have shut them up really fast.
@@peterhobson3262 Agree. Me and my brothers wer expected to lend a hand from about the age of 7. (Setting the table at that age, gradually increasing as we got older.) Also STRONGLY agree with @soulgazer11. What the aunt said rises to the level of ' _You can leave now_ ' IMHO.
It's worse than what RSlash thinks. MOM didn't dip out; the kids were REMOVED from Mom's custody, including Eva at some point. That means MOM did something that was SO BAD or was SO UNFIT that she couldn't have her kids. And the FAMILY did NOTHING to help THREE kids whose mom was UNFIT to care for them. Then, the FAMILY criticized the ONE PERSON who stepped up at the AGE OF 19!
Story 3: The aunt here ruined the dinner. She made that nasty comment, OP fired back, and suddenly OP's the A-Hole for defending Eva? What's her problem. And yeah, the hypocrisy is painful. They chose "Don't step up" but suddenly they want the opposite. Yeah, right
It sounds like Eva has been doing everything to ensure the well-being of her brothers that she hasn’t thought about herself. It may be easier said than done but I hope Eva can get some therapy. At this point I feel like she has some sense of obligation to keep contact with those who’ve shown that they don’t love them.
but you see! OP rocked the boat and is the younger party, so OP is at fault! OP should have kept their mouth shut and let their aunt disrespect their amazing sister.
The part Dabney seems to have missed is, Eva was in the foster system, that means their mom abandoned her as well and the scrummy relatives didn't step up for her either. It baffles me they haven't gone full NC with theseuseless people.
I think OP is a very well self controlled and logical man because, I cannot be the only one who thought that opening the door and slugging Megs father in the face was the first thought that crossed my mind.
Seriously! For many people their pets ARE their kids and any decent parent would have reacted the same as OP. Are we even sure this was actually an accident? Cause the way Meg's idiot mom blatenly ignored OP's request, let the dog run out and didnt even attempt to look like they were gonna try looking for Lucy, it kinda sounds like they wanted to get rid of Lucy. The moment they refused to help me look is the moment their invitation to stay in my home expired
@@ajjamsen694 to me it would've been when they would apologize. Meg would've joined them since the apology OP said she provided was not an apology but more of a I'm sorry you feel that way passive aggressive apology.
Second story: no one is blaming OP for the choice of others. She's being blamed for HER choice. She agrees her father doesn't deserve any inheritance because he's a good man? Make it make sense. If he hadn't gone against his parents wishes she wouldn't even be here to receive an inheritance...
That is what I was thinking too. From a legal standpoint then no she doesn't have to share the inheritance. From a moral standpoint she just makes herself look selfish and it makes her look like she is siding with her grandparents opinions.
The impression that I got wasn't that she thinks her dad didn't deserve the inheritance because of his choice. Rather, she didn't want to share it because her dad kept the truth from her and her brother, and she's lost trust in her family because of it. It seems like if her dad would've at least told them at an appropriate age about the situation, she'd be more than willing to talk with him about it. Sure, I understand why he kept it from them as it's ultimately none of their business, but she's probably thinking "What else is my family hiding from me?"
@@ChrisLeighi mean i get that, but also why should it matter when he was their parent from day one. They are his kids. Only reason i can see for telling them is for potiential health issues, but at that point he would tell only the one kid as it pertains only to them. Op distrusting her dad for not telli g her that her sibling is just a half sibling is just feesing into her granparents bs
@@ChrisLeighThat's also how I read the situation. OP felt betrayed because her dad kept that secret from her. I also agree that OP's dad had a right not to tell OP because it was "none of her business." That said, OP had the right now to split her inheritance with her dad because of it.
Story 3: you were standing up for your sister because you didn't like the way the woman that refused to help any of you was talking to her, you will never be in a hole for that. And your aunt's just plain stupid because she's your legal guardian and since she was the one to bring up parents she doesn't get to be mad that you reminded her of the situation. Your grandparents probably hated that you brought it up because not only do they have to live with the fact their daughter is a disgrace but also that they let a 19-year-old take care of two small children and didn't do a damn thing to help. Also my guess about your sister is the family has been calling her too, probably making her feel insecure about what she couldn't do as your caregiver, and how she should have been a better person not to let you clap back at your b**** aunt. Screw these people they don't get to just leave all of you hanging then come back to talk crap about what any of you are doing wrong.
Yeah 😂 Just today my 2 kids 13 & 15 called me from school and asked if they could skip classes to go bowling with their friends 😂😂😂 I said yes but I also said " you realise that's not how skipping school works?"😂
@@TheGlazierIt just means you have a good relationship with the kids. They trust you enough to tell you their plans of skipping school, which is good, because you know where they are
@@lisadgingersnaps9843well, when you sneak out and get caught, you get punished, and she did say she wanted the experience of sneaking out. I think a mild "you're grounded" is in order and probably part of what she was expecting when she asked in the first place.
I usually agree with your assessments but in #2, like I said, family ain't just blood. When my dad passed, there was some inheritance. He left some to everyone, including his "bonus" granddaughter, along with a note just for me, saying how proud he was of me for being a dad when a dad was needed. It's something that made losing him just a little easier.
Okay but those were the grandparents actions. Op splitting her money has nothing to do with the grandparents. Nothing. Just like if you win the lottery you are under no ethical or moral responsibility to share that money. It's the same thing with op. Once the release form is signed and the money is released from the estate, zero percent of that money belongs to the grandparents anymore. It's op's money. And she's not obligated to do anything with it that she doesn't want to. Not ethically not legally. Not morally. Not at all. You're right. Family is more than blood. But opie's family is the one boiling it down to. I deserve that money because reasons. And if you don't give it to me, I'm going to destroy my relationship with you. They're the one dying on that hill. They know that money belongs to op and just like anything that belongs to someone. You don't have a moral or ethical claim on it. Just because of the way they got it is inconvenient for you doesn't change that fact. Opie's not responsible for her grandparents choices or her father's choice. Or her mother's choice. And she is not ethically morally obligated to share money. That is hers. Regardless of how she got it. That's the end of the story. And if the family wants to destroy their relationship with their only biological child well then that's their god-given right. But they're wrong not op.
Story 3: It aunt can’t take the insulting truth, then don’t dish out an insulting lie. If the sister has custody, she is a mother. And I agree she was a better mother than any of the relatives who hypocritically thought they could play at parent over half a decade later.
Story 1: NTA. Just a dog? *JUST A DOG?!* Dogs are not just some item you can just forget about, they are your BEST FRIEND/FAMILY MEMBER. The dad has the absolute gall to tell OP to suck it up when they didn't even help OP look for the dog in the first place. Honest mistake? Nah girl, the mom clearly said ok but did it anyway. That's not an honest mistake, it's purposeful sabotage! And who's fault was it that OP couldn't make dinner for them? Yep, the goddamn mom, they have no right to be mad at OP after what she did. Stand your ground, please make your girlfriend see the error of their ways.
Like, are we even sure it was an accident? The way that idiot mother acknowledged OP's request before blatenly ignoring him, knowing what would happen if she did what she did, let Lucy bolt and then not bother helping find Lucy and gets pissy at OP for not making a grand turkey dinner for them. The more I think about it, the more it seems like they were trying to get rid of Lucy. 🤬
Last story : "YOU CAN'T MOVE OUT UNTIL I KICK YOU OUT!" Lol sounds like they were aching/craving for that power trip and OP "robbed" them of that occasion. 😆
Definitely! I hope OP told her grandparents and show the texts. They are only mad that OP beat them at their game and stole their glory. Were they hoping OP would cry and panic and parents would con OP to stay only if she pays them a huge rent?
@@lorilancaster5917 Yeah, this absolutely reeks of a plan to make OP panic and beg to stay under any condition. They could want rent money, they could want to control where she goes after high school, or want her to be an unpaid, live-in maid. Or they're just power tripping, or 'wanted to teach her a lesson,' as we sometimes see bad parents are wont to do.
There was an update to the story. Update: AITA for beating my parents to the chase and moving out in the middle of the night? Reposting this on my profile because my post got instantly removed because I mentioned a RU-vid channel. Well, I certainly wasn't expecting to see my story on RSlash when I woke up this morning, but here we are. I honestly forget about this account, and struggled to remember the password, but here we go. A lot of shocking information was revealed and this is just my brief, messy account of it. So, like you all suggested I do, I told my grandparents what happened with screenshots of my parents' texts after I went to Riley's house. Let me tell you, that they were livid at what my parents were saying to me and the fact they were planning to kick me out. I ended up meeting up with them, and staying with them at their place for a few days while they tried to figure out what the fuck was going on with my parents. My mom and dad were being sent money monthly by my grandma and grandpa for my college fund since they mostly depleted it, after my brother Alex moved out because he was tired of them begging him for money due to their gambling addictions. My mom admitted that their plan was to kick me out, but act like I moved out willingly because I found an apartment, and get double the money that they were previously getting to help out with my rent money once they asked my grandparents for it. Grandma yelled at my mom over the phone and told her that she'd never see a dime of her money again. She told my mom that she would rewrite her will so that the money my mom would get would go to me, which my mom freaked out at. My dad blew up my phone one more time before I blocked both him and my mom's numbers for good, calling me an evil cunt and telling me that he wished my mom aborted me. So yeah. I talked with my brother, Alex and the only thing he really had to say, or ask, I guess was why our parents' scummy behavior hadn't been called out when they were trying to legitimately steal his paychecks to go gamble. I'm sorry if this is kinda rambly, but this was the best I could do at the moment. Thank you all for your advice and I'll maybe give another update if anything else happens, but I doubt it will. .
Op may not be responsible for her grandparents actions but she is responsible for upholding their actions, it doesn't matter who would inherit what back then
I don't understand your take. Once you inherit money you sign the release form. It's in your bank account. It's your money. It's not inherited money anymore. It's your money. And just like how with your money you are not morally or ethically obligated to split it with your family. End of discussion. She's not propagating. Her grandparents lies. It's not her grandparents money anymore once she inherited it. This oh well, you should split the money. It's not their money. It never was. It never will be. You're not entitled to an inheritance. Your parents could have a billion dollar estate and decide to die and leave it to Joe blow's homeless shelter down the road. That's the right. And just like the homeless shelter would be under no obligation to share that estate with the children. Op has no obligation. Not morally not ethically.
What bothers me the most is that OP mentioned that Meg still talks with her, obviously TOXIC, family...even if she is different from them. And she had THE GALL to apologize for them. Yeahhhhhh, she's still influenced by them. Dump the b*tch...keep the pooch.
I'd really be wary about letting betting companies sponsor you. There aren't many sponsors where the consumer has provable negative value going in - but sportsbooks are one entity that certainly have the edge 95% of consumers.
Story two: the grandparents are in the wrong, I don't know how that is even in dispute. There's a massive difference between "spending your money how you want" and disinheriting your son over marrying a pregnant woman. There are very few reasonable things to disown your child over, and that is not one of them.
Yeah people are free to spend their money hOwEvEr ThEy WaNt. So if they want to spend it to completely destroy a happy family, that's completely within their right! Not the butthole! Lol, great reasoning r/slash
It's a soft YTA for the sister. Like it is her money and she could do whatever she wants with it but it's human decency to correct that mistake. She can think of it as sharing out the money as it would have if her grandparents weren't ridiculous.
How does OP dodge blame for being an asshole, she’s acting like the victim when in reality she didn’t deal with any of the abuse or shunning from the family and gets the inheritance
@@ZeroOhClocknot a soft ah she is an ah, she’s acting like the victim and somehow justified in keeping all the money. When in reality she’s the only person who didn’t deal with any abuse from the grandparents and is just trying to find an excuse to keep all the money
@@MinusTheCoffee I agree. The letter brought her completely in the know. She is now a participant in the abuse if she decides to press on the abuse of her grandparents.
Story 4: This story is so adorable. A straight A's student getting permission to sneak out. If I was the step father I'd suggest that we pretend to punish her to give her the full experience of sneaking out since she did get caught.
same. have that "waiting in the dark" and pulling the "and where have you been young lady?" thing would be so fun. also grounding her until the morning for the full experience. just the whole situation is so cute. and yet the stepdad is being an ass about it.
So you wouldn't be mad at your wife for secretly allowing your stepdaughter to sneak out without your knowledge and you not finding out until she's already missing in your eyes? You would be potentially worried sick about your stepdaughter only to find out your wife knew where she was the whole time, and you'd be fine with that? I'd see that as betrayal and a red flag.
@@uselessinformation1988No, because from the sounds of it, he didn’t find out until the stepdaughter was already back. He’s trying to punish her for being a good kid who got permission to do this. Also, what’s so different about this than her asking her mom to spend the night somewhere? Does she need both parents’ permission for everything she does?
@@uselessinformation1988 okay, yeah, being mad at the wife is valid, but wanting to punish the kid who did something with permission? bro, that is abusive.
Story 1: If i ever accidentally got someone's pet lost (especially if it's my HOST's pet), I'd be desperate to find their pet and I wouldn't stop searching until the pet was found. I'd shower the poor thing in treats and hugs, and any vet bills would be on ME. How can someone lack empathy to this degree?????
Well, conservatism doesn't exactly breed empathy. Its about restrictions and control, an adherence to the status quo and a made up "good old days", so as unfortunate as it is, this was just the LEAST horrific thing the parents could have done :/
Imagine as a stepdad wanting to punish your child for "sneaking out" after they told your partner every detail about it AND asked for permission. Grow up stepdad.
sounds like he wants one last chance to punish her since she's now an adult. I bet OPs kid is a good daughter and he likes to fish for chances to punish in order to fufill his "fatherly" role?
I can see it if punishment is something silly like no phone for 5 minutes since she did say she wanted the sneaking out experience and she failed to cover her exit.
@kogihernandez4824 Came to say just this. Context matters, and it wasn't given. I'd be pushing for punishment too, but just to provide the experience of sneaking out. Nothing harsh, but something like a day of being grounded. Teach her to cover her tracks better.
@MyDirtyHobo oh no doubt we are probably missing some information. There is also the gray area step patents operate in even with 12 years of being a male parental figure. They both need to step away for a moment, cool off and talk about it again.
I would just like to point out that in Story 2 if it’s the grandparents choice to not share the inheritance and OP’s choice as well based on (imo inconsequential) choices made by the dad, their choices also has consequences. The grandmother hid this in order to selfishly have a relationship with her son while still stabbing him in the back and now the OP is doing the same while hiding behind, what exactly? Her dad stepped up to help someone and raise the kid as his own? From this point on, following NTA logic, the dad has the right to disown the OP as consequences of her choices. I doubt he will given the person he is but he has the right to. ETA: Also, spending is not inconsequential, saying so would be saying I could, right now, donate $100 to an anti-LGBTQ organization and I would be in the right because it’s my money. Not how that works.
Let's be real, that inheritance would've been a life changing amount of money and the parents decided to punish their son even though he did something remarkably kind. The daughter not sharing the money feels like she's validating their actions, which must sting a lot for the father and the brother, who knew nothing and did nothing wrong.
this is exactly how i felt as well. i understand dabney's perspective that OP can do with her inheritance what she wants, but refusing to even explain her choice to her immediate family is kind of an ahole move imo. i'm also not exactly sure where the "revealing this would break the whole family apart" mentality is coming from, unless this family thinks that blood relations are the only valid ones... which it kinda seems like. yikes.
The posed question is AITA and she clearly is by supporting the actions of the grandparents. She might disagree with their view but wants to keep the money anyway out of greed which doesn't make it anything better. Dabney's lecture on "life is unfair" and "we can't change it" is disgusting. Justifying the privilege of one with the privilege of the other?! Additionally she obviously could change the situation but choose not to! And the fact that he lets a gambling site sponsor him speaks volumes. I think I need to unsubscribe!
@@noinfo5630I bet you and he has done this in stories where someone either can’t get inheritance or something cause they’re a woman or gay and instead of saying “life’s not fair” he tries to say it’s unfair for them
First story OP said Meg doesn't like dogs, but likes Lucy. No, she does not, she doesn't like dogs. She is tolerating Lucy because of you. She is waiting for the ring, then she will push for Lucy to be re-homed. OP won't go along with it of course, but one day some months later, he'll get the call that Lucy ran away while he was at work, and they'll never find her. That would be because Meg re-homed Lucy, not run away. If you still want to stay with this woman, and keep your dog, chip Lucy. If she is already chipped, change the access to the credentials so Meg can't do it herself. Edit to add thoughts on the sneaking out with permission. I was a step-dad, so I think what I have to say is valid. I would have been disappointed that something like this was hidden from me, but you also have to realize getting caught sneaking back in is also part of it. So is getting in trouble. The hard part would be trying to keep from laughing as you hand out some weak ass, BS punishment. You would have to keep is scary for the daughter to make it seem real until you tell her the punishment. Since Thanksgiving was mentioned, she could make dinner the next day... from the leftovers.
The last story, oh my bloody god Dabney you said exactly what I was thinking. "Don't tell your grandparents" is LITERALLY code for "We know what we're doing is terrible, but we don't want the repercussions of our actions to haunt us". I REALLY hope OP sends a screenshot of what her mother said to the grandparents and UPDATES US ON THE FALLOUT MY *GOD*
Story 2 - Apparantly rslash can't tell the difference between rAITA and rLegalAdvice... Yeah, she legally doesn't have to share but the way she suddenly acts like her whole family got replaced by pod-people after finding out her father got disinherited for adopting a child that wasn't his...She's DEFINITELY got her grandparents messed up genes. All her comments reveal her toxic, wicked and hateful nature. I hope her family disowns HER and her father contests the will and she has to waste all her ill-gotten inheritance in court.
Yeah, like ANY decent person would give 80% of the money to the dad and split the rest between your siblings, keeping the money is incredibly selfish and just shows how little you value your family and justice. Rslash's stance on this is just really odd, it's not like op won the lottery or smth, she got given money for the wrong reasons and obviously the righteous owner of the money is the father, taking the "well legally she's in the clear" stance is just so inhuman and just ignores the interpersonal relations they have.
Imagine judging your dad negatively for stepping up as a man and looking after a child that isn’t biological his, marrying the woman he loves despite the consequences. I think it’s very noble, and disappointing that op judges her dad so harshly
@@boywiththebread101have you thought of maybe she doesn't trust her dad. He kept the fact that her brother is a half brother from her and potentially the brother as well. I think it's more weird that the family is mad at OP for not sharing what was inherited to her instead of the grandmother.
story2: true she can get the inheritance but she most def is in the wrong for keeping all of the money. her dad has been punished by having bad parents, why is she now punishing him for what? being a good dad and husband???? huhhhh
The first story is very much a case of needing to sit down and talk because Meg is going to find out whether not OP chooses her or their dog and her health. In one move, Meg's family made it clear they're completely incompatible with OP and I wouldn't really blame OP if they choose to leave Meg because of them.
Story 4: why does she deserve to be punished when she had permission? If he doesn't like her sneaking out even in this very interesting scenario then he can have a conversation with you but she doesn't deserve to be punished when she had to go ahead. Although why didn't you tell him, if only to make sure he doesn't get worried or misunderstand the situation.
She doesn't deserve to be punished, but that is part of the experience. Make sure the punishment is known to be a punishment, but lite enough that it's not really hurting her. Even just a "stern" talking to might be appropriate. And try to keep from cracking up during the talk.
@@cainampi But that's not the stepdad's MO. He's seriously angry, I think more at his wife than at kiddo. He needs to calm down but it sounds like he's not good at that. Mom needs to consider if she really wants to remain in a relationship with such a volatile ahole.
@@sourisvoleur4854 No, He needs to consider if he wants to remain in a relationship with mom/OP. OP's keeping secrets from her husband but somehow her husband is the villain when he reacts in anger upon finding out. Somebody make it make sense.
@@uselessinformation1988 Easy. This guy is touchpaper and Mom wanted to let kid have fun, and knew if her abusive husband found out, he'd explode, so she didn't tell him.
Op didn’t bring up the situation, the Aunt did. I can’t imagine going into someone else’s home, someone who gave up what are supposed to be the best years of their life to raise their siblings, and making a comment like that. Eva is a fucking saint.
I hope after this OP, Eva, and brother go very low or no contact with these people. They are just further proving that they are no family to them and likely talk lowly about them to others.
And she made that comment because Eva had the kids... helping. Like...? "And??" Kids help out all the time. I can't fathom why the aunt wants to get a dig in at Eva and her kids, but she was clearly looking for a chance to say something. It's weird.
I've actually had something similar happen to story one. I had a graduation party in my backyard, someone accidentally let our huskey out and everyone at my party helped us get him back because he's fast and I have nice friends lol
This is exactly my thought If he's wanting to do actual punishment for it, that's dumb, but if it's just kinda playing along (maybe something funny like "you're grounded" on a day that was already planned to be basically what the grounding already matches with, or yeah, setting the table or whatever), then that's fun and fitting
But that doesn't seem to be the stepdad's angle. If he had said that, it would be one thing. But he was genuinely pissed. What he REALLY wants is to punish his wife, which he has been doing by punishing the daughter. She needs to dump his ass. The mom, I mean.
For the story about the inheritance: I get really frustrated when people say NTA because you have a right to do something. Just because you have a right to do something doesn't mean you're not an AH for doing it. And it's not "do I have a right to do this" it's "am I the AH". So yeah she has every right not to share that money. But if her reason for not sharing is that her dad married a pregnant woman (and without that fact she otherwise would have shared the money with them), she's a judgemental AH.
Exactly... in most things you can do whatever you want. That doesn't mean all paths are equally moral and the point of this is like. Crowdsourcing what the moral path is. People who are like "well legally she can" its not a legal subreddit. This is not r/legal advice. No one comes to AITA and asks about law. And law and morality are very often entirely different beasts
@@twistysunshine Right. I completely agree. If she had said "I feel really gross about why I was the only one chosen to receive money but I really could use this money to change my life wibta for not sharing it" that would be different to me. It's not her fault why she was the only one given money. And if she needs the money she's definitely not obligated to share it. But if she agrees with that being the reason she was given the money, and that is the reason she won't share it then she is an AH for that being her reason for not sharing it.
Last story: The fact that OP was ready to go instead of devastated and/or confused says a _lot_ about the relationship her parents have with her. I'm not surprised they were more concerned that she might tell her grandparents, OR that mom thought it was a smart idea to _actually text_ that she was 'an ungrateful b-ch.'
Ugh, come on dude. Yes, she didn't decide to disinherit her dad and brother. But she decided to be greedy. Hope she thinks the money is worth the relationships. And truly hope she isn't shocked when she gets nothing when her parents pass on. Because that is absolutely what I would do.
Story 2: While OP has a e right to keep all of the inheritance, if it were me, I would share it to keep harmony in the family and to be fair. Why perpetuate the grandparents' bad choices? It's totally up to OP, though.
It is, literally, but that's not what OP is asking. They're asking if they're an ahole for not sharing and not telling the family why. It's not "can I do this" the subreddit. We can all do whatever within legal bounds forever. It's "would I be the asshole" and I think if you perpetuate your ahold grandfather's decisions then. Yeah
Sudden wealth (inheritance/lottery/selling off property due to other circumstances, etc) truly shows, whether your family is made out of decent people or not. I have my personal experience to back that up too, albeit not as extreme as typically shared in stories on Reddit.
Story 4: I think the parents have a curfew and rules about where and with whom they can go. Daughter did ask to sneak out, but in context she asked if she could break the rules and do it in a fun way. This is top tier good child behavior. Those parents have a unicorn of a daughter, and the father I hope will calm down and appreciate that.
This isn't about OP's stepdaughter sneaking out. This is about OP keeping secrets from her husband. There's more to this story than OP is saying. And I think it was anger talking when when husband wanted to punish her daughter. Wouldn't anybody be mad if they were in his shoes?
I had a really horrible uncle who left me (and other family members) just a bit of money. I made sure to turn that money into something decent for others cause I didn't want any item in my house that would remind me of them. 100% legally right to keep the inheritance and morally objectionable if she does. She's just continuing the grandparents horribleness and shouldn't be surprised if her family distances themselves from her over this.
Imagine how the brother will feel after he finds out? She's not trying to keep the family together. She wants to protect herself from the fallout of her greed. If she keeps that money she will (and should be) disowned
Everyone keeps saying "right". Yes, she has the legal right. The subreddit is r/AITA, not r/LegalAdvice. She is the asshole, and I don't like how r/ turns it into a matter of legality. The 'complete asshole' situation he talked about who ends his life with 500k? Yes, he has the *RIGHT* to leave it however he wants, but that doesn't mean certain decisions aren't assholish. He could donate the money to a charity helping save lives, or he spend the money to purchase a bunch of plastic to have it burnt, cause he doesn't have to deal with environmental issues anymore. Both are legal (depending on the state), but one is an asshole move, and for some reason r/ ignores the distinction specifically regarding inheritance.
Story 4: reminds me of when my mom was a teenager. When her parents asked if she had any plans for the night, she told them she was gonna sneak out and skinny dip with her friends in the local lake. They laughed and said "have fun" because they thought she was joking. Grandma was so pissed when she found out my mom actually did it 😂
I have a cute sneaking out story. My husband, with permission, went to his sister's kids's windows after bedtime and "snuck" the kids out the window after bedtime to go get ice cream. They were so excited and really thought they were doing something. It's a really good memory for all of them. 😂😂😂
The key difference is that you knew, so it makes a good memory, this step dad was in the dark so for him the panic, the worry, and then anger, all very real and justified when you're not told ahead of time.
I remember an old friend from when I was in elementary school who had a cat that loved trying to escape out the door. One day, he did when my sister and I were just about to come and visit. Guess what? WE HELPED HER LOOK FOR THAT CAT. And it wasn't even our fault he escaped! Meg's family is delusional and she's no better.
There is an EDIT for the Cousin Adaption story. Apparently the relatives arent just "IDGAF" regarding OP and his brother.. they where ALSO "IDGAF" about Evas foster homes...
explains alot. They don't want to help and only want to use OPs family ordeal to have gossip. They are the two old men from the Muppets who like to heckle and roast people. Only exception is those guys were likeable whereas OPs family outside of Eva and brother have no redeeming qualities.
I'm sure Rslash has an audience of all ages (I'm 35 myself). If his content was made for kids, we wouldn't be able to comment. And most of his videos aren't even kid friendly.
@@uselessinformation1988 considering plenty of the reddit stories have teens as the OP, it isnt unreasonable that there is a high amount of people under 14 watching these videos
That was my first thought as well. I’m sure Meg complained to her family about Lucy and this was their way of “helping” her. I sincerely hope that Op recognizes how toxic the fiancé is and kicks her to the curb asap. If he goes through with the marriage poor Lucy’s days will be numbered.
Wait, so the second OP is going to disown her dad because OP found out her brother is actually her half-brother? Major AH. OP and both grandparents are being terrible to the dad because he wanted to be a stepdad. Let's have a parallel between RSLASH's verdict on a different story. OP cuts her dad out of her life for such a tiny, petty thing that honestly, shouldn't be an issue: 0/5 buttholes. Meanwhile, in an older video, RSLASH gave an OP 2/5 buttholes for stopping a predator from advancing on his son. Why are RSLASH's verdicts so strange?
He's an extreme sexist, and since he's a father on his own, he basically believes daughters can't do bad. Based on his verdicts everyone knows that he pampers his daughter and raises her to be scum, that will believe she can't do wrong.
Honestly the only thing I really have to say for story 2 is this: Remember guys, the sub is not called "Am I legally in the right?" its called "Am I the asshole"
Just because somebody has a windfall that doesn't directly benefit you and you don't think the way they got that windfall was right. Doesn't mean you are ethically or morally obligated to part of that windfall. Once the estate is settled and the tax agency agrees and the release forms are signed and that money is deposited into op's account, it is no longer the grandparents money. It is op's money. And just like you are not entitled to your brother or your sister's money. Nobody is entitled to this money. But op. Op is the one that's going to have to pay inheritance tax, not the father or the brother. The reality is is if your response to somebody in your life you're related to having a windfall is how can I get mine. You are not a moral or ethical person. You don't have an ethical claim to somebody else's windfall. Just because that windfall doesn't directly benefit you. So yeah the father calling on the phone and saying we need to talk about the inheritance and trying to emotionally manipulate and blackmail op into giving him money that he has no claim to is what's gross. Everybody condemning op because she wants to do what she wants to do with her. Money is also kind of gross. Also, these parents are high middle class. They're not financially struggling. The brother is not living in a cardboard box on the side of the road not being able to eat for days at a time. He's living in upper middle class life. It's not like this money is the difference between living on your car or having a roof over your head. There's no ethical, moral or legal obligation to share your money with anybody. Just because someone got a windfall that didn't benefit, you doesn't mean That person is obligated to share that windfall with you
For the first story: even if it wasn't my fault, I would still get out there and help. Especially seeing how important it is to the person who owned the dog
A 17 soon to be 18 asks for permission to sneak out is effing adorable. If she were to get punished I suspect the relationship will take a hit as she did nothing wrong. Sounds like an invitation to lie in the future Last one, seems like the parents wanted the pleasure of kicking OP out, like they were getting some weird kick out of it
For the sneak-out story: part of the sneaking out experience is being caught and punished for it. Honestly, I get where the step-dad is coming from! Just make it a really token punishment, like "you naughty girl, now you have to do the chores you already had to do anyway!"
Exactly what I was thinking. As someone who snuck out A LOT when I was a teenager, that's definitely part of it. Just have the punishment be something like having to do the dishes that night.
But the cutesy fake punishment is not what the stepdad is about. He's mad at the mom for going behind his back, because his precious authority has been disrespected. That's what the story says.
Sorry 2 is crazy. The fact that she and her brother didn't even know that they were half siblings means that the father treated both so well they never felt out of place. As someone who comes from a blended family where that did NOT happen, I respect OPs dad so much and believes OP should share the inheritance. Also crazy to leave her brother out of it.
Last story: well your mom just confirmed you didn't misunderstood what they said. And since you have no obligation the height the fact they were going to throw you out the second they could I would just flat out to Grandma and Grandpa, even show them the text messages. Because clearly they were going to keep this as secret as possible so they wouldn't get crap for tossing you out as soon as they legally could.
I hope OP does and they give her parents an earful. What were they hoping to achieve by kicking OP out? If they waited a few months she would have left after graduation. I doubt having OP there for a little while longer would be that financially straining.
And honestly, by moving out the parents would've been in the clear until they sent Op those horrible texts. They could've told them that Op chose to move out and never said anything about kicking OP out but only discussed what to expect when the day comes. They could've weaseled their way out of showing who they really were but let they hate red flag flow.
A couple weeks ago I thought my cat was gone gone. Thankfully found him but I was so devastated when i thought he was gone for good and i can imagine how op was feeling. My bf and his dad were trying to help find him and I would not look at them the same if they had been AH like ops in laws. Definitely NTA.
Bad take on story 2. Yes, OP is not responsible for the choices of her grandparents, but she's still an a-hole for perpetuating those decisions AND for judging her father for something that's not any of her business.
Honestly idk why she’s upset over her dad not being the bio dad of her brother? I thought the secret would be something bigger, like dad getting into a physical fight with grandpa causing them to split. It’s pretty easy as a kid to bully another kid for any difference (having a different dad as a example)
I mean, it's not a bad take just because you don't like it. It's literally the most neutral take that simply talks about the ownership of the money. Factually, she's not the asshole. Morally, she might be... assuming you and I would've handled this situation differently. The biggest asshomes are the grandparents for starting this in the first place.
Op made it sound like they don't judge their parents but just didn't like how they found out the truth. At this time it sounds more like they don’t know what to do about the truth and not thinking about the inheritance just yet.
@lorilancaster5917 except for the part where the step-dad had to experience the panic and worry of "holy shit, where is my child and are they okay." I love how everyone in the comments overlooks the fact that because he was left in the dark it was way more real to find the window like that. You'd all be fucking livid if it happened to you, but let's ignore that part, he's just a stepfather right? Absolutely trash views from people who have never had that experience.
@@cdleachxiiiYes, that is not considered, yet no one meant harm. Of course, that doesn't mean it's 100% okay. But it does mean that OP could/should get 2/5 for not thinking about the fear of the stepdad.
For the Inheritance money, saying "They're making OP assume the responsability of her grandparent's decision" is actually true : She is following their will by keeping their money, therefore, she "approves" of the decision. There was another inheritance story where OP's sister got nothing from their grandparent because they were a lesbian and the GP was a bigot, and we agreed that OP would "condone her GP's behavior by keeping the money to herself", so that's kinda the same situation.
Unless needs the cash to pay off college debt and or medical bills. And why are the dad and bother demanding money from a bitter person. If OP is being greedy so is the father and brother.
@@MrDoverfieldBecause her father at least arguably deserves the money and if she doesn't give it to him then yes even if she doesn't agree with the Grand Parents she's supporting their decision potentially ruining her relationship with her father and brother over money his father deserves she's the a-hole because she's supporting the Grandparents foolish views this r/amitheasshole not r/canIlegallydothis legally its fine for her to do it but morally she's supporting her grandparents views even if she doesn't support her grandparents views that makes the her the asshole morally not legally.
@@MrDoverfield So is he not entitled to a bit of the inheritance morally (not legally) because the reason he didn't get the money is unjust or do you agree with the Grandparents and he should have to face the consequences for his actions well guess who's enforcing that OP that makes her the asshole Grandparents are dead no one has to follow their will the only reason it's still being enforced is because OP thinks it should seems pretty greedy and all this I'm just angry he didn't tell me comes of as an excuse to keep all the money to herself.
Story 2 The fact that it seems like OP took her father's share, makes me think that the Grandmother want the money to go to the father's line. Maybe she doesn't want to out right give it to him and trust OP will share some with him? OP thinks that the reasoning was BS, but doesn't want to share the money with her dad? The right and selfless thing would be giving him the inheritance. But it is also acceptable to honor the will without redistributing it, just beware of the consequences lol
story 2: by the title you'd think OP learned some horrible dark secret about their father ,like he was a serial killer or something, but no, they just learned that their brother is actually their half brother ,shocking .
When comes to inheritance it gets so messy it's just sad. My mom asked my stepdad if he would make sure us kids got money when she died. He stupidity said no. So the next time I came home. I live in another province. She took me to the bank to open a joint account that he can't touch because I'm the main holder of the account so it's mine once she's gone. She also uses it for when she wants to give me money. She just tells me how much to take and I don't take anymore than that. She also told me to only give to my one brother instead of my two brothers. So my oldest brother doesn't know about the account. It's not a big amount but it's nice it's there. It'll help with me getting home for a funeral and any expenses for when that happens
As someone who was a goodie two shoes who never got the chance to sneak out, That is hilarious and I LOVE IT!! The step dad is being absurd. She got permission from one parent, so the other parent wouldn't know, and she could have the fun and excitement without getting in trouble!
Never would expect Dabney, of all creators, to take a gambling platform sponsorship. Well, it seems that the "What goes up must come down" saying still holds true.
I havent seen any comments on it but for the final story OP posted an update right after seeing that her story was featured in the video earlier today. TLDR of it is OP did end up going to her grandparents, and they revealed they were sending money to OP's parents for her college fund after they spent all of it after OP's brother moved out since they were begging for his money to fund their gambling addiction. They planned to kick OP out, while making it seem like she moved out willingly, so they could then go to the grandparents and ask for double the amount, and act like they were sending OP money for rent and college. Predictably, they get written out of the will, and OP cuts contact with her parents after a few more insults are thrown at her.
*First OP:* I'm surprised OP didn't kick out his future in-laws (he may need to reconsider that) that day after he searched for Lucy. OP is NTA. I'm glad the pooch is okay, relatively speaking. *Second OP:* OP's grandma had the right not to leave her son (OP's dad) any money for whatever reason (even if the reason was harsh). OP has the right not to split her inheritance for whatever reason _and_ to feel betrayed by her parents. OP's dad and brother also have the right to be upset about not having anything in the will. Controversial opinion, but I'd say N.A.H. Well, OP and her brother aren't TAs at least. *Third OP:* The Thanksgiving dinner wouldn't have been "ruined" if OP's mom hadn't kicked him and his brother (and probably sister) out of her house. If anything, OP's aunt ruined Thanksgiving. OP is NTA. Shoutout to Eva for getting custody of OP and his brother (when she was still a youngin). That's right, rSlash; read these blood relatives for filth. *Fourth OP:* I like how OP's daughter asked OP permission to sneak out, and gave her information about who she's going with. That's cute. OP is NTA. I don't know what her husband's issue is. *Fifth OP:* This is giving, "You're not supposed to dump me; I'm supposed to dump you" vibes. OP is NTA. Shoutouts to OP's friend, boyfriend, and friend's parents. _That's_ a family.
I love the 4th story, it's just so wholesome. I know the stepdad didn't mean it like this, but I'd totally want to punish her too, just to give her that whole sneak out experience. Take away her phone for an hour or give her an extra chore to do or something just so i could get in on the fun. Teasing and loving, and not just because I feel like I've been slighted or disrespected.
Story 2: this is what happens when families keep secrets. Grandma dropped a bomb that detonated the family, but she doesn’t have to take any of the flak because she’s dead. The parents kept the brother’s birth a deep, dark secret-except it wasn’t really a secret at all, because the grandparents (who wished ill on the parents) knew all along. Did the parents seriously think that the grandparents, who were so full of resentment that they disowned their own son over it, would just let it lie? I think the parents owed it to the brother, at least, to tell him the truth. The OP is not legally obligated to give anyone anything, it’s true, and the resulting resentments within the family won’t technically be her fault. But if I were the brother, I’d resent everyone for putting me in that position: the grandparents who couldn’t find any love in their hearts for me because I wasn’t blood-related to them, my parents who weren’t up-front and didn’t prepare me for what was coming, and the sister, who justified herself for overlooking me with the same logic my grandmother used, just because was butthurt that out parents didn’t tell her, either. My verdict: ESH, except the brother. OP may be in the right, legally, but this is a situation where one can totally be in the right and still be an asshole. We had a similar situation in my family, and us siblings (one step- and two blood) stuck together and made sure things were equitable, so I can say with confidence that if I were in OP’s position, I’d give the brother something (doesn’t even have to be half).
The third story has Little Red Hen vibes. “Hey, you want to help me grind the wheat?” “Nah.” “Could you help me make the dough?” “Nah.” “Could you help me make the bread?” “Nah.” [some time later] “Hey, can I have some of that bread?” (Or in this case, “Why didn’t you make the bread the way I like it?”)
I've been in a similar situation a few years ago! But I was the guest and the owner of the didn't found one of her cats and blamed me and my bf for letting the cat out... When we found it, it was sleeping comfortably in the leisure area of the house! She didn't look at the place were the cat should be!
@zerokyuuni yeah so if you gamble your taking a risk and you know it all rslash is doing is telling you about a place you can do it if you wanna gamble ok if don’t ok FUCKING DONT then also it’s rslash not r/ it’s not that heard stop lazy
I was thinking that advertising gamblimg is subject to regulation in many countries. Is he basically opening himself up for litigation by EU and other countries where it's illegal?
Story 2: Regardless of the inheritance, the fact that OP chose to not trust her father over this says a lot. Either there are more reasons that were not included, or OP is the AH because she chose to distrust her father over not sharing something that was: 1. Really none of her business 2. Could have potentially hurt OP's relationship with her grandmother, mother, brother and maybe even her father. I do see a problem with people nowadays where we think that we are entitled to any knowledge about anything that goes on around us. Even if it really doesn't impact us. The truth is, there are some secrets that are okay to keep between those that need to know and nobody else needs to know about them. So, I say either OP does get at least 0.5 AHs, or there's more to this story that was not in the post.
The first story MADE ME SO MAD! They way that they didn't care about the dog or didn't help. I'm over here holding back tears because my dog was basically dying on Thanksgiving because of an unknown illness that we was trying to figure out what he had. We tried to feed him something but he threw it back up the next day. He ended up passing away early in the morning 3 days later on his favorite part of the couch and he was only 4 years old. Op is definitely not the asshole but the parents ARE! In my eyes the parents should get 10 out of 5 assholes. They didn't give a damn when the dog came back hurt and they are the ones who let her loose
@@ajjamsen694 we think that he passed from Parvovirus. We was going to take him to the hospital the day that he passed away but he passed away in the night
2nd story: just thought I'd mention that in most of Europe a couple hundred years ago with regards to rich people marrying, if a woman brought a dowry into the marriage, her husband managed and profited from it, but her daughters would traditionally inherit it as their own dowries when she died, or it would revert back to her family per the marriage contract. Also she wouldn't inherit anything upon her husband's death, except the use of a dowager house to stay in and an allowance.
Story 1: your GF is sorry you felt bad as your dog was gone because her family deliberately disobeyed you? I don't know if this relationship is going to work out if that's how your GF handle her very ungrateful and disrespectful family. Honestly I think it was nice of you not to kick them out when your dog was gone and you came back with the poor thing bruised up like that, like how stupid can everybody be, her dad's lucky he didn't get punched in the face for saying that. Besides she has a place let them stay there and never invite these people back into your house
Story 1. Meg's mother disregarded OP's rules while a guest in OP's house and Meg and her parents trivialized what happened to Lucy. A normal person with basic empathy would be falling over apologetic for letting the dog out after being told not to, and would have offered to pay the vet bills without question. Not complaining about not being catered to after such atrocious behavior AS A GUEST IN SOMEONE ELSE'S HOME. Is the end of this relationship really such a loss?
1st story: Shows why dogs are so much better than people. Story 2: the inheritance was willed to OP, she is under no obligation to share it with anyone. It sucks that he was disowned for stepping up, but that doesn't have anything to do with OP. Story 3: So why was it okay for the aunt to say what she said, but not okay for the OP to set her straight? Yeah, eff those people. Story 4: Daughter: I'm gonna sneak out...Mom, can I sneak out? 🤣🤣 Story 5: I would immediately run and tell the grandparents.
2nd story: it looks like OP was fishing for a reason to just not give away her inheritance. NTA for keeping it, but definitely the AH for using her dad's situation as an excuse. Just own up to it.
