Racism in Our Marriage & Being Friends with an Ex: Couple Plays Agree To Disagree! 

I don’t think the “vibes” are off- I think they are just super tired with having two littles and had no filter in this video. Haha. They’re allowed to have off days, that’s life.

I appreciate how candid they are. To Josh, ignore the comments. I can tell discussions of race get under his skin. As a Black Man, who is often not considered black enough, it's annoying. But you don't have to prove your "Blackness". Continue to be who you are.

Thanks for being raw. Life isn’t always bubbles and rainbows. Sometimes its feeling stiff and stuffy but pressing forward. This is love. I love you both so much.

“Merry Christmas” “happy new year” stop it 😂😂😂 starting with jokes. Love yall so much!

I appreciate y’all vulnerability. Yall being parents and full time RU-vid is not easy. Praying for yall family and continue blessings

the "hold my hand" part and you just grabbing his finger had me dying. WHY is that me and my fiance haha

The gasp I gusped when she said, “what’s Motown?” 😂

I love the transparency in this podcast. It illustrates that marriage is not always perfect. I love this family channel so much and it has truly blessed me. Your marriage has definitely impacted me in the way I see marriage since my parents are divorced. Continue to keep God first in the relationship! Love you guys!!!

Is it just me but there vibe seems off to me today … hope they are ok ❤

This pod cast was 🔥🔥 to me it screamed We are human, we are not perfect but we love each other and because of that we will never give up on us!!!!! May the Lord continue to bless this precious family and may He continue to use them to encourage and share truth with others. In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽

lol the vibes were on life support & thats okay, it be that way sometimes its real & thats why i love yall 💜

I am an older individual and I love everything about ya'll. I am also a PK and I waited until I was 50 to get married. My wife and I have been married for 2 years now and I feel this is how we would have been if we had met earlier in our lives. Keep loving each other, it's awesome!

Lol at people saying the vibes are off. The vibes ARE OFF but they are also married with kids. The vibes are off sometimes and that’s pretty normal. The baby could have boycotted a nap for all we know and it threw off the day.

The realness of this convo. Gotta say it again 😅Talking about racism. Josh and Sav are so real and vulnerable about this and that is not easy. They don't skate around it and I appreciate that. Shining light on your vulnerability and bravery!

I love the realness of this convo!

I love this !! I think people often misuse racism vs prejudice , people are often prejudice on both sides

Josh is spicy 🌶️ today Praying over you guys ❤️🙏

I love to see, godly couples still together. I also love to see couples who, believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, not allow racism, or any other form of Satan, attacked to destroy the marriage. Hopefully, one day the father bless me with the wife I meant the holy spirit.

sav! for the tall boots i usually just wear them w skirts or dresses just cause the tighter pant underneath is giving horse riding boots LOL

This episode was so different. The topics, the vibes, everything.

Seems like Sav is controlling and even wanna control Josh answers. Why all the white women on here coming for Josh, it’s ridiculous!

Sav I wear the tall black dress boots with long jean skirts with a slit in front!!! It’s so cute and still keeps you warm too!

Y’all better leave Josh alone I know that. Don’t waste your voice to anyone. Your love with Sav is radiant & honestly you doin sumn right if the haters speakin 🤍🗣️

😂 Y'all better chill with coming for Josh...I promise it aint that deep...

Ignorance towards the other race is not being racist. Hate for any race white or black that’s racism.

to me this was such a chill episode.

Loved the podcast as always, thank you guys!

That blanket Sav is cuddled with looks sooo comfortable. I neeeeeed it!

Josh is so kool, because my my, Sav was really judging his answers and doing too much. I would of gotten a bit salty as a result. His opinion should be his, learn to manage your expectations Sav.

I think josh was either A tired, or B was getting annoyed by Sav cutting him off. Which if B, that happens. Couples fight, get on each other's nerves. It's bound to happen. Does it make for great content, no,but thats what they are comfortable sharing. But for me it's not that deep

Loved this conversation I love the transparent raw truth yall give off Beautiful Family and God Bless Yall Always❤

I dunno who these people are or how they ended up on my feed but sir seemed scared to disagree with her and i dont blame him. Wishing yall the best! These can be hard conversations to have in front of the whole internet

Soooo much off energy this episode :(

This video is so real 😂 I love y’all

Bro why does Sav keep interrupting him and getting offended at his every opinion, no wonder he looks uncomfortable this whole episode 💀 She literally said “I’m pretty pissed at your answer” 👎🏻

Y'all please ignore those comments, y'all did amazing. Love you guys ❤

You guys are like my husband and I.. Josh comes more "Alive" with others around and I use to think just like Sav, like the vibes are off, come here tyoe of thing. But my husband kinda explained to me that, hes more comfortable with me. His in his "chill & peace" mind set with me so I kinda feel like this might be the same for Josh as well. Yall keep loving each other and communicating. PPL have different stage in life as individuals and as couples. You learn new thing about each other in each stage, Yall are in yalls parenting stage .. to me this stage is the most difficult.. because its stressful but it also brings so much strength to the relationship. My husband and I met at 16, been together 15yrs March 26th .. we have two kids 8 and 4 its JUST now getting to be easy etc and were talking about having a 3rd😂 we have two boys he wants a girl.. but say all that to say.. it gets better, you can see the love you guys have just continue to communicate and respect each others opinions/feelings ❤

It seems like Josh can’t even be honest with his wife. Like she seems combative and controlling tbh..

Great pod cast. Everyone needs to do what is right for them. My grandchild is both black and white and I absolutely adore him. I believe in a person being happy.

I’ve been reading through all the comments saying the same thing. So proud and happy for you.

Listening back & hearing sav say “I don’t want you to have your own answer” is crazyy 😭 guys whatttt

This feels very 'off' today! It felt like. ' pulling teeth'. Maybe take the day off from filmung rather than just trying to force content, just for the sake of posting something.

The vibe is really off, josh was very rude and passive aggressive to savannah in his tone of voice and words the entire time

I was born in wilsonville OR and now I’m in super close to OC! I love going there for shopping, food, walks etc. This side of town is the best❤

Savv ?!?!❤❤❤ love you both, the podcast is lit! And God's got you both❤

Idk why people are saying the vibe feels off. It just felt like a real convo- like y’all weren’t trying to overproduce, perform, or be any extra for the camera, which I really loved. ♥️ It felt like I was in the room with you guys.

I feel like black people just have a really heightened pride in being black. And would like for the culture to continue through generations. This would for obvious reasons be harder for interracial couples. Hopefully that makes sense. There are many races around the world who think this way, it's actually a common thought.

did josh even want to film this day? so uncomfortable to watch. the body language from him was screaming “i’m being forced to do this”

Bro what is Josh even saying 😂

No ones relationship is over the top happy, good moods, and laughter 24/7 they came on had an honest conversation and didn’t perform or try to act any kind of way. I’m curious if everyone who is commenting how off they seem has perfect marriages or relationships…

And then Josh had a complete attitude

I don't think josh was being rude. In my opinion sav was not really getting the questions, the question where in general not about them two. It seemed she was not liking when josh was disagreeing cause she was taking it personal.

I feel like Sav has a tendency to control Josh’s answers/wants him to always agree with her & maybe Josh was tired of it in this episode? Or maybe it was just an off day

Yall have to be pranking us with Josh’s tude in this 😭🤣

josh's answers don't make sense.

I lowkey high key feel like yall are pranking us. If not, I’d be surprised. But either way if the vibes were true to how they were feeling in this moment no one can blame them. Anybody who’s been married or in a long term relationship, knows that you love your person, but they also work your nerves sometimes 🤣

Not trying to be mean, just feel like Josh was a bit off this episode.

“Acknowledge me, I said I was thirsty” 😂😂😂 The little one off quotes here are killing me

I think Savannah should make an effort on learning and gaining knowledge on black history, it's so important when having a black husband ESPECIALLY to teach her black/ bi children.. she can start small like reading her children books about black women leaders. books that show people that look like them because we definitely know in school they are not & WON'T . Savannah is a beautiful soul but she has no knowledge of anything black besides having a black husband and it shouldn't be put all on him to teach his children.. we d o this in our interracial marriage with our kids.

On the Find Me thing, you can actually get notified when a person left a place or just got to a place in specific. They just have to allow you to know that.

Praying for you guys mental states and wellbeing

I was raised by my now 90+ year old grandmother and she was so against me dating outside my race and even inside my race she wanted me to be with a “white” guy. I am 1/2 Native American along with a mix of other races, and when I was in 2nd grade I told her I had a “boyfriend” and that was the first time I remember hearing about different races because the first thing she asked me was if he was black. Now that I’m an old lady and raising grandkids I tell them the only rule I have is to be kind to EVERYONE! I just hope I can give them what I never had before, unconditional love and support no matter who they fall in love with! I know if I do that then I’ve made this world a little better place for everyone!

I wish Sav could step outside herself and just listen when it comes to convos about race. Feels like Josh holds back when it comes to questions about race, because he is nervous about how Sav will react. Not even trying to hate

Josh is projecting some really ugly energy in this from the jump, it’s almost hard to watch this.

I was born & raised in Portland Oregon and not proud of it either… I get it Sav. I’m 46 years old, things are so sad here and our leaders have given up on our state. But that is also the consequences from how the majority of Oregon voters voted 🤦‍♀️ breaks my heart. Jesus we need you ❤ It reminds me that as a Jesus follower to be the Salt and light here 😊

Love this set, What happened to the studio tho?

i understand where sav is coming from, josh was not being honest with his answers, smh 🥴

I’m in an interracial relationship and I agree with sav in that I have learned a lot from my boyfriend about racism as well as when we first got together I know his family was worried about him being with me because I’m white and especially his dad advised him against dating a white woman which I know comes from past experiences. But his dad really loves me now and after getting to know me loves having me around. We’ve gotten looks from other black people because he is with a white woman. I believe that any race can experience racism and be racist. I also understand and we’ve both talked about how some of his past experiences have cause him to feel a certain way towards cops and other white people which also makes sense but he is just careful and if someone is chill with him it’s all good. We’ve experienced racism in such different ways. For me it was little things and for him I know it’s been a lot worse so I’m not going to say that I understand it all but being with him has definitely opened my eyes a lot. I appreciate you guys talking about this because as Josh said race can be uncomfortable for people but it’s something we have to talk about.

Strongly agree to I dream about my husband, almost every night 🥰. But I have had dreams about him leaving me as well. So Josh, respectfully please reassure Sav that you two are locked 🔒 in lol

Sav: “when you say your coming home and I hit the directions to me and it’s like 😩 25 more minutes” I could not agree more. lol I can’t wait for my husband to get home.

I grew up in a white Mennonite household & it was embedded into my parents & their siblings that they HAD to marry a fellow white Mennonite - or BOOM, they’d be going straight to hell. They would twist scripture to validate it also. I personally knew from a young age that If I got married, it definitely wouldn’t be to a white Mennonite. & I don’t think that was me trying to be rebellious, but rather the Holy Spirit working to break the generational racism in the family. I’m now married to a very black man, straight from Uganda, and God has done a work not only in my immediate family but my large extended family. It’s been an awesome unfolding! I almost think it would have been a betrayal to myself & the future generation if I would have married a white Mennonite. We’re having twins this spring! Our first pregnancy! & I just know Gods gonna do a whole new thing in breaking that generational racism through this next generation! Glory to God!

Josh, probably doesn’t feel like he betrayed his own race because he didn’t actively seek outside of his race. He just fell in love with a person who he liked. Simple. But yes Sav. Both white and black people can be judgmental. I never got the point of caring so much about what other people are doing. I’ll date anyone who I like and find attractive doesn’t matter the race, height, weight etc. 🤷🏽‍♀️

My husband and I have been married for 50 years. We have been in a lot of different situations, Mostly about stereotypes. You’ll be surprised how much I learn about each other once you have grandkids and how much you can learn from them because they’re on the outside looking in and giving you a new perspective of how your marriage affected that I feel right now in both of you feel very uncomfortable, talking about your interracial marriage. You’re lucky that you have the Internet that you can look at things and learn. I’d really like to have a conversation with you when you’re not on the screen an honest conversation.

It’s Josh making these questions more particular(as in specific?) than they are 🤣🤣

I love yall but the vibes were definitely off this episode …🥴

Merriam Webster's definition of racism: a belief that race is a fundamental determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. Every single race has experienced and is capable of experiencing racism.

Savana contradicted herself with the can you be friends with your ex and the can men and women be friends

Feeling bad for Savannah in how Josh is talking to her in this episode:/

Now yall acting like you been married for a while. Thats why Im still watching cause your not putting on a front.

In an interracial marriage also. Neither of us feels like we betrayed anyone. Be with who you like.. it’s not a betrayal or anyone else’s business. Racism did play a big role in our relationship though. My family wanted me with a white man. Took 10 years and me to move out for it to change.

Sav was about to pop off on Josh😂

I am 34 years old and I’ve never had my own girlfriend and quite frankly I’ve given up on the concept of marriage, especially if it’s with American woman and do not think that I like confidence, because my life is wonderful and most part, but as a merchant, marinerI’ve decided it would be best for me to probably get a wife outside. The states I’m African-American and if you’re not a certain way, a certain height women don’t look at you in that way and it is what it is. I just don’t understand.

Loved it as always , but im over here on the comments confused as hell as to why everyone saying josh is rude , the vibe is off !! But thats what happens with different opions i guess...i loved everything

I love J and S and enjoy their podcast. In my personal opinion....I would say Sav was more sassy through thus episode than Josh was, but that's pretty normal. Josh, I think Sav needs some reassurance or some compliments. She was seeming "in question" when it came to your responses to some of the questions, which I didn't feel were odd at all. I think Josh was had a few sassy responses to Sav but I didn't feel this was odd at all. J was seeming a bit worn out or tired and Sav was on a different level with her energy. This happens in marriage at times. ❤ the Soshsquad! Yes....I been here awhile. May God bless y'all!

Poor Sav. Josh being really off today. We all get our off days but not a pleasant watch. Hope your looking after yourselves and getting enough rest :)

Seek first the kingdom of God… prayer and fasting and getting rid of things that are not of God is most definitely always needed❤️

I’m sending you all love❤

Some of y’all in these comments aren’t married and it shows 😂

Ah - this episode was tense. Hard to listen to. Everyone has off days, catch y'all on the next one.

Yeah I agree the vibes are off definitely off, however, I’m sure folks would say the same thing about my fiance and I if we weren’t vibing one day and someone happened to be recording us. We have all had / have days like this ☺️they are human

I feel like Josh was a bit off this episode.😅

Love you guys

Watched the episode, you guys are definitely reaching in the comments. 😂 Josh's energy was lower and Sav took somethings more personally. I think the conversation was raw and respectful. Love them for it. ❤ To jump to the assumption that Josh is controlling because his answers and responses were more straight forward is wildddddd.

I'm a black man who is married to a white woman. Some of her relatives and friends that she grew up with don't want anything to do with her because she married me. She loves me so much and doesn't care what others think. Honestly, I grew up thinking that a white woman would never love a black man like a black woman can. But you know what. My mom told me as I got older that you can't judge anyone by the color of their skin. She told me to just like at her as a woman and not a white woman. Look at her as a woman who loves you so much.

Wake up, Mount Hood. There's a ton of stuff. Just got to look for it is history in every city in town

It's funny how they talk about race and people are saying the vibe is off 😅.

If you are a Christian you should know that everyone can be racist. Doesn't matter the colour. This thought that black people can't be racist to white people is a new thing and false. My husband is black from the Caribbean and he knows black people can be racist. RACISM is defined as someone who hates another race due to there skin. Solely based on skin colour. So anyone can be racist. Saying black people can't be racist is an excuse to say what ever you want. Imagine if a white person said that. This isn't a new thing btw. Go back to bible times.

Silent watcher!!! Race is all about race not just black people. You can be RACist towards any race. Black white asian Indian Native American blue red whatever. I’m super surprised by your comments on this. Love y’all 🩷🩷🩷

There is a lot of stuff here. History wise, go find it. Tell us about it. You'll know if you go find it, go find it. You just haven't lived too long enough. Live Oregon City, she should know. Nobody thinks her towns are that great. Unless you move away Really, really loved it. The city

I think the racism towards each other could go both ways with the example Sav brought up. She didn't understand white privilege because she wasn't really exposed to the opposite, and maybe Josh didn't understand how someone didn't recognize white privilege because he only knew the opposite.