reacting to iNfLuEnCeRs in real life - Alexis Ren + Emily Ratajkowski 

I want videos like this to reach more male audiences. I feel like most of us women are aware of the instagram/reality issue and men are still blinded by it.

as a kpop fan and someone who looks up so much to idols i would say that you need to do a kpop idol version of this, with kpop being so big now there are so many young women who look up to these idols not knowing all the craziness going on behind the scenes and the stuff that idols need to do to get those bodies

I love how you describe this without putting down the influencers and having empathy for them instead.

Another thing to mention is whenever we see models at events like the Met Gala they've probably been prepping for it for days/weeks, which could entail some pretty unhealthy stuff like restriction, binge exercising and dehydration so they loose as much puffiness/appearance of fat as possible -____-

YES!!!! THE TORSO ARGUMENT IS SOMETHING IVE BEEN SAYING FOR YEARS!!!! I will never be able to have a tiny waist because my ribs end right where my hips start 🤣

"Because her thighs are smart" 😂 Thanks for bringing us all back to reality.

I literally never saw these photos of emily with cellulite and a normal looking stomach. I always wanted my abs to look like hers (especially during these Met Gala photos) but never was able to get my stomach that flat even though I workout six times a week. it's nice to see that we're all human and we all can look like we eat food.

I've been sick the last 2 weeks feeling absolutely uglyyyyyy and undesirable. I needed this. I appreciate you and your intentions and kind soul more than you could possibly understand. 🧡

Thank you for making this video. I showed this to my 9 year old niece. She would often tell me how she hates how her body looks because of how there are certain “fats” around areas of her body. It blew her mind how these photos are altered and made to look a certain way. Can you imagine, she’s only 9 years old and this is already affecting her viewpoint of humans in general. My heart aches for little girls who are more likely growing up to these ridiculous beauty standards instead of just living their life as a normal kid playing with their friends. Thank you so much for being sensitive and using thoughtful words.

Very well said. As someone who used to work in the modeling industry since I was 13 years old and seeing the photoshop that is done to most photos, it completely warps your mind of what a 'normal' and 'healthy' body looks like. It is so refreshing to see people of all sizes post more natural unedited photos of themselves and have it be applauded so much more than it was a decade or two ago.

Thank you for these 😭 my ex followed quite a few IG models and started telling me I was fat. I'm not. Your videos have helped heal me so much!

Long torso’d human here and you are 1000000% correct. I am 5’9” with a long torso and my abs sit really flat with a 24-25” waist. This is genetics. I don’t do targeted abs workouts- they are just flat because I have a long torso (and way short legs 🤣👍).

I’ve actually read Emily’s Book “My Body” and I’ve never realized how insecure these women are. This is not about defending her questionable posts on Instagram which sometimes look really unhealthy, but she struggles as well. Obviously her posts are not helping in our society when she’s constantly showing off how “perfect” her body is, but I think that literally none of us would be able to make “relatable” content when we all feel this kind of insecure. Even our body idols are struggling and suffering with a disturbed body image. I don’t think that we’ve found the perfect solution of showing our bodies in the public yet.

you explaining why the body creates cellulite just made me look at my thunder thighs literally in a way i’ve never seen them before. i cannot stress how much that little piece of info really just helped someone who’s had body dysmorphia and disordered eating for seriously as long as i can remember. thank you for these videos ❤️

Honestly, my body image took such a hit just a couple months ago, despite maybe being the most “fit” I’ve been in years. I just suddenly started comparing myself to people when I hadn’t really been doing that in years. Your videos have helped me in ways I can’t even express. Thank you, you beautiful human. 🥰❤️

“She has cellulite…because her thighs are smart!” Love the energy ❤️

"... because thighs are smart!" 😄 Absolutely LOVE IT!!! Another good one. Those ladies look so much better IRL in my opinion. For a lot of girls it's gotten to the point where all the posing, angling, and photoshopping just makes them look unhealthily thin and unrealistic. Why does the media always want us to achieve the impossible?!!!

One of my favourite parts of these videos is when Steph starts going off about organs 😂I find it both funny but also incredibly important to acknowledge

These photos are more than poses, they are clearly extremely photoshopped.

“We don’t see the hungry girl” wow, that really hit a deep nerve because I used to have an eating disorder and it makes me so sad nowadays thinking about anyone going through hunger. Whether it’s an eating disorder, a homeless person or people in need, no one should ever have to go through hunger. It’s one of the cruelest things we could ever go through

OK..GIRL. Thank you! So, here's what I always dont get about Emily, in particular. She claims to not want to be known for her body and has an issue with others commenting on her body, but literally ALL she posts, is her bare torso. She does it on purpose. She is doing it not because she feels "empowered" but because her 'brand' is her body. That is OK. No shame, there. Work it. BUT, dont try and say that you are somehow better or that you care about women's rights ( she's made herself into one of these people and it is hilarious to me) when all you are doing is showing off your toned belly. You are not helping other women, Emily...because you dont care about other women. You care about your swimsuit line, the ads you make and your modelling career. If you cared about women, you would talk about other things besides your body...because women are more than their naked bodies.

I put so much work into getting a flat belly, I was starving. At the end of it I realized that there was no way to keep my body looking like that and that I would have to suffer so much if I wanted to keep that "ideal body". It was around the time I found Stephanie's channel and I decided that I would rather keep my body well fed than malnourished. I'm a lot happier now. Sometimes seeing those Instagram bodies makes me want to start skipping meals again, but I just have to watch one of your videos to remind myself that there's more to life than that. Thanks for all your hard work, you deserve the world!!!! 🤗

I would love some content discussing how different trends or even specifics in clothing design doesn't work for women at all. For example women's weight tend to flux thru the month due to bloating and periods and yet trousers are not sewn to be fashionably adjustable.

These instagram photos look like aliens tbh, really uncanny

so empathetic, so empowering, no taking sides or shaming anyone - wow you are such an example 😍😍

I really appreciate that you mention that the structure of your torso can really change how you look… I’ve been struggling with my body and this video truly was a friendly reminder that bodies vary and that even if were at the same height we could look drastically different

stuff that you are bringing up for younger people 💌💌💌 i wish i saw these when i was growing up 💗 keep up the good work

20 minutes long is fine by me actually, so I prefer you would film longer videos, thanks for your precious content❤️

The way you explain the long vs short torso fitting all our organs and allowing for more flatness, is just BRILLIANT

You are genuinely helping so many of us with these videos. These women are beautiful posed or not but remembering that we’re all human and built differently to survive is hard in the age of instagram and filters. I just had to say I’m so glad you’re so real and so nice.

I’m off to Ibiza in 2 weeks, I’ve been so miserable thinking about being in a bikini Your channel is really helping me out my head back on THANK YOU I’m 38 and been obsessing for years I wished I had heard all this growing up ❤️

When Stephanie "snatches" us back to reality and the real world of cellulite, normal stomachs and photoshop 👍👍👍👍 Hour long vids .... please 🙏🏻 💗💗💗💗

Two months out from my wedding and I’ve been putting so much pressure on myself to look a certain way.. see this really helped me centre myself ✨ thank you ✨

I love this! Building women up without tearing Alexis and Emily down 🥰 thank you

Ever since I learned how to do ab vacuums I look at everyone's flat tummy content with skepticism. It's really easy to make your stomach concave for a few seconds without even being especially thin.

Hi, I have an ED and lupus so exercise isn’t alway an option for me. Emily has always been my “body goals” go to. Your videos help me so much, I normally stay clear of that stuff on social but you can’t hide from everything. The videos you make are so so so important and appreciated.

It's amazing how blind people are to this, I've told my husband before how everything is so fake on the internet and most women edit their photos and he was in disbelief and was like naaahh they would just look like that right!?! No mate!

I remember what Adele said to Oprah in her interview: ”I’ve never looked up to someone because of what their body looks like” (not an exact quote).

Stephanie, I appreciate your candor in these videos so much. It's such a good example of using language to uplift, love, and appreciate our bodies and create a space to rewire an Instagram-riddled brain back to normal. What you said about cellulite being a cool and helpful thing our bodies have done for hundreds and thousands of years, and commenting on these womens' bodies in neutral and positive ways both when they're posed and unposed. I really appreciate these videos. 💕❤️

I recently started working out more frequently and being more conscious of what I eat and as someone that's always been more focused on being healthy and not to concerned about the "ideal body" I cought myself slowly but surely falling under the influence of these unattainable body goals, mostly through these social media posts. Your videos are really bringing me back to what is actually real and that nobody looks "ideal" Thank you for that!

the way this made something click inside my head like ive watched many of your videos but this one particularly hit. the way you put into words all these healthy ass ideas and the way you can prove that nobody looks like that the whole time (while respecting everybody) and how if you are a model you ara capable of learning how to make your body look a certain way idk, we are so fucked up fr. thanks a lot really :,)

Me: someone's looks don't increase or decrease their value. Everyone inherently has it. My brain: not you though Me: not me though

The work you do with these videos cannot be appreciated enough. You deserve the best life for lifting others up and truly helping girls and women all over the world feel better about themselves

I'm someone with an extremely small waist and completely flat stomach and I'm still insecure. I don't like my thighs, I don't like my face... we'll always find something wrong with how we look and will never be satisfied because ultimately diet culture and social media wants us to feel insecure by showing us images that are edited and filtered. Also, I can confirm that a flat stomach does not look perfectly flat at all times. During PMS I'm sometimes so bloated it looks like I'm pregnant lol or when I lean to grab something the skin folds because if it didn't I wouldn't have room for my organs.

I love how honest you are about this topics. Like this is something no-one talks about it, and when you talk about it, you are called jealous because 'you don't' look like that. We need to create more awareness around this.

What I like about you, among other things, is that you are always respectful about the women that you talk about.

You betta drop that science! No one looks the way the do on Instagram in real life. Thought that was common knowledge by now but guess not. I WANT MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS! I hear all the time how perfect so and so is and I am like yea not really. 🤔🙄

Hi Stephanie. Have you ever done videos regarding facial features? I would love to see one with well known females in their 40s and 50s comparing their real selves to what they present in the media. I feel that so many women in this age group are being taught to loath themselves thanks to mainstream media. As always, thank you for your continued help in promoting real bodies and for shedding light on the trickery that is social media. 💕❤💕

Stephanie I am so glad you make these videos consistently and you have centred your channel around this type of content because it was only after watching multiple videos of your and a lot of personal growth that I was able to dismantle the expectations that are fed to women and that's when I realised how deeply embedded they truly were. Hope this reaches you and whoever also needs to hear this

You help with my self confidence so much. I feel like the generation that grew up with social media have body image issues so bad

Hey Steph, I love your content and how you approach body image issues. It would be amazing to see your take on male beauty standards, my partner gets disheartened comparing himself to the “buff” Hollywood actors but it’s so hard to find a good video to send him to help him see reality. Keep doing what you’re doing!

Stephanie, from the bottom of my heart thank you for everything you do. It means a lot and it helps so so much ❤

Once again, we all have something in common: insecurities! 🥳 Edit: Once again, most of us have something in common: insecurities! 🥳

Thank you Stephenie for improving my confidence! These videos always make me feel loved and remind me that it's ok to not look picture perfect.

Thank you for this!!! Social media can be so deceiving 😊 learning to be happy with what we have is definitely a journey!

Stephanie, Look into what happened with hazel E and the post baby surgery - in Turkey or Mexico I don't remember where- and it nearly killing her. The unholy desperation for women/mother's to look skinny or snatched is ... We are in hell aren't we.

Thanks for getting the truth out there, people need to know. Most men fall for these fake images, then they compare them to us, setting the bar to unrealistic goals. You are very beautiful and its refreshing to see such a natural beauty who is real. You are doing a great job exposing the truth and helping girls everywhere who are made to feel insecure and resorting to dangerous surgery. My dad used to work for a famous news paper and his job was to edit the topless models pics before they got on page 3. That was in the early 80`s, they also used these fade out lenses while filming celebs even back then. Plus body doubles in movies going back to early 70`s. It is all a big illusion to make money, like you say, by feeding into our securities. Even Marylin Monroe had a lot of surgery. There is more to life than how we look. Keep up the good work! Just found you and just subbed. 🙌💕

omg saying that cellulitis is our body being smart is the coolest thing ever. I feel like that is one of the last body shape taboos that nobody is trying to debunk. Personally I feel horribly self conscious about my "smart body" and avoid a bunch of fun things in life because of that. So your outlook on the matter was just enlightening

Not everyone has stratchmarks on stomach. My mom has 3 kids and doesn't have stratchmarks there at all, absolutely normal skin on belly. But she has some on hips and knees

I appreciate your realistic yet positive and uplifting approach to topics like this so much! Thank you for that, Stephanie!

Im feeling comfortable about how i look after seeing your videos 🥰 thank you somuch ❤️

You’re amazing Stephanie, these videos are a perfect length & soo helpful!! It’s important to be aware of perpetuated insecurities bc they could effect anyone

My 2-year-old has had cellulite since she was born. And I am not even kidding. Right after she came home, 3 days of breastfeeding her were enough to make her this little ball of love and cellulite. She is super healthy, amazing, and perfect and I will punch anyone who says otherwise to her. Thank you for your videos

I love you so much honestly. As someone who has struggled with body image for years it means a lot to see you praise their normal bodies too. It makes me want to take care of myself instead of mentally and physically torturing myself to look a certain way that is basically impissible. Don't forget to take some of the love you spread for yourself too, take care! ❤

Ahh you’re doing Gods work with your videos. I’m so passionate about these topics and I adore every point you made, genetics, posing, the photoshop aspect, their point of view regarding their pressure, their feelings, their hard work and exercise and what depends on those photos, not calling them out for posting them. It is disappointing when celebs do photoshop cos it just brings everyone down and drives the industry but I love your explanation for their side. really they can do what they want its a photo of their body it isn’t attacking anyone, really it’s the fault of the follower if they make the irresponsible choice, knowing they’re insecure, to follow these pages. That being said I obviously have been guilty of doing that and I know there are so many impressionable young women that do this and it breaks my heart because I have so much love for the younger generation of women coming up. its evil how companies make money off making people feel insecure. I love how you brought up how hard their life is because I know many get annoyed when they hear “your problems aren’t all solved when you’re skinny” because many believe their body’s are their biggest problem but it really is true. I just want to ask people “have you ever experienced fun before?” Real, genuine fun. Real fun is being in the moment and completely present, doing an activity, and you are NOT focused on your body at all. Some people can’t experience that because they’re hyper aware of what they look like at every waking moment and that’s my point. Your body isn’t holding you back your mind is. But we are brainwashed from such a young age 😢 and some are delusional or dysmorphic it is such a real, extreme problem

I rlly needed this. Ur content brings me back to reality and honestly I think it helps w my dysmorphic view of my own body. Thank you so much for taking the time to make videos like this♡

Thank you Stephanie for making videos like these, and discussing the human anatomy and how our body are designed to literally, keep us alive and well. You are helping a lot of young women, including myself

Thank you! I definitely have felt the changes my body has gone through after having a baby and the internet can be very harsh in terms of even subconsciously comparing myself. Your videos definitely remind me that not everything (or even a majority of what) I’m seeing is real! Thank you!

I had to unfollow both of these people because it was making me so upset to see their photos every day and want to look like that. Just a reminder that we get some control over what we see everyday 😌

Your point about organ space in longer vs shorter torsos is fantastic and something i’ve never thought about before!!! 👏🏻

yesss, queen, you're so inspiring and gorgeous!!

That's the thing for me. I'm totally aware that perfect doll-girls don't exist, but I'm still jealous of the girl on the beach who's slimmer than me even though she drinks beer and eat junk food. She might have stretch marks or some cellulite but she's still so much better looking than I am and a lot more confident

I’ve grown to be quite ok with my body, learning that everyone has a normal body and the Instagram body isn’t really real. But my facial confidence is still horribly low… I now feel like it’s ok to have any type of body if you have a beautiful face :( I don’t know if this is a topic you could discuss somehow.

I used to be an underwear model and also now (30+ y/o) I'm a media designer. The people I worked with have always been so thankful they barely had to photoshop my body. But that wasn't due to my body being "perfect" back then. I just knew how to pose and use the given light setting to my advantage. And let me be absoluetly honest: I hated my body. I always thought I needed to lose more weight, be even smaller, have an even flatter belly, my legs need to look even longer and all that. Now I have a very average size and I have never been more in balance with my body. I have quite a big belly for a woman my size, my hips and thighs got way bigger, my thigh gap is gone and I am so happy! Of cause I would like to look like back then. But I never ever ever want to feel that pressure again. And I know all models I knew back then and those who are still working in that field feel the same way.

WTF WHY IS SHE HOLDING HER BABY LIKE THAT???? PS thank you for this video. I can't imagine being a young girl growing up in the era of Instagram. I'm in my 30s and I still have to remind myself that most photos on there don't show realistic body goals!

For me, when it comes to flat tummies, even when I was in High School, I had a hard time gaining weight, but I have always had a little pot belly that I just can't seem to get rid of. Working out, or exercising has never gotten rid of it. Being 100 lbs soaking wet, it was still there. Now, at 135lbs, I've learned that I just need to accept it. It sucks seeing all these people with flat tummies, because it makes you feel like that's how you should look. I love that you do these videos, because it kind of snaps me back to reality, and realize that it's okay. It's okay that I can't look like that, because as you've said, they don't either! Love you, Steph!

It’s only since watching your videos I’m starting to be ok with my body, I never really put into perspective that I’m only 5”2, short legs, short torso and longer chest area. I did ballet for 12 years, it messes with you when you stop, become no where near as active and your body changes.. becomes “normal”

Thank you for making such great content. The only way we can change these impossible standards of beauty is to no longer giver our energy to them. Our focus needs to be on our beautiful hearts and divine bodies and not beauty influencers. Let’s continue to celebrate beauty diversity. By following and obsessing over these people we are only making the problem worse. Thank you Stephanie for bringing our attention back to reality.

I think every girl/ women needs to watch these videos thank you for bringing awareness on these topics your doing an amazing job!! xox

I’ve always been insecure about having a long torso. What you said actually made me feel better ( not because of the flat belly part) but because It actually has a cool feature.

Broh Emily got a tummy tuck. And it so clear.

you make meel feel sooo comfortable about my body. even though im fit i still feel insecure when i see those influncers. thank u for ur amazing work ily

this truly does wonders for people's self esteem, including mine; thank you so much.

And here I am with a short torso AND legs 😂😂 I'm literally saving this video, because in a couple years I'm gonna have my daughter watch it.

Honestly I never get enough of your videos. They are always keeping me together... I used to have an eating disorder, and sometimes Instagram, Tiktok, KPOP really try to push me back into it. Then I watch your videos and I remember many of these "perfect" bodies are a lie. And that these women with incredibly tiny waists actually are a lot more normal than we think.

Steph, honestly, your channel is one of the best on RU-vid. THANK YOU for doing this, please don't stop. I know you might have an idea of what you want do with this videos and what message you want to deliver, but I swear your message and the impact you generate in US (your audience) is way more deep and more incredibly kind of "healer" that you can imagine. God bless you for everything you do. You rock girl!

Thank you for consistently reminding us that bodies are unique and different, that that’s okay, and that we are beautiful nonetheless!

I ABSOLUTLY LOVE YOUUUU

I've been feeling so sick and rock bottom about my body lately despite losing 12 pounds and getting into decent shape since quarantine because I still have an unhealthy habit of scrolling endlessly through these instagram model photos... I feel like I'm at a pretty low point rn and I really needed this. ty so so so SO much for making this content, we need more of it 💖 People can say that stretch marks, protruded stomachs, cellulite (!!!) are all "normal" but it doesn't feel normal until I see it on women we deem as "perfect" or "body goals". Also, there are SO many (much) younger people on social media that it's easy to wish I looked like them until I realize they are literally teenagers. All bodies change and that's a normal thing 💖 I just wanna be more gentle with myself and love this body that's so special to me 💖

Imma just add this up, I also saw Cindy Kimberly's paparazzi photos and she's also not as slim as she is in her insta photos. Even gym guys show us how they show off their abs so we really don't have to be insecure about our body sizes and shapes. It's fine if you get motivated to workout whenever you see them but don't do something that results to an eating disorder. Your body is just as perfect as theirs.

These videos are so important honestly I nearly started crying because of how relieved I am to know that even these girls don’t look exactly like they do on Instagram

I think your an absolute legend to young girls and women steph. I've had four kids, no stretch marks, toned and a size 8 but I don't exercise or eat healthy I'm just on the go as a mum alot. Social media does more damage to body image and mental health yet not many highlight this problem. My youngest daughter 16 is all about her hair, makeup, eyebrows, clothes and more..... It drives me insane because she's a beautiful natural red head, I mean red not ginger.

Your videos make me feel so good about myself 😊❤

She isn't giving her baby's neck / head support. Does she want him to look like an afterthought?

You take such a practical and thoughtful approach to this, the longer torso from a biology standpoint really hit me with a healthy dose of reality. Thank you

I absolutely adore your videos, they help me ground myself, honestly the longer your vid is the happier I am. I love seeing proof that I'm not a complete mess that has to be ashamed of what I was born to look like or i.e. I look wrong,. It's difficult to relate and to have the right perception over how an average human looks, what is normal to feel like and be like and look like. Thank yo so much for all the work that you put into making these vids! :))

I learned this while in high school but forgot so I love watching this kind of content bc I can always use the reminder thanks steph!!! I appreciate it truly!!!

First, I never look at their instagrams and think “stomach goals” instead I think “they literally look starving/unnatural.” Second, why would she ever hold her baby/dog like that and genuinely post it on Instagram…? I have second hand embarrassment over that lol. Lastly, it looks like Emily had tons of plastic surgery to look like Kendall Jenner. Every single one of these celebrities wants to look like one another. There’s no “goals” about that! I just feel sad for them!

Your explanation of the FUNCTION of cellulite has blown my mind! Thinking of it as an adaptation for survival makes it suddenly feel powerful and badass 😤

"because her thighs are smart" that's a wonderful way to put it. I want to be more thankful to my body, not hate it or shame it all the time