r/AmITheA**hole My Friend's Girlfriend RAN OVER ME WITH HER CAR! 

Ashley just wasn’t bragging about doing a hit and run; she was bragging about vehicular homicide. She said it herself. She thought the kid she hit was dead and she fricking laughed about it. Either the meth fried her brain that bad, or she’s not a “recovering addict”

OP: "I've been run over" Everybody: "Let it go!" No... you can't and shouldn't let it go.

Is it just me or... Does it sound like Ashley is pure evil? I mean.. she laughed about the thought of killing a random high schooler, that's gotta be psychopathic right?

Op should tell everyone criticizing him : “Ashley was laughing about it when she thought she killed me.” And then just repeat “She thought she killed a high schooler and laughed about it.” Because that’s what they’re defending. And you shouldn’t let them forget that.

Here's the thing! Regardless of weather or not she was actually the one that hit OP, she ADDMITTED to a hit and run. She confessed to a literal crime that could have resulted in serious injury or death and she did not feel bad about it. I would go to the police about it regardless.

Second story's title can be reworded to: "AITA for escaping a toxic relationship despite making a promise?" Nope. That man is a stain in the world of parenting and he just wants to make OP look bad for making the right call and leaving.

"Something Reddit won't allow me to say" Is it just me, or does that sound like they were telling OP to "self-terminate"?

The girl that got sucked in to a marriage to be a slave got trapped by and escaped a narcissist in under 2 years..you go girl! Most people are stuck with narcissists for decades! You're a strong one op! Be proud of yourself for loving yourself enough to get out!

Even if OP cannot sue anymore, I would end the friendship with the so-called “friend”, because I can’t believe the friend didn’t see anything wrong with what happened to OP. At minimum, if I were the boyfriend, I would’ve immediately broken up with the girlfriend.

11 years is definitely outside the Statute of Limitations. However, the SoL may be tolled during the time he did not know who hit him. SoL vary by state, so OP is doing the right thing by seeking an attorney to assess the case

First story title: AITA for taking legal action against the person that ran me over with their car 11 YEARS AGO?! No! That’s an instant NTA from me!

If I was OP in the ran over story after Ashley said "Probably 10ft in the ground" I would've said "Actually I'm right here"

For the degree story i feel like the friend deserves an extra 0.5 for starting the conversation in that way. Who tells a friend “i bet your parents would rather have me as their child instead of you”?

rSlash: "He's a bad father, a bad husband, and a bad person" Me: "oh, so a bastard"

How very convenient that Tamara remembers one little promise from all that time ago but seems to have forgotten everything that happened after that.

RSlash: "I've an English Degree and a Masters and they're the most worthless degrees ever" Me with an English Degree about to go into a masters of education: "....... my emotions"

You can totally tell RSlash's parents did not get divorced when he was a kid. As someone whose parents went through a divorce I can tell you it's absolutely 100% better to be honest with them, trying to hide the truth will only cause greater hurt in the future. And it is a absolutely their business why the family is splitting up, it affects them greatly and they deserve to be told the truth.

The worst part of the stepchildren story is that...unfortunately...this is part of how Karens are made. Clearly, the uncivilized and evil behaviors of the father have rubbed off on his poor children, who are now most likely deeply rooted in the karen-hood and may never recover from it. The father is the true evil here, and those kids, toxic and delusional as they may be, can only be blamed to so much of an extent.

The STEM/CEO Battle: If I was BOTH their parents, I'd be embarrassed no matter how rich they are lmao

Ashley Story - OP, just use their logic. Sue her, hopefully she does 10 to 20 in jail for what amounted to almost killing someone and running away from the crime scene. After 10 years, they should all get over it, since it's been some time after all. Also, if you feel bad for the possibility she may do time, keep in mind she felt no remorse about almost taking 70+ years of your life away from you.

The kids are a reflection of the father’s parenting, before they got married. Also the kids generally project it to some degree as the get older as well, unless they get a taste of reality.

On the second story, she said she and the kids made promises *to each other* at the wedding, so I'm curious what kind of promises they kids made to her and if constantly belittling her and treating her like a slave might have violated any of them!

rSlash: "It sounds like she was not just telling stories" Me, in a Dhar Mann voice: "She was changing lives"

I thought the second story Tamara probably had take on the responsibility like the cooking and cleaning that's why she upset. They treated her like a door mat.

Rslash: I don't often give out 5/5 scores because it diminishes the impact if I do it too much. Also Rslash, this time: you get 5/5, and you get 5/5! Everyone look under your seats, you ALL get 5/5!

At almost a 10 year age difference, Will just wanted a live in nanny, cook, maid that he could sleep with who'd also contribute to the bills, i.e he didnt have to pay.

My jaw dropped during that first story! That girl thinks she killed someone and doesn't even care?!? She was nonchalant about it! She is a legit sociopath

“My major is better!” “No, mine is!” Rslash: *pitiful*

Story 1 he needs to save every message as evidence. Then sue everyone on her side for harassment.

Story 1: legal time, baby Story 2: you need to cut them off before they drag you back. Story 3: reminded me of the elementary school fight Story 4: the relationship was ruined 3 years ago.

Trust me, if my gf hit a high schooler, and laughed about them “probably being dead”, then I would instantly break up. On top of that she is a “recovering meth addict”. Wtf? She doesn’t seem like she’s recovering at all, she probably just had a dose actually.

Hey OP tell your friend this: "If someone tried to shoot you dead and got away with it, would you let it go?".

Honestly? OP in the first story would be the butthole if he *didn't* go after her. She's a massive, sociopathic danger to everyone, plain and simple. She shrugged off the idea of her *killing* *someone* . How do we know OP isn't her only victim too since *obviously* she wasn't in a rush to call the police or an ambulance either. Also, last story? What I was talking about in an earlier video; OP is 1000% in the right despite the (rightfully ex) wife being 1000% in the wrong and trying to play the victim card and gaslight OP into thinking he was wrong to tell the kids.

the father definitely took advantage of a younger woman to basically become his live in babysitter and raised his kids to be absolute little shits. I'm glad she got out. she should lay out the truth to that child and if she won't believe it well sucks to be her but OP doesn't owe that child now grown woman shit

For the last story of the wives cheating on her husband for 3 years pretty much she was trying to figure out a way to make him the bad guy so she can look like an angel

Cheaters deserve every bad thing that comes to them. Someone finding out their SO is cheating breaks them down mentally, physicall and emotionally. It's torture what goes through the mind when they look back after finding out. Don't cheat.

"most parents would want their kid to be a CEO over a programmer" no, most parents just want their kids to be successful lol, this is the most childish thing I've heard in a while. I feel like this is the perfect example of "when you make your entire personality about your major".

In the first story the fact that she openly admit to at least what she thought was vehicular homicide and laughed about it says a lot and the fact that OP's friend was fine with dating someone who thinks they killed someone and finds it funny means they are both messed up. Anything OP can do be it sue, press charges or both they should without a second thought and get some new friends while they are at it.

Ashley bragging about running someone over and them probably dead reminds me of that one girl who killed her dad with her boyfriend

As a child of divorce, I struggled my whole life with it. I was 4 when my father remarried and I was never told the truth as to why my parents divorced, because I was “too young”. I hated it, I would ask anyone I meet that knew my parents before and during the divorce. My mother finally told me her side of the story when I was 16. My dad on the other hand only told me his side when I was in my late 20s. They both told me their truths and they were both different, but I was able to understand both sides and come to a clear idea of what happened from that. I just always wish I was told the truth from the start. “Mommy and Daddy have been fighting a lot and Daddy has found someone that can make him happy. We want everyone to be happy but Mommy and Daddy can’t be happy when we fight. Mommy and Daddy might not be in love anymore but we will always love you and that is what matters the most!”

OP Might have lost an mlb contract Everyone: “Let it go” Yeah true lost millions of dollars and an amazing life for him and his family but let it go for sure

The "friendship" between STEM child and Business Major is just... wild. Rslash's commentary is accurate.

"Why would you tell the kids I cheated, now they hate me!" aw man, you shouldn't have cheated then lmao

Please let us know if there was an update to the hit and run story. I hope op gets the justice they deserve.

Man today is a bad day for RSlash giving almost everyone 5/5. Haven't seen this happen in such a long time.

"Recovering?" Mmmmmm...... IDTS. Also Will: "She's the one! The one who will free me from the kids because SHE can deal with them while I do WHATEVER I WANT! 😜"

For the divorce story: Dad is absolutely NTA. My parents divorced when I was little (10 and my brothers 7 and 3) and all I know about why they divorced is that they started fighting and it escalated to my father coming home, robbing us blind, attempting to kidnap my brothers, and leaving in the middle of the night. We were never given any insight as to why things happened the way they did, why they had escalated the way they did, and the fear and uncertainty and came in the following months pretty much destroyed what was left of my childhood. In my opinion, it's critical that when parents get a divorce you have an age appropriate conversation with the child/children and make sure they understand what's going on and why. Not knowing can do so much more damage in the long run. This mother didn't want her kids to find out but the thing is, things like that have a way of popping up when least expected. She can be mad all she wants but if I were one of her kids, I'd rather hear from my parents that mom was cheating than from someone outside the family who knew what was up.

Fourth story: They'll find out sooner or later. She’s just complaining that her children also caught her and are mature enough to know she screw up and judge her for tthat.

OP: Your girlfriend ran me over and fucked up my life. "So? It was 11 years ago. Let it go." bitch, don't say "let it go" to someone who was 1: Partially paralyzed, 2: lost a baseball scholarship because of said paralysis, 3: could have fucking died, and 4: their mom was pretty much destroyed financially because of the hospital bills. Edit: the friend and his family telling OP to "let it go" is like telling someone with no legs to stand up. It cant be done

As someone who's works multiple jobs in multiple fields and has a degree in the STEM field I feel I can confidently say that the only jobs that truly make the world go round are those from trade school. I mean every other job has its use but trade school jobs are so much more valuable and people honestly take the people who work them for granted.

Story 1: Ashley basically ruined OP's live and she had no remorse, she didn't knew and was amused with the idea that they were dead... yeah no, sue the shit out of her. Story 2: Holy- imagine mistreating your wife and then make the kids hate her. The fact both him and the kids started to not give her respect sucks, no wonder OP left.

Kinda hard for the guy to let go of getting run over when the person who did still brags about it proudly.

That first story: absolutely take them to court.

The story about the lady leaving when no one was home. I agree that the child is just repeating what the dad did.

The degree envy story is so hilarious!! My cousin has a Criminal Justice degree from a University. He was a copper for a while wanting to get into the FBI. He is brilliant with computers, always has been. He went on to become an IT specialist for the military. Now, he works for himself as a contractor with the military and NASA. He makes more money than he knows what to do with, loves his work and gets to spend time with his kids and wife. His wife’s family is savage wealthy, as in billions! He didn’t go into his jobs thinking he had to prove himself, he just wanted a good fit for him and his family. They are the most incredible, down to earth, super fun family! My egg donor tsk, tsk’d over his choice to the family and while I went no contact with everyone except him, he went very low contact. It’s phenomenal. I joined the government straight out of high school in the 80’s and worked with many branches of the military. He hears my name in circles, I hear his and we laugh about it. We’re both such underachiever’s and such a disgrace to the family!!! 😂😂😂

Programmer: "I can hack you." Businessman: "I can fire you."

That last story… Props to the op for saying. Most likely if he didn’t say something the ex wife would’ve probably twisted it to be his fault

Nothing says "good parenting" like using your kids as tools to win a quarrel.

As someone who comes from separated parents, my parents sort of told me why they broke up (though this was given when I asked when I was older). Overall I would prefer having the truth why they breaking up of instead of tap dancing around the issue. BTW they broke up when I was 6 so even though I was that young I can't remember if I was told why at the time but I wouldn't be surprise if I had blamed myself for the breakup. Being told why stops the child from blaming themselves and leading to other emotional issues later.

I'd be willing to bet that since it was a hit and run and the person who ran him over was never caught, the Statute of Limitations could be vastly extended given that said person was just discovered. What I wish, more than anything, was that OP could have tricked Ashely into giving up information in front of a witness, maybe even an undercover cop who could be recording her, that would be AMAZING and would have been, in my own opinion, his best chance at successfully suing that idiot.

OP: “Business is better.” Other Guy: “STEM is better”. Me, a BFA Illustrator: “… wut?”

“Let it go” is always said by those who’ve never suffered from trauma, whether it be abusive family, road traffic collision, being attacked/mugged, someone betraying you, sexually assaulted, etc, it’s *always* said by those who haven’t had to suffer the lifelong mental/physical implications. I’ve been told by random people that I need to “get over it”, “let it go” and “she’s your mother, just forgive her” when she heavily abused me and enabled my brother to violently assault me, whilst both being homophobic, and I’ve absolutely no intention of forgiving them, in fact, I cut all contact. My families abuse gave me permanent nerve damage and PTSD, I’m about 90% bedridden and have mobility issues, when I have the energy for a short walk I have to take regular breaks and walk with a cane, plus dealing with the chronic pain that I’ve lived with since my teens from my damaged pelvis, meaning at 30, I’ve spent at least 12ish years in pain, every second of the day, and fighting with PTSD. I dunno why I should “let it go” or “get over it” when I have to live with this for the rest of my life. I absolutely abhor that attitude, and I don’t understand why folk side with the person responsible. OP has had his health ruined, something I massively empathise with and feel his anger over, and don’t blame him for wanting to get justice, he can prove through a decade of medical records just how much that collision has changed his life and that she isn’t even sorry, like who jokes about that with “oh he’s probably 6 feet under, lol”?! She was literally laughing at committing vehicular homicide, she thought she’d killed a kid and was LAUGHING?!? Not the butthole, his “friend” however is a massive butthole for siding with her and telling OP that he needs to simply get over it. He deserves justice, and in my opinion, justice doesn’t have a timeframe, you can get justice at any time you want.

In the first story I’m actually happy that the mom agreed that op should get a lawyer

Even if the statute of limitations is up, OP from the first story should definitely look into taking Ashley through civil proceedings. Even if she doesn't get any jail time that she so richly deserves, at least she might be made to face some repercussions and OP might just get some of what they're owed.

That story about who has the better college major makes me so glad my family supports me being a creative entrepreneur. The degree that I did earn in university doesn't actually matter that much

I just find it funny with that little example RSlash made, as soon as he said “My dad could kick your dad’s-“ I get an ad right when he was about to say butt. Perfectly cut 👌

Ngl, that STEM degree is probably gonna make her a lot more money and that business degree is literally never gonna get him to a CEO position.

OP's wife"...adult issues"[13:36] OP "I think you meant to say Adultery Issues"

Christ, those stories. Three 5/5s is probably as much as the other perfect asshole scores combined throughout your carreer, man. All well deserved, too.

Blame shifting is commonly seen among people who cheat. Same with wanting to cover up the story. I totally see these with the cheating wife. OP might want to head to r/survivinginfidelity for support.

"You took our punching bag away, how dare you! You made promises to stay!"

What is the statute of limitations for a California charge of hit and run? Under Assembly Bill 184, the SOL for a charge of hit and run in California is six years. This means a prosecutor must file a hit and run charge within six years from the date a motorist commits the offense. I feel sad for OP

If I went out on a date, and the girl go "I don't blame your dad for being upset you quit being an aerospace major, I man you became a History major of all things." then there will be no argument, since I would up and leave then and there.

Me being a student in animation who probably will go hungry, seeing two people with good careers fight like kids xd

OP's wife said he was never home even though it was agreed for her to be a stay-at-home-mom, so I think she used that "excuse."

Op:Your girl ran me over bro! Jack:Um okay? So? Op's Mom:*on her way to beat the shit out of Ashely and Jack*

"Business Majors make the world go round!" Yeah, right, tell me another joke.

For the last story, if the dad didn’t tell the kids about their ‘cheating mum’ I GUARANTEE some gossip would of told them. That would lead to the kids being angry at the mum (obviously) but also the dad since he wasn’t forthcoming with why. The dad told the mum before the conversation that he would tell the kids why if they asked. He was honest about that. It’s not like he decided to just say it for the sake of it. The mother is DEFINITELY 100% an asshole. I have no respect for cheaters and completely agree with what the dad says. Good video as always OP! Hope you, the mrs, the baby and Hugo are all doing amazingly!!

Story 1- ABSOLUTELY NTA!! She committed a crime and destroyed you and your mom's lives, and she showed no remorse and never faced any consequences. She also seemed pretty proud of the horrific thing she did! Screw her, press charges and sue for as much damages as you can get from her. Also, maybe cut off all of those people who tell you to just "let it go". Let them go instead.

really hate when cheaters pull the "your were away and i was alone" card.

When it comes to the last story, the kids were going to find out eventually. There was no way that could be kept a secret for long at all. It's best that their dad told them as soon as they asked, so that they weren't being lied to, because that made things worse. I was 16 when my parents divorced because of my mom cheating, and I won't give details, but I went low contact for a couple of years, but the relationship was somewhat mended since then. I don't think that could have happened if I didn't know in the first place and found out later. I'm not saying his ex-wife deserves a second chance with her kids, but if it's anything like my situation, she has a better chance of mending the relationship if she owns up to it and gives them space to process and forgive.

When my parents divorced (I was 17), my parents told me why they decided to split, though they did not go into extreme detail. No matter how bad it feels, it’s better to let the kids know why their parents are divorcing.

I love how people tend to assume that doing what is right for you , means you are the good guy in the story . And that everyone will understand why you did it . It’s not that cut and dry . yes the husband was emotionally abusive , yes the he turned the kids against OP. And yes she should have left . At the same time however , she was essentially the mother the kids needed and was dumped into their lives at a pivotal point in their development. So while this was probably the best outcome , OP did still traumatize the kids . OP is definitely not the butthole but with the same time LIKELY traumatized the kids .

The second story... the guy wanted a free babysitter and a housekeeper..and OP should've reminded the daughter of how they treated her and how they maid you feel..

All many parents want is a happy, healthy, and productive kid.

I relate to the last story. My mom resents my dad because ,"he was never around to help raise you kids." I'm like, "Woman, he was out working his ass off so y'all could barely pay the bills. Shut your mouth."

i had a fight with a kid saying my dad could beat up her dad when i was like 6 turns out my dad 100% could have beat up her dad

How can anyone laugh at a hit and run, and tell a victim of a hit and run accident to just let it go?? Jack and Ashley are perfect for each other, both of them are sadistic idiots 🙄

LOL, loved rSlash's response to the two idiots arguing over whose major was better. A waste of their time arguing about it, a waste of our time hearing about it! (But at least we get to laugh at them, so that's something.)

He asked in legaladvice and they replied that The statute of limitations on damages is 2 years, so it's passed. But he may still be able to press assault charges, and he can DEFINITELY sue the ever living feck out of her. I'd take all the text mesg proof and head to the nearest small claims court and ask for maximum damages for suffering.

Personally, on the last story, I think that it is the kids' businesses to know about this. They are directly affected by the divorce so I think they have a right to know why their family is suddenly being split up.

For the first story it would make sense for OP to move on if the incident didn't affect him that much and Ashley actually acknowledge her mistakes and feel guilty about it but no, not only she ruined his life but she also laugh at the fact that she probably killed someone, the fact that his friend say to him that is no big deal despite the damag she has done proove that they are not good friends and not good persons in generals, OP is totally justified to sue her and it's actually the right thing to do.

when did cooking became just 'a girl thing'? I thought everyone has a stomach and needs food, not just girls.

Degree vs degree: Sounds like a good Epic Rap Battle where the third party comes in and mops up the floor with both of them.

So at uni there is this pissing contest between faculties, there was at least when I went to uni. But it's fun trash talk, and brings people to try out-party each other to "prove who's best" etc. Never in my life have I heard two adults take this "my profession is better than yours" thing seriously. Ridiculous.

Apparently the stature of limitations for a hit and run is one to three years in the us so sadly I don't think OP can sue Ashley

About the cheating story: NTA The kids aren’t even kids anymore, they are teenagers. They are old enough to have a right to know why their life will change so much, and they are old enough to decide how they will judge their mother. They can already judge people, because they are people. You kids have a right to know who you are and decide if they like you.

Is this where I say "I can't start my day without a dose of R/Slash"?

For the story about the business major vs the S.T.E.M. major, I think Jontron put it best when he said: "Anyone else feel like this conversation has the intellectual depth of two 5 year olds arguing over who the best Ninja Turtle is?"

I checked the statute of limitations for the car “accident” and it’s only 2 years. I think it’s time to take things personal.