r/Bestof My Husband Got His Virgin Coworker Pregnant 

You must think we're all as dumb as the people you post about

It's really nice to see you get sponsors every now and then

Dude...the advert...OMG...lol...do you know what a growler is slang for in the UK. Answer...erm...lady's...erm..."kitty". Not sure about wanting one to come with two cups either.

I hope we hear another update from this one RSLASH this one and the crazy mother in law who kept going on sbout "cultural differences" and "mental issues"

@@christracy2144 Same in NZ 🤣

Jesus fuck, you ain't kidding

I was thinking the same thing

People seem to know that you can have both or neither but don't really get you can have one or the other. Amy is clearly intelligent, meaning book smart but her wisdom meaning street smarts and ability to understand herself, others and the situations she finds herself in is extremely low. I feel really bad for her because she used some God language when talking about her pregnancy, between that and being a virgin in her 20's because she was school focused, she sounds like she grew up SUPER sheltered which only sets people up to be used and abused once they get out into the real world. Which is literally what happened to her, an older man lied to and manipulated her into a relationship and falsely impregnated her to baby trap her to him...

She's 24 and already in an Executive Mentoring Program for a finance career. It sounds like she was a sheltered prodigy who wasn't allowed to focus on anything beyond her education and thus has zero skills for interpersonal interactions and fell for the 'you're so mature for your age' bullshit. It's a legitimate danger when a kid is gifted and parents should definitely support it, but it shouldn't be the only thing they have going for them.

Also proof that sometimes a college degree isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on.

He can’t compare so he must destroy

Apparently so, jealousy is a hell of a thing

Tate fan is what's wrong

Not to mention she plays video games too. I'd kill to have a partner to play co-op with.

I mean, I wouldn't say perfect, nothing in life is perfect, but this women is definitely a catch, and this moron is gonna regret chassing her off.

I still feel awful for amy. it sounds like the poor girl has been sheltered with no relationship experience her whole life, and with the language she used, it was a religious sheltered home, which makes it even worse. she's a prime potential victim of manipulation, specially by a man 10 years older than her who's clearly getting lessons from the podcast andrew tate guys. I hope she manages to find someone that helps her out of the situation, because people who've been manipulated to that point don't just snap out of it on their own usually, and if they do, they're too scared to get out on their own. I assume his next step is having amy quit her job to become a stay at home mom, which will make her even more sheltered and easily manipulated.

Thanks for the update! Yeah....Amy sounds like one of those people who will learn things that hard way sadly

really wish OP sue joe for slander that would give Amy HUGE reality check.

@@momomomo__ she also has ‘lost her value’ for other relationships so probably feels even more trapped

Too damn accurate

Definitely watched too much Andrew Tate lol

​​@@NoFlyZone31that's a Fresh and Fit thing. P.s. they are loser nerds with no relationship experience. The "high value male" came from Kevil Samuel

​@@NoFlyZone31as soon as he called her a "low value woman" I was like: "He's been infected with alpha male. Aw shucks."

Correction: 'Warning' to 'Run' to 'Neuter.'

Problem is, idiots like him just want more, and can never be pleased.

Not gonna lie, i was drooling at the description of the food.

He thinks he's some Asian parent who has high expectations. But he's really not, he's an unappreciative, cheating jerk.

He resents her for not worshipping the ground he walks on. He can lie through his teeth with Amy and she is basically his footrest on command, OP on the other hand is smart and good with money (and doesn't share it with husband) so he can't believe the audacity that she doesn't realize what a catch he is. I'm sure in husband's perfect world, OP would have stuck around and been his bangmaid giving him control over her money while Amy became his replacement wife until he got bored with her.

A “fresh” womans virginity

You are spot on. The term I tend to hear thrown around is Projection! (said like how Ace Attorney says Objection!)

Yeah, not even helping clean up after she went all out for him! Despicable person!

He's like a dog. He can't feed himself until his owner puts a scoop into his bowl.

@@Pikapower7 oh come on now! That's too much, how on earth can you compare this guy to a dog! My dog is loyal and helps clean up from dinner... 😋

@@Pikapower7 Exactly right, but missing all the good stuff a dog has.

@@BlueJDev Your dog probably also shows as much enthusiasm for the same food they get every single day as the first time they were fed. All the dogs I sit for show SO much gratitude for their meals... It really warms my heart, and makes me happy to feed them. It's a shame more humans can't be like that.

Also according to RU-vid on my end I'm the first view, like, and comment so slay I'm so early

You are the sixth comment

He had another video a few days ago that was surprisingly all 1 story/post as well, and while that one wasn’t as deserving of having one entire video dedicated to it in my opinion, his rants and opinions legit took up around 5 of the 15ish minutes of the video when added up 🤣🤣 about to start this one, but if it’s similar, I’m here for it.

Ooooooh I’m hype now!

Beat me to it.

OMG. I hate those double standards.

just the common Andrew Tate lover

@@katieburnswater7251 That's good that your husband has standards and dropped that weirdo.

Well, ex wife will be fine, especially with him not able to claim anything, and having to pay for the divorce. New girlfriend will also soon enough figure out the same, and will take him to the cleaners again, taking whatever is left as well. He will definitely wish that first he did get the snip, and also that he had kept it in his pants, seeing as his month will be the first 20 days working for the IRS, then the next dozen working to pay off the alimony and child support he will be getting. Yes, more than the days in the month, it will be the only hard thing he will have for the next 18 years.....

@@katieburnswater7251 Yikes, best stay away from a creep like that, who knows what he'd do to you when you're alone with him out of envy toward your husband for having you. Because if he's that unhinged, I don't want him alone with any woman but he sure seems to really idolize you and specifically want you.

I may not be that good a cook, but I always made the effort and to share the work load.

Watch him come back begging when he realizes raising a baby in a smaller apartment isn’t the dream he thought

​@@Oceanmaid91 He better fucking not because if i were OP, id throw him a leash and tell him to wear the thing and go whimpering back to the bitch he knocked up and NAIL it there

This OP was an amazing woman and the husband threw it all away cause of ‘financial infidelity’ The dinner she made in update 2 not only would I be absolutely loving it, and her in turn. This woman ain’t low value she is a gem. Hell I’d love to cook with her too and help her clean up cause I’m grateful for a good meal

@@Ser_Matticus I wonder - mind you, I only know idiots like Tate through people debunking their stupidity, not by watching their stuff - isn't the new woman "low value" now, since she's no longer a virgin?

Out of the 2 spouses, one for sure sounds low value & it ain't her.

This. Had the exact same thought. Even paused to check the comments.

I thought his audience was teenagers not married grown men with a successful career

​@@radhiadeedou8286Eh, physical teenager, mental teenager... all shakes out about the same.

Can't be Tate. Because it clashes with Tate's value. Because you know damn well Tate not advocating that male behaviour. Tate just advocate man become more manly, not like a didlo (have a d*ck, but weak at)

I feel like I know exactly who the red pill is for the ex to have taken

hint, he always thought this way

He took red pill way out of context and started treating his wife like 🗑️ she deserves better and in my book a high value woman.

It's not the red pill, he took the retarded pill

it's actually incredible. She earns just as much, works in a high-value field, does all the housework, saves and makes crazy good food and she's a ... low value woman. What does that make him? He earns no more than his wife and fully depends on her in EVERY other way. Like, if a no value man exists, it's him.

Congrats!!!! (I realize this was a few months ago so I am assuming you had your baby!)

@littlesongbird1 I did!!! A healthy baby boy :) he's four months old now :) thank you so much!

I prefer to cook, my last two exes (mega-cheater ex and baby mamma ex) both gave me food poisoning. Plus isn't cooking for someone part of a couple of the "love languages"?

All I know is that the ex and Amy would come back one way or another. Amy realised she is screwed for 18 years And The ex " realising" he made a mistake and wants OP back

I AGREE. I would gladly marry OP. Fuck it! I could be the house dog and get pampered. 😂

I thought the same thing during this, lol

Lol I’m ace and I was thinking I would marry her!

It's so obvious based on the lies he told about OP. A hopeless, high school dropout with no future without the doofus' dashing help and kind leadership in her life. Like the fantasy is so obvious and its disgusting.

Thankfully it seems like OP's meetup with Amy has probably sown the seeds of doubt and that he'll soon be left with nothing, like he deserves for being a trash human being.

@@echopeak5953 Yup, by the looks of the most possible outcome, OP's ex husband is awaiting a future of a long time of paying child support lol. 🤣

Oh without a doubt. He’ll come crawling back with the “I miss yous, Don’t you miss me, Remember all of our good/fun times, Amy is nothing like you” He’ll probably lose his job if we’re lucky, and won’t find a job as well paying as the one he has now, but still have to pay a penny for child support. Can’t spend as much money as he used to. He has to pay 80/90 whereas Amy pays 20/10 doesn’t cook as good as OP. He can’t travel as much as he used to. Amy done gained weight. Men can’t understand pregnancy weight and just calls it fat.

The moment he said “a low value woman” my fist would have gone straight thru his face and out the back of his head

At first glance yes his behaviour is that of an idiot. It's when it's revealed he was cheating on his wife that now his bizarre view makes sense. And by makes sense I mean it's absolute nonsense. Cheaters will nitpick or make up nonsense in order to justify the cheating with excessive gas lighting.

I think we can all agree that we'd rather her marry one of us instead of her ex

He's not mad about her being less ambitious. He's mad about her being less *submissive* and dependant.

You hate to see someone live the life you want and dunk it in the trash if I got that lucky in my life I will be on my knees thanking god for the amazing gift he gave me

You can definitely tell he'd been listening to Andrew Tate podcasts 😂

Well it wasn't being spent on "making it up to him" or his newer model girlfriend, of course he was angry. She was using it to be a happier person for herself. Of course a dick like him would be pissed that she's not bending over backwards to make him happy with every single thing that could pleasure him.

He wanted the money in the joint account so he could take it all later for his mistress and him. He must have been unhappy to hear that she locked the account so he can't drain it.

If buying the gaming setup was what led to this chain of events, at least she can say it helped her in more ways than one. Who knows how much longer he would've continued to be a burden to her otherwise...

@@Laz3rCat95Nope, that's not what did this at all, its just why it finally got uncovered... Remember the guy was unfaithful for a Year before any of this came out...

That's what I mean, it got uncovered that way. Who knows how much longer he could've kept it up... @@durk5331

Sadly it going to take him showing his true colors to her, and who knows how many years of her life he's going to steal for it.

I actually don't have any pity or sympathy for Amy. The second she asked OP she knew the truth so when the same thing happens and it will, she WILL deserve it.

My whole thing is you CAN for the most part, tell when someone has done drugs. And if that's been his excuse that she was still doing them you could TOTALLY TELL by meeting her. Amy just was refusing because she thinks she has a catch, when in reality, she doesn't.

@@lillylovegood2300 She's definitely in "denial" stage. She's got anger, bargaining, grief, and acceptance left to go. Plus, she's most likely given birth by now. A good many 24 year-old women in a situation like this would also be making these decisions through the lens of fear. Nevertheless, you are right: _she_ made the choice to engage in an adulterous relationship with a married man, no matter how he presented that marriage to her. Doesn't she have friends or family to talk to about this?

Oh, I’d bet folding money that Amy will double down, shut it all out of her mind, and waste way too much time with this asshole before the truth smacks her in the face. She has no incentive to admit the truth now: she’s *very* pregnant and in a very vulnerable position, plus she’s still love-drunk over this guy. Maybe she’ll gather up her strength and kick this asshole to the curb, but the odds are heavily against it. I’d actually be able to summon up a modicum of respect for her (not more than a modicum, though) if she does. And I’ve met plenty of people who were book-smart but had absolutely no common sense so the truth of the story notwithstanding (because it sounds like a cheap romance novel), people like Amy do exist.

Yeah, she's super doomed: getting herself pregnant by a jerk at the beginning of her career 🙄

Amy was sadly manipulated by someone almost a whole decade older than herself, Joe should've known better as the older of the two. Age gaps that big are always suspicious as the older most likely manipulated/groomed the younger. I feel sad for what her new future will look like

This mentality runs rampant through the finance sector. They have their own versions of "Trophy Wives", who ideally make 2/3 of what their husband makes, and are successful in their own right, while still being "dependent" (they are oblivious to that contradiction). They want a woman with a very lucrative "hobby" that doesn't stop them from being the perfect 1950's TV housewife. It's a dick-measuring contest. Interestingly, these guys aren't even the real predators. There are a lot of very intelligent, very attractive young women who realize this vulnerability, and exploit it. They ride these poor saps to the top rungs of the corporate ladder, make sizable profits on multiple divorces, and sometimes deliberately use them as unwitting sperm-donors so they can have their dream family, financed by the father who is not in the picture. It sounds horrible, and it is, but there are even Facebook groups where women with those specific ambitions trade tips on how to lock down that lifestyle. It's unhinged. I don't think "Amy" is one of these people, but guys like "Joe" are a prime target for them. I would not be shocked if one of these women targets him quickly and there's a new woman in his life within a few months. He thinks he's the biggest fish in a small pond, but there's a Megalodon out there with a pert ass, perky boobs and a Harvard MBA looking to make a quick snack out of him. It's only a matter of time. He's too stupid to evade them. He will take the bait. I've worked with a lot of these woman, and they are not "Gold diggers" looking for a sugar daddy. They're something else entirely. They use people as stepping stones toward much grander ambitions. Think Elizabeth Holmes levels of sociopathy. Guys like "Joe" are exactly what they're hunting for. He's doomed. Role-reversal is practically inevitable. If OP was just a hapless $45k a year helpdesk technician who smoked pot and played video games all day, I'd take her as she is, sight-unseen, lol. She's chill and can pay her own rent, that checks most of my boxes, lol. These guys who chase after the "perfect woman" are insane. Perfect is boring. Boring and high maintenance. When it comes to relationships, I think Alice Cooper nailed it in his song "You and Me". That's what people should strive for if they want to be happy. If that's not enough, nothing ever will be. This "Amy" will figure it out in due time. I get it, he's fed her lies, she has no reason to believe OP, and she's inexperienced and very vulnerable right now, so those lies likely give her a lot of comfort. She doesn't want to see the truth. If she did, she'd have asked to see the divorce settlement agreement that would confirm or refute what "Joe" has told her. She's making a choice to not look under that rock. But when she requested to speak to OP, I think there were some doubts there, even if she's not ready to face them. I'm confident she'll figure out the truth. Lies concealed by more lies... it's a house of cards. He can't keep that up forever. The good news, at his $200k salary, when she comes to her senses, she'll be entitled to about $450/week (conservatively) in child support. That's not a ton of money, but it will pay for the kid and their college fund, and financial firms don't look fondly on wage garnishment for non-payment... they are sticklers on things like fiduciary responsibility, so he can't duck payments without a serious hit to his career prospects, earnings and lifestyle. It will be in his best interest to pay up, no questions asked. It will be a hard road ahead for Amy, but not too hard, especially if her earnings are comparable to his (which it sounds like they are). And OP may feel a bit foolish for having believed him for so long. But she sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders and won't be too hard on herself. I have faith in her resiliency.

​@@ahstiasummers5583exactly

@@ahstiasummers5583 Joe should have known better, yes. But he was never going to go for a sophisticated and worldly woman. The Tater tot wants a doormat who will lap up his bullcr@p stories.

And he wasn't either. What about his value? Or is only hers important? Of course, it is in his eyes. Gotta love double standards.

I'm willing to bet he fell down the Andrew Tate rabbit hole lol

​@@akl2k7 The more OP talked about her scumbag husband, the more I hate him and the more I feel sorry for OP, Amy and the poor baby. OP's ex is literally the only person who I don't feel sorry for. He deserves everything he got. I hope Amy dumps him and sues him to heck and back for child support.

@@akl2k7 "What about his value?" His value doesn't decrease from having a lot of partners, it increases. That's how this messed up, anti-reality mind-set works. It's called "Red Pill philosophy", which is an insult both to The Matrix and the concept of philosophical thought. It's sadly way too popular with young, inexperienced men. People often ask why there are so many young men who are having trouble finding partners. Well, here it is. Basically it's thanks to sites like RU-vid not properly banning these channels that promote such toxic BS.

@@ultimatetrashpotato2751 from the "low value" terminology I am CERTAIN of it. I almost feel sorry for the girlfriend, she's signing up for a relationship with someone who has come to follow the ramblings of that pedo narcissist, Tate.

Yep the second I heard "low value woman" I was like "aha, he's been listening to *those* podcasts". This woman sounds like a 11/10 catch. He's a moron.

As soon as he said low-value woman, I knew immediately. It’s a favourite of his incel fans, many of whom tend to be finance bros like OP’s ex-husband

If you ask me, the men of this world would be better off without both of them. Tate and all the dudes that take after him are contaminating the reputation of the genuinely good dudes that would meet OP and probably cherish her because she is such an amazing women. She's a hard worker, she cooks some pretty good shit, she's smart as hell, she's a gamer, she knows how to budget and save money while doing nice stuff, and the husband was too infected by the submissive housewife and sex appeal to see it.

Anyone who listens to Tate is low value and low intelligence.

​@@grymhunter2849And they're too stupid to know a submissive housewife who's career driven is a paradox.

I feel like, in cases like his, the seeds were planted a long time ago. He simply found someone that would excuse his bad behavior.

moron, he was always this way.

I've seen this happen to women, too. Sometimes people change suddenly and drastically.

@@disguysnWe’re not talking about women though, we don’t always need to bring up women.

It’s scary how nobody can see this stems from a hatred towards women, and think it’s over a lack of sex.

She is 7 month pregnant with the child of a man she thought was a complete catch.... Of course she is in denial.

i think it's both, she's lived a very sheltered life and has no dating experience also, she's a prodigy and prodigies are twice as easy to fool

Yeah, it was definitely not malicious. She's going to get taken for a ride. One might say she's already been taken for a ride but I say that nightmare train is just beginning.

If she's actually THAT stupid - these two belong together

Not to mention it's ridiculous to demand a virgin wife...10 YEARS after your wedding!

you sound so genuine and in love, that's extremely cute! good luck to you and your wife, you both sound like wonderful people

This is the sweetest comment I’ve read here, I wish you and Lacy all the love in the world, your son to be healthy and happy, and you see each other again in the future. Bless you dude, you sound like a really lovely guy!

The good news is that since there's obviously a non-zero chance of you and your wife existing and meeting each other, it inevitably _will_ keep happening again and again. :-)

My ex left me because he couldnt deal with my health issues so reading this really gave me hope, thank you, ive genuinely believed for a while nkw that i woyldnt be able to find someone happy to be with me. Im so happy for you and your family and i bet your wife appreciates what you do a lot

I'd really hope her getting confirmation that the house actually is OPs house will open her eyes to the fact that her entire relationship is based on lies. From how groomed she sounded that chance is quite low, tho ... Guess Joe has already prepared a story about OP screwing him over during the divorce proceedings and getting the house because she "slept with the judge" or something.

And stupid, very stupid. People this gullible shouldn't be working in finance, handling people's money

I found her hard to like. She came across as frustratingly and stubbornly dumb!

I feel awful knowing that this is going to turn her from naive and overly trusting to having ridiculous trust issues. The ex husband is one of the worst kinds of people, and knowing people like this exist makes me furious.

Less naive when she keeps demanding the house though. Who asks their boyfriend's WIFE to lunch -- to demand her house? Epic Entitled GIrlfriend does.

I hate that I can say this, I'm going through the same mental process she was. 'my comfort, doesn't matter right now. I need to look prettier and do more to make my man happy' even though I know it's wrong and not me at all.

A _little_ naive? Every new thing she said, I started turning into a middle-aged woman saying "Aww, honey... no" I feel bad for the girl. Because she may be 24, but has the social skills of a 12-year-old.

​@@jimbobjones9330I'm 24 and I'm horrified by the almost-willful ignorance on her part. Bro. You can't say you didn't know to not reciprocate a married individuals' interest...

​@@jimbobjones9330I'm an unkissed 20y/o and even I know better than to believe in someone who says they're separated but not divorced or that they don't need condoms because they're using some other birth control in a relationship that barely started

Haha, that's not what a high value woman means in those red pill losers world. It is looks and submissiveness. The dude didn't even get that right. The guy is repulsive.

Sounds like he was projecting his own self low value views onto op as an excuse to not do anything

@@shadowmewfred09 legit sounds to me like he started to listen to a certain someones "masculinity" podcasts

​@@Neysirisswas going to say the same. Feels like he's fallen down the Tate-hole.

​@Neysiriss Andrew taint 😂😂😂😂

Oh, that's a good one! Good call.

Yep. The drug-addicted broke high-school dropout managed to get a powerful team of lawyers and guilted them into letting her keep his house. I've never wanted to shake anyone more than I wanted to shake the mistress. That girl (and, yes, I know that at 24 she's technically a woman, but we both know she has the social knowledge of a 12-year-old) really, really needs a good reality slap.

​@jimbobjones9330 not to mention, supposedly OP only makes 40K a year and can somehow afford a team of lawyers as well as the house. The fact that these are all lies is going to hit the homewrecker in the face and hard.

@@jimbobjones9330 it'll come out in court and after the baby arrives when she can't even get him to wash a dish let alone change a diaper and hear him complain about how she's let her appearance go can't keep a house and have a three course dinner ready when he gets home but it's her bed she can lie in it with the lying cheater

Yep, as soon as I heard it, I immediately said, “that’s some Tate-shit”

I thought the exact same thing!

Yup red pill for sure

Yes. Then when worth was only attached to having or not having a v-card, it was confirmed. Red pill corner of the internet for sure.

Yeah, maybe you'd believe ONE of those things. But all of them? Nah.

Or even the "I can never spend the night with you because my drug addict wife, who I don't sleep with, needs me and I am such a hero to be there for her"

Yeah I can accept the first one (my dad and mom had the same situation for 5 years, eventually they got divorced and my dad married his second wife; also my mom left him not the other way around, she wanted more in life than to be a stay at home wife, and my dad was working two jobs [one military, one in the food industry] so he was never home, because he was trying to make extra money & learning how to cook; hell the man was dishonorably discharged for drinking on the job due to the depression of her leaving him x.x) - the second one's iffy but it happens (vasectomies can undo themselves, it happens though rare, 1 in 4000) - but the third one ontop of all of that? Yeah No there's no way he'd have to stay Every night with his wife who leads a "separate life from him"...

i'd believe the separated thing, because it happens, MAYBE the drug addict thing because i see good in people, but the "i had a vasectomy but you're pregnant"? hell nah, basic biology is where it's at also, i definitely wouldn't keep the baby "because it was a miracle". poor amy has some harsh lessons to learn

@@yarraidalgagain 1/4000 vasectomies reverse themselves >.> Its rare, but it happens

That is rape

@@0Arcoverde Well it's certainly non consensual impregnation. It's not as if he took the condom off during sex though, that kind of stealthing is punishable by law. She consented to condom free sex probably, which isn't exactly rape.

​@Iflie, no, consent must be fully informed. She was lied to. It's rape.

@@Starsmelter Well then a woman is raping a guy if she says she's on the pill and isn't. Or doesn't tell him she had some antibiotics or stomach upset so the pill doesn't work.

@@katieburnswater7251 Stealthing is, not lying about being infertile

Trust me, everyone in the comments of the first post was saying that

She IS trapped because they're having a kid together. Unless the worst comes to pass or she changes her mind and finds and unicorn doctor, or Joe's just goes complete MIA, no child support anything, she's stuck having to deal with him for at minimum the next 18yrs.

OP's scum of a husband lied about the house being his.

@@mushroommagic1697 but the real question is: how long will it take Amy to notice.

Oh honey, that sounds like the pits. I wish you the absolute best turn of luck!

What 😂 his little virgin screw bunny…I LOVE THAT!

@@CajunReaper95 not saying she is blameless. Just saying she isn’t old enough or wise enough to know bullshit when she smells it.

OP's husband has more red flags than Soviet Russia

@@yi-hira 🤣 good one

The scumbag already ruined her life by saddling her with a kid that will impact her career. And you _know_ he's just going to skip out on child support and be nothing to that child.

@@yi-hiralmao thats perfect 😂😂😂

Honestly, at this point, Amy is coming off as one of those women who just believes in their man and would never in a million years believe that he would lie or betray her in anyway shape or form and if anyone tells her otherwise, then the person is lying just to get them to break up. Like, if feels like Amy would go after and blame the other woman claiming that she's stealing Joe from her if she sees Joe cheating on her.

And 100% of bi women, likely.

@@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon you're probably correct. I should have thought about that.

Facts.

Looks like it's gonna be a polygamous relationship, because I want some of that action, too! ...I hope my husband won't mind 😄

​@@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon😆

I mean, there's the title, and then there's... all of _that._