I have a funny story that is recent. I'm FtM and have been on HRT for almost 10 years now. I have my name and gender marker legally changed and a full beard. Because of Covid, my regular doctor wasn't accepting walk-ins so I went to an after hours clinic instead. Everything goes fine until the doctor starts asking me about my prostate. I panic and say "I don't have the p thing" She stops and stares at me for a bit and asks me to elaborate. I continue "uh..me girl down there...yeah" She looked like she was trying not to laugh and asked if I meant to say I was a trans man. It was really embarrassing at the time but now is a funny story I share with my friends
Hey idk who is gonna read this but I’m FTM and as you can tell I can’t come out to my parents I go by Oliver and ofc he/him pronouns. I’m proud to be Trans but my parents aren’t supportive and if I tried to tell them they would say I’m faking it. I have to express myself in other ways like painting my nails the trans flag color and if I’m lucky my friends will even help me buy a binder. I’m sorry to be a downer but I needed to rant, thanks for reading a dumb comment by a baby trans man 🏳️⚧️ Thanks loves~ Oliver
@@TheBestrOlipOli the fact your friends are willing to help you buy a binder just made me smile so much! hang in there Oliver, you're gonna be in a better place someday and will have support to be who you really are. I have no way of knowing how your parents are gonna react but just know that you have a family here and you're loved and cared for, no matter what
Why would you ever tell someone "The lady's section is over there." Like there are so many reasons anybody could be in the men's section. Maybe they're trans, maybe they're buying clothes for someone else, maybe they just prefer clothes from the men's section. I'm NB, and most of my clothes are from the men's section. They're comfy, and seem more durable, they can be so much cheaper, and best of all *POCKETS*
I'll never forget the moment someone accidentally touched my binder at work through my shirt (kitchen shirts are thin) and said, "oh dude, I wore a sports bra too when I was younger to make my pecs bigger" saved.
@Mia Smith yeah, according to him apparently so (hes a cis guy). And yeah it's like a classic chef's shirt with all the buttons, so it's a thin meshy material which sucks😂
Lmao this happened to me. I have severe kyphosis and have to wear an aluminum and plastic waistcoat to make my spine go back to its supposed place. One day I wasn't wearing the waiscoat and my aunt hugged me and felt my binder, I was going to tell her what it was but she thought it was something for fixing my back and was so sure of it that I didn't correct her and just left it like that.
So here is a story: I’m non-binary and out to my family. They chose not to use my name or pronouns but my sister ones try. I was out in this story btw. So I had an appointment with a doctor/therapist person for the first time and the doctor got confused and thought I was a cis boy. My mom proceeded to correct her and tell her my pronouns are she/her. The the doctor herself asks me what my preferred pronouns are and I say they/them he/him. It kinda felt like I was calling my mom out and it felt good. Then when I was talking to the therapist/doctor in private she asked me if I had a name I would like her to call me. I said my name and she started calling me by that with no problem. When my mom was speaking to the doctor the doctor would use my correct name and pronouns and my mom would use my dead name and she her pronouns. It felt really validating when the doctor would call me by my preferred name and pronouns. It was also really funny because it felt like my mo was kinda being called out even though she wasn’t directly and it also sounded funny like this “Has he ever been abused?” “No she hasn’t.” “Ok, so is there any medical condition that Kota has that I should know about” “Yes, *deadname* has a thyroid condition” It was honestly so hard not to burst out laughing. Edit:Thanks so much for so many likes! I actually got my name by looking at the name Dakota and removed Da because it felt to long and then it was perfect ✨
I love your name, Kota! It's gorgeous, very cozy feeling and reminds me of a campfire... maybe because kota is a traditional hut style tent sort of thing used for housing in pre-Swedish rule Finland. Also the origin word for the Finnish word for home, koti. Love it :3
It’s so weird that people will try so hard to use the incorrect pronouns, but not try at all to use someone’s correct pronouns (even for cis people sometimes). Also btw, nice name Kota 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️✌🏼
Oh, Iwent to a therapist for the first time a while back and she didn't ask my pronouns or name yet, but I so hope that this will happen to my mom too! Maybe if someone else calls her out like that she'll finally respect my bf and I!
In my orchestra, there was one person trans person (ftm) who had not come out to us yet. Then one weekend we had a weekend together with the orchestra and he came out to us there. We could see he was very nervous about our reactions. During that day we could vote for our new miss and mister (orchestra name), so everyone who had not yet voted, voted for him as our new mister (orchestra name). He won with a landslide and I still think it was the best response we could have given to him coming out.
Alright so everyone's telling their coming out stories in the comments so here's mine. My mother knew I was questioning when I was like eleven but would always say "you're a girl. you know you're a girl." And me being the panicky person I was would just agree. Long story short she was wrong but I haven't officially told her. She knows I just haven't had the guts to properly address her. I wear binder and have short hair and masc clothes but I'm waiting till high school to come out (I'm in eighth grade). My dad on the other hand, found out once while He, my cousin and I were baking cookies. My phone was on the counter and my lock screen is my preferred name. He looked at me and said "Do you wanna be called Elijah? I always told people you were my daughter but I'll call you my son if you want." I couldn't stop smiling it made me feel so happy. He proceeded to take me out on a father son day and we got burgers and went bowling. My sister is eight and doesn't completely understand so when people ask her of she has a brother or sister I am called a Brother-Sister-Thing and it's kinda funny. She loves me so thats what matters.
Unrelated but I came out to my brother today!! He was supportive!! Edit: I really can't thank you guys enough for the kind words. You're all amazing, thank you so so so much ♥️♥️♥️
newest fail. I sent a letter to my grnadparent coming out to them. I included pics so they'd know what I look like. they called later, really confused. they couldn't understand why I sent them pics of this random woman. lol (it was me). they totally didn't recognize me in my pics.
@@sturmklinge9642 I had to argue with them for like a minute, but they finaly understood. and they later called me back and told me that what I thought was good for me was good for them.
I remember being with extended family one year and we were all just hanging out in the kitchen and living room. I was sitting in front of the fireplace on my phone mindlessly scrolling through Pinterest or Tumblr or something of the sorts. One of my aunts started talking to me but I was really only half listening and didn't realize who was talking (My aunt sounds remarkably like my mother who I'm already out to.) My aunt said "Deadname do you have a boyfriend yet?" And without a second thought I replied with "Boys? Ew no, girls on the other hand." I quickly glanced up very shocked and she just kind of stared before saying, "Ah okay then." I looked over at my cousin, who was out as gay, and just kind of awkwardly smiled. He said he was proud and gave me a big hug while laughing. I laugh about it with friends now.
Sometimes when changing into pajamas I'll accidentally leave my packer in my jeans, at a sleepover a friend offered to wash my clothes before bed and I was like "hell yeah! Clean clothes!" But I had left my packer in my jeans, one of them had found my packer in the drier in the morning and the blood curdling scream they let out was hilarious XD
I’m non-binary and I’m sorta androgynous and one of my teachers noticed that I didn’t look to happy when she used my dead name (she doesn’t know it’s my dead name) so she gave me the name “Chandler from friends” and that’s what I am in theatre and English class now and it makes me so happy bc yeah she also doesn’t really try to use pronouns with me like she’ll avoid using them and it just makes my day better
@Brett Wagland *OP disappears* Just don't be rude - people should be allowed to do whatever with their lives as they please. Don't be one of the 'no you can't people' because all your achieving is making the target less happy (aka being an asshole), and just because you don't understand the science of it.
Here's a story of my own: I was in gym and someone asked me if I was a boy or a girl (I'm a demiguy btw,) that made me pretty happy as a person who wants to appear androgynous. I was really happy during my next class, and my friend asked me why I was so chipper, usually I'm pretty unhappy in school. I was just like, "uh..." cause I wasn't out to them. They kept asking me, and I eventually broke and told them and another friend who'd joined us. They were really accepting and sweet and now we're trying to find me a name :D Best day of my life so far.
another "support yay" i want to bring up is: supportive doctors. i had to have surgery but my mom thought i was "faking because some online people told me i was a boy" I'm nonbinary... she was being a huge jerk to me through the whole thing and the nurses/doctors were so nice, using my pronouns, one told me outright to ignore her and another brought me extra cranberry juice when she noticed i liked it but was too embarrassed to ask for more. i didn't want to go home but when i did i made them a thank you letter, i hope they got it.
If the surgery was recent, I wish you a quick and complete healing. (If you're all healed already, please apply this to the next appropriate situation.) One of my kids is non-binary, and told me that many of the people in their group have at least one parent who took a while to be cool about stuff. Blessings and extra mama hugs to you. 🙏♥️💛💚💙💜
I’m confused, was the surgery top/bottom surgery, or an unrelated health concern? It seems weird for your mom to be so unsupportive while still taking you to get a gender-conforming surgery. On the other hand, if your doctors/nurses were so supportive even in an environment where your gender wasn’t the main topic, that’s awesome! It’s very lucky to be able to find doctors who understand and support trans identities who don’t also commonly practice medicine with trans folks. Either way, glad your experience was so positive!☺️
Not a fail, but a funny story. I had just come out as a trans man at work. I work in a grocery store filling curbside pickup orders. My coworkers had known me as a woman for 4 years, and I was the first trans person many of them knew. They didn’t really know how to talk to me. One customer ordered 12 dozen eggs, and as I was packing it up, I commented to my manager that if she wanted eggs so bad, she could have mine. My manager froze and looked at me wide-eyed for a minute before bursting out laughing. Now, we’re all comfortable with each other, making jokes and just hanging out.
I absolutely agree with you. And yet the dysphoric part of my brain will never be okay with me wearing certain "girls clothes". (Although everyone looks good in dresses and in suits regardless of gender)
When I last went to my optometrist for new glasses even they tried to push me toward the women's section.. whereas I liked the ones I already found in the men's section (which fit my face better, too). But like - they're just glasses, sort them by size and style but they don't have a gender. My entire wardrobe is like a 50/50 mix of 'mens' and 'womens' clothing despite most being pretty much the same overall style and fitment One thing I'm okay with for clothes advertising, for example with t-shirts, is to say whether it's straight cut, tapered, short/long that kind of thing, because people do come in different shapes and it's great to have options. Yet still you have stores like Amazon selling shirts with non binary slogans and then just ask if you want it in male or female without saying what that even means.
Not a fail but - Im ftm, I have been out 9 years this month and have been on t 6 years on Xmas eve. I had been thinking about my gender for many years and was planning on coming out at some point but I hadn't gotten the courage to do so yet. My twin sister and I were sat in maccys, eating and she just looked at me and said "you look like a guy, you smell like a guy (I used alot of lynx back then), you wear mens clothes and underwear, you date girls. Do you want to be a guy?" I couldn't do anything but nod with a mouthful of burger. She said "okay cool. I always said *dead name* is gonna be a boy when they're older, looks like i was right". And that's how I came out to my sister. After I managed to swallow my food I asked her not to tell our mum as I was planning on writing a letter to her to come out but hadn't done it yet and didn't want her to tell mum before I did. She was totally fine with it. I came out afew weeks later and my mum was totally supportive. My younger sister cried saying she didn't want a brother but now 9 years later she is 100% behind me and says she wouldn't change it for the world, she is glad I transitioned as I am now a happier person and a great uncle ♡
I am also a twin and my sister/sibling?, told me the other day that she thinks she wants to go by she/they. Talking about it now, I don't know if I should refer to her with feminine pronouns or gender neutral, and she doesn't know if she wants to be referred to as my sibling or my sister but I am very supportive and we will figure this out one step at a time.
Here's my own story, Some of my classmates said they were bulldozers and attack helicopters (we're in 7th grade and most of them are very uneducated when it comes the LGBT+ community), I joined in saying I'm an it, not a boy, not a girl, and they were confused, one said "but aren't you a girl?"(I had said to my class multiple times that I'm non binary but they often forget) and I responded with "Well yes, but no." I said I'm non binary so I don't use she/her pronouns but I'm ok with he/him pronouns because I might trans. Later on that day one of my teachers (who often referred to me as a girl) called me he and it was amazing because they didn't go back to say she and even though I was wearing a mask, you could see the grin I had. It always made me smile when people refer to me as he/him and I might transition which makes it even better Edit 9 months later: so it turns out I am actually transgender and omnisexual, and the first adult I came out to was actually my music teacher from that year and she was the first adult to actually use my preferred name and pronouns :D
Actually, I'm often very confused if Im non binary or "binary" trans. How did you found out that you are non binary but still want to take hormones? I'm asking because I dont know people who are in the same situation like me :/
Almost 3 years ago (not long after I came out) my partner ordered a packers for me as a early birthday present. I was so excited when he got the email saying it was delivered that I ran outside and instantly got it from the mailbox. I was still filled with so much excitement that I chanted "I got a dick!" Until I went inside.. I didn't realize how weird or loud I was until the old lady next door knocked and said "please be more private about your sex toys next time." I didn't want to explain I was trans so I just nodded while dying inside 😂
When he said "yay for accepting moms" I- I'm not trans, but I have a friend who is NB. In Spanish (I'm Latina), unfortunately, we don't really have neutral pronouns such as they/them, so we use the letter "e" at the end of certain words. It would be sort of "ella=she", "él=he" and "elle=them". Is weird but anyway: My mom doesn't really get that. She struggles, but is slowly learning. When I told her about my NB friend she started using the "e" at the end of the words, and asking questions so I would ask my friend, and she'd understand. She's fully supportive, and as my friend said, "she's baby". (?) She says hi, and that y'all are valid and precious 💖
Yesss it's so weird being non binary in a native spanish countryy. I'm a cis girl, and I find it really dificult to get around the Elle pronoun, I totally think we should create a neutral pronoun and that it would be soo useful, but it's difficult to get used to it when everyone around you criticizes it. And it's even more dificult when the RAE doesn't accept it. Anyway, sorry for long text, I hope you, your friend and your mom are fine!
Hey Jamie, it would be really cool if you could include some more transgirl/women stories next time - as great as the transboy/men stories are, it does kinda feel like there are a lot more of those in these videos. Which, don't get me wrong, is awesome! But it would be really cool to hear some more stories from trans girls & women! :D
It would be nice, but honestly myself and many other trans men always feel forgotten about by society in general so it's nice to have content like this being primarily about transmasc stuff. Feels good to be noticed. :') Almost every person I come out to as trans immediately assume I'm a transwomen...
@@finchfingers huh that's really interesting because in my experience it often feels like it's the other way round 🤔 but I suppose that's a very individual experience and probably quite different from person to person^^
One of those stories reminded me of a scene in a French film called "le derrière". The story is a young woman meets her father, who does not know he has a daughter. She find out he is gay and says things that clearly show he is a misogynist, so she dress as a man so he would like her. There is a scene where they are driving and she asks to go pee and he stops the car next to a tree. So she very awkwardly tries to pee on the tree and pee all over her pants. It's a cute and funny film about being true to yourself and not trying to change who you are to please others (especially your parents...)
(transphobia, actually serious i just need to get it out) my personal trans fail is me coming out to my parents, only for them to tell me i didn't know what i was getting into, that it would take them several months to get used to the idea, and that i hadn't shown signs of being trans since early childhood, so my feelings couldn't be that valid. all while they said they supported me. i don't even know how to tell them that that's not being supportive.
I'm sorry to hear that. You are completly valid, please don't listen to your parents. I hope they actually become supportive with time Lots of love and hugs to you
Sounds like they just need to learn. You are valid. My firstborn realized that they are trans at age 20, and took a bit longer to know they're enby. It's all good. ❤️🙏🌈
Oh god same. I am very gay and have a naturally flamboyant personality, so I was happy wearing feminine clothing as a kid and 6 year old me didn't have the words to express that while I was happy wearing a pink skirt, I wanted to be seen as a boy. My mom also wouldn't let me cut my hair which I had wanted ever since I could remember. When I first told my parents, my mom told me not to come out at school and if the name really bothered me to ask to go by my middle name (my middle name is Ray after my grandpa, so it could've become my name easily), and then they ignored it for close to two years despite me reminding them often. I changed the name I was going by from Tyler to Ian, the latter of which would've been my name if I was cis. I did a big family update of the name change, and for some reason, that just stuck and everyone started calling me that more frequently until they started to understand. I don't know why they ignored it for two years, I really couldn't say, but they came around, and a year later I stated T. Now that I'm 8 months on T, they never mess up my name or pronouns, and we can even joke about my deadname (I play a character in a video game whose dead sister follows her around as a ghost and the dead sister's name is my deadname which is pretty funny). Anyways, I'm so sorry that they can't see how you might've been struggling as a child and don't think that your experience is valid, but I promise that it does get better. My parents thought they were being supportive as well, but they'll learn and when they do, sticking it out will be so worth it!
that's almost exactly what happened to me, i tried coming out to my parents a few months ago as i was still figuring it out. my dad was incredibly supportive, but my mom went 'seriously?' and we had a long talk about how i was sUcH a GirLy gIrl wHen i wAs yOungEr (im afab) so i couldn't possibly be another gender. now i have figured out that i am xenogender and otherkin, and ace and demiromantic. my parents aren't any kind of -phobic, i think my mom just thinks you have to have dysphoria to be a different gender than how you were born. i have said many times that i kin this, i kin that, etc, but i don't think my parents know what kin means. my mom said "once you start bringing boys and/or girls home," yadda yadda. so i think she might have some hint of knowledge that i'm not completely straight. i might come out with sexuality soon, but i'm going to wait a while for gender. i just don't know how my mom will take me being ace, because she has said many things about me making babies and stuff. i've dropped hints before like how i would rather adopt, but they don't get it. thoughts? advice? sorry that was weird TwT
@@pitabrezra I'm sorry to hear that. You are valid, regardless of what your parents think. I think your idea to hint at your sexuality gently to get them used to the idea of you not having kids. My mom also tended to talk about kids a lot and then I came out to her (without a specific label, just said that i'm romantically interested in woman (I'm also ace)). While she said jokingly "oh, no grandchildren then", she accepted it anyway. I hope your family will react the same way. Wishing you a good week and a happy new year!
I don't know if this is a fail but I'm gonna to explain the story: So I was in class,my close friends know I'm a trans enby so they call me by my preferred name,and one of my friends was trying to get my attention by calling me by my deadname and I was ignoring her cuz I don't respond to that name anymore(only if I'm with people that I'm not out yet) and she called me by my preferred name and one of my classmates hear it and he asked "Tyler?(my preferred name) why you call her Tyler?" Then I got a trans panic and I just said "it's just a nickname cuz I love twenty one pilots and I'm obssesed with Tyler Joseph" (yeah,I said that ._.) And he just said "oh,cool nickname" That was the day I almost got out to my class while I was in class
I'm MTF and I think I may have accidentally outed myself in front of my mother. After having a discussion with my lovely friend who is trans herself and confirming my feelings, I felt like I finally found who I was after years of confusion, anxiety and depression. In the heat of the moment, I decided to buy a trans bracelet. Something small that is barely noticeable while I know the meaning and felt validated. I've worn it all the time at work and in general public without so much as a glance. So after a tiring work shift, I came home and assisted my mother because she was recovering from an injury. Without even realizing it, she had a very clear view of my bracelet and asked me "Son, where you got that pretty bracelet?" I could hear myself in my head very audibly shout "FUCK!! FUCK!! FUCK!!" and just told her "Oh a friend gave it to me." Granted, that probably didn't help much because now that tells her I have a friend who is trans and that I know it. Was not ready to tell her the truth, but I feel like she just knows now.
Maybe she does know, but it could also have flown over her head tbh. I also wore a pride/rainbow bracelet at home once and told them a friend gave it to me. They just thought it was a friendship bracelet and least my mum was pretty surprised when I came out a couple of weeks ago. I hope your mom will accept you when you choose to come out. You are valid
Girl don't worry too much. If your mum is knowledgable about LGBT+ stuff, she might sus it out but if she isn't I doubt she'll find out! I've had multiple flags which I've hidden and my mum's seen and I've added the non-binary (and trans) flag into the background of lots of art which I show my mum and friends. None of them suspected a thing and I had to tell them what the flags were once I came out since I wanted to know if they sused me or not (they did, but not because of the flags at all). Long story short, only really LGBT+-phobes/TERFs and LGBT+ people know the flags, and even then not all of them! Don't worry too much. Pass it off as a cute bracelet you like the colours of. And if she notices it's the flag, just say you didn't know (I've seen ppl with pride stuff who were actually cishet so it's not uncommon). Good luck! You'll get through it
@@broski9938 I feel like I'm not very good at hiding how I really am despite how hard I've suppressed everything for the last few years. She usually consults me whenever it comes to cooking and fashion which I'm very much interested in. Not to mention my fashion choice has been inadvertently more androgynous (slightly more feminine) before I ever came to my realization. Heck, she even talks about how nice it would be to have a daughter and it comes across as if she's waiting for me to say something. It probably doesn't help that I hide my sexuality, so I'm just pretty damn sus to anyone. And yes. I do have better knowledge of women's fashion and tend to help with her wardrobe. Which is hilarious for my workplace because I can navigate the women's section, yet I'm blind asf in the men's haha.
@@darkartist9936 It sounds like your mum is cool! Even if you're bad at hiding it, most people seem to assume that you're just a feminine man or a masculine woman instead of full-on trans/enby. And if your vibe-senses are right and she's just waiting for you to say something, that's good too I think, since accepting parent = fab! It's your choice if you want to come out, regardless of whether she knows or not. It's always going to be nerve wracking, unfortunately. And if she does know and is waiting, don't worry bout it! Take all the time you need/want. Good luck
the transmasc experience of looking younger by a few years... that reminded me of one time i got off the bus to go shopping in the middle of the day, and some random lady tapped me on my shoulder, asked me what i was i was doing which i was very confused by, and turns out she thought i was 14 and therefore should've been in school. i was 24 at the time and also had SUPER long hair so i have no idea how she came to that conclusion lmao
Unrelated comment, but I managed to gain the courage to tell my mom that I wanted to change my name to a more gender neutral one and she was really accepting and even offered to try finding a gender therapist for me and I'm so excited!
I have my own story! I'm not out to my father yet {ftm}. I bought a foam insert packer, as I don't have too much dysphoria about that and I didn't want anybody who saw it to think it was something else. My father seen it in my closet and asked what it was. Before I could even think of something else it could be, he asked if it was a mask. I said yes, and we moved on with our days. I still think about how he came to that conclusion out of everything else it could have been.
This is more a fail on my friend's part, but whatever. I'm only out to my close friends at school. ( I'm agender, though I just said I'm nonbinary so as not to confuse them.) We were talking about something( I think gender roles or something, I don't remember) and one of my friends was confused as to why I said something to do with not being a girl ( she wasn't there when I came out) One of my friends piped up and said " Oh, she's nonbinary." She then preceded to stop smiling and said. " Wait, that didn't make sense." I then burst out laughing lol. ( Edit: To clear it up, Agender is under the Nonbinary umbrella. Though nonbinary is a gender and Agender is lack of a gender)
@@we.genuinely.think2882 non binary is an umbrella term for all the gender identities that aren't man or woman. Agender is like genderless, it's like they have ascended from gender.
Isn’t agender under the non-binary umbrella. Like there’s the sexuality and gender. Under the gender umbrella there is the cis and trans umbrellas. Under the trans umbrella there is the binary and non-binary umbrellas. Under binary trans umbrella there are people like trans men and trans women. Under the non-binary umbrella there is agender, genderfluid, demigenders, and more. If I’m wrong feel free to point corrections out. Have a good day fellow valid humans! 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
I had to write a quote in my yearbook and I chose "Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not". So yeah, that's a thing I did. Hope my parents don't read into that too much 😂
I wish I had a story to tell. I was in denial for so long I had convinced myself I was a guy until recently (I'm 23 mtf). Regardless I love your stuff! Keep it up 🥰
"The ladies section is over there" like hello??? I know most people don't think oh this person might be trans but have people never heard of shopping for someone else?????
Cats can be just plain malicious sometimes lol I had a cat who would take used pads out of the trash and underwear out of the hamper when I was a teenager. Very embarrassing, not to mention gross lol
I had one a bit like the penultimate one when I was sort of passing. It was on my birthday too I think, or possible New Year's Eve, but in any case, I go upstairs in a pub to the men's loo, no issues inside, come back out and head back to my table. When up comes a member of staff who had the audacity to let me know where the Ladies' Loo was. Then he started getting all defensive when we told him in the nicest possible way that I was a man, and to piss off. Fortunately he doesn't work there anymore.
omg the shopping for clothes one, I hate that shit because like don't assume why someone is in the section in the first freaking place. I'm NB and once I was shopping with my sister and we were looking at men's shirts to get a present for our brother, and this grumpy old man came up and "This is the MEN'S section!" and my sister didn't know how to respond, so I blurted out "Yeah, we know, we can read," I just guided my sister away from the old man and further into the men's section. Thankfully he didn't follow us.
Agreed. I work in retail myself and I had a teen who was looking for boys boxers and I just only assisted them. I didn't just assume they were looking for girl underwears.
I used to do that at my one cis friend's place, until he politely informed me that I don't need to as he also usually sits to pee. I still get a little nervous using public men's bathrooms, but I just remind myself that if my cis friend can sit, I can too
I have a story: 2 years I ago, I was early into packing, and had only done so with a sock. I was still new to wearing briefs and boxers, and I was in a rush to go to the store and get something, at this point I can't remember what, but it had to do with baking. Anyways, I was booking it down the aisle, and I get to the item, and when I stand up straight again, I feel weird. I don't realise why though, until a girl calls after me. She had my sock, in her hand, and told me it fell out of my pants. I was embarrassed the entire way to the bathroom-
I have a similar story to the boobs on the floor one. It's me and my trans guy friend with my best friend and a bunch of other friends but those are the important ones. We were having a sleep over at my Trans friends house. Most of his family is some form of trans. His mom is cis, his dad is trans, his brother is trans, his sister is trans, and he is trans. It's pretty cool. But majority of them wear packers and leave them around. So we're sitting in my friend's room and all of a sudden we hear a loud crash and my best friends yells "GOD DAMMIT ARRON, PICK YOUR DICK UP OFF THE FLOOR THIS IS THE 4TH TIME IVE TRIPPED!" And then my trans friends mom yells "That's his fathers!" and my best friend just sighs in disappointment at their messiness and it was so funny.
I am a cis woman, femme lesbian and yes, I have bought lately men slim fit trousers because of the pockets AND because the sale price is HALF the price of women trousers. Same cut, same colours.
@Mia Smith i used my brother's jackets when I was in college because the possibility of an hypothetical man was enough to keep creeps away. And I love dresses too, so comfortable to just put one on and you are ready
Thank you for all these wonderful videos! I didn't know much about being transgender before, I just had trans friends and called them what made them happy. These videos have helped me a lot and I'm actually questioning now
“The ladies section is over there.” Okay? Clothes are clothes, people are people. Question for...idk someone: why do clothes have to be gendered? Skirts and dresses aren’t “only for girls” and “boy’s clothes” aren’t only for boys
Depends on body shape a bit. Tried men's shirts, but they tend to be loose where they should be tight, and tight where I need a bit more space. There are some unisex clothes that work, but anything more tailored ends up being a bad fit more often than not. Also sizes... But that's another matter.
I'm not trans but I'm a very masculine looking female. I was walking into a public restroom once and some lady said "you're in the wrong washroom". I normally don't know how to react to this, but this time I nailed it. I responded with "I'm sorry, do you know where the ladies' room is?"
I have a trans fail, my dad and I were hiking and I stood on a rock and said “I’m king of the rock!” my dad kind of looked at me funny and I was like ‘oh shoot’ and he said “King? Don’t you mean Queen?” I was just kind of squeaked out “no” and started walking quickly so my dad didn’t see me mortified at almost outing myself Edit: I’m FtM
You totally are the king of the rock and one day your dad will see that too. I totally get that you were mortified though, nearly accidentally outing yourself is one of the most stressful things
2:30 I just wanna say to anyone else that has the opposite experience, yes you are still a trans man. Since I was maybe 13, strangers have always thought I was way older than I am. I'm tall and fat, and that's not the usual image of the skinny short trans dude, but it's a completely valid way to be trans too. I know people don't mean any harm when they say this, but it can get disheartening to be so completely left out of this 'universal' experience, and I don't want anyone to feel bad about it
I’m ftm and I’ve always passed as male (even before I knew I was trans lol) because Im blessed with a naturally deep voice and more masculine features. one year in elementary school they “mistook” me for a boy at summer camp and I just rolled with it. The whole week I didn’t correct them and everything was going GREAT until one day I had to go to the bathroom during camp hours. I usually don’t because I despise public restrooms but this was an ~emergency~ so I asked to go the bathroom and they told my *male* friend to be my bathroom buddy. I couldn’t back out because I had been doing this all week and so I just went in the men’s rooms with my bro and it was super chill until a PERSON WALKED IN. The summer camp I went to was on public property, next to a lot of museums and shit, so and ADULT MAN WALKED IN TO THE MENS ROOM. While he was washing his hands he attempted to make small talk (not in a creepy way more of a “hey this silence as I wash my hands next to a child makes me feel uneasy lemme just say something”) and I panicked so I yelled “I HAVE TO GO MY FRIEND IS SICK” and sprinted out of the bathroom, and tripped and hit the floor very hard before making it out.
I'm nonbinary(closeted). We're going to have a Thanksgiving party on Thursday and I swear if I accidentally come out in front OF EVERYONE I'm going to cry myself to sleep because most of my family is so against LGBTQ+. 😅
@@Charlie-ue5tb I don't know, people use the bible as an excuse. "It SaYs In ThE bIbLe 'MaN sHaLl NoT sLeEp WiTh BoY'! tHaT mEaNs LgBtQ+ aRe GoInG tO hElL!" Well Karen maybe I want to. I don't wanna deal with your bullshit :D
The being asked about your age when early in a transition is so relatable... I was pushing THIRTY and still got asked for ID when getting beer. When my sister got married, I went to a nice men's clothes shop to get something to wear. The person working there asked me what I was looking for, so I told him maybe a nice shirt, and he went, "But [women's chain shop] is right across the road!" I've not been back to that shop in the almost decade since.
"I was pushing THIRTY and still got asked for ID when getting beer." Some people just look young. I'm a cis woman, and the last time I got asked for ID for alcohol I was nearly 60! (And it wasn't even my beer.)
Hey Jammi, I was with a friend of mine that I had not seen in a few years. We were very close back then, but for some reason my friend was not talking very much and that was not like my friend. Finally I ask if something was wrong, my friend said that I might not want to still be friends after I heard what the problem was, tell me. I am now a girl not a boy. OH, is that all I thought it was something bad.
Once when I was in 5th grade (Before I knew I was Non-binary), I cut my hair really short (wanted to experiment, and I love my short hair) and I was not very popular (had to deal with bullies, they just irritated me but some comments hurt me, but that’s a story for another time) so I walk into my math class and one of my bullies immediately looks and me and says: “Why did you cut your hair short, you Tryna be a boy?!” And laughed. It didn’t hurt but I was offended, not because he called me a boy, but at the fact he was being transphobic (I’m very supportive and a part of the community, even before I knew I was apart of it, I was supportive that was how I have been raised) Sorry if this is hard to read, or hard to understand lol (This is my trans fail) Another story, this happened recently, I had set one of my accounts profile pics to a non-binary flag that said on it: “My pronouns are They/Them/Theirs” and I accidentally set it to my school profile. I had google meets everyday for all my classes and I almost always had my camera off so everyone in the meet could see my profile, and I never realized, until yesterday one of my friends texted me at around 9pm (I was supposed to be sleeping) and she told me she liked my picture, at first I thought she was talking about my school photos (I wore a suit and tie) so I said: “Thank you I’m really proud of it”, she told me she had found it on google and was really proud of me, I was confused and checked my school profile picture, needless to say I was embarrassed and scared (I was not out to my school or my friends) I told her: “Oh...hehe I didn’t know that” and she then asked if I was out to my family and if they supported me, I said yes (they are but won’t let me change anything about myself besides my pronouns, but they still love me) she asked if I had a preferred name I wanted to go by, I was so excited, I had never been asked that before, and I said yes but don’t tell my parents (My preferred name is Storm, but my parents love my not yet dead name and told me never to change my name) and I told her that and I then told her once I was old enough I would start other things (chest binding and T-shots) and she said: “That makes sense, in my opinion, It’s your body your choice, we’re all human”. I almost started crying and I said thank you for being so supportive and her response was the most validating thing to me ever, she replied: “You’re welcome, Storm”, I told her thank you again and she told me that even if others didn’t support me she would always be there for me. I never felt more happy and relieved in my life.
8:55 Approximately a year before I came out, I went to get my hair cut and went into the boys' clothing section for the first time. Since I used to live outside of town and I needed a ride, I was there with my mom. When I tried on a boy's shirt, a saleswoman came over to me and my mom and was like "this is a boy's shirt". I was petrified and didn't know how to react because it felt like I was "busted" but my mom was just like "yeah, we know" and gave me an encouraging smile. Needless to say, when I did come out, she was supportive as hell and I love her so much.
My trans fail? Literally everyone knew I was a guy before I did. Everyone. My sis, my mom, my dad, my brothers, heck even the dog knew. I was the only one who was surprised.
I just got on youtube are recieved this notification, I haven't watched the video yet but I already know it is great. Thank you for always making good content Jammie, your videos make my day. 🤗 💕
MtF story time: I came out just before I turned 32 and in my first month on HRT I went to visit a friend who was moving out of state. Her apartment was mostly packed up and she had 2 other girl friends over and not enough sitting space. After I came into her apartment she opted to sit on the ground and the only other remaining chair was one of those bunjo bungee chairs (look up an image of one). I didn't have much of a wardrobe yet, so I was a bit of a gender expression mess, but I was wearing a skirt and panties that day. So, I opted to sit in the chair, and if you've ever sat in one, you'll probably see where this is going... I was sitting in the chair for a couple minutes until I looked over at my friend next to me only to be met with her clearly embarrassed gaze fixed very much towards my lower end and it immediately dawned on me I was indeed aggressively flashing the entire room. My face probably looked liked I'd had an instant sunburn as whatever dignity I had keeled over dead. I got up from the chair and sat on the floor while making some comment about the chair "not working out." I've never been so embarrassed in my life and just wanted to curl up in a ball and forget that day ever existed. Damn you bungee chairs!
A few days after I came out to my family me and my mum went to get clothes(which was so much easier than shopping from the female shopping which made me happy as I struggled shopping for clothes alot before) we went into the shop and I found some clothes I like so I went to the changing room guy and he directed us to the men's changing rooms which I was happy about but then my mum left to look at more clothes and when I came out I ended up having to talk to the guy and I deepened my voice because I was so worried he would think that I am female and be angry for not going to the female changing room. My legs were literally shaking. But now I have gotten more comfortable around that sort of stuff
One of my best friends is ftm and he recently came out to his grandfather and was super nervous but his grandfather just said "FINALLY I CAN STOP DROPPING HINTS" and hasn't slipped up once on name or pronouns
Dude, I'm a cis girl and I sometimes browse the men's section. They have the best warm cozy oversized sweaters and zip-up hoodies with actual pockets that are big enough lol
I actually have a story: So it was a week or so before my brother's birthday when I was like 8 and he was turning 5. I was in the 'boy toys' section when I was looking at toy cars with my mum. Then a lady that worked there came up to me and said, "That's for boys, sweetie!". I was annoyed that she felt the need to say that to me, and I'm the type of person that dwells on things that annoy me for ages, so I didn't say anything. Then my mum just looked her in the eyes and said, "They're for her brother." The lady looked embarrassed and just said "Oh" and walked away. Whenever I need a laugh I just think of that lady and her stupid need for gener roles, that she didn't even need to stress in that moment. Gets me every time.
2:25 I remember my id being checked when buying energy drinks. There's no official age limit over here, but some stores check if you're over 14. I am 27.
Lmao so I was at a pond with a few of my mom’s photography friends and me and my brother were taking pictures and me were play fighting and hitting each other for no specific reason (or maybe we did but I forgot-) and then one gay came over and said “you guys really are brothers” and he said it even after my mom used “she” for me. Also another person thought we were 2 boys before it got ruined :’) (Also I just experienced the situation where you need to say your dead name to someone while introducing yourself 😂😭)
hello Baby gender fluid here Hi I am having a energetic kinda girlish potato day. (Potato days are when I feel like no gender, therefore a potato) So yeah byeeeeee
I’ve come out to all my friends through text during quarantine, and one of them constantly called me girl as in “hey girl”. When I came out to her as non-binary, she said “ok girl you do you. Child. Person. Uhh...” 😂 we figured it out and now she calls me dude but that’s the funniest reaction I’ve gotten.
Probably a bit of an old video to say this on, but I've been binging these all day to carry me through the depression I'm in. So... thanks. I'm too low at the moment to actually laugh, but the joy in your videos can get me to the next task or at least through the next 10 minutes.
One of my biggest fears is that my mum (I don't even live with her, but she regularly comes to visit me) opens my bathroom cabinet and finds my packer or worse, my stp (which I never use because I failed everytime I practiced). She knows that I'm trans but it's really hard to talk to her about body dysphoria related issues. Also, the first few days after I started packing, I constantly feared that my packer would accidently drop out of my underwear while I was walking.
That story about clothes shopping reminded me of the time I went shopping for a shirt in the men's section with my partner. I'm transmasc and for my cousin's wedding, I wanted to wear something I actually felt comfortable in. We probably looked very lost because I was very nervous, and I am very much aware of the fact that people will probably read me as female because of my body shape, but then this worker came up to us and he basically told us, "well here are some classic shirts, there are some more colourful ones over there, oh and I think you're a size L", and it felt _so good and validating._ This guy just didn't question why we were there (or he could tell I am trans), and I felt and looked amazing in the shirt we bought.
I'm ftm and I came out to my whole family recently. One day I was with my twin sister (who I came out to months before everyone else) and one of my bigger sisters. We were having our usual conversation about random things when she dead named and miss gendered me. She realised what she did and felt so bad that she cried and started apologising over and over again. While my twin and I were just sitting there like "girl chill". I couldn't stop laughing.
I’ve learned so much about FTM transitions because a few of my friends have come out as trans so I wanna do my best to support them so I’m glad I found your channel :3
In my English Class today, we were sharing things we are thankful for. Nobody knew anyone else’s answer, so someone said they came out to their parents are gender non-comforming. I just thought I’d share because I’m happy for them.
