Years ago I used to watch my buddy fix cars after work and we would talk about everything from goofball silliness to life and death... he passed 20+ years ago... never had another friend like him again... I miss him more than I care to think about. Thanks for bringing him back to me for 14 minutes.
Powerful talk buff dad. I'm still relatively young but have been reflecting more on life and the loss to come. I think I'll take your advice and tell the people close to me how much I appreciate and love them.
I'd like to shake your hand Duke. Thanks for sharing this. It made me think about my dad who I lost in January. We didn't have a great relationship for most of my life but it did get better before I lost him, and I'm thankful for that.
+Scott Sweet thanks Scott, I'm sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm glad your relationship improved, that helps a lot. I know what you mean about not having that close relationship, I remember telling myself as a young man if I ever had kids I would try and have a great relationship with them. I'm happy that my sons and I are best friends. Thanks again.
I lost my brother who was a year and a half younger than me in 1998 to drug addiction. He never made it to thirty. He was determined to destroy himself. It didn't really shock anyone, but that didn't take the sadness away. I still think about him some thirty plus years later. A lot of my friends and coworkers think I'm dull or just old. I don't use drugs, hardly drink. I workout, take care of my autistic son, work and play video games. I don't really expect them to understand or preach to them. I see my nieces and nephews coming of age and heading down the same path. It saddens me. I'll be here when they need me, but everyone makes their own choices
I know i kinda arrived late since the video is about 4 years old but i just watched all of it and all i can say and do is remind you that you are an awesome person! Stay buff and stay safe from Greece!
Thanks for sharing duke. Just found ur channel u raised some good kids and ur videos have helped a ton during the virus in building my own weights. Also getting into late 20s and starting to realize how much I've taken parents for granted up till now as they've gotten older. Thanks for all the advice!
You're a great dude. You had me feeling all reflective and on the sad side of life and then the bit about you blowing the secret gift card to your wife had me in hysterics. That was great. Thanks for all the content.
Thankyou, you're way ahead of your time. I always regret not spending time with older people when I was young. I would have so many questions for them and now I have the answers but it took way longer with a lot of mistakes in between.
Really nice. I've lost my dad when I was 1 year old and it's been really tough growing up without one. Now I'm 24. You just remember me of him. I'd really like to know you in person, I think you are a great man, father, and husband. Thanks for sharing.
In 2014 I lost my Dad very suddenly, he was only 66. This video hit me hard...now I make every day count with my 5 kids. Time does go by very quickly, make every day special.
Hey Duke, I really appreciate the words. I lost my pops when I was in Highschool. You remind me a lot of him, he was a handy man like yourself, learning stuff from you helps me carry on that legacy a little bit. Kind regards.
+3zeekiel so sorry for your loss, I wonder sometimes how we're able to handle such pain. Thank you for your comment. I think it helps talking and sharing about such a tremendous loss.
Enjoyed this reflection. I'm your same age and live in the Pacific Northwest. Your insight about death and dying is refreshing. I worked in a hospital for four decades. As a nurse, I experienced second hand about your first hand experiences and how you describe losing your brother and parents. I've seen it thousands of times and I can say that your perspective is healthy and on target. The depth of your caring illustrates your love and respect for family. Well done.
Hey man, lots of respect for sharing very emotional experiences. I feel the same way when the weather is neither cold or hot; just plain, you start thinking too much and get negative. By the way you are looking solid, dont look 60 at all must be all the buff dude work :D Thanks for sharing
Happy Thanksgiving. I lost 3 family members all within 3 years, one year for each. One being the most tragic which was my uncle who was a farmer. And that might be the hardest one for me too, since his wasn't predictable. And I wanted him to visit us in the states and take him to the Bass pro shop and enjoy our restaurants. I've done the hospice thing too. I think everyone wishes they can do things differently, but I know we will see everyone once again. Thanks for sharing. And keep living your life and just keep being a good father to your sons and husband, that is what is important now. oh, and it would be cool for you to make food videos too. Your sandwich looked really good, and seeing more home cooking will help me get away from going to fast food joints. Thanks Buff Dad
+taledarkside thank you so much, it's always good to see you here and on the buff dudes channel, we always look forward to your comments. I'm sorry for your losses, seems to come in waves like that, like it's some kind of test for us. Buff mom as she's known as - makes a good sandwich for sure. The videos will be increasing in the food area. We will all be together again in the same house for a few months while the bulking plan starts in January so we'll be able to get a lot of content out that way. Thanks again for your very thoughtful comment. Happy Thanksgiving back to you. DiyDuke
+Przemko9856 I know kind of just happened and I had the camera, I thought of erasing it cause it seemed to personal but thanks to my editor she uploaded and now I'm glad. And good morning - have a great day.
I'm glad your taking your dog everywhere with you, mine is about the same age and she's going to get a tumor removed Friday. Really need to cherish the time you have with those you love but at the same time be hopeful for the future, nobody knows what comes next
+Kang Tut so true, I have, like yourself, become so close to my friend Samson. They say that people who have dogs and cherish them so live longer and happier lives - so true.
@@diyduke I know you mainly from your sons channel, and I always love when you are in there video's. Just discovered your channel and i'm loving it. This video really did something to me. Its nice to see a down to earth, hard working, loving person, reflecting on life. You brought up 2 really nice sons, and for what I can see you have a great relationship with them. Great job on that one, there are so many sons without a good father figure. You managed it. And you still happily married. Life can't always be smooth sailing, got to take those big waves too. But if I turn out to be something like you, I would be really proud. God bless you. Wish you all the best in the world. Keep up the video's, reflecting video's, diy, or with your sons. They are all great 🙏 Thanks
Found your channel via the buff dudes videos because I'm planning to build some gym equipment and get back on track both emotionally and physically. You're an awesome dude, it's good to reflect on life and all that it entails from time to time. My wife left me very recently (3 years married, 9 years together) and a few years ago my dad passed unexpectedly. It's difficult sometimes, that's for sure! But it's important to keep moving. Keep looking forward. I'm beginning to realize that more and more. Anyways I'll stop rambling, you've got yourself a new RU-vid friend :)
+Fluffy Waffles thank you for your comment. Sorry to hear about those really hard times. But I'm glad you have such a positive outlook, that is what will definitely help. Thank you again my friend.
“Even though she’s gonna edit this video”! 🤣😅 yeah - gift giving can be hard. Sometimes couples like to tell each other what they want and that helps with the “what to get” problem. As for ideas, some people like to do stuff - like make a special dinner or food of the other persons’ favorites and/plan a special getaway, day, or activity. My S.O. and I like to plan ski weekends together in the winter and give that to each other or go into it together as a gift - like a gift card or gift certificate (just for something to unwrap) over a special homemade dinner or dessert, and we “wrap up” a little box with a fancy note of the special planned future activity or trip/getaway. Favorite gourmet pet treats are also a good small gift (fave item of the pet’s that is). Sometimes we plan a special date night or day with beginning to end of the other person’s fave activities, foods, restaurants, etc. Okay, that’s all I’ve got! 🤔😩
DIY Duke : hi diyd! 😁 no problem! no reply ever required - must be hard to catch all the comments. Wish I could be more helpful and give actual usable ideas for videos for you guys instead of always just being a consumer of all the great content. We’re asked for suggestions (as we should be) but I can never think of any good ones to offer. Should keep trying though, something useful might come of it. Ya’ll are the best! 😁❤️💕
I just now saw this video. Sorry to hear about your brother and parents. Never knew about your backstory. Btw, thanks for fixing the drywall in our house back around 2004 when I was a young and dumb kid and smashed a hole in it.
@@piknick111 We just shot a video called Oh Holy Bench for the Buff Dudes's RU-vid channel using one of our favorite locations just west of your parents place by the rim overlooking Warm Springs, it always provides an epic background. Brandon my youngest plays Moses and smashes the Ten Commandments on the rim. Check it out it's pretty cool.
@@diyduke It was one of those older videos I stumbled upon (plyobox video) and realized where it was due to a distinct location. I remember seeing brandon at the gym in town back in my high school days, so I already knew he seemed familiar when I first found buffdudes randomly, but couldnt remember where initially. Didnt know him personally.
A friend of mine says "Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster it goes." And I turned 60 a few months ago. Man, it seems like I was a teenager just yesterday. I still can't get used to the bathroom mirror reflection--where did that old man come from?
+Lex Boegen oh man I hear ya Lex. But I was thinking: I remember being a teenager looking at guys our age wishing I knew what they did, wishing I had that experience, that knowledge, that wisdom. I don't have the youth anymore but I have those things I wished for. I guess we can never have it all and if we did maybe we'd stop trying. Maybe we should stop looking in the mirror LOL.
I was 13 when I lost my mum cancer got her. I am also 19 days younger than your marriage so congrats on that. Life deals us lots of bad stuff and for years I just lived my life and never gave to rats about it never married never had kids. Now that I had a few major injuries I have taken time. Restudying to change career paths from Mechanics to web design yeah big change, Found a very lovely young lady whom I love to marry and have kids with but she lives in an other country. I know be cautious but she fell in love with me when I was at rock bottom I was homeless and had no money.
+Troy Andrews so sorry about your mom Troy and you were so young. Hang in there cause life gets really rough sometimes and it's so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it's there, just keep moving forward.
DIY Duke that's no problem I find your channel very interesting , I hope you keep adding content :) as there are very few people in the world with all the talents that you have I find it very inspiring and your sons Brandon and Hudson must be very proud :D
