Singleness is a Gift from God - Save The Date #3 | Jonathan Pokluda 

31, single, serving God, and loving every minute of it. Never married, no children, and I'm not looking to change that. I can live my dreams and use God's gifts to the glory of God without distraction. Thank you for this message.

I wish more pastors demonstrated this by having the gift of singleness themselves.

Good points: 1. Heal from past sins, habitual sins. 2. Grow up, learn how to live, & love. 3. Serve. 4. Be discipled. 5. Discipline someone.

If singleness is a gift I want that receipt.

Being single is better than to have unsuitable partner

I was single till 40 and now as a widow I am single again. This message is so needed for singles of all ages 15 to 94!

As one who is over 40 never married singleness is a status that your born with. It has its advantages at times. But really it makes me laugh when a marrried person talk about singleness is a gift. Then why did you through your gift away??? Most of the time i enjoy my singleness i realize this is not for most people.

I dont want to sound unchristian or ungenerous, but I am going to be real. In this video, he mentions how he needs a buddy to run to the store because the other married people are too busy or too preoccupied. While I know people have appreciated my availability as a single, and while I dont renounce my service to my friends in time of need, and while I know the Lord has and will reward me...the fact remains that while married people may appreciate single people and their availability, there is a tendency to not respect them. Did that single guy not have his own things to do? Did he not have his own laundry to do? Did someone cook his food for him and wash his dishes? Did someone iron his clothes for him? Where did that single guy get all that extra energy that married people supposedly dont have? You see, it's a tendency to think single people or single Christians are just glorified losers who dont have their own schedules and chores and responsibilities...but they do and theres no one one to ever help them out. If you're married and you call upon the services of single people, just realize when the time comes whether you would return the favor or whether you would think it was beneath you to help out a single Christian brother or buddy. Just make sure you're respecting people and not just "appreciating" them.

Let me guess he got married at 25. Those that got married at or before 25 can’t say singleness is a gift since they are more blessed to marry young

30. Single since birth. Waiting on God and thanking Him for saving me from multiple heartaches. I am glad I was able to hear this message this 2022. Pursuing an intimate relationship with Jesus, the only man who completes me. Binge watching these relationship videos than watching korean dramas on Netflix.

I broke up with my ex because there were soooooo many issues between us separately that was affecting us being together! Our personal dysfunction was LOUD!! My issues were being thrown in my face and I was becoming more self aware of my own unhealthy habits! He had his own but It wasnt my job to fix him!! In the beginning tho, I thought I could fix him! He showed me just how broken I was! So much so, I didnt like who I was anymore! I chose to be single because I was tired of repeating the same mistakes! Tired of shutting down, tired of the abandonment issues, tired of holding on to a marcisstic mother and an absent father, tired of giving so much of myself just to be /feel loved, tired of seeking validation from others, tired of wanting to be rescued from my independence, just tired!!! But I've been feeling a nudging ! Being awakened whenever I'm off work around 12 am and 2 am!! God is trying to get my attention!! I'm here and I'm seeking! I'm actually content being single! I've been chasing for and conforming to love my whole life! I am enough, just being me!!! I just need for God to show me who I am and what I'm supposed to be doing for him!!

this touched me...thank you. im 44 and lonely. and want a husband but i must be obedient in my singleness. no more casual sex because im burning. im cutting it off....and healing. i love the Lord. Jesus first❤

As much as Christians will say singleness is a gift, very few churches allow singles in their pulpit as pastors, conference speakers, Bible teachers, etc.

I think he forgot what it was like to be single

Thank you Lord for this gift ! I know a person will not satisfy me. God, you alone make me complete and whole. I will be devoted to you Jesus. Lead me Holy Spirit.

I think people don't really understand marriage. It's a lie to say that God will only bring you someone when your are spiritually ready. The bible speaks of no such thing. The way christian today view marriage is heavily influenced by their worldview. Marriage is a covenant, a mean to sanctification. It allows you to see yourself for who you are and thrive to become better. your spouse is your mirror. The man should mirror Christ while the woman should mirror the church. Marriage is just an image of the things to come when we become one with Christ. Best way for a woman to know whom she should marry is to know if her future husband mirror Christ, and one way for the man to know whom he should marry is to know if the woman in question is a truly follower of Christ. Marriage is not a destination but a condition. Singleness is not a season but a status. Singleness is not a gift either if you are meant to marry. We often confuse the gift of singleness ( no desire for relationship) to singleness as a temporary state.

i think many are misunderstanding what he meant as well as what Paul meant by a gift to being single. i am a witness to what he was saying is very true. fact one. when two ppl are married we do in fact focus on how to please our mate rather God. we will fall into many distractions. this is why paul said marriage is hard work. but to be single you have the gift of being able to accomplish what it is that you set out to do. especially if you are truly trying to be a servant of the Lord. the gift is that you can focus on that purpose. the body tells us that we are in need of someone. but God says that some can actually be single and not have the desires of the flesh. THAT IS THE GIFT....the flesh tells us that we are in need of things to please the flesh...but the Gift of God gives us the strength to be able to serve Him according to His will and our purpose. but to all who just have to feed the flesh with the desires of the heart....IT IS BETTER TO MARRY THEN TO BURN WITH LUST. some ppl can in fact go theough life single. God gives everyone a gift. its up to us to use it all while giving complete glory to Him. some ppl arent ready to be married. they idea is present but the WIFE/HUSBAND isnt. think about this. does everyone have the ability to carry the title HISBAND/WIFE material? so as he said during that time of singleness. some may need to do some repairs to themselves before a spouse will come. just my thoughts

No its not a gift its an affliction. Like its always married pastors who have been in ministry in the same place their entire lives being comfortable who have never made any real sacrifices telling people its a gift. You're married, you go be the missionary in China, you go do those things, i dont want to have to deny more and sacrifice more because other people aren't willing to.

So thankful a friend shared this video with me. This is SUCH a good message for singles!! Totally changes my perspective on singleness. I have new vision now of how I can/should be spending my time!

I'm single, and I realized it was a gift when my bestfriend told me : "If you were married with kids, you'd have zero time to ask yourself all those existencial questions!" I guess that's true. Now I am 40 and want to go back to studies. I feel lucky I can do what I want to do : have time to debate over existencial questions and eventually make it a living.

All the above plus the way the church deals with singleness. The leadership in many churches bang on about the merits of being married. Im in my sixties and have been born again some 24 years. Been the son of a multimillionaire. From riches to rags, sleeping rough on the streets. People say seek first the kingdom but I do every day and have seen thousands healed and saved. People say that I am the model Christian but I'm still alone and never married.

got my attention the funny video... I'm a single mother for 17 years...I learn now to be happy with my self ..and of course my sweet Jesus... the Lord had showing me miracles after miracles.. he is sooooooooo faithful..aleluya ..he is crazy about me and I'm crazy about him.aleluya thank you father....

Parenthood is a great ministry. A new one. When I became a parent I entered a different world. It is awesome having a new person dependent on me.

I typed in christian and single for encouragement and this came up. Thank you so much. It is definitely changing my perspective on singleness. This guy has a gift in the area off teaching about singleness. Thank God for him. I would have been one of tose people who complained about married men teaching about singleness but thank you so vvery much you have had a massive impact and helped me concentarte on how I can glorify God and truly see singleness as a gift instead of something very sorrowful. God bless you.

I loved everything about this message thank you 🙌🏽

This has by far been the most beneficial message on singleness, marriage and sex I have ever heard in my 22 years in the church. Thank you 🙏🏼

Thank you. This is the most inspirational sermon I've heard on singleness so far. It's helped to lift my head.

I am still trying to figure out God's purpose of having me on earth... I do know there's something I need to do but not sure what yet

It took me years to love my God and my life; June 20th would have been my 49th wedding anniversar. Unfortunatly my husband was killed by a drunken driver who was never found. To many it seemed terrible that the person did not have to face the consequences of his actions, call me crasie but I had more important and immediate concerns. First I had to find a place to live before my baby was boren, you see I was over 8 months pregnant when my husband was buried. Once again my Dear God was there for me, He picked me up and carried me in His loving arms for years and years as He had several times prior. My son was boren in December, 1970, the greatest gift I ever received, the Lord God took care of us in every way to this day. Amen I love God. Eva

We are not single or married forever; we are single or married for today. Our lives can turn on a dime, and by faith we believe that it’s God who is guiding us. Our job is to be grateful and praise Him in whatever circumstance we find ourselves. Is this right?

If singleness is a gift from God, can I ask for a refund?

I wish the pastor could address the single parent. Obviously I’m not a Virgin. Have two children with an ungodly man. He abandoned us. I owned my mistake and sin and accept all consequences. I’m taking care of my two children 100% alone but I’m doing it. Bought my kids a house I’m going to church as much as possible and studying the Bible. I am celibate and single but singleness doesn’t feel like a gift when you’re raising kids alone. It’s brutally hard and lonely and painful. I also don’t want to accept singleness because I want my children to grow up with a father figure and they don’t have one currently. I live far away from any family too. So I wish JP could address the single parents and give us hope that although singleness is a gift according to Paul’s words I am not feeling like it is other than yes I am developing a relationship with my creator. I can’t get up and go on a mission trip either so how am I benefiting or wasting my singleness as mentioned? I am serving in my ministry both in and out of the church. But I feel like I have drawn the short stick here.

Before God made Eve. Adam was alone and learn in his singleness how to be in God's presence. we need to learn from Adam's singleness ,that before God created Eve , Adam learn how to be with GOD first not knowing that God was going to give him Eve. if we don't know how to work in our relationship with Christ while we're single, what make you believe is going to be different when we get married?? Even when you get married you'll still have to set time apart from your spouse to go to Christ; because the first relationship you should focus on is the one with the Father through his son so you know how to be the Husband/Wife God wants you to became. So singleness is the most important thing for all of us to have because it's when we find the only relationship that we will have for eternity Jesus Christ and after that is marriage.

This is so related to me, I am asian and what he said so true in eastern culture of marriage.

Got lucky with the roommate part, 2 & 1/2 years, never had a fight or argument. Love that guy dearly.

Lastly, you can count on one hand how many pastors preach on this subject! Usually once a year but the virtues of being married. Every Sunday! Did enjoy for the most part this message. But it would have been better if it had had been a married pastor who preached it, had got married much later in life!

I'm completely supportive of people wanting to be single if that is indeed what they want. However, the woman writing THIS comment is tired of being single and would like an exclusive romantic partner. If singleness is such a gift, why was it looked down on in Jewish culture? People talk about the possibility that Jeptha's daughter might have been perpetually single, since her father promised to sacrifice the first thing that walk out of the house to G-d. But, if you look in the Jewish scriptures, no one had any encouraging words to say about being single -- even Jeremiah had to take a deep breath. Jeremiah had to keep on being a prophet when G-d told him to be single. Why? Because Jeremiah' life was to be a mirror of what G-d was experiencing with Israel deserting G-d to love some other god. If singleness is such a gift, why was Jesus single, knowing that rabbis were married? When the disciples said to Him, "Your mother and brothers are here to see you..." they were staging an intervention, not paying a visit. They thought he was, as the Queen song says "...going slightly mad...) Also, maybe Paul's wife left him after he became his encounter with Jesus. Paul was a Pharisee, and they were required to be married. Paul thought Jesus might return within his lifetime, that's why he tells people they shouldn't marry. I think Christians today are ignoring the stats -- half of Americans of marriageable age are not married, many are lonely, men don't know how to court women anymore, unmarried women are having 2, 3, and 4 kids and struggling as single moms, many women have stopped waiting for Mr. Right. There are more women than men in college, they are getting their degrees and their careers and buying houses and condos.....and in the meantime, the churches have nothing of depth and value to say to single people.

Single and loving it.

he has risen! rejoice ✨

Stop saying singleness is gift from God. Its careless and thoughtless. What's next? saying God wont allow you to marry now that you've got the gift? Most single people want to be married. Is every married person just a person who rejected the gift of singleness they once had until they got married? Are non Christian singles gifted by God too? Just tell people to be content and realize they may never get married because that's just life.

This is so great! God bless my singleness until the season is over in Jesus loving name amen!

Wow! Such a powerful message. I’m grateful to have come across this message in my season of singleness. Thank you JP! 🙏🏼😊❤️

why is it these married pastors say its ok to be lonely uuuummm thats ok for u guys u might of one time been in our situation but have u guys been single for 30yrs nearly..........i think not.........im a woman and i,d love to be married to share enjoy be busy with each other an other ppl enjoying Christ together its a conceious thing to want to be alone or married u guys have no idea what its like to be single for foreeeeevvvveeerrr thats what it feels like to me and u guys stand up an say oh maybe God wants u single...well what if its in your heart u dont wanna be single try an think before u preach or talk about a subject thats not really near to your married heart.............think about it..........some pastors suffer from foot in mouth disease!!!!!!

These very passionate about someone else’s singleness pastors are are always the worst to listen to, they tend to have no empathy or understanding of the problems a single person will suffer in life if they have no desire to be single. This type of pastor thinks he can convince you to like never being married or having a family but they are mistaken. If you like it you like it if you don’t you don’t that’s just the way it is, his passion for me being single and celibate does me no good In fact I find it irritating , hurtful and unhelpful.

I am single on purpose and love it. I told God until I get I get marry. I want live my life fullest for Jesus. Live my purposes and gift for Jesus also.

Thank you so much for the great message!!!

So grateful for anointed pastors like this!!

I like .. “don’t find someone who is a distraction to your ministry, find someone who is an asset to your ministry..” definitely going to listen to this again. Thanks

God put us here to bring him glory . And I think that can be done with or without a partner. Maybe you'll marry maybe you won't. Either way,God gets the glory ...

Wow?!?! Who's gna help u fulfill ur purpose...that's great!!!🙏🤙

See I’m 28 no kids never married but I have to be honest for myself I would have a desire to have a Godly marriage and children

If it's a gift, why do I long for a husband?

i still dont understand this.

Powerful! I love this!

I just feel so disrespected as a single woman in the church and I don't feel fulfillment in the church any more. I am tired of "Jezabel" preaching, the slut shaming of our young girls and women "protecting" their husbands from me. (I don't have that spirit, I really don't care about their husbands. LOL ) I am tired of being invisible and ignored and not fitting in. I am tired of being told my only gift to the church could be of a "prayer warrior", cook, cleaner, or child teacher. When these are not my gifts or talents. I am respected as an intelligent, educated professional in the secular world. In the church, I am regarded as ignorant and/ or suspect because I am single. I don't fit. I am so tired of the sexism in church. I have been faithful all my life, raised 3 children in church as a single parent. My children are grown and successful, my son is even in the ministry. I have always paid my tithes and attended 3 times a week. But I am at a point that I just can't stomach church any more. I still love God. I still pray, but I am no longer attending church. I think the breaking point was probably when my former pastor was talking about how Donald Trump was God's man right about the time that his sexist comments about grabbing women were all over the news. I think I am happier not having fellowship with married people that believe that spousal abuse is acceptable, and that women are second class citizens and that the role of single women in the church is that of charity cases and not that of real, whole, complete human beings with something to offer. I am finding myself more happy keeping my money and not wasting hours of my life listening to the same teachings that I can parrot back to the speaker over and over again. It is like sitting in a kinder garden class as an adult. I don't feel my gifts and talents are acceptable in the church. I would rather give my tithes to the poor or abused women who are escaping abusive marriages. I don't know where my ministry lies, or what my future holds, but I currently cannot stomach church. I don't want to be obedient anymore to people who do not have my best interest at heart. I think I am happier not attending church. I didn't think I would be, but I am. I spent over 25 years investing in churches but I don't find fulfillment there anymore. I'm in my 50's and I kind of regret all of the time I spent in church. Much of it was wasted time, and it often caused spiritual harm to me. Sexism is very hurtful. Who knows, I may return at some point, but for now, I'm OK with taking a break and contemplating life without church.

By far, this is the best sermon I heard on singleness. May the Lord bless pastor Jonathan and continue using him to minister the Gospel the broken and lost. I do not understand the negative comments. Singleness is a gift when we Jesus is our ultimate goal in life. I think single people will appreciate singleness when they focus on the Lord, subdue the desires of the flesh and seek to please God before anything else. Falling in love with Jesus help us focus on serving the Lord and expanding His kingdom without wasting our thoughts on changing our marital status. Only then, the Lord will take us to a different season of family if it is according to His will!

The nice thing to have seen in the 3 reasons of why someone should get married would have been to see a reason regarding the passions for marriage. Paul talks about that being one of the MAIN reasons. He says that if you can control that, then get married. Would have made sense if it was on that list somewhere. Maybe worded different, nonetheless still on there or some attention brought to it.

Taking it all in... this was good insight. I've been telling myself singleness is a blessing, and when people ask I say I'm content.. but I've never really sat to ask God, why is it a blessing ... what is it about singleness, what happens in this season .. thank you, blessings

What was that intro?? Two guys laying together with a blanket?

Thank you so much for this message!!!!!

These short clips in the beginning. Hahaha!! I love them!

it may be a gift but it feels like a curse

intro was hilarious

Can someone who does not have the gift of singleness and desires to be married nevertheless spend their entire life single because they were unable to bond successfully with a spouse? I think this happens a lot more than we know.

Why am I greeted by two guys in bed together? That does not encourage me to listen to the video. What does it teach me about being single?

I dont want singleness

liked the video in the first 4 minutes lol

What does God say about being an incel? What advice can God give incels like myself?

Great Sermon!!

Are these guys brothers?

how about those men and women who died single?

I am not married but already have a step son and my little boy with this woman and we have been together for 7 years. Do you still think I am single?

This is good!

Is there anyway I can get sermon notes on this? I loved it but it is just so much.

I'm 40 years old and lost patience on God and his best for my life. He will never give me a wife and family b/c God shows too much favortism towards christian singles. I'll be getting old and lonely the rest of my life. It's over for me.

Jesus loves you btw

The thing is no one wants me. I am not attractive.

.if you it's so great then you can be single. AND I CAN SEE YOU ARE NOT.!!!!!! SPOUSE LUCKY YOU.

If you want to give your life entirely to God in devotion, ask God to give you the gift of singleness.

God, i would like a refund for the gift, thanks but no thanks!

Then is not, Paul saying only sex craved people should have children. And those who have self control to not have children? Or for both not to have children because one could serve God.

marriage is only for you not to burn in hell for all eternity, You will not be married in heaven if u get to be chosen by God to live there. God would rather u stay single but if u can't control yourselves then marry but it will be very difficult to serve God and your husband. So be careful whom u marry and attach your soul to

If you dont like being single then maybe Gods plan for you is marriage eventually....but he is teaching you to learn to enjoy life while you wait.My cousin sister got married at the age of 50 so dont lose hope n faith in God.Sometimes God is keeping you from having bad marriage so he is making you wait while your friends rush into a marriage that ends in a divorce or unhappiness

As a 36 year old single guy. I got to the point of what do women have to offer a man besides sex? If you can’t get a partnership companionship what else can she give you? I’m single enjoying life I can buy things I wanna buy without asking for permission. I been that nice guy but ended up in a friendzone how are you friends if you don’t communicate hang out together?

Why would singleness be a gift from God when there are many of us that don't want to grow very old all alone by ourselves? This world would've never grown in population at all today if men and women never married each other at all.

so funny

gift? I am sorry I am not buying that line even if paul says it. but paul is biased. I still want the gift of marriage and child. I would be a great mom. my sister has a husband and 4th kids. she is genuinely happy and fulfilled. I want the same thing

If singleness is such a "gift" why does God say "it is not good for man to be alone"? The whole singleness is a "gift" thing is something married people say to make singles feel better.

I point out not all singles are gping to do things like jesus mother Teresa ect for one reason or anpther. god also says not good for people to alone. sexual desire is one of tge most basic desires we inherently have. we have a desire to pass on our genes and procreate. in other words it is normal to hae sexual desires. you have that desire for marriage sex kids then pursue it. I assurec youv100 percent I wil never wish for singleness, just as my sister never would want to do that.

Why are those dudes so close

Why would pastors or church leaders be ...sleeping outside in the cold? I’ve never been to this church and I don’t know what’s up, but the crazy intro is a little concerning...

This was a great message. However, I wish sermons on the gift of singleness would not focus so much on international missions. There are plenty of needs to be met in your local community. Not to mention some single people are literally not capable of traveling, due to disability, chronic illness and many other legitimate concerns. These are not excuses, they are reality. If you are single and have a condition that prevents you from traveling, do not be discouraged. God can and will use you were you are. You may be just where He needs you to be.

A relationship with Jesus is the best relationship anyone can have and it's a relationship that will never ever let you down.

Solomon said that there is time for everything. When your 30 and it’s time to have family and kids, singleness is not a gift. This whole logic that singleness is a gift is flawed, and deceiving. The verses that you taking this from do not say such a thing. This whole American concept of “singleness is a gift” came from an effort to justify and comfort the modern phenomenon of adolescents. The core of this whole situation is not that there is a lot of humble Christians can’t get married because God has been so generous recently that he is giving majority a “great gift of singleness” but because like bible said recently majority of people became selfish, egoistic, narcissistic, self serving, greedy and proud. Show me kind, humble, loving, generous, sacrificial person, I bet he/she doesn’t have “gift of singleness” already. It’s amazing how small deceit can trash the whole great sermon, and instead of building people up, completely deceive them and make them accept the false understanding. Brothers and Sisters read your own bible so you won’t be deceived but live by truth.

Why are 2 guys lying in bed together and talking about God? I don't care if you were brothers/friends but this is the turned off first impression for me to go on and listen to you!

Your born single & you die single i.e its the default! The rest that happens in between is ultimately up to God. You can't be given something you already have. Singleness isn't a gift its a state. Marraiage is a gift - good or bad (preferably good) if given to you by God. I'm pushing 50 now and only just realised im still single (and started to wonder why!).

Lets analyze this: The video starts off with two guys under a blanket, cuddled up. Then as they start to talk about interest in dating women they get blasted with a horn-Negative reinforcement. This is just a propaganda video to pacify discontented, single men and women in a Church that has fully embraced feminism/homosexuality. Only watch this to educate your self on the nature of Christian feminism.

This verse is bullshit! Singleness only brings loneliness, depression and yes, envy about others. If singleness is a gift, why am I the one paying for it with those things? If singleness is gift, what is the return policy?

Marriage IS expensive!! It’s only for the wealthy. At least in America it is, but I still think it’s an incredibly destructive lie to call Singleness “a gift”. It takes Paul completely out of context. It’s the ability to be celibate. Your relationship status is not a “gift”. Perpetuating that lie only makes people resentful toward God. On a personal note, those “Christmas Parties” are shameful, and they’ll give an account for that utter foolishness, wasting thousands of church dollars.

i dont go to church as a single woman the women get jelous of you im no oil painting either but and the pastor eyes u off its disgusting i wanna go to meet another christian man i stopped going and u get nagged about how u should be do this do that watch what u say to that person its offensive while everybody in church is a family i feel like a fish out of water i just stay home read my Word pray pray pray an trust God will fill my lonely life im still lonely im miserable i wish God would take me home some days its just how u feel i cant get married again til my husband dies hes been married to the same woman for 30 yrs it sucks i tell u now i know how a monk or a nun feels wish this world would hurry up an end!