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Reacting to "9 Qualities Women Never Admit They Actually Want In Men" By Alexander Grace 

Courtney Ryan
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In this video I react to an Alexander Grace video that was highly recommended by you guys. I had never seen one of his videos before, but I definitely agreed on a lot of the points he made. Thank you for watching and be sure to comment what you want me to react to next!
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@FFE-js2zp
@FFE-js2zp 3 года назад
Give her the Moon and the stars and she'll ask for some space.
@j-the-isso2087
@j-the-isso2087 3 года назад
Because you cant appreciate a star without space.
@FFE-js2zp
@FFE-js2zp 3 года назад
@@j-the-isso2087 Or checkout the all the other ones in orbit.
@inihilisme1511
@inihilisme1511 3 года назад
@@FFE-js2zp Well, if you litteraly give her a object moon and a random stars, she will ask you to have the full object of the space, seem legit.
@collinsa8909
@collinsa8909 2 года назад
So funny
@evanroberts2771
@evanroberts2771 2 года назад
Men ask for space and women think we're seeing someone else....
@ericconnor708
@ericconnor708 3 года назад
"I've never even met a guy shorter than me." You never noticed the guys shorter than you.
@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457
@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 3 года назад
Everyone noticed Prince...he was shorter than 90% of all women. Height never maketh the man. Some of greatest men to have ever graced earth were short ass men
@bugeyes5396
@bugeyes5396 3 года назад
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 So one guy out of 7 billion who happens to be in ultra successful musician and famous celebrity.. Yeah I am pretty sure his life isn't like anyone else who looks like him.. And your talking to men not women here so we don't need a few exceptions to the rule, we know they exist, that doesn't break the rule. It is a generalization, and accurate.. most women want a man taller than them period. I'm not short, I'm average and yes I've dated taller women, I married a women taller than me lol.. but it doesn't happen often.
@Sammie551
@Sammie551 3 года назад
I wonder what her height is
@waifuconnoisseur4789
@waifuconnoisseur4789 3 года назад
@@Sammie551 she said she was 5'5. I'll admit finding a shorter guy would be difficult but I've definitely known several and I'm about her age. It could be a location thing
@Sammie551
@Sammie551 3 года назад
@@waifuconnoisseur4789 True
@Trifler500
@Trifler500 Год назад
I'm 5'4" and I dated a girl who was 5'9" in college. She asked me if it bothered me, and I said it doesn't bother me at all. It would only bother me if it bothers you. Then she asked me why not. I thought for a bit and then I said, "Well, from my perspective, there's more of you to touch." She laughed. :)
@RR-et6zp
@RR-et6zp Год назад
that was another test
@BleubertholWScott
@BleubertholWScott Год назад
LOL, that was a very good response. I will use that one brother. Thank you!
@mikeypaiz6200
@mikeypaiz6200 Год назад
that shit was cold ngl🤣
@ThisIsMattsLife
@ThisIsMattsLife Год назад
Short King
@adam.dzwoniarek72
@adam.dzwoniarek72 Год назад
I guess you passed that shit test :)
@TheSamwhyte
@TheSamwhyte Год назад
Whether a man or a woman, the problem starts as soon as the phrase “I want” is uttered… The ability to compromise, accept people for their quirks or look past imperfections is a modern cancer on dating. Our 21st Century expectations are ridiculous to the point of counterproductive.
@rasmachris94
@rasmachris94 Год назад
I ran the numbers while back and it's concentric circles of qualities. People over 6ft are 15% of the us population. People earning over 100,000 in the us is 9%. Assuming an even distribution of attractiveness rated from 1-10, 30% of the population are above average attractiveness based on female standards. This means that women are looking for fractions of a percent of the population to settle down with before personal qualities or demands; Specifically it's 0.405% of the population. With the US's population of 340,000,000 and a very close to 50-50 split of genders. This equates to 685,037 men. And this number is more than fair given that women have more stringent attraction standards. That the population is distributed on a bell curve, not 10% across the board for attractiveness. And whatever arbitrary standards they apply remove EVEN more men. It's absurd. Many women are ruining their own chance at happy relationships.
@brandonschwab3692
@brandonschwab3692 Год назад
@@rasmachris94 I believe taller guys make more money on average than shorter guys. I would put money on it, for one already majority of sports players are over 6 foot tall probably 95% so already that would put a lot of millionaires in that category for starters. So I get some hgh if u short and hit A growth spurt.
@worm_and_no_man
@worm_and_no_man Год назад
avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.
@gordongekko2781
@gordongekko2781 Год назад
@@rasmachris94 A few years ago I calculated the numbers on myself. Based on height, appearance, wealth, and IQ, I determined that I'm 1 in 31,250. I then made a Venn diagram and posted it with the math on my dating profile to see what would happen. Needless to say my likes dried up. Women actually unmatched with me. Haha! I wasn't surprised, but it's very telling that women have that much aversion to a man who knows his own value. It is interesting how the statistics work. If you put me in a stadium with 30,000 random bachelors do I really think I'd be the ladies' top pick? Of course not. The math would suggest I should be top of the heap, but I can't even get a date on Bumble. In reality women are far more shallow than they admit. So, we can toss out the Venn Diagrams because we know all of the men who are a 9 or 10 in handsomeness would be chosen first. So, for example if you happen to look like Brad Pitt, then the ladies really wouldn't care if you're dumb as a rock or have no sense of humor. Or, if you live in a 8-bedroom mansion with a swimming pool, then you can be 5'5" and still get a good wife. Question: What percentage of the male population do you think is at least six feet tall, has *AVERAGE* looks, *AVERAGE* personality, *AVERAGE* wealth, and are unmarried? Answer: Less than 1%. {14.5% x 50% x 50% x 50% x 45% = 0.8%}
@bogumiljanowskiweb
@bogumiljanowskiweb Год назад
@@rasmachris94 we are fucked. We are going to share the fate of romans.
@MichaelOyewole
@MichaelOyewole 3 года назад
"What we say and want we want are completely different" -- glad there's a woman out there who understands that.
@guestuser3182
@guestuser3182 2 года назад
⚠️INCEL ALERT INCLE ALERT⚠️
@prex327
@prex327 2 года назад
We all understand that... it's only white. I mean right.
@jcruisioso5975
@jcruisioso5975 2 года назад
Thank you for the translation . Lol “Say & Want”, I’m taking notes.
@jmenhart9730
@jmenhart9730 2 года назад
This is why guys rip their hair out when it comes to dating, they ask a logical question in guy language (objective, dry, logical) then get a reply in womanese (covert, coy, subtexts). Men think women are just as rational and dry as men are, and women don’t understand why guys can’t read the hidden signals.
@jmenhart9730
@jmenhart9730 2 года назад
But if you’re a guy, you’re supposed to “say what you mean, and mean what you say.” 🤔
@johnserosanguineous1886
@johnserosanguineous1886 3 года назад
I love the subtle or unrealized honesty... "I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me, i've never even met a guy shorter than me." Its because those men are invisible to you sweetie.
@raducoc
@raducoc 3 года назад
Almost all the womens in my life was taller than me! They liked me because I am much more confident than the taller guys! For some womens the height matters but others cares more about your behaviour!
@johnserosanguineous1886
@johnserosanguineous1886 3 года назад
@@danitiwa “I” ≠ “all of us.”
@ciegosanchez5289
@ciegosanchez5289 3 года назад
Nah tbh there’s not a lot of guys shorter than 5’6 5’5. There is, but it gets to be quite rare and even if she sees them it isn’t always an interaction
@phxboy3688
@phxboy3688 3 года назад
She cap on that one
@mauroalves317
@mauroalves317 3 года назад
indeed. I want to share a short story about this....i have this friend that claims herself as feminist to the fullest....and one day she tells me that she does not date shorter man!1i was shocked by this....iand my question was ...if a guy likes big boobs and refuses someoen for not having it hes a douche a pig whatever but if a girl claims that shorter man no all good? its insane ! no matter how good guy how cool like you said invisible!!and above all theres nothing anyone can do in regards to that!! this is stupid and duality and hipocrisy to the fullest!!!!
@Radnick0024
@Radnick0024 Год назад
1- 7:23 Hot 2- 8:48 Taller (than the girl) 3- 10:02 Good in Bed 4- 10:27 Wealthy 5- 12:41 Preselected 6- 14:15 Status 7- 16:08 Body Confidence 8- 17:25 Older (than the girl) 9- 18:22 Independent
@rs-ss
@rs-ss Год назад
They will never get🤣🤣
@tennisace40
@tennisace40 Год назад
You can just put number 4 number 1. Its not even close.
@lukaskucerik3751
@lukaskucerik3751 Год назад
I can add if men is smarter she don't want him 👍
@Radnick0024
@Radnick0024 Год назад
@@lukaskucerik3751 These were just chapter markers, but yeah fr haha
@patienceobongo
@patienceobongo Год назад
Alex is speaking generally. She is just giving her personal opinions
@mrmiscast
@mrmiscast Год назад
I like the fact that Courtney comes across as Non-Judgemental while giving what should be considered useful and friendly information. Loved her facial expressions...
@dominiquez5643
@dominiquez5643 3 месяца назад
Exactly my post! Totally agree!
@davidhunt9143
@davidhunt9143 3 года назад
Hahah and all most guys want is a girl who generally takes care of herself, isn't insane, and hasn't made the rounds around the block.
@thetiredworm2100
@thetiredworm2100 3 года назад
It’s fine in fact better to have a higher standard (not with stupid stuff, but u know the important stuff like morals, beliefs, how they uphold themselves) if u don’t got a high standard then don’t be surprised if u never end up with someone good. Having physical attraction to your partner is important but beauty fades for everyone, it’s no good to have a super high standard for those things I’ll never understand girls who will only date a guy if there obnoxiously tall and hot LOL
@connormitchell8048
@connormitchell8048 3 года назад
you just eliminated like 90 percent of girls, at least from western countries.
@garypierce7380
@garypierce7380 3 года назад
Are you Patricia Heaton’s husband?
@futuretechx5754
@futuretechx5754 3 года назад
Hard to find though
@BillClinton228
@BillClinton228 3 года назад
Actually here's the 9 qualities women really want in a man but wont admit it - and this is proven by online dating data: 1) Be very attractive, I mean more attractive than the average attractive guy - like top 10% of the male species attractive. 2) Be handsome. 3) Have well defined abs. 4) have well defined arms, shoulders and chest. 5) Have full head of hair - unless you are really muscular then it doesnt matter. 6) Be at least 6 feet tall. 7) Act uninterested in everything, that way you can seem brooding and misterious so she can spend hours trying to "figure you out" with her girlfriends.. 8) Never talk about yourself. 9) Be rich.
@charlestruppi7793
@charlestruppi7793 2 года назад
The pre-selected part is so true. So many times I’ve gone to a bar where I’m going to meet my very beautiful wife and other women around me don’t notice me at all. As soon as she come in, sits down next to me and it’s obvious we’re married everything changes. I notice the same women at the bar or the female bartender totally checking me out. At one place, a women sitting next to me asked me out when my wife got up to go to the bathroom. I’m decent looking and in ok shape and dress pretty well like I have $$. But none of these attract females as much as when they see that I’m married to a hot woman.
@tailgunner2
@tailgunner2 2 года назад
I gotten into an argument with my mother a few year back over why I'm still single in spite of my age. I told her it is due to knowing how this game works and the players in it. I said I can attract women tomorrow, all I have to do is get a men's wedding ring today! She did NOT like that answer, and neither did I, but, I can and must accept the truth, while she does not.
@SHARPxOix69
@SHARPxOix69 2 года назад
Weird flex but ok
@williambontrager2349
@williambontrager2349 2 года назад
Absolutely true. This is a core reason I disagree with red pill stuff bc they teach to not be friends with women. However going out with 2/3 attractive women friends regularly gets you looked at differently. You get the benefit of the doubt instead of being considered BSing. When those friends leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom girls approach or send flirting signals. Maybe it's competitiveness or preselection but either way it's effective and game changing.
@BASKBLOODIRISHHART
@BASKBLOODIRISHHART 2 года назад
Same thing happened to me. Walked into bar. I myself didn't see it, especially with a chipped tooth at the time, she swore the bartender was totally flirting with me. And my wife is a looker herself. At fifty she is gorgeous now
@jrd33
@jrd33 2 года назад
I've had several male friends say they get a lot more female interest when they are in a relationship or after they were married. So I think this one holds water.
@barbaramatthews4735
@barbaramatthews4735 Год назад
Now that I'm over 50. This is my top 10. 10. More than two teeth. 9. Socks that match or at least the same color. 8. More than half a head of hair. 7. Can afford a Big Mac and fries 🍟 6. Likes dogs. 5. Can read the directions on a box of mac and cheese. 4. Has enough stamina to walk to the mailbox. 3. Doesn't stink 2. Knows how to put the toilet seat back down. 1. If he still lives with his mom, it's because he is supporting her.
@justman1884
@justman1884 Год назад
If she thought this when she was 21, then she would have been a keeper. Did you, Barb?
@deanshort9011
@deanshort9011 Год назад
Hilarious list!
@barbaramatthews4735
@barbaramatthews4735 Год назад
@@justman1884 I don't remember what I wanted when I was 31, let alone 21. I'm old.
@manakin5
@manakin5 Год назад
Assuming you're at least half serious....many men meet this criteria. If this list were sincere, you should be happily dating or in a relationship now. If not, then it's evidence that even after 50 there are other criteria at work. Which gets back to the original point of the video.
@d.e.b.b5788
@d.e.b.b5788 Год назад
Toilet seats have LIDS. I don't know a single women who puts the lid down. They just want the bowl prepared for themselves, and don't care about anything else.
@gabevandenhoeven4546
@gabevandenhoeven4546 Год назад
The part about having a dating history feels a bit scary to me since for a lot of guys it means that getting a woman to date him is going to get harder the more time goes by, while the reason that he may not have a dating history is because women haven't even given him a chance yet.
@taylormoore7031
@taylormoore7031 3 месяца назад
Theres also girls who dont want to go for a guy with a history. Personally i want a guy who hasnt been with too many girls because that means i have a shit ton of girls to compete against. I dont want to be constantly compared to someone. Not to mention i have only dated one person, we were together for 3 years. Why would i want someone whos non committal if I myself am very committal
@al-imranadore1182
@al-imranadore1182 Месяц назад
​@@taylormoore7031You do want the guy to be with longer dating history than you.
@davidevans7477
@davidevans7477 3 года назад
I cant believe I actually saw a man, and a woman, stay emotionally neutral while talking about this subject. Subbed to you both! Good vibe
@nygelfoster2238
@nygelfoster2238 3 года назад
I never thought the day would come either
@chadirving3621
@chadirving3621 3 года назад
Men have too much to lose to play the dating game with women...
@rasheemthebestfirstone3274
@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 3 года назад
Y’all must have been watching too much red pills vids but please my guy go out and meet people you’ll see
@davidevans7477
@davidevans7477 3 года назад
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Only in setting like business where people have to restrain themselves do they act calm. Buy yes, I am mostly referring to online. Though I have talked to a few women about this type of subject. They were anything but calm. Very defensive. Even if it is not them specifically that I'm talking about.
@chadirving3621
@chadirving3621 3 года назад
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 only a fool refuses to learn lessons from men who have gone before them.
@doingtime20
@doingtime20 2 года назад
Alexander is not appreciated enough, he is just spot on on so many things. That thing he said about women giving a "press conference" in order to look good instead of telling the truth about what they want is perfect.
@ceave
@ceave 2 года назад
And the blanket fort is cool.
@mikhaillastname8719
@mikhaillastname8719 2 года назад
in general, women are just the same as men. most men also like money, beautiful partners and want to make an impression on other people.
@dennisjr77
@dennisjr77 2 года назад
@@mikhaillastname8719….. women and men are more different than alike
@kevinboothby5260
@kevinboothby5260 2 года назад
Yep, asking a woman for dating advice is like trying to get a straight answer out of Jen Psaki.
@whitemakesright2177
@whitemakesright2177 2 года назад
To me, he's probably the best in the genre.
@SanVic
@SanVic Год назад
Alexander Grace is right 100%. In fact, Courtney Ryan's videos are so successful because she is one of the few women who tells the truth about women. That theme fills the comments of all her RU-vid videos.
@ridingwithbaz2736
@ridingwithbaz2736 Год назад
my ex had all 18 qualities mentioned near the end with me, but she left me and took my baby while I was going through a really rough patch, lost my dad, was struggling to deal with it and covid related stresses in business led to a mild mental break down, proof you can have everything she wants but take too long to fix yourself to give all these qualities and it seems a lot have no time to support.
@danwinter8395
@danwinter8395 Год назад
I'm sorry to hear that man. Best wishes going forward. Time heals...
@MuantanamoMobile
@MuantanamoMobile Год назад
That's really rough, man. Highlights why one also need to do ones own vetting based on things they value. It's a two way street - if she was kind/compassionate, supportive or loyal (better still a combination of two or more of these) then you wouldn't have gone through what you did (as regards leaving).
@Fucklifedeadshit
@Fucklifedeadshit Год назад
So, you had a mental breakdown and it’s her fault that she left 🤨
@richardcole1280
@richardcole1280 Год назад
Sorry brother. How are you hanging in there?
@ridingwithbaz2736
@ridingwithbaz2736 Год назад
@@richardcole1280 having to move on but it's hard when the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with moves on and says I never loved her or treated her right when it's blatantly clear I did. Life goes on.
@alexandergrace5350
@alexandergrace5350 3 года назад
Great video, I'm going to share on my Patreon :)
@ApolloX_Games
@ApolloX_Games 3 года назад
Your videos bring me frustration but clarification!
@thisguy7976
@thisguy7976 3 года назад
You're one of my favorite RU-vidrs because you speak with conviction and back it up with data. No hatred, no b.s., just truth. Keep up the good work brother 👌🏾.
@maverickstarreloaded463
@maverickstarreloaded463 3 года назад
i think courtney is a gold digger Alex i do like what she is trying to do though..... help
@estongarmstrong6524
@estongarmstrong6524 3 года назад
Alexander Grace make a reaction video on this reaction video lul
@heyhey9282
@heyhey9282 3 года назад
Nice Video, You got new subscriber 👍
@JKMcClaren1979
@JKMcClaren1979 3 года назад
Those tic tok girls don’t really want a man, they want a sponsor.
@jerry-mind-sky
@jerry-mind-sky 2 года назад
Right.
@alelectric2767
@alelectric2767 2 года назад
Which means they want a man to sponsor her
@gerarduspoppel2831
@gerarduspoppel2831 2 года назад
AMEN!!
@pathofresilience1796
@pathofresilience1796 2 года назад
Speaking truths💯
@mahri9022
@mahri9022 2 года назад
Facts
@michaelnaretto3409
@michaelnaretto3409 Год назад
Be a good person and you will naturally attract other good people. You don't need an army of "friends". You just need one who is loyal, honest and you can tell anything to.
@relicpathfinder2800
@relicpathfinder2800 Год назад
Or...you will attract bad people masquerading as a good person. Never let your guard down.
@LuisGonzalez-ou5cg
@LuisGonzalez-ou5cg Год назад
I once asked a girl what kind of dude she would like. She said she’s attracted to the body of a Channing Tatum. Me, discouraged and realistic, decided not to pursue. We came to be friends and the moment I mention a new girl she jumped on me. Joke is: I’m more of a Jonah hill type rather a Channing Tatum lol. Women are a mystery.
@DarthCasus
@DarthCasus 7 месяцев назад
Jonah bros, we found a way
@iLikeTrains0372
@iLikeTrains0372 6 месяцев назад
Jonah Hill: Sir, I know we come off as a couple lady-killers but I promise you we will be super professional on the job. Ice Cube: Clearly I wouldn't be talking to you big titties.
@gregbenwell6173
@gregbenwell6173 6 месяцев назад
Thinking back to the old Spice Girls song that starts out "I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want...." And I laugh to myself because I know she actually WON'T!!!! My first wife used a lot of words to say NOTHING at all, while my second wife thought I was a mind reader, and thought I could "guess" what she wanted!!!!!!
@hidetoedwarduno7681
@hidetoedwarduno7681 6 месяцев назад
Many know this but women will ALWAYS test you if she is attracted to u & is considering u for more. This is important to remember, cause many men will think she doesnt want u or is out of ur league but its exactly the opposite. BTW, the tests never end, even if you're married, they just change from do you believe in yourself to are u whipped on me.
@bacare1971
@bacare1971 6 месяцев назад
​@@hidetoedwarduno7681and this right here is why no woman will ever see the inside of my house... take your shit tests and shove them where the sun don't shine.
@jessemedina4482
@jessemedina4482 3 года назад
Alexander Grace is a scientist in this game... good channel, he needs more subs.
@mattscoggins
@mattscoggins 3 года назад
Agreed! He understands the nuance to a lot of these topics and does a good job explaining that there are exceptions or that things sometimes aren't so black and white. And he isn't a misogynist, he wants both men and women to be happier in their relationships.
@zizwehunt1872
@zizwehunt1872 3 года назад
Also, money is not the leading cause of divorces. Lol
@zizwehunt1872
@zizwehunt1872 3 года назад
Money wont keep a woman.
@bobjordan1167
@bobjordan1167 3 года назад
Best channel on RU-vid
@CaptainObvious0000
@CaptainObvious0000 3 года назад
@OmWIR uT7qu true, scientist minus the science.
@tobyey9134
@tobyey9134 3 года назад
What I like most about Alex is that he isn't misogynistic, this becomes very clear when you watch more of his videos, he just doesn't like people with bad qualities, which I think is much different than a lot of other "dating coaches", he doesn't come from a pov of hating on women, just telling the truth
@tidefanyankee2428
@tidefanyankee2428 3 года назад
Are some of those other "dating coaches" guilty of actually "hating on women" or are they just being brutally honest? Brutal honesty can sound very similar to hate depending on who is hearing the message.
@tobyey9134
@tobyey9134 3 года назад
@@tidefanyankee2428 both probably exist, but he makes it clear what his intentions are which is the difference
@tidefanyankee2428
@tidefanyankee2428 3 года назад
@@tobyey9134 I don't disagree about Alex. I think he has the best of intentions. I was referring to how others hear the messages from other dating coaches. I have no doubt that there are "coaches" out there who don't have good intentions, but at the same time, I'll say again. Brutal honesty, saying unpopular things or things people don't want to hear (but might need to hear) can come across as hate. Much depends on how the message is received and by whom.
@tobyey9134
@tobyey9134 3 года назад
@@tidefanyankee2428 I know that you said that and I basically tried to say the same thing, there are some that have good intentions but phrase them in a way that seems misogynistic, there are some that actually hate on women and there are some that don't and whose words match that, the latter seem to be the minority and I'd categorize Alex into them.
@Angrybogan
@Angrybogan 3 года назад
The narrative is Feminism is never wrong. In that culture, truth is misogynist.
@arcvigaming8198
@arcvigaming8198 Год назад
As someone who is 6'8" let me just say, being this tall is actually a hinderance. Being this tall means most girls are incredibly intimidated by me regardless of how nice I am...
@alexmuenster2102
@alexmuenster2102 Год назад
>>someone who is 6'8"
@movement2contact
@movement2contact Год назад
I'm ~6'5" (1,96m) and I also only get terrified looks... 😒
@alexmuenster2102
@alexmuenster2102 Год назад
@@movement2contact Put down the club and the bearskin...
@viridionwaves
@viridionwaves Год назад
Agreed
@andym9571
@andym9571 Год назад
Being 5'10" myself...dont even get noticed on dating apps
@TheBruuz
@TheBruuz Год назад
I grew up on Hollywood movies when I was a kid, and I sincerely believed in love and romance until I was well into the end of my teens. I had these silly ideas that there's someone out there for everyone. I had to swallow a bitter pill when all these things came to light. Love was not this thing that could happen to everyone or anywhere, rather I learned that for women it's a practical thing, something of convenience or status, sometimes it was infatuation but that was mostly short lived and never truly sincere. It took the wonder out of the concept of what I once believed was love, and I have since stopped believing in the concept.
@varasano
@varasano Год назад
Alexander, grace passed on a great quote about this. I went something like this: Women are hardcore pragmatists masquerading as romantics. Men are romantics masquerading as pragmatists. Women often go on about expressing their emotions but then dump a guy because they lose attraction if he fails any of a million tests. A less emotive man is often more loyal
@rickraber1249
@rickraber1249 Год назад
@@varasano A woman who dumps a guy for failing any of a million tests is a woman who is short-sighted, self-centered, and has no sense of commitment. Let her go, and look for someone who is none of those things plus has character and warmth.
@manuelsilva8528
@manuelsilva8528 Год назад
Also grew up with Hollywood movies, but believed the lie much longer! Started having doubts about the existence of love in my early to mid-twenties, now I don't believe it at all, and it might have been too late.
@benster5
@benster5 Год назад
Me the same. When I was younger, I thought I would be guaranteed to be married and have kids by the time I turned 30. I thought love and marriage was a given thing as you got older. How disillusioned I was by the fantasies of love and happiness. I'm 48 now. Single. Was married to my ex wife for 10 miserable years. I was 36 when I got married. I really struggled in meeting women and never picked up a whole lot of experience in the dating scene. I felt like I was running out of time and just decided that I was gonna settle with the next woman I get in a relationship with. Things got off hot and heavy right away and for a while, I thought I was happy and thought she was finally it. Then came the red flags after we got married. If I had picked up on the red flags on her before we got married, I would've baled out of the relationship. My fault for letting things peddle so fast instead of taking more time to know her more. Those were 10 years I learned about myself and what I really want in a woman, but I wish I could get those 10 years back. Now I'm back to square one. I'm happier now that I'm no longer married to her. We're actually much better now just as friends. But as I look myself in the mirror and realize where I stand now, I feel like my chance at happiness is fading away and it may never come my way. The harsh reality I'm facing now is that there ISN'T someone for everyone and anyone who thinks otherwise is living in their own happy dream world. And I hate it when TV shows depict the nerdy, unpopular, underdog gets the hot girl. Sorry, but in the real world, the Leonard's never get the Penny's.
@Goku227
@Goku227 Год назад
it does exist. But it aint like movies. And it aint everywhere. But surely exists.
@andrewgonzalez7143
@andrewgonzalez7143 3 года назад
"it's kind of messed up to say, but it's true" Literally his whole point of the video
@RoguePC4U
@RoguePC4U 3 года назад
Alexander Grace and Courtney Ryan are easily my two favorite "relationship advice" RU-vidrs ie. for understanding men and women. They both give very balanced, realistic and honest opinions... which is a refreshing breath of air in our messed up world.
@kikhazz
@kikhazz 3 года назад
Check out huMAN. Great youtuber
@RoguePC4U
@RoguePC4U 3 года назад
@@kikhazz Seen a few of his, pretty good too. I also like Better Bachelor.
@DoctorReyesArt
@DoctorReyesArt 3 года назад
@@RoguePC4U Coach Corey Wayne is great too.
@ThePorschefan
@ThePorschefan 3 года назад
May I recommend the first red pill master: Patrice O'Neal.. YOU WON'T REGRET IT!
@clintonstreifling3718
@clintonstreifling3718 Год назад
Courtney, Thank you for this and other conversations you provide. You are the most interesting, intelligent, honest, and articulate relationship advisor I have come across. And, of course, it helps that you take care of yourself and are beautiful.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan Год назад
Thank you so much 🥹
@blakemcmahan3960
@blakemcmahan3960 Год назад
Courtney thank you for your honesty, it’s so refreshing and it helps a ton. My ex was beautiful and she is famous, it didn’t last. I don’t think I had enough status. Women do love older men, tall, successful and leaders. Men should be working to be all of these on this list, not for women but for themselves. Get some masculinity, train hard, get smarter and more educated. Find yourself, build and let that special someone eventually find you
@tillycomedy2194
@tillycomedy2194 Год назад
well said, and a healthy mindset
@spanishvideo2922
@spanishvideo2922 Год назад
"just get tall bro"
@d.e.b.b5788
@d.e.b.b5788 Год назад
by your definition, the average guy who has a decent job, is generally nice, has zero chance of dating. Older, tall, successful, leaders, you're going to have women looking for renaissance men. There aren't a lot of those.
@blakemcmahan3960
@blakemcmahan3960 Год назад
@@d.e.b.b5788 as sad as it is, western society has perpetuated exactly that. Be the best you can be, that’s it
@jamescanfield7251
@jamescanfield7251 3 года назад
I’m going to say this. Money isn’t worth your mental health. I actually took a 30% pay cut when I left the rental car industry, and went to work for my local county government. But... I am in a much better place mentally now. My wife has pointed this out, and it’s improved our marriage.
@mg43472
@mg43472 3 года назад
I just head the Rental car industry is going crazy right now..
@martynprice87
@martynprice87 3 года назад
Totally agree, its not worth the stress and important to be happy and not come home from work miserable
@tidefanyankee2428
@tidefanyankee2428 3 года назад
No, money isn't worth your mental health. But you need to do something you like. If you do that AND can make money doing it, then it's all good. I'm self employed and I make a nice living. I would tell you and have told younger guys start there. Very few people like everything about their jobs. There are many jobs that lots of people don't consider like the trades. You don't necessarily need a BS or MS degree to make decent money. I have a buddy who went into accounting and he made a very nice living doing it, but he hated it. He switched to plumbing and makes pretty close to what he did before and he's far happier.
@jlmcgrot
@jlmcgrot 3 года назад
But, you already had the wife...haha
@willskywalk
@willskywalk 3 года назад
@@jlmcgrot this
@TonyLevon
@TonyLevon 3 года назад
Height is so important for her, that she cant even see the short guys she's been around. 🤦
@Jukeboxster
@Jukeboxster 2 года назад
There you have it. If you don't meet a woman's minimum prereqs, you are invisible to her for all intents and purposes. It's just the way it is. Who cares, go for the women that do see you.
@katelynnlee5158
@katelynnlee5158 2 года назад
Right. lmao I live In California, and there alot of short or average height guys. The tall ones are less common. 😂😂😂
@zak6093
@zak6093 2 года назад
Height is the first thing they care about.
@Jukeboxster
@Jukeboxster 2 года назад
@@zak6093 Every woman is different. Some do care greatly about height (especially online dating), others don't care AS MUCH. I know this because I'm short and I've had girlfriends, a couple of them beautiful by most men's standards. Stop harping on something you can't change and focus on women that appreciate what you bring to the table.
@mrjjthor
@mrjjthor 2 года назад
It's alright. Women can have their standards. We men need to have our standards too. She has to be fit, attractive, submissive, non-combative, young, able to cook, and sex on demand.
@theodorearaujo971
@theodorearaujo971 Год назад
A lot of people don't tell you what they want because they are requiring things from others that they can't provide.
@zezeti2246
@zezeti2246 7 месяцев назад
This☝️🤣,a lot of people,and women in particular usually want a 1% while being 3 class herself😂
@alicsurn
@alicsurn Год назад
I give you a lot of props for being honest and genuine.
@emoboi311
@emoboi311 3 года назад
“I’ve never met a guy shorter than me”. Doesn’t pay attention to shorter guys. Hahahaha
@learnpianofastonline
@learnpianofastonline 3 года назад
I can't believe she actually said that. Lost a lot of credibility with me.
@dalaicavalcanti8106
@dalaicavalcanti8106 3 года назад
@@learnpianofastonline She's like 5"5 I'm a dude and I haven't seen a guy below that other than some teenagers
@learnpianofastonline
@learnpianofastonline 3 года назад
I have very little sympathy for overweight women who complain that few men want them. Their challenge can be solved by going to the gym and losing weight. Even older women can have all the male attention they want with a little discipline and hard work. And it really isn't that hard. On the other hand a man who is short and/or bald cannot change those things without either growing six inches or spending thousands on iffy hair transplants. So I have zero sympathy for fat chicks in actuality. But again I must say that playing a piano and singing a bit has never, ever hurt me.
@TheSlopez71
@TheSlopez71 3 года назад
She must have thought they were boys or children.
@FirstnameLastname-gm5nl
@FirstnameLastname-gm5nl 3 года назад
It’s hard to find guys under that height
@premiereent
@premiereent 3 года назад
"...but initially, yeah, you want to be attracted to the person that you're talking to...duh..." Court says everything so matter of factly and sincerely without drama. 👏👏
@bradstewart2206
@bradstewart2206 Год назад
Being thrown into the dating pool or puddle in my case , lol I absolutely love your videos ! Your disposition and calming voice along with your classy and elegance manner are helping me so much and I Thank You 😊
@scottscott8457
@scottscott8457 Год назад
Great job from both of you! These are actually great insights into how it ACTUALLY is in the real world....
@martinhealourlovecamden9191
@martinhealourlovecamden9191 2 года назад
In passing, women on dating websites have shopping lists of what they want in a man -- you ask them what they offer in return then you see that they've never ever thought about this !!
@BigTyronie
@BigTyronie 2 года назад
Im 6'3, financially independent and stable, im 260+lbs and im in pretty good condition year round. 20lbs from stage weight in bodybuilding. I get 300lb women who are 5' tall hitting me up on tinder or bumble. Its like really? What makes you think im gonna go for that?
@TheRealSlimShady509
@TheRealSlimShady509 2 года назад
@@BigTyronie women have incredibly high standards. Social media basically tells every woman they deserve a 10/10 man simply because they are a woman. Which basically means on average, ugly guys get no women, average guys get ugly women, and 10/10 guys get every woman then want. Because women have impossibly high standards.
@Jacksbox11
@Jacksbox11 2 года назад
Martin: Men have always had types of women they prefer. Women are allowed the same. Period!
@martinhealourlovecamden9191
@martinhealourlovecamden9191 2 года назад
@@Jacksbox11 It's okay for women to think that vagina and hyped up looks is all they need to bring to the table? It's okay to blind oneself to the consequences of ones decisions? Men will go their own RATIONAL way !!
@andersnielsen6044
@andersnielsen6044 2 года назад
This is where you forgot to ask your self one importan question: Why did she give you that answer? That is right, it is because she has nothing to offer YOU. If she was attracted to you, she would spend the rest of her life telling you, showing you and make you feel what she has to offer. ;)
@MrKrusten
@MrKrusten 3 года назад
"looks are good for getting someone initially interested, but they are not gonna keep her". People keep spewing and spewing this phrase and dont realize what they are saying. They are trying to make it sound like looks are not everything, but if i need looks to even get to the stage where she can get to know the real me, then ill never reach this stage because i dont have the looks. I could be a perfect match for her, but she will never know because she wont be interested because i dont have the looks. That phrase does the opposite of what its intended to do: It says that looks are everything
@stewartlewis3503
@stewartlewis3503 3 года назад
If your sat in a Ferrari, she'll notice you. Even she said wealth should have been higher in the list, use expensive status symbols as a 'looks' proxy.
@MrKrusten
@MrKrusten 3 года назад
@@stewartlewis3503 pointless. How many people have ferraris and how many people are willing to spend money on a ferrari. On top of that, i dont want a girl who notices me because of the fucking car i drive, big red flag. On top of that, she'll probably lose interest real fast when she sees some ugly dork getting out of the car. At the soonest she'll lose interest when you are not in your car anymore and she has to attend social gatherings with you.
@marc416
@marc416 2 года назад
I am sure there are girls out there who like the ugly package!! CHIVE ON!!!.
@Jazzmaster1992
@Jazzmaster1992 2 года назад
THIS. I keep getting so exhausted with this phrase. People say it so they can appear not shallow, or not admit how shallow dating really is. Saying "looks are good initially" is basically saying "looks are what attracts someone off the jump, and without that initial attraction you're screwed".
@mrjdgibbs
@mrjdgibbs 2 года назад
I don't really know why I'm even here but take this from someone who, in his youth, did from time to time punch above his weight. The point is that unless you're actually ugly the looks aren't that important. Looks can get you noticed but there's lots of ways to get noticed. Particularly if you spend actual time in proximity to each other. So hit the gym, read a book, be an interesting person. The people around you, including the women, WILL notice
@iamgroot9111
@iamgroot9111 Год назад
Both POV's in this video were incredibly valuable, thanks for making this and appreciate your content. Have to say though that my absolute favorite part of the video is how you entirely brushed over "Good in Bed" while answering everything else lol. That alone drives the point home even more 🤣
@harrycee656
@harrycee656 Год назад
I like the new natural look, Courtney! I completely agree that the list in the article is the 2nd list men & women go to, once the key items to them on the "attractive" list are checked off. Also, #4 - 8 is likely related to women being hardwired to look for a provider for themselves and the family. Just like men are more attracted to women who will be able to take care of the family.
@taragonleaf8005
@taragonleaf8005 3 года назад
A man without status? Bro, I'm the DM in my D&D group. I've got status.
@carbunkle9902
@carbunkle9902 3 года назад
Status given to you from a bunch of idiots doesn't hold much value.
@taragonleaf8005
@taragonleaf8005 3 года назад
@@carbunkle9902 As least I recognize sarcasm when I see it.
@DavidSmith-wr6vj
@DavidSmith-wr6vj 3 года назад
I'm our groups D&D back up DM during the summer and only when Bob calls in sick,... So hey I got status too!
@DavidSmith-wr6vj
@DavidSmith-wr6vj 3 года назад
@@carbunkle9902 whooosh over the head
@trackatlas6626
@trackatlas6626 3 года назад
I think you mean "stats"...
@2bituser569
@2bituser569 3 года назад
The same reason you’re attracted to a man with a hot ex gf is same reason women are hot for guys who have lots or women who desire him while you’re dating. He becomes a hot commodity makes you feel special to have what others want. It validates women.
@informationyes
@informationyes 3 года назад
Guys can think exactly the same
@2bituser569
@2bituser569 3 года назад
@@informationyes Not in my reality. Never been attracted to women who had lots of man friends after her or top grade ex bf’s.
@informationyes
@informationyes 3 года назад
@@2bituser569 Everyone has different experiences but its not really about man friends just that other people want to be with them, people seem to like what others want
@breakingthemasks
@breakingthemasks 3 года назад
@@informationyes ... Disagree. For this reason. When men see a woman who is had lots of hot ex-boyfriends... They see a lot of guys who've smashed that girl. And most guys don't want a girl who's been smashed a lot. Whereas with girls... When they see a guy who has a lot of hot ex-girlfriends. they aren't turned off by the idea that he's been smashing them. It usually makes them believe that he's authentically valuable to have obtained access to so many women's highest gift. So I'd say they're not the same.
@informationyes
@informationyes 3 года назад
​@@breakingthemasks The research shows that Both men and woman have negative perceptions of lots of sexual partners, also someone having lots of casual flings dont advertise that persons committed. www.psypost.org/2016/12/study-finds-number-past-sexual-partners-large-effect-attractiveness-46594
@luie.v254
@luie.v254 Год назад
I’m sorry for the faithful woman out there that got cheated on trust me not all guys are the same some of us will put you ahead of everything and just want to see you happy
@AxleLotl
@AxleLotl Год назад
The "status" perk was an interesting take because I feel as though it's broader than the first initial thought that enters the mind. This also encompasses how a man interacts with his surroundings, how he speaks to people, how he talks to his family, how he treats animals, sometimes despite perhaps not having a title or social media following that demands respect or admiration can also be redeemed through his charisma and his certainty in how he flows through life and I think that women still intuitively pick up these vibes and find them attractive.
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
"Inner game" is extremely important. At times when I had major successes in my life and therefore was very happy and optimistic and confident, very beautiful women began being attracted to me without me saying a word. It was like I had a flipped a switch. Therefore: Women are *extremely* good at perceiving the state of content and confidence of a man and react very strongly to facial expressions, body posture and timbre of voice.
@mark-sf8nf
@mark-sf8nf Год назад
I'm 59 and I've never had any girlfriends never been on any dates they all said no when I ask for their number and for dates as far as I know no females ever were even interested in me at all I've never been afraid to approach I do it everyday it's just that females usually ignore me and won't talk to me and the few that do don't give me eye contact I've never had sex of course or kissed a girl no opportunities ever came up again I'm 59 years old. I do work out I'm not very tall and I have I would say a small to medium
@mark-sf8nf
@mark-sf8nf Год назад
Build
@mrm700
@mrm700 3 года назад
The most important question a single person can ask themselves: " Am I becoming the person I want to date, wants". If you want a person who possesses certain qualities, are you that person they want to date. Figure it out then work on it.
@Qubicle.
@Qubicle. 3 года назад
problem with that is, confident people will overestimate themselves and get the girl anyway because, confidence. and insecure people will underestimate themselves even if they are objectively competent. and it's insecure people that needs advice on this kind of thing.
@AugustSchroif
@AugustSchroif 2 года назад
​@@Qubicle. confidence doesn't mean shit. Looks do. If you have looks you don't have to be confident, the girls will just say: "he is so cute and humble blah-blah-blah". Every trait is perceived is negative or positive depending on if you are attractive to not. If you are attractive, you are humble and shy. If not, you are insecure and awkward. If you are attractive, you are assertive. If not, you are stubborn and arrogant. If you are attractive, you are thrifty, good with money. If not, you are greedy, avaricious. Etc etc.
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
No. Wrong question for heterosexuals. Your question only applies to homosexuals. Heteros need to ask, _"Am I the person which the person I want to be with wants to be with?"_
@morotetsuke
@morotetsuke 3 года назад
He’s spot on. This vid is her going “no, but yeah”.
@wadecrawford6445
@wadecrawford6445 3 года назад
@Diabolic Dynamite she can’t be impartial, she is the subject of his video. That being said, two sides of the same coin dilemma.
@shortreviewsbysamcyn
@shortreviewsbysamcyn 3 года назад
Lol yes
@AsunaSword
@AsunaSword 2 года назад
Well I mean, she pretty much says that some women do like it, and that women are individuals soo, her reactions are very reasonable.
@abprepboy33
@abprepboy33 2 года назад
yup.... usually pro athletes meet these requirements and they have no problem finding women
@runreilly
@runreilly 2 года назад
_"Women share their true feelings on tik tok?"_ Are there actually men out there that use tik tok? Maybe Gen Z...
@rightwingsafetysquad9872
@rightwingsafetysquad9872 6 дней назад
A lot of girls have no skill at estimating height. I'm 5'7". Did a bit of a social test in college. If a girl is shorter than me, she thinks I'm 5'11". If she's taller she thinks I'm 5'4". If you're doing online dating and you're under 6', just leave it blank or answer in centimeters. In person, as long as you're a couple inches taller than her, she's probably good.
@frankbreuer8849
@frankbreuer8849 Год назад
So cute, Courtney. You give it away what you feel and think, even if you don't respond verbally. Your face speaks volumes. Keep up the good work!
@DJBustovski
@DJBustovski 3 года назад
Status is 100% a factor, I’ve walked into venues as the “new” Dj, the regular girls would act a certain way towards me but then once they see I’m the Dj it all changes and they’re way more interested lol
@sapitron
@sapitron 2 года назад
yeah , but , does that have any kind of meaning in their mind for choosing you as a long term partner ?? that should be also discussed
@DJBustovski
@DJBustovski 2 года назад
@@sapitron to some it does, i think that depends on the type of female. For those that wwant a "trophy husband" then yes it matters i would say, but im only speaking from personal experience.
@NoInsurance
@NoInsurance 2 года назад
yep, it's status. Is where you stand out.
@LethalByChoice
@LethalByChoice 2 года назад
RIP to the people who don't have status, then lol
@TheBlackManMythLegend
@TheBlackManMythLegend 2 года назад
Exactly
@BlueRedGooGoo
@BlueRedGooGoo 3 года назад
If a guy is 5'2", obese, and looks like he is obsessed with playing card games, then it doesn't matter if he has all the characteristics that would help with a long term relationship. It happens tbh.
@BlueRedGooGoo
@BlueRedGooGoo 3 года назад
@@informationyes I can understand that, but there are still two other points there and I think my point stands with those.
@maliksmith9003
@maliksmith9003 3 года назад
Bruh, how you gonna be short AND fat? Pick a struggle.
@BlueRedGooGoo
@BlueRedGooGoo 3 года назад
@@maliksmith9003 luckily I am only fat lmao
@Osodjrhrb
@Osodjrhrb 2 года назад
@@maliksmith9003 😂😂😂😂😂
@kiss4luna
@kiss4luna 2 года назад
let's play some warhammer!
@vrhetinst
@vrhetinst 10 месяцев назад
I have to confess - This video was painful to watch. I hated how it made me feel…but I think I needed it. It shows me areas that I need to improve on. Especially the advice to “Be independent” being defined as “having a life outside of the girl that she can then join in on.” Thank you, Courtney-working on it.
@Churlz
@Churlz 8 месяцев назад
Hope you get the help you need. You sound like you need some therapy, as hard as that sounds. You've got this, King.
@vrhetinst
@vrhetinst 8 месяцев назад
@@Churlz You’re probably right, but at the moment, I can’t afford it.
@610kclaf
@610kclaf 8 месяцев назад
yeah this was painful, even tho I do 8/10 of all of those it pisses me off that i have to do more.
@1x0x
@1x0x 5 месяцев назад
you guys need to do more research on women lol this is pretty basic stuff
@gratefulhealth
@gratefulhealth Год назад
Just new to your channel for the first time. I loved your honesty and Emotional Intelligence most of all, which is what I seek for in a long term Relationship . I think all of us want and seek happiness and Joy. I want it long term on a foundation of trust and mutual respect. A committed relationship is only found in marriage. Physical or superficial Lust, is not Love, but will actually destroy it, and it can and will only be temporary. Who wants to invest themselves in a selfish short term relationship that will only cause them pain and regret later? Porn really teaches men how to NOT have true intimacy. True , happy intimacy is much deeper and way more fulfilling and satisfying to the soul, than all the fake intimacy pornography could ever provide. For me, my greatest want in a relationship is to be wanted. Talking to other men, many also said, their greatest want was to be wanted by their spouse.
@VivatVeritas1
@VivatVeritas1 Год назад
That’s a tough one, because most women know that and will use that lever to control you once you’re hooked.
@AmayaZelaya
@AmayaZelaya 3 года назад
"Two things I've never seen, a UFO and a ho that wouldn't go..."
@zbigniewbialczak1692
@zbigniewbialczak1692 3 года назад
Lmao 😂
@mac1bc
@mac1bc 3 года назад
Project Pat?
@Melanrick
@Melanrick 3 года назад
Well, I've seen a UFO, so there is that lol
@markkoval3005
@markkoval3005 3 года назад
@@mac1bc IDK bout Project Pat, but it was TI who said "2 things I aint seen is this, a UFO and a bitch I can't get."
@markkoval3005
@markkoval3005 3 года назад
ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-fwB7WAdxU88.html
@ericramirez6471
@ericramirez6471 3 года назад
I think you totally made his point by skipping over option 3.
@MrDavinci1965
@MrDavinci1965 3 года назад
The smile on her face said it all. She said a big YES !
@jsharp3165
@jsharp3165 3 года назад
Oh she reacted, just not out loud.
@Indubidably0
@Indubidably0 3 года назад
She agreed with a sort of "You're right, let's not go there though" look
@anacebotari8604
@anacebotari8604 3 года назад
She reacted like most of the women do. Confident to show the cleavage intimidated to talk about sex.
@foto21
@foto21 3 года назад
THat's one kind of a pass. Men care about sex technique also, although men are more than willing to train a woman who's willing. Unfortunately, we all know that the craziest and least reliable women are sometimes the best in bed.
@sammy2840
@sammy2840 Год назад
I keep telling my wife of 46 years that she’s a lucky woman! There just aren’t many good men left out there!😊
@swfadarkansas3734
@swfadarkansas3734 7 месяцев назад
I so appreciate your honesty and objectivity on these subjects. My dating life is much less frustrating and makes so much more sense since watching your videos. You are a Godsend. 🥰 thank you. Thank you thank you, Courtney!
@brandrewmiller
@brandrewmiller 3 года назад
"People are felt rather than seen after the first few moments." - John Steinbeck
@WheatWaffles
@WheatWaffles 3 года назад
2:55 with regards to the point you made about women being brutally honest on tiktok (eg height/facial attractiveness), women are more likely to be honest when they don't fear repercussions or judgement. However if a man asks a women in real life what she finds attractive, she will be more likely to virtue signal in order to look good and noble
@danielmatthews1522
@danielmatthews1522 3 года назад
The TicTokers also do it for entertainment and likes, they don't have to face any repercussions that a regular woman might.
@HelloKittysFriend418
@HelloKittysFriend418 3 года назад
i mean, wouldn't a guy want to do the same? in different social contexts we act differently, duh
@kauetadaieski3131
@kauetadaieski3131 3 года назад
@@HelloKittysFriend418 no
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
That depends if she likes you and whether its a 1 on 1 conversation. I received excellent advice 1 on 1 from some women I was platonic friends with. Women will always lie about dating when being overheard by others.
@wolfofwacker4578
@wolfofwacker4578 Год назад
Remember guys women supposedly aren’t superficial. She just admitted that most if not all women would never even consider dating someone shorter than they are which is 100% superficial considering a man has no control over how tall he ends up being. In reality women in general are much more superficial than men and men are a lot more forgiving when it comes to accepting women’s physical flaws vs women accepting men’s flaws.
@mrbabyhugh
@mrbabyhugh Год назад
18:52 this is exactly why you DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT WOMEN SAY THEY WANT. They will say they want the man to give her endless amount of attention, she should be the center of his universe. The very second you do that and not on your purpose, she starts to test you, then disrespect you, then start to give interest to other men... then she either cheats or leave you. She wants to be the NUMBER ONE GIRL, NOT... I repeat NOT the number one thing in your life! So of ALL YOUR OPTIONS, she should be your only or at least main choice. That is what the preselection is about, you have options and you chose her or she was able to be chosen. This is why women have NO PROBLEM TO DATE AND "TAKE AWAY" A MAN FROM ANOTHER WOMAN.
@Slashco
@Slashco 2 года назад
The top factors for male attractiveness will always be looks, wealth, and social status, so Alexander's list is pretty accurate. The other list, as Courtney said, is more for when he's already in a relationship.
@josecarlosxyz
@josecarlosxyz 2 года назад
yes
@sienkiewiczmonika1161
@sienkiewiczmonika1161 Год назад
Yes. The article's title suggests it's about men already in relationship. Alexander can't read with understanding what he read or he pretends to not understand and he's projecting his bias.
@joaquin67
@joaquin67 Год назад
Sometimes if one of those 3 things is above average, it can really make up for the other two. A guy can be very good looking but broke and not really have much status but still get women. Same if one is high in wealth or status.
@buffuniballer
@buffuniballer Год назад
What Courtney missed is that he was talking about an article. So when women are asked the question, they give the answers on the list. What gets a woman's attention are the items on Alexander's list. Courtney nailed it before she started his video, "What we say and want we want are completely different" Now you can say she said she wanted all 18. However, the article didn't say that, so either the writer wasn't being honest or the women gave the 9 answers in the article, but failed to mention the 9 on his list. Meaning that even if everything in the article was on their list, they still did not say what they wanted because the other 9 were NOT on the list. His point was the article would have been more accurate had it included some or all from his list. My thought was an article with the top 5 on each list would be more accurate than just the 9 written up for the article.
@buffuniballer
@buffuniballer Год назад
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 hmm, let me look. The title of the article was "If a man has these 9 qualities, never let him go Scientists Say" So it doesn't really say if the man is in a relationship or not. It could equally apply to the men that women meet. Seems to be a stretch to say it's geared towards people already in relationships. Certainly cannot narrow it down to people in romantic relationships. But let's assume you are right, that it's geared towards those already in relationships. How does a man who cannot even get a second glance from a woman demonstrate these characteristics? Frankly, I think some from BOTH lists would be more accurate. Pick the top 5 from each list, or at least acknowledge that if he's lacking in Alexander's list, he'll never get a chance to demonstrate the qualities on her list. That was his point, a guy looking the list in the article and focusing on being that person doesn't get a chance to demonstrate those qualities. I.E. what Courtney said before starting his video, "What we say and what we want are completely different." So is he really misunderstanding, or does he understand that while one thing is said, just like Courtney admitted, at the very least, it's not ALL of what she wants. The items on his list gives the guy a chance to demonstrate the ones women are willing to say out loud. By omitting the ones on his list, they are not being fully transparent about what they want. This isn't a dig at women as men do the same sort of thing. It's like the joke, "A businessman decides that it is time to hire a new secretary and has it narrowed down to a blonde, a redhead, and a brunette. Unable to choose between the three of them, he decides to conduct an experiment. At the end of the day he places a five dollar bill on the ground in his office to see how each girl would react. The blonde sees the money, picks it up, and places on his desk and then walks out. The redhead sees the money but ignores it and walks out. The brunette sees the money, looks around, and puts it in her pocket before leaving. Which girl did the businessman hire? The one with the biggest breasts"
@Matthieu260582
@Matthieu260582 3 года назад
most woman dont realise how their most primitive instincts are dictating their choices (pre-selection, taller, older, richer, status).
3 года назад
Most women fully realize it, otherwise there wouldn't be so much hiding of it.
@informationyes
@informationyes 3 года назад
Thats only partially influential as were were a species with large amount of learned behaviour as well as individualistic as in nature loves diversity which is what we see in every human having different preferences as seen by how around 48.9% preferred to only date taller men so that below 50%! also this study's on dating sites have shown woman preferring shorter men. Nothing is certain with humans www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/do-women-date-short-men-fancy-match-study-dating-height-dad-bod-brunette-blonde-a7935766.html
3 года назад
@@informationyes Mistaken extrapolation of most prefer only to date. Among those willing to date shorter we might still find them 95% more likely to pick taller, effectively making that a bs point. And self reported is a joke, we should actually do a couples study and find out what percentage of the time men that are dating are taller. Also if you read just a little farther, only 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman is taller, effectively nullifying all the bs stated before. Ironically the second one doesn't even link to the claimed study, and knowing those idiots they misinterpreted data.
@informationyes
@informationyes 3 года назад
@ Yes but the reason is woman would date a guy the same Hight as them as the the statistics would conflict so so the guy doesn't have to be taller just not shorter so to doesn't nullify it as you dont understand what I'm trying to say, a large proportion of woman will at least date someone of the same Hight thus not only taller men
3 года назад
@@informationyes Except that's not actually what plays out. And yet again, if you read just a little farther in your own cited source, you'd have seem them counter that too.
@tonykelpie
@tonykelpie 8 месяцев назад
The ‘no female friend’s’ point requires further thought. It really depends on the nature of the friends - are they friends, or are they potential girlfriends, or ‘girlfriends in waiting’.
@painandsufferingmn
@painandsufferingmn 2 месяца назад
It's an extremely unrealistic expectation. I do not know a man that has zero female friends. The majority of my friends are female. I think a balance of men/women as friends is very necessary for a man to have.
@airmcd86
@airmcd86 4 месяца назад
This is what I love about Courtney’s channel: she always comes off as totally honest, even when her honesty about women doesn’t paint them in the best light.
@MrDavinci1965
@MrDavinci1965 3 года назад
Impressive, two "younger" people actually speaking truthfully and honestly about relationships, and both are very accurate in their assessments. Maybe there is hope for humanity. keep up the good work !!!
@tacotrucktim9359
@tacotrucktim9359 Год назад
Don't hold your breath
@rukeyburg1084
@rukeyburg1084 2 года назад
I think I can safely say that Alexander Grace is *the* reality check when it comes to gender equality
@advancewarstournamentseries
Just a cult for deillusional MGTOW
@slippo99
@slippo99 Год назад
👍
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
Unforgettable is his Tinder experiment where he had a female friend pretend to be him on Tinder and pick up women. Before the experiment she thought men had a much easier life than women and that she would be able to pick up a lot of hot women on Tinder using his identity.
@brucecates3772
@brucecates3772 Год назад
true that
@worm_and_no_man
@worm_and_no_man Год назад
avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.
@averymason7073
@averymason7073 Год назад
Courtney is super insightful and does a great job explaining her views. I liked how calmly she assessed Alexander's video, which on first blush she appears to have a very different view from. However, she compartmentalizes his views so well (into 'how to get a girl, but maybe not keep her') and meshes it with her view on how to keep a girl. I have a great relationship and agree with all of her observations. I plan to introduce my kids to her channel - I see her as providing a reasoned and insightful take on how to be a better person, and thus how to create the groundwork for great relationships.
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
Courtney, a different male dating advisor mentioned a scientific study about the height preference of the sexes: Men prefer women who are 8 cm shorter than themselves, women prefer men who are 21 cm taller than themselves.
@drip369
@drip369 3 года назад
My sister told me many years ago that you have to have both physical and intellectual attraction, as you don't only have to look at them for the rest of your life, you also have to "put up" with them as she put it.
@thetiredworm2100
@thetiredworm2100 3 года назад
Lol good point
@ianbarkham5080
@ianbarkham5080 3 года назад
I've always thought there are 3 types of attractiveness, Physical, intellectual and emotional.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan 3 года назад
100% true. Looks will only get you so far. Same goes for women!
@drip369
@drip369 3 года назад
@@ianbarkham5080 I've often personally added that to my thinking when single and looking. This modern society struggles to raise proper boys and girls into men and women
@ratamacue0320
@ratamacue0320 3 года назад
@Justin Gary off-topic.
@CadillacBunner
@CadillacBunner 3 года назад
In most cases, the damage has already been done and the game is over. Men have stopped playing.
@learnpianofastonline
@learnpianofastonline 3 года назад
I know I have. Hire a professional.
@tadieabeki5447
@tadieabeki5447 3 года назад
Well said mate.
@MrHelperForever
@MrHelperForever 2 года назад
True king
@tgsiii2179
@tgsiii2179 Год назад
So many "advice" videos on RU-vid.....both by men OR women.....are based on hostility. There's a strong thread of anger by and for the opposite gender, which I think alienates (as well as attracts) a lot of viewers. This is why I enjoy watching Courtney so much......she's very objective and almost unemotional about her opinions. I don't always agree with what she says, and much of what she observes doesn't even apply to me anymore, due to my age. (70) I feel empathy for young men AND women navigating the dating world today. It REALLY was much less complicated when I was in my teens and early twenties. But.....I'm still optimistic that someday I'll come across Ms. Right. 🙂
@Jordanthecool7
@Jordanthecool7 Год назад
I agree, that’s why I wish there was more people like her that made neutral content for both men and women. One where the video still is honest and says the truth about both genders ( the good things and bad things) , and the comment section isn’t a war zone between the genders .
@marcusheaven5205
@marcusheaven5205 Год назад
While I do agree with certain points on Alex's list, there is one in particular that I think (and know from personal experience; depending on the person) women are indifferent about which is being tall. I am a man, currently in a 5 year long relationship where my girlfriend is 6'1 and I am 5'7. From personal experience, it is about being confident in who you are as a person and the right people will make there way into your life, regardless of height. Either sex/partner can be the "tall one" in a relationship. I truly believe it is important to challenge societal norms (the man being taller than the woman) and ask yourself "Is this the way I should be going about my life?". Great video Courtney!! I appreciate the hard work you put in to making this content available to so many people! You have certainly made a positive impact on a lot of people :)
@VengefulBatz
@VengefulBatz 3 года назад
As the saying goes; A rich man can change your life! A rich woman won’t even look at your ass 😆😆
@saisusato2871
@saisusato2871 3 года назад
wow LOL thats so true especially nowadays with all this independent stuff and women wanting to make as much as men but date men who make more smh. like what kind of math did you learn in school?
@saisusato2871
@saisusato2871 3 года назад
@Diabolic Dynamite thats why i said with this independent stuff; it was very specific women i was talking about, namely the wannabe woke new feminists (i think women 1000% deserve to be appreciated and treated fairly in society, but i dont hink they should be put on a pedestal or treat others, especially when it comes to relationship's, like theyre simply a means to an end. women are not "queens" simply because they are women, the same way men aren't kings simply because they are men. my opinion.
@inihilisme1511
@inihilisme1511 3 года назад
Sugar mommie : Well, i guess i don't exist.
@harryh875
@harryh875 2 года назад
A rich wumann won't even look at you unless you're Jeremy Meeks
@Acord718
@Acord718 2 года назад
"behind every man is a woman rolling her eyes" -Jim Carrey
@danlimbaugh3629
@danlimbaugh3629 3 года назад
She keeps talking about tik-tok and instagram, and he's clearly talking about what women on dating sites are saying.
@michaelokyere9167
@michaelokyere9167 3 года назад
Exactly my thinking right now. On tiktok, etc. there is no vis-a-vis criticism or anything of the sort...
@Moreno0101
@Moreno0101 Год назад
Hi Courtney, love your channel. You are really great at communicating your points. thanks for all the great advice!
@sleepingforest8214
@sleepingforest8214 3 года назад
Her voice is so comforting she would make a good therapist.
@BrokTheLoneWolf
@BrokTheLoneWolf 3 года назад
This is my asmr video for the night
@apataye
@apataye 3 года назад
Yes, ¡same here! Also, as +Brok Homz implies, she would make a TERRIFICLY GOOD ASMR-tist.
@absolon486
@absolon486 3 года назад
agree, content is great but what for when i am falling asleep ? :D Alexander is energetic, he can keep your attention.
@learnpianofastonline
@learnpianofastonline 3 года назад
I find her voice to be rather annoying. Too much like a little girl.
@sleepingforest8214
@sleepingforest8214 3 года назад
@@learnpianofastonline Thanks for your thoughts. I disagree
@cavieman136
@cavieman136 2 года назад
Courtney, my experience after many relationships and a 22 year marriage, that Alexander’s list is significantly more accurate than the first. Great analysis and I loved your explanations- well done👍
@bentback1
@bentback1 Год назад
My dear, I am 73 yrs old and have been married for 53 yrs. and she is now in an assisted living home for Alzheimer's and that is where her life will end. In all your discussions and debates, and partner requirements, I have yet to see where you bring in Love. Life and partners are not perfect and tomorrow is promised to no one and life is full of ups and downs. You are a beautiful young lady and anyone I am sure would be glad to have you God bless you and yours.
@hermittmog8697
@hermittmog8697 Год назад
Body confidence is not JUST having a good physique. It's about movement and confidence. He has rhythm on the dance floor, where else might he have rhythm? He lifts those heavy weights, he wouldn't have any trouble picking me up or preforming physical tasks. His physical determination and confidence likely translates to other areas.
@learnpianofastonline
@learnpianofastonline 3 года назад
The dating scene is utterly hopeless for 97% of men. Unless they are willing to settle. Which I am not. So, I hire professionals. But I must say, playing the piano and singing a bit has never, ever hurt me.
@davidbraaksma4961
@davidbraaksma4961 3 года назад
Me 2 always welcoming and never any doubt about if it's yes or no its always yes
@spaceowl5957
@spaceowl5957 2 года назад
Yeah that’s why only 3% of men have ever had a partner…. Oh wait
@grimegarage09isplop
@grimegarage09isplop 2 года назад
You hire professionals. Dear oh dear. Why give money to these low class creatures. Let them go hungry and settle. Play it cool, pretend you're broke and attract good girls.
@winchestersons6258
@winchestersons6258 2 года назад
Charlie sheen said it best. I dont pay them to stay, I pay them to leave.
@jt305
@jt305 2 года назад
professionals he means escorts?😂😂
@JonValtandtheEvilRobots
@JonValtandtheEvilRobots 3 года назад
Just finished the whole video. I haven't seen your content before today. Just wanted to drop a quick comment that it's refreshing to listen to a soft, feminine voice. So many female "personalities online" are loud, brash, etc. This was pleasant to watch / listen to. Great work.
@mattrickard3716
@mattrickard3716 3 года назад
That's a good point. If I wanted to experience "The View" I would shove an air raid siren up my arse and step out into traffic.
@ericsmidt6923
@ericsmidt6923 2 года назад
Agree
@UnexpectedWonder
@UnexpectedWonder 2 года назад
Exactly! There are a growing amount of Feminine Women coming onto RU-vid fortunately. I'm Subbed to several.
@muznick
@muznick 2 года назад
Her delicate voice and demeanor are very pleasing to listen to.
@dirtyconsole2247
@dirtyconsole2247 Год назад
Alex's number 8, I'd like to weigh in on. I'm 25 and my girlfriend of almost 2 years is 56 going on 57. One thing we really admire about each other is that we are constantly learning from each other. Even though she has far more life experience, I bring a fresh perspective and some knowledge that she doesn't have and vice versa. So sometimes it's not about the age that correlates to being able to look up to someone, although age tends to scale with that.
@alexmuenster2102
@alexmuenster2102 Год назад
>>I'm 25 and my girlfriend of almost 2 years is 56 going on 57.
@dirtyconsole2247
@dirtyconsole2247 Год назад
@visitor332211 yeah?
@rogerd4559
@rogerd4559 Год назад
I agree with this guy whoever he is, 100% I don't get the snide remarks and the constant smirks you make, constantly putting this very truthful and informative man
@claireandslash6480
@claireandslash6480 2 года назад
Alex: "Every woman wants a man who can deliver a satisfying sexual experience" Courtney's face after that comment...
@1000equis
@1000equis 2 года назад
Sex should be the first thing that is discussed when dating or courting a chick. Useless sex in any relationship, is just that, useless. Just be responsable and keep it 100
@parthpandya5631
@parthpandya5631 2 года назад
it's not depend on height
@wyleecoyotee4252
@wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад
True
@wyleecoyotee4252
@wyleecoyotee4252 2 года назад
@Dr. John Fallout4Nut I'd rather work so I don't have to have a man. Say most women who are educated with a career
@parthpandya5631
@parthpandya5631 2 года назад
@@wyleecoyotee4252 because you want to break family and 33% male is single educated wife divorce most 3-5 times. Why can't you make intect family like alpha male do with one income + little addition by male? Ask your self
@nicevyb
@nicevyb 3 года назад
I lost myself when he said "I need to address this... because they say that all I talk about is women but that's not true... I also talk about my sponsor... I'm so dead 💀
@Viewable11
@Viewable11 Год назад
That is the slickest transition to a sponsor I've ever seen.
@raulgarza2612
@raulgarza2612 Год назад
A woman where I work has been DROPPING HINTS for me to ask her out, but for five weeks now all I've been doing is showing courtesy. Finally she cornered and asked me why I HAVEN'T made a move. So I asked her, " I HEAR what you say and I SEE what you do. Those two are NOT congruent. So which one of YOU should I ask out?" She simply stood there, mouth agape, with a dumbfounded look in her eye.
@davesmith2312
@davesmith2312 Год назад
The women seeking male traits indicative of the 1st list only become "available" AFTER being ran through by the guys who posses those traits defined by 2nd list
@iyad656
@iyad656 2 года назад
This guy absolutely nailed it! "Women will only tell you what makes them look good to you!!"
@shanehixson6706
@shanehixson6706 2 года назад
Wow, this woman is level headed, honest and mature. Good video.
@silveriorebelo8045
@silveriorebelo8045 2 года назад
don't thin k so - she hardly admits anything... except for the sexual performance, that's why she did not say anything....
@spaceowl5957
@spaceowl5957 2 года назад
Touch some grass dude………
@shanehixson6706
@shanehixson6706 2 года назад
@@spaceowl5957 meaning,,, come down to earth, or smoke some pot?
@supergobgoblin424
@supergobgoblin424 2 года назад
Is the mvp S 1 m P
@shanehixson6706
@shanehixson6706 2 года назад
@@supergobgoblin424 i know it makes you sad
@petermarchi1935
@petermarchi1935 Год назад
I have seen the video you reviewed firsthand, and I will say this much. "I don't think is a matter of women lying, I think it's a matter of Women not knowing what they want so they say what they think men want to hear." (The same rule can be applied to Men!)
@tillycomedy2194
@tillycomedy2194 Год назад
i really like your presentation and how your responses are so calm and thoughtful.
@michaelkearney7923
@michaelkearney7923 3 года назад
#5. My wife’s assertion is that women are attracted to men who demonstrate the ability to be with a woman. I’ve seen women attracted to me who knew I was married.
@tyt5216
@tyt5216 3 года назад
Thank you for sharing your wife's opinion sir, I totally agree with it and I'll try and figure it out :)
@carboy101
@carboy101 3 года назад
I never get more interest from women until they see me with other women.
@richardpauly1635
@richardpauly1635 3 года назад
Women get jealous and try to get what they can't have
@matthewcoombs3282
@matthewcoombs3282 3 года назад
Women like to have their preferences validated by other women. If you have been pre-selected by another woman that makes you automatically more attractive.
@CLASSICALFAN100
@CLASSICALFAN100 3 года назад
Let's see...you're how much over 6 feet tall?...(ROFL)
@pertyslick6171
@pertyslick6171 3 года назад
I got to this channel from clicking on a recommended reaction video to the "Hot/Crazy" matrix. I have to say this is one of the most level-headed, mature, and honest human beings on RU-vid. It's a pleasure to listen to Courtney speak on topics I never would go looking for.
@mrbabyhugh
@mrbabyhugh Год назад
15:38 EVERY WOMAN is attracted to status. Status does not mean you are a celebrity or Social Media Influencer and hundred of thousands of people follow you. The Manager or even Supervisor at work has STATUS, especially when they can command their team and their team RESPECT and respond to their command.
@kingcliff2786
@kingcliff2786 Год назад
thanks Courtney these are really good and your a good non bias presenter. Really altho theres numerous things to understand about a women its not that complicated to get the basics right. Women are complex but once a man starts to understand partners thinking, and because they want to, partner will respond making you happy in return. Its a win win. Men who dont or wont try to be the best husband, the best lover, the best father, partners closest friend, they end up in routine and very average existences. If the man can get a woman to fall in love with him and returns that love equally, he will lead a completely different and fulfilling life. If you love each other more after twenty years together your both winners. Men who dont try are losers. Compensating by earning lots of money is no compensation. Its a payoff to stay quiet. I love all women (except the 3 b's: bitches, bad tempers and baggage), and getting close to a woman, is unreal. Forming a long close platonic friendship with a nice attractive girl really is unbeatable. PS - If I were religious Id thank God for the gift of sight.. lol. Women are beautiful.
@francomario893
@francomario893 3 года назад
It's nice to have a woman that truly says the truth this will help young guys in there journey. Thanks Bella you are a beautiful soul.
@papawewa
@papawewa 3 года назад
the whole video is like ' u are wrong. but you are right'. i feel like she says she is honest with what she wants. yet she still talks in a way that makes her look good
@thomasf.9869
@thomasf.9869 10 месяцев назад
Another one I would add to the list: comfort zone. Many women will select a mate from a familiar social milieu as regards to culture, class, nationality etc. Going with what is familiar, is perhaps the safest option.
@gratefulhealth
@gratefulhealth Год назад
It's easy to focus on externals, but internals are more important to me. A couplet: Beauty only on the outside fades like the rose, beauty on the inside grows and grows.
@rammul7801
@rammul7801 2 года назад
This’s why I’m so lucky to have my wife. She’s the kind that actions match words, and she knows what she wants and says exactly what she thinks and ask for exactly what she wants. No twists and turns.
@matthewh8573
@matthewh8573 Год назад
Or so, she has you thinking I that.😉
@sukaenacornelius9285
@sukaenacornelius9285 Год назад
Is she American? I’m an Iraqi woman, I feel like America women are COMPLETELY different than myself or Arabic friends I have who are from different countries.
@johnathanellis9010
@johnathanellis9010 Год назад
Poor dude married a guy and doesn’t know it
@danwinter8395
@danwinter8395 Год назад
Does she have a sister?
@shanejones578
@shanejones578 Год назад
@@sukaenacornelius9285 I need an Arab woman, some are even extraordinarily attractive. But more importantly they’re about the last women on the planet that still act how women should
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