I don't know when this was produced but it is now july of 2022. Last year my daughter after some research informed my that I was adopred , and the kicker is I as 86 years old and the person I called mother was acually my grandmother. She took me from my birth mother at three weeks of age from a halfway house for unwed mothers. It turns out that my father was her firstborn from a previous marrage and I was always led to believe he was my half-brother. I had another brother and two sisters, or so I thought but where really my uncle and aunts and my father was my grandfather by marrage. I have since discovered I have a half-brother from my bith mother's real marrage, he is 10 years my junior. I could go on but it reads like a bad soap opera .Try processing that at 87 . I lost my dear wife in 2020 after an 68 year of relationship and was run over by a car in 2005 and I won't go into how that's affected my life, my doctor thinks I should write a book but what reasonable publisher would publish it . I can't imagine many people will believe this but I swear to God , it's the truth.
I thank you for your story, and I believe every single word. It's not an uncommon story that you have told, yet until we unravel our own histories these twists and turns can seem rather unique. Sadly, these takes of secrets kept and unearthed are all too common. I'm glad for you, and even more so for me, because in reading your words I now feel less alone. I thank you for that. I made this episode quite a while back, and I'm grateful you have found it and it seems to have spoken to you.
Thanks for saying this, Ernest! And I really think that's why The Primal Wound is so important. Simply making us not feel so alone and isolated is HUGE, and Nancy deserves a tribute for that alone.
Excited to see this! I'm meeting my birth mother next month for the first time after finding her earlier this year, having searched for decades. Have read the Primal Wound and am reading her follow-up, Coming Home to Self.
Great job Rebecca and Kevin! Looking forward to the film's debut and seeing Rebecca on the upcoming August 24th Adoption: The Making of Me podcast along with Nancy Verrier. Love your interviews, Kevin.
Rebecca, your story is amazing, what a great story about you and your birth mother being able to spend time together before giving birth to your own child. Can’t wait to see your film 😊
@@RWTPW Thank you so much. Healing for me is an on-going progress, I acknowledge that I have days that will be harder than others, ie: Birthdays and Mothers' Day. I enjoy listening to adoptees and their stories. As a birth mother, I find healing in knowing that I can listen. My therapist is a wonderful Adoptive Mother, who supports all types of people in adoption related issues. I really hope to see your movie soon, I haven't read the Primal Wound, but have watched lots of video featuring Nancy. I'm reading right now, Joe Soll book on healing for Birth Mothers. A few months ago I finished the Adoption Healing for Adoptees. I have to take one thing at a time or I get overwhelmed. Keep smiling and keep going :).
So grateful I ran across this conversation today. And thankful you used the correct and appropriate words. I related so much this conversation. I recently started therapy and have ordered the book. So much of my ptsd is wrapped up in my early history, and it’s encouraging to know I’m not alone.
#Ourfilm!!!! I love it! That is the truth! This is our reality that only we can truly comprehend and understand within ourselves at the end of the day. Its a part of us and I think we of course desire to have even an ounce of a sense of acceptance in being able to feel the way that we do and not feel ashamed in the outer world. I've internalized a million feelings my entire life around this. I think in my new found journey in reaching out for more information just online I have found an instant relatability and connection to other adoptees that has been very therapeutic. I have yet to read these books which I'm looking forward to getting as well as watching the film. I think to be able to feel that it's okay to feel the way that we do but struggle with is so important in not feeling alone. I would like to join a support group with other adoptees because I feel like having a safe place and being able to feel like your voice and feelings around all of this matters is critical. This is a very real and raw part of us that I think we just need to have the freedom to be able to express our thoughts and emotions period. I don't want to feel like there's some kind of magical recovery, to me that diminish's our experiences as humans. I think we are in all reality some of the most incredibly strong and most caring, understanding, compassionate and creative people. We know what loss is at the very core of our being. It's beyond logical its biological and I know personally I'll always yearn for that missing part of my heart and as painful as it is I want to be able feel like its not my fault and that my feelings are real. I'm tired of pretending for other peoples sake its not fair even though they are ignorant to what it feels like to have part of you striped away.
How long will you try to get a Netflix deal before you release the film in another way? It’s a very important topic. The documentary needs to be “out there.”
When I read The Primal Wound it said things that I had always felt but never said out loud. I felt like a part of my adopted family yet still somehow outside of it. Like an alien. As a voice actor I am always interested in documentaries, but I am personally looking forward to this one.
