Podcast: open.spotify.c... Patreon: / rslash Discord: / discord 0:00 Intro 0:35 Creepy cheater 8:06 Sons girlfriend 14:48 Reporting my doctor "Sneaky Snitch" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) License: CC By Attribution 3.0
Story 2 : The dad was quiet because his mind went into over drive trying to work out how he could use this information to get to go to his favourite ice cream spot. That dude earned his ice cream and I couldn't be happier for him.
If I ever have kids, this is the kind of parent I want to be. My kid comes out as LGBT+, or they date someone who’s LGBT+, I’m gonna find a way to be wholesome and also get dessert out of it at the same time.
Love the second story! A few years ago, my mom (80+) said she had lunch with an old friend that talked about her son and daughter. She was visibly upset when she asked me " Didn't she used to have two daughters?" I explained, she relaxed and said "Oh, thank goodness, I thought I had dementia or something!"
Sweet story. Sometimes we assume that folks from another generation are going to think a certain way, but the truth is that human compassion is timeless.
@@tomsweder7459 It's the same with me, I didn't know how my nana would react when I told her, but she's the one in the family who understands it the least but tries the hardest
To put in context just HOW creepy the guy in story 1 was, let me add some ages to some of the main points of the story: when OP turned 18 and started dating him, this man was 25 and her sister was 10. When they got married, Op was 22, her ex was 29, and the sister 14. When the affair started going on, this man was 33/34 and the sister 18/19. Oof.
Story 3: Save any texts and voicemails from your family and send them to the people investigating the doctor as proof of damages of the violation. Your lawyer can help you find the proper contacts and may encourage you to file a lawsuit
I also wonder if OP can sue sister and parents for defamation of character since they want to not only inform everyone that she takes medication they want to exaggerate the story to make OP appear as an addict?
@@lorilancaster5917It probably depends. As an easy defense is that she actually does take medication, and the truth is the best defense against defamation. Even if they exaggerate, it's difficult to win in a defamation lawsuit as the plaintiff, American laws are side very heavily with the defense.
@@black1917 exactly! All you’d have to do was goad them into making a public facebook rant about all those things. And if you could get them to start talking about OP in that rant? Slam dunk case. You’d have a clear connection *to them* between their arbitrary hatred of those with ADHD and OP. The only thing you’d have left to prove was that any defaming emails were sent by them. Which, in this day in age, can be done quite easily, even if it was from a burner email.
I'm so glad story 2 went a different direction. I really thought the dad was gonna be cruel and stuff. Especially when he kept saying they would talk later. Nope, man wanted to make a corny joke. I got a big smile when I realized that. I hope the best for OP, Sadie, and the rest of her family. They sound wonderful!
@@darthhauler9947 to be fair, trans people never had it easy in society, and with the recent massive uptick in anti trans bigotry lately, we’ve become a bit pessimistic about stories like this. Thankfully, it ended positively here though :)
I got nervous when Sadie got butter pecan ice cream and OP said it would be important; I was expecting a tasteless joke involving nuts. Instead, the husband made a corny but sweet analogy.
Same, when he started with the whole analogy about "there weren't that much flavor when I was young" I thought it would be something about "omg they're so many weird things nowadays" But instead, it was very cute, so it's really nice to see
I dare say, that was his plan all along. From the moment op told him Sadie was trans, he started concocting a plan to visit his favorite ice cream shop and make a dad joke. I bet he was thinking of it the entire night too!
The story about the trans girlfriend..wow..what a cool father to have! He was spot on with his example about ice cream flavors! I wish more older people would look at it like he does!
** Sam and Sadie ** I’m so jaded by Reddit stories I expected OPs husband to start crap in the restaurant. Instead he was just as accepting. Why can’t more parents be like this? Truly wonderful story.
I had the same reaction! I was afraid the dad was going to say something passive aggressive about there being too many flavors of ice cream and we need to go back to just 2 or 3. I'm SOO glad it turned out the way it did. And dad totally was working on a way to use this opportunity to go get ice cream. LMAO!
question now is how long until he preys upon another barely legal girl. he married op and then shacked up with her sister when they both were barely legal so i guarantee the next relationship will be with another barely legal girl
I liked how the dad described the situation with ice cream, how there are so many different kinds of ice cream like there are so many different kinds of people, but if you enjoy the ice cream like you enjoy being with the person you're dating, then that's all that really matters. It's so sweet, no pun intended.
Story 3: I’m glad that op was able to get away from their toxic family. My mom is a nurse and she comes home with some crazy patient stories all the time but she never includes any personal patient information. My sister also deals with ADHD and I would be livid if someone pulled the same stunt with my family. I hope all the best for op in the future.
I almost had a panic attack waiting for the dad in the son's-new-girlfriend story to do something horrible but that was the cutest shit I've heard all week.
Story 3: So not only did Doctor B violate HIPAA, but then OP's sister proceeded to tell more people? She straight up just further doomed Doctor B's career just to hurt OP? Well, Sister, you just burned at least one bridge and you get some blame for any incoming consequences Doctor B rightfully gets. SEE YA! Also, I hope the parents eventually learn to accept the existence of ADHD, because it is real as peck.
First: It is a stupid idea to have family and/or friends as patients if you can not separate work from your everyday life. Second: Professionals, especially in the medical field, who have years of training and have codes of conduct have to know how to behave and there is no excuse for not doing so (aside from law requirements or patient health concerns). I have no sympathy for the doctor friend.
In OP's case, I would pre-emptively tell the professors so they are prepared if the mother goes ahead with her threat to tell the professors OP is on drugs. Also, I would like to have been a fly on the wall when OP's parents figured out OP has gone no contact.
Vyvanse is one of the most trivial drugs. It’s not like it’s addicting or harmful. I know because I’m also taking it for ADHD. Heck, when I saw the title for the third story, I was genuinely confused as to why someone would even care so much about keeping their Vyvanse prescription a secret. It never occurred to me that a family could be that delusional.
My dad once told me, someone with asthma, not to get "addicted" to my inhaler bc I was taking it once while building up to an attack Some people are insane about medicine
Yeah, I got a prescription for it once and didn’t get it refilled because I couldn’t be bothered to actually take it most days. Though it is considered a controlled substance in my state so appointments were annoying during that time because they’d make me pee in a cup to drug test.
Lol my family don’t believe in it but they stopped nagging WHICH is fuckn ironic considering the entirety of my mother’s side have undiagnosed adhd (it’s seriously comical. The mid sentence amnesia/forgetfulness that they r famous for including my mom and sis) and my father is undiagnosed autistic (he shows all the main traits and I’ve discussed this with my psychologist). Getting my diagnosis explained all my late childhood development and I’m currently in the process of getting my autism diagnosis. Side note: I had to switch to Vyvanse due to concerta shortage later year and OMFG I had the worst experience ever! Lol I experienced one of the weirdest side effects which was itchy scalp🤣wtf looool I checked online and Reddit turns out some ppl had similar experiences as well. Yeesh.. last year was a weird one😂
I mean, I think Vyvanse can be addicting to non-ADHDers. But like, sometimes I miss my dose and I'm fine. I don't crave it, i'm not addicted. I just enjoy being able to focus long enough to study.
2nd story: absolute W of a family. Given how many anti gay/trans parent stories we’ve heard I was getting real nervous about why the dad kept pushing the conversation aside but then it turned into a somewhat profound life lesson dad joke with the ice cream and it was super wholesome. I wish more parents and people in general were like this
Story 3: I have ADHD and many other mental health issues. When I was 14 I was put on ADHD and depression meds. 70% of the people who found out either told me I would get addicted, that they don't work or that I wouldn't live as long because of them. All I can say now is what I said back then, I would rather risk loosing 10 years of my life than being so miserable and ending my life early.
I was diagnosed in my late 20's. the meds are a GODSEND. While they are addictive to Neurotypicals, they tend to be not addictive to those who actually have the condition. However, I do find I can gain a tolerance to them, so I take a "vacation" every month or two to help me stay on a low dose.
I think the same. Before adhd medication I was with a constant feeling that I would get fired because of my inconsistency. Now I’m in peace and I don’t have this mental fatigue following me everywhere.
Depression meds are basically the only reason why my s/o didn't choose to off himself when he was living with his abusive ex-wife. I can't imagine what my life would've been if he didn't make it.
Amen. I hadn't heard the stuff about shortened lifespan though. I wonder if that's a myth? I'm also on ADHD meds, and I really trust my doc. He's never mentioned anything like that, and I tend to grill him for info haha. Hopefully those are just stupid rumors. And way to go, for taking care of yourself ❤
@@Indi_Waffle_Girl The reason people say that is because taking medication can harm your liver, however if you don't take many other medications everyday the liver heals itself for the most part so really it's not a huge risk. Take care of yourself aswell beautiful stranger❤️
Considering how trashy the ex and sister were in the first story and how trashy the rest of the family in the third story was, the second story is one of those injections of wholesomeness we needed. With a dad joke on top. But it's also good that after almost a decade of life lost to a horrible person, the son found someone that really makes them happy and kudos to the girl for finding the confidence to transition and really be themselves.
my jaw dropped when the twist of the second story revealed and i was so happy the family was supportive. trans people like me get enough shit for existing, our loved ones accepting us makes it so much easier.
Story 3: I just started taking medicine for my anxiety and extreme depression. In my culture, mental health is taboo, so going to a therapist and taking medication labels you as 'crazy' so id be super angry if someone outed me like that. My immediate family is amazing and supportive, and have been pushing me for years to get help. But my other family members will continue to be in the dark.
Seriously what time period does OP's parents live in, and how the dad told his kid that she was "slow in their responses" like come on man this isn't 1940 anymore it's 2023😡, and that sister is hella toxic I OP is more successful then them in the future and gives nothing when they crawl back to her.
As a trans minor in Florida hearing a story of a family loving and accepting a trans woman as she is absolutely made my day, it’s nice to have a reminder we get happy endings sometimes
❤❤❤ You absolutely do. I'm sorry that you're stuck in such a rough spot wit barbaric people making insane laws. I'm so glad you have the self awareness to know that living authentically is going to be best for you. Wishing you all the best and a path to a place you can feel secure and truly loved. ❤❤❤
I'd love it if we could split north and south Florida into two states. South Florida is way more accepting than North Florida so it would probably have way better laws for lgb+ people and trans people in North Florida would have a much closer place to flee to.
With all the terrible stuff going on in the United States, that second story is such a breath of fresh air. Hearing someone being so accepting is so wonderful. As an LGBTQ individual with trans friends, I'm terrified everyday they go out, but knowing that the entire world isn't against us is comforting.
The entire world isn't against you or your friends. A lot of people just don't care or are generally ambiguous about it all. However, I think you need to take a look at the victimhood you're perpetuating when you use infinitives and extreme terms like " the whole world", and hyperbole like "terrified."
@@axlengland bro there are mainstream politicians who are calling for our extermination. I know the whole world isn't against us, but it sure feels that way.
@@axlengland Hey dude, people around the world are being killed for being LGBTQIA+. People go on dating apps just to commit hate crimes against them. There are bills being proposed to make gay marriage illegal again, or even talking about them in public. Being quiet about this is being complacent.
@@axlengland it's a very vocal minority that people like to focus on, and almost ironically give their messages amplification. It sucks, but that's life. Besides, you're still much more safe in western countries compared to places like the Middle East. Go to Saudi and tell everyone you're gay, the roof jump will follow
Story 3. Look, you NEED to report that doctor. There is no excuse for breaking hipaa. The fact you're being ostracized and visciously attacked by your family is the EXACT reason it was created in the first place. It's not a slip of the tongue. It's endangering a patient. She needs to be held accountable
She needs to be fined and frankly have her license removed. As a healthcare worker myself, I don't give a shit if the doctor had 11 kids and was the sole income. She broke HIPPA, violated her patient's privacy and hurt her patient. She deserves all that is coming for her. I don't care if that's harsh, HIPPA exists SPECIFICALLY to protect patients from people like that doctor.
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Yeah... what OP _should_ have done is tell the sister that _she_ held the doctor's future in her hands and as long as she kept her mouth shut, OP wouldn't sue. Would that have been blackmail? Yeah, kind of. Would it have contained the damage? Quite possibly.
@ One thing to keep in mind with this though; do you really think OP was the only person that the doctor shared information of?
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@@IamusTheFox, I would be very surprised if that was the case, but I think that OP was the only person that the doctor shared information of to someone who actually knew the person whose information was being shared. Which is really all that is of any consequence. I'm assuming that your point is that OP should have reported the doctor in any case? If that's the case, I disagree. OP is a victim in this and has absolutely no obligation to ruin their own life further for the "greater good" of strangers. OPs first concern is OPs life. If your point was something else I apologize for having overlooked it. In that case please elaborate.
I have tears in my eyes after that dad ice cream story!!!! Oh my God! Thank you for accepting her. Sadie, wherever you are, stay strong, stay safe and remember those who don't accept you aren't worth shit on their own shoes.
I was SO ready to cry when the mom found out and so, SO anxious about the dad, I just teared up anyway with relief at the end. That dad needs an award! And that son needs to learn some etiquette. Ffs, talk about this with your trans SO and figure out who tells whom. That's so stressful! My gf and I are both trans, but we've both dated cis, and it can be a horrible experience meeting parents who don't know if this wasn't discussed beforehand.
First Story: That karma is sooooo delicious. Dan cheated on OP with her sister (also, OP's mom is a horrible mother to play favorites and excuse all of Abby's horrible behavior), told OP he doesn’t love her anymore, went on a getaway with Abby while OP was in the hospital after losing their child, and then have the absolute audacity to email OP 6 years later complaining about Abby. Mans have the nerve to compain about the lack of things she does, how she cheated on him 5 times (the irony and karma), and really thought he had a chance at getting OP back? Lmaoooo hilarious. Yeah that response back to his is perfect. I bet that hurt his ego though, oh well he brought this on himself. They will be an aunt and grandma in title but I have no doubts they will never meet this child. Also, Dan is just going aimlessly wait because his chances with OP is in the negatives Second Story: I’m not going to lie, when Sadie mentioned she was trans and OP said "WHAT?" I was expecting a way worse reaction than what OP did. I’m glad OP was accepting of Sadie and who she is. I like the way OP's husband showed his support of Sam and Sadie. He used his love of ice cream as a metaphor to them. Legendary dad right there and a legendary dad joke Third Story, NTA: Accident or not, revealing someone else's medical information to someone else without the patient's consent is highly illegal. The court, the doctor's office, and the judge won’t care that she was drunk and it was an accident, she shouldn’t have mentioned it in the first place. Also, as someone who have ADHD, yes ADHD IS in fact real. Also, OP's family are horrible people and OP's sister is a horribe person. They deserve anything they get
It's honestly good that OP 1 blocked Dan, the mom and the sister. Not only was it for her mental health, but also wtf are they smoking? You think OP would ever forget the 6 year trauma she got from those 3?
@@blackroberts6290 The dad was equating the multiple ice cream flavors to the differences in people you see nowadays, now that it's more generally accepted and known about. In Sadie's case, it'd be her being trans, but stuff like race, and even being left-handed, could also fall under that metaphor.
The moment they mentioned the ice cream I had a gut feeling where it was headed, but I was wrong. I thought the dad was going to get three scoops of ice cream in the colours of the trans flag (vanilla, strawberry, and bubblegum maybe?) for Sadie.
As someone with 6 over achieving older siblings this hit home for me. Called lazy, told I don’t know shit despite cooking & cleaning for myself since the age of 4, worked since the age of 14 & traveled internationally by myself by age 19. Yet still despite being a functioning adult my family still sees me as an idiot…. The world/society is sometimes nuts with people who happen to have disabilities.
Oh god. When the Dad in #2 kept brushing off OP, I was getting anxious. I’m so happy that OP’s husband is a good guy. Hopefully Sam and Sadie have an amazing life together
Story 1: I heard this story before, op’s ex is a creep. He started dating op when she was barely legal, did the same thing to her her, and the way he called op his ‘baby doll’ just creeped me out.
not to mention (if i've done the math right) that the sister was 10 when he started dating op. He was already 25. a 44 year old having those relations with a 19 year old is sketchy enough if they've just met but he has literally known her since she was 10. He deserves jail
Second story was so wholesome. And made me smile and was a nice buffer from how the first one went. Good on them for being more than welcoming and just wanting their kid to be happy over who it was with and their circumstances. Some people are too ignorant and hateful to care about their kids happiness. And seeing both parents not care and be accepting was probably so good for not only their son but Sadie too to have a confirmation so early from them both. some women never get accepted from their partners parents. And although newer will give them The opportunity to actually develop a healthy relationship since she knows she’s already accepted.
It was so sweet!! My parents were pretty homophobic for a long time (intense religious beliefs unfortunately). I think they kinda still are. But they're getting better. It was really rough on them when my sister came out as lesbian. But when they saw how happy her gf (now wife) makes her, and how amazing of a person she is, their hearts started to soften and they accepted it more and more. They'd probably still tell you that they don't agree with homosexuality, but they love my sister and her wife and were really supportive at their wedding and supportive of their marriage. It's gotta be causing some cognitive dissonance for sure. But thankfully, their love for us as their children is shining through the homophobia that they were indoctrinated with growing up, and their minds are opening more and more. There's still pain and hurt that was caused, and my sister is cautious with them and is still healing from that. But, it's getting better. My sis is a queen and softened the way for me to come out as queer a few years later. She's a rockstar, and so is her wife. Her wife brings so much fun energy to the family. It's like, you just can't help but love her, and love how happy she makes my sister. (:
I think we all thought that the dad was gonna be transphobic, thank the stars on screen it wasn't like that. rSlash batter be careful, he might start giving me hope for society
Story 2 is top tier parents. Absolutely jealous mine are no where near as understanding or happy about that kind of stuff. They clearly raised their kids well too. 10/10 very cute story.
Story 2: the life lesson of this story is ice cream is the greatest thing ever for any situation. Everyone make sure they get some ice cream later. But seriously this is such a sweet wholesome story about acceptance in the silliest way possible, I love it.
I love story 2. Considering all the anti-trans hysteria out there, I really needed a wholesome story of immediate family acceptance, like that. It was adorable! 🥰
Last story: you would think someone with so many people relaying on them would know not to do stupid crap like this, but no it just gives them a convenient excuse not to be accountable for it. What your sister did is one of the exact reasons why we have doctor-patient confidentiality, and apparently you're not even the first person she did this to so oh well sucks to be her. Also good on you for finally being done with your family, also since none of them are actually medical professional that studied ADHD the their advice is meaningless.
I had hoped OP would do what Dabney suggested in retrospect and let her sister know that, so long as she heard nothing more from her family about the matter, the doctor would stay safe. Not for the doctor's sake, but for OP's sake since she had this means, however foul, to shut her sister up. Personally, I'm glad OP left that family and reported that horrible "doctor".
Feel better Rslash and get some much deserved R&R! Story 3: The family’s obnoxious response to OPs medication is one of the many reasons HIPPA was made in the first place. That “doctor” has NO right to share personal medical information with anyone at any time. Period. That doctor deserves to be fired due to the unnecessary stress and pain brought upon OP and god knows who else whose PMI was shared. Also OPs family is insanely toxic and ignorant. Good on you for ditching that family and choosing yourself. Best of wishes!
That second story was so wholesome! It's the kind of trans positivity we need more of in today's society. We have a ways to go, but stories like this remind me that we're getting there. Thank you, Rslash, for bringing up such a lovely tale
Dammit the story with Sadie actually has me in tears. I've been seeing so much news lately about how people just hate trans and nonbinary people and how they don't want us to exist and that we're a threat to society and all this stuff. I've gotten so much hate from so many people since I came out as agender myself so a few years back. It's dangerous sometimes, you don't know if the person who is supposed to have your back is going to turn around and abandon you or even worse. Since I keep seeing all that stuff and I can't escape the news no matter how much I try lately, I just always worry that the story with someone else being trans is going to end violently and stuff. I'm just really glad to see for once that it's not. That the dad just said "Cool" essentially. Why can't more people be like this yo
as someone trans that second story had me in tears. the acceptance from them is wonderful its okay to be surprised at first as long as you're not hateful and accept them. i loved that so much
I’m a trans guy so I really relate. It made me a tad bit uncomfortable when there was the “she’s so beautiful you’d never know” comment, because it perpetuates the idea that trans people aren’t attractive, but overall it’s a happy story
The mother definitely gave off a vibe that she is not used to being around trans people, and she did say very awkward things, but it’s good to know that she will put forward her son’s happiness above any feelings she might have.
@@WishGender Cis people sometimes really dont know what is insulting or not a lot of the times people ive met as a nonbinary person have said stuff like that to try and be supportive but it came off wrong hopefully over time itll become known by all not to say that stuff
So glad story two turned out so wholesome! To be honest when OP mentioned the icecream flavors mattered I expected some crass joke from the father about the girlfriends icecream having nuts. Very relieved I was wrong!
It's not often rSlash reads stories that are wholesome from start to finish, as in Story 2. I just feel so warm inside when he does, we need more of those 😊
That second story made me cry a little. How the Son treats the situation is also how I would treat it. If you're Trans that means you are that gender now. Doesn't matter to me if at one point you were a Guy or a Girl. You're whatever Gender you are now. And the fact that OP and the Husband (who handled this beautifully btw) are so open and loving on Sadie makes me really happy.
I would ignore that if he made that a thing. ASMR is super creepy to me. Like having someone whispering in my ears makes my hair stand at the end. And eating ASMR makes me feel sick to my stomach. I don't know how people find it relaxing.
@@Twinklethefox9022 I once saw an ASMR of the definition of fear, literally somebody whispering the definition of fear. Released on Halloween. Best ASMR I've ever seen.
The second story made me cry. You hear so many stories about transphobia, and sometimes you need something to remind you that the whole world isn't against you. Thank you for making today a little easier.
I got another surprisingly good reminder! 83% of fox news poll respondents (IE people who typically lean right) found the anti-trans legislation going on to be a problem.
Third Story: Rslash, I'm getting the feeling the sister didn't keep the information to blackmail because she's a gossip. Still toxic, but really just a gossip who can't keep information to themselves if they tried. Tell them a secret and everyone with a 10 mile radius will know it within in an hour.
Hope you're feeling better! And you should trademark ASMRslash! *First OP:* Karma is a bigger B than OP's mom and sister combined. Dan cheated and fell out of love with OP because she got too old in his opinion. I wish OP and her new family the best of luck. *Second OP:* I've read this story. OP and her husband sound like great parents, and I wish their middle son and Sadie the best in their relationship. *Third OP:* As OP stated in the title, her doctor committed a HIPAA violation. Family friend or not, she (the doctor) needed to face consequences. OP was NTA.
Story 2 is the story i love just because everyone was afraid the dad was going to do, just to make a dad joke and ice cream . I wish more parents would be like this.
Story two is the sweetest most wholesome thing ever. As soon as the dad was like "hm okay" when his wife told him about Sadie, I knew he was gonna be chill about it 😂
With the current climate around trans people, it’s just really nice to hear a story where a someone just gets unconditional love and acceptance. No intrusive questions, no talks about confusion or biology, no insults- just pure unadulterated love and acceptance and a dad joke at the end! I wish we could have more people like this.
#2 NGL I was getting more and more anxious as the story went on, having had some bad experiences coming out, and hearing all the horror stories from others. The conclusion, and Dabneys commentary gave me such relief I had to go sit down lol. Can't even imagine how Sadie felt. So happy for them!!
Cold probably came in as a body relaxing from stress relief. This often happens to people who over-stress themselves finally taking vacation. Means you need to take breaks more often so your immune system doesn't weaken
Re: "Son's Girlfriend" - I don't think the ice cream thing was a dad joke. That had to be the best way of saying, "I see you and I accept who you are" I have ever heard.
As a trans girl, story 2 has to be the one thing that I needed the most. I can't begin to explain how invalidated I feel when people don't accept me for who I am, and knowing that there's people out there who will make silly ice cream analogies to explain their supportiveness and willingness to let people be happy is amazing.
Story 2 absolutely warmed my HEART oh my goodness. With him just saying "well discuss it later" over and over i assumed he was trying to deal with some internal conflict without taking it out on anyone, which is healthy in and of itself, but when i realized he was just planning the perfect cheesy response just. AHHHHH this is absolutely something my dad wouldve done lmfao (which, note, my brother is a transitioned man on my dads dime and im nonbinary and he is just SO accepting, i love hearing storied about other accepting parents bc my mom was...... not)
I had an ex like in the first story, but it was shortly after we broke up that he slept with an eighteen year old (he was twenty-two at the time), but what made it worse was that it was his best friend's little sister and he slept with her right when she turned eighteen. I felt so disgusted with him that it made me grateful that we broke up
The ice cream analogy is 100% the sweetest (no pun intended) thing I've ever heard! Good on the dad for being subtle about the subject and super meaningful!!
Story 2 is prob the best dad anyone could ask for. Fully accepting his son and his partner the second he heard, left everyone in suspense, perfectly landed his dad joke, AND got his ice cream. What a Chad
I am so happy for OP in the last story for choosing herself over her toxic family. People who grew-up in good or good-enough families are often not able to fully understand the courage and internal resources it takes for someone who grew up in a toxic family to make that decision, never mind to act on it. Three cheers for OP! I hope she finds supportive persons, love, chosen family, happiness, fulfillment and the support that she needs to heal from her childhood.
God story 2 is so wholesome. I love the dad's response. I mean, you have to think, the man held onto this conversation for several hours and dodges the topic multiple times all just to reveal it was the setup to an icecream pun 🥹 Damn near gave me enough hope for humanity not to burn it all down after the last story.
When Sam's dad started using ice cream as a metaphor for Sam's and Sadie's relationship, I thought it was going to go in a completely opposite direction. Kudos to those parents for being so accepting of Sadie.
Thank you for sharing the middle story, rSlash. I'm trans the other way: I was born a girl, and now I'm a boy. I started transitioning 6 years ago; it saved my life. My parents took the news badly, and I was excommunicated from my church. These parents were so gentle. No fuss, no fanfare. The ice cream analogy is incredible.
Story 3: As someone who grew up with ADHD and still have it to this day and will for the rest of my life, this family pisses me off so much. ADHD is NOT laziness, our brains don't work like neurotypical brains. Its a constant struggle to fight yourself into doing what needs to be done rather than what you want to be done. Hell, you can even be doing what you need to do and suddenly you get so sidetracked that you end up from point A to point A.12 instead of getting to point B. Sometimes its even a struggle to get out of bed and do anything remotely productive that day because we're tired of fighting with ourselves day in and day out. We don't choose to be like this nor do we want to be like this. There are many options to help with ADHD, such as therapy and medication. What doesn't help is telling others that it's not real and it's all made up. It is VERY real to us, and just because they don't have it doesn't mean they should be the one to tell those with ADHD how they feel or how lazy they are if they can't even understand what we go through. I was lucky enough to have parents who kinda took it seriously, but where I'm from, it's really hard to find anyone who believes it's a real problem or that it's not just laziness. I'm really glad OP got out of her toxic family.
Story 1: Why is your ex telling your sister and mother that you're pregnant and married when he's divorcing your sister it and doesn't like your mom? Also there that comment about he'll wait for you, wait for what you're married? Something about this doesn't feel right, like they're telling you what you want to hear to get in touch with you.
Sad that her mom and sister are still clueless to their stupidity since they only found out OP was married and expecting through her ex. He’s also likely the one who gave them her contact info.
Love the story about the son and his girl friend. One of my best friends is trans. He didn't tell me for awhile. When we discussed it, I just told him that he was still the same person, the same soul, and I didn't want to lose such a good person just because he was "wearing different clothes." We are still very close friends, and we support each other whenever we can. I'm so lucky he is in my life, despite him moving 5 hours away. I love the ice cream story. It sums things up so well.
Omg I'm sooooo jealous of Sadie! Not only does she pass enough for people to not be able to tell, but she also has a boyfriend that loves her and inlaws that care and respect her. Mtf trans goals right there 😤
About the last story. OP dropped her "family" like a hot rock and I'm so proud. I wish I had had the strength and self worth to do that at OPs age. OPs sister broke the cardinal rule of hearing things covered by privlage; never tell anyone what you've been told because technically it's illegal you were told at all.
I'm so glad the story about Sadie took a turn for the better. I thought "We'll talk about it later" over and over was going to lead to a much worse outcome than "Let's get ice cream and I'ma turn it into a dad joke"
