r/TraumatizeThemBack - Insane Parent Payback 💀🤯 

I love how the marketing scheme for the plushies is "I traumatize you so buy this thing to be un traumatized". Very effective

Pro tip, if someone lies about you having sex with them, start telling people they said their mom’s/dog’s/grandpa’s name during the act. They’ll stop :)

When someone calls me a s1u7 for rejecting them my answer is just: "Yeah... must really suck to be you when not even a s1u7 like me wants you."

Oh goodness, those "but she's your mother" stories are so infuriating. My mom guilt-tripped my dad (a kind, gentle man) into keep in touch and visiting his abusive father until he died. Her excuse of course was, "he's still your father". I was a child myself so I didn't understand the situation, unfortunately. I was 8 when the abusive grandfather died. I will never forgive my mom for that. No one is obligated to keep in touch with an abusive person, not ever. Doesn't matter who that abusive person is!

"plushies are not a replacement for real therapy" Don't you tell me how to live my life.

I was in university taking anatomy and physiology classes. My niece was just two years old. She loved when I practiced my anatomy memorization with her. She knew several body parts, such as sternum. One day I took her to the store with me. I was looking for a specific product when my niece looked at the customer next to me, threw out her her arm, pointed at the lady, and loudly said Gluteus Maximus! The woman was stunned and I was nearly on the floor laughing. Niece waited to be praised for her correct identification. When the lady didn't praise her, she tried again. Nothing. frustrated, niece yells "BUTT!" and grins while awaiting her praise. I finally gathered myself enough to explain to the poor lady.

When people find out I am no-contact with my father frequently I get asked "But how will you feel if he died and you never saw him or made up?" My response is always "relieved unless he has me in his life insurance, then I'd be psyched"

The 'end it' one with the fake scars reminds me of something I saw on tumblr once - this one person was CONSTANTLY being sent kys type messages, and having lost all patience with putting up with it one day, the person responded to whatever latest message with something short and sweet, I think it was something like 'you win'. Now, iirc, this person had no intention of LISTENING, just logging out and STAYING gone for a while to decompress from the constant harassment. And when they finally came back, they had a BEVVY of messages, starting with the usual 'kys lol' type messages, devolving into this anonymous person BEGGING and PLEADING with them to respond or post or SOMETHING because they couldn't handle knowing they might be the reason a person killed themselves. This caused the person to take ALL those sent asks, pile them up in a public post as images, and scream at them why on earth they'd so stubbornly and persistently demand somebody kill themselves, and indeed why say that at ALL, if they 'couldn't handle being the reason somebody killed themselves', which since then has led me to believe that the vast majority probably genuinely don't think anyone ever WOULD be bothered by that kind of bullying - that these people think 'kill yourself' has the same level of severity or weight as something like 'you're ugly' or 'I hate you'. But yeah. Shockingly, some people genuinely don't think KYS type bullying has any potential to actually cause the victim to... well. Off themselves, and are shocked when something ACTUALLY seems to happen.

Click laughing hysterically about his plushie scheme is the best medicine.

On the "racist" story: Long ago (like over 50 yrs) I had a picture of my mom where the lighting was really awful and it looked like she was a light skinned black woman... She had black hair and dark brown eyes. Back then, racist remarks were common, especially in the work place. Whenever someone would make such a remark to me, I would casually say, "Don't you know that my mom is black"? They, of course, didn't believe it since I am whiter than white. But when I would show my mom's pic, they would get quiet, give me a lackluster apology, and slink off. I never told my mom because she was racist too and would have had a heart attack just imagining that someone thought she was black! I wish I still had that picture!

"But they're family!!!" All the more reason they should have treated me better than they did.

My classic is when old people come up to me to rant about trans people. I let them rant, then say: "look, those are some interesting points, but I'm trans, and you're really wrong." Excellent way to shock those idiots. Particularly if they were doing a "we can always tell" thing. 🤦‍♀️

My moment of "traumatize them back" was when my mom called me over and over again to scream at me for being a traitor. Apparently I had betrayed her by being close with my dad when she abused me the majority of my life. She wouldn't stop yelling and crying and screaming about how awful I was and how my dad had brainwashed me (apparently being a good parent is brainwashing in her eyes) and after a while I just lost it on her. I recounted every instance of her degrading me. Every instance of her calling me names, hitting me, starving me, convincing me that I was obese (I was almost 20 pounds underweight) throwing me, overworking me then shaming me for not being perfect. I told her I wanted nothing to do with her anymore and to lose my number, and now she hardly reaches out because she knows I won't put up with her bullshit anymore. I like to imagine she's afraid to call me to ask for favors the same way she made me afraid to ask for basic human needs.

38:24 The whole "Blood is thicker than water" doesn't mean what most people think it does. The full saying is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." The actual meaning is the bonds you choose are thicker than the bonds formed by the happenstance of birth.

I had a lady once tell me "you just dont understand what a childs voice means to a mother" because i was frustrated over a convo with my mom. Wasnt even talking to this woman aka none of her business. Her response to being told "idk. I think i have an idea but my kids are dead so maybe you're right"(I had had a miscarriage and she KNEW this so i opted to provide a reminder as caustically as i could) was priceless.

"But they're your mother" Nope. Being a parent is a privilege and honor. As far as I am concerned, these are just evil spawnpoints.

you don't quite understand the phrase: "The best revenge is a life well-lived" until you escape an abusive household

the "but she is your mother" really pisses me off. i love putting these people in their place (sometimes). i will say something like "and i was her daughter and she didnt protect me, that was on her." sometimes i will say shit like "yeah well, she shouldnt have let my step dad abuse and laugh at me when he tried to take my life." shuts them up really quick.

In witchcraft we have a saying, “for the most part, do no harm, but take no shit.” Basically try to be a decent person but if someone crosses your boundaries, cross them back. Stand up for yourself. You deserve it. ❤

33:51 About this: Spoiling kids doesn't come from getting them nice things. Spoiled kids come from giving kids nice things that they don't deserve, or giving them nice things after they complain. Rewarding a kid for good behavior won't make them spoiled, but rewarding them for crying and complaining just because you want them to stop will make them spoiled. Their behavior like this has absolutely no reason behind it other than not caring about their child.

The “but theyre your mother!” Thing happened to my college roommate all the time. The reason she doesn't talk to her mom is that when her mom’s bf SA’d her at 17, her mom called her names and kicked her out. I can’t stress this enough: if someone says they don’t talk to a family member or that they don’t drink or any potential field of landmines just nod and accept it. Never. Walk. On. The. Land. Mines. edit: grammar.

26:41 My great uncle was a drug addict and alcoholic. When his daughters were born, he got rid of all the drugs because they could hurt his kids. If money was short, he wouldnt drink, all so his girls could grow up happy. That woman isnt a mother. She is an egg donor, thats it.

My mother is weird. She's a decently kind person who raised me and my brother after divorcing from my father and worked her ass off to provide for us. But after school, when me and my brother started earning our own money, she started demanding rent. "Okay, fair..." Then she started going on spending sprees, and needed financial help with important bills "Okay..." Then she would start lying about it "..." and then the amounts kept increasing... Then my father died, and the FIRST THING she asked was if I had his social security numbers so she could make a claim on widows insurance (she was already divorced for like 2 decades at this point) eventually, when I was asked to provide for HER MOTHER'S assisted living bills, bills that stretch into several THOUSAND dollars, casually asking "Well, maybe you still have grandpas inheritance lying around?", I lost my mind. She would always remind me and my brother about how "family means more than money" and so eventually I asked her "If money is so unimportant, why the fuck do you only reach out when you need some? Huh? Can you not live by yourself? You're a grown ass, early-retired single woman, who theoretically shouldn't have many expenses in her life, yet your bad financial situation is the fault of my brother not buying the right house so you could move in with him, and me not giving you 120% of my own paycheck every month? THE FUCK IS YOUR PROBLEM?" I blocked her number, blocked her on social media, and haven't spoken to her in months, including missing her birthday, missing christmas and new years, and my birthday. She constantly makes bad financial decisions and I am NOT responsible for bailing her out of them.

The story about the little girl who got incredibly spoiled and entitled because she only has one eye made me pretty irked. I’m blind in one eye, have been since I was a few months old, and I can do ALL the things those people were saying she can’t. Sure, if you throw a ball at me I’m likely to get it in the face because I have no depth perception and I’m also incredibly clumsy for the same reason, but it’s not been a barrier to me doing things for myself in general. People like that give others with disabilities a bad name. My brother did used to call me Cyclops, though. So that bit made me laugh. 😂

The women supporting women is THE LEGEND! She won, what do you even do after such a genius move?😂

I really love these "traumatised a bully back" stories. I had my own bullies at school, at one point it has been so bad that i cutted myself in class. After one amok incident in another part of Germany happened we got a therapist at our school and guess who was the first one sent to him..and it was the best that could happen to me, he was the only person at my school that never treated me like the problem and clearly coud see that the bullies were the ones that needed to be looked at. Saved the rest of my self esteem and basically helped me to fight them back. One year after the kid in Erfurt went amok we had a "prevention and memorial" class and i was fed up. The therapist made sure that i was the one that held the summary and oh boy it was beautiful 😄 I stood in front of 4 school classes, a handful parents, teachers, the group of police staff that held the prevention classes and the school director. Therapist right behind me. I had the opportunity to tell everything that happened to me, packed like it were just examples and not my own story. Like f.e. getting spit on, pushed down stairs, been called satanist for wearing black and been mocked for my choice of style (goth/metal look, this music saved my life and i till today want to show that i am different than 'normal' people), getting thrown at with sport items in class, humiliation, the one time a kid tried to burn my hair in class (i am ginger and he said smth about burning the witch..) and so on. I could see that everyone tried to look away or realised that i told my own story. The parents went pale, were shocked and some clearly had a "you are in trouble son" look in their eyes. The teachers looked really uncomfortable. The director looked angrier from minute to minute. It was so wholesome for me to see, but i struggled not to cry. The therapist positioned himself so i could look at his face and smiled, motivated me to go on. I closed with "if we were in the US and not in a country with strict gun laws, you all could have seen different consequences for your actions. Remember Columbine. Remember Erfurt. Ask yourself not "how did this happen", ask yourself "what made a person do something so extreme". I really hope that at least one of you uses their brain only once and consider that every action has a reaction. I wish, from the dept of my heart, that each one of you that becomes a parent at least tries to make a better job than the parents of bullies and shooters. And I "pray" that every kid you someday may have, will get the same type of "friendly, good and supporting" classmates like i had. I said everything with the biggest fake smile i could come up with. I know it was heavy but it worked. And it was such a relief for me. That room full of white faces, shame and the silence from the parents were so satisfying. I really loved the police staff, all of them went from shock at first to smiling at me and hand clapping. The aftermath was pure satisfaction. The director punished my classmates with extra classes after regular school ended and cleaning work in classrooms and outside. All teachers that never did anything were punished too. The sport teacher in particular was fired bc took part in bullying instead of helping. I was kind of untouchable for the rest of the time till graduation. In the school after that i had a boyfriend that was bigger than the other kids and metal musician with that "bad guy" look. Not one of them ever tried to do bully me again. I had enough self esteem to stand up for others they made fun of and everytime they tried to befriend me or said nice things just to look good in front of others, i responded with sarcasm and remembered them that they were shitty persons. It helped me a lot to overcome. I am scarred, still in therapy 17 years after school and my psyche is unstable, but this one person that helped me and listened laid the foundation of the confident person i am now. I work with troubled teens and my own trauma is a good connection to them. They usually trust me enough to speak up so i can help them survive their own ordeals and get stronger mentally. That was way more than i first wanted to write 😅🙈 But i think stories like mine needed to be shared, i see and hear so many things that are tragic, unnecessary and preventable. With social media and cameras in phones it has reached a different level nowadays. Parents, please teach your kids to be responsable adults that care for others. Empathy is something that should be valued more in all societies. Don't look away if someone is bullied. Sometimes one friendly word or one person that stands beside the "victim" can change their whole world.

About the person who never even got a birthday party as a kid but was supposed to buy those expensive gifts for their siblings; this was actually a great uno-reverse moment had they just said "Sorry, I wasn't raised like that.".

I actually got pregnant at 17 from my youth pastor's brother. He is 7 years older than me. I announced that I was pregnant to some members of the congregation. One Sunday after morning service, my pastor followed me to the parking lot and told me to "stop lying about a man of god", amongst other incredibly insulting things. I was shunned by everyone. When my child was born, I got a DNA test, but definitely no apology from anyone there. I quit going to church after my child was a few months old. Should've quit sooner, but I was young and used to that sort of treatment. The father has been absent for the past 16 years. That story hits too close to home.

"You pathetic use of a carbon lump" has to be THE best insult I've seen in a while lmao

The adoption story reminds me of a few years back. My flat was near a school and with open windows I could often hear the children talk. One day a boy made fun of another girl for being adopted. The girl spoke loud and clear: "Well, my parents CHOSE me on purpose. Yours didn't have a choice but to have you" I laughed my ass of and celebrated that girl 😂

Not exactly a "traumatize them back" but my proudest clapback will always be how I finally got out of a 3 year long abusive relationship. One day, we had an argument over the phone since he was out of state. He said "I'm tired of dealing with your bs." After a short pause, I just said right back "I guess we're on the same boat on that." in the most dead pan voice. I can't remember what I said after that but that was finally the end of the abuse. I'm still healing and I'm so much happier in life now

When I was a kid, my dad took a traveling job because it paid more money. We moved every 3 to 6 months. This was fine, but one middle school teacher got really weird about it and said, “why do you move around so much? What are you hiding?” I didn’t say this out loud, but I thought, “lady! We could be in witness protection, you don’t know!” My mom looked like she was going to punch this teacher. My dad put on a strait face and said, “don’t worry. They’ve never found any of the bodies.”

"I got the goods. Where you wanna meet?" that one stole my little black heart.

The bully girl whose parents abandoned her, kind of reminds me of a kid from my primary school. His mom died from breast cancer when he was 2 years old (we where probably about 10ish at the time) but he would constantly use her as an excuse to start fights and bully other kids. He told my friend (who's parents had just divorced) that she was the reason they split up because they didn't want her. She started bawling her eyes out so I turned to him and told him "your mom is probably glad she's dead so she doesn't have to see how ugly you turned out". He tried to challenge me to a fight after class but he backed down when realised he would look pretty stupid fighting a girl half his size in front of the entire class.

As an Asian European mixed person, all of the racist stories were so relatable. Calming telling someone (in chinese) that i can in fact understand them calling me "Foreigner" is amazing

No no, that isn't the philosophy of not wanting your kid to be spoiled, that's the philosophy of "if I ignore this child to legally allowable amounts, then maybe I can pretend I don't have this child I don't want without seeming like a terrible person to society."

The real irony about the "but shes your mother!" statement: Yea shes your mother, you´d think you would have a good relationship with her and that she loves you. So the fact that they are not talking to each other should tell you all the more that something went REALLY wrong to make that happen.

About the "kids can sense evil" thing- I did the same when I was a baby (as seen in various photos from that time). Whenever my grandparents (from my father's side) held me, I looked distrustful and a lil anxious. It didn't happen with other people there, just specific ones. Well, turns out they were aholes and treated my mum like crap behind the scenes. I'm glad we don't have contact to that part of the family anymore.

Hearing about that one eye child that used it to get things the way she wanted reminded me of a kid in my school that was deaf and used it to get what she wanted, she’d purposely “forget” her hearing aids to not have to do work, she’d touch other peoples things, trying to steal them, her family was insane as well, tried to run over my friends dog. Well she so happened to try and do the casual thing she usual did to everyone to me, except I’m autistic, I don’t read social cues, I don’t mask, I care for my comfort. I became the teachers enemy basically as I was a “bully” as I refused to let her steal my things, and became annoyed very verbally everytime she tried to do anything wrong. The teacher went from having us sit together, to having to make a rule that we weren’t allowed to be put near each other. It was definitely for that child’s comfort though, not mine, but I’m glad I was so socially unaware, that when another disabled person pulled things I didn’t go “oh they are disabled I can’t do anything back” and instead would go “you fight first, I fight back”

I’m half Latina and half Asian but I look completely Latina. The amount of times someone said something racist against Asians and I just turn around and am like “You do realize I’m half Chinese right?” Usually they back peddle real fast.

40:34 - yes, I have had to say “I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat” sooooooo many times in my life. And it’s soooooo satisfying to see the shock on the person’s face. (And believe me, I didn’t even need to be all that fat-looking to get the pregnancy comments). Then there was the Karen who tried to double down - “Are you sure ?? That looks like a baby belly to me!” And I got to tell her, “Ma’am, I’m infertile and I’m currently celibate… so unless I’m the Virgin Mary, I’m pretty damn sure I’m not pregnant.” Then I just stared at her until she got flustered and left.

I'm Native, the third story is 1000% true, happens a lot. I get followed around stores and I dont even look "that Native", but Native enough i might steal something. Welcome to Canada, enjoy your stay.

The casual racism is very relatable, although in Europe its more discrimination of nationalities rather than skin tone. I've been in so many situations where people are shit talking slavic/russian people to me not realizing that I am half Russian. It's amazing how quick people go quiet after a proper introduction lol.

I am part maori (new Zealand) one side of my family is maori. I took all the welsh and German DNA i could gather and turned out very blinde, blue eyed. People tend to think its ok to be racist around me for some reason (especially older men) and i LOVE dropping it on them, making them feel truly uncomfortable and not giving them an out. My favourite thing to do? Why on earth, because i look like hitlers representation of a perfect brood mare do a lot of people think i will be on board with racism

My mom went legally blind in both eyes and still tough herself to draw and paint and did such amazing work. She kept up with her crafts till her cancer made her bedroom and she passed. That child was coddled and allowed to be a bully instead of being allowed to learn and figure things out.

Some people who say "but she's your mother" aren't even people from happy homes who are oblivious to abusive parents existing. Some of them are actual kids of abusive parents with zero self awareness. My maternal grandmother is an abusive shitstain whom I can't even call a human being. She abused my mom, her sisters and my cousin terribly. My mom doesn't talk to her for more than 20 years now. And when I told my mom a story about my friend who was abused the same way she was and how he moved out of the house the day he turned 18 and doesn't speak to his mom for several years now my mom was like "But why?! She's still his mom, the person who gave him life! Who's gonna help her when she's old? He's selfish!". Oh, the irony.

1:05 “in the link in the description you can find…. ✨N O T H I N G ✨” GOD I LOVE CLICK 😭💀

The Ree with one eye story made me laugh. My son had a birth defect where one leg was small and not really functional. When he was between three and four I told him it was time to clean up his toys for the night. Someone had said something to him at preschool. He looks real sad and said, “But Mamma, I only have one leg.” Took me about five minutes to quit laughing my ass off. I finally was able to say, yeah, so? It’s still time to clean up. It’s bedtime.” He cleaned up and that was the last time he tried that crap on me. 😂🤣😂

The pregnant chick with the pastor should definitely get a DNA test and also maybe give him a copy of The Scarlet Letter and a large red A for his shirts.

41:39 especially if you work night shifts, they don’t seem to realise, you walk home for an hour at 3am to sleep for the next night shift. They seem to think you can be awake all day too. Doing annoying things like singing “wake up songs” outside your door at 6-8am or vacuuming outside your bedroom, banging the plastic bit violently against the door

The whole "but shes your mom!" Thing is so crappy to me. Like, "yeah and...?" people do this assuming that parents love the children and etc when it sometimes ain't the case. All children deserve good parents, not all parents deserve children

Ex Mormon(Exmo) here. Sadly this behavior is common in Mormon spaces. It can get worse like the 8 passengers situation. I’m lucky enough to receive my letter one month before (last June) my 16th birthday. You have to go through a LEGAL process to be able to leave. And then I moved. I’m happier now more than ever. It’s been a tough life so far. I’m so happy she got to say that to her mom. It takes guts to do that. Especially when you’re taught to listen to your parents and congregation leaders ALWAYS. Good for her

Who ever said that diamonds are a girl’s best friend has clearly never met Boltcutter Lady

"plushies are not a replacement for therapy" I beg to differ

Oh my gosh. I also got "you only get one mother you know!" Or some variation of that. I always respond woth some form of "yes i know, and I promise you, i understand that fact far far more deeply than you do." It usually makes people seem like they have kind of a "wait........oh..." kind of reaction. Yeah. We (people who don't speak to family, especially moms) know far better than anyone saying "yaonlygit ONE muther!" That that's true. We do. That's the problem. And I don't owe her anything because of that fact.

31:32 ah yes, the kindergarten approach. Treat them like little kids learning how to have a conversation, it’s seemingly very effective.

My dad's father left when Dad was 10. Presently, the man is legally blind, too weak to walk and bathe, and is living in alone in a home (his second wife left him and he had to sell all his property). He's been trying to contact my Dad for months, wanting Dad to take him in as he could very well die in the next few years. The same man who couldn't be bothered to take care of his own family wants said family to take care of him. My Dad has blocked him on our landline and his cell.

At 21:52, On the topic of nice guys, before I met my current polygamous partners, I had a guy try to hit on me at a bar. I refused to go out with him because I already had a trans girlfriend (who happened to be drinking next to me, I don't drink, but I was her ride as I don't support drinking and driving) and didn't want to cheat on her. The guy almost immediately turned on his own words of how I was pretty and said I was the ugliest girl in the world. I responded with: "I'm non binary." And took my drunk girlfriend home.

That's quite the business scheme you got there; traumatize your viewers and then sell them emotional support plushies. Absolutely devious.

Second-hand trauma does exist, there is a specialized type of therapist meant for veterans with PTSD due to how graphic the stories can be. Ordinary therapists can get traumatized by being told the same stories. Found that one out because of Azeal, you can find him here on RU-vid. Great story time videos, just as great for background noise.

The revenge for the bully telling OP to “end it” was so fucking clever!

remember parents, your children exist without their consent

45:19 HO. LEE. SHIT. The only thing that could make that more perfect would be if she set the fake scar waxpiece on the bully's desk and patted it lightly, while whispering at them, "just, thought you'd like a little keepsake" and winking at them before leaving.

This subreddit reminds me of something my Mother's therapist told her, which was passed down to me: "Every confrontational statement, jab, or snide comment made to you has a cost to be paid. You decide who foots the bill." As a chronic self-esteem trashcan, this was huge in helping me to stand up for myself. You don't have to be mean, but just a small comment can change the entire dynamic. An example from a couple months ago, I'm asexual and unfortunately have some radical right-leaning family members, one of whom was constantly pestering me about "finding a God fearing husband and settling down to have kids, and to leave college so I don't ruin my life." Le barf. I finally got sick of it and planned y retort. Like clockwork, she asked me again when I'd become a Christian mother, and my response was " Aunt, I LITTERALY DON'T GIVE A F*CK!" and left. She won't talk to me now and apparently I'm unsavable, but at least the old bat shut up!

When I was in my twenties, I was in a doctor's office and an old man told me to smile because, "Things aren't so bad, and you're such a beautiful young woman." (I'm actually nb, and not remotely beautiful) I just said, "I just got out of 2 months in the ICU where I nearly died, and spent 4 months in the hospital. I'm here to see how much worse my brain damage is now, and find out if I need to get brain surgery." Dude went totally white.

I'm not native so idk, but imagine that dude from the construction worker story says some racist crap about natives and you turn around and call him an immigrant 😂

I can’t stand when people negatively judge people who rightfully break contact with their parents and throw that whole “but they’re your parent” crap at them. If you have a parent who makes you constantly anxious and is overall really cruel to you then you have every right to break contact with them. You owe them nothing.

My mother also used to compare sleeping longer in the morning to laziness. I've turned it around and comparing it to laziness too wanting to go to bed early instead of working all night through. That's actually when I am the most productive - when I'm not forced into staying awake during the day and sleeping during the night for my job the times I feel most productive and wide awake would be between 9 pm and 6 am.

The running in circles one was probably real, but if she can’t see well enough to assemble LEGOS then she’d have to be functionally blind.

The racist kne reminds me of an incident several years ago. I'm welsh and i was in england on a bus heading up to Gloucester when behind me a guy and woman were talking, the guy starts talking about how there were two welsh girls on the bus the day before. He goes on about how backwards the welsh are joking about how we still live in caves and ride dinosaurs and sleep with sheep. As i got to my stop i stood up and said in the thickest most stereotypical welsh accent i can manage "nah we only sleep with the sheep we sell to your butchers. And it's dragons not dinosaurs we ride"

Second-hand trauma is actually a thing. My emotional mom had an almost deadly car accident a year ago and afterwards I would feel insecure and triggered in traffic, just from hearing about her accident. It subsided after a couple weeks as Second hand trauma is obviously not as intense as first hand trauma. But it exists. 😅

When I heard the line 'I don't have anywhere to live because I didn't manage to do the homewrecking!' I laughed so unexpectedly I accidentally spat my drink. That one got me.

I love how Click is the only person alive who says the word "snazzy"

I remember doing my social year and there was a seminary about mental health. one topic was bullying and we all were called out to tell our stories (if comfortable). my seat neighbour was trying to get the rest around her to agree that no matter how long you get bullied, if you have a strong mind it won't ever bother you. so I soon after raised my hand to tell the whole room about how I got bullied for around 9 years in school (out of 12) and how I tried to stay strong but it eventually got to me and just broke me. I was so close to ending my life several times because no one ever gave a shit. and instead, they just told me I'm emotionally strong. yeah, otherwise I'd be long gone. but only then they would've cared. afterwards. anyway, the whole room went silent for a few minutes while I just sat there, sipping on my water. sure enough, the person who was so sure of herself before, never said a word about the topic again during the seminary I've gained a lot of confidence since then, though my gender dysphoria often enough takes it back to 0 again. and still, there's a scar deep inside that still makes me passively suicidal. so no, feeling the effects of bullying isn't a sign of weakness. it means you're strong. you're still surviving

"The link in the description has... ***NOTHING...***" I laughed SO hard at that.

Yaay!! I am also a white passing Indigenous woman and I love those scenarios. My husband also really enjoys the "huh, well my wife is Native" moments. Make racism awkward!!!

Okay but good on the parent in that razorblade story for going along with it. Helping with the makeup and basically giving her kid free time. That's so good. Sucks that the bully was a POS but wow.

Maybe a hot take, but I feel bad for Ree. The adults around her babied her, treated her better than the other kids, and she responded like any other 8yo would. If the adults around her treated her like any other kid, there probably wouldn't have been a bully in that class

37:20 Oh yeah, I have this exact same problem. I usually answer with "That's why she told me I should have died in the car accident when I was 3yo?"

9:44 she literally and figuratively pulled a Trojan on him... Wonder if the Trojans are in the Afterlife snickering about the sheer irony of this story

Well, I'm off to buy my parents a "thanks for not traumatizing me" gift. These videos are a nice reminder to me that I am actually doing pretty okay for myself.

The thing about the name being misspelled really made me laugh for several reasons: I dated a guy in high school, and he told me the story of how his prior school's principal (maybe a teacher) told him that he was pronouncing his last name wrong. Even told the parents that it was being pronounced wrong. They never did resolve it before they moved. I also had a friend in the same high school whose given name was a common nickname of a common name. When we were set to graduate, there was a teacher or admin responsible for getting the correct info so our names would be correct on the diploma. They got upset and kept putting the full common name instead of my friends actual given name on papers we needed to sign and stuff before graduation. Even after my friend brought in his birth certificate, this person said his "nickname" can't be his given name. We were in a predominantly military families school (60% of us were military kids), so his dad, a high-ranking officer in the Air Force, had to come in and set the admin straight. It was fantastic, and I wish I'd been in the room to see it. Some people are weird about names.

15:35 here in Australia, if some gets aggressive or starts harassing people on a bus, the driver calls the “transit cops” which are police dedicated to transit incidents, and they’re given the buses current location and said to meet then at the next stop. Where the person is removed for the safety of passengers.

"Plushies are not replacements for real therapy" Men: "watch me"

13:40 i had at least a few situations where people told me "those f*gs..." type of stuff. The look on their faces when I told them I'm gay. Priceless

As a disabled person who grew up having to take extra classes either other disabled kids to learn how to manage with our conditions better and make future challenges easier and I can assure you that disabled kids can be just as big of bullies as fully abled kids I remember one girl who was even worse than Ree and she even once tried to get a teacher fired because the teacher wouldn’t let her bully the other kids anymore and she had almost the whole staff wrapped around her finger and would threaten other students that if they didn’t do her bidding she would go to the office and say that they were billing her to get them suspended and she was completely mentally there she just had a physical disability so she knew exactly what she was doing and was an expert an manipulation and was just as mentally capable as any other student but because she had problems walking she figuratively walked all over everyone

7:23 damn, at least my "mom" had the decency to leave me and my sister with our dad who loves us instead of keeping the children she didn't want. And that caused enough "relational trauma" (can you tell I'm in therapy 🙃). I can't imagine how much this poor op struggled to trust people. Although she actually made her own family so I'm glad she got through.

26:05 - Cashier here, some people are a) just incredibly entitled, b) have no public filter or, c) a combination of the two. I was talking to one of my coworkers about my hair, and my plans with it and how it used to look, (I had some damn nice ringlets, but now I have my hair cut short and bleached with a bit of green) and this random woman comes up and starts saying I should let my hair grow out because "I'd look so pretty, and natural hair is so nice right?" Sigh

As a person from the UK, that last story is GOLD. Yes, "Should have gone to Specsavers" is a very well known tagline over here.

Im ½ black and ½ Mexican. Much like Justin Bonitz, I look incredibly pale which leads most people to believe I'm white with a tan. The amount of racist comments I've heard is staggering. Very few people have been able to tell just from looking at me that I'mixed. I've never been one for racism and I'm sure not one for stupidity.

my birthmom did the same thing to me that happened in the first story. we even ended up in foster care and they sent us back to her. our dad had been sending us gifts the whole time but she said it was from her. i feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that and am happy that the op was able to snap back and shut her up. good on them. their mom created that karma. so happy to see it delivered. cant wait to deliver mine.

@37:32 I absolutely hate those lines, because mother's shouldn't leave their children with chronic PTSD, like mine did to me

The one story where the parents wanted their first born, that they never allowed them any happiness ever, to purchase those ridiculously overpriced gifts for the siblings, that story is the one I'm referring too. I grew up like that, myself. My father never wished to provide, anything, more than just the basics for, despite my mom's wishes to do so. He was the abuser in our household. Yet, when my siblings were born 13 and 15 years after I was, it became clear, they were getting spoiled with the things I never got. I have a horrible feeling, with the story you read, that the OP's parents had wished for such exuberantly, expensive gifts to be purchased for OP's siblings, had dark intentions behind it. The fact that the parents had not wanted their first born, to give any of the gifts, directly to their siblings, by themselves is very sus. I have a bad feeling, those kids would have never received anything if the OP had done so. I think the parents may have gotten behind on some bills, and wanted the expensive gifts so they could secretly, either be returned for the cash, or exchanged for a lot of smaller gifts, that the parents could then say we're from themselves, to their younger kids. Or, they may have just wanted to outright sell them on the Internet, for some quick cash, to cover the family's Christmas gifts or a vacation for them, or something. Then they probably would have lied and said their older sibling didn't get them anything, just to be extra cruel to OP. I grew up with one insane parent, the other one was an angel, to have put up with as much abuse as she had. I could totally put myself in that poster's shoes, and I could, so see that happening. I pray I'm wrong, but it was just a feeling I had, from growing up in that same kind of craziness.

So funny how its always the biggest freaking bullies who want to throw the meanest punches but can't take the tiniest pinch.

8:40 I just hope in this story that the lady took care of the cat very well and the ex was the one who didn't treat the cat well

I have severe Obstructive Sleep Apnea that causes me constant fatigue all the time. I'm currently getting used to a CPAP machine and I often get told off for getting up late in the day (around 11am to 2pm). I'm currently struggling with my health as it is and I'm trying my best to sleep well as possible but it's difficult to wake up early sometimes. I used to as a kid be able to wake up around 7am and stay awake. If someone else lays in bed they don't get told off for it yet I do and it's upsetting sometimes

32:00 I used to work at Starbucks. I remember one time in December of 2020, I was being hit on by a 30 something guy. I, as a minor at the time, had no idea he was flirting with me. He eventually asked my age and I said I was 17. This is when he doubles down and says "but you're going to be 18 soon, right?" I was taken aback but just answered "I guess, yeah." It wasn't until he left the store that my coworkers came up to me to ask if i was okay, I didn't know why until until they flat out said that he was hitting on me. Never saw that guy again, thankfully

The one about the guy being racist to natives got me laughing because I've had experienced something similar, on my mother's side of the family I'm indigenous but my fathers is whiter than white, and I got my dad's colouring. I was in a cab on my way home from getting groceries, and the cab driver (Which nobody liked) was chatting with me the ride home. He often liked to chat with me because I'm nice or something, but one day brought up some racist remarks towards Indigenous folk and talked to me like I would agree with him. So then I just said in a fake sad tone "Sir, I'm Indigenous on my mothers side, I thought you liked me" For the rest of the ride home he stumbled over his words to try and fix what he said but nothing helped, got home, got my groceries inside, and he awkwardly left. 😆

While she was doing was definitely not okay, I actually feel really bad for Ree. I was the disabled mainstream kid in my school, and there were times I was restricted by my parents are teachers from doing things that I was capable of because it was more convenient for them not to have to deal with me possibly making mistakes. It wasn't for me as much as it was for them. It sounds like she was not allowed to do anything. What a miserable existence. While I never intentionally took advantage of my condition, this reads is a desperate attempt to gain some control over her life. And to go from being mainstreamed to a special school... a lot of special education programs are understaffed and the teacher must cater to people of many different ability levels at the same time, leading to an incomplete education. Bullying is wrong, but l hope my fears are unfounded and she got the help she needed.

13:53 My siblings and I are mixed. My sister and brother look very Hispanic while I look white. The amount of times we would separate and they would be doing something and a white person whispers to me "They should go back to their country" (or some other racist remark) only for me to walk over, give them a hug, and be like "I love my big sister/little brother soooooo much!" is priceless. Especially because they know the reason I do this, so we just look at the racist with a knowing look and, if their face could drain color more, it would.