You know Tammy got bbl done in usa in 2019. You probably noticed her huge booty transformation. You don’t get that no matter how much you’re working out girl 😄
It ruins your life only if you let it do and obsess over it. I had my moments where my body was perfect the way it was and now 20 yrs later I have the body of a mom with a kid and 40 yrs on my shoulders. My hb still finds me beautiful and I still find myself beautiful. Am I perfect for everyone? No absolutely not but that is not my problem. I couldn’t care less what others look like. I put on what compliments me and makes me feel happy and go on by my day. Don’t waste time obsessing over this social media whatever, enjoy yourself, your life and your friends and family.
Some of those "perfect body" pictures look so strange, they don't look like actual humans but like some kind of weird dolls. I think the "ugly" pictures is where they really look perfect, because they look real.
A friend of mine the other day was crying because she was having body image issues... I told her that whenever I feel that way, I get off of Instagram and go to the lake and see what NORMAL women look like in a bikini.
That's so good!! I find that in the beginning of the summer I always get extra body anxious because the media and ads bombard us with how we should be in perfect shape for the summer, and then I go to the beach after stressing out for two weeks and I'm like "oh... Everyone looks normal". Like, there's maybe one really pretty young girl out of 50 people. And she's still not on those insta models' level. It really forces you to realize the lie you were being fed.
I wouldn’t want to accuse them of it as I have no idea! Angles and lighting reeeeally do make a difference! I actually made a video about that last year! X
Definitely agree. Some of those pictures just cannot be possible only through angle and lighting. Though they all have beautiful bodies, I just don't agree with the Instagram pictures
I love that you recognize that just one video about this isn't enough... We need reminding and reminding over and over again. And why do we need constant reminders? Because we're getting a CONSTANT message that we should feel ashamed for not attaining these unrealistic body types. And we've been getting that message day after day for DECADES. So it's going to take a lot to reverse that conditioning! Thank you for doing this
As someone who grew up in the era of stick-thin models, I wish this video had been around then! I still remember being 12 or 13 and hating my stomach pooch to the point where I developed really messed up eating habits for years. Unrealistic standards on social media can cause real damage to women.
the problem for me isn't the influencers: I literally don't trust any of their photos. It's the girls you see in real life, with smooth skin and pretty faces and slim hourglass bodies because that's how they ACTUALLY look if you know what I mean
That doesnt mean your not as beautiful as them. Everybody has their own beauty standard. One of my friend was à stripper. She was the most popular. She wasnt thin, no Perfect skin. She is stunning and confident. She assume herself and this is attractive. Be proud of who you are. Imperfections are sexy too. 😏.
OH my god I’ve been saying this!! I’m no longer a victim of these influencers and celebrities, but rather I’m a victim of my beautiful friend who has flawless skin, or a girl I randomly saw with an amazing body!!
I completely agree! And even when a lot of women are naturally beautiful and a lot who have the money to get Botox and injections or a boob job and you think they are setting the standards too high for women in men’s eyes because they see women in real life that have perfect hair , bodies , faces whatever, and you feel like you have to have a boob job or whatever just to be on an equal playing field. I wish nobody could get anything done. Then we’d all be normal looking. I feel like naturally everyone has something that isn’t perfect like their nose or their facial structure or their body and naturally even the most prettiest of people have something that isn’t perfect on them, but now with money, people can get everything fixed to be perfect on them and the poor or not rich people can’t afford to get a boob job after kids or a tummy tuck or whatever so guys look at those women who have the money to get everything fixed and look at us who don’t have the resources and now we look not as good to them.
"Don't kill yourself trying to get rid off your uterus." HAHAHAH good one... I think this should be taught in schools. For the longest time I was trying to get rid off that tiny bump LOL until I learned that it's vital to have that as a woman. xD
@@nm9688 doesn’t matter, the fat is still there to protect the uterus and the potential Baby inside and it is normal to have that bit of fat no matter the reason.
Kpop idols probably starve themselves... There are some Korean girls that have spoken about that, like Miss Korea 2020 I think? They expect all girls AND boys there to be a standard weight, no matter your height if you are a girl you must be maximum 50 kilos else everyone calls you fat...
Let me tell you, I’m in the middle of a breakdown and I just love knowing I can come to your channel to cheer myself up ❤️ Thank you so much for creating a community that fosters love and acceptance. Your videos mean the world to me right now
had a bad day today regarding my body image so this comes just at the right time for me, thank you for reminding me to have mercy on myself and be grateful for like everything my body does
Wow. Incredible give a way. Dang !! You are so fun to watch. I love how open and honest you are. I have followed you for sooooo long ha. So happy about you doing what you love. Nutrition !!
Same here we all know the truth but yet we get carried away when we come social media and see such bodies. Lately i have been looking at my body n hating it and i feel bad and realize that i am alive i m grateful, healthy and beautiful in my own way. And i should appreciate that and be thankful that i get to live and be healthy another day.
This couldn’t have accidentally popped up at a better time. I’m about halfway through pregnancy and feeling like I’ve gained a little more weight this pregnancy compared to my first. Thanks for the reminder that our bodies are beautiful and not to be compared to online photoshopped bodies.
It's funny how some men try to explain why they want a woman with big breasts and wide hips/big butt. They then claim that it is linked to a woman's fertility and that men are unconsciously attracted to it. According to them, large breasts are a sign that the woman can produce enough milk for the child (despite the fact that small breasts produce the same amount of milk) and that wide hips/big butts are a sign that the woman can give birth more easily (also this is not quite correct). The funny thing is that the fat in the lower belly does actually play a role in fertility, because it protects these organs, but you would never hear these men say that they find lower belly fat sexy.
What is to be true (small breasts have the same amount of milk) is not necessarily what we perceive to be true. (So big breasts offer more milk). Plus, back in the last centuries, skinny women were mostly poor and malnourished, while curvy women with breasts and hips were nourished and could actually have children. Further, you can śthink this way too: tall, broad shouldered men are most attractive to women, because we think they can protect us best. However, the best fighters in the world are more on the small, slimmer end. Not fair either.
I remember in high school my boyfriend told me liked my belly, and that's when I learned that my little round belly was not a problem. Sometimes we ladies think men want hard, flat stomachs but a lot of guys actually want soft round bodies, they equate softness to femininity. We psyche ourselves up.
Stephanie, as someone who severely struggles with my self confidence and the way I look, I respect you so much for being so real and actually breaking these videos and topics down so well. I seem to forget that not everyone is perfect, and actually get stressed and filled with self-hatred whenever I see other beautiful women on the internet. Thank you so much for this, it really is like a weekly dose of therapy💗
I love this, I feel the same way sometimes (especially as I habe a chronic condition which makes my stomach bloat alot etc, that gets me down and makes me want to lose weight) So it's wonderful to see videos like this, it just reminds us that we are normal.
She said "I don't understand how having the waist the size of a glass is an achievement. Like what have you actually achieved?" Lmaooo love it. Yes girl! Let's focus on really making positive changes in the world and stop obsessing over these crazy beauty goals!
After many months of being inside in North America, when my husband and I went to our first outing at an outdoor pool this summer, I had this moment of “Whoa! Everyone looks so… normal.” The women didn’t have spray tans. They had curves. Their thighs weren’t perfectly smooth. That’s when I realized how warped my perception was getting about how the “average” woman looks in a swimsuit.
Same… first I was scared to go to the pool and show my body but then I realized how normal every one actually looks. Even the skinny girls have cellulitis and are not perfectly lean. I really realized that I really just have a normal body like everyone else.
@@nataliamirochnitchenko8152 its not about that like in my country rhey say to ppl u have an american body since they think all americans looks like influencers
I love that your videos always pop up on my feed when I need them. For years I’ve dealt with body dysmorphia, eating disorders and just hatred toward my body. My mom was just dragging me down about my weight because I’m not 100lbs like she was in her 20’s which brought me to self deprecate, so I really appreciate that you try to normalize body fat since the media has brought so much negativity towards it over the years.
I really don't care for Instagram. It does crack me up that many of the comments of such posts are like this "omg u r unreal😍😍😍" Yes! You are correct, they are unreal 😊
You are 100% right. We all need to appreciate our own bodies. I have scars where my life was saved after I had cancer. They are the reason why I am alive. Our bodies are amazing. All the best being holistic nutritionist. X
I'm on a fitness journey at the moment. I'm at a awkward stage where I still have lower belly fat and big thighs, but I've lost 60lbs so far. I'm in the gym a lot now, and recently I found myself having to go to the bathroom and cry because I'm just comparing myself to everyone around me, because I don't look like them. Thank you so much for drying my tears and handing me back my crown and dumbbell this evening. Thank you so much ❤
congrats on losing 60lbs that must have been a lot of hard work!! I'm also working on having a healthier lifestyle and working out more and the thing that's helped me most is comparing myself only to myself, I try to shut down any negative thoughts I have about myself immediately and actively work on being kinder to myself. I know it's hard to not compare yourself to others but if you work at it, it is completely possible and makes you feel so much better. Think about how much you have improved since the beginning of your fitness journey!! That's something to be proud of, try not to be so harsh on yourself (again, I know that's easier said than done, but seriously you deserve to be kinder to yourself!!)
this is literally exactly what i needed to hear today. i've been feeling like shit about my face/body for years, and videos like yours really help me (little by little) to be able to accept all of me. and you do it all in such an eloquent, kind, and thoughtful way--no bashing on anyone. so refreshing!! thank u!!
3:37 Steph, you don't have an idea HOW MUCH i appreciate u explaining this. it is SO IMPORTANT, and responsible to talk ab this to young girls and show it too, without any shame. losing "fat" on my stomach as a female has always been a big issue. I work out quite often and i'm so happy with how my body looks, BUT there's my belly, which is uncontrollable. it can expand depending on if i'm on my period or not and other female issues, and it is SO NORMAL !!! but that took me years to understand. uggggh. i just hope no other young girls or women feel like this EVER. thank u so much. 💓💓💓 your channel is honestly the highlight of this platform ! you're doing SO much good !!!!
Would you ever do a video with your fiancé over this subject? I feel like women as a whole are slowly progressing towards healthy body images… but men’s view on woman, not so much. Sometimes it takes a man to explain it for other men to believe it, even as informative as you try to be. Im tiring of pursuing this perfect image because men thinks women are to look like that. And if we don’t, we aren’t good enough
don't place your self worth on what men's opinions of your body are because that's a sure way to ruin self confidence, different men are attracted to different bodies. the ones that body shame women who they aren't attracted to don't deserve any attention, they're looking for a reaction so it's best not to give them one.
@@acelya414 I agree that we need to move away from letting men set beauty standards, but I think it's important to note that men who body shame women are not just looking for a reaction. Beauty standards for women are set extremely high by the patriarchy for a reason: it makes it easier to exert control over women. It's the systemic equivalent of negging and a way of maintaining the status quo of gender inequality that ultimately benefits men. Women with low self esteems are much easier to control and exploit than women with high self esteems. That's something we shouldn't overlook in this conversation :)
@@acelya414 you’re right, instead off waisting our energy into trying to change the view of people who not interested to let’s put it into ourselves and those who have our interest
Literally said "AMEN!" when you said "It's normal, it's natural. I feel like we've gone so far down the rabbit hole that we have forgotten, what normal, actual, living human bodies look like." Oh wow, I agree with this so much and I'm so glad to see more and more people bringing it up to acknowledge edited pics on social media and encouraging people to accept their bodies/other people's bodies the way they are and to take care of it because it is the only body you will have.
I just wanna say, thank you for what you do! I am in recovery for an eating disorder and hearing someone normalize what HEALTHY looks like helps me when I have bad days with my body image. Thank you ❤
I struggle a lot with body confidence/positivity given the fact that I'm very thin with zero curves and instagram influencers don't make it any easier especially when they create so many unrealistic beauty standards!!!
Try to change up who you follow, so don’t follow ‘influencers’ who post that kind of content, and follow people who uplift you instead! And remember, curves weren’t always in fashion! Your body would have been the IDEAL in the 90s when no curves and athletic / slim bodies were in fashion! Your body is amazing ⚡️❤️
I've struggled with weight for a while, it got worse due to an undiagnosed medical condition that is now being managed. But, being uncomfortable in your own skin is a barrier to weight loss. I just want to say your video's have really given me the tools to accept my body and I've been loosing weight because of it. Thank you so much for being so kind in your approach and sharing how imperfect influencers are while refusing to tear them down. I don't feel any women should be judged, even if she Photoshops, I get it, it's okay.
Even though I know influencers tune up their photos and tweak them, I’m still always shocked by how different they look in the non-touched up photos!! It’s not that the bodies of some of these influencers are adjusted slightly, it’s that they are completely different to what they appear like on Instagram.
I love when you talk about organs! I have a VERY short torso and surprise surprise I've always been a bit "wide" in my waist. Never considered where my intestines might go if I had a tiny waist. Sure there's a little extra belly fat there that I'd like to smooth out but I'm so not as concerned about it now, thinking about my organs! Is that weird to say? Also, it's so great that you are becoming a holistic nutritionist, can't wait to hear more about your studies!
OMG, me too!! My torso is super short. Like, my hip bones almost touch my lower ribs. There's almost no space there. And I've always felt bad about having that lower belly fat. I feel so much better when someone reminds me that this is all normal.
The bit of fat on the bottom of my belly used to drive me insane. I hurt myself trying to get rid of it and now I adore that belly fat. The fact that it's protecting my insides just makes me love it even more. You're doing amazing work, Stephanie. I can't click fast enough when you upload these videos and I'm usually not like that. I follow you so closely because I believe that what you're doing is essential in this day and age. You're honestly doing God's work and I love you for it.
As I’ve been getting older I’ve been really struggling with my body changes and I just want to say I am so grateful for this channel and the delivery 💖 I love that there’s no shame to any of the women mentioned and at the end of the day it’s just a woman supporting the heck out of other women and spreading a message we all need to hear. its just refreshing to remember I’m a real human being and not an instagram post and I am just so happy this content exists
This came at the perfect time...thank you...today I was a little bloated (I'm naturally skinny but I'm 13 and have no self confidence and the beginning of an ED so videos like this are extremely uplifting).
Oh my love ❤️ I hope you get sorted with your ED. Try to focus on NOURISHING your body. Food is fuel. You are beautiful, unique and amazing and you deserve to absolutely thrive in this life! X
Believe me, you are nowhere near done at 13 where your body is concerned. You're still growing and your body is having to distribute "feminine fat" (100% normal!) to places it didn't have to before. It's perfectly normal to have a few years where your body may look strange to you because of that - I know mine did when I was a teenager. You're still *so* young and shouldn't be worrying about being "bloated". Just concentrate on keeping yourself healthy with good food and regular exercise, and the rest will sort itself out over time. Trust me.
If you don't have ED you don't understand that triggers work. Period. Show some support, great, I love to see it. But don't tell her what to do, or anything. Period. Maya, I feel you to say the least. And Im sending you positive energy. You can do anything and everything you want to, it is possible.
Tammy’s paparazzi photos personally make me more envious than her Instagram pictures, cause damn she looks like she works her ass off!! Her whole body is so muscular even in “off-guard” paparazzi photos like she’s not even flexing and she looks so great. I wish she would post more photos looking like that cause her tiny waist, big butt photos don’t even look real to me. Like if you told me they weren’t photoshopped I would not believe it, so they didn’t impress me, however her muscles are super impressive.
Thank you for sharing🥰 I've tried so hard to stay body positive for years and I know about photoshop, but seeing you put this together helps me re-center. Perfection from the media is shoved in our faces so often and I feel bad for all kids having to grow up where this type of expectation is rampant. Thank you for making a difference!
These actually help so much. Sometimes we just scroll and have no idea the lengths people go to to portray this perfect image of themselves online and how that effects us subconsciously
Thank you sooooo much Stephanie for keeping it real!!! As a normal woman with Endometriosis, I can be 'fine' in the morning, then so incredibly bloated by the afternoon. Your videos have really helped me embrace the change in my body and not be so self conscious ❤
Stephanie’s videos are the reason why my self-esteem isn’t as bad as it used to be. I used to “punish” myself (e.g., not shower, workout 5x a week for 2 hours, wear baggy and unflattering clothes, etc.) because my body wasn’t as fit and perfect as the ones that these influencers show off. I am so grateful that I found this channel and her videos!
Your content is so calming and nice, and it's so good that you do it without making fun of anyone or calling people ugly. You keep it real and remind us to be okay with our bodies. It's such a relief, it's really exhausting some days to feel so hideous among all these unbelievably beautiful photos.
Love! I needed this today because I’m not feeling great about my body at the moment. This is such a good reminder that this level of perfection isn’t realistic or attainable. We all just need to work on being the healthiest, most confident version of ourselves. Not trying to replicate a body that even the actual influencer doesn’t really have.
So, I am a man, with a beard and everything. I noticed that there are a lot of comments about men's view of the body of women. I'd say most men know that a belly comes along with breasts and hips, it's part of the package. That's normal, we know and don't mind. I wouldn't really call a belly sexy but rather cuddly or soft. Don't worry about stripes or cellulite, most dudes won't care. Personally I think stripes are pretty, it looks like a print pattern or tiger stripes. Don't worry too much about bad skin. While acne is not exactly attractive, it is something that we have too. And we don't have make up to hide it :) The average normal dude knows what an average normal woman looks like. Don't stress yourselves. Also please dont't put all the blame on us. Most instagram models take and photoshop their own pictures and the fashion industry is mostly a women's affair.
Exactly, it truly isn't the men that make girls insecure. It's the female *influencers* trying to influence them to look like them to sell products/gain followers.
Stephanie I just found your channel and I am so glad! My niece is 14 and I am totally that girl who turns and tells her to stop idolising these Instagram influencers and that they don’t look like that at all, it’s honestly so toxic! She has started not eating properly, came to me as she wanted to throw up her food! I suffered from an ED for years so this was really disturbing to hear her going through a very similar thing. This is ridiculous at this point it really is messing with young girls minds and I’m seeing it first hand 😔 but I am so glad there’s women like you speaking up about these things with actual medical proof this is impossible body standards 👏 💜 keep it up girl, bless you xo
At the end of the video i literally said "Thank you Stephanie", I feel like we are expecting from women to have a "perfect" body, but literally everyone has a perfect body, you are the perfect version of yourself, and I think thats something you need to keep reminding to yourself
I'm from Poland and few weeks ago we've had drama because one of our young actress/instagram influencers said that normalizing bodys is promoting ugliness.
@@petrauhrakova a lot of Polish influencers were really pissed off that situation and making videos abaut her. You can type in RU-vid "moda na brzydotę".
@Kenny B....read it again, slowly, you'll get it, LoL! 🙃 This comment was not meant to be mean. She's saying that a Polish *Personality/Influencer* said normal bodies were ugly. I mean, idk. It's most certainly NOT *normalizing ugliness* to show how *REAL* you are!! SMFH! 😁🌻🌼
Mannn, thank u for addressing this because all my life I’ve thought I was fat and when I’ve looked back at when I was about 12 I realised I was dangerously skinny but it was just in my mind. I used to do salt water flushes and lemon and water fasts to loose weight to look like how I thought I needed to look and now at 19 I’m finally starting to love my body and accepting that what I see online isn’t acc real
I love how positive you are and how you're not going after all those influencers in a negative way but simply pointing out that they don't need photoshop in the first place
Thank you so much I’m 18 and have been feeling very insecure about my body. I was a very skinny child and when I turned 18 during lockdown my body changed and I felt so insecure more so because of family’s comments on how I’ve gained and even though it wasn’t said maliciously I felt so upset about my changing body! I’m a size small still but have found myself going into unhealthy habits to try and get back. Your videos have really helped me love my new curves and body thank you honestly !! Your channel is so inspiring for young girls like me ❤️
Embrace your changing body 😍 I feel like around that age you stop looking like a teenager and turn into a woman, and that is epic ⚡️ sending you so many hugs! Xx
My waist looks super small when I look straight at myself. But it looks like I have no waist, if I look from the side (the stomach "bulges"). I was always so self conscious about this. But after this video I suddenly realized: it's my organs! Because my waist is so small in one projection, it has to be bigger in the orher projection to fit my internal organs. 🤯🤯🤯
I love how you’re so down to earth like this obviously makes us all feel a lot better but at the same time somehow you magically aren’t putting anyone else down like you’re so positive and kind and respectful to the influencers. It’s like a total win win for everyone here and that balance is so freaking rare to see so I applaud you
You are the best! I love your content. I have been insecure about my abs my whole life and I am a personal trainer. The industry is cruel and the girls are showing what they want to show. You opened my eyes that we are all just human beings with our imperfections =) Keep up the good work!
I love that you are so encouraging, uplifting, and championing to these girls! So many people are so mean and would use this opportunity to bash other women.
I just found your channel and I really appreciate you pointing these things out. I know a lot of people point out how impossible these body standards are but you explain it all so well!
These types of videos actually help so much. Like you said even if you "know" they don't look like this in real life, the sheer mass of images like this online makes it difficult to remember the reality and not compare yourself to the photoshopped/posed/surgery version. Thanks for being the blunt friend we all need
Thank u for making this !! As a teenage girl I’m really struggling with my body and I always compare myself to girls online . This really helped me realise that nobody actually looks like that
I literraly had this little bit of lower belly fat when I was very sick and dropped down to less than 37kg at a height of 1,60m and femt uncomfortable all the time because I was starving and really unhealthy and I was so happy when I was back at my normal weight of 43kg(still very thin, but I am healthy, fit and well nourished) and wasn't in constant pain any more
Just straight out bit thank you! These videos make me feel so much grateful about my own body. It’s just crazy how social media just messes up your head in sense of beauty. With the age of 25 I finally understand! But it was quite a journey to a healthy mindset and I still find myself putting myself down sometimes. So just really, thank you!
I need reminding, this helped. Wow. And I actively try to not go down the rabbit hole but damn, I still do. Thank you for this and for being positive towards the women while also being realistic
Just wanted to say thank you for these videos! I often feel so very self conscious about my body, especially the lower belly fat. I'm quite naturally skinny so whenever I eat I bloat and feel I look pregnant, which is ridiculous to think because bloating is normal. We need to start normalising what is normal and healthy on a woman. Every body is different and it shouldn't matter what you look like as long as you're healthy and happy
Seriously. These so called influencers look NOTHING like they want us all to believe they do. I don't understand? Do they honestly think nobody is ever going to see the REAL person? I love that you do these espose vids because in my own opinion, They live in a dream world and must truly think they look horrible in order to doctor their photos SOOOOO much!
I’ve been watching your videos for years and I’ve come a long way in loving myself. Sometimes I feel myself slipping back into troubling eating habits in order to lose weight quickly, but I’ve learned to catch myself when that happens and watching your videos helps a lot. You’re doing amazing work and I am thankful for you.🥰👍
so glad to see how you're doing content on nutrition! I used to have a really unhealthy relationship with food so I'm glad that you're trying to help women out there. We love you Stephanie!
Love this series precious Stephanie. Feels so good to appreciate these beautiful women in their natural state. This obsession with air-brushed perfection is the highway to nowhere.
You are so precious to all humans on this planet right now. Not only for showing these things in a reasonable way but also talking about everyone so kindly without any shade or hate...humans can learn from you!
I find it so frustrating that this way of analysis and information isn't being shown or talked out about enough - media can be the best and the worst to ourselves. Thanks Stephanie and good luck on your journey in holistic nutrition!! You've got a natural affinity to it 💃💖🔥
I love the content but it's still hard to watch cause I can't get out of my head that men actually believe women look like this with out any of the negative consequences
I thought so too cause my bf used to follow accounts like this before. But when I had a talk with him, he told me "OF COURSE THEY ARE FAKE, you didn't know this until now? Some even send me to ask if i could photoshop for them, they all photoshop" and then I felt much better. Now I actually think that many men understands even better than us women, that this is not real. Ask the men around you and maybe they will say the same ? 💛
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm on a body acceptance/positivity journey :) I know some people don't like these kind of videos but I do appreciate the reminder that all the things we see on IG is filtered and fake
