Reacting To "9 Signs Of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off" By Dan Bacon | Courtney Ryan 

The way I've improved my insecurities is to Work at being better each day. Gym, Reading, Journaling, counseling etc.

This list is just stupid and it's terrible advice for men. I honestly can't believe how popular this bullshit is on the internet. I can't even imagine a worse mindset to give men who are trying to get better with women. Dude's basically saying that any sign of insecurity will turn a woman off. Well, even if it's true, it's just another thing to be insecure about. It would be like trying to put out a fire by pouring gas on it.

There is a way, people talk about it all the time. Do hard shit, work to overcome weaknesses and become competent at things you either fall short on that you feel are holding you back or double down on things you are naturally good at. What a self defeating mindset you have. It’s evident you have absolutely no control over your own mind. No wonder you’re insecure and anxious. You’re not competent enough at anything worthy to be otherwise. Keep complaining on social media bro that’ll really turn your life around 🤦

I hope most people appreciate authenticity. I would imagine that if one would be authentic about his/her insecurities that the person realises that he/she should work on that. I think if our society would put less emphasis on being in a relationship rather than working on being authentic and that it is ok to be insecure (because, again, I believe that by acknowledging it and working through it you might be able to get rid of it). If I remember correctly Narcissists care a lot about status. So if we don't want our society to become more and more narcissistic, being honest and authentic should be valued more rather than hiding insecurities because they are soooo unattractive... Hope I didn't repeat myself too often^^ would love to read some responses.

@@marcolaich994 most Americans have some level of Narcissistic behaviors. We all want to be perceived in certain ways. There comes a point where being honest with others about our flaws is necessary and rare. Social media is just adding to our narcissism.

After 30s imo but very true

I never worried much about impressing women in the very conscious way some men do, but I did somewhat subconsciously feel bound to please them. It was as if I never had permission to please myself rather than whatever random female happened to be standing next to me at any given time. In some ways I didn't even allow myself to think the thoughts or feel the feelings I had floating around inside me. I cut myself off from own reality to avoid displeasing them! Now that I'm in my thirties, have been married for several years and have kids, I have this ever-growing freedom from all that. It's like, wow, okay, this or that woman can have this or that opinion about me or how men should be, but that's okay, because I don't care all that much any more. I can actually be myself and I don't put random women on pedestals any more. There's a lot of sadness, though, for myself and for all the boys and men out there whom I perceive to be cutting themselves off from themselves just as I used to do (much, much more than I do now). Your self -- for lack of a better way to put it -- is too intimate and valuable a thing to just surrender to others without so much as a peep of defiance. If anyone out there ever reads this and finds that anything I've said resonates, my wish for you is that you take yourself back and never, ever betray yourself and your fellow man like that again.

Just turned 34 and realized this within past year or so. I just don’t really care anymore. I’ll take care of and improve on myself, but not bending over backwards for a woman. They need to work on themselves as well.

It's after 30s not 20s

I agree. I'm 26 and kind of past most of my partying days and it's amazing how confidence just comes. Like I was such an awkward teen into my early 20s but now I'm who I am and love it. I'm perfectly confident in being myself. Age brings confidence as well as wisdom.

Bingo

100% TRUE... THE BIGGEST MISTAKE I EVER MADE ON DATING WAS TRY HARD TO IMPRESS & PUTTING THEM ON A PEDESTAL...🙄🙄🙄

Every time I say this, a bunch of simps gang me, saying things like "there's nothing wrong with improving yourself". To be honest, growing up poor and being the only person in my family to ever have a college degree, I don't think I did too bad of a job.

Don't live for women. Pursue your path. Skirt-chasing is a waste of your time, energy and resources, even though it's harmless.

These are my words, my friend. Its an good advice that Courtney would give to us. But thats her perspective. Be yourself guys, have your life under control, be confidence what you do and what you succeded. If couples womens dont want ya, no deal there comes the person who's going to like you.

From your comment i can say whats i am going to see in this video

Kezia Noble and Bobby Rio are also great dating coaches whenever I want something more specific.

ahahahahahahahahahahaha

😂 Lol

Yup. Wheter she likes you or not is up to her. Just be yourself and see where it goes.

@@rauminen4167 yeah tried that... went south real quick, ofc it was a huge mistake on my part

@@01iverQueen Good. It's much better to figure out FAST if you're not compatible, so you can start looking elsewhere.

@@rauminen4167 the thing is I don't want to lose her, I think if I change my negativity/pessimism I would attract her again. She was perfect in every way as I'm very picky when I'm looking at women for some reason, every check box has to be marked for me

@@01iverQueen Sounds to me she's busy dodging the bullet there - for the second one at least. You can't really blame someone for not wanting to "get attacked again". Probably should think about ticking some boxes on your own porch before looking at anybody else's.

IQ sucked, EQ fine

being tipsy increases my social IQ from 90 to 160

Dunning Kruger effect.

Well, to be someone like Christiano Ronaldo, you need both high IQ and high EQ. Do you really think he would have won against soooooooo many players without being able to think like a master chess player ? (Hint: physically strong soccer guys with mental retardation get red flags faster than a 6 year old grabs his first lolly at primary school)

It’s true, sometimes my special need students are the most confident of all. Still, to be able to lead a Team, you need to be intelligent in almost every way.

Nah just have some self confidence that you've built for yourself.

That's correct. That's why keeping a wife happy for a long time is a very difficult job.

I think this video is not about being perfect, but being yourself, i.e. being confident when accepting yourself with all your weaknesses and strengths.

​@@2happyknightwe can not show out weakness to women. They will run. Said in this video as well and all I've ever experienced.

I'm okay with the way I am, but girls aren't okay with that.

I don't think the purpose is to attract women but just to become a better men in general

MONEY. the end

@@FreeSkillsStyle and a woman needs to tell you that???

@@PutsOnSneakers Dear God. Bless it!

Thank you 🙏

Zionists and communists have twisted society and made people into mentally ill narcissists hence why you need videos to try and understand them.

the market is way different than back then

Yeah, and extremism is on the rise as well.

This is what extreme feminism has done

It always was complicated. It's foolish nostalgia to imagine otherwise.

So life is safer when you don’t try and fail at anything. 🤔 come on bro, it’s a game. I don’t like it either, but not acknowledging what it is and choosing to be blind to it won’t do you any favors. You got this bro.

You’re fine. The message we get from society is “you have to be super confident and have no insecurities or women won’t like you”. In reality, it’s sort of out of your control. I’ve been amazed at how women could still like me some times even if I don’t act that confident. Accept yourself as you are. You don’t have to be the most secure person in the world to find love.

There are lots of normal women that can manage a guy with some insecurities bc they know life and shit. That doesn't mean to be a Peter pan. Just get your life straight and learn what's really important. That's what good women want. And not to act a special way or say something special or what ever. Bc when you get your act together all you are looking for is a women that fits into your life and vice versa. Both don't play games. And if they do they're out. Simple.

My boyfriend is sometimes shy and anxious and insecure but i love and care about him. I'm not perfect either and I'm sometimes these things too. It's normal. You don't have to be perfect to be loved. Loving someone is about accepting them, the good and the bad. You are worthy of love too, as you are. There will never be a time when you finally become perfect and finally worthy of love, so don't wait for a moment that won't come, you are fine as you are. Go and live your best life

just dont pursue women

Explain

This comment wins the section

Please the lord, not hoes

Boom. Wish I knew this in my 20s

Yeah. You cant control the result, only the action.

Get your validation the HARD way - from SOCIETY. THAT's what builds value.

What you should have been could be defined if you maintained the habits of your younger self but its not sound as there is to much that influences a change in path and habit especially now with our social media addictions. If you had the confidence and knowledge when you were 18 like you do now then you wouldn't be who you are now, life is a journey and everyone is on their own path, you can however change the influence of your path and how you be and become by learning, being open, and discovering the causes of your own ignorance. The past is not what defines us, rather its the present choices and actions we take in the current moment that creates our experience it dictates who we are and who we become, becoming isn't a level, its an the evolution of you. Just be happy you are you, i do agree with you, i do would also have wished i had the confidence like i do now then but it wouldn't have been realistic, the people you were surrounded by then, the level of education be it from your own reading, learning, schooling, study or what have you, or people that mentored you be it a program or a system like the military etc,. If you wanted to know how you would have turned out when you were 18, you would need to observe your habits and interests and the people that were around you, change those two things, and your current self would probably have been different, ever hear of the saying "you become who you surround yourself with"

Thing is, it takes a lifetime to be the person you want to be.

That's a great quote and very true.

There are lots of people within that age range who needs to know what you know now.

Youth is wasted on the young

Agreed. She has a very attractive voice.

Exactly. It's definitely worth the trade off. Just get a decent looking woman you find attractive. Leave them "bad bitches" "im a queen" chicks alone , just asking for trouble. Lol

100% facts! I aim for 8s. I've hooked up with 10s who were 1s in bed and who were straight up boring always on their phone or doing their make-up basically a self-absorbed personality. 8s are a good balance of personality and overall good time. lol

Looking in the wrong places . I’ve had tens and 5s both great in bed and both bad in bed. It’s not looks of a woman it’s how YOU make her feel.

@@jjw3956 I have had tens that were not bad in bed but what I'm saying is the majority of the hottest women can't carry conversations and they just lay in bed like a Carl's Jr star contributing very minimal to sex. I think coach Greg Adams said it the best when he said the hottest women have to make very minimal effort to talk to men and they have to make zero effort to get sex because men are always the one after them for that and they have to initiate it. Less attractive women and ugly women usually put in more effort and work a little bit harder to attract men because I guess you can say they have a disadvantage over hot women so they have to engage more with men to get sex or to have a conversation with.

God I hate it when a girl just basically lays there and expects you to do everything. Theyll even get annoyed if you want them to ride cowboy because it means they have to put forth some effort and do some work.

Yes!!

Dan, you have the most incredible insight of anyone. Well beyond the common topics I've noticed. I have been really liking this lady's videos as well. I hope she chooses to respond to your comment.

100%. Women have a hard time admitting they do this but it’s so clear that they do. There are various degrees of tests and each woman is different, but they all do it. This is a blind spot for Courtney, but maybe she can grow even more if she does some more introspection on the topic.

Everyone tests when meeting anyone. Guys test girls to see if they are loyal and won't sleep around.

hi Jesus Christ Loves Acts 2:38 UPCI church locator type that into the internet

Basically. And they contradic themselves. They want you to be always nice to them but another time they don't like it

Because we allow them to.

Don't worry about it, this is just to seduce to get laid not really to have a good wife that will support you in everyday life. These things are for people with lack of forsight and are extremely unrealistic and superficial. People who know the truth know that only 14% of marriages are going well worldwide. These things fade as quick as another potential replacement is observed. Do what you love, it kills people.

Patriarchy, so it's ok. Can't blame 'em 🤷‍♂

@@OscarTheGrouchy Women rejecting and punishing men for having feelings is "patriarchy?"

@@etaaramin9361 in eyes of some people, everything is caused by patriarchy, or other umbrella terms. Just ignore them.

Its just natrue. Don't take it personally. I stopped crying about women nature and started trying to be a better man and have a better life. In turn that attracts women. Women just are biologically attracted to confident men. It gives assurance this man can protect and provide for them.

This is the best compliment! Thank you so so much 🥺

Lmao shut up

About her genuine authentic persona its true I almost made a mistake tryin to date her until i was a little too good in observancy ive noticed this beautiful Venus goddes is taken... 🤣She has a BF.... Yet my apologies to Courtney. 🤘😈🤘 Signed your trully the deathmetal undertaker from Tilburg Netherlands

@@CourtneyRyan how does it fee being orbited by simps?

I agree with Courtney that this whole testing thing that content creators go on about is not healthy. If you think your going to be tested you have already lost the game. It's about getting to know each other and if there is compatibility. It's about being curious about each other, learning from and about each other.

I can relate and lemme tell you. The key is to talk slowlyyyyy. Take your time and everything you say to her should be made to have meaning. Not only will this present you as less anxious but also smarter and laid back (cool)

You’re the best! Thank you 🥺

@@CourtneyRyan your most welcome 🙂

Oh she’s making money. Off you simps lmao.

@@CourtneyRyan isn’t your boyfriend supposed to be the best????

@@Filthy_Larry Do you understand the term "figurative"? I figure you don't, given your propensity to try and belittle others and troll. If she's making money off of "Simps" what does that make you giving her views? Also why are you here? lmao "simp". Before you even try and label me a simp, I've paid for nothing - so get your head out of your ass. She's being nice, dude. Just try it. Won't kill you I promise.

This is such a good point!

@@CourtneyRyan Muchas Gracias!

It isn't about the insecurity, it's about what you do with it. The same applies to failure.

You know what, I've suffered from crippling insecurity my whole life. I'm married and have a great relationship with my wife. Don't worry about this crap. You're always going to be insecure about something;_ that's the human condition. If you meet a woman who thinks she's above all that, well... if you wind up staying with her, you'll have your work cut out for you.

Women are never attracted to emotional insecurity, never.. they might say they respect that just to portray themselves as good persons, but they will run out of a marriage if the guy shows signs of any emotional insecurity or anything of that sort

Yeah, that's a self sorting apporoach as well. You treat women as just "people" until further notice but you're also a man so make a mental note of who you like, and if they do the same eventually you have something in common when you have a ... bilateral agreement haha! If you can't get to that point, what's the point??? You have to have something in common and then just don't be desperate about it and Bob is your aunt's husband.

😅 I'm doomed. Nothing i can do to fix things, so I'm just going to stick with eating my vitamins and saying my prayers, work out to relieve the mental anguish cause im the kind of guy this video is talking about. 😆 gosh im so screwed. No point, i give up 😆

@@dockmajor7236 Good. Now that you gave up, talk to women like you're not trying to "pick them up" - because as you said there's no point. See what happens.

@@rauminen4167 in the past i never tried talking to them like i was picking them up. I've always treated them like they were people with personalities and feelings as your supposed to. Picking up and game have never been my thing but thanks for the advice

Women want a nice guy but at the same time they are only attracted by those who are bad boys or in other words almost treat them badly, so women themselves create men they don't like in the end... How does that make any sense

Men aren’t afraid they’re tired and don’t want to waste energy on any modern women that’s why modern women are all single and will die alone it’s just a matter of fact men are the prize not women women need to know they’re replaceable act up replaced don’t cook replaced don’t clean replaced don’t pleasure her man replaced start drama replaced women need to do everything to get a man while men stand by and do nothing while women do everything to please them

Oh for sure. She has to be contributing too!

@@moonknight4053 Not attacking Courtney. It seems the days of social media has dumbed down conversation. In fact I am in a conversation based relationship and I am blown away, absolutely impressed to the max that this lady is putting forth equal effort. That should be normal, it's not.

Most women I've met if not all rarely contribute to the relationship.

regulation of your own emotions means they are not strong based and they are mobil. so, mobile emotions means the person has no principles.

@@PandaJohns Excuse me, what? I think you have grossly misunderstood what self-regulation means.

You know what? I think we are all humans. So on, we have all flaws. By being authentic means in my opinion, stay to your flaws. If u can take your flaws with a smile on your face, thats confidence. Im 100% sure, only toxic woman want a superman who is just pretending to be perfect. But no one is. Not even the most beautiful girl in the world

@@uwekirschner187 you have a great point especially that part about owning up to your flaws but not dwelling on them either. The good thing is, there's always room to improve and be better.

While i understand your point, I've been there myself, just don't give up man. Life is a marathon not a race. Put to practice everything this side of the internet has to offer so you can properly prepare your future kids or nephews/cousins for life and dating.

@@casualgerm you're right and i appreciate your perspective on this topic. I definitely try to use what i learn to help others avoid the mistakes i have made

Always ask do you.. . on your first date.. that always gets a girlfriend

Good nice meeting you here Peter

My man, dan is a goon. The only legitimate coach in my book is Coach Lee

Is Corey Wayne legit ? I thought I saw him say you should read his 3% Man book 15 times or else you are not doing it right. It seemed like a red flag to me.

Isn't being tested what every day you wake up is all about? Stalin and Ronald Reagan said "trust but verify".

I get that, kinda takes the enjoyment out of it when in the back of your mind its just ''is she testing me rn'' like whats the point honestly

A woman needs to test to see if you're stable enough for their crazy . A shit test means she's interested

@@raularmas317 I wouldn’t want to be with anyone who quotes Stalin and Reagan.

Its a turn off in general. Even for making friends with people.

What if your naturally a really serious person?

@@centripetal6157 That's fine. You don't have much control over how you "come off" to people anyway.

I love your comment Shaw it nice having you here I’m sharon by the name nice meeting you

@@davidsharon7981 Likewise Sharon.

Good

Thank you so much! 🥺

That's funny you said that because I had said that she's one-tenth of the way there to where she deserves to be as a minimum

Damn, 200,000 subs?! That's too much for her... Actually, no, fuck that, I can't wait to watch her eat 200,000 subs! I expect her to upload it any day now.. but in her defense she's probably still moving a massive bread blockage thru her guts b4 she can go on to eat the rest (especially if we're tawkin' foot-long, or even meatball subs)... Honestly ( ..well maybe) I bet even if Courtney were fused to a sofa from a crippling Subway addiction, she'd STILL be likable... (But only if she can keep the wheezing to absolute minimum 👌)

Yeah you’re right Smith nice meeting you here’s I’m sharon.

sadly enough women don't even consider men having a mental issues a real men. We live in the society where all women are "queents" but men either are invisible to women and disposable, or suppose to be a superhero with no flaws. The same time women "deserve best" and is "a prize" just for sole existence.

How goes your journey?

Bro read a few erotic book writen by womans, then chosse a character that you like to be and star texting girls, feeling like thah guy, off course not crazy nasty, just the confident attitude thel calm, you will see how it works and then you can mold your personally to be something that you like more, and not be that "Shy guy, bla bla", you are not that, it's just a bunch of habits of feelings and what you are jus to!

reason is most of the people are stuck in that mentality..... so genuine guys are losing to guys who pretend they are amazing,.... that's why so many break ups after 6 months.....

Because it doesn't exist. Until insta tinder, party girls, player culture will die it will not exist.

I Wonder how Courtney feels about these 5.

😂

@@dillsanders1046 loser

What’s so insecure about explaining why you have a particular opinion?

@@nanobyte5567 because if you offer your answer without being asked, you can come off as seeking approval. If she asks you, then you're in position of DHV

I don't care. Who are these people anyway. Be yourself and enjoy life.

31 its not young af dude, your life its passing by and you not even noticing

@@PlanetaJuegosPC I notice it every day yet I still feel young and know I have to make some changes within myself, which I monitor and ask why did I do so and so and adjust. how old are you?

I’m so glad to hear it! Thank you for the feedback 🥰

Same, eye contact, well I have an uphill battle before I even start, I have to know someone very well before I can have eye contact.

Hey Brian, nevermind I am a Asperger (too) and we find our own way and maybe equal girls that like us without the need of acting/pretending, trying to be someone else, I prefer the most time being alone, less problems ( actually I have a girlfriend for sexually adventures and some other stuff, but I am unsure about her, it’s a bit frustrating...)

Marni does play a specific role on her channel, doesn't she? Courtney is definitely authentic.

@@KevvoLightswift Different audiences. Guys who want to hook up would have no interest in Courtney’s approach. Marni exudes sexuality.

Get into martial arts your depression will be gone above all else it is a place for structure self control and you become apart of a family it is not a sport it is a way of life and it is a well structured support system. I’m former military and needed that outlet for energy and complex thoughts once I came home when I had that set up for me everything that followed in my life became better and without effort. Include the wife in martial arts as it is a really good family environment. I study Kyokushin and am registered in Japan as a martial artist I can go into a dojo in whatever country I am visiting and pick up my training right where I left off it is a global organization. Dojo leaders serve as a guide in your daily life and will always be there for you no matter what.

Get a sex change

...and once you find one and start caring again, she'll lose interest...

The only actual solution I've found is to work on yourself until you have the highest market value you can, and then date HUGELY down. If you're an 8/10 guy, find a 4/10 woman. That way you'll have a woman who cares and won't lose interest, because she knows she can't do better. Yeah I know, it sounds nuts, but if you're an 8/10 guy then even 6/10 chicks will leave you if one day you breathe wrong, or do something else that annoys her a tiny bit.

So glad to hear it!

Or us making their lives difficult and then getting divorce and after that they be going for the lay up