"Getting a DNA test to see if Griffin is mine" (referred to him as the other guy") "The kids caused Farrah's cancer" "My temper is bad because the kids cause me to get angry" "Tatum met the queen, she had a great childhood" He is the worst!
Narcissistic Sociopaths NEVER take responsibility. My late older sister was exactly like this. And she ruined her relationship with our parents, our siblings and her own children because of it. Having said that, I sincerely believe she was born that way... so I learned not to hate her for it. It's like a rattlesnake. You know it's deadly, so you stay away from rattlesnakes. I knew my sister was toxic to me, so I stayed away from my sister. I hope Tatum has come to this realization and moved on...
I finally realized not only was my sister "faking nice" she truly believed everybody else was faking nice, too. Ryan clearly believes nothing he did was wrong. They just can't see anything from the outside; it's all through the lens of themselves, their wants, their motives. 🤷
People confuse people with Substance Use Disorders with Narcissists, often. There are some similar behaviors, but the underlying disorder is not the same. I’m in the treatment field. Addiction is not an indicator of ASPD. I think Tatum believes what she says about her upbringing because she’s telling the truth, from her perspective. She has never claimed she was addicted at 9-11, not in either of her books, and has said she was 18+, consistently (see Wendy Williams’ interview, for one). In Ryan’s day, people didn’t talk about these topics unless things were so out of control it was undeniable. Tatum described her early influences, and subtle emotional effects that weren’t in his vocabulary. A nurturing parent doesn’t strike back, like he does here, nor do they disrespect their children. If Tatum was delusional, it would be obvious in his mercy and gentle manner.
@@sciencenotstigma9534 I think I understand you correctly, and I wonder if you think anyone here is saying Tatum is manipulative. It's Ryan we're criticizing. He doesn't seem to have been the adult in his relationships with his children. It's behavior we recognize from relationships of our own.
@@MelissaThompson432 I wasn’t sure, from one of the comments but I think I misread the original comment, fs! I’ve been at home sick, watching YT and a bit groggy but I finally got treated and am revisiting the comments. Thanks!
Upon seeing this, 11 years after this being posted, I would just say to Ryan, "It all starts with family and in the home!" Don't blame your kids for being wild and out of control! It was YOUR job as a father to BE A FATHER! Teach them right from wrong, teach them morals and how to behave! You were the custodial parent. You destroyed lives, including your own.
It does start with the family & home. I was an old school parent, held my kids responsible, respectful, they worked, bought their own cars, etc unlike my peers. Despite all that, one kid goes the other way at 17? It's not that simple but he could've set more boundaries like I did. Even at 17 I didn't tolerate BS!
Let's not forget about when a 12 year old Tatum slit her wrists and lay in the bathtub and this turd walked in and finds her and he responds You Did It Wrong!!🙄 He meant she cut the wrong way
This is so ridiculous and unheard of. How could these children (Griffin & Tatum) cause Farrah to develop rectal cancer. This is absurd. Ryan is not telling the whole truth about anything. He never mentions that he was mentally, emotionally and physically abusive to Farrah. Ryan is a horrid human being.
@@ColtDeehe was the adult. There’s no excuse for a parent to abuse and blame his children for his own actions. Blaming the victim is a classic lousy parent. There’s no excuse to abuse your children. The abuse excuse doesn’t fly for this horrible, narcissistic man.
My heart breaks for Tatum. Her father is a true narcissist.I watched their show when it was on, and he is a textbook narcissist, with a horrible temper. I do not doubt that he was not joking when he said he was a hands on father and that (as he laughs) he strangled them. After seeing him lose his temper on the show, he is totally capable of physical abuse. It is disgusting how he is blaming his daughter. What a coward.
When Tatum tried to slit her wrists. Ryan told her “you did it the wrong way.” Rather than get her psychological help and ask about her general well being. Ryan in several of his interviews has shown a lack of self control along with a lack of parental responsibility. Farrah loved Tatum and vice versa. Farrah very easily could have had a predisposition via her dna and family history. Nothing Tatum or her siblings did were responsible for Farrah’s predisposition to hereditary disease.
And I'm surprised at how beautiful Tatum looks; very healthy. During her crazy days, she didn't look as good as she does now. It's such an inspiration to see someone come out of an emotional hell like she experienced. I hope she stays well.
Lyndra Ski, because God/JESUS CHRIST favoured her and blessed her and will make sure she makes it to Heaven but God sic devils on people that he hated before he created the 🌎 World.
@@lauralarrabee7870 The son with Farrah is in jail now and looks, walks and acts like he’s from a holler in Kentucky. Sloppy looking man. Griffin has always had problems too, however he and Tatum both are good looking.
The sad part is that Tatum was very careful in how she spoke about she negative aspects of her father, and he was all too willing to throw her under the bus. What’s worse that as of now, she’s STILL trying to make it work with him, in spite of a nearly fatal overdose/stroke. She said in an article as of the other day that they have met up, but he still doesn’t return her calls. She needs to let him go and focus on her recovery from her ailments/addictions. He doesn’t deserve her forgiveness.
The sad part is that Tatum doesn't get it. This is NOT about her it's about his Narcisism and ego, hate and manipulation. Tatum it's like trying to kill yourself with drugs to get accountability from a con man. AIN'T going to ever happen.
@@Omnicient.oh these terribly gently women. How dare they be careful to not say bad truths about people who’ve hurt them. 🙄 There must be an evil motive lol😂
@@Omnicient. You do realize that he was the adult right? All his children have problems, so how exactly is "he more honest?" You seem to be a lousy judge of character.
@@user-ir8mf7km6w He said, If WE had never came into her life. No, what he really means is if he alone had NEVER come into Farrha's life. By saying we he's trying to get others to take some of the harsh spotlight off his actions. Yes, he is a typical narcissists. Deep down he knows the guilt really belongs to him..
You hit the nail on the head. He deflects it all onto his children, he raised them and "saw them everyday" so if they're so terrible you have to take some responsibility
Both of my parents are like this. This man does not like his children. He has serious issues I am so sorry that Tatum and her siblings had to deal with this. Wow.
He is a total narcissist. He takes no responsibility for anything. I feel sorry for his kids. It’s unbelievable that he blames Tatum for Farrah’s death.
Watching this interview was so upsetting, and spoke volumes as to why his children were/are so troubled. Newsflash Ryan, your son with Farrah is no prize either. What a toxic & pitiful human being!
Tatum, you are precious, noble, wise, and beautiful. You flourished not because of-but in spite of-your circumstances, which is an exceedingly difficult thing to do. I am proud of you for the grace and restraint with which you conducted yourself in this interview. ❤
"She had a wonderful childhood, she met Queen Elizabeth" 😂 this man has NO idea what defines a wonderful childhood because he was not capable of providing it to his kids. He destroyed everyone who was unfortunate enough to be in his miserable life. Blames EVERYONE but himself. He is the true definition of a sociopathic narcissist. What a damn cruel man😡
I hope he's on an episode of Soul Crossings with Cash Peters. I'd really like to see how his experience impacts him. Such a different perspective than the Pearly Gates and St Peter. Much more realistic.
Yup, full blown narcissist. I was married to one of these evil psycho narcissist freaks for 23 years, they are nothing but master liars and manipulating con artists
Narcissists are so utterly delusional they don't even try to hide it. They have no clue it is so blatantly on show. This video should be used in psychology classes
His comment about having a DNA test done really hit home. My dad once said "maybe he's not mine" when referring to my brother, and, periodically, asks if my brother has submitted the DNA test kit I sent to him (...I bought one for each of us to find the extent of our European background). That is just as insulting to my late mom as it is to my brother. I have, repeatedly told my dad that the results would be the same as mine anyway (...which I submitted several years ago). Dad has also said (of my brother)..."maybe he'll die" and, when I push him to say something nice to my brother (...like..."I'm proud of you"), Dad's response is "why?". Not once in my brother's 66 years has my dad told him he is proud of him...it's heartbreaking!! My brother is very talented (...a great cook and painter) and Mensa-level-intelligent, and Dad seems to be jealous of him, even though he (Dad) is as intelligent and talented. Dad has said "people say he (my brother) is a good cook...I don't see it"; "people say he's intelligent...I don't see it", and on, and on. Yes, my brother has dabbled in drugs (mostly just grass), and hasn't been particularly successful financially, but instead of boosting my brother's morale by saying something nice to him, Dad would rather dismiss him. He's embarrassed by my brother's presence and doesn't see the connection with his lack of attention AT ALL. Dad has been a good provider, and we always had a home, meals, and material things. He, along with my mom, taught us to be responsible, safety-conscious, creative, caring people (the 'caring' part was more Mom), so it's confusing to hear what he says about my brother, and I feel cruddy if and/or when I reveal stuff (as mentioned above)...but it isn't fair to take his insecurities out on my brother. My relatives think my dad is so lovely, while putting my brother down as a loser...not realizing my dad puts them down when they aren't around. It's unnerving and sad.
Judith Fabian, That's really sad but I'm going to tell you it's even worst, over trillions times worst when the Creator, God that created and treated me to go to Hell and be eternally separated from him and especially when I did everything to please him. That's what's trillions times worst. I begged, pleaded, cried and wailed before God/JESUS CHRIST to Love me but he refused to come live inside of me.
Yes, Ryan is clearly emotionally abusive. I don’t care what happened…you don’t condemn your kidspublicly. Based on his behavior since Tatum wrote an entire book forgiving and expressing love and understanding of him, I think she deserves better, too. She has not said a negative thing about him in years. If he’s ego driven enough to trash his kids on TV now, I’m sure they went through a lot with him, growing up.
@@jeanmeullion6641ou have to be open to spiritual guidance to receive it. It helped me to see a counselor and find out what was blocking my faith. Now I have been able to rekindle it. I’m sure the creator loves you. You were created in his image!. Hope, healing, and blessings to you. 🙌❤️🩹😇
@@dianakidd4219 I never met a kid who easily accepted their step-parent. That’s just being a kid. Parents in our generation (Tatum’s) often expected us to be small adults, which isn’t fair. There are exceptions to any rule but, as a rule, blended families are difficult for kids to accept.
Yeah sugarcayenne seven, as if meeting the queen has anything to do with a good childhood. A celebrity lifestyle. While he was doing drugs and chasing women, he wonders why his child didn't turn out right.
Holy moly. Barry Lyndon has been one of my favourite movies of all time since I first saw it 10+ years ago. Oftentimes when people ask what is my absolute #1, I'll name Lyndon over Goodfellas and Once Upon a Time in the West. I've never looked up anything about the actor, and randomly came across this. The similarity between himself and Redmond Barry is absolutely uncanny, I'm blown away. The narcissicm, the bad family relations, the blaming everyone else for their own problems.
I've always thought that's why it worked so well. With paper moon it's a similar story and even more profound because Tatum, his daughter is in the movie.
His acting skills are gone. He can no longer pretend not to be a selfish, unaccountable narcissist. Blame blame blame. Typical narcissist behavior. Blame the kids, act innocent. He is awful. I am surprised Tatum ended up so well put-together. Probably had to go through years of therapy to undo the damage he ingrained in her. She looks great, speaks articulately, and makes a lot of sense. Her journey must have been a long and painful one to get where she is now.
People forget her childhood...her beautiful mother was inflicted by drugs, smoked a lot, and died when Tatum was relatively young from lung cancer, too. That's not easy to live through.
She was taken from her Mother at a young age because her and Griffin were not living in a good environment....and she was there holding her Mum's hand when she died 💔 Says a lot about the beautiful woman that she is 🙏❤️
@@donnaking7439 Seek Help he is the reason she is dead if not for him screwing around she would be with her son Redmann and he would not be in the mess he is in now look up his story with his kids all except Patrick Patrick's mother left Ryan and took her son far away look up HPV and how it leads to the cancer Farrah died from HPV is transferred from sexual contact Ryan was never a faithful man I was fooled too I thought they had this great love story it was a lie
He's a prime example of how Society literally ruins beautiful people because they get everything handed to them based on their aesthetics and don't have to work on having Integrity or building any sort of character.
Ryan O'Neal will only look in the mirror to check his hair, never to take responsibility for his actions or lack thereof. He's a gaslighting narcissist
She wasn’t even bashing him and he was acting as if she was going off! Puts all the responsibility off on everyone else for him being a crappy person. Unbelievable!
"I have a son that's been arrested 40 times. I don't mean Redmond--the other guy" ...WHO talks like that in regards to his own son?!!! Such a weirdo and a horrible, cruel man
It's terrible to talk about your children in that way, Ryan has to take responsibility for his children's behavior and mostly his own. No one's perfect we all make mistakes, but it's sad to give someone vision when they are so blind. He clearly has alot of anger inside. He needs to sort himself out and start showing love and respect towards his kids
He ruined his children’s lives!! He’s a narcissist and while Farrah laid in bed dying of cancer he attempted to shoot his son Redmond in the face. Kids lead by example and Ryan brung drugs in front of his kids at a early age. He’s got so much anger and what a terrible man for taking his insecurities and putting them on his children. Tatum is almost begging for a relationship with her dad. So sad 😞 that one man can destroy so many lives. Farrahs last words she cried out for her son. He’s alone on drugs in trouble with the law and has a narcissist father.
I am in shock from the evil vibes this man gives off, sadly she will never get the remorse she needs from him to move forward, she will have to learn to finally except that daddy is to selfish to ever help his kids heal from his narcissistic parenting!
I don't get evil vibes from him, any more than I get not-so-nice vibes from her. She was already messed up from her alcoholic mother, when she went to live w/Ryan. He loved her and was nice to her. He had problems of his own, but people are that way. She's had problems from a very young age. Ryan didn't resolve them, but he didn't cause them, is how I see it. Yes, he's narcissistic, like every other actor. They all are. Even Tatum.
@@Honeycombe88 WTF is wrong with you? The man is a narcissistic woman-beater. He is a walking shitstain. He destroyed his own Hollywood career because he was so unpleasant and arrogant--not to mention violent--that no one wanted to work with him. Why in the world are you defending someone who beats women and blames his ex's death on his own child? You should be ashamed of yourself.
Sure, he has 3 kids & they all turn out to be alcoholic drug addicts. But that has nothing to do with him, it's mommy's fault. WTF? Tatum & Ryan were inseparable during & after Paper Moon. She was like his puppy dog that he took to Hollywood parties& night clubs, only she was 10. She won an Oscar for her performance but her father didn't & being the narcissistic dick that he is, he was jealous & angry. This poor child attended the Oscars & won without either of her parents there to show support or how proud they were. She became the youngest Oscar winner in a competitive category & it still stands, but for Tatum I'm sure it hurt & caused her 10 year old brain to be confused.
@@BrooklynBaby-1 She keeps setting herself up for rejection by continuing to hold out hope that she will receive validation from a very sick man. It will never happen. Every time she’s shot down, she loses a part of her soul. I have no doubt that her therapist has urged her to walk away. In a way, she’s doing this to herself. I had a similar relationship with my father so I can understand the temptation to keep hoping. When I walked away, that’s when I started loving myself. I became a whole, healthy person over time because I chose to not revisit hell. She needs to run and not look back.
I grew up being in love with the "actor " Ryan O'Neal. To grow up and see the real man he is, is sad and disturbing. I now find him to be shallow and a narcissistic. He said Tatum had a great childhood cause she met the Queen. She would have had a greater childhood if she had his love and attention.
This jerk doesn't understand that parents dump all their dysfunctions into their children. Then when their children reflect those dysfunctions back to them, they blame the kids; complete denial.
Ryan needs to allow Tatum her perspective. It’s her experience, and our generation is more open about tough topics than his. As just a local child actress/kid model, I first used drugs at age 9 and was in 15+ plays and many shoots, after that. Addiction isn’t a straight downward trajectory. I read her books, and she was exposed to drugs and adults’ promiscuity early, in Hollywood. With all I saw in the little Midwest scene, I don’t doubt it. She doesn’t claim to have been addicted at 9-11. I don’t know where people are getting that. Maybe they’re thinking of Drew Barrymore.
craig Redmond is a lunatic he was recently arrested for going on a stabbing spree in california stabbing several people so hey dont even try to blame his father for the sons insane behavior these kids are druggies spoiled and anyone who ranks out his parent is garbage - he needs to take responsib ility for his own behavior hes a failure as a son
Sorry to say this but I would have to run far away if Ryan O Neal was my father. He surely messes with your head. You can just see it in this clip. What a screw head.
Classic behaviour for a narcissist. If it makes them look bad it didn't happen. Ryan reminds me a lot of my own father. I ended the relationship over 20 yrs ago. I realized he was never going to change and I had to save myself. He appears to be very angry with Tatum. She committed the ultimate sin in the eyes of a narcissistic parent - she talked about the abuse and exposed him for who he is. He'll never forgive her. He's resented his daughter ever since she won the oscar for, Paper Moon, and he didn't. Can u imagine how much that hurt is ego? Clearly he gave the best performance in that film (in his mind). He was wronged not getting that oscar.
Ryan O'Neil will never make peace with Tatum. She was the adult in the room. She sounds like the voice of reason. He treated Farrah badly for years until the end! He takes no responsibility for anything. It is sad that so many broken lives are a result.
Sweetpea no she was a real female. She started out as a model tham moved into acting. Was married when she started her affair with Ryan. It was the beginning of a roller coaster life with an alcoholic.
Never liked Ryan O'Neal. He's throwing his kids under the bus to save his hide !! He blames his kids for everything -- doesn't take responsibility for anything !! I'll always remember him as a JERK !
“The other guy” is how he references his son? Arrested 40xs definitely has something to do with lousy parenting. This man is unkind & cowardly for placing blame on others.
Ryan's just lost. He's not purposely behaving this way. He needs help so he can open his eyes so he can make amends with his family before it's too late. I pray he finds salvation and peace.
What brought me here was a Wendy Williams interview of Tatum. I had zero clue about their family of origin. He is projecting , when he blames the children for Farrahs death. Imagine how he must have treated her for 30 yrs. !!! He has traits of being a malignant narcissist and nobody needs a degree to see that he has wrecked every life he has entered. I have no doubt his inability to self regulate his emotions , during his life contributed to his children’s addictions and his partners early death - even tho , according to him she was the epitome of health. He just isn’t telling us about the psychological abuse she endured loving w a psychopath.
he said some pretty nasty things about his own kids. also, I don't think this guy had anything going for him at all accept his looks (in his younger days.) he seems to have many, many, issues. Tatum seems much smarter and much more credible than her father, no doubt.
This interview clearly shows that Ryan is the problem. Ryan's children have been put through a lot as targets for his misplaced anger and blame. It appears as though Ryan sadly is the child who never grew up.
hairyscotman Someone or maybe many, may have envied beautiful, stunning Farrah to the point they cursed & wished her to end up with a loser like him. I know cuz it happened to me. Many yrs later I discovered my first bf's mother AND also my 2nd bfs mother BOTH put a curse on me. 2nd bf was a narcissist who was also an alcoholic, drug addict & smoker. I was cursed by my 1st bfs mother to only meet & be with loser men & THAT's why I ended up with the 2nd one who was a drug addicted alcoholic. Thank God 1st wicked witch is dead but the 2nd one STILL lives at 92 & still trying to finish me off BUT IT AIN'T GOING to HAPPEN cuz I HAVE GOD ON MY SIDE! Smh
What a jerk. I feel for Tatum. Watching this reminds me of my feelings toward my mom and how she thought she gave me such a great childhood. Is that what she calls beating the crap out of me? A great childhood? She took no responsibility for how she treated me. Never admitted to any wrongdoing. Some people have no right being parents. We hadn’t spoken for 13 years. I went to see her before she died from Pancreatic cancer because I wanted peace. We had a nice visit and I wanted to start seeing her regularly. She said fine and then she messaged me and told me not to visit anymore. At least I am at peace knowing I really tried.
Understand you completely. My mother made me feel worthless because I was a fat kid. She told me that I didn't deserve love, friends, boyfriends, new clothes or to be treated like my sisters because I was fat. I was her "shame". After they die, you find your self- worth and move on with your life...be happy.
He had that poor girl in show business as soon as possible. Listen to all the names he calls her. “Crazy, stupid, liar” Just mean and sad. I can’t imagine saying those things about my child. He blames his kids for his own crap! All he cares about is Farrah. “His love affair with Farrah”🤮
tatum is a huge failure who wants so desperately to be in the spotlight but she is nothing no class no style no looks shes jealous of dads success and of Farrahs too
@@amberlyoness555 I doubt that. She didn't have the most stellar career, but she done well for a while. As far as her scumbag Dad, he was a Megastar. But when people heard about his personal life, his career went down in flames as he was considered box office poison in Hollywood and no one wanted to hire him. Farrah had a great career, but was dragged down by that giant shit stain of a hubby of hers and he caused her career to plummet. Tatum wasn't jealous of her father, but she hated him for years of abuse endured by the one who was supposed to love and protect her as a child.
Ripping your adult kids on tv wow. He also does this time and time again with relatives and friends.....how do you think that makes your adult kids feel. Maybe his kids had adhd, maybe they just needed you to be there. Gross
He's a liar. He was a horrible father. Throwing his daughter under the bus is sickening. All of his kids were troubled. It's well known in Hollywood he is an extremely abusive person. There are many stories!
