My son's significant other (they have 2 beautiful kids) wants my house and insisted on seeing my will to be sure I willed it to her and not my son. I told my lawyer and he said she has no right to See my will. She went so far as to call my lawyer and demanded to see my will. Will you know how far that went. She hardly ever talks to me. Oh, I forgot, she called my other. Daughter-in-law and asked her to help get me charged with incompetent. That didn't go anywhere either. My daughter-in-law said the court would not declare me incompetent. So a Karen can be in your own family.
@@katie-didellis2437 That's fucked up dude. I hope you keep her out of your will. She would probably try something against you just to get it sooner. Also hope you are doing good after all that shit.
@@siodidio Thank you, I'm fine , there's friction in the family. She avoids all family get-togethers holidays whatever. I'm just sad that it's the way it is. My family was never like That.
I swear, Story 1 is exactly what my mom would totally attempt to facilitate. My mom approached me when I started my first job out of college to require me to open a joint bank account with her, and then have my entire paycheck deposited there so that mom could pay for stuff for her favorite kid. My response was to cackle with laughter and hang tf up. Nearly two decades later, mom tried it again. I had moved to a neighboring state for work, and once more she attempted to resurrect her grand plan of having me direct deposit my paycheck into an account to which my adult, able-bodied, college-educated sister would be given unfettered access. Once again, my response was mirth. I don’t know what goes through their heads. My sister was conditioned to believe that I “owe” her in some obscure manner that has never been made entirely clear to me.
I find it hilarious that the mom in the sister thought Opie was just going to hand over that house like how stupid do you have to be to literally think you would have that type of authority over an adult
On the first story, I don't know why OP didn't just tell her mom that if you want her to have my house so bad for her and her dad come up with the money and let the sniveling daughter make payments to them. Perspective usually changes quite a bit when your reaching into your own pocket and not someone elses.
@@lazarushernandez5827 I would assume that the poor broke sister wants to be independent from the mother's house but still want help regardless any situation
If the plan of the mother and the older sister was for the older sister to get the house and the younger sister to get stuck with the mortgage payments, then how can you trust that the mother would have reliably made the mortgage payments. She could very easily not make the payments and then claim it was because she needed to give the money to the older sister for groceries (or whatever).
First of all, how dare the mother and sister corner her like that to ask what belongs to her and her husband. Like her husband had nothing to do with buy their house and had no say. Totally audacious. The mom was so foul to have the nerve to yell at her. I am glad she decided to leave and told her husband. This would have ruined her husband's good time with her father. This also showed the mother's favoritism and why her older sister has made horrible choices is because mommy gives everything to her and she doesn't have to work for things.
You know, I'm in the same position as that younger sister. My younger brother "upstaged" me, by getting his own house, and even married, earlier than me. And I'm happy for him, and proud of him, because I'm a good brother, and that's what family does. My failings are my own, and he's got nothing to do with it.
Exactly! My sister has gone to school for *years* to become a child psychologist; she may not have a house yet (student loans are killers), but she’ll have one before me. I, on the on other hand, made unfortunate choices for more years than I’d like to admit and had to basically restart at 30🤦🏽♀️. Did my sister steal my dream? No. She’ll just reach hers before I will.🤷🏽♀️ And I’m damn proud of her for that. Because, like you said, that’s what family does (or _should_ do), and it’s what a *good* sibling does. That first story pissed me off! All I was thinking about was “how can that big sister and mom do that to her?!” It was nauseating. My sister wasn’t “lucky” to get where she is; she worked her butt off. I expect to do the same. It’s nice to be given something, but to actually _achieve_ something... now that feels good.
Unfortunately I have experienced this. I am not wealthy, just smart with my money. I worked 60 hours a week while raising two children alone. After becoming financially comfortable. I purchased a new car. I put my old car up for sale. A cousin came by to look at the car but never mentioned buying it. I receive a call a day later from my grandmother (living in another state) asking if I will give my old car to my cousin because he cannot afford to buy one. I respectfully explain that as a person with two young children I cannot be in the business of giving away cars. My cousin and his mother badgered me to give him the car until I finally sold it to a stranger.
First story: If the mother thought thought that it was such a good idea for OP to give her house to her sister, the mother should have bought it from OP,, put the sister's name on the deed and then experienced what happened when the sister and her husband couldn't afford all of the monthly fees.
Wow! First story: "Hey, I might consider *selling* you this place IF the money's right. But just *give* it to you? While I continue to pay the mortgage and the other expenses? Tell you what...when you and Mom both get out of rehab and have been "clean" for at least six months, we'll talk. But not about this, I'm NOT gonna just give you my house, clear? In any case, don't bother to contact me as long as you're passing the crack pipe and coming up with this kind of lunacy."
The mother in the first story knows if the younger sister did do that with her house, the older sister would never pay her a dime for it. Then older sister would lose it anyway because she can't afford all the HOA fees and the land taxes, so there goes the house. I think the mom doesn't like the younger sister very much. God, I can hear it: "MOOOOM!!! Make her put MY name on the deed to her house! It's not FAIR"!!! "Yes, baby, don't worry, Mommy will fix everything".
The first story pissed me off more then the second,especially since it had the enabling mother.Op's sister needs to learn that nobody owes her a dam thing!If she want's a house and all the things that come along with it she would take the necessary steps toward it,such as getting a decent job (and staying with it for a long time) same with her husband,saving money,taking steps to fix her credit,etc.Nobody is going to do that for her.
1st story: If that was my sister I would of told her "Here's an idea! Get up off your ass and make something of yourself! Quit leaching off other people and be responsible for once." 2nd story: I honestly thought he was just going to put the old carpet back down and piss her off. I laughed when he just moved out and left her with the mess that was awesome!
Someone made a great comment in regards to the first story. Have the parents pay OP, and let the entitled sister pay them back. Attitudes change upon perspective.
@Gerard Rietdijk Let's see... Bigger tax checks, more welfare... Yeah, some folks can make a small fortune around tax time. Not the way I would live though.
"we need to sell the house to buy the new place anyway", yet they kept insisting after that head strong argument. They asked for more than just a handout, they asked for complete sacrifice on all aspects of life
My parents bought a house for my entitled sister and her husband to live in, just paying minimal rent while they saved for their own house. Entitled BIL decided the house wasn’t good enough, it was an old two bedroom that Dad was intending on renovating, he had actually started by dividing the second huge bedroom into two. Wasn’t good enough start for BIL, so he not only ripped the carpet up but the floorboards too, leaving one of the rooms completely unusable. Dad had to fork out to buy new flooring and carpeting.
Dude family is so shitty sometimes, my horrible sister is like this. She is literally one more freak out from being blocked on everything which is funny because that’s her go to threat. Sometimes you have to just shake loose the shit
Sometimes you just have to back away from family. Simply because they are blood doesn’t mean your life has to be miserable because of them. Some people never learn this and become bitter themselves 😕
On the first story OP should have said "What a great idea. Mom, you need to cosign a loan so sister can get the house. That way, I'm not losing money, sister gets her house and everyone wins". When Mom refuses, then OP can put it on her. "I'm willing to do it, but Mom won't let it happen".
🏆 "The award for best joke/comment goes to ........ @Dave 522"! Lol, I don't understand how or why people think this type of behavior is ok/reasonable, but you can't reason with unreasonable people!
The first ones plan wouldn't have worked. All mortgages from a bank have a clause that the loan is accelerated and immediately due if title changes. So they would have had to pay the entire mortgage in one lump sum.
I’m sure the sister wanted to formaly have the title under OP’s name still. Considering how she thought she could manipulate her like that, I doubt she would have been worried about having the house in her own name.
Mom has no idea how real estate works. The buyer gets a loan, the seller gets the equity in lump sum, and that becomes the seller's down payment. That said, who has a $2500 mortgage payment and ends up in a double wide?
I’m still sorting out why I had to pay for my own clothes growing up and my mom would buy some for my sister because she didn’t want my sister to feel bad. Same went for other stuff and later a car. She even bought her the exact same model and make as mine! One difference, my dad checked out my car thoroughly and it was sound. My mom had a friend who knew nothing about cars and she asked him to check out the car and bought it for my sister. Turns out the shifty dealer had spray painted the engine black and it was a lemon. Me? I still smile an evil smile when I think of it!
I would say in the story where the mom wants to give the sisters house to the older one and I would say after "you stole my dream" "well maybe you can do your dream if you get off your a** and work, go to college and do your dream"
honestly i would turn on the mom with either a "why dont you give her your house then? its much cheaper and im sure you'd love to have your grandchildren grow up in the family home~" or "well since you say shes in financial trouble why dont you pay the mortgage for her?~" basically watch her backpedal so hard she be leaving skid marks
@@mrroboshadow or maybe continue badgering her daughter saying that her other daughter would pay... It's possible, and man, people like these makes me facepalm so hard.
Even better "Wow, I like what you've done!" and proceeded to go on like he was enjoying just not having carpet and planned to just leave the floor bare
the flooring story title makes me think, if I get a house I'm putting in real wood flooring then topping that with other floorings as if someone buys the house after and decides to rip up the flooring like that then surprise, nice wood flooring...
@Gerard Rietdijk Right. I had hardwood. I covered it with a nice laminate (because I have dogs and kids). I mop it every week or two, and it's great. Having to do that much maintenance on your floors is the exact opposite of "easy to take care of"
These Reddit stories are my guilty pleasure. I say that I feel guilty because each story is a slightly deeper look into the human condition, and how unbelievably bad we are (some of us, anyway) at conducting our lives. I've coined a term for how this makes me feel: The Arc of Disenchantment. The more I read the more I realize there's no brakes on this car, people will do damn near anything to others, be they loved ones or perfect strangers. DarkFluff, you do a wonderful job of showing people at their absolute worst.
OP mother is acting like how a grandmothers(not all) act towards their grandchildren, they spoiled them rotten because they are not responsible for the outcome.. OP mother agreeing with OP sister because if the deed is done, whether or not they pay OP is not OP mother responsibility anymore.
Keep the mortgage in her name, but sign the house over to her sister??? I don't think the mortgage company would even allow that to happen. The only POSSIBLE solution might be rent-to-own, but I would recommend against that because you already know they cannot afford it.
Second story: Louisiana is a community property state. New carpeting would have cost less than half of $250K+. And because the windfall came after they were married, I doubt if they had a prenup.
idk what the divorce laws are like in Louisiana but inheritance money is usually exempt from any divorce settlements as its not seen as a windfall which means she would have gotten jack shit from him as he had from the sounds of it nothing before he received his inheritance
@davon Garcia shut the hell up if you think he sounds like a kid why does that matter, if you don’t like how he sounds then don’t watch because it is better to lose a viewer then to gain a hater
So, back in the 80's I bought my oldest son a motorcycle for $600. A few years later he outgrew it and the other kids weren't old enough. Sister called and said she wanted it. I said no. Next time I was out she came and took it. Dad said well you aren't using it. Story of my life. Should have charged her.
@@blueberrycupcake5144 Of course not, although things would be different now. I'm sure it all would have been my fault since I said 'no'. Sometimes the depth of the abuse and the scapegoat training shocks me.
This happened to us but only rental complex. My sister knew we were looking for a two bedroom apartment in area with good schools. She showed us one in her building. It was perfect Location and price! We loved it! When the management was interested in leasing to us my sister became angry and said I need this two bedroom for me and my home office. My family was like just let her have it you have kids and she's alone with her cats. We eventually found another place and my sister is still there stuck and lonely. I stole my sister's dream too ...getting married and having a kid.
Buying a home is a long term financial responsibility. To give a home away? Is that sister on drugs? I can afford a house, but if I give it away while still being responsible to pay of the loan. And when that's done, I'll have nothing to show for that money spent. I would be in financial ruin! The mother was essentially asking her younger daughter to go fuck up her life so her older daughter can get house for free, which that older daughter will ultimately lose.
Stories like this make me glad I don't have a sister. I had two brothers and the baby brother always got what he wanted. Not any more. Parents passed away. Oldest brother passed away last year(drugs) and I'm not supporting him. He is a drink and sometimes does drugs too. If he wanted anything, he could have got it if he had quit drinking so much. I am the oldest and female. I'm 67 and worked all my adult live except a couple of years and I raised 4 wonderful children, mostly on my own. Love my life now. Love the grands and greatgrands and travel.
"Husband! I want to buy a new carpet!" Said the EM "Yea, use my money from the bank!" The husband responded She ended up buying a carpet made out of animals's skins that is on the verge of extinction
Solution for first case: OP: Well, if you think that's a good idea, then fine, we can do it mom... Sis: Yay. Thank you thank you thank you OP: Better go tell my husband though, mind waiting here, as it might get a bit heated. Mom: ok dear. OP: Thanks. Hey dad, mom wants to buy my old house. She says that sis needs a better home and that she wants to transfer the title of your home into sis's name but still pay the mortgage on it, then move you and her into my old home. Dad&Mom: WHAT!?! OP: isn't that what you asked me? Cause I know you wouldn't have been so demeaning as to suggest I pay for the mortgage, taxes and OHA on two homes, just so my older sister doesn't have to get a job....
A friend not me. Weddings are expensive but you have to do them in Eastern Europe and invite everyone. My friend asked his family and they said they can't afford it because they have to spend money on his sister going to medical school. He made a bank loan and organised on his own as much as possible. At the wedding he found out his mother was asking people to give her the money envelopes (a ways for family and community to help newlyweds). He had to tell everyone to only give money to him and his wife. After the wedding his mother asked him to give her all the money to give it to the sister. I mean they took a loan for this... the audacity of some people .... he said no, of course.
OMG, The first story is my mother-in-law. Yeah, guess who taught sissy how to be entitled. I don't think if there is still a mortgage on it , you can transfer the deed to the sister.
On the first story, being envious of people who are more successful than you, doesn't make your life better. The best way to make your life better is to make better life choices. Also, even if the crybaby sister could afford the mortgage payment, the OP and her husband keeping the mortgages of their original home and new home in their names would have serious consequences to their credit. The type of people who come up with schemes like this are too ignorant and too irresponsible to think about the consequences.
I can’t with that sister, my gosh. Her thinking that outside forces that have nothing to do with her are “stealing her dreams” shows an incredible lack of independence. She’ll never get anything with that mentality, and it’s not her sister’s responsibility to make that up for her.
The father in the last story did the right thing. If someone destroys/ruins something thinking, "If I ruin it, they'll have to buy me a new one!" you never buy them a new one. You either buy them nothing or buy them a replacement much worse than the original; you don't ever reward their disgusting shakedown attempt.
If the mortgage was $2500/mo. And their annual income was $25K, they couldn’t even come close to keeping up on payments. Their entire income would still see them two months short annually. Just with mortgage, taxes and HOA, they would fall into arrears $7300 per year even if their money went to nothing else (like food, utilities, etc.) The “plan” was preposterous from its inception.
OP should have said "Well, the problem is, it's MY dream to mooch off my sister and make her give me her house! So if I give you YOUR dream, you'll be taking MINE. Can you see the conflict?"
I CANNOT BELIEVE this is even real!!! that sister is just beyond selfish, entitled and RIDICULOUS! How can you expect ANYONE to pay anything for you and your family !! Ugh and that mother....she should be ashamed of herself also.
"Me and my husband work so hard" obviously not if he's making 25k, I was making chump change like that a couple years after high school, her husband is needs to get a better job or is he one of those people that are like" I've worked at this company for 10 years and they haven't gave me a raise, I love my job so they should pay me more, I shouldn't have to find a place that pays me more."
That's how my sister is 2017 I went to Mexico with my for almost two months and when I got back my sister said to my mom thats no fair how come he gets to Mexico and I can't im thinking to myself your inn your 40s living with mom and you don't have a job🤦
If I were OP. I would have just moved out and leave the sniveling sister to a bunch of bills and an unpaid mortgage. Take my name off it and give em' full ownership. Give her a taste of how the real world works. I'm petty like that lol.
I have this with my younger sister. She suddenly wanted to go to medical school and without any plan at that. The problem is my father is growing old and make less money than at his younger age . he work as palm oil tree labour and make at most 300USD/month. Knowing this, my sister insists on applying to medical school (apparently her friend also apply into med school) and expects me to pay her college since I'm the oldest sibling. Not that I don't want to help, I barely make my end meet as a 2nd year teacher with 350USD income and I save up some because I want to take my master degree. She decided that I should sacrifice my dream and help my father financially send her to medical school. I know that people have dream and its only right to fight for it, but it doesn't mean someone else have to make sacrifice for you. We know how expensive med school is and even if I combine my income and my dad's, I don't think it will cover it. So now she's mad at me and I don't plan to make up with her either. I really hope she'll find her way maybe like getting scholarship or something.
The second story: I am actually kinda impressed with the wife in being able to tear up all the carpets in a house while he was gone at work. My partner and I bought a house and we ripped out the carpets before moving in because they were gross. It was a lot of work but made easier without our stuff in the house yet.I can only imagine the work to do that while having to move your stuff around.
In post with sister the problem is the mother that enables the sister to act entitled. My parent gave me very little and told me that if i want it, i work for it. 20yrs later im finally on solid ground and able to do for my family that i have always been wanting to do.
My brother & I moved to Florida from Connecticut with our parents around 30 years ago. We each had plans to move out of that godforsaken state after our parents passed. His dream was to move to Maine. Which I always thought was a good idea. Anyway, he & his wife eventually bought their “forever home” in Florida. I have since moved to a beautiful spot in Maine. And apparently I have somehow robbed him of his dream. I explained to him that now he has the best of both worlds. He now has a legit reason to come visit here anytime he wants. And he can still live in Florida with his wife. Anyway, he will get over it. 🤷🏻♂️
