It would be interest8ng to see what she looked like. I agree with you, she stuck to her guns......he felt he was the prize, and like you said..70 yrs old, no george clooney looks,he set his value to high
He had already hired her to be his live in maid and then some for the equivalent of a cup of coffee at Starbucks. Decided the price was too high only to find out the other available coffee was far more expensive and didn’t taste nearly as good. Moral of the story is to tip well when you find good coffee.
When you’re 70 and dating a 20s 30s gal it’s always about the money. Never forget that! It’s the same here in Costa Rica 🇨🇷. I’m in my fifties and won’t date a 80 year old wealthy woman no matter what she is willing to buy me. What makes you think that a good looking woman that’s actually a hard worker would be interested in a senior citizen for anything other than money. Wake up people.
Money is not a factor. In social orders without money (The majority of history and across all 28 human primate species old men and young women have been attracted to each other. What I tell men is that the man who has access to the best technology and knows how to use it wins. An old man with a young horse, a young Carabao, and 🌽 popping up in a field is more attractive to a young woman that a young guy on foot asking her to delay pregnancy until he can trade something for a horse... You know "A horse, A horse, my whole kingdom for a horse." Sexual Dimorphism and Socioeconomic Disadvantage: Research in more developed countries shows that socioeconomic disadvantage is associated with earlier sexual debut and higher rates of unsafe sexual behaviors among females, but not males. This is linked to lower household living standards and unemployment. Women can start to lose reproductive capability the very moment the endocrine switch is turned on. Women have to be in a hurry. There are some women who are menopause around age 21. Shocking! I know. The French write and talk about this early onset of menopauses as an infrequent but normative condition. Americans, particularly the woman, do not know of such a condition. When a French study is cited they say it is an abnormal condition. Women have to sexually debut quickly and they have to find a man who has or can build a good nest. In high income countries young men enjoy economic parity with old men. Women look at the length of time a young man can employ a technology relative to the shorter duration that an old man like myself can use the same techniques. Money does not factor in! Sociologically speaking a truth meets all conditions. Money is only a technological transfer or storage of goods and services. Young men. Please disagree. I certainly disagreed when I was young. I ride my bike in an athletics field everyday. I always see a young boy, maybe 15 or 16 foundaling a new girl every week after the school bell rings. I want to stop and tell him two things but I don't. One: in five years you will not be attracted to that little girl. Two: All of the boys that are at home doing their homework and thus learning how to use technology will have your girl if they want her and a 100 more. The only thing that Hollywood Handsome little fucker knows is how to finger some little girl in broad daylight! It is a damned shame. But some older boy must have told him that girls and women are attracted to looks and the only thing an unattractive man has to offer is money! That's a God Damn Shame!
72 year old Aussie here with a lovely 33 year old Pinay, she's fully employed as a Branch Manager for an American company in Phils, has a 10 year old Son. We're a couple and very compatible, she doesn't want money just a committed guy who loves her, and there I am. It does happen and its worth striving for.
The foreigner/filipina relationships seem to follow the same pattern. He has money, she doesn't. He is old, she isn't. He is the provider, she expects that. The filipina has learned from other filipinas that the foreigner can and will change her life to one that makes her happy. She appreciates him as her provider and all that he can teach her with life lessons. His age and physical appearance is not considered a negative factor in the relationship.............he brings much to her life as she does to his. Live long, live well, live happy.............in the beautiful Philippines.
I’ve been thinking about it all day. He deserves what he got.. there was a woman in desperate need, and she laid herself at his feet willing to give herself along with hard work, she wasn’t begging for a free ride. She gave her body and her labor For mercy and he showed his true colors . he showed himself to be a greedy man.. She didn’t ask for much just some human kindness and compassion.. but he seized the advantage he treated her like a lower life form .good for her for having enough pride to walk away . Some people are such assholes so worried about someone getting over on them for a dollar or two it makes me sick.
There are a LOT of ol'farts who can't get out of their own way. The younger ones ( passport Bros ) exploit and prey on the disadvantaged. They can't find or be accepted in their own countries. Finding a younger expat with principles, character, values, morals etc. is rare. Most Filipinas are limited and will take other countries discarded or trash just for survival. It's sad but we didn't set the rules for humanity.
Nonsense, I can't believe how many American men buy into western feminism. He might have over played his hand, Id have to see her naked, but in spirit he 100% correct!
NO when you live in another country no one will help you. Period on your own. It behoves one to be very smart with monies..lived asia 2xs its an eye oppenner.
You're a complete fg, grow the F up, not wanting to be taking advantage of is not a bad thing, beside women always have and will like older men....FACT!
Paul, Here is my takeaway. Initially in any romantic relationship one enters it is always prudent to hold back; emotions, finances, compromising information etc. However, it is also just as important to read the room. A 70 year old man with a 24 year old beautiful young woman that cooks, cleans and sleeps with him, should know that she has needs and expenses. In my view had he provided everything as agreed, food, shelter etc. He should have also given her P300 (pesos) per day and the relationship would more than likely still be intact and be a "Win Win" for everyone. Final Thought. The analogy that comes to mind is: Never jump over a dollar to save a dime! Great Video!
I wonder if it could have turned a different way, showing up in the bedroom, saying we can have sex occasionally, but I keep my salary as I am not a servant nor bedroom slave. Or after he starts with the "no more salary for you" line-----then she counters with ok that was the last time we have sex then. It is ALWAYS complicated, as feelings, emotions, egos and financial exchange all cook up into a potentially toxic stew.
Yes, there are many who believe and live that scenario. You have one life to live and if that"s what you choose , then so be it. If you regret it, then it"s your own fault - live and die with it.
I think he dodged a bullet. I think over time the story would have become more complicated and the burden with family, etc. He really didn’t know her long. My experience is it take 2-3 years to START to know the truth and by that time he’d already be all in. So it may sting a little while but learn from the situation and move on. That way nothing is wasted
In all honesty and practicality you are smart but don't forget this guy is already 70 and has to step it up while he can. What does a 70 yr. old know what the young generations require these days?! I'm a 70yr. ol'fart and don't have the faintest clue on what my 30's -40's daughters want or need. They threw out my generations playbook out along time ago. Most of us old farts are left alone.
Wow... What a great story. My take? There has to be give and take in any relationship. I know that sounds simple but, in my mind, it is that simple. Take care Paul.
You can't make this stuff up. He really blew it. Cheap is one thing, massively stupid is another. Duct tape can't even help this guy. Great video Paul! Happy Trails to You!
As Boogie told me a few times there is always another new crop, always.. he worked for triad in hong kong paid mayors in towns in PI so girls would be relesed to work HK bars. I know i took their pics once in manilla. for job applications. remember that..
Find an educated one they are there like mine. degreed accountant. now in san jose ca. They do come here on work visas, find a family make friends get introducetd to one like I did.. you dont have to go to pi to get one.. They are already here.. smart, great english educated, have a job. looking for you!!!
He’s in his 70’s got the bucks and he’s cheap. Hey, how much longer u gonna live, if you like what you got and you can afford it, spend a little cash. Rather die with a smile on my face then with a wad in my pocket.
NO in yout 70s medical events do happen, PI has rising costs. If an expat one learns really fast ther is no rescue for you, your on your own. he was smart to be smart about his monies. And he found out it was money for her.. A good girl doesnt go to many islands looking for some hint hint. He doged a bullet.
Great Video Paul ! The Old Adage "You Don't Know What You Had Until It's Gone" Comes To Mind Paul ! I Hope You And Mae Have A Wonderful Day ! 🙂🙂🙂🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
The first thing that came to my mind, the Country Western song....Easy Come Easy Go. There is his side, her side and somewhere in the middle is the truth. Many of us Expats give extra money for everyday things in tips. Those in real need, like this setup, he tried to be a Certified Penny Pincher. You can't treat your lady like a servant. Nor should you write a blank check. He was Alpha Male without any common sense. She was too easy, but her ego wouldn't let her go back to a Cheap Charlie.
My wife is very frugal, doesnt waste a thing. Makes a great living and still saves etc. doesnt want my monies. brings food home from work makes meals from it. Not a big clothes horse makes do. If the girl really loves you money means nothing. i have seen that when i lived in asia 2 times. The good ones only want you.
I met my wife in HK. She was an OFW experiencing a terrible, abusive situation. (We met by chance in a social environment - a barbecue). I extracted her from that situation. She needed to return to the Philippines after reneging on her contract. I took over her contract and she returned to HK. We are around the same age - she was 37 and I was 48 when we met. After a year we had a child together, so 'technically', I was sleeping with the maid! We now live in the Philippines and are doing very well, around PP80,000 pcm in income, owning property of around USD 1M. I get the feeling that now I am actually the maid.
I can relate to most of your comment (we have no offspring together). Been working out for us for almost 25 years now. No regrets. Best wishes to you both.
That is a pretty cool story Paul, thanks for sharing. I guess he didn't know about the unspoken agreement in PH. If you can't spend a couple of hundred dollars a month for a salary on a girl then there is something wrong with you. He got what he deserved.
Geez my fillipina in silicon valley makes 150k a year never asks for monies, is smart frugal wastes nothing. Never never asked for some of my monies. she maks her own saves too..18 years married now.
Amazing story. Thank you for sharing with us. Good for her leaving the ring. Must have been other things about his personality that she just couldn't handle. Maybe stingy with love, too?
Guys like this probably never knew what love, compassion was really about or he's just been burnt too many times. It was stated that he supported his disadvantaged daughter but who knows what this guy's been through?! We all don't know where this guy's mind is at or where it came from. What ol'fart wouldn't like to be with a beautiful, young woman just for a moment?
Holy crap, this sounds wayyy too similar to my 1st ex here. She was young and gorgeous, and she loved me like I was a king. After a year, and for reasons I later regret, I broke up right before I went back to the US to take care of family issues. Several months later I came back and tried to get her back and she was NOT having it at all. I offered everything - take care of her kid, luxury trips, money for her family. lol The girls here can be so beautiful, loving and true... but if you break up with them, that's it! Bitterness forever. They'd rather stay poor. Man this story hit home, I was a mess. lol Hard lessons learned just like this dude.
@@Robin-xt7yo Actually she's still dating 6 years later. I saw her FB rants about guys last year. The problem for her is that most guys are cheating on her, are just playing around, or aren't willing to take care of her child. You know how dating is, most are just playing it seems. Anyway, I treated her like I cared, unlike the guy in this story.
If you love someone looking out for their best interest comes naturally. I think a good takeaway is remember to treat those in our lives with love and selflessness. Contributing the bare minimum in a relationship will not produce much fruit.
That ranks up there for one of the more crazy stories I have heard....but in the end...good for her....He should of known and understood the culture that the children's mission is to help care for the family....he should of just given her an allowance to help provide for her family and be done with it....and the story would of had a totally different ending....Good for her for sticking her principles and knowing when to say NO!....I hope that some of the new guys out there reading this story will take heed and listen to the Old Dog Wisdom....
Hey Pauley, Yep - that guy had a diamond and did not know how to appreciate her ... he was too cheap to his own detriment. He got what he deserved. I hope she's happy wherever she may be.
They are forced to compromise their dignity, self respect and a life filled with love to survive and support their families. Try and get that in the USA. Our kids don't appreciate our sacrifices or unwavering love. They are very selfish. It"s not that we were bad parents, it's that new generations have a whole new set of values. The Baby Boomer Era made and kept America for the entitled generations.
@@wanderingdoc5075Well, at least she had the integrity to leave the diamond engagement ring behind on the bureau... Some would just take the ring and split
Some guys are too smart for themselves. I have a friend that eats Cornflakes to save money. He has no girlfriend and has put ona quite few pounds extra. Remember guys you can't make love to your savings pass book. 🇺🇸🗽
He sounds very manipulative. Getting her family as leverage & then just getting rid of them. I’d question this guys character, in that he doesn’t have a very good one.
I'm wondering what he was in prison for. Years ago I had a coworker tell me he was in prison a couple of times, then he started listing his crimes, armed robbery, breaking and entering, burglary, assault, assault with a deadly weapon and a few other things, then he went on to add "But I didn't do anything sketchy."
Awesome story!! We always under appreciate what we think is ours and over estimate our ability to live without it.. more true when it comes to affairs of the heart..
Monty told the similar story a while back. she did him a favor by leaving him. but, I don’t remember hearing that he tried to get her back by having her family live with him. that was a new twist. she sounds very practical.
Basic principles, follow the Golden Rule. Treat others how you want to be treated. You learn that hopefully at a young age. Otherwise you make poor choices as this man did.
You do an incredible service with these videos! For me the best thing in life I can do is help people out who are lass fortunate! I wouldn't give that skin flint the time of day!
Wow Paul - been watching many channels including yours for a long while, and this is for sure the first like this. You are right friend, you can’t make this up, lol. So, I think even though he was a tight Charlie, but stuck to his MO, so to speak, he met a girl that stuck to hers as well, and it bit him. Bottom line for me is if you meet someone you really like and love, invest in that person if you want her to stick around. And even if he did offer her what she wanted initially, maybe it would have long term, or maybe not…only time would have told that story. Love your channel, spent about 3 plus weeks in the Phils and would have loved to meet you and Baby Mae - maybe next time. Blessings to you both!
What you say, maybe true. I don't think that she made her decision solely based on him being cheap. Maybe she came into her own and realized that she required MORE and he's not willing or able to provide that. All the sordid details I can't get into for it would just be speculation. I wish her well.
NO he lost to a gold digger..A true pi women wants you not monies.. I lived asia 2 xs it was never about monies it was me. As soon as you pay your a mark, sucker, fool,.
The Best relationshipp for a Man is where a woman chooses Him and pursues him and hopefully he realizes he has a really good one. The worst is the one that chases the woman and is willing to go beyond his boundaries and do "Anything" to get her as she will not Value or Respect him. This guy burned his bridges and now with the return of her parents he will never get her back. So it shows money doesn't bring Happiness and if presented with the "perfect lawn" Don't go comparing the grass as it usually isn't greener on the other side. Now he is left with a messy yard, no maid and no girlfriend along with a valuable lesson.
this fucking guy strikes gold and gave it away bc he didn't want to spend a few fucking pennies. some people can't help themselves. this girl walks right into his house and he still fucks it all up
I know it’s unbelievable. She wasn’t asking for cars or a house for her parents or cell phones. She was a hard-working girl that was desperate and chose him. And he screwed it up.
Don"t appreciate the language. You"ll eventually realize that Filipinos(s) don't ether. If you don"t respect yourself, then at least respect the culture of your host country
I feel for the next guy(s) that are trying to have a normal relationship with her (the ex-maid). She will find it difficult to trust them and push for money more often than she would have had in a non-jaded initial relationship. I was that next guy in one relationship, and despite my efforts to help more than most would, we eventually broke up. So, I paid for the last cheap charlie to an extent, and so will her new guys. The cheap charlie guy should just live on his own.
So this guy took possession (Kidnapped?) her family thinking it would make her come back and love him?? Seriously? The way this man's mind works I'm glad he's not in the military anymore. I don't want him making any decisions like this with a weapon in his hand!
The moral of that story: Be a decent human being and treat people fairly. Don’t try to grind them down when negotiating a fair wage. Show respect and kindness to your girlfriend and buy her gifts now and then. That guy who had a really good income by any American standards, treated her shamefully and frugally. I’m so proud of her that she retained her dignity and told him to “pound sand” each time he tried to get her back.
Like you said, you can't make this stuff up. Karma definitely played a factor in this story (in my option). Never ceases to amaze me on the stories you come across. The Philippines has definitely spiced things up in your life!
Exactly right! Paul, right up a screenplay treatment of it (change names to protect the not so innocent) and use your network to shop it around Hollywood!
I think John generally had the right idea at the beginning, but was probably overdoing it. Not kissing a woman's feet is one thing - being cheap is different. Beautiful women are used to getting everything they want. He showed Jane from the start that he wasn't going to let her walk all over him. Which is likely why she stuck around. Women generally aren't attracted to pushovers. But as I said, he probably went overboard playing Mr. Hardball. So she went out looking for a better deal. Many (most?) women will do this, eventually. Also, Jane may have been physically beautiful, but she was no prize as girlfriend material, if the lingerie and offer of immediate sex is accurate. If she did this with him, she surely did it many times before with other guys. Huge red flag. Many women buy men with sex - she hoped to get some money out of him in exchange. When that failed, she tried her luck with TWO other guys. In my opinion, both of them were low-value partners. John should have cut his losses and learned something from the experience. Instead, he went into extreme chump mode by trying to buy Jane back. So she went from disliking him to despising him. Women aren't attracted to chumps - especially beautiful ones who can easily get any man's attention and money.
Reminds me of the classic 70's rift 'Life in the fast lane' though as a retired expat. If there is anything to these lyrics it suggests lifestyle imagined through forms of culture can manifest when we transport ourselves from home base which entails strains of capital be that financial or emotional roller coaster rides as in this case. So the case study did end up paying for the social engineering experiment.
Being frugal is one thing. Passing up a great opportunity because of being frugal is a different matter. Nickel and diming someone who is working hard, for little or no money, ( just so you can prove something to yourself), doesn't always pay off. I am sure that this lady will find someone that will hopefully treat her much better. She left the engagement ring, which says a lot about her.
I feel she could see when he took her family in it was another form of control over her. He’s a narcissist with how he controls people…when he couldn’t get what he wanted by using her family to get her back he did what a true narcissist would do and dumped them with trickery back where he found them. Good for her and I hope she’s very happy with herself….😊
That’s the best story so far. Definitely on the side of the lady. I think he definitely should have just kept paying the 250 a day. Well worth keeping her happy and at home.
"Karma is a Beach"...!!! What is really unfortunate is, most (not all) humans "Do not" have an idea about the real feeling of Love. Love is about being unselfish and so many more things that it would take 10 pages to cover. Humans,....stop thinking about yourselves when going into a relationship and you will harvest the biggest Treasure on this Galaxy..........LOVE.
Poor fellow but still comes across as a self-entitled creep. Reminds me of a famous quote: in nature there are no rewards or punishments, just consequences. He got his Karma.
