r/NotLikeOtherGirls - "The Superior Female" ✨💅 

YaY :p

Yayayay

:D

When will mango be permanent

Thank god- my sister has been wanting one for a very long time 🙂🖐

At first I thought you wish women never got rights, but i understood now... I wish i didn't

Insecurity, one is just teenage insecurity but they grow out of it, while the other is women with a teenage mindset while in adulthood.

Lmao yeah it's wild. I think the reason why this subreddit always has so much content is because young women and girls want to feel individualized rather than stereotyped with all the typical feminine stuff like dresses and makeup, but they all pick the same things and have thus created a whole new stereotype. So in order to escape the "emo/goth tomboy gamer girl" stereotype that has been created by edgy teenage girls trying to be different they've decided to go towards 50s housewife instead. My sister and I had drastically different personalities, she was more feminine and liked to do her nails meanwhile I was a tomboy who liked to play videogames and mostly wore my brother's old clothes that were too small for him, but I never saw a reason to hate on her for that difference lmao. I hated skirts and dresses as a kid but I enjoy wearing them occasionally as an adult just because I'm in the mood to be a bit more feminine These girls fr just don't understand that you can be different without making your entire personality revolve around being different, and you'd think that after enough memes like these they'd realize that they, in fact, _are_ like other girls lmao

Yeah, it seems much more extreme than back in my day in the mid 2000s

I have the suspicion that some of these posts people from men.

Especially if you check how long do desks even exist.

So true 😌and sad 😞

Absolutely not. Sciatica, much.

You tell 'em 👍🏻

Yes they are supposed to work a 24/7 job and not be paid or appreciated in any way /s

Yeah! What is happening? Everything is flipped to its head. Nuts.

(apologies in advance for my english, my sentence might be poorly worded) I think whenever there's a new trend, or more like something that's generally common that becomes popular among girls/women of specific age, they get stereotyped based on that trend and girls who don't want to be put in the same box as the rest in order to avoid getting stereotyped by men, they present themselves as the opposite. A couple years ago, let's say in 2016-18, super bold, bronze makeup with thick brows was the trend, watching makeup artists on youtube was quite popular, a lot of girls would bleach their hair and use fake tan (and they ate that up fr) so those who wanted to be different from the rest and would portray themselves as the black sheep, nobody understands them etc would say stuff like "i'm not like other girls, i don't wear makeup and i listen to heavy metal" idk just an example. But going from 2020 and forward there was a big rise in women who would open up an OF account as an opportunity to make more money (that was during covid when a lot of people lost their jobs so taking on an online side hustle was a great way to make money fast) and then there was the rise of Andrew Tate who would preach about being a sigma male werewolf who rides into the sunset on his badass motorcycle or wtv and he would preach about trad gender roles, shit on western women which influenced a surprising amount of guys, especially those lonely guys who have no friends no father no mother no bitches no job no hobbies and NOW women who want to appeal to those men and put other women down in order to win brownie points from the boys like to portray themselves as God loving trad wives who think modern feminism is a mistake and women should only appeal to men. Even though the entire point of modern feminism is to be able to make the choice for yourself- like nobody's stopping you for living a traditional lifestyle if that's what speaks to you. Anyway sorry for the extra long comment

Everything is a reactionary grift these days. Right-wingers get bilked at every turn by anyone who has an in and no principles. It's this weird rightoid economy system that gets fed from the top by billionaires who want to not be taxed and hate minorities. So they employ any group that professes those ideas and you get a race to the fringe with ever more extreme statements to stand out from the sea of grifters. With the open collaboration of Christian institutions, conservative politicians and fascist demagogues, you see an increasingly solid front of right-wing counter-culture that dictates every aspect of your life on the right. And you go down the food chain of political advocation, you end up with trad wife influencers who hawk the delusion that a stay-at-home life in luxury is achievable or easy, and not isolating and fostering abuse. Because there is a stupid loser guy who wants to be pandered to, no matter what platform you're on. Trad wife influencers did not just happen. They are produced by a concerted effort on the right to take over the nation and turn it into a Christo-Fascist dictatorship.

@@vickokciv No, that makes some sense. And I like that it can be boiled down to "Blame Andrew Tate". Cuz really, the dude is awful. Any opportunity I get to make fun of him, I will take gladly.

Anything to be different! 😂

Its funny because my mom is Stay at Home and most definitely a believer and defender of woman's rights. It was just her personal choice because she would rather spend time with us. She's still incredibly strong and most definitely not a ''traditional submissive wife''. Our dad often cooks the meals when he comes back from work early enough 😜 And she (and I) are always the ones constructing new furniture in the house, because we're way more patient and better with it than him. Its just a very healthy house where everyone deals with what they do best and can live their lives like they want.

Not if its a gentleman's farm that your husband owns. Then you hire people to do the dirty work and get to live that cottegecore lifestyle

​@Estarile that sounds awful and fake just like the pick me's.

I would love to take this kind of women to work on an actual farm. They have some romanticized image of farm work, like you prance around in a dress petting cows in a sunny field and give them a hand full of hay every now and then. Wonder how long they would actually last in a real farm. "Here is a shovel, Betty, and there is a pile of manure. Off you go!

​​@@SusirajantakaaLOL or put her to work "assisting" cows giving birth

@@D_McGeezacks Oh hell yeah! Covered in pee, poo, blood, goo and slime 😁Not to mention how physically hard work it can be.

Today, used the be the obly option, no onw would have paid a woman. Changed during the great depression, wich was waaaay easier to live through then the current depression meaning even then, work was a choice for women

Well, it was a lot more feasible back in the 50's. Maybe not _everyone_ could pull it off, but _more_ people could. If only minimum wage went up with the rate of production, then we might not have as shit of an economy around here... EDIT: I feel like I might need to pre-emptively clarify that I don't really care much for the "traditional housewife" shtick. Just pointing out economy stuff, really. If you wanna be a stay-at-home housewife, more power to ya, but if you don't, that's also perfectly acceptable!

Why do you think it's called a "Tradwife"?

Yeah it sounds nice to stay at home to take care of children, too Bad i'm poor

My mom didn't get a job cuz she is an empowered feminist, she got it so we can pay for stuff, cuz her and my dad's pay together is hardly enough, imagine if only one of them worked. This antifeminists in america really piss me off cuz women getting jobs is rather a normal thing in 90% of the world and isn't done by "girl boss" feminists, rather.... everyone.... people just need jobs ffs, if u hate getting a job, that's cuz capitalism is fucked and no one like working in this environment, not cuz "women shouldn't work"

Also y'all underestimate what it actually takes to live on a homestead

@@detected_chaos735 I dunno I played stardew valley and it seems pretty easy \s

The history of the women's suffrage movement in the USA and England is fascinating and deeply enmeshed in class-- most of the leaders and most visible members of the movement were middle-class women who had the leisure time to devote to the cause. Working class women definitely were willing to fight for the vote but their efforts were often rejected by middle class activists because they thought it was bad optics. In the US that went double for black women. It is really interesting, messy history

Women's rights in America was a big struggle up until the 80s and although it's petered out a lot America still has some cultural sexism and misogyny still persists. I think people forget that America is not at full equality yet.

For sure. The only time I've ever felt the need to "un-alive myself" was when I was a stay at home mom.

Oh absolutely, they want a hobby farm at the very most 😂🇨🇦

Exactly,farm women or country women are majorly tough ,fearless,very strong phisically and mentally.They handle strong animals,usually know how to use guns. The list could go on and on. They still are feminine and beautiful inside and outside. But this trad wife youtubers do not show it like it is.

Farm women have always been badass, generations ago they may have not driven trucks but they were still tough no nonsense work horses. Honestly, a 9 to 5 office job is leisure life compared to that.

It’s like how Marie Antoinette having a farm to roleplay being a peasant

@@astra6137 omg don't bring marie into this, she still is better than the ridiculous women in this video 😞

I'd read that thesis!

Oh please do!!

I support that so much

I'd read that paper

Wish you luck writing the thesis!!!

💯

Exactly, like, I’m lesbian and have friends of all types of genders and yet I have no interest in them AT ALL other than friendship, not everyone is a cheating pos

Exactly! And they always assume you must be promiscuous, which is irrational because at the same time girls who hang out with guys are stereotyped as tomboyish (and men just want feminine women 🙃). I for example have more guy friends than girl friends as a girl and I'm still a virgin.

im omnisexual, (pansexual but im not fully genderblind basically) and i still have friends of all genders without wanting anything more than a friendship 😭

​@@shesupallnightilthesun I also have many more guy friends than I do girl friends, and I feel the same way.

You don't have time to do frolicking on a farm, even when you're actively going through the marshy muddy fields looking for that one dang sheep.

23:45 I'm not sure she knows what the term "pillow princess" means.

@@aidennevada243 Well I just learned a new term today 0.0.

Farming is a damn near 24 hour job. Source: I live next to farmers

I think she went apple picking once and decided that that's what farming is like

Best of both worlds. They get to do anything without any accountability while somehow also deserving respect.

​@@emjakos3548describes red pill fanatics for sure! Don't forget women are to blame for every social ill

Yes, they are strong and logical which is why us silly women must follow their logical leads because we're too emotional teehee. But also excuse his adultery because he was overwhelmed with lust.

people with no boundaries have to have mental dissonance to survive it gives them dementia in their old age though

​@@timetolive8828, yeah... that's _not_ what causes dementia.

I've never seen someone fantasize about farm life that actually understood how farm life works. They think they can get up at 9am and basically let the land manage itself. 😂 they always think they'll be working 40 hours a week on the farm at MOST! They dont understand how much farmland it would take to fully provide for a full household, how much work goes into that, how much work would go into selling the excess (even if its just farmer's markets and not a contract with a large food distributor). They would not survive a DAY on a real farm.

They want the cottagecore aesthetics of a backyard garden they can show on social media, but think farm is the way to do it.

This is straight up TRUTH

Seriously :'D Anyone who says they're going to milk cows in a pretty dress imagines some idealized poster of a pinup milkmaid or something, having like one cow in a cutesy wooden barn. I imagine the reality of it is more like "We have 35 cows in this huge modern barn, it is 5 am and me, my husband and our two workers are starting with guiding the cows to the milking units, we need to get this shit done by 6 so we have time to clean the enclosures". Also I've driven by farmland, and you don't have to be close to the cows to know what the smell is like. I've also been to a barn and it's quite pungent, although you do get used to it pretty fast. I'd say a pretty dress, while it might brighten your mood, will be super impractical, get stuck on things and probably get chewed on by a cow, and be dusty and smeared with feces by the end of the shift :D

Yeah, they want to be Marie Antoinette during her 'royal shepherdess' period or what we call today the cottagecore aesthetics. The reality is that, if you want fresh eggs for breakfast, you have to get up early (ideally before the rooster, cause he'll want to kill you for trying to steal his unborn children), before sunrise. Then you have to walk into the chicken coop and try to get rid of the chickens who laid eggs. Then you have to collect the stil warm and smelly eggs full of poo and try to sneak them into the house without the mother hen noticing and start a riot that will bring in the rooster (who then will try to kill you). Once inside the house you have to clean those eggs and especially your hands, so you won't die from bacteria from the poop. And then you have to make breakfast with those eggs, hoping sincerely that they are fresh, and not some eggs you overlooked like a week ago and where a half developed chicklet fetus will pop out from. And that's the first 15 minutes of an average farmer morning, if you have the absolutely non cottagecore aesthetically conform luxury of electricity, tab water and gas/heat.

Same, I used to faint in high school and had to take a whole week of every month. It only got better when I started taking BC a few years ago.

Same same, I feel like I can actually survive the cycle instead of curled up in a ball in my room crying due to pain. Plus I really hate these people who are like "No birth control!!" "Okay so if I get pregnant and don't want a child rn, I'll get it terminated" "OH MY GOD YOU MURDERER!!!!" like, bish I was TRYING not to get here but you said no to birth control, tf???

​@mactepok31want a cookie ?

​@yoplaitonasme1454 can I get a rainbow cookie 🥺 I want a sweet one

​@@loreyxillumina I don't have rainbow cookies, but I have strawberry funfetti cake with cream cheese vanilla frosting, wanna piece?

while drinking juice in the hood, I bet

*sisfist (Like a brofist, only clean)

Star Wars: The Girlboss Menace

Girl same

So you *are* like most girls 🤨

I agree

also let's not forget that they're not even trad wives. they're influencers, they work and they earn money, they have a job. they just pretend to be in a 1950s commercial, none of it is real or has ever been real.

Also, did you know that in a calculation done by the American "Ms." Maganize, they estimated that between housework and taking care of children, housewives in the 70s worked 99+ hours ON AVERAGE. And many people doing the survey said that when they went to bed, there was no; "I got everything I wanted to do done today." It was always "I'm always going to bed worrying about when I need to do tomorrow and ect....

Noticed that in the first one!

“husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church” I love this because it adds wayyyyyy more depth to the love in a marriage. Each should be willing to die for eachother, just how Jesus died for the people in His Church.

@@BrennaButcher Not just that, die for her if she hates him. “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us”. This is a high bar of love, not an excuse to control another person.

​@@catlover2223 That's an excellent point. I'm going to have to remember that.

And also the fact that it's a old books written by men during a time that you could be married off to a man older than you... But yeah also taking any quote out of context that can change the meaning entirely is not supporting your belief

Exactly...how they tell us they've never done a single day of working on a real farm, without telling us.....🙄.

I was wondering that too 😂😂 the amount of dust, gross bugs, spiky little pieces of hay that get everywhere, sticky in sweat and sunblock, washing shit off your rubber boots and constant laundry + showers to get the barn smell off... Not something you would want to do in a summer dress and sandals.

I remember going on a field trip to a farm back in kindergarten and then it got interrupted by a rain storm. It was a lot messier than they think it is.😑

Also, farm women aren't tiny, skinny, or dressed in pristine white dresses and sun hats, they're absolutely ripped and covered in dirt most of the time, and I love it

"I don't want to have to work, I want to live on a farm." Girl, living on a farm is work beyond your comprehension and definitely beyond the hours of a 9 - 5.

Literally. I'd never wanna date a dude 10 years my senior ew (I'm 18).💀

@@Slayy05asame fr, that’s sickening whoever thinks men looking to date women that much younger than them have issues.

At that age i and girls my age would refer to 30 y.o dudes as old men.The ones who tried to hit on me caused me so much cringe.

@@sunsetanimator4187 To me as long as both are legally adults and there is no grooming or controlling or anything like that is fine. I think it’s ridiculous that people have a problem with 30 year old with a 20 year old. I mean if there is problems going on then yeah, but if relationships is healthy and haven’t met less then 18 then fine by me. Some 18-24 year old women are into men in their late 20s/early 30s. My only problem is that men lived shorter than women. I do have a problem if the age gap is old enough to be your parent.

There’s nothing wrong with 30s dating 18-24, but when they only want women 18-25/29 then I see it as a problem.

I'm curious what you mean by old school feminist?

@@rondrajaeev2957 The "Woman should have the same right as men" kind, I assume. Not the "Women need more power and be the better men" type, that a lot of people think about, if feminism is mentioned nowadays, because those "feminists" are the loud ones.

​@@Leshantra By definiton they aren't feminists. Feminism is and has always been about equality. This is like a mest ester calling themselves vegetarian and everyone hating on vegetarianism. The hypocrite here is the meat eater, not the entire life style or world view.

@@Leshantra I hate how the narrative has swapped over the last few years. Lots of posts nowadays that mention feminism are filled with replies that talk about the difference between „old school“ and „new feminism?“. I never got that because of all the hours I spend browsing on the internet I have not seen a shift in how most women demand equal rights. But all of these comments are convinced that there has been a huge shift in feminism, which I genuinely have never seen. Can you link me some of your resources that track a shift in how the broader public conduct themselves in regards of feminism.

Feminism is still about the equality of all genders it’s just that people try to reframe the meaning and claim “FeMiNiSm is RUNING our society 😭😭”

that's so sweet! i hope it comes out beautifully!

Oooo good luck!!!

That’s so wholesome!

That's really cutee!!! gud luck

Hell yeah! Palaeontology is awesome!

Just saying, the moment those kids turn 18, they are leaving, cuz they will get sick of the venting, trauma dumping, overbearing, and their mom constantly wanting to do everything together. Humans are social creatures, and if u limit ur social circle to people who are forced to spend time with u, it will get really bad

aka parentification lmao like yeah your kids are supposed to be your friends /s

​@@aleksabanjevic8316 that is if they get out of it relatively healthy. They could also never have learned to do the basic adult things on their own and now afraid to leave

@@tomlxyz it's sad how true this is as well, deprograming from that can be extremely difficult as well

That broad should look up Ed Gein

Seriously. The "difference" is that THEIR "powers" come from "yahweh".

Thank you. There is absolutely no biblical reason to do that.

somehow this is worse than weebs wanting to go to Japan expecting life would be like a Slice of Life anime Jesus Christ, what's wrong with these people?

@@crypticlol They're trying to live a lifestyle based on TV-commercials? Which if you think about it, is absolutely _unhinged._ I can tell you, from stories that my parents and aunts tell of growing up in the 1950s, that life _WAS NEVER LIKE_ what these "tRaDiTiOnAl FaMiLy" people think it was - _or_ anything like the 1950s TV shows, for that matter. That whole, "It takes a village," thing? Yeah, _that_ is how people lived: In _communities._ Even in the cities or the suburbs, you had _neighborhoods_ that acted socially in the same way that small villages did. Also, Capitalism hadn't torn apart extended families yet, so people still had aunts, uncles, great-aunts&uncles, grandparents, etc. still living relatively nearby. Nuclear families _aren't healthy._ Not for the kids. Not for the parents. It puts too much pressure on too few people. The _only_ time in history and across cultures when a "father+mother+kids"-family works is *_in the aristocracy_* … when that "family" also was independently wealthy and had an entire staff supporting them [if not actually doing most of the work of raising the kids].

These people have no clue what they are talking about and obviously never spent much time around women who actually lived through their supposed glory days. The crap they are going on about never was reality.

You can't explain that to them though, their brains can't handle it 😂

THIS!!!!!!

Her face actually looks like she wants to cry, imo. If someone told me her husband took those pictures of her and posted them with those quotes, I would believe it.

She looks and writes like she came straight out of Stepford. It's so creepy and concerning.

I don’t usually judge but it almost sounds like a submission kink… so okay glad it works for you but that’s a hard pass for me😅

@@rosequartzjewelryllc Aye... I guess, if it's not a demand but actually something you've both agreed to and both enjoy or are fully comfy with and either one of you could nope out at any time without judgment or retaliation, fine-but otherwise, naahhhh.

​@@rosequartzjewelryllc the way she presents herself on her channel is also giving me kink vibes. Fishing for views from a certain demographic

No need to be ashamed - most of us are raised to care about what other people think, to buy into the idea that being beautiful and popular are top priorities. IDK about you, but I did aspire to be part of the popular kids' cliques until high school, when I realized that I would never fit in with or be accepted into that crowd, stopped trying, and went in the opposite direction. This was the early 90's, so I was all about the grunge - flannels, concert T's, long skirts, combat boots, as much black as possible, absolutely no pink...basically going out of my way to be weird and unattractive vs. making an attempt and risking rejection. Then somewhere along the way, I threw off the shackles of giving a fuck about what anyone else thought & embraced just being myself without regard to what "categories" I belonged to, and life became much more tolerable. Everyone is an individual, and at the end of the day, we're all just people. Competition and judgment are pointless in this context, though I can't say that I don't get judgey and borderline self-righteous at times, nobody's perfect (& some people do genuinely suck)😜

I kinda was a pick me, without any Intention of getting picked, since I Had Just as much Feeling of alienation with the Boys AS with the girls. IT was Not the girls stuff I did Not vibe with but the whole Teenage experience and messed Up priorities. I do Not Like WHO was Back then, but my Independence did me some good AS in never gotten into Alkohol, cigarets or Other drugs or neglecting school . . . .i am pretty immune to Pier pressure AS far AS one can BE, but I regret the disdain. I Just compleatly Lack all understanding forntheir Appeal and Had to learn I do Not have to to Just Accept IT without judgment

Same thing here,watched those teen dramas in early age and thought hating other girls would be cool. Used to hate pink color,make up,girl dresses (only wore boys clothes),hated anything womanly and many more . Now after all these years I sit in the corner cringing like heck everytime i remember those times 😬

yeah, i was a 'im not like other girls' a few years ago, but uh, tahts bc im a gay, im trans, and uh.... i had body dysphoria with anxiety and celiac and was taught bad things abt girls by disney

In middle school and a bit in high school I was bullied by your sterotypical mean girls so I developped a bias against girls with a lot of make up and expensive clothes and was bordering on being a pick me... :/ Now I am on a point were I am going to feel a little bit arkward at first but I don't think my way of spending my money is "better" than theirs I just can't relate (maybe because I used to be broke af lol)

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Preach

Exactly! Your comment is genius. While some women may find staying at home more enjoyable, it's definitely not less stressful.

My mom was only stay at home while I was little. She ended up needing to get a job and worked for most of my childhood/young adulthood.

You actually forgot about breastfeeding 😅 Depending on the baby it can take 10mn or fcking hours

Exactly. I both believe this dress how you want is a thing that everyone should follow and I do dress how I want it just happens to be that I like wearing maxi dresses. The exception to this is when it's too hot to wear that because wearing something long sleeved to your ankles when it's 100° out is just a great way to get heat stroke

Christians in a nutshell

Except that they are not even in a true dom/sub relationship but the Christian forced version

Is pegging my husband an acceptable dom/sub relationship ?

Quite literally what it is. I'm personally convinced the whole "Tradwife" thing is a fetish that just became popular in the 50s, and just gets called "Traditional" because a lot of powerful Politicians/Pastors personally find it appealing.

It's really weird how they don't seem to get that different ppl like/want different stuff. Like, there's nothing wrong with being a house wife, ppl just don't like that that was the only option is all. A lot of conservatives seem to think that more options is somehow taking away their options, that more rights for others means less righs for them, almost like they think rights and freedom are a limited resource and if one group wants it, then another will loose them.

Yeah, pretty Dresses are kinda the wrong attire for a Farm . . . I Love Dresses and historically one would have worn one working on a Farm, but they would have been robust and the apron has to BE changed and washed all the time . . . .No dizzy bows and pretty pastels.

I’m convinced they can’t tell the difference between an actual farm and just a cottage in the woods. “Well it’s all rural so it must be the same right??” Honey, no🤦 Pretty sure people like this just want like. A decent sized house in the woods with a garden- _maybe_ a chicken coop too-within walking distance to a farmer’s market. Like they just want to be the kind of rich people who choose to have mansions in rural parts with lots of surrounding land that they own. Their clear misunderstanding of what hard work is makes that much clear, it reeks of rich people wanting to “slum it with the peasantry”

Frolic in the fields in a dress and come out with twenty ticks

I’m convinced they’ve never been to an actual farm. All you smell is animal 💩 everywhere you go

Because they're rich and privileged and never had to do manual labour once in their lives, if they watched Yellowstone or something they'd see how much less glamorous agricultural and ranching actually is. Women always worked, at least the lower and middle class ones it's only the elites who could afford to not work and be pampered and stay at home with their kids all day.

Yeah, I'm on it for hormone control because off it, I'm like unable to get out of bed due to how tired I am. Also, as a fellow trans person, Hi!

@@Dragonkitty_101 hello! I’m glad we both have positive experiences ^^

My control pill which gives a "fake period" made my "period" regular for the first time in my life. I can function the first day and I'm less anxious about unwanted children. Me and hub are not ready yet but I still have severe anxiety, even when the contraceptive is working I sometimes buy a test to be sure. But it does help with the level of anxiety

They do know and they don't care at all how much pain you are in and they definitely don't want you to use it as gender affirming care. Glad you have access to it for any and every reason you need it 💜

I take birth control as an adhd med, I haven't even seen anyone's naughty parts yet 😂

Most of them are rich women who have a cleaning service that comes in and cleans and the others are grifters who are either single or married and have no kids

My parents were high energy. Even if mom not in a traditional job she would be at home preparing to sell things for fairs and made me come along haul milk to businesses as a kid. Kids did daily chores, she used financial knowledge for home and business did the emergency deliveries, dad did cooking and meeting because he’s social. Everyone had a cleaning schedule that changed the longer they stayed home. We weren’t scared of being home alone because we could work or do homework until parents got home then family time.

An important caveat here is that men are generally bad at lifting their weight in terms of home tasks, so working women wind up doing a lot of the domestic work anyway. Being a tradwife does involve a lot of work but if you have to do that work either way I can see why it seems easier than working a 9-5 on top

@mactepok31lgnt 💀💀😭

Yup. A comment mentioned above said the "pick me" is a pipeline towards "tradwife" to "boy mom". These women will end up being so miserable that they will take out their self hate onto their own daughters and or future daughter in laws. It's pathetic and sad.

Just curious, but what exactly can the average 40 year old woman provide to the relationship? Unlike women men generally don't care whether or not the woman has money, so it can't be that. 40 isn't really a good age to have children either, which is a much bigger deal for women than it is for men. As someone who's with someone roughly my own age I think you're ignoring the practical aspect of this, and instead straw-manning a few rage-baiters on the internet.

​@@vikingraven4758so the only thing relevant to a relationship are kids? Not let's say something totally unnecessary as love? 🤨

@@vikingraven4758 This is an incredibly suspect thing to say under a comment about how gross it is that people will date someone half their age *just* for sex. The point is to not objectify women, and what did you do? Objectify women. Romantic partners are more than just vending machines you enter kindness tokens into and hope sex or children or even a paycheck pops out. You’re supposed to actually _like_ the person you’re dating, as in you could just be sitting still next to them doing absolutely nothing but you’re still happy because you’re around someone you really like. For someone who claims to be in a romantic relationship, I’m surprised I have to explain the concept of love to you.

​@@lachma26 I think a relationship is an exhausting enterprise, and requires compromise from both parties to work. So unless you’re getting something from it that is more fulfilling than not being in that relationship, then you won’t really feel compelled to enter the relationship to begin with. Love is nice, but I can love you without sleeping or living with you.

@@vikingraven4758 If you say that, then you haven't found the right person. Being in a relationship is the easiest thing in the world. They're your confidante, your best friend, your lover, your biggest supporter and someone who shares your burdens - all in one. So yeah, a 40 yo woman has a lot to offer.

You know, I would LOVE to see them pick apples in a pretty dress for 6 hours during harvest. Or even 3... I also would love love love to see them in a pretty dress enter a greenhouse to water the crops in there. Can I watch. Please? It would be like a 90s step mom coming to a horse ranch and seeing that IRL would be the highlight of a lifetime! I do wish meaner things too but... I am actually a nice person and deep down I do want them to learn what clothing is suitable and not actually spook them off forever, just have a little initiation fun. XD

@@AmbiCahiraYeah, I had to go through a similar situation with my shoes when I started gardening seriously. I knew jeans would be the best thing to wear, but it took a while with shoes. I'm sure I looked real funny for a while there and I don't care because it was funny.

"instead of working myself to death for a 9-5 job" do they not realize that farming takes more time than a 9-5????

@@girl1213 At some point I gave up on shoes, but I also grew up on a more produce-centered "farm" than an animal centered one. So mostly weeding and watering than dodging animal shit.

I have no clothes that I would not wear to get in mud

YES YES YES YESSSSS, FINALY SOMEONE SAID IT. "oh I don't wanna work 12 hours for a boss who treats me badly, I don't get payed for enough and is running my physical and mental health and social life..... Well obviously this is cuz of feminism, obviously only women suffer in a work environment" NO U TARD, IT'S CUZ MODERN CAPITALISM IS FUCKED, NO ONE LIKES IT

Like, they are expireacing first hand how terrible capitalism is, and instead of working together to fix it, they avoid it and blame feminine for "forcing" them to work

Men are strong and lack the emotions to get stressed, obviously /s

It's really funny how they feel how awful capitalism is, but rather than blame the bad system, they blame feminism for "forcing them to work

Right?

My mom is a SAHM, and my dad is on hospice. When he goes, she says she WILL be living with me or my brother. She has no marketable skills and won't be able to keep her house. She can't use a computer, has no friends, and is chronically depressed. It seems "great" when you're young, but time is not kind to a trad wife.

That's insane, where do they expect you to put your trash, do they expect you to drive it to the dump yourself, if you even have a car at all???

I have no idea what laws landlords are reading these days, but it doesn't matter since, like churches, landlords just get to do whatever they want.

"Your kid is not your trophy, people!!" Yep, my parents don't understand this. I can be struggling and they'll complain about what that looks like for their image. I can be dealing with a bunch of health issues and they'll just bitch I'm not giving them enough things to brag about.

"Your kid is not your trophy, people!!" Yep, my parents don't understand this. I can be struggling and they'll complain about what that looks like for their image. I can be dealing with a bunch of health issues and they'll just bitch I'm not giving them enough things to brag about.

Your mother sounds like a very wise woman and a good mother

This is the greenest parenting flag I've ever heard of my God

When my friend saw all of her extended family right after her graduation, her parents got more praise and compliments than her. They also plan their life (studies, marriage, outings)... Raising kids should be selfless and I am glad your mother got that.

It’s so weird how common it is in these videos for these woman to show a lack of understanding towards how hard it is to run a farm. You’d think considering this is the life they want to pursue, they’d atleast do research

Give them one afternoon of mucking horse stalls and they'll never leave their cushy apartment again

Their farm life knowledge limited to Stardew Valley and movies

Not to mention the randomness of being at the mercy of nature. Other things you have to deal with include a lack of rain, pest control (last summer I learned about cabbage moths in my tiny garden), disease showing up in your crops, animals, and family, lack of amenities depending on how far you are from a city, and depending on where you live, large corporations meddling in the area you live (water rights, lawsuits over seed usage, land usage disputes, etc.). Oh, and depending on where you live, good luck finding a plot of land at a price you can actually afford.

I grew up with parents who wanted the 'farm life', but were too lazy to actually do anything beyond buying some chickens and planting a decent sized garden. Sadly, they failed to realise how hard that would be and as such made me tend it all on top of school so yeah... I can't even imagine how hard full on farm or homestead life would be and i can tell ya. None of these people understand either.

Most of them who are married are grifting with their husbands as well

I feel like half of them aren't actually married and the other half know he has a mistress and are trying to act like they don't care because they are "the wife" and she is "just the mistress". I'm like, either be okay with it or deal with him and leave. Don't make it into a personality type or a morality flex competition.

@mactepok31Quit spamming that comment everywhere because you look like a bot. Do you want to get reported for spamming?

Yeeesss

I was confused at why hanging out with boys alone was an issue. I'm asexual 😂

Yes. This. Everyone is confusing!

They assume if a girl is with a guy then they are dating, but they better watch out for when I'm with another girl... 😏😉

SO TRUE

Reminds me of the Mitchell and Webb video about farming. "Look at that corn, just grows out of the fuckin' ground, you literally can't lose! "

Ikr?! All the people taking about owning a farm like it's easier than an office job have never done farm work. Same with the ones talking about being a sahm like it's not work too.

​@@Ragnarok2kx Thank you, now I can't unimagine David Mitchell in a floral dress frolicking in the fields. Not that I'm mad...

They also definitely think that chickens are a lot more docile than they actually are, I've seen video, chickens are tiny little demons

​@@ursulajoni15Or if you played Zelda.

Imagine if she actually had to live like the women in 50s and 60s when they couldn't even own a credit card in their own name. You needed a man to do anything important, women were basically sec9nd class citizens. These women on tiktok are just little girls playing dress up. Such a slap in the face to women who fought for the future generation to have equal rights.

tbh, there's a lot of assholes that simply doesn't give a fuck with relationship I met a guy who breakup with people 5 times, all because of cheating But yeah, I agree this is too much tho

How about remaining friends with exes once married with children?

Yeah. Imagine having a relationship based on TRUST instead of control

@@mammadingo9165i think it’s fine if they don’t like eachother romantically

@@lavacoil that needs to be discussed openly with all involved. No secret best friends.

Right, I'm pretty sure that's why homesteaders that are real look like they're 50 when they're 30. ,(That and maybe lack of sunscreen)

Farmers probably work harder than quite a lot of CEOs lol

And no payment for all that

Literally they're insane, my dad's grandfather lived in a mud hut in the butt fok middle of nowhere in Saskatchewan and had 11 mouths to feed but apparently that's "glamorous" and "attractive" to them. Bestie stop that's literally what living in poverty was like you're wanting to gentrify and cosplay as the poor and working class get help

It's hard work that never ends but you do have less people talking down to you on a daily basis

Oh no, the family is definitely shown, people like this have no respect for their children's privacy.

@@merulaamethyst2248 yep. Have up put on the appearance they can easily handle it all by themselves.

The thing is, they blame the fact that so many full time jobs don't pay a living wage any more on women having (had) the audacity to demand equal pay for equal work. They will claim that "when only men were in the work force, jobs paid enough" and that if we were to go "back" to that, everyone would be cared for. If course, they completely ignore the thing they want "back" never existed, that there have always been women who had no choice but join the work force, and so there have always been people paid shittily. They ignore even more that a lot of the times these women's wages, too, had to feed whole families, even in cases when the women did everything "right" i.e. when they were widowed or their husbands couldn't provide because they fell ill or were injured. They just want to control women. And right now, one way they try to sell the being controlled lifestyle to young girls is by labelling it as being some sort of rebellious. And so of course their narrative is "THEY don't want you to be trad wives. So show THEM! Rebel by completely surrendering to OUR control."

Those aren't just American Christians, they're Evangelical MAGAts. I'm a Christian Democrat. So is Biden, Obama, Taylor Swift, etc. You just have no idea that we exist because we think rubbing religion in other people's faces is stupid.

I've heard a couple of times that most weird and toxic strains of Christianity got kicked out of Europe and fled to Europe and the reason why freedom of religion exists in the US is merely so that those different toxic Christian groups stop persecuting each other. I'm not sure how true it is but it does look like it

It's not "American Christianity", it's Evangelical MAGA. I'm a Christian Democrat who's cool Atheism, LGBTQ, abortion, and stuff. So is Biden, Obama, Carter, Taylor Swift, etc. You just have no idea that we exist because we think rubbing religion in other people's faces is stupid.

As an American Protestant who hasn't done anything weird nor toxic, I found that quite offensive. Especially since I'm both cool with feminism and already knew all that stuff.😑

I mean, it WAS, but like... in the 50's lmao. Times are long gone.

​@@gokuxsephiroth4505 It was presented as the ideal in the 1950s but far fewer families were able to live like that on one income than is normally assumed. The rich have always lived like that, the middle class was able to live on one income in the 50s, and the poor have always required more than one income (so both parents and/or money earned by older kids also going into the family pot).

Lowkey that’s something I want too. Too bad I can’t afford it in this economy

…and the other point of feminism was that _men_ could be _stay at home dads_ if that's what they wanted and that's what they were better at. And there should be no stigma in that, either. But everyone misses that last part.

I don't have a single motherly/maternal bone in my body, I mean I was even annoyed by other kids when I was a kid. For these people to claim that women naturally have motherly instincts is infuriating. Even mothers giving birth (to children that they've always wanted) can experience indifference to their child once they've been born, and I'm not even talking about postpartum depression. A lot of new moms also don't even have natural instincts to know how to actually care for a child. After I was born, my mom couldn't understand why I was crying so much and didn't know what to do and my dad suggested that I was hungry. It took a man to figure out that I needed some boob lol. But yea, not dissing anyone that loves children and wants a ton of them, it just doesn't come natural to some people.

Me too! I never tried to sterilize myself but I knew from a VERY early age I wasn't a "normal girl" (and let's be clear that the "normal girl" propaganda is an absolute load of shite). It locked me out of a lot of fun things because if something was "girly" I ran away from it because I didn't want anyone to take my interest as permission to try to force "womanhood" on me (e.g. babies, housework, and submit to your husband). But that rebellion was never about "girl things," it was about wanting to have control over my own life and my own body.

Microwave doesn't work like that.

When I was like 4 years old my aunt gifted me my first baby doll and I literally tried to throw it in the garbage. 😂

​@@swiftsteve8774I'm pretty sure they know lol

Yup. She'll totter around in old boots and work clothes, hoping the children are old enough to bake for themselves because she just doesn't have the time or energy to care for them on top of the animals.

She lives in a Harvest Moon game, apparently.

@@AngryReptileKeeper HM characters wear overalls.

Well, hey, they can still brag about not wearing sun screen, right?

Rude awakening.

Farm Wifery is hard!

​@@PB_324 for real. I only have quail and a large garden and its a lot😅

Serial killer and mass murderer are not the same thing.

Especially when they're doing to to push a grift. They're betraying their own interests for money. There's people like that in every marginalized population and it's pretty disgusting

What?

​@@pemanilnoob the commenter was joking

Don't screech at the void, the void embraces us all equally. Screech at the bastards in this subreddit, rage at them, let your wrath be known!

She might not be able to drive (disability of some kind as with me and my dad and I'm well over 18, wish I'd grown out if them as expected by other adults lol) and he can, and there's no buses and actual taxis are expensive to go half an hour away from home. So you kind of need to know he's able to be the taxi so permission is needed.

@@Roadent1241 asking for someone to take you somewhere isn't the same as asking permission to go somewhere,

The closest i can think for asking for permission is asking if there's a reason not to atm, like "do you need help with something before i go?"

@@tomlxyz I could agree to that but I still don't think that's really asking permission, that's more like "I'm about to head out do you need anything before I go?"

​@@tomlxyzyeah like me and my husband both usually ask "Do you/ have some plans?" or "Do you need a car this weekend or can I take it" but I don't understand asking partners opinions on my own plans that don't include them and vice versa. When my husband goes to meet his friends to another city and sleeps there, I normally have no clue what plans they have, I don't even know what I would with that info. Of course for safety reasons it's different, but that is different thing.

lol exactly

I almost never wore a dress or a skirt when I worked on a farm unless I was LEAVING THE FARM. Sure, back in the day, women had to wear dresses to work in, but they didn't have the same machines that we have now that could suck that skirt in. Nowadays, it's just not safe to wear a skirt or dress.

God be like: Stop believing in me please I just want to have no responsibility anymore 😂

Love how they leave out how they supposedly found God. Sounds like a Christian who don't like OF making up a story.

@@keit99I think he just has bad confidence and doesn't believe in himself

God becomes depressed, and therefore is an atheist because he no longer believes in himself.

@@eleanorcooke7136 exactly that.

True

The thing is these trad wives are indoctrinated Christian women who have been led to believe in what they are saying and that they are actually trad wives even though they are not

The duck? I don't understand the negative attitude, their choice and privilege to be traditional, and is not nice to wish/imply infidelity because "boring" just because you don't see the appeal or you dont agree with a different life style. Even worse, death? Literally uncalled question/scenario, as the answer would be them finding a job, after GRIEVING

​@@ShinyShillaDude.... reading comprehension

@@ShinyShillathe “negative attitude” is cold, hard reality.

What happens when their husband leaves them for a younger and more naive girl? Then the trad ex wife is left with a 10 year gap on her resume (assuming she worked at all), no college, no employable skills, and she has kids she needs to feed so she has to apply for food stamps, that her ex husband voted against while telling her that they aren't aligned with their conservative values because food stamps are "free handouts"

Unfortunately if you tried to make that argument with these women they would just victim blame and claim that if you had been a trad wife he wouldn't have left you completely ignoring the fact that A man leave Housewives plenty often and B there's still the possibility of him dying or becoming too disabled to work. My granny is a prime example of the ladder in the late sixties she was a housewife racing for kids when one day my grandfather just dropped dead of a heart attack she was lucky enough to have some Financial stability cuz my grandfather had a successful business but she did have to get a job and figure things out on her own. There's no guarantees in life and these pick mes would do well to remember that

@@ursulajoni15 they'll probably be like 'die with my husband' and then starve to death in the name of 'being a good tradwife'

THANK YOU 👏👏

Sometimes you can even share the blood with them!

@@ArabellaTurner and stain their fur?!

​@@newbarkgal19 that doesn't stain their fur, that makes them come to life

I enjoy my enemies and drink the blood of my plushies.

The church advises you? Generally that 'advice' consists of shaming an abused woman into staying with her husband because divorce is a sin and it's probably her fault when he rapes and beats her.

Dont have much to say about your comment, but „martial issue“ is just a very funny typo

And honestly to add, about that bible verse about wife submits to their husband, a few verses later, it follows by saying their husbands should love their wives and be willing to give anything for their wives so it’s a little bit put out of context.

Also think about guys having a crush on that person. Puts a different meaning to "men think about Rome all the time"

And your siblings are called "London" and "Iceland"

Coulda been named Roma instead lmao. Romulus works too

I had a friend growing up whose name was Roman. He never had any problems with teaaing that I remember, thankfully.

My brother is named Octavian, I think that's funny

To you too! Hope you have a great day.

you too! but thank you for saying this

❤💚💙

thanks, actually really needed this right now 🥹 don't forget that includes you too though!

@@rileypaints 💜

Good and sensible advice.

Lol that just a weekend snack how do you wanna afford a profession for fun? Already bough the thing, everyone's dry now

^ Guys, gals, and non-binary pals, this is what happens when you don't receive it through therapeutic means.

I believe that they have shown potential to help with severe PTSD in conjunction with psychotherapy. I hope the results are positive.

​​@@nurselinda2155Specifically, it's MDMA, street name Ecstasy or E, but yeah... Mostly helps in dealing with PTSD, WITH THERAPY AS HAS BEEN STATED, (caps because it's that important). Specifically, I think the mechanism was that it lowered the body's stress response enough to allow participants to engage in therapy properly, which is honestly pretty awesome stuff. I just hope the clinical trials show promise, because I REALLY want to see literally any treatments with higher success rates for PTSD.

Nah, but I would say never take them without educating yourself, be careful and only do it in the company of people you trust

WOW. WOOOOOW. I genuinely forgot how much Timmy's parents hated him, the poor kid 😭😭

well that's depressing

Woah that's some very mature underlying themes for a kids show

That's present in all kids shows honestly. They were made by adults after all​@@llynxfyremusic

You need uniform to fight in a war

I think it is a way to steer young woman away from feminism. They do understand, and don't like it.

Because they’re against women having choices.

And rights. And basic respect. Equality. Liberty. "Fraternity".

That is accurate. however there are feminists out there that will give others choosing the trad alot of hate and grief. it isnt cool, and the evil conservatives cant see the overwhelming majority for the couple loud assholes.

I think they see feminism as purely contrarian. Or they want it to look like it is. Like, everything is the polar opposite even if it doesn't need to be

Women aren't meant to work soulless corporate jobs 40 hours a week. Men aren't meant to work soulless corporate jobs 40 hours a week. Nobody is meant to work soulless corporate jobs 40 hours a week, because seriously, wtf is this?!?

What’s that gotta do with capitalism

@@willdaisey7406 She said she's sick of a 40 hour desk job. She just wants to be a housewife, but the way the economy and stuff here is (speaking as an American) most couples have to both work to support themselves better yet children.

American cunning capitalism🤡

Socialism is cooler than capitalism tbh, but people are too easily-corrupt when in power so I'd say social democracy works the best, in my opinion. That's what Scandinavian countries have, they're social democracies. It's still capitalism, but if capitalism had a face-full of makeup and a nice little bow on its head so it looks less ugly and rigged. It's capitalism with a massive welfare state, so more free stuff, less homelessness and affordable necessities. All the things america needs, tbh.

Oof, I feel ya with that one.

If only the Fans would have the Same mentality. I dislike soccer way more then Other Sports cause IT gets forced onto everyone!!! Why?! Cant WE Just all have our own Hobbies and interests without trying to shove IT down other peoples throats?! ITS kinda hard keeping Not liking IT to yourself If everyone trys to force you to participate . . . .

It’s a grift

The fact that they're even on camera alone, doing all the talking seems like a contradiction to the ideas they're talking about

And in gigantic houses with 15-foot ceilings where everything is completely spotless. These women are RICH.

Spot on. Talk to a real housewife in mid west or say Asia then tell us it's glamorous 😅

Idk about that, i can think of plenty older people with longer marriages that have crappy marriages. I think when it comes to relationship advice you usually have to "rethink" it because the person giving it usually gives advice in reference to their personal preference in a relationship which are never identical to other's relationships

@@tomlxyz Agreed! I wished my parents to get divorced. When I asked they said "we're too old to divorce". I guess they actually liked fighting and complaining all the time. Not my preferred version of "marriage".

Also, some people are together for a long time before getting married. My husband and I will have been married for two years in July. Just after that we will have been together for 14 years. So whilst marriage may be a little different, (though we haven't found that it has changed anything, except my last name) we can certainly give advice to people on relationships in general, as we have been very happy for those 14 years and know very well what it takes to make it work. And we know people who have been married for at least 8 years who we would never take advice from, as they are most definitely not a couple anyone should aspire to be like.

@@ecofriendlyadventures5154 Yes, you're absolutely right. I think being in a committed relationship for that long definitely counts as far as giving advice goes. I was thinking that many of the people in this video don't seem like they've even married or in a relationship for long. I've seen some men who become more unpleasant when a woman ages, or when they get bored of her, so that's where I was coming from.

I agree. Reminds me of this TikTok couple hunter and maya who deal out marriage advice and haven’t even been married 2 years. Ur gonna grow and change so much thru out ur marriage. Advice is welcome but not required.

I hope you’ll be able to transition, if that’s what you want to do. I, too, am not like other girls. Because I’m a trans guy

I hope you both are well, and are cared for and loved as who you are. I am a nonbinary chaos bean.

@@maxcrow890 I thought I was CIS all this time, but only because I did not realize "Nonbinary Chaos Bean" was an option. 😂

You can call yourself just a trans girl without surgery or hormone treatment. You don't need those to be trans.

I’m not like other girls I have a p- (also a pre-transition trans girl)

Me and my mate say this to each other all the time because we get drunk and then dare each other to do mental shit XD

All her DMs were Girls 😂

Wow, you have a generous DM! I've only encountered the "when the DM smiles, it's already too late" type...

The whole "frollicking in the fields" thing makes me think these chicks watched one too many douche commercials growing up.

Yeah, and unlike with paid work, you never get a complete break from it. The cows don’t care that it’s Sunday or that you want to go on holiday.

We have the same reaction when people say that they want to start their own business so they can spend more time on various non work related stuff. 😂😂

Convinced these people actually want to be trust fund babies with a large cottage in the woods but they straight up don’t know the difference between that and an actual farm.

Bro I just have a small garden and it’s WORK. I can’t imagine actual acreage with living animals and whole FIELDS of crops. 💀 Let alone the expense that goes into keeping it all going. These women are delusional for sure to think it’s easy.

​@mactepok31 your pfp is a pic of andrew tate shirtless

@@prefertoremainanonymous-vp2gpthis guy said the exact same thing on something I commented on a different video. I think it’s an BOT.

​@mactepok31 ok and? Great now we know to avoid you because you're someone who can't handle the idea of others being different from you

In that case it's legit to say "I'm not like other girls." ^ ^ (I also remember Contrapoints making that joke in one of her videos.)

Funny thing is half of them still have their OF and still post their but they don’t have it in their bio anymore on their trad account but they have a secret account with a different name

​@@Delsin4077 I was kind of wondering since (and I'm not judging personally just going by the tradwife modesty crap) her dress is pretty revealing and tight in the chesticular region for a "godly" woman So yeah, I agree that it's definitely serving a hot tradwife grift fetish

Im laughting right now after seeing this

😆😆😆

😂

Your name is lejindary .

@@Youre_youtiful ARMY? 🤭💜 I'm guessing yours is either a James Blunt or Love Yourself reference? 😄👍

Plus abusers do that. It goes both ways when a husband or wife limits the interaction of the other of friends and family so they can abuse them. Because if they have nobody to talk to, it's harder for them to escape.

@@starrby7790 In one of the cases, the husband was abusive. Ironically, it's a fairly common occurrence for the abused spouse to cheat on the abusive spouse in some way as they start contemplating getting out of the abusive relationship. Something about regaining their sense of self worth or something. It's been a while since I read that. This person did cheat on her spouse, and she eventually left him.

Lmao tell that to the pope

@@ngotemna8875 fair enough. There are a lot of Christian hypocrites and it makes me mad.

I think it's one of those things that can be understood different ways, depending on which passages you focus on.

@@ngotemna8875 What? The current Pope is accepting of women's rights, gays, and trans people. Have you not been paying attention? There's American Christians who got mad when he basically said that LGBTQ should be accepted and loved like anyone else.

correct. the idea that Jesus didn't support equality between men and women was decades after his death when the fake self-proclaimed "apostle" Paul complained in his letters that women should remain silent.