r/AmITheA--Hole? "I'M GLAD HE'S DEAD!" 

rSlash yo hi dude

**Bruh sound effect #2**

Hi r/slash I hope your having a good day

Hi

We understand. Do what you gotta do.

NGL your shading on the hair for your pfp is boppin

Thats how you know your girl will never cheat

@Tianruo Yang oh shit your right.

If I was that creep I would have waited until the end just to be like, soooooo threesome?

im gay

Rachel Knight ELFISH

Rachel Knight yes

Wait hold the frick up u look like a diabetes’s type2 Karen

green3mix .1 ah shit! Here we go again

He should just start taking a little of her food.

{ *Insert awkward silence here* }

*[ insert Fred's embarrassment here ]*

"my name's not shane, kid"

Oho he angy now

Nice

She's probably stole food from other family members - brothers, sistrrs, dad, etc and Mom totally sympathizes with them.

She learned the right tricks from years of trial and error. She's just giving the husband her hard-earned cheat code.

How could she not? Wife is not being fair.

i am a man and i approve this message or comment hell you know what i mean ok

Someone probably did it... After 3 years theyre finally Out of prison because they helped a girl And the girl had "Personal trauma" That's why nobody helps nobody. Im Not about to get arrested.

Don't take me seriously what do you even mean? And “your kind” lol

If a crowed train witnesses a schizophrenic attacking a toddler and nobody does anything of course, a group of adults won't help a full grown adult during a business meeting. Humans are unfortunately brainwashed with the phrase "just ignore it and it will go away." AKA Bystander Syndrome, it's a real thing and quite an interesting phenomenon.

@@inkshermit9055 Yeah groupthink sucks but it's a real thing.

I'm exactly the same way, too; my sister went so far as to say I need professional help with how irritable I get when I'm hungry lol..

you dont mess with someones food!

It was so huffy I couldn't help but crack up

Yup 😂

Agreed

What if a psychopathic mother helps you murder someone?

@@johnthornton5715 ohhhh

isn't it a meme about how some women will do exactly this? say they don't want food but then when you get some for yourself and only yourself they eat most of it?

She really shouldn't. That poor girl should have gone to HR.

Me too! That’s a heartbreaking situation. I don’t think the mother is the asshole but neither is the daughter, she had to look out for herself and if this is less painful for her, well that sucks for everyone. But she can’t just keep putting her own well-being at risk. I get that mom means well and it’s not like she’s malicious in never showing up, but frankly that doesn’t matter! The result is that mom is never there for her and she get hurt. It doesn’t matter why, it doesn’t change anything. Her valid reason for not coming when she promised to doesn’t mean that she is there any more. She’s still never there and her daughter still feels like second place and get hurt. I understand that it hurts for her to lose her daughter but D have also been hurt, every time she promised to be there and never came. She has no right to demand a relationship. No matter how much it hurts she needs to accept that her daughter doesn’t owe her a relationship and D. has a right to put herself and her happiness and wellbeing first. And that’s what she has done. I get that it’s hard and painful. But she made her daughter feel like that and she can’t force her to therapy to accept that this is the way it has to be. D has stated her boundary, she will not be second choice. So mom has to either accept it or change. And even if she changes and finds a way to show her daughter that she’s equally important and loved she still isn’t owed forgiveness and may not get it.

yeah whatever he said ^^^

Santenoturtle Me too. I think mom IS a butthole. She has put her daughter second. It’s something I know far too well. Why should the daughter have to put up with continued disappointment when it’s far healthier to cut contact. Does her mom really believe that anything is going to change? If daughter is engaged, is mom going to be there for picking out the dress, meeting with caterers or anything that needs to be done before the wedding? No she won’t. The same thing will happen the day of the wedding. Last minute, everything will go pear shaped and....oops! Mom can’t make it to the wedding. Personally, I hope that the daughter marries a good person that will always put HER first.

Charlie Oscar ok, so what’s the mom supposed to do? Just leave her autistic child at home?

@@canyadigit6274 Yes!. Yes she is supposed to leave him at home. She'd taken care of his needs by getting a someone specifically trained in his condition who knew what to expect and how to deal with it. I know that having a special needs child will make any parent more protective of that child, but it shouldn't come at the expense of another. Doing so every now and again is understandable, but doing so EVERY time is just wrong. Imagine if your parents favoured one of your siblings over you because of something you couldn't control for your entire life. Would YOU be understanding? Special needs kids do have special needs, but if you are in that position, you should ALWAYS show... not tell... show... your other kids that you love and value them just as much or they'll just grow up hating you and resenting their siblings. Often,they won't even understand why.

He's married to Karen.

I really like your profile picture, did you draw it yourself?

Hello Peoplez yeah i did, thank you

Honestly why if a person asking you do you want anything and say no, and then once you get your food now you hungry plz get lost.

"you want food?" "No." *gets food enough for one person* "BITCH! I WANTED IT! I WAS ONLY jOkiNg! PLUS, I'M YOUR GIRLFRIEND SO YOU MUST GIVE ME YOUR FOOD!" "wtf"

I did the same 🤣🤣

Saaaaaame

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This happened with every woman I've ever been with. Some much more than others. I'm also guilty of it too from time to time. I always get more than I really need for this reason, if it's too much food I'll put it away as leftovers for later. A solution to this problem isn't exactly hard.

I as a wife am guilty of this.. Im not hungry when he ask but when i smell it im like omg i need it... However i wouldnt bitch about what he got on his pizza lol

I’m just more like. You know she’s like this. Order extra food. Honestly him giving away that second piece a cake was the dumbest thing he could do. Did he just meet her? He knew enough to bring her that slice. Then he gave it away. You know how that saying goes. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. If I had a girlfriend like that. I would just order extra food. It’s really that simple.

Had a mom like this, but as soon as she took some she'd offer some of hers to us or just give us what she couldnt eat. I'm semi like this too with my roommate, but we kinda do this to each other so we do not mind in the slightest.

To quote Joey from Friends " Joey don't share food!!!"

Happens to me too, but not with my SO, but her mom, to the point where I only eat spicy food because she's allergic to it

Or just put double the amount knowing shes coming to attack your food

If I was the firefighter husband I'd just get some extra food... imo he is being the dickhead there

@@thePanda_huma That will just further reinforce the behaviour.

@@0799qwertzuiop I disagree, she is not his small child and needs to learn to properly communicate. And this is coming from a notorious food thief, but at least I am aware of my shamelessness and will apologize if my thieving ways ends up offending.

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So know what that sounds like do ya?

@@LucianCorrvinus Well, the imrpessions sound like that.

BloxxingDinosaurus u skipped just to that then went back and I agree.

@@machy8515 I... don't understand your comment.

Yeah I do agree however she does need to be smart about it. Unfortunately these types can get away with a lot because of what they can do. I feel like r/legaladvice and r/prorevenge are good examples of how to handle that guy. I think some put it best, better to be an alive bitch than a polite dead girl. Least her boyfriend is there for her. He's a good dude

Sometimes standing up for yourself just gets you fired. Even if the other person was 100% wrong and even if you didnt have a choice.

​@@SorenPenrose I agree. It's a tough situation this girl is in. I agree that she should stand up for herself and shouldn't have to put up with this. But my mom filed a complaint against her boss who made sexual comments to her, was racist towards her, and cussed her out a couple times. He was ultimately fired but she was fired too. So he was totally in the wrong but my mom suffered some consequences.

Same and I kinda felt guilty about it

My wife has very bad social anxiety and she does worry about be causing a scene defending her (because I'm a very confrontational person). Now msotly shes worried about me getting hit with assault charges. However I applaud this OP. He got to this guy in a way that didnt cause a big scene like if he just called the creep out and everyone else was laughing at the antic.i know some victims are afraid its better to just weather the storm, but I'm sure deep down OPs girl is still appreciative

Stair

Fucking stairs

I love ClapTrap😥

I fucking hate Claptrap

Clap trap is the homie

I think secretly she enjoys the attention but feels shame for liking her situation so much. There's no reason as to why she should get mad at her boyfriend for handling it as discreetly as he did, unless on some level she gets off on the attention but feels shame for doing so.

@@Netherwolf6100 yeah but people sometimes can be doormats too.

Netherwolf6100 Or like ... she was just embarrassed. Confrontation can be extremely upsetting to people with anxiety and op literally said that there’d be backlash on her if he retaliated.

@@zoyaoyaoya6104 If she was a doormat, she wouldn't stand up to her boyfriend about the subject matter and chastise him for preforming a positive act. A girl who would rather get molested by someone she hates instead of being protected by someone she loves has deep psychological scars that needs professional help.

Netherwolf6100 As someone with a social anxiety disorder, I can’t stand confrontation with my coworkers or colleagues, but I can stand up to those close to me. It happens. She was CLEARLY uncomfortable with being touched but again, could’ve known she was gonna suffer backlash if her boyfriend intervened, as she SAID.

Also to the mother. I have 3 siblings. My first years of childhood was great. Then my brother came into the world. I have never been jealous at him, bit he drew trouble. And he did untill I moved away from home. (Both him and Me have ADHD) if he didn't want to to a certain thing, we wouldn't go. (Fx go to Tivoli) my sister came around, and again I was pushed back. I was billed but my parents didn't even care to go to school meetings. It was only if they really had to, (fx before a trip) and then they would complain about how unnecessary it was when I got home. I am also burning some brigdes there

@@user-cu1so2wf2g now that sounds more like asshole parents.

@@GiordanDiodato So, because the brother is low functioning autistic means that the daughter needs to be neglected? I agree that the brother needs more attention, but being an autistic person myself i can assure you that you should never give him all your attention, because that way he will become to used to it which will cause more problems. If he does truely need all you attantion all the time, than you have to realize that you need to bring him to an institution or get extra help because its next to impossible to raise an 100% autistic child without the proper knowledge and/or experienced help. Thats also something the mother did wrong (due to lack of knowledge): you should help him get stability from things that are controllable, like a stable night routine or something instead of relying on a person. I know this can be extremely difficult especially with young children, thats what makes it extra important to get help from others with experience. But no matter what, you should never neglect your other children.

@@GiordanDiodato low functuoning autistic people may be below down syndrome but that still doesnt mean neglecting your other child. And no i dont mean be institutionalized, i think i made an error in my translation, i meant a place where they can offer help with all kinds of things from advice on how to handle certain situations to a assistant who can help you out if thats required. There are loads of people who specialize in dealing children with autism and assisting and advising their parents. As i said before, its really difficult to help him in the ways he needs if you dont know what that is or what he truely needs. Thats why she needs to go to someone who knows everything about this.

@@GiordanDiodato it can work even with a low functioning autistic child. It isn't an excuse. If it becomes that, the parent should find help. She have 2 kids. I have seen it working with 5 and a single mother. The boy was infantile autistic. He was living in a home friday-sunday. That way the mother have time for her other kids.

Ayesha Irfan I would kill to watch the faces during the kickoff meeting of her plan !!

I thiNK you Got WRONG hEr naME Is TIana [?]

@@rinowichan naha, she's BeYoNcE

@@facundosilveira5535 haha dummy me 😔😔😔

People in my school called me Angle yet my name is Angel. Idk why people mispronounce names that are too obvious and easy to say.

I thought she was called Lord Baelish

Shithead

Ethan Jamison iTs pRoNoUnCeD sHiHaE!!1!1!11!

Ethan Jamison IT’S SHI-THEAD

@@lisgoldqn I had a person I in a class named that boy did I screw up roll call between him and the vietnamese kid named Dung which if I remember right was supposed to be pronounced something like Yoon.

That was a little scary tbh 😄

it's such a mood tho

Lol, we all have our hungry voice, I'll bet HE was hungry when he read it. I'll bet op was hungry when he wrote it. I'm on the bus about to unleash the manliness in me from my belly, because I'm goddang HANGRY!

WTF IS THIS PIC AND NAME? XDDDD

disgruntled mum i know how hard it can be to have an autistic sibling but if my dad die make it to something I don’t hold it against him because my sister is really hard to take care of. It breaks my heart that her daughter would cut her off just because her mom was trying to take care of her disabled brother

@@Ravenroth8088 Agreed. Same situation, different parent who died (it's my mom here). First 2 years of her leaving was a wreck for him, and my older brother ended up being taken care of by me, a mere 12 year old boy back then. Dad mostly took care of him in the daylight, and I learned to be as undemanding as possible since my early teen years. I can't blame both of them, since it's not their wish to be stuck in that situation. I ended up growing as a somewhat lonely kid without any real guidance on how to be a normal guy. I learned about puberty and all that from my teachers, who were kind enough to let me stay after school ended and learn new things with me. My father figure was a man in his mid 30s who turned into the man I ask for advices from. But then again, that was until 2 years ago. We're all bonded together now, and my brother's doing great for who he is right now. Dad still kinda miss Mom, but I told him that it's okay to move on.

Olivia Hood yeah but it wasn’t one e or twice was a lot of times. Her daughter even said that she can’t take the disappointment of her mom telling her that she will come then she doesn’t. The mom deserves to be cut out she never went to any of her events. The kid doesn’t have a dad to go either.

@@Ravenroth8088 But what's the difference between mom not being involved and getting cut out? Mom will not be in her life either way. Daughter needs to focus on people who truly want her in tgeir lives and have time for her. All the mom does is hurt, break her heart and trust, and disappoint her. Mom just needs to let the daughter go and finally allow her to live a genuinely happy life where someone will put her first for once.

@@crunchberrychaos1545 I agree with you

Karen Jun/Yun I go to chick fil a every once in a while because it’s really close. The woman calls me ma’am every time I walk in. Even though I have long hair, It is extremely obvious that I am a man. One time I was having a rough day and she referred to me as ma’am so I responded with “have a nice day sir”.

My name is Angela. People sometimes try to call me Angie. I hate being called Angie. I don't answer when people call me that anymore and it does solve the issue.

Good point, very passive aggressive and it really instills that that is not you. So long as you answer to the name that is what they will call you because at least you respond. I've had a similar but opposite thing happen most my life, for some reason unless it is my parent or a teacher with a class roster it is rare to find someone who knows how to spell my name right. I'm female and my name is easy as anything to me, its Toni. I've seen Tony, Tonie, yadda yadda. I really do not get some of the weirder spellings of my name, I mean yeah it sounds like my name but its not my name.

@@evanblalock9744 post a pic lets so what you look like.

if tina works in an office i think she could just put a memo out that her name is tina, not tiana. at least to her boss. then whatever happens from there happens from there. you can't expect to be fired for that. doing what she planned to do will only sour her relationship with her coworkers, especially if some are just playing monkey see, monkey do after some people who should know better.

outcreeping the creep huh?

@@GaladorLP it's in my blood

*james Charles mode*

FESC sucko mode

Lmao

It usually is. That said, she seems to have found a valid use for it.

It’s common courtesy in the Midwest to be passive aggressive

Yeah honestly I would've went just because of that

It likely is the reason but when in an argument you sometimes don't think rationally about it.

Your mom is in fault cuz she had no other priorities, she had one child. This mother in the video had two kids, one of which was autistic. She had another priority.

@@slurpdeedeedee she absolutely did not have another priority in this specific instance, there was a trained professional there. she doesnt have an excuse for most every time either despite us not knowing the specific circumstances, if she said she was going to go there, she should have taken preparations FOR THE ONE THING that we know could stop her. after a few times, maybe she should stop being braindead and think "maybe i should get someone else to look after my child who is incredibly prone to outbursts that would instantly stop me from doing what i should be."

@@olivermccarthy456 She did get someone to look after her kid, but he was crying and was upset and wouldn't stop without her.

@@slurpdeedeedee And the TRAINED profesional could have done something about so she could go to her daughter event.

@@slurpdeedeedee So? That's what the trained professional was there for. Heaven help son when mom is gone, she's made him so dependent on her, he could literally pine away.

And evidently, even knowing she is going to pilfer, he is unable to make more food to compensate. Easy way to peace.

@@willchase1952 why should he cave in to her bad habits?

@@user-rx9ny4yo2e He could divorce her. The crux of the issue is that he asks, she says no, he makes a plate and she pilfers. She isn't going to change, he has made that clear. Stop asking. Make two plates and when she is hungry she can eat hers.

Friggin killed me first time I heard it

Welcome to life

She's definitely 5/5 assholes

Kitten Mimi 6/5 for the wife

Thanks rSlash

Kitten Mimi he I know you mean’t wife let’s make it a 7/5

The way I see it if their hand makes it to the food on my plate its gone😬👌, I'll even complain that 'their hand is raw and I demand they cook it properly! '

@@KnittingGirl28 Just like Gordon Ramsay would say: "It's fucking RAW!"

@@KnittingGirl28 *hand hovers over plate* "FINALLY! SOME GOOD FUCKIN FOOD!"

I mean, a little bit of an asshole for the whole "ME HANGRY CAVEMAN!" attitude, but he's TOTALLY justified by "protecting" his food by making it spicey. She didn't want any. He asked. She shouldn't complain that the pizza she didn't want was spicey.

Stealing someone's food is a sign of trying to be dominant. The pack leader divides the food. She's trying to dominate the marriage, probably unconsciously, but goes about it the wrong way, since she's female.

I think he was brilliant

It was fu*king hilarious.

@@Feynix4 IKR

I hate it! I’m not and have never been pregnant, but when I am, if someone does, I’ll punch them right in the throat

@@whatokay_ if I'm ever pregnant,I'll touch them back,disrespectful people,I understand what their intentions are,but pregnant woman are still people. You wouldn't walk up to a random person and touch them randomly But if their pregnant,wowee,they become things to touch and fondle

@@turtleinashirt xD

How about animals like cow

He didn't want to make a scene since it would blowback on her

My father would consistently take food from my plate when I was growing up. He would only take things I liked as well, never vegetables or other, but steak, sausage, rice, fries, he'd always say I wasn't eating it. Funny how not eating vegetables never made him take those.

claudia stump I thought I had heard this story before

Really?? Can you link me to the story/video?

@@NoizuWilhelm I don´t really remember what video it was but the people i watch that post reddit videos are rslash, cuestar, bumfris and sorrow tv, I remebered the story from what the mom said her daughter said to her when the mom didnt go to her award ceremony.

@@claudiastump3493 do you know part of the story of the girl? I mean, maybe the mother doesnt tell a lot and just tries to make herself look good idk

Most people repost their story on other subreddit when the one they posted is inappropriate for the subreddit or the original subreddit thinks that people from the other subreddit will get a kick from it.

Lexa Feig I don’t think she meant for all of what happened to happen though

High on the spectrum means high functioning. Meaning they're most costly incredibly smart but quirky. Low means tantrums

@@AngelOfMusic20 yeah. I studied this. If your high, that likely means you have Level One Autism, or means you likely have a higher than average IQ, smart and only need a little help. What the woman in the story was describing was Level Three, or meaning this kid has a lot of issues, low IQ, and like she said, nonverbal. I can see Why the woman did it, but it wasn't right.

How the mother acted is especially bad because most trainer professionals would recommend she leave because you shouldn't give in and catered to your kids since it will cause a lack of dependence and play into any separation anxiety.

It's the mothers fault she's had it coming for r a long time

What would be funny is to watch the faces of the people on the receiving end.

I would have just filed a complaint with HR. If it doesn't get fixed in a month, I would file a second complaint with HR and then inform them that the next complaint comes in the form of a lawsuit. And yes, I would take them to court.

reply who are you? every time you get your name wrong from someone start calling them (hey you) until they get it right.

Also add "Like ""Tina come get some ham""

You know what's sad about that second story. She expected everyone to be racists. Instead they are trying to relate and she still thinks they're still being sort of racists. I get they are getting her name wrong but if everyone says her name is Tiana it's kinda hard to fix but that happens. I have a buddy that everyone called the wrong name for 5 years. When he got his own office everyone was shocked because the plaque said "Aaron" and not Kevin. They called him the wrong name and he just embraced it because it didn't affect him. Then again he wasn't looking for a reason to be insulted. She may not be an asshole but she is an idiot.

If you know they're going to want some, just get a little extra. It shows that you know them well and care about them. :)

holy shit someone gets it thought i was one of the only people commenting on this that understands that simple idea

I'm totally that wife. I always want to try my hubby's food, especially since I'm pregnant and always hungry

I think her old connection to her friend. Life is short, and it's great for us to have our heart to go to all people in love while we have the chance. But, any benefit in this connection is morally questionable, as well as vague. The husband's concern for their own marriage well being are not questionable or vague.

😂😂🤣

And at that moment he should have given the guy the the most sexually deprepraved look he can muster, like he's undressing him with his eyes and either lick or bite his lip. I'd bust out laughing if I saw that happen in this situation.

@@KnittingGirl28 Damn! Good job making my night the best! I've stayed up all night and I was mad and sad but now I'm just happy and can't stop laughing

@@dumasss1239 Glad my temporary sleeplessness made someone's night. Take it easy~😪

@@KnittingGirl28 and I'm glad of this ad on to the story 😂

Joe Exotic INTENSIFIES

I'm from Seattle, and lemme tell ya, that shit is SO common there.

And what if it's not on purpose? Could be the coworkers are so concerned about appearing racist, they're so "woke," that they second guess themselves when they see or remember her name is Tina. They might say to themselves, "No, that's some colonialism thinking, she wouldn't be named Tina, it must be Tiana. Yeah, I know I've heard that as a black woman's name before."

Koda Hansen lol thats a bit of a reach around but i see where youre coming from. think its weird that even tho shes like “my names tina” they just keep calling her the wrong name.

yeah, whenever someone mispronunces or call me the wrong name i call them by the wrong name, but I use a really, really wrong opposite gender name to drive it home.

LMAO THAT'S ALL I WAS THINKING ABOUT DURING THE STORY

Yes! Also Scrubs where Turk loses it because Carla takes one of his fries (hypocritical though since a few episodes later he's stealing steak off everyone's plates).

YESS! That's exactly what I screamed in my head 😂

Lmao I'm so glad I found your comment. Because yeeessss.

ME TOO THOUGH!!!! HONESTLY, FRIENDS HAS TAKEN OVER AT LEAST 50% OF MY BRAIN!

Beethebee 3193 I think he needs a “butthole” icon that comes up for the rating part!

so. he gets demonetized again he used to do that but he got demontized

“In the case of the dead dickhead, u/F***thatdeadguy...you are NOT the butthole!”

Ezzeldin mohd he got demobilized for using fake buttholes? Lol. I was thinking more like the “pow!” type star emoji I can’t find now that I’m looking for it, or maybe peaches, not actual buttholes. No one wants to see that.

I would be so grateful to my boyfriend for doing this. I wouldn't be able to, way too anxious. And he didn't even cause a scene doing it. That's the perfect response

This is an unfortunate reality for women, though. They are subject to keeping quiet in lieu of placating men that would ruin their situation via their own favoritism.

What CG said is right. Many women feel they have to put up with good, because if we report our co-workers, WE tend to get in trouble, not our harassers. It's an unfortunate reality for us, and I think the girlfriend was worried about her job.

Dezeray Hope wait you’d be thankful for your boyfriend giving a restaurant your information so you have to pay the price??

@@ExpertCobra-tn1vt She's talking about the first story about the male coworker harassing his girlfriend who then jumps up and screams "I'M NOT GAY" because the boyfriend was doing exactly what he was doing to his girlfriend.

That's a clever double meaning name you have there ;)

I love the name!! Now as far as his wife wanting to go to the funeral, tell her it's her choice but if she goes, don't bother coming back

probably because its a throwaway account? check the tina AITA too

No your'e missing the point. Why tf would he want her to go to funeral for a guy she cheated with? How is that anyway respectful to him or theyre marraige? Yea he is dead and no she doensnt have to make it up to him everyday but going to that funeral makes 0 sense for someone who u "cut" out of your life. Shes not considering how that would make her husband feel...hell she alreaded cheated on him with this guy now she at her funeral that doesnt seem right. Honestly she has shown very little respect for him or their marraige and I would honestly feel some type of way too.

Lugialuvr I agree with you

As much as I agree with this statement, SD was also married with children. If they knew about the affair her showing up might stir up drama and make that funeral a shit show.

To him, it likely is confirmation that she never truly let go. Because let's be honest here: She likely didn't. For all he knows, she'd actually kept cheating on him with this guy, just... in secret. As someone that doesn't give an actual F if my partner has physical relations with someone else, I understand the real issue here. It's not that she cheated on him. It's that she still loved him. And this is basically confirmation of that. If my wife hired a male hooker, I wouldn't care, because all it means is she wanted a good passionate hugging. If my wife went on a non-physical date with someone from her past, I'd care. Just because someone died, doesn't mean your emotional connection to them is gone. NOTHING can remove that, other than yourself. There's certain people out there that, if they showed genuine interest, I'd immediately drop my entire life to be with them. This is likely true of just about everyone. And on a base level, pretty much everyone knows this is true of their loved ones. And... you can't even always fault them. Some people ARE a better match than you, no matter what. If my GF/Wife had a genuine shot with someone like Keanu Reeves, I'd just straight up say "take it.". I'd be sad, but there's honestly no faulting that desire. If your wife wanted to go to her ex-husband's funeral, you'd consider that a bit of an issue, wouldn't you? Even if you let her go, it's a constant reminder that you were choice #2. Particularly if you were in her life back when she was married to him. It might be "selfish", but I could never blame someone for not wanting someone to do something like that. Because no matter how understandable it is, it still hurts you. Sometimes a LOT. And honestly, if the wife doesn't understand that it hurts you? That's just even more telling. It's basically confirmation and proof that you were never #1 in her mind. ...which, a lot of the mentioned behavior, kind of hints at. To me, trying to "make up" for it for THAT long, kind of tells me "she never stopped caring about the guy, and this is all some attempt to convince HERSELF that she cares more about me, but she actually doesn't.". Which pretty much just results in this singular point: People need to simply learn to be honest. Both with themselves, and with others. It never helps to lie to people about things that have that large of an impact on someone's life... particularly yourself. And yes, I'm speaking from experience here. My parents really haven't ever actually loved each other. But they're both too afraid of the consequences of separating to ever leave. They've basically been miserable their entire lives. And that's exactly the kind of behavior and feelings I get from the wife in that story. She didn't want to leave, because of what everyone would think of her, but she was never truly, truly happy. She wanted their kid, and potentially even their extended family, friends, etc. to all have a "normal" family relationship. But she never actually moved on, and always regretted not being with that guy. So yes, it's understandable. Both sides are, actually. She wants to go to the funeral not to "say goodbye to a family friend", but to lament and say goodbye to a life that never was. He likely realizes this, at least on some level, and hates it. Because really... who wouldn't? If your wife wanted to go to the funeral of the guy that always said no, that was never in her life past college... it would hurt you, wouldn't it? To be that utterly made aware of the fact you were always choice #2?

I agree

Closet Gamer ikr!!!

Yeah, like I always take one my Hubby's fries, but literally just ONE because I have to watch my sodium. I asked him, and he said he's fine with it. Other times I might try his food is he gets something new, but I always actually wait until he is pretty much done (he doesn't generally finish all his food anyway!).

Ms Multifandom where? Add a link?

Ye if you find it again can u add link or add which r/ you found it under

I saw that one too

I thought the same damn thing! But it was a sister who had autism not a brother

It just isn't that uncommon of a story tbh. It's too typical for siblings of special needs children to be overlooked and have to manage on their own. Parents doesn't do this to be mean but they get so wrapped up in the special needs child that they just let the "easy" child handle what it needs to handle on it's own because they just "have" to spend their focus on the special child. If they aren't aware of their behavior towards the "healthy" children it will become a really sore topic over the years of feeling unloved, unsupported and a childhood filled with disappointment, especially if there are only two children. I'm not surprised you've seen this story before.

Same lol

cuz the error at 6:30 the middle was cut out

Carl The Cupcake someone named Kevin prob claimed it for privacy lol

Cause of rendering issues ^^;

Noticed a couple of editing issues, might not have meant to send out this soon.

It threw me off, It's great.

Theyre both aholes, the wife should respect his food choice for himself, also if youre toghether you adapt to eachother, if she keeps stealing your food, order more instead of bitching. Be part of the solution, not the problem

@@TheEvanovitch Or maybe she should be honest about wanting food in the first damn place

@@TheEvanovitch Yea how about she open her damn mouth and tell him she wants some food instead of constanly taking his, she an adult not a child and need to stop acting childish about food he ordered for him. Also he ASKED did she want any food whuch she said no so kill that bullshit

@@jamarjoyner9365 calm down, i didnt say she wasnt the butthole, i said they both were. I dont think hes wrong in principle, i think hes wrong in execution. If it truly is that much of an issue, order more, seriously its not that hard. If you know shes gonna take some of your food every time, anticipate it instead of bitching about it.

@@TheEvanovitch While I thought the same at first, really, all that does is encourage bad behavior. When bad behavior is encouraged it usually gets worse, so no, never "adapt" to bad behavior.

Joey doesn't share food!!!!

There are several sacred things in this world that you don't ever mess with. One of them happens to be another man's fries. Now you remember that, and you will live a long and healthy life.

Lol, I'd do the same. I don't know where you rank hands have been, but they sure as heck ain't touching MY fries.

I've had this happen. Except they took my WHOLE meal. Like all of my food. My mom had to get me more food 5 times and the check was $120

@@justarandomdudewithnoskill5170 120?! 5 times?! Who the heck were you eating with?

If he is though he really should have a trained carer, what if he hurts his mum? Shes not trained to deal with that situation

I dont think the daughter is wrong. Not having a parent at an event for another sibling hurts. Dealing with that for years I would cut them off just to not feel that pain. The mom should have been more present in her daughter's life. I can understand sometimes but it was years.

How does the daughter suck tho?.

I grew up as the oldest of 3 kids & I spent most of my childhood babysitting said other 2 kids long before I would have been legally allowed to do so. My father was a farmer & my mom helped from spring to fall. When I found out I was pregnant with my second daughter, I knew that it wouldn't be the same for my oldest daughter. Her stepfather & I decided to have a baby. She did not. In all my youngest's childhood, my oldest only ever watched her twice, for less than 2 hours both times until the sitter could get there, in emergency situations. I just don't think it's right to make one or more children give up their childhoods because of choices the parent(s) made. Idk it's kind of the reason why the Duggars piss me off. I don't care that they are uber religious & believe weird things that I do not. I do care that they kept pumping out babies & expecting their oldest kids to be pseudo-parents since it's impossible to successfully parent that many children as one person (while the father is at work). I just find it disgusting when parents put their choices on one or more of their kids tbh.

I really like R/Slash but sometimes his views on women when they make mistakes is pretty severe.

The Cinema Pot ya he obviously has issues with women, cue is better anyway

I don't think he meant anything by it, but if you continue to dislike him just unsubscribe and block the Channel

Yea.. first dude was easy around 6/5

Wow sexually harassing? Are you all idiots? Going to a funeral? Its not going to a funeral is what it represents. There is no excuse for cheating in a marriage, and then disrespecting your significant other.... I guess thats why most people don't agree with your logic, and the fact that you are making it a "women" issue, without any evedence, shows that the one with a bias is you.

A child that is usually considered 2nd or last to a parent, ends up having resentment towards the child that gets all the attention. It's not the sisters fault for having that resentment, it's the moms for creating it. I don't think she lost any credibility, because the mom was the one that didn't teach empathy to the brother. Autistic or not, empathy is taught. By putting the brother first all the time, the boy wasn't taught how to have empathy.

@@samalvarez8776 She's justified but that doesn't make it okay.

@@Arlothed1no no, but I still blame the mother 100% for causing those emotions

@@samalvarez8776 that doesn't make her not an asshole. The point is to let her know who's an asshole here

And it's not the girls fault but it can come back to bite them.

By “learn how to” you mean AGAIN test that (totally new and never previously conceived of in her mind before an oh so great teacher came along) boundaries “plan” and roll the dice on extreme to violent to the pettiest and most long-lasting reactions/punishments to challenging male entitlement that day. Maybe they learned that gambling with inappropriate mens egos gets them hurt more than any benefit to their comfort would be worth. Sad but true. It only proves that women can’t solve this problem alone by “learning” things about how to deal with aggressive/abusive men. It’s too broad a problem for your simple “learn this one great trick” logic, because life isn’t like that and women shouldn’t have to gamble those consequences vs continually enduring shit.

My god don’t victim blame. Let the men keep there fucking dicks in their pants

@@messiahofthefirst.3415 "dont say women should learn how to put up strong boundaries so the few men that dont keep their dicks in their pants despite being taught to and it being morally wrong to will be stopped by their prey, that would be terrible!" theres always going to be corrupt people, this is just life. why not put up an extra barrier? i completely agree with you to an extent but we cant be 100% reliant on that strategy because some people just dont fucking care. he didnt victim blame. he didnt shift any of the blame to her. all he said was "some girls won't put up strong boundaries and they all need to learn how to". they do. and so do all men. and literally everyone. strong boundaries are important.

@@olivermccarthy456 theres a difference between "boundaries" and strong boundaries. I'm sick that it has come to this, and don't try to fool me with "men needa do it to blah blah blah". tf they needa put boundaries up for? Anyways, have a lovely day/night!

damn straight man

I'd do the same as op for friends or family but make it work to my advantage by acting like a total slob the whole time. If its family ill act as if they are basically my parent or sibiling. For a friend basically act as if I've already got the person he's hitting on as my partner (I actually do this a bit with my roommate on accident and purpose sometimes), if he dislikes being hit on by a gay so much he leaves then acting as if his Target is lesbian should make him lose interest.

Deadass the girlfriend is mad weird letting that happen and then getting her ass saved AND THEN WHINING hoes mad

Yes

I agree with you. It feels wrong to say the wife was an asshole for wanting to attend a funeral. It’s not like she’s leaving to cheat on him, she’s paying respects for someone who died and it could help her grieve. I think she should’ve been able to go;

@@MaxieBee My ex-boyfriend died last year. He was from college so all my college friends were going. At the same time, I hadn't talked to him in years and they hung out with him regularly. I got a lot of pressure from one friend to go to the funeral. I didn't go. I thought it would be weird for his wife and family. I do think it's disrespecting her husband to go to this guy's funeral. Just my opinion. However, I don't think he should have demanded that she not go. They should have talked it out and expressed each other's point of view. Also, the husband could have gone with her to the funeral. Crazy idea, but if she was uncomfortable with that, she should have explained why. Just my

Nope. The wife is the selfish asshole in that case by far. Not only was she the cheater but after being lucky enough to be forgiven she then wants her saint of a husband to relive the affair 10 years later just so she can get some type of closure? It just shows that at her core she never changed and is still the selfish woman who only considers what she wants no matter how bad it hurts those who claim to love her.

@@thegimpygamer let me drop a real world knowledge bomb on you, just because the wife cheated doesn't make the husband a saint. You are only hearing one perspective you don't know their relationship. Death is a time of grieving and forgiveness, I think even though what she and him did was unforgivable she deserves closure and it would be healthier for their marriage in the long run. I would never stop my wife from going to her ex's funeral, closure is super important to the human brain.

@@Neochiken1 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 *pause* 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣....man could you white knight any harder?

Hans Bloodsmith the plot twist in that story was insane

He used a comma so he got a heart

Whats the name of the video? This keeps popping up and y'know it sounds interesting.

@@rubireynoso1273 It's a R/Kevin stories if I'm not wrong, about how stupid a person (aka Kevin) can be. I think he posted it but then deleted it after few minutes because there some mistakes in it, idk, read the pinned comment for more information

tell her she's just like your dad

When 90% of the people in the office now call you tina: *I'm almost there!*

A special kind of hug...

Joe Mama, I know...