RELATIONSHIP CHAT : HE'S CHRISTIAN, I'M MUSLIM - HELP! 

Just to clear up: interracial marriages are completely fine in Islam but interfaith usuallyyyy isn't.

If you ask God and pray that he reveal if the person you are with is meant for you...then let God take care of the rest.

As a child from a interfaith marriage - DONT DO IT !

I feel like British people are so much more knowledgeable about Islam than Americans or Canadians, I like that they tackled this issue very respectfully

Going into a relationship thinking about changing the other faith is twisted really. If that matter so much leave them be and find someone else to love.

The one thing that has stood out to me and has been on my mind for hours while watching this video is WHY IS IT AS HUMANS WE ALWAYS LOOK FOR WHAT DIVIDES US THAN WHAT UNITES US ? 🤔

I've been there & its not easy. 'What religion will our kids be?' etc. Love is powerful, but sometimes religious incompatibility will fester and resurface as resentment later down the line , especially if one party has converted for Love & not God. Important to communicate what your expectations are before the relationship gets too deep, but also to remember that you accepted your partner as you met them and therefore can't expect them to change. Great video Tia :)x

The comment section is so interesting.

I think a lot of non-Muslims do not understand why its so hard for a Muslim to marry a non-Muslim. For most Muslims, its not even something they would consider because of inevitable future conflict. And this is not in a mean/excluding way. As a Muslim, you want your children to be raised on Islamic principles and you want to have an Islamic household. You want everyone to pray and practice Ramadan, believe in the oneness of God. Do you know how difficult that is when you have a partner of the opposite faith who is teaching your child otherwise? Idk, its just not for most of us really. I think it would be way easier if it was like a Atheist/Non-orthodox/non-practising couple because I find that they will be less practicing in day to day life, so it would be easier. Like for example, Muslims believe that believing in a higher power other than Allah is 'shirk' (aka the worst sin that you can possibly commit), so marrying someone who for example believes that Jesus/Vishnu/etc is God (or believes in multiple gods) would just be so difficult to come to terms with. Ofcourse, it still happens but generally with non-religious/practicing Muslims. If you are a practising Muslim, it's just makes sense to marry someone from your own religion.

I had no religion, my other half is Muslim, I was friends with him for a few months and in that time I realised how fascinating and spiritual Islam was, I researched quite carefully about it, I made friends who were reverts and also Muslims - I'm now married to him and we have a beautiful baby boy. If you look beyond the stereotypes and research yourself, Islam is so beautiful Subhaan'Allah Also, my other half is Bengali and his culture is amazing

As a Muslim women, I could never see myself marrying someone who isn't Muslim but culture is not something I would worry about, I would marry anyone of any race but my religion is the most important to me. I think that's same with other faiths too.

I agree with Shakeel. Honestly speaking, it's 'easier' to marry within the same faith... Families tend to be more accepting of another race as supposed to another faith entirely. It depends also, is your family conservative or liberal in either faith... this would determine the success of accepting the other partner. Personally for me, I married within my faith, which is Christianity, and if I were Muslim, I would marry a Muslim man, I believe God would give you the perfect Muslim, or Christian, Jew or whatever. God is not the author of confusion and He will give you a partner following your same faith (or at least willing to convert to either religion) so you could build together. so if this is going to cause havoc, chaos and division, then I don't see the point in getting in to it. Great video as always Tia x

Culture gets mixed with religion, major problem

The rain is so calming

My family are mixed with Christianity and Muslim. My believes is that we serve the same God we just have different regulations and ways of praising God

I literally never comment on RU-vid, but I just have to say Tia, you are such a refreshing voice in what really is a sea of monotony on this platform. I appreciate the thought provoking discussions you have - the authenticity always keeps me thoroughly engaged! On the topic, I'm a Muslim revert who has been with a born Muslim for a few years. From my own perspective, love and chemistry are amazing and shouldn't be undermined. But for us, having shared values and beliefs (religion being the major but not the only one), has made our journey a lot easier than the relationships we've both been in where that wasn't the case. In saying that, everyone relates differently and we can't all follow a one size fits all format. If you feel having differing beliefs do not hinder the growth of your relationship but instead add to it, then that is your right to live your truth.

Loved this! I was raised by a Buddhist Father and a Christian Mother. I would say I believe in a God but not a specific religion. I was with a Muslim man for 3 years. It was very difficult but his family accepted me nearer to the end of our relationship. He cheated on me in the end 😩🙈😂 Unfortunately, as mentioned in the video, religion doesn't always directly correlate to somebodies morals and actions!

I'm Christian and I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years who is Muslim. At the start we went through a lot of struggles with my parents who do not think it can work based on our different religions to the point where my parents have said that they would no longer accept me if we where to get married. However his family are fully supportive of are relationship to the point where they do not expect me to convert to being a Muslim if we are to get married if it's not a personal choice of mine. We love each other and respect each other's religion and are both very open minded. We have always said that if we were to get married we would have both religious weddings and if we were to have kids they would be able to choose what faith they would like to follow. It's all down to the two people in the relationship and the respect they have for each other. yes it is difficult when one side of the family does not agree/support the relationship based on religion but at some point if the two people in the relationship believe it can work, see it to be long term and truly love each other I just think that has to be more important than the parents rejection on the relationship just simply based on religion and not on the person personally . After being with my boyfriend for 3 years I can say that it is not as difficult with my parents as it was at the start of relationship but I'm sure opinions on my family side will come up again if we decide to get married.

People need to understand that once you commit a intimate relationship with someone, with a different ethnicity/religion than you etc. Just know that "THAT" is the package that comes with it. Keep in mind that you adore/love that significant other for who they are, and that their etnicity/religion is what comes with it. If your principles/morals/religion are very precious by heart, but you two are different, and it crashes with the other. Try finding the balance, or compromise to keep that relationship going. Its about giving and taking. Obviously there will always be a bigger picture, and peoples decisions/paths in life are not the same. Different story backrounds/ difficulties may unforsantly dominate the surface.

This was such a well educated, well spoken, thought out discussion. You truly hit all the points. Thank you.

I find it's always the person who is less rigid in their belief who will end up compromising/sacrificing more. Resent will inevitably result. Find someone who is the same level of chill as yourself 😂 Tia great insight as always.

I think the mistake some people make is thinking of Christianity as a religion, it's a lifestyle. If you think of it that way then it's difficult to get with someone who doesn't agree or participate in the way you live your life. I think what ends up happening is that people compromise their faith and beliefs in some way in order to make it work which is wrong

my gran aunt and grand uncle they are both of different faiths, she christian and he muslim. the marriage worked, he loved and respected his wife so much he said its up to her if she wants to change religion. she made sure to show the same love and respect at times she covered her hair up and when she spend time with his family did the same. they also gave the same decision to their kids what religion they felt was right for them to pick. i feel anything is possible as long as the man and woman both have the understanding and respect for each other, it can work.

I completely agree with you when you say who you choose to love shouldn't be anyone else's concern but your own! Its not your parents/relatives/friends who will be with/marry that person. They can advise you on what they think, but at the end of the day it should be your ownnnnn decision who you decide to be with as it is your life and you need to follow your own path which is separate from anyone else

From a Christian perspective, the bible touches on unequally yoked relationships. We shouldn't follow our emotions, but God's will and being in a relationship with someone that is not from the same faith as you may distract you on your walk with Christ. Really and truly I believe that God will only put a person in your life so that you can grow together spiritually and I can't imagine that to be possible with someone that isn't from the same religion. That's just what I think anyway.

aww tia your personality is so beautiful so down to earth and real - love how open you are snd your understanding on religions cultures etc

This is sooooo interesting.. Love love that your creating the space to have these conversations... It really highlights the issues that come up day to day for mixed cultures/faiths..

Absolutely love this video and the way you get the opinions and views across. Perfectly summarised as well Tia ❤️ We are in an interracial marriage but are both Muslim, with Simon being a revert to Islam. Even with marrying a revert, it was a huge learning curve, as we started to figure out what is truly Islam and what is actually culture. There are good and bad people from every culture and religion. What I do love about England is the diversity. Who is anyone to judge what is right and wrong. As you said Tia, the most important thing is good morals and respect towards others and their decisions! The problem always occurs when people force their beliefs on others.

I am a Christian woman and I am dating a man who isn't religious at all. It is a struggle for me because our lifestyles are different. I do love him very much and at the same time do not know how to handle these differences, especially if we decide to raise a family together.

I find that the problem with this sort of topic is that people that are not very religious (or have no religion) find it hard to understand people where religion is extremely important to them. I could never marry someone out of my religion, how can I love someone who doesn't share the same love that I have for my religion? Religion is my life and it's a part of everything I do in life. Instead of using religion as an example, let's use a different scenario. Say if you are the type of person that wants to go travelling around the world during your life. And you meet someone who doesn't want that and would rather stay at home. Do you think in the long run it is wise for you to marry that person? There will inevitably be issues further down the line, you either live separate lifestyles doing the things you love (which sounds very lonely) or you find someone who shares the same love you have for the thing you do and you travel the world together! Of course this also depends on how religious you are, and if you think your piety will remain the same throughout your life. A lot of people become more devoted to their religion as they get older. Which will of course effect their relationship.

This is probably one your best videos tia!!!!. I can't tell you how much this is relevant to relationships in today's society.. big help! x

Thankyou so much for posting this video, it couldn't have appeared on my homepage at a better time! I'm currently dating a muslim guy and have been for the past year, I am a Christian with a christian family, so this has created many issues on both sides! We work every day to compromise and love each other and it sometimes for both of us it feels like a lonely and isolated place to be! Its so comforting to know that these are struggles and challenges that others face and to hear the opinions of you both....thankyou!

I am so glad you two are the people who made a video about this topic. This was deep but very informative for me & my personal life. So thank you to both of you for touching on this topic.

I'm vibing with these new vids tia!! I fell in love with shakeel watching him ...I've had 5 of his kids already daymmmmm

I always look forward to these! Another brilliant topic you've explored, Tia. My last relationship ended very early on due to a difference in religious beliefs. A true learning experience.

Thank you guys so much for posting this video! It really put things into perspective for me, just by knowing that i am not by myself in this situation and there are others who have it even more difficult that myself. thank you for putting yourselves out there for the world to see! :)

hey my family has had Christian and muslim in the family for almost 100 years. we refuse to Disrespect either. i am Catholic. but my muslim cousins are my family and I LOVE them. my auntie has been married to muslim for 32 years and she is still of catholic. they have 4 children and its never a problem. whoever thinks its a problem IS THE PROBLEM

I'm East African and I fucking hate the racism within east african communities against other african/blacks. Its disgusting period. We are as black as can be, so why do we think we are any better. It honestly breaks my heart. My all black brothers and sisters I love you.

THANK YOU! This was so helpful, just being able to hear you 2 speaking your opinions and giving your advice on this controversial topic. . . So many folks make it seem like something so taboo, & that it shouldn't be spoken on, but it is just so real. It's something that we, especially the younger generation are facing more than ever before, because so many of us are mixed or are being raised & brought up around so many different cultures! Is that part 2 still coming Tia?

I'm so glad you both discussed this. We need more openness to even just talk about these things that most people don't.

DAMN this is the best video on RU-vid I've watched in ages. I was literally engaged from start to finish. So many perspectives

Loved this video Tia! Big up to you for touching on these taboo subjects. Please do a video on the Sikh caste system. So many marriages these days are still judged on the basis of the caste of one person, even though they both belong to the same religion! Keep this going, you're helping and inspiring a lot of people xxx

👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾 very nice. Thank you for the insights and constructive discussion. Very happy to see more youtubers bringing forth more thoughtful content!

I'm loving all your relationship chats. I recently went through a tough breakup. And all these video's are helping me process and move on.. Keep up the posts! :)

Islam is a very beautiful compassionate religion but sadly many Muslims misinterpret their own faith and let many cultural things get in the way and disguise it as religious demands etc . Love and peace to all

I'm a Christian, and I would never marry a Muslim. Not because I am ignorant to their beliefs nor because I hold any prejudices against them but simply because I believe marriage is the foundation to build the rest of your life with someone. Majority of marriages produce children and I would love to raise my children in a Christian household. If my spouse is a Muslim evidently there would be conflicting religious views which would cause confusion in a child in what religion they believe to belong to. Could they be both Christian and Muslim because mummy is a Christian and daddy is a Muslim? Realistically, the answer to that is no. I would want them to follow Christ although I understand that ultimately it is their decision what they choose. Long story short for ME the thought of wedding someone outside of my religion requires a compromise of my beliefs to some extent and would effect the way I would like my child to be raised. I feel so selfish admitting this ngl but for some reason I thought to share this. Also I'd like to point out how wavey her Skepta shirt is lool

LOVED this. Been following Shakeel for ages but wow, gained even more respect for him now and of course you, Tia❤️❤️❤️

Thank you Tia for telling people to think about the consequences of their actions! Such solid advice. You are a beautiful person inside out x x

Fascinating discussion . Marriages need full support from the elders , family , friends and community. Going against the tide is a very hard road to travel. When a fish marries a bird where do they live ?

Great video tia loved it, would you be able to do a video about friendships e.g toxic friends and how to identify when someone's negative and doesn't have your best interests xx

Very interesting watch! Really in depth opinions, n Love how you guys include your own previous experiences/examples of people, find them so engaging!

This is the most engaging, emotionally intellectual discussion of interfaith and intercultural relationships I have seen in YEARS on RU-vid. I love the fact that in the first few minutes you started with - go to the leaders of your religious community and ask them what their knowledge is on this topic. This conversation was so REAL! I am glad that both of you decided to step out and make this video!

Tia I just wanted to thank you for being so respectful when talking about religions. Some people speak disrespectfully in the name of freedom of speech but you still get your points across and discuss important issues without disrespecting anyone, and I love you for that. I know this video speaks about how to introduce your partner after falling in love but I wanna back up a bit just like the brother in this video did. I am a muslim (Arab) girl born in England and raised in Scotland. Islam teachings try to protect both men and women form falling into this situation because religiously speaking you are taught not to have 'boy/girl friendships' with the opposite gender to begin with. I know is really hard and you sometimes feel socially secluded especially living in the west but thats the price you pay for living in the west. I have guy friends from uni/work and we get along very well but that is where the friendship ends. As a muslim man/woman you should know your boundaries. You know that you cannot have a long-term relationship with them so you are mentally prepared not to look for anything further. I know it is really hard believe me and I am all for love (I am as romantic as they get) but the harder it is and the more you try the better spouse Allah sends you at the end. My brother and sister went through the same story as me and they are both happily married now and they consider their spouses to be there best friends (me is still waiting for prince charming). Thats the beauty of it... there is no way you would struggle and protect yourself for Allah's sake and he let you down at the end.. he will send your best friend to you, you just have to be patient. Love and respect

Hey Tia, it's the first time I've seen one your videos. Just wanna say you're so well spoken. You seem so understanding. It was nice listening to you.

Wow very impressed with the response by both of you guys. You hit the nail, Shakeel. A person has to really evaluate their values/value systems and what they are willing to give up.

It's a shame that in 2017 we can't just move forward and embrace our differences as it's what makes us special. I know so many people who battle the issue of interfaith relationships. Great video by the way

Apologies if I'm getting a little sidetracked but I honestly just don't get where the idea that "Somalis aren't black" came from, it's such a joke. Somalia is part of Eastern Africa, the Horn of Africa to be exact. Just because Somali people or people from the Horn of Africa (e.g. Ethiopia, Eritrea and Djibouti etc) aren't "dark skinned" as compared to our Western and central African brothers and sisters, it doesn't mean they aren't black or African. I'm a Londoner of Kenyan-Somali heritage and the last time I checked, I thought I was a black African 😂😂

I wish other people could be this understanding and respectful when talking about these topics.

yay so good you came back on youtube! and this is my favourite video, rewatched it a good couple of times

beautiful to hear that there is such diversity in your family Tia!

I am so in love with the vibe you have Tia and the vibe you have with the people around you when you do these talks. Just lovely people all'round. So much respect, intellect and empathy. Much love ❤✌ from the Netherlands 😙😙

Really really interesting topic. Thank you for doing this video, haven't seen a video on this topic before and I think it's great that people are talking about this!

What an amazing talk about interracial marriage,thumbs up to both of you for bringing out a vital issue that is coursing alot of problems around the world.

Wow it's so refreshing to see a video like this up on RU-vid. Didn't realise it was such a popular issue. Slyly gonna drop a compliment on how cute Shakil is too while I'm at it 😂

Just to clear somethings up...Muslim men can only marry women of the Abrahamic faiths (judaism, christianity or islam)...and on top of that not any woman from them, there is a specific criteria.

I loved this, spot on with your points! The struggle is real, and it's not going to get better unless families, communities in the UK have open dialogue around this situation in particular.

so, I have just discovered you and your content and to be honest....its crazy good! i can say i already love listening to you! you have great values and i love how you talk about things! hugs 🤗

Thank you so much Tia for your new videos, I've been watching them religiously every Sunday! Looking forward to your video next week talking about multicultural relationships. I'm British Greek Cypriot and my last two boyfriends have been Jamaican. I didn't mention my first boyfriend to my family until after we split up, because I was nervous that my family wouldn't approve of various differences i.e. social/economic/racial but my mum and my British Dad were both fine with it when I eventually spoke about it. The next relationship was much easier to talk about with family (I never met his, he met my mum) but I couldn't help but think there was a racial aspect to our break up from his side. All of his siblings have settled down with black/Asian partners and he was the only one with a white partner which I think he wants to break away from in a way (he's only been with white partners and his previous gf was Greek Cypriot too!) I'd be really interested to hear if you think mixed relationships can work for the long haul. And if they can, are factors such as class and economic background much bigger factors in a relationship not working as opposed to race. Xx

Love the video Tia, just recently found you. Your vibes are awesome, love the message you are spreading! xx

What a great video & Tia I am a Mum of 3 & I totally feel the same as you spoke of your future children. All I want is for them to be happy.

I love this video so much ❤👌🏼 you guys are speaking on a lot of issues that are facing this generation in particular being that a lot of us are first and second generation.

More people need to speak about this, its very important!

I totally agree with Shakeel that the two FAMILIES also have to be compatible, in order to make it a successful relationship. If your mother in law hates you for your religion/race, it can only lead you to disaster tbh

This is soo interesting! I remember I saw you on Wayne's channel probably like a year ago and you just started your channel and now you've come so far!x

This video is so helpful! I love how thoughtful you both are and your insights

It was refreshing to hear both of you discuss the topic and see how you thought about it! As a Muslim myself I just think don't go there, like it may sound harsh but I would never put myself in a situation where I could potentially develop feelings for someone who is not Muslim as it's just wouldn't work out for me and I wouldn't want to do that to my parents as I know it would not go down well. Some people may disagree with me but I feel that my religion comes before anything in the world. Also, I actually wouldn't want to be in a relationship/marry someone who is not Muslim... I feel that there would be a huge disconnect between us both.

Such an interesting discussion that's hardly touched upon. Really enjoyed watching!

These are the kind of videos youtube needs more of. Thoughtful, insightful real talk.

I found this video amazingly powerful and helpful in all different ways. We're all mixed , and nowadays, in world generally but especially in multicultural cities (as you said)it shouldn't be that difficult to love and having your own faith and religion. Personally I've been lucky to always have my parents support, dating people from other religions and beliefs, and I hope that everyone can love and do what they love. Thanks Tia for this video, keep doing this please.

In my experience it's a clash of cultures (and tradition as you said) as opposed to religion. A lot of religions share core values and morals, in my opinion it's a difference of culture that causes issues. It saddens me that religion keeps people in love apart. It's such an amazing amazing thing. Interesting to hear both of your opinions and reading all of the comments x

Thanks for covering this Tia its such an eye opener for everyone I wish you could do a video with habiba so that you could have her perspective on this issue

Love how you tackled this so respectfully Tia....thank you....xx

Tia is such a good person, she's so warm, respectful and lovely! I thoroughly enjoyed watching this series!!

I was born and raised in a Muslim country by Muslim parents. I moved To a western country and actually live there on my own for few years now... I am dating a non Muslim guy and my mom doesn't know about it. I told my sisters but none of them agree or like to meet my boyfriend. I have never felt "very Muslim" never prayed regularly, I fast during Ramadan more for cultural reasons than religious reasons. The reason I'm scared has nothing to do with Islam or Allah. It's only the fear to hurt my mom as it will have a negative impact on her image in the family and her friends. I am in a very hard situation in my life right now and I try to do my best in order to stay focused and strong. I have mixed feelings between putting my happiness first and thinking about my mom. I do not wish my situation on any one. I do not wish to anyone to be from a so stupidly (excuse me for the word but this is how I feel about it) conservative culture like mine!

Slightly off tangent, but I love the way Tia correctly pronounces both "Muslim" and "Pakistan(i)" 😂

Wooow, I just stumbled across this video/your channel. You are so articulate, SUPER open-minded and just cool. My friend used to always send me pictures of you on instagram saying your looks are her version of goals. I didn't know who you were nor did I ever try and pree beyond the DM sent picture and look at your profile. But daaaaaaaamn I wish I heard about you ages ago. I rarely ever make comments on videos or subscribe - because I'm not really into youtube - but social media personalities like you that engross my mind and fill my heart with compassion is what I am to follow. Thank you!

I really needed to hear this. Especially the part about whose opinions really matter. My family and friends are accepting so I need to stop allowing distant individuals to matter. On a digression I've just found your videos and you're so smart and such a beauty. You remind me of Maya Jama

honestly as a whole I think the whole idea of having to date and marry from the same religion to be accepted by family is such a dated tradition and adds such pressure and stress. we are all one and deserve to feel love regardless of our beliefs. it's such a shame that there is that divide and it feels like alot of it is from families and parents. As the younger generation begin to understand the power of love I think this will eventually die out. what do.we want to teach our children of the future? I know I want to teach mine that love comes in many forms shapes and sizes. religion can be so beautiful in sharing traditions and values that's something both sides of different should embrace on all levels as isn't the end result to love and be loved. 💖💖💖💖💖

This conversation was informative and helpful and really needed. I just wish my parents were not so stuck in their ways, cultures and backward mentality. That even bringing this up brings so many arguments and debates. I'm legit on the brink of giving up. Which is so fudging sad 😭 and I feel like they'll win. Which is beyond frustrating 🙄😒.

The rain was actually calming. Thank you both X

Fully respect you both for broaching this topic. Thoughtful way to open a dialogue and bring it to the forefront.

The Bible says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2nd Corinthians 6:14) It's a tricky one, dating someone of a different faith group because you can't serve two masters, one will have to back down, or bow down in this case. Just remember, God is not the author of confusion xxxx

Liked the video before it even started 🙌🏾

Really enjoyed watching this. Very helpful video. U have yourself a new subscriber :) Also the both of you seem very down to Earth.. I love what you said about we tend to focus on what divides us rather than what unites us.. so true!

I enjoy these conversations you have so much with such intellectual beings. Please share more. Much love ❤️!

Obsessed with your beauty and intelligence 😩❤️❤️❤️

This is new to me. I didn't know a Muslim man can marry a non-Muslim and the non-Muslim need not convert. I always thought that both had to be Muslim to marry. Love this Tia. Love the discussion. Love the respect you both have for each other xx

This is my first time watching your videos but seriously love your prespective...i wish more people would think and talk about topics like this, anyhow great opinion and you are soooo beautiful 😍

my first video I saw right know from you!! You are such a sympathetic person... I'm so imprest... just so true words keep going!!! do what you love and think is right!!! much love from switzerland

but wow these two are beautiful people inside and out yheir perspective have me in awe