Receiving Singleness as a Gift | Sam Allberry 

If he knows then why is not talking about how difficult singleness is, but can talk about how difficult marriage is? Why are married people’s pain validated, but single people’s is belittled so that it looks like they’re complaining about nothing. Easy to say that singleness doesn’t make you incomplete and that your experience isn’t less than married people - but then your pain is not even acknowledged. Yet married people’s troubles are even though this is about *single* people. Married people get the validation in sermons about singleness as well as sermons about marriage. And single people are basically told to get over their pain and unmet desire. Whilst sermons about marriage are all about celebrating marriage. Sermons about singleness is just to remind them their gift is to work. That is not the same experience, one is about joy in a spouse AND God. And the other, singleness, is about serving others, but while doing so, being treated like a child who must be happy with a gift they didn’t want. Having your desires unmet but treated like they’re not important. Yet those same desires are important for married people. Completely unfair.

Exactly, single people are almost ALWAYS forced to see singleness as a gift and are put off marriage. Does the Church respect single people though? Does it celebrate them and acknowledge THEIR service. No. They do that for married people while ignoring the contribution of single people and treating them like children who don’t deserve marriage. Singles are ALLOWED to want marriage but their constantly made to feel like they’re not good enough for it. Or singleness is compared to marriage (even though we’re not supposed to compare but it’s okay when married people do it to say they have harder lives) as if singleness is better. But yet, the Church and married people celebrate marriage and talk about its joys, so single people aren’t allowed to want that and see it as a blessing that they TOO can have, they’re supposed to be so grateful for singleness that they don’t want marriage. That’s ain’t something that marriage people had to prove. But singles must chose lifelong singleness even though God doesn’t expect that of them

@ Jenny, I will pray for you. You might want to reread your post, or better yet, have someone else read it back to you and give you honest feedback. A sister from my church, who went to be with the LORD a couple of years ago, would say, "The only thing worse than being single is being married and wishing that you were." It seems you assume a lot about married couples. The grass is always greener when you're not the one who has to mow it and pull out the weeds and rake the leaves. I've seen some genuinely happy marriages between Christians. But I've also seen ones where you can feel the tension and stress. You might want to consider who you're ACTUALLY complaining against. Who are you ACTUALLY unhappy with?

Read the Bible, brother. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. There you will find the answer :) God Bless you

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