My brother had a bloody nose in the middle of the night. He ran into the bathroom, crying. Everything was covered in blood. My parents said it was something straight out of a horror movie just because of how much blood there was dripping out of his nose like a goddamn waterfall
Oh gawd! I did that which made me laugh. I cleaned it up off of the mirror and went about my day. Later, I took a shower and the condensation on the ceiling, caused drops of bloody water to start dripping all over the floor and sink. Absolutely HORRIFYING and gross lol
Story 1: The post builds up to all sorts of crazy ideas, whether it's cheating or drugs, and then it turns out the husband just didn't know how to use a spray. This feels like the plot to a kids show episode Man, it's a good thing OP eventually found the source, because this could've driven anyone insane
Reminds me of the 7th Heaven episode where they thought the girl had an ED but she had "strange" eating habits because her family was food insecure and she went to the bathroom after meals to brush her teeth because she had braces
@@lalamarmotte0735I've had hemorrhoids, and I can report that there is no blood spray. How would that even work? Farting really hard right when one ruptures? 😂
Last Story: Can i just say how nice and refreshing it is to read about SUCH a supportive husband. See’s how upset his wife is and surprises her with a fun getaway AND he gets someone to watch the kids for her. Op your husband is a keeper, can’t say the same about your “friends” though.
Yeah seriously, "Boohoo my hubby forgot our anniversary! I really need this girls trip, but I need someone to babysit for free! Oh I know! I'll just not tell OP about the trip and that'll make it where she can watch all the kids! That's perfect! It's her own fault for not coming to the meeting anyways!!". If you have "friends" who think like that? And then others who _sympathize_ with that and get bitchy over an extra car? Yeah no, those aren't friends, they're acquaintances with knives behind their backs. Feck them and feck that PTA. Edit: Sarah's cool though.
YEA! He sounds amazing! Just sucks that OP was left out because the "friend's" husband sucks and can't be bothered to be with his wife on their anniversary! OP "won" in the husband department for sure! Let them have "fun" with the friend who will probably complain the entire time about her problems and idiot husband on their "relaxing getaway"! Who wouldn't have fun doing that!/S LOL
I know, she may have flunked with the friendship but she WON with her husband and family and that's far more important. See the SIL more often would be my advise she seems great
Story 3: Babysitting 5 kids for 14 hours with no pay? Seriously? That is a pretty bad idea. Honestly, the friend group isn't all that great, but at least they understand the situatiob
I honestly saw nothing wrong with the friend group, only the girl who manipulated op into babysitting was a butthole. They sympathized with the friend they are closer too, because yeah she did a bad thing, but she’s going through a rough time, and they did acknowledge that op was put in a really tough position, even if they aren’t all best friends with her
The friend group isn't all that great, all other than Sarah I feel, since she did try to make OP involved somehow, though OP declined it because it felt too awkward. Props to Sarah for trying though
@@DarkLobster69 you clearly never been on the shorter end of the stick before. i myself have been and it feels terrible. afterward, i never wanted to associate with those "friends" again because i realize im not, im merely a close acquaintance to them
@@bcatbb2896exactly, honestly it's better to have 1 or 2 real friends than to have a big group of "friends". "Friends" that treat you like baggage or just someone to fill the head count aren't friends at all.
@@bcatbb2896 absolutely, but OP herself admits she isn’t super involved with those friends. Friendships aren’t something you just have, if you don’t consistently talk to people and hang out with them you grow apart. If OP had been a super dedicated friend, than thats a different story
The last story gave me flashbacks to when I was 12 years old and some school "friends" excluded me from an outing by concocting a fake story about how it had been cancelled. Mean girls never really grow up.
The life and struggles of a filler friend smh. Seriously, I’ve never understood this mentality of ‘tentatively’ hanging out with someone that you don’t like or don’t want to involve in the group. It has to be a lot easier to tell someone, “I don’t want to hang out with you anymore,” than it is to play these kind of games.
I've gone through that too. I'd been on the track team in high school, and I thought that I was good friends with my teammates. Until my senior year, where I was essentially excommunicated because I objected to a teammate participating in animal abuse. Anyways, I realized that my "friends" didn't care about me and only stayed around me because I was entertaining to them. That hurt a lot.
@@kranberry3318 they weren't my only friends, luckily. I had real friends at the time who I still hang out with now. The experience did teach me an important lesson, to focus on quality of friends, not quantity. Thank you for your well wishes, and have a good week!
It also reminds me of how my whole friend group made an entire watch party for Stranger Things new season and excluded me because I hadn't watched the first season. Imagen how I felt after seeing the whole group gathered together for a sleepover on someone's Snapchat story.
Ngl, the first story I thought the husband was a serial killer or something and would get blood all over the bathroom trying to clean up the evidence. Glad it had a more wholesome ending.
I wasn't sure but was starting to lean that way, poor or not, if blood was inexplicably spraying out my nose all of a sudden I'd definitely go see a doctor That said, you'd think he'd have raised it with his spouse himself... silly man Happily, alls well that ends well... 🎉 a wholesome Reddit story whats the chances 😂
I feel so bad for the last OP, as I know what it's like to think you have friends, only to find out you're just dead weight they'll cut off if it interferes with their real friends. I'm so glad OP's husband, SIL, and MIL were able to make things better for her.
@@Star_Joker off the top of my head, there was one where a woman’s ex seemed to know everything that happened in her house (conversations she had with her parents, what was on TV, etc). It turned out he had bugged their toddler’s iPad and the kid had essentially been wearing a wire. There was also one where a guy was trying to prove his father wasn’t responsible for a murder/suicide and had some compelling evidence that their neighbor was a serial killer (black widower who killed his wives for their money). On a lighter note there was a guy who kept being sent California Rasins merchandise from a defunct fan club.
That's so sweet that OP's husband in the last story got together with his mom, sister and such to cheer up OP and have a good time of their own. OP deserves better friends and better people than Sarah, Kacy and whatnot, and I think her husband and his family are a good step into that direction for better contacts.
Story 3: are you the butthole for finding out that this woman tried to play you into free babysitting and didn't even try to tell you about this special event so she could go and you be stuck in her house? No. Edit to add: I'm sorry her husband sucks but that doesn't give her the right to play you like that, she knew what she was doing every step of the way and it's not fair everyone's being all sweet to her because her BS manipulation plan didn't work. And good on your husband, and in-laws for showing you a good time when I saw how hurt you were. That's the kind of people you want in your life.
Josh straight up fumbled the bag, he had a girlfriend who has a SIX FIGURE SALARY AND HER OWN HOUSE, but he lost it all simply because he didn’t want to pay half the price of the rent he’s already paying. I’m sure there’s a real good reason his landlord wouldn’t sign another lease. What an absolute bozo!
@@psychointent1 That’s a good point too! And if that actually is the case there’s no way that he wouldn’t qualify for government assistance. I think he identifies as a hobo-sexual, someone who only dates someone to live in their house and reap the benefits.
The problem I have with this story is we have seen multiple stories similar but gender reversed where the argument was that "she" (in those cases) would be paying rent but gaining no equity in the property but everyone seems to be quite happy to bash a guy in the same situation. Not saying either person is right or wrong but having been raised by a single Mum I can see with hindsight a lot of the sacrificed she made for us so I have some sympathy for his situation.
@@davidmccurdy8911 my thing is he would be paying HALF the rent he’s already paying so he’s already saving $700 a month right there. He can use that to put it in a savings account or buy that name brand cereal that he couldn’t buy before. I was raised by a single mom too, I’m the youngest out of 4, all half siblings that she treated like her own. She would coupon clip and meal prep for us so we wouldn’t have to go out for dinner and she was also working 2-3 jobs. And even if the roles were reversed, I’d still feel the same way. You’re bringing in 3 more mouths to feed and house and they don’t expect to contribute anything except going HALF on groceries?! Even then that compromise should’ve been buying ALL the groceries.
@@davidmccurdy8911That’s a fair point. Personally, considering the fact that the monthly mortgage payments on the house were $1000, I think it would have been fair to ask for $500 a month rent + half of all the utilities, internet, etc. I’m not sure how much those other costs would add up to, but he’d still be paying less rent than he did at his previous apartment. Anyway, that would have been my solution for if OP wanted to try and save the relationship. It’s a good compromise. Sadly, I think the boyfriend was probably too stupid to realize that and just screw things up for himself anyway.
Id be pretty pissed if my partner left blood all over the bathroom every single night and refused to acknowledge or clean it up. I'd probably leave the blood ngl...i can ignore the mess for a bit if it means proving a point
The last story is hubby goals af. I had 'friends' like that too that only talked to me when they needed money/borrow clothes, or I was the 'last resort friend' when all their better friends cancelled on them. OP is better off distancing herself, the less drama the better your life is.
As soon as I heard about the circumstances of the blood spatter, my first two thoughts were A. Nose blood from doing coke or B. Venous blood from shooting up. I wasn't at all thinking that he's actually just bad at using nasal spray. Fascinating!
its why research (looking at how blood splatters from doing those things look like) and giving your loved ones the benefit of the doubt is so important. jumping to the first negative conclusion and sticking with it is very dangerous to a happy home life.
*1st Story:* So the mystery bloodspots were the result of (legal) drugs _and_ incompetence! *2nd Story:* Greedy Boyfriend's mask fell off at the best time as far as OP is concerned. This could've ended much worse if OP didn't realize that fact until after Greedy Boyfriend moved in! *3rd Story:* OP should be grateful that Jenny's husband chose to abandon her on their wedding anniversary because the whole affair made OP realize just how much her friends actually care about her. Who knew that bad spouses could do some good in this world (albeit unintentionally)? 🤪
disagree on the 2nd story. expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage. Ik if i were in the bf's shoes, I wouldnt pay 70% of HER mortgage when my living situation hinges on the destiny of the relationship. If the relationship ends, she's going to kick out the bf and the kids.
@@dachless Especially when she makes 4X what he does, and with paying half of the utilities he would be saving like $200 a month from where he is currently living. Which yeah is still saving money, but with the cost of everything going up and he gets no equity. Say she gets a better job in a different state and moves, she will get a lot of money by selling the house, since house prices are ridiculous, and he loses his living arrangements, and doesn't get money back when he was paying for 70%.
2nd Story both tried to advantage of each other as expenses weren’t being split 50/50 or by income. Op was treating her bf more like a tenant than anything, expecting him to pay 70% on just the mortgage alone, then she expected him to buy his own groceries and pay for more than half of the utilities.
@@pokesims3658 Because legally he would have been her tenant~ This was her sexual partner/friend with benefits! And She made clear that she had 0 interest in marrying him or adopting his children. 50/50 would imply that they ARE family. While her paying more would imply that he's a sex worker, and she's paying him for his service~ Dude was simply a male Gold Digger~ Just because someones cares about their children doesn't mean they respect their partner!
I was almost surprised that he didn't want to be added to the house title as 50% owner. It seemed that he could have the potential to reach that level of entitlement, but he fell a bit short.😅
It would have been a $700 savings, but I would have seen it as ok if he had suggested that his rent be half the monthly mortgage payment and he pays half on everything else. Oh, and no he shouldn't expect to be on the title in that arrangement.
Exactly! With the bf complaining to the commenters about having to go to food pantries to feed his kids, imagine how it helps him only having to pay $700 and shared expenses monthly as supposed to $1400 monthly and all expenses? He became a choosing beggar instead of a bf. Glad OP knows her worth and dumped him.
@@lorilancaster5917 I agree. Also Im confused on his issue because it sounds like he has full custody of his kids or at least shared and so isn't the ex wife/mother also providing some kind of child support or also helping with her kids?? Assuming she is Sounds like it's less about his kids and more about him
@@StariTheAstronautso my dad was required to pay child support, we got like a wopping $200 total from him over 16 years. That money was from when he got arrested, he paid bail and thats what the state sent us. They will garnish wages, but if they don't work (like my father) they can't really do anything to get any money. So even if the mother is in the picture at all, doesn't mean they are getting any money from her, even if she is required to pay child support
I was starting to wonder in the first story if there was an unknown person creeping around in their house and doing who knows what in the bathroom. I'm glad it was just a case of not reading the instructions and male stubbornness.
Story 2: josh is not trying to look out for his kids. If he were, he'd be 100% ok with sharing the costs of living. He's using them as a shield, trying to justify his bad behavior. Just another narcissist looking for an easy ride.
And I’m curious about how much out of the picture the ex wife is? Is this something he is just saying as well for pity? I’m also wondering if he was also hoping that by OP being younger than him, her 24 to his 30, that he hoped for some naivety on her end?
@@gennix404 how is OP toxic? because she is young attractive woman with a 6 figure salary and was willing to put up with a guy that already had two kids and let him stay in her house under the condition he pays half of the value of what the house has? OP wasn't toxic, she's an angel and someone's fantasy
@@gennix404 it's not toxic to ask your live in partner to split the cost of living, or to set boundaries between yourself and their kids when an actual family unit is not on the table .
as some one who occasionally gets really bad nose bleeds, yes you can leave blood all over. I had a broken nose several years back and it caused damage. It is rare though, not on a daily basis and I for sure saw a doctor after the first major one.
Having to blow your nose repeatedly due to allergies can aggravate the thin blood vessels, causing them to burst. I tend to get a lot of nosebleeds during my allergy season. Simply because I need to blow my nose near constantly.
Yeah, I've seen comments with blatantly wrong information get upvoted simply because they agreed with the preconceived notions of the usual crowd over there. I've also seen AITA posts where the OP is in the right get marked YTA.
Seriously though. If op had left their husband based on a presumption REDDIT made without any confirmation from thier spouse himself then that's Op's fault not reddit.
I love how wholesome that last story ends. Her family is like "Nah Bich, you ain't going to going to feel unloved and sad while we're around". It's sad she had to realize her "friends" were really acquaintances, but it's nice that it led to her seeing just how good her real support system was.
Story 1: If you’ve moved to a drier area, try using a humidifier. If you’ve moved to a more humid area, try using a dehumidifier. They can really help with allergies (along with allergy meds, of course).
Shoutout to the thumbnail. *First OP:* I actually thought OP's husband might have had c@ncer like OP's friend. I'm glad things worked out for OP and her husband. *Second OP:* The whole time Josh complained about his financial situation, I thought, "Yeah, that sounds like a _you_ problem." Josh should've paid the $700, but he messed things up for him and his daughter's. OP was NTA. Side note: 1.8k a month? I'm jealous, lol *Third OP:* I dislike when people bait- and- switch/ guilt-trip others like that. Someone used the "are you my friend?" tactic on me. OP was NTA. It sucks that OP was undervalued by her ex friend group. At least her husband and his family have OP's back. Also, Jenny's husband was the biggest AH. None of this would've happened if he hadn't planned a guy's trip on his and Jenny's wedding anniversary.
I disagree w/ the majority on story 2: expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
Regarding the split-rent story, the single dad's entitlement is so bad he's willing to hurt his daughters' living situation JUST to make a point. I hope those kids turn out okay.
I’m betting, depending on their ages, they are giving him a hard time since they could’ve had their own rooms but are now facing homelessness thanks to his actions
@@embyratwood690 exactly! OP is expecting her bf to pay 70% of her own mortgage, 100% of his own groceries, and splitting everything else 50/50. If OP truly loved her bf, she shouldnt be expecting that. She should be offering to pay 70% of her mortgage, or at least split it 50/50, and split everything else INCLUDING groceries. I feel like OP is trying to take advantage of her bf rather than trying live a life w/ her bf
Story 2: that guy is so f***ing entitled. He had a good thing and lost it cause he felt entitled to more. And it is his fault he only makes 30k, he could work at getting education to make more. He's just jealous of how much his (now ex) gf made.
@@karlking9871 expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage. If youre in a relationship, you should be treated like a s.o, not as a tenant.
First Story: This is very odd and OP's husband is being very odd. If it was just nosebleeds, why does he just leave it? Why don’t he clean it up? Also, why is he so defensive about this if its "no big deal"? OP's husband is giving off red flags in my opinion. I see, well at least its not something more serious. Ahhhh, the mystery was solved. So the nosebleeds were caused by OP's husband incorrect use of allergy nasal spray. I’m glad it wasn’t anything worst Second Story, NTA: I honestly thought that is expected of someone moving into another's house. This man expected to live in OP's house rent free with his kids like he and OP are married. Glad OP got rid of this leech, this guy is the worst to try to weaponize his kids in order to get what he wants. Josh's response: Um his poor financial choices shouldn’t be OP's probably, honestly $700 is not bad for rent. I’d rather pay $700 to live in a house than $1800 to live in an apartment Third Story, NTA: Lmao 14 hours of free babysitting is insane. This woman needs to realize that plans change all the time and OP isn’t selfish for backing out of this babysitting job (especially since this woman intentionally left out the women's day hangout so SHE herself can go). So it seems like these people (accept Sarah and maybe Kacy) were all trying to exclude OP and push the babysitting onto OP. OP needs a better friend group and I’m glad OP's family were much better than this people
Could a blood phobia be a reason why he didn't want to clean it? Because I know people who can't even look at blood let alone get close enough to clean it. But yeah at least it wasn't anything worse thankfully
$700 a month is absolutely high rent for one person to be paying. I’m not saying he shouldn’t be contributing, but $700 is not just some piddly amount. Although he is already paying double that now so it shouldn’t be a shock to him
disagree on Story 2: expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
@@topsysrevenge thats 70% of her mortgage! Thats outrageous especially considering everything else OP is expecting her BF to pay, as well as the living situation hinging on the destiny of the relationship. If the relationship ends, I guarantee OP wont be having him and the kids live w/ her.
Okay, I initially thought this would have been an injured pet, and then when she said it was only in the bathroom my first thought went to some form of self harm. I definitely didn't think of drugs, or chronic nosebleeds, but I'm glad it was the latter and that the issue's fixed.
I feel like everyone here is overlooking how ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING it would be if blood showed up like that in my house. The way the husband got so defensive too… scary stuff. I’d be putting up cameras in the bathroom lol.
Josh was looking for a Sugar Mommy, probably from the get go. If op didn't put her foot down, he probably would have mysteriously lost his job after moving in...
Honestly I saw the “mystery blood” part of the title and was thinking it’d be something insane like the upstairs neighbors have been killing people and the blood from their kills leaked through the roof into the OP’s apartment.
Oh wow. I thought it was the husband being a serial killer. An upstairs neighbor being the happy stabby type didn’t even _occur_ to me! That is, of course, assuming it’s not just haunted.
In what effin universe is an extra $700 a month and clearly better living conditions not an acceptable alternative. OP is exactly the kind of girlfriend every guy wants. rSlash, when you read OP's boyfriend's response, the entitlement was so bad that for a second I thought you were going to sandbag us and tell us here's the real response but NO ... he's even more entitled than I thought possible.
expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
I’ve read many posts where the girlfriend doesn’t want to pay rent and Reddit jumps all over the boyfriend and tells op not to let him financially abuse her
I was going to say the same thing. They say that he needs to step up etc. But now put the second story with a dude talking and he would get his ass beaten by Reddit
I thought the blood thing was maybe a rat/mouse infestation. I bought a rat that turned out to have lice, and he was diligent about scratching off the nits and the feeding adults. However, his method left small sprays of blood absolutely _everywhere_ in his cage and on anything near the cage bars. It was sad :(
The rent story: Good thing OP's ex took the trash out himself. He missed out on a golden opportunity to lower his bill by almost $1k and he blew it by being a choosing beggar. Some people just self-sabotage.
Story 2: the boyfriend should have to pay either half of the rent, bills, repairs, etc or his portion of the total house income. So if he makes $50k and her income is $100k, he should pay 1/3 of the house bills. Why is it that people think they can move into a place and not pay part of the rent or mortgage payment?!
I think it's because the owner builds equity in the property and they see it as like loaning money to someone they know, which is stupid because if you're renting you're doing the same thing for someone you hardly know.
@@piecebypiece2028 There was a similar story to this one but it was the gf moving in with the bf and she has the exact same argument. I'm just astounded that people actually think they can live somewhere rent free. Lol.
He definitely should pay, but why does he have to pay two-thirds of her mortgage? I don't understand why she wouldn't just ask him to pay half of the mortage, or even less, since it's HER house, not his.
@McLeanAmy well it's her property and she gets to set the price of how much she charges for a second party. Also, if the boyfriend moved in, he would be taking up more space since it's not just him moving in, its him an his kids. If this was a roommate situation, and it was two brothers moving in, they'd have to pay more than half as well as it's just more people moving in. I see your argument, and personally I'd charge half, but at the end of the day it's not up to you or me to decide what OP does with her house.
Last story: my opinion on this kind of situation is "better alone than in bad company". But OP isn't alone, she has an awesome family!!!. I'm really happy for her
Story 2: I'm married and we split rent, utilities, and groceries. We make about even but sometimes, she'll make more. Dude should get a better job or try to get more hours if he's that worried about money and bills. I'm glad she split with him. Good luck to the guy, but he needs a serious reality check.
I agree that the bf should be contributing to stuff, he shouldnt expect to live there for free. expecting your bf to pay 70% of your mortgage, 100% of his own groceries and 50/50 on everything else while youre making 4x what he makes, however, is outrageous. If OP truly loved her bf, she shouldve offered 50/50 split on EVERYTHING, mortgage, groceries, utilities at the absolute most. If I were the OP in this story, making 4x my partner, I'd offer to pay 70% of my mortgage while they pay 30%.
Story #1: my legit first thought was that their apartment was haunted. My house is haunted. I don't get blood or anything, but SO many things (that have been in the same spot, untouched, for YEARS) have started going missing. Like, I know it would be there cause I've seen whatever it is somewhat recently, but when I go to grab it, it's no longer there.
First story: 100% legit. It happened to me too because i was shown how to use my nasal spray incorrectly. Im still dealing with the aftermath The spouts short so it isnt super easy to get it right all the time but it does thin the lining on your nose so make sure you use your nasal spray correctly! 😂
Ok, as someone who has a nosebleed incredibly often, yes, it has happened that i have blown my nose and blood has poured out and missed the tissue. I get that its not that whats happening but it IS possible if youre a clutz😂
I am not surprised about the first story at all! If op mentioned he had allergies this would have been something reddit could have told her straight off. I mean, I can't use Flonase at all, it makes my nose bleed like crazy even when I use it right. I had to get a different prescription.
The first story was believable to me from the beginning. I used to get sudden, STRONG nose bleeds all the time, and there was splatter from me frantically trying to get to the sink, or get tissue.
S1: that is weird and creepy. Reminds of a story I heard of this old couple who lived in an apartment that was dripping blood from a faucet. To make it short, mysterious red liquid was tested and it resulted of blood type-o. It didn't match with the old couple as they're A and AB. No one figured out who the mystery blood belonged to and could not find the body. That aside, mystery solved! Idk why the husband hid his nosebleed problem for so long! I also thought it could of been a drug problem, thank goodness it was not. S2: wow, such a man child! Bad move that OP showed her post to her ex. I get he wanted his kids to have a good life, but it is not OP's responsibility and not her kids.
Disagree on the 2nd story tbh. You shouldnt be expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything else. It seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
@dachless2581 He should be paying rent, and I guarantee $700 a month is well below market rate for a 3 bedroom apartment. Besides, between him and his girls, he's most likely using more rooms in the house, so it would make sense for him to pay more.
For the second story: After listening to countless stories, I have concluded, that being on the same page as far as finances go is one of the most important things in a relationship. When OP said that she doesn't want to pay for the bf and his kids. The sentence made me feel like there isn't trust between them in terms of finances, which instantly made me think that this isn't going to end well.
Might not bea matter of trust but not so committed to him to be willing to also take on his burdens as her own. So she was throwing him a bone because she loved him but was also trying to ensure that they have two separate lives with their own commitments.
@@OmniscientWarrior Judging by the fact she doesn't want to get marriage and doesn't agree with shared finances I'm surprised he's surprised. She seems like someone who believes in individually both legally and financially but would enjoy some companionship. I just think she screwed herself messing with a man with 2 kids. And I have no idea what he was thinking keeping up the relationship knowing he has kids and her views.
Years ago I had a similar experience to the woman who was expected to babysit while her friends went out and had fun. My ex friend Traci (real name) asked me if I could watch her kids (2 girls, 3 & 5 ) for the evening on Valentines day. I said of course, because I had no plans, and she was going out with the new guy she was dating after she fled her physically abusive marriage. I get their and low and behold, it's everyone from that friend group heading out to drink and dance the evening away. I. Was. Pissed. I pulled her aside and said that I had to leave at 11pm. She said I should have told her earlier that I couldn't stay till she wanted to come home. I replied that she was right, I should have told her at the same time she told me that this wasn't a date night, but a night where everyone, save me, was going clubbing. The youngest cried almost constantly for mum, as much as both her sister and I tried to comfort her. She wasn't used to mum going out unless one of her grandmothers was there. It took me decades to see how lopsided our relationship was. When the man who was to become my husband met her, she commented that he must be a good influence on me because my place was usually a pig-sty (not true, it was cluttered, never dirty. Actually pigs are quite clean as far as animals go.) After she left, he reminded me of that old adage, With Friends Like That, Who Needs Enemies. The last straw for me came when I was moving over 2000 klicks away and she was a no show at 2 one to one get togethers to say goodbye. When I brought up how inappropriate it was to not show, and not call, she called me unreasonable. Yah, no more. I deserve better than that kind of "friend". I haven't missed her at all in the 6 years I've been gone.
*Story 1 OP:* My first thought was drugs, but then I realized (which came later in the post) “what if OP’s husband has bad allergies or is allergic to something? Maybe it’s the humidity that makes the blood vessels in your nose crack?” But turns out it was just that her husband was bad at using nasal spray. Never knew that incorrectly using nasal spray could cause nose bleeds. Glad everything is ok with OP’s husband. 😂❤
So for the first story iv had the same problem. The way the doctors explained normal people have branches of veins in their nose. I have a whole tree. Ever since I can remember iv had nose bleeds. Waking up with a pillow covered in blood almost every night. Developed a fear of blowing my nose because every time I did it would lead to a nosebleed. After moving to a place thats more humid they all but stopped. I was living in a dry climate for 18 years of my life and 9 years after moving to a humid climate I can count on one hand the amount of nosebleeds iv had.
Lol, as a pharmacist, as soon as I heard OP in the first story mentioned her husbands allergies I immediately went "Hmm... I wonder if he uses any kind of corticosteroid nasal spray for his allergy" and wouldn't you know! Steroids, whether topical or nasal, is known to thin out the skin/membrane it's applied to. Therefore it's recommended to apply it as instructed to lessen the risk of getting bleeds, while also applying some kind of rehydration to the skin/membrane while using the locally applied steroids. For skin, this would be ointment of some kind, while for the nasal membrane would be nasal oil. I am glad this story had a wholesome ending though 🥰
Man, realizing that you're not as important to your friends as they are to you, that's something I've felt about just about every person in my life. You get used to it.
Story 2 : NTA.. 3 extra people moving in with op using the water / electricity and few other things and they don't want to pay rent??..josh is a user op.. Edit : hey josh kids are expensive if you can't afford them don't have them.. Update : Good on op to dump the loser/user.. Story 3 : Dump the "friend" for good and tell the kids why then go to the "Fun " thing.. Update: dump the whole "Friend" Group all of them are terrible people..The husband /MIL/ SIL though are straight up gangsters (good way) ..
expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
As a person that has lived with a sibling with chronic bloody noses, our bathroom always got bloody. My brother has a thin nose lining and any temp change would give him bloody noses and just the heat of the shower would make his nose bleed so pretty much every time he showers there’s a bloody nose.
Story 2: Specifically the response. I don't agree with the boyfriend, but I do think the problem stems from him wanting to change something societally and resenting her for the problem existing. Awful thing to do, but also proof we need to have more conversations about a problem we can functionally solve. If he wasn't an idiot for passing up an amazing deal, I'd admire him for being a good Dad, but his case deserves heard in court and not shouldered by one of the beneficiaries of a broken system.
I dont think being expected to pay 70% of someone elses mortgage, 100% of your own groceries, and 50% of everything else is an "amazing deal" when your s.o is making 4x what you make. the bf is in the wrong for expecting to live there entirely for free, I agree w/ everyone on that. However OP is a huge butthole for expecting him to pay so much of the expenses, especially when she makes significantly more than he does. It feels like OP is treating her bf more as a tenant than a S.O. I disagree with the majority when it comes to expecting him to pay all of that. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
To the OP find the blood, it's an allergy! A COMMON symptom of an allergy (especially a nasal allergy / airbourne one) is not just the sneezing people are used to BUT BLOODY NOSES. And once you start getting them, you keep getting them. Also, allergy meds make you get them. A LOT.
Her husband forgetting their anniversary and skipping town for a boys' weekend was no excuse to lie to her friend to get her way. Judging by what we heard here, it sounds like op would've been likely to babysit out of pity if nothing else had she been told the truth instead of being played for a fool. Every time I've cut a friend from my life, it was due to lies.
My youngest brother was addicted to it many years ago. Carried a bottle in his pocket constantly, would take a blast like every half hour. And he always complained how stuffed up he was. I came across an article talking about overuse of nasal sprays producing a rebound effect (what he was experiencing) and told him about it. Eventually he quit using it and saw a doctor for his allergies.
@@terriwetz6077 My mom was addicted to it and also constantly complained she couldn't breathe without it. She also used it wrong and sprayed multiple pumps per nose hole.
Story 1: OH THANK GOD!!! I thought that the husband might be bleeding from his member when used the bathroom and was refusing to go to a doctor. Men tend to see going to the doctor as asking for help and asking for help is seen as being weak, so men will often refuse to go to the doctor until they physically can't avoid it. For example, I have an uncle who had been throwing up almost constantly for almost two weeks and lost almost 100 pounds and it took me and my dad all but kidnapping him and taking him to the hospital. Turned out his liver was failing. He's ok now but still
Frequent nosebleeder here. It is a combination of dry nostrils and weak capillaries. It can happen from nose blowing and even sneezing. It becomes more frequent when the air is too dry, which is why it differs in every household, because of the levels of humidity. And yes, it can happen pretty much every day, and can be messy, which is something I am not very proud of and try to avoid talking about. Once, after I blew my nose, the blood started gushing like a river. No amount of tissue could make it stop, so I put my nose over the sink and let it flow. It took a whole 25 minutes. And afterwards the sink looked like I had killed someone. Still, I didn't have high blood pressure or anything like that whatsoever. Don't worry, OP. Your husband is fine, he just feels awkward of all the mess he had caused. I would actually suggest a moisturizing spray for the nose, it liquefies the secretion and may reduce the nosebleed. But, ultimately, it is something you have to get used to, because I don't believe there is a cure for it that may not permanently damage your husband's nose.
The rent story is insane. If I had an extremely wealthy girlfriend who let me move myself & my children into her house for only $700 a month? I would do *anything* to keep her. I'd make sure there was always a fresh bouquet of flowers in the house for her, I'd take on the majority of the housework. I'd SPOIL her rotten with every spare penny I have!
9:02 Gee, I wonder why the owners aren't letting this dude renew 😏 Also, are we even sure he would use the extra money on his kids? I could totally see him saying 'FOR THE CHILDREN ' then use the money on himself instead
Plausible since a concern was not being able to buy name brand cereal. Like some generic brands are just fine and the daughter won't get made fun of for that and some store brands are made by the name brand companies. Besides, cereal is a nicety.
God, the amount of entitled parents who want other people to watch THEIR kids while they go do something fun, then get mad when they’re told no, is absolutely insane. Having kids does *not* give you the right to take away other people’s free time because you don’t want to be a parent.
For me, even if you aren't that close of a friend, I would rather take you because the other friend lied to you and was trying to screw you over while deceiving the group. While I may not become closer to you, I would certainly but looking at cutting a friend out. That friend's burden with her kids could have been an easily handled one of she was honest from the start, so now she had to pay for her actions.
Story 2: I can see an argument that if he makes less, he could pay a smaller share of rent. If my friends are in a tough spot financially I will offer to pay for both our meals. But they are not entitled to that. Same thing, the bf should not EXPECT that someone would make such a generous deal especially for a long term situation.
he's paying for the majority if he accepts OP's terms. 70% of her own mortgage, 100% of his own groceries, as well as 50/50 on everything else. If OP said 50/50 on the mortgage and groceries, then she wouldnt be in the wrong. If I were OP though, making 4x what my partner makes, personally I'd ask them to pay 30-40% of the mortgage and split the groceries. OP is treating her bf more as a tenant than, well, a bf. expecting your partner to pay 70% of your mortgage and expecting him to buy his own groceries and also expecting 50% on everything seems outlandish to me when you put it all together. He's the butthole for expecting to live there entirely for free, i agree w/ everyone on that. Where I disagree is expecting him to pay the majority of your own mortgage, the entirety of his own groceries, and expecting him to split 50/50 on everything else all put together. If you truly love your partner, you should either offer 50/50 on everything, or you should offer to be paying the majority of stuff like mortgage and be okay with splitting the bill on groceries, ESPECIALLY if you're making 4x what your partner makes. Ik if I were in OPs situation, i'd offer to pay 60 or 70% of my own mortgage since, well. Its my mortgage.
every story this episode is a different gem, the supporting and loving wife who helps her husband with problems he doesn't understand he has, the girl who realizes she's worth so much more than a man who tries to take advantage of her economy and stops him on his ass, and the girl that realizes she needs better friends but she has a great family, I just love powerful women
Yeah I always charge my girlfriends rent, I'm young, hot and pretty well off, weird that this also happened with a single dad. I kicked out a single mom and her 3 kids after she tried to welch out of paying, even though I was giving her a really great deal considering the area. Oh well onto the next one
Made me feel really happy for op in the last story update. It's nice to hear that she has a thoughtful and caring family. Screw those so-called friends.
Last story: OP's Husband: My wife is feeling down about some drama with her "friends" *puts in effort and makes plans to make her happy and cheer her up* A+ Husbanding Jenny's Husband: Anniversary? Who's anniversary? Know what forget it, Im going camping anyways, wish them the best for me. *leaves* I love it when the villain gets stuck with the jerk and the protagonists gets the dream spouse and happy ending. It so rarely happens in real life, or at least outside of r/prorevenge. Happy it worked out for OP, its mutch easier to make better friends than it is to make a better spouse and family.
That was one of my first thoughts, that and he had bad eyesight so didn't see the little spots. Plus guys tend to not notice when things are dirty but women very much do.
