OP is so concerned about being a “real man” but fails to grasp that leaving your wife because your ego got bruised and thinking about cheating has got to be some of the most unmanly things in the world. I hope the wife does come across his post somehow and leaves him, she’s too good for him.
THIS^ Dude is willing to ditch his wife after she was willing to take an attack for him, yet he's so up his own ass about 'being a man' that he isn't willing to actually BE a Man.
@92bagder It Used to be a question I asked on first dates. My husband will quote our second dates where I said " I want to get married and have some kids.If you don't see that in the cards for your future, we shouldn't waste each other's time.I'll pay for my half of dinner"
This is a PSA to never try and convince someone to “compromise” on something as big as kids. She wanted her tubes REMOVED. He got the kid he wanted, and she’s a shell of a person. I feel so badly for her
Not to mention that the baby is also a person who is going to grow up with a mother who resents him and, at the best, is just completely absent from his life.
yeah for real, I don't care what she looks like. That kind of loyalty deserves life-long comitment. I don't even know her and I already want to marry her ^^
I once got a concussion from a soccer ball when I was 15 to the back of the head. I can guarantee that the wife mightve saved that man's life, and that man does not deserve her.
I got hit right about one inch behind my ear in the head during a car accident. While they didn't yhinknut was more than just a slight I didn't even have more than a mild concussion it caused all kinds of issues. From my balance to my memory. It's never easy to understand the brain and injuries they say. I have lost my ability to recognize faces. Not everyone but here and there some people. Friends and family are just gone like someone hit delete. I never know because well I've lost these memories. Also if I get too tired or stressed I often get aphasia with words too. I could give you every other word that means the 'same thing but the word I want to say. Drives me nuts. I've also had 2 different rounds of cancer too so the treatment (radation) sure didn't help either lol But I still try to be normal lol 😅
She 100% saved his life, a few years ago a kid in my hometown got hit on the back of his head with a small beer bottle he died 5 hours after it happened and i would say a rock would do more damage than a bottle
As someone whos been beat with a wooden chair and a punted soccer ball (both intentionally done), ill say the soccer ball hurts much worse. Solid oak dont hurt when repeatedly hit across the back of your head, instead its just annoying as hell they think they're gonna knock you out with it. To be cleaf, the soccer ball was twice in the same 2 minutes, once on my forehead and the second time on my balls. It was because i didnt represent mine and his ancestors well enough by having white skin and sucking at soccer.
The most painful skull injury is actually not the skull, but being hit by a half-full water bottle in the nose. The water slammed into my face for maximum recoil. Unlike those other times, i immediately found myself on the ground before consciously being aware of it. (The balls one was almost as fast but I was aware the whole time). There were scar lines from the bleeding that made my nose look like a grilled hot dog. Unlike the other times, the bottle was meant to miss me and was thrown at my direction as a way of saying hi but as hard labor guys, like some people say hi by flipping each other the bird...like brotherly friendly fake aggression. So surprisingly the accident hurt worse than any intentional situation.
Story 5: So the GF was suffering grief from the dad's brain tumor, and I guess OP didn't like that he wasn't getting any s3x as a result, so he cheated. So instead of supporting her through this massive dark time, OP just decided to satisfy his own hunger for s3x, then broke up with her and filed a restraining order, leaving the ex to spiral and…yeah… Read that note everyday, OP. Maybe it'll teach you to not abandon people during their dark times
As someone with severe depression I'd like to add that her suicidal ideation weren't "in the past because she was medicated" if your SO is still under medication for that, they're not cured, they're still battling their mental illness. It baffles me that guy thought she was fine because she had a treatment.
As much of a pos the guy is not to mention narcissistic, I still wouldn't blame him for her self unaliving. People who carry out with that are selfish and cowardly. There is absolutely no reason to unalive yourself. If you're not married and with someone and going through the grief of losing someone, the polite thing to do is break up with your SO. You think you need them to help you through it but all you're doing is ignoring their feelings while wanting them to heal yours and tbh they can't they will never be able to heal that, only time can heal it. I know the pain of grief all to well and I was in the same shoes as the gf, I basically checked out of my relationship both physically and emotionally while going through the loss of my dad and stepping up to care for my special needs brother. With me the hits just kept coming, 2018 i lost my dad, 2019 I lost my great grandmother and cat in the same month, 2020 I lost my grandma, 2021 i lost my uncle and the very next month I almost died but my brother did. It hurts more than you can imagine to the point where im now numb to feelings.
Story 1: You know OP is screwed up that even the therapist says he is awful. The fact that OP said "he haven't gone back since" means he refused to accept what the therapist said. She literally save him, and this is how he thanks her? Devilish indeed.
@@wannabehistorian371yeah unless he's being extremely sensitive and the therapist tried to break it to him well (which actually i doubt here), the therapist also sucks. hope he finds a new one who can tell him how to stop being such a pos in a way he can listen
I had to immediately pause at 12:46 OP pressured his wife, a woman he only knew for a year before marrying them, into having a child... And *_they struggle to afford formula?_* Was his mindset to just get a child as soon as possible and tackle the financial burden when it happened? No planning ahead, no building up a nest egg to act as a financial buffer, and just bulldozing through her desire to be child free? Yeah, OP's awful for that alone. The sexism compunds things and cements him being a terrible individual. Way to go, genius OP, you pressured a woman you supposedly love into birthing a child she was obviously not prepared for, and now you're surprised she's having trouble.
it's also a power thing for a lot of men. they think "breeding" women marks them as more masculine or some shit. idk how to properly put it into words but they get off on it. And like.... no, buddy. If you don't carry it from shrimp to watermelon yourself, you don't get to decide to make her. Don't like? Marry someone ELSE.
..dont most people do that? just have kids even though they *clearly* cant afford it? having kids in the responsible way is extremely, extremely, rare.
@memes4life26 you're demonizing OP for the common occurrence of financial instability as if it's entirely his fault he doesn't make more money, yet you're normalizing the wife HATING their child
I have to say, as a mental health nurse, first story sounds like a HUGE trauma response. I think he may subconsciously be be relating his wife to the attack more than he thinks and it's causing him these thoughts. Homie needs to get over the bad feeling of therapy and get to it ASAP before he ruins his life.
Trauma PTSD mental health is not an excuse to abuse the people around you. Even if this is a trauma response sounds to me like his therapist is putting him in his place and telling him you don't get to treat the people around you like garbage because you went through something traumatic. As somebody who's been diagnosed with complicated PTSD It's not an excuse.
@@LLandS18 No one is saying otherwise. The guy is a PoS. Problem is, he will continue to be a PoS unless he gets some effing help. Or do you think he should continue behaving like this and treating all the women in his future and his newborn child like this?
Story 1: it’s worse than that R/, he was already losing love for her when she got pregnant with the kids he wanted and she didn’t. He also somehow found the way to be mad at her because he supposed to save the woman not the other way around, and somehow things she insulted his masculinity. You are the man every woman is warned about , the kind of guy that shows no appreciation when someone goes above and beyond for them, wants his wife to do things that he ultimately regrets when it too late, actually try to make it seem like his cheating is to her benefit, or save the marriage. And the cherry on top, run away whenever they’re called out on their BS. But you know what maybe he should cheat, so when the divorce starts and child support needs to be discussed, it gives her more ammo to take as much as she came from your sorry ass.
"I went to a therapist but they made me feel so low that I haven't gone back" Translation: therapist let me know that I'm in the wrong and a complete douchebag and that I need to work through my problems, but I only want to hear people telling me that I'm justified so it hurt my feelings.
And let’s not forget that he’s bugging her to schedule a surgical appointment while she’s pregnant when there’s a near zero chance any one would operate on her. You often can’t even have dental work that requires local anesthetics done while pregnant. What a selfish idiot.
Last story: it's never your fault if someone chooses to commit suicide. HOWEVER! Abandoning someone at their lowest point and cheating on them can definitely contribute to an unstable mental state.
The message here ties into story two if it is true. There should have been compromise and yes he should have spent more time with his wife. Hormones aside she was also mildly not thinking straight. However with technology these days a lot of planning talking can be done over a zoom or discord call. Losing someone you dearly love is devastating. My fiancee recently lost her parents and still grieves them even after their funerals, she lost her sister over 10 years ago and it still affects her on her sister's birthday and angel day. Being able to visit her grave helps. Do NOT underestimate what losing people can do. OP is still the A in story 2. But temper your anger if it's true. We would need more answers in his best friends support group size, how much it was affecting him, etc. if he was withholding information like Dabney suggests. Yeah be as mad as you want. That's my big issue with reddit people can only info and spin things to look good or like the victim easily.
I don't agree that it's *never* their fault, especially if not only did he just delete her from his life while she was at her lowest and immediately replace her basically just for sex, but he filed a restraining order against her for trying to reach out to a boyfriend that suddenly went AWOL. If he had any spark of intelligence it sounds like he was straight up hoping for her to kill herself so he wouldn't have to deal with her
I love how in the 5th story that poor girl obviously has postpartum depression and is in an awful place mentally and his first thought isn't getting a therapist or trying to actually help her but instead call the authorities to "explain things to her" and put her in a hospital, OP doesn't have traditional gender roles he's stuck in an 1800s mentality where women get "fixed" by being thrown into an assylm.
Op is so clueless and dumb. He calls the authorities on himself too. He doesn't wants a family but is just in love with the fever dream of the happy family. I find is amusing and tragic that instead of taking full responsibility for the child and for the family, he nags his wife to be a mother and therefore to take full responsibility to make his desires true. And they do not have enough money to afford formula he should take a second job to support his family because he wanted it.
@@mushroommagic1697 OR, here's a thought, she could take care of the kid she AGREED to have. He shouldn't have to get another job to pay for formula, she needs to get off her ass and feed her own child. She DOES have a duty to nurse the baby if she's able to.
@@avashneaNo. HE should be providing for what HE wanted so strongly. Honestly? I’d also have run away. I hate children, I don’t ever want them, I wouldn’t agree to have one either. If I were forced into it, or worn into it, I’d just leave. Taking away the control someone has over their body is a sure fire way to get someone to hate you, themselves, and do something drastic. He wanted this, not her, he can fucking pay for it.
@@avashneaJust cuz some asshole thinks she can breastfeed doesn't mean she can. Do you have any idea how painful breastfeeding is. Do you know how impossible it is for some women. How about he doesn't have any idea about how anything works so you shouldn't believe anything. He says. He wanted to have a kid knowing there's a chance she wasn't going to be able to breastfeed the child.
@@avashneaShe compromised and agreed because he clearly wasn’t going to let it go. Im sure part of her thought maybe they could make it work but only with the one kid, but reality doesn’t always go the way we want and she was hit with a massive truck of postpartum depression which NO ONE ASKS FOR She clearly isn’t able to nurse her child as she’s literally BEGGING for the child to be removed from the house, so that is not her duty It is the duty of the parent with the clear head to take over and make sure the baby is taken care for and fed, which yes, means he needs formula Whether he gets help from his parents or a second job, doesn’t matter, baby needs to be fed and she is in no position to do it Trying to force her to nurse in this kind of state would only put her child at risk of potential harm as postpartum is NO JOKE. It’s real and it’s scary and it happens even to people who wanted their babies, so someone who never wanted them having to deal with it? I couldn’t imagine, and I am someone who has struggled with it myself. She needs help. She’s adjusting to a life she never saw for herself before him and is struggling, and all he can think about is how she’s making his life harder by not nursing even though that’s not even mandatory anymore, hence formula! If he can’t afford formula, he shouldn’t have been begging for kids.
Hang on, your baby is "on formula you can barely afford" but you force your wife into having a child SHE DIDN'T WANT? I am simply repeating the story because I can't believe the AUDACITY of the husband, and am speechless at his galling lack of self awareness: bad enough he basically forced his wife to have a baby that she made very clear she didn't want but, as Dabney pointed out, they seem to not be in a financially stable enough place to have ANY child, wanted or not!
As someone who has scars and is proud of them, the fact that OP wants his wife to have scar removal surgery or whatever is completely nuts! This quote sums up my thoughts: “Scars mean you went through something tough in the past, survived it, and came back stronger.”
There's nothing wrong with not wanting that daily reminder of a violent attack. But it's her decision, not his. That being said, decisions have consequences.
I remember hearing a similar line in Superman and Lois. To not spoil anything, someone is diagnosed with cancer and they’re talking to their significant other and he says “They aren’t scars. They’re symbols. Symbols that show what you’ve gone through and that you survived.” Beautiful way of putting that sentiment
Same here as well. A couple of years ago, I got a life-threatening infection in my right leg and had emergency surgery on it. Both sides on my leg now have long scars from under my knee to just above my foot/ankle. When I look at those scars, I don't think I'm ugly or disgusting, I think of what I went through and that I survived it and how grateful I am that I did.
I was on bed rest for 2 months & didn't expect my husband to wait on me 24/7. "Bed rest" isn't laying in bed until you have the baby. It's just not doing anything strenuous, like standing on your feet all day or lifting heavy things. She doesn't need a slave. She just needs to take it easy. Your spouses are individuals, just like you. They have wants and needs, just like you. Being pregnant and/or on bed rest doesn't excuse treating someone like a butler.
Exactly. It's not like OP is going out to the bar every night. He is just trying to care for his best friend, who recently became a widower. He is only gone a few nights to help greive. If anything, OP's wife should be proud to see OP take the time to care for his friend. A friendship like that is rare and is a sign of a truly incredible person.
Finally someone commented on this. I expected this post to be far worse than it actually was. I was expecting the man to be one of those men who go on very frequent hang outs with friends and not spend enough time with his wife. I was actually surprised to see that he was being considerate of both his pregnant wife and his friend. I thought the wife was being self absorbed and entitled expecting him to just abandon his friend in his time of need.
@@yelljal2764this is why men's suicide rates are so high. "He has other friends" Maybe but he needs his best friend because his other best friend just died.
Not to mention that there is literally zero evidence that bed rest during pregnancy, at home or in the hospital, is effective at treating preterm labor or preventing premature birth. Sorry but rslash is completely wrong- when the medical advice given is to do something that isn't even evidence based treatment it *definitely* isn't a serious concern. Advising bed rest is the equivalent of advising a nice cup of tea- it's a stress relieving placebo at best and even that's stretching the truth because other placebo treatments actually do have evidence of effectiveness. If anything the evidence suggest that pregnant women who spend too much time being sedentary due to bed rest are worse off. Staying in bed all day isn't good for anybody and I'm guessing the doctor made that clear too and that she just doesn't like that she isn't his one and only focus right now. In ordinary circumstances that would be understandable due her being in her their trimester with complications, however, minor but under these circumstances- she's just being an entitled brat. Spending one night a week with his recently grieving best friend from childhood is in no way an asshole move- her response to it is an asshole move though. She can get whatever she "needs" herself and there is absolutely zero evidence even indicating otherwise- but there is evidence that remaining sedentary is contrary to what's best for her and her pregnancy. She needs to wake up to herself and do some research on what bed rest actually achieves- nothing.
Story 1: So op’s wife saved his life, and was severely injured, but op has been basically isolating her from his family because she has a few scars? Coerced: So op is shocked that his childfree wife didn’t want his child. Why didn’t he break up and find someone who wanted his baby?
@@Tustin2121 IKR. It’s like if he believes in traditional gender roles then he’s not a good provider if he can’t afford formula for the baby and he sees the both of them are suffering.
"Get him out of the house" - OP is leaving out another thing here: He basically forced her to get pregnant, thinking, once he forced her into the role HE destined for HER, she will "come around". If I were wifey, I would ditch both. I'm childfree. 55 by now and not regretting a thing. Anyone who tells me I'm a failure in life because no kids is in for a bad surprise. Most egos don't survive the tongue lashing they get then. Funnily it's mostly men who are so delusional. I wish the baby good luck with this father. I don't see the mom sticking around for long anymore. She sounds like she's at breaking point.
He didn't force her to get pregnant. He pressured her sure, but he didn't poke a hole in his condom or swap her birth control for breath mints. They talked; she agreed. It was incredibly stupid for him to just "hope" she'd change her mind on children(statistically that was likely but it's still not something you bet on), but at the end of the day she absolutely agreed to have this baby. She needs therapy to hopefully get passed her current PPD but OP isn't wrong when he says she has a duty to their son. This baby is as much her son as he is OP's
@@znerd3664- We don’t know that he didn’t do those things. We are taking this guy at his word, and given what his word IS, I’m taking the “talked her around” bit with massive truckloads of salt.
@@znerd3664 Ah... no. It'll still be forced. We don't have a time frame as to how long he kept pushing and pushing and basically wearing her down to the point where she just says yes because at that point it'll feel like she doesn't have any other choice. Yes, she is suffering from PPD, but it was obvious from the start she wasn't going to have any kind of emotional connection with the baby because she didn't choose to do it freely, it was forced upon her by her husband. Childfree people, myself including, isn't sudden going to blossom into motherhood. Especially not after the trauma of giving birth. Even if she gets over her PPD, what makes you thing she'll still want the child? It'll just be a constant reminder of a regret. I feel sorry for the child, but OP is a monster and the wife needs to leave that toxicity. I would rather be raised by a single parent than go through that abuse.
Dude in the first story. wtf? Seeing that reminder of how much she loved me every day would make me love her more. Like, you really did that for me? You really took a rock to the face? For me??? Let me spoil you my queen. Dude has problems. On top of her carrying his child that he wanted so bad.
Damn right, if I had a GF/Wife (I’m bi), and she did that for me, I’d be doing my damndest to make sure every day afterwards is dedicated to making her feel loved and appreciated. 24/7 spoiling!
It would be one thing I he was upset that he wasn't the one to take the hit instead of his wife.... but that's not why he's upset. He's upset that she's not attractive anymore... Actually pathetic.
Story 1: If I was dating someone, and they saved my life, I'd be praising them as a hero, not act like I was emasculated and consider cheating. Like, this man has no appreciation for his wife, and I hope those comments put him in his place.
Yup, she needs that man gone asap, he basically forced her Into having a child and is surprised she is going trough bad post partum (and my not ever be able to take care of the baby becaude of the trauma), the worse part is that in her place i wouldn't trust the husband to be with the child as well so what a complicated situation
My husband fell in a climbing accident last year. He has a pretty large scar on his forehead now. I was honestly just so happy he was alive that I didn't care about a scar. Some patch of skin won't stop me from loving him. It sounds like OP doesn't really love his wife if he's just concerned about cosmetics.
Did, did OP4 basically force his wife to get pregnant against her wishes? 😬 And it sounds like they weren't even in a good enough place to afford the baby either. Dude is absolutely toxic
@@GreenBeret1903 why does she need therapy? She just needs to get out of this situation. And he doesn't have any rights to child support - or shouldn't have them depending on their legal system. Seems like she doesn't earn money anyway, so he has to pay her spousal support on top of taking care of the child. He is the POS.
@@Raketo900to be fair, she was coerced into going through pregnancy, birth, and looking after a baby she did not want. Add on possible PPD making things even worse..... she might be in need of therapy, some level of depression and/or trauma from all of that would not be surprising at all.
"I've had to delete myself off dating apps before making a mistake" What the hell was he doing on dating apps while he was married? I may have the wrong understanding of things, but this guy sounds like he was already looking for some outside arrangement before this incident.
I think what he meant was he had made dating profiles after the attack and ended up getting cold feet and deleting the profiles before doing anything because he felt guilty
I love when rslash scold people when they can't take the heat and delete their posts and talk about poster's hypocrisy... And then he proceed to erase the segments of his AITA videos when his buthole score doesn't match with what most of the people say in the comments.
@Human-kb6xc I would have to check again too many videos to show you an example; but from time to time, if you hear old AITA videos, you will hear rslash commenting the post and suddenly jump to the next without a score and with a more or less obvious cut
@@Human-kb6xcI've seen it twice when I've watched a video a few days after release. When he reads the post but there's no commentary afterwards. Then I scrolled to the comments and found viewers talking about his hot/bad take
2nd story: I completely disagree. As he put it: his BEST friend is going through the lowest point in his life having lost his fiancé so using ONE night during the week with him should never be a problem. Another thing: you can be put on bedrest during pregnancy because your feet are too swollen. That is in the category of something to not being overly concerned about.
Why is Story 2 on Am i the Devil? Like... OP isnt evil like the rest of the people here. He just want to help a friend with a DEAD fiancée. He just sucked at managing his time. It's a issue he can fix easily. (Spend more time with wifey, cut down on time with friend while still calling in on time to time).
Story 2: Op isn’t an asshole, and definitely not the “devil”. He’s trying his best to help both his friend and his wife. She’s not dying, he just lost potentially the love of his life. Him going a couple days to support his best friend doesn’t make him a bad husband or a bad father. Also, as someone pointed out already, bed rest doesn’t actually mean staying in bed 24/7, it just means not doing stressful tasks.
@@quartzskull8772what should he be helping his wife with? She doesn’t need him 24/7, and if she does need something doesn’t she have someone else to help her for a day or two while he goes to check on his friend?
@simonemaiocchi ah yes being pregnant and by yourself is so great, wasn't he literally spending nights at his friends house? And it's not just a out help but being with your spouse
@@simonemaiocchi you do realize when doctors put pregnant women on bed rest, it's because they're more likely to have miscarriages and potentially die as well, right? You kinda need your partner there to save your life in case you, I don't know, start bleeding to death or go into a incredibly dangerous early birth. I'm not saying that he shouldn't be supporting his best friend. He absolutely should, but in a better way. Ask one of the wife's friends to stay with her one evening while you visit the friend for a few hours before going home. Inviting your friend to have dinner at your house. Video calling or talking/texting to check in. Not abandoning your high risk pregnancy wife
@@myaalvarado3096You do realize that when pregnant women get put on bed rest thats actually not the always the case, and it was probably a preventative measure because OP even said it wasnt anything serious. So yeah, it is making it a little harder on her having to be alone for half a day, but she should understand the friend need him just as much
Story 5: I could go on such a long rant about this story, but I won’t my advice is, don’t have kids if you don’t want kids, it causes situations where kids aren’t wanted
Yup, when someone says they're child free, believe them. Don't badger, coerce or trick them into having kids anyway, thinking it'll "fix" them. They're never going to be the parent you think they will be.
Story 3: I have a lot of experience with autism in my family, specifically with people who aren't as functional as this guy, and they understand that taking things that don't belong to them or act in the ways OP described. OP is just clueless. I'm given to wonder if the husband isn't lying about his autism to excuse his disgusting behavior.
When the therapist is telling OP that he's a POS for trying to leave his wife after she took a deadly attack for him. It's probably time for him to man up.
For the fourth story, This is exactly why women who don't want kids shouldn't be forced to have children. I swear every time I hear a man force the idea of having children on his wife or partner, It's just so sad. It's kinda ironic, though when they get so shocked when she isn't motherly to the children. Of course, the woman who didn't want kids most likely isn't gonna be happy with her own. I feel so bad for that woman in the fourth story, If anything for her own mental health, it Probably would be best to leave her husband and sign away her rights. Because personally, this relationship doesn't sound like ill last, especially after this. Seriously it's not that hard to understand.
@KadeStringer2.0 pressing the idea down someone's throat over and over is forcing in the end. I've seen you in the comments, And it's okay if you don't agree. But it's common knowledge, She never wanted kids, So she shouldn't have any. So don't be shocked when she isn't motherly to her own.
I feel so sad for her too, she should have left him before she had a child with him. She should have respected herself not some man who dumps all responsibility on her. Also that poor baby is neglected and will be raised in a house full of conflict and will not be loved or cared for properly. Because his mother is in PPD and his father is too obsessed with the idea of having "a happy family". But doesn't puts in the effort to make his family happy. I find it amusing that op's priority is to nag his wife for not being motherly enough, if he was as delighted to be a father as he claims he is, he should have taken full responsibility for his child, not expect his wife to miraculously become the best mother and play the happy family for him.
@@KadeStringer2.0She was forced. Forest isn't always done with physical means. Sometimes it's done with manipulation, gaslighting, abuse withdrawals of affection. Just because you don't understand basic human concepts doesn't mean the rest of us don't.
Story 3(?): As someone who’s autistic & AFAB, (assigned female at birth) I’ve noticed quite a few autistic men who will use their autism to excuse bad/creepy behavior. If my partner’s sibling told me something made him uncomfortable, I’d immediately try to work on that behavior. Last story: the thing that stood out most to me was OP’s comments of “that’s all behind her”. I’ve tried to take my life before. It’s never “behind you”, even with medication. If I miss more than 1 day of medication, I can fall into a terrible spiral. If OP’s ex wasn’t taking her medication & watching what was happening to her dad, I can’t imagine the kind of pain she must have been feeling.
The amount of autistic AMAB people that get their behaviour handwaived away is upsetting. Especially when Autistic AFAB people still have to push to be seen
Ok, I'm not sure if we should use the same "you weren't being the man" dialogue that the guy is using, R/Slash. One, calling the police IS what you should do. But, beyond that you're just in the same toxic masculinity cycle that he's stuck in. Which is what this is. He has a faulty understanding of what a man should be like because that's the society he was raised in. He has feelings because he has a faulty understanding of what being a man should be like. Making fun of him is like saying "HA HA YOU WERE RAISED TO PERPETUATE A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE AGAINST YOURSELF DUE TO NOT LIVING UP TO EXTERNAL IDEALS OF MASCULINITY WHICH ARE OFTEN CONTRADICTORY!" which is kinda... I mean, it's something. He recognizes something is wrong, that's why he was asking how to get over it, but I don't think he realizes what is wrong: his concept of what it means to be masculine and male. He'll never see this but: You're not less of a man because a woman fought for you. It doesn't take away your value because being a provider, defender, all of that isn't the whole of what it means to be a guy. What happened there was a sign not of masculinity or femininity but of partners, playing a team sport of life together. Your effort to call the police was not less valid than her dramatically jumping in front of you. If you hadn't then the person never would have been caught and never would have suffered the consequence. Your efforts COMBINED with your wife saved your life, defended your honor, took someone who could have hurt others off the street. Your wife's love for you isn't her protecting you because you can't do so your self. It's a sign of the value you have to her. What you want to tell your next therapist is: "I can't parse my feeling less masculine because my wife protected me, and I know it's irrational. I need help working past this." And honestly? I wish you well. You know it's not right to be resentful. You know she did nothing wrong. You know it's irrational. But, right now you're going to have to WORK past what society has told you to get your emotions to know what your brain already does. Do NOT look at things that are going to make you feel more masculine or talks about how women want weaker men or blah blah -- those are traps trying to bring down others to raise you up. Good luck out there.
Story 3: You know what i find awful? Op’s says that her sister “should brijg her concerns up with her” but like… she HAS…she told her how uncomfortable husband was making her and Op told her she was overthinking. I REALLY hope sister gets out of that house and Op actually sees sense. Also anyone wana bet that husband isn’t ACTUALLY autistic, and he just uses that as an excuse?
I have a STRONG suspicion op's husband isn't autistic but uses autism as an excuse for his scummy behavior. Many people use autism as an excuse to be pric*ks, instead of seeing their wrong they'll slap the card "I hAvE aUtIsM So YoU aRE MistrEatinG mE, I Am So VicTimISED." Op keeps defending her husband, how could her sister be comfortable in confiding with her. I think if her sister will tell op about the husband being creepy, op will brush it off as, "he is just quirky, stop being a drama queen." The husband is outright mean and suffocating to op's sister. He is at the edge between bully and creepy. If he takes her sister's money he might want her to never go away, wither because he is a creep or because he wants free labor around the house, or both.
As someone who's autistic: "What did you get me?" Absolutely would say as banter. "Where's my hug?" Absolutely would say to a good friend if I was in a friendly mood. Taking money. Absolutely wouldn't do as what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours.
So, story 2. OP is in an awkward position of trying to be there for his friend and look after his pregnant wife. The doctor saying that this thing that isn't much of a concern but has the wife on bed rest makes sense, it's a preventative measure. So it may really just be nothing to be that concerned about. The wifes reaction seems very overblown.
@@KadeStringer2.0 yes it is. Op coerced his wife after she said that she didn’t want kids. He’s a terrible husband for forcing her into having a baby, a baby she doesn’t want, he’s not a good father for not providing his the necessities he needs. He is a horrible father and husband.
feel that in the second story, rslash is wrong. Does the man have to look after his wife and kid? Yes, but he also has to make sure his best friend is okay too, because depression most times can lead to suicide. OP is still with his wife, just not 24/7. Like OP says, he's at the lowest point of his life and he "needs" to be there for his best friend. I don’t think he’s lying, even if his life is on bed rest. It's not like he just leaves her there for days to go help his friend. To make it short, I don’t think OP in the second story is in the wrong or in the right; I just don’t like the way rslash made him seem like a super bad guy.
If she's on bed rest at 7 weeks, that baby is high risk. Yes the husband is the bad guy. If She was healthy and there was no complications then he wouldn't be.
Exactly my thoughts, if he is evenly splitting his time then it's fair to help both people. Losing a spouse and having nobody to help you or support you, that's just a recipe for disaster. It's a really bad situation for everyone involved really
Story 3: he regularly steals from her and you tell her she needs to understand that he’s impulsive, he makes rude to inappropriate comments to her but you just ignore it, you see her mood changes whenever he around her, but you only now think to say something? Why is it everyone but you already know what’s going on? Or is it that you do know but because your sister hasn’t said anything you wanna live in denial so you don’t have to address it? Stop pretending you’re too stupid to realize your husband did something to your sister, there is a serious issue going on here, wake up.
1st Story: Guy is a pos. His wife saved his life, ended up being scarred and he calls her ugly. She deserves a better man, a better husband and a better man for her child.
1st story- You definitely ARE the AH! Put your big boy pants on and be grateful your wife saved you. If you cheat, you’ll hate yourself for the rest of your life. And everyone else who finds out will hate you also.
"I had to delete myself off dating apps before making a mistake" Buddy, why the .... are you even ON dating apps while in a (I assume monogamous) relationship???
Story 1: if OP wanted to feel like a “man” he should have caught the guy who just assaulted his wife and “repaid him in full” then accept the consequences of manliness that may come later. Nothing says real man like avenging your wife. Edit: and going to prison for it.
2nd story. Assuming everything said is true. Then the wife is 100% the problem. OP goes to spend time with his best friend for 1 night a week and the wife complains that she can't do so much. Yeah, you're on bedrest. Stay in bed for the night. Whatever it is you want done can wait till the next morning. I'd say, assuming everything we've been told to be true that OP gets 1/5 & OP's wife get's 4/5. Most likely though, OP get's 3/5.
Honestly no. The therapist apparently “made him feel bad for feeling this way” which translated to: The therapist saw through his BS and now OP can’t come back the therapist cuz he feels “guilty”. I’d say the therapist did a good job not taking his side it seems
Story 1 reminds me of a story in Korea where a guy saved his girlfriend from her burning house. He lost all his hair and looks like a zombie. The sad part is that the girlfriend dumped him.
Story 2 - Imagine your wife is bedridden, then your best friend's fiance dies. I don't think OP is the Devil here, definitely not correct, but this cannot be an easy time for him to make decisions. Notice that the funeral hasn't even happened yet so this is literally within a few days of her death probably. Its easy for us to judge him without going through such difficult circumstances ourselves, but in the moment its always difficult to see things clearly. In this situation, you should obviously stay with your wife and help her, that is something critically important.
R/ isn't getting it. Bedrest means just don't do anything strenuous, so no heavy lifting, exercising, standing for hours, etc. Granted dude should care more about his wife, but I can also see his point of view. I had a friend who died suddenly and I wanted to be there for her family but my family wanted me to put THEM first. I tried my best to juggle but her brother ended up in the hospital from a s--cide attempt because he was at his low and he would try to talk to me but my grandma would always limit me to 5 min conversations, his parents didn't live near us so he had no one else really so me not being able to talk to him crushed him even more cause in his head I didn't wanna talk to him. It wasn't the case it was just hard to juggle both situations.
In Dragon Ball Super:When Beerus slapped Bulma so hard he made her unconscious,What did Vegeta do? A)Hate her enough to cheat on her B)Unleash anger beyond beyonding and attack Beerus,knowing full well the gap between them C)Complain about his pride being destroyed for the entire arc
mmm, yeah, no. I don't believe that "hE's JuSt QuIrKy! TeE-HeE!" line for the Autistic story...for even a second. As an Aspie myself, I understand impulsiveness, but I would never EVER consider *stealing* from someone and then going as far as telling people "where's my hug?". I would ASK if they wanted a hug, not demanded it. AND EVEN AT THAT, if they said no, I would say something along the lines of: "I understand. Thank you for telling me.". Something very fishy is going on and, as others have mentioned, the OP is clueless.
1st story : "I've had to delete myself off dating apps" 2:56 Did OP just admit he had dating apps on his phone *BEFORE* his wife took the hit? (that she should have left him take, in all honesty) and as someone who has over 20 concussions, 4 of which were severe from incidents like me breaking a car window with my head...twice, DO NOT MESS WITH HEAD INJURIES! The brain is insane in what it can do but it's so fragile. *BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR NOODLE!*
Okay the story with the crying sister and horrible husband... Made my blood boil when OP said "Well uh akshully, he has autism, so he doesn't understand that it's wrong to treat her this way". I and some of my closest friends have autism. We know and understand how to be nice to others, and if we do do something wrong? We owe up and apologize, none of us have ever used autism as an excuse! People like the husband in this story and the enabling OP are people wo give the neurodivergent community a bad name EDIT: Also wanted to add, this husband reminded me a lot of an abusive ex boyfriend. He'd do things similar to what this husband did and would say "I didn't take my meds, oopsie!" (He didn't have autism, but he was neurodivergent). When I came out about the fact he SA'd me, people used that as an excuse. I fear for the sister's safety in this one
Love how OP is like “hmmm my wife doesn’t want kids” and then goes “why doesn’t she want to love our baby (that she didn’t want)” what a douche. Edit: to clarify, I don’t think any kid/person should be neglected by their parents.
Admittedly he should have been more open about kids being a major issue before getting married(banking on someone changing their mind about wanting kids is a very bad plan to say the least), but he's not wrong that mothers have a duty to love and nurture their children This is as much her son as he is OP's son; you don't get to bring a child into the world and then immediately throw the baby out of your house. OP's wife clearly needs therapy for PPD, and both OP and his wife completely failed in the communication department prior to this
@@znerd3664 No, she does not have the duty to care for and love a child she didn't even want. You don't get to coerce someone into doing something you know they don't want (in this case having a child) and then act surprised when they don't act like you want them to. I find it absolutely insidious to go after someone who doesn't share your values and then basically forcing them to give you a child. This is about power and control and putting your own wants above your partner's wants. Disgusting!
@@FrogAtPond You nailed it, I have the suspicion op wanted a child for the sake of having a child, he seems more in love with the fever dream of the happy family. He doesn't seems involved and prepared, he just wants his wife to do everything and play the happy family for him. Look at him, he doesn't brings enough money to support the child, he also goes out. Instead of taking full responsibility for the child he wanted, he nags his wife to take up the responsibility and take full care of the child. They do not have enough money, yet he doesn't takes a second job, because man should also sacrifice themselves for their families not just women.
@@FrogAtPondvery serious question, this is not a trick and no hidden meaning, 100% straightforward Apply this logic to...horizontal tango and having a baby by accident...he wanted her to abort, she chose to keep it, does he have an obligation and why? I aks, beciase she was NOT forced, she was NOT coerced..she was talked into it by attrition...either she still had a choice and chose to give in, or she isn't an adult deserving the rights and responsibilities of an adult human...you literally can't have it both ways.....she made a choice, she is responsible for that choice.
@@FrogAtPond there's a difference between "coercing" and "convincing" but no matter what you call it, she is an adult with free will who freely chose to have this baby. I'm not saying he didn't pressure her heavily or(probably) threaten to leave her if she didn't agree to have at least 1 kid, but at the end of the day she still made a conscious decision to bring this baby into the world. Yes, mothers DO have a duty to their child. She made the choice to make this baby and bring him into the world, she owes it to him to love and raise him.
The guy from the last story genuinely deserves to live through at least 5 events of similar distress level to the one his ex gf went through. May that poor woman find peace in the afterlife, she did not deserve that treatment.
The story with the post partum mother yelling to “get him (the baby) out of my house” broke my heart! 😢😢😢 The wife obviously didn’t want children and the husband basically bullied her into getting pregnant! I truly feel sorry for that baby! I hope he can get the love he deserves and the mother gets the help she desperately needs! The husband better shape up!!!
The only help she needs is to get a divorce and relinquish custody. As a child free woman I'm just so tired of the mentality that once a woman gives birth she magically "becomes a mother" or if not then she can be "fixed" to become one. It sucks that the baby has to go through this but at the day the husband is solely responsible.
@@Raketo900 mainly therapy for the scummy husband she got. She must have felt awful carrying someone she didn't even want to have and then not getting any help from her husband. She had a mental break right there and op doesn't seem to care.
@@RiveroftheWither I’m sorry-I didn’t mean for my comment to come off like that. I meant the mother would get therapy-to help her through post partum depression. Not to get “fixed” but to just work through the trauma of giving birth! Yes, I lay all the blame on the husband.
@@lulolieit was her decision, plan and simple. Yes, his action were part of the cause, but ultimately, she had choices to get help. Don't get me wrong. He's a piece of trash for cheating but he's not for getting to his breaking point and breaking contact
To the op with the "hur dur women should be mothers" if you want a baby so much you should get pregnant then instead of forcing your wife and being fucking disappointed when she has post partum depression
Story 3: Crying makes migranes worse. If it was migranes, the sister might be whimpering in pain but I doubt crying as a result of a migrane. I've had lots of migranes because I'm sensitive to light. I think the husband is inappropriately touching the sister. I was inappropriately touched as a child by a grandparent and he always demanded I give him hugs and I'm always snappy and tense around him. I can't say for certain but I think it's very likely the husband is a perv.
I find it necessary to point out thay there is literally zero evidence that bed rest during pregnancy, at home or in the hospital, is effective at treating preterm labor or preventing premature birth. Sorry but rslash is completely wrong- when the medical advice given is to do something that isn't even evidence based treatment it *definitely* isn't a serious concern. Advising bed rest is the equivalent of advising a nice cup of tea- it's a stress relieving placebo at best and even that's stretching the truth because other placebo treatments actually *do* have evidence of effectiveness. If anything the evidence suggest that pregnant women who spend too much time being sedentary due to bed rest are worse off. Staying in bed all day isn't good for anybody and I'm guessing the doctor made that clear too and that she just doesn't like that she isn't his one and only focus right now. In ordinary circumstances that would be understandable due her being in her their trimester with complications regardless of how minor, but under these circumstances- she's just being an entitled brat. Spending one night a week with his recently grieving best friend from childhood is in no way an asshole move- her response to it is an asshole move though. She can get whatever she "needs" herself and there is absolutely zero evidence even indicating otherwise- but there is evidence that remaining sedentary is contrary to what's best for her and her pregnancy. She needs to wake up to herself and do some research on what bed rest actually achieves- nothing.
Story about the sister/husband: If OP started dating her husband 14 years ago, then she was 19 and he was 21. OP’s sister is currently 19, and OP’s husband is freaking her out.
Unfortunately there’s some autistic people out there who are like that ( I’m not one of them ) I once read a news article about a guy who was on the spectrum and used one of those apple tracker tags to find out where a woman ( and I believe her kid as well) lived if I remember correctly I think he only got like a few years jail time and the reason why he did it is because he thought the woman was pretty
No! The name and rating absolutely doesn't make sense... The majority of these people have God complexes, and are just as happy to eradicate everyone that disagrees with them. The Devil would never! The Devil wants everyone to be able to do what makes them happy! God wants everyone to bow to their wishes! That Men is the prime example of the classic religious Christian men! These men literally consider themselves "the master of their own house" to equalise themselves with God. The devil loves all sexualities because, he doesn't care of you have kids. God demands you to make exclusively hetero porn, so that he can watch it.
In Aus getting hit in the back of the head is called a ‘King Hit’ or ‘Coward Punch’. Many people have died from this, I know someone who has died from a coward punch. The Aus government even ran ads about how bad it is with famous boxers and athletes. OP LITERALLY owes his life to her.
Also, kindly noticed that, in the first post, OP was BEGGING to get kids, but his wife was on the fence. How much you wanna bet that she only did it to please him? AND THEN the dude turns around and is all like "not only is my wife ugly because of a giant scar on her face, I also hate her because of her pregnancy"
I’ve got autism and adhd. That’s not an excuse for stealing and the fact that the wife makes excuses saying he can’t help it blah blah is beyond ridiculous. What an awful sister that poor girl has being stuck with a guy asking her for physical contact and stealing from her. How deranged is that wife???
Story #1: OP is a scumbag. His wife took the hit for him and got disfigured because of that. And he has nothing better to do than think about possibly cheating and whining that his ego got bruised? LIKE DUDE! You could've died if she hadn't tanked the hit! 🤬
With our youngest son, there were complications where my wife was under bed rest for 6 months. She wasn’t allowed to walk more than 2 blocks. It was rough on both of us especially as my job had mandatory overtime. She had to travel with me on one occasion (lack of compassion by supervisor). It took a lot out of us and tiring with daily remote monitoring through telephone lines (30 years ago). Our son was born on time and healthy which was great. We could have another but the 2 was considered enough by us (first pregnancy was normal). Any subsequent pregnancy would also require bed rest so I cut that out.
Story 5: okay. So, first of all, he pretty much peer pressured her into having HIS kid. This was not her choice; she was COERCED into having his kid. Then, when things are starting to fall a part, he thinks the best solution is to call CPS on her?! Does he not think he'd be responsible, too? Not to mention that there are plenty of mothers that do not choose to nurse for varying reasons; some women simply CAN'T nurse, as in they would need to rely on external sources regardless of if they wanted that bond or not. So him claiming that she needs to do that is RIDICULOUS! When I couldn't nurse my child, I was told a full baby was a happy baby. And guess what? Even though I wanted to nurse my baby, that does not mean I was able to for the amount of milk my LO needed, so, guess what, we had to go to formula as well. It wasn't what we wanted, but it was what we HAD to do. Suck it up. Deal with it. Plus, if she isn't able to mentally take the load of taking care of him, guess what, dude? That's why there is daycare! I personally do not agree with daycare especially if one parent can be at home to take care of their little one, but there are circumstances, especially in this day and age, where daycare is a necessity. If you're struggling just to buy formula, it may be time to consider sending her back into the workforce and sending your son to daycare. That would be a better solution than calling FREAKING CPS!!!! There are so many better solutions you can do other than that! If your parents are retired, having them watch him, asking a close friend to watch him, sending him to daycare like I suggested. I'm sorry, you're someone who I would NOT want to associate with. I wouldn't carry your child if this would be how you would treat me.
My shitty ex dumped me after 10 years in a group text with his family telling them I wasn’t coming for the holidays while I was saying goodbye to my dying grandfather. Like literally as my plane was landing. People suck.
Story 1: Alternate take. It's obvious what he's thinking is messed up, so I don't even need to go into that. He mentioned at the start his therapist. Obviously we don't know what happened there in detail, but he said he "felt low" and refused to go back. OP is just self-aware enough to understand that his thoughts are wrong and wants help sorting them out. If his therapist shamed him or scolded him, then the therapist might be the even worse bad guy here. OP needed help working through his messed up thoughts, not someone he trusted with those thoughts to rub them in his face. For all we know the therapist did handle it well and OP just STILL took it poorly, but there are some REALLY bad therapists and horror stories about them. Therapists can be bad at their job just like anyone else. That might be what happened here, in which case I would sympathize with OP because in that case... he tried to figure things out and got screwed by someone who was supposed to help.
As usual, Rslash with the "worship your spouse" bs. Other people who know better than me, and better than Rslash, have weighed in that "bed rest" isn't nearly as severe as he assumed it was. And yeah, your best friend whose partner just passed is a pretty big priority. OP was in an unenviable position and doing his best. "Even if he's not lying he doesn't look good." Yeah, OK, let's see how good you'd look if you were trying to handle that situation Rslash. Eff off. You talk about how important your SO is. Well his best friend just lost his. That means he lost what, by your ruling, was his #1 person. OP just wants to hold the guy together while it's still fresh. OP looks just fine in my opinion.
1st story. 100% with op's hindsight. That way the wife wouldn't have a scar, nor being socially cast aside nor being potentially cheated. Maybe op would be dead but well, you win some and lose some
Rest in Peace to tge last OP's late ex and her father. They deserved better. I can not even imagine the pain OP's late ex' mom is going through. I hope OP caries this guilt with him for the rest of his pathetic life, and that new GF of his too.
Last story: I may be a bad, vindictive person for this, maybe it's my own trauma speaking. But i hope, oh, I hope, that the last OP who betrayed and abandoned his grieving girlfriend in her darkest moments after she was patient and understanding with him diring his, will suffer. I hope every person he'll meet will know what a disgusting person he is.
That last story, theres a special place in hell for him! I had a partner who took a one way trip across the country, not bothering to tell me he was never coming back and had left to go be with the person he had been cheating on, and was engaged to. I had no idea about any of this untill after the fact. He ghosted me completely and I've never heard from him since. This all happened two months after my mother died unexpectedly. I cant say I blame the girl for killing herself, I nearly did the following weekend once we had pieced everything together. I am incredibly lucky to have the support of my family to have gotten through it alive. It's been six years since then, I'm now engaged for two of those, and I found my life's calling due to that horrible experience. Whereever you are Mouse, thanks for leaving, and I hope it was worth it.
First OP feels emasculated. His thought and actions complete the process. It's official: his wife is more of a man than he is. Not because of how she handled the attack, but how he handles his feelings.
This is definitely the patriarchy at work. “But man strong! Woman not meant to protect, so therefore since me is man, me weak for letting weak woman do it!!” It’s both OP being a victim of the male side of the patriarchy and him being a petulant baby about things. If he doesn’t shape up quick, then ohhh boy…
Five weeks ago, I had a special class with the creator of the humanized approach to attemptees from the Brazilian fire departament. He said something to us (a group of psychologists specialized in atemptees) that cut very deeply: "I don't believe in empathy. Just in compassion." Everyone in that room immediately argued, but then, it started to sink and we started to understand what exactly that meant: I should never be this arrogant and say I understand last OP's ex-gf's suffering. I can't. You can't. OP can't. Even other atemptees can't, because no situation is identical to another. As someone who personally believe in afterlife and couldn't do anything to save her life, I can just pray she stopped suffering by now. My hope is that the shock will at least wake the last OP into finally growing up and take this opportunity to live and make true changes about his ways, even if the root of these changes is regret. To develop compassion, I hope. For the sake of everyone else around him, at least.
Third story: When are these people going to learn that authism isn't a free pass to douchebaggery. Also, I don't feel OP is oblivious to what's her husband doing, I feel she is intencionally ignoring it.
Please define forced? If you remove her agency you treat HER like a child. He wore her down, fine, but at no point does it mention he applied force of any kind. Either she is responsible for having the kid or she is a kid he4slef, unless he physically attacked her or threatened violence, she had a choice. Even if it was an ultimatum, divorce or kid, that is still a choice. Please keep in mind, I'm not defending someone who would marry her under the crumstances and the pressure her into having a kid she didn't want, he is 100% am a hole. But if you excuse her giving in, you remove her agency and make a child of her. She is an adult or not, and if she is and deserves respect, she also has responsibility for her cboices.
@@75ur15he coerced her into having my a child. he heard her say ‘i don’t want kids’ and took it as a challenge rather than a boundary. now he’s shocked and upset because his wife isn’t being maternal to a child she didn’t even want in the first place!
@@75ur15 are you serious? She told him "No" to having kids MULTIPLE TIMES, and he still pressured her into having one. If this is not forcing someone to do something against their will then George Washington is my biological mother.
@@f3nnixx people keep saying coerced, coercion requires physical violence, or a threat...generally the threat would have to be illegal in some way, or it isnt coercion.....the word has meaning. Call it wearing someone down or whatever that fits, bit not a word that doesn't. I say this, not to excuse what he did (he was in the wrong) but to say that she doesn't get a pass for making a decision to have a child instead of leaving.....she is an adult, she is responsible for her decisions..which she STILL HAD the ability to make freely..she could have left....or just stayed and accepting the pestering....but she CHOSE to create a human, after human exists is too late to back out...again, he was in the wrong, but that doesn't make her right....if you think it does please excuse every father who walks away when she won't abort, or you are a hypocrite
Wow That last story I cannot believe that When he says he’s “in such shock he’s not capable to feel anything” I think he’s just not capable of feeling anything PERIOD. How the hell are you going to do that to someone, leave them while they’re trying to take care of a loved one, and all you can think about is not being ‘satisfied’. Hope he can never forget this, although seeing how quick he was to get with someone else it really doesn’t seem like he actually feels guilt over this. She deserved so much more than him, and I hope she’s able to rest well
For the guy who’s wife has a scar from saving him. In the dark, everyone is a 10. Your wife is a 12 because she protected her loved one, bore the pain and damage with humor and honor and you disrespect her instead of embracing her. You really don’t deserve such a fine woman.
Being saved by your wife - Unmanly Being so unable to control your one inch wonder that you're already on dating apps - Fine and masculine Seems like he only cares about "being a man" when it benefits him
He stole money, but didn't think it'd be a big deal? Explain to him what laws are, if he believes in God- also the 10 commandments, and that theft is a crime. If he still minimizes, then he's cool with you helping yourself to his things- after all, you're family, so it's nbd.
OP seeing all these red flags and seeing her sister breaking and saying “something could be wrong here but eh maybe I’m just overthinking things” is the same as dudes in Skyrim with an arrow in their skull saying “must’ve been the wind”
Last story- Something huge is missing from this story. My ex has been stalking me on and off for close to a decade, and I still haven't filed a restraining order against her. He's obviously withholding something big.
There's also the fact that they don't just give out restraining orders like candy for no reason. there had to have been a justified reason for the filing. i too think op in that story left out a lot of details that would make the story make more sense, or the story is fake. one or the other.
@@DrunkSamurai No they won’t had a friend try to get a restraining order against a girl and they wouldn’t give it to him even though she tried to ruin his life.
@@kittycat21223 depends on the state. in some places it's pretty easy to get at least a temporary one in family court. they get abused in custody battles all the time for this reason.
