Dearest Terri you are one of those few who taught me how to love myself. I’m still struggling to love myself although I try so hard. Whenever I feel happy, I feel guilty for being happy at the same time. You have no idea what an impact your work has on so many of us. Sending you lots of love ❤️
Currently rebuilding my life as I go through my divorce and Im so happy I came across your channel. Im only allowing things and people that serve me in this new chapter. Thank you for sharing
Terry this was spot on my recent problem. This past weekend as a matter of fact with a neighbor who is noisy, intuitive and knows no boundaries. So I have to set the boundaries. It’s a long story but this weekend was my second time confronting him. My husband and I are outside getting ready to do some spring clean up. Oh and by the way every time we are outside the neighbor has to come out as well to ask what are we up to, how much did that cost, why are you doing that way.....it goes on and on every single time. Anyway getting back to my husband and I are outside getting ready to do some spring cleanup when our neighbor comes out and begins talking to my husband asking a lot of questions and telling my husband how he should do the task. I’m sweeping the garage so I can hear the conversation. The next thing I know my husband is doing what the neighbor told him to do. I’m like the wtf is happening here and why is my husband doing what the neighbor told him to do. At the same time the neighbor is watching me sweep the garage, I thought to myself so help him if he comes o er and tells me how and what I should be using . He didn’t. The neighbor is watching what my husband . I’m getting irritated. I have had words the this neighbor in the past. Anyways one thing leads to another I see my husband and neighbor in our driveway I finally couldn’t take it any more so I go to see what exactly this neighbor is up to now when I hear him telling my husband what he should do with the grass clippings...well I lost it. I ask him if he had projects to do in his house he said yes I said well go do them. He just stood there looking at me and I looking straight into his eyes I said leave again he just stood there I repeated myself he finally started walking away when he stops and proceeds to help my husband, i was like are you kidding me again I asked him to leave now he said I’m only helping your husband I can’t believe your attitude, I said nothing (at this point I wanted to hit him with a bat) I just stared him down and said get out. He put his hands up sort of like ok I give up and left. You might ask did my husband say anything ? NOPE!!! My husband didn’t hear anything because the lawnmower was on. I know my husband doesn’t like confrontation and neither do I but sometimes you need to do what you have to do. My question is moving forward how do I deal with this neighbor who is also a chauvinistic pig. That’s why he didn’t leave when I first asked him to because I am a women. I appreciate any advise. Thank you
This book is incredible. It's true what you said, Terri, about just having the courage to speak up and have the conversation about boundaries is healing and empowering despite the outcome.
Thank you Terri. I've actually started setting boundaries right away after watching your interview. The most important thing is, now, I don't care if people don't like me when I'm setting my boundaries. Yesterday, I told my friend not to talk to me like I'm his employee. Today I told my boss not to disrespect my personal schedules. Tomorrow, I might tell my friend not to make bad jokes on me in social situation. If only, I have time to talk to him. 😁
Hi Terry, I just want you to know your channel has truly been helping me out for the past few days in terms of my path to building and examining my sense of low self-esteem. Thank you for these strong messages.
Thank you Terri for your invaluable work. I've been following you for almost a year, pre-ordered your book and recently joined your BB Boundary Workshop. Looking forward to start this 8 weeks journey
Thank you for this video, Terri as it’s perfect timing for me. I recently decided to dissolve a “close relationship” because my clear and consistent boundaries were not respected. Although the loss of the friendship saddens me (momentarily), I know I’ve made the best decision for myself. I’ve been following you for more than five years, listened intently, done the work, and I pre ordered your book. I’m a huge fan and I cannot tell you how much you’ve changed my life and consequently the lives of those around me! Many thanks and much gratitude.
Ohh... this came right “on time” and when I consciously do work on setting clearly my boundaries... I “met” you first when you were on interview with Mark and now I am ordering your book Boundary Boss and cannot wait to have it with me 🥰🙏
I need a lot of help. As I listen to your teaching, I’m thinking that sounds good, but it sounds bitchy. If I apply it to you, I can easier tolerate this. If I apply this to me, and picture myself treating people this way, I shrink back from this teaching. Of course I know you’re right in what you are teaching. But my brain completely checks out when I think of me becoming so assertive. My brain checks out when I think of being so positive for me. What a screwed up person I have been for 73 yrs. So, I’m going to keep listening and decide which one of you wonderful therapist I’m going to choose to guide me out of this morass. Rationally I know you’re not bitchy. But there’s an irrational side of me saying, that’s not the way to treat people. So, you can imagine what kind of life I have had. I get all these compliments on what a kind loving person I am. Now I know why-I have never shown up for me. Thank you Terry for this excellent teaching.
Thank you so much, Terri! I appreciate you and your work so much. This episode is amazing, your words resonate within me. I’d like to buy your book however I’m abroad. I’ll check if there’s a way someone can buy & ship it to me or if I can buy an online version if there’s one available. Much love.
Hi Nathan! I've heard mixed reports on the volume with many people hearing it normally. I do use a professional mic and all of the volume settings are set up. I would recommend checking the settings on your device! Thank you for sharing and for being here ❤️🥰
