Chris Seiter what if my ex only giving short answers or 1 worded answers “yes/ no/ I don’t know” in exchanging stories/ share opinion? How to help him to progress?
Women will test the man anyway whether he every day creates mathematical strategies of speech, or whether he sometimes does it without purpose.....just from his heart. Or a man may think the woman always try to find some strategy instead of talking like a normal human being with empathy and gratitude polite humor. The best is to find someone who speaks their brain and heart.
I took your quiz and it says i have a in the second section, higher probability because i was with my ex for six years and aside from last year sucking because of deaths and other bad stuff that happened to me last year, the other five years were happy and beautiful
Me and my boyfriend were together for two years we were living together for over a year. He moved out and broke up with me because we would fight alot and he said he didn’t feel happy anymore. Hes moved out once but we were still dating, and spending the night at eachothers house every day so its basically like we didnt break up. He moved back in a month later. And just moved out a week ago.I havent talked to him in 4 days. The first week he left. We were talking he kept giving me mixed signals saying he was going to come back then that he wasnt and that he didnt want nothing to do with me. He tells me its best if we leave eachother alone. After that he told me he loved me and was moving back the next day he said its best to not talk to eachother. He did this about 5 times saying he didnt want nothing to do with me. He texted me sunday saying “hey how are you I dont want to hurt you” then monday he texted saying “goodmorning “ i didnt text back and havent talked to him since then, he had blocked me on Facebook the first few days he left. Today i noticed he unblocked me. But still hasnt talked to me. :( It really hurts me so bad. And idk what to do. Do you think he will try talking to me again?
Yazmin Martinez think you should tell him how you feel and say that there are 2 people in this and that he's hurting you, it's not just him in this relationship that can do how he wants you to have rights and feelings too
Iv'e told my ex my darkest secrets, all of them literally. And you know what... She didn't focus on my past and it didn't affect our relationship at all and I could trust she would never tell anyone. I can always trust her. Man she was amazing. Well she still is an amazing person obviously, but she doesn't want to be in my life anymore. I miss her so much :(
@@chrisseitercoaching we broke up because she thought I was being manipulative. She thought I was trying to make her feel bad for me when I shared my feelings and she thought I was being controlling but I think it was a misunderstanding, and I said I would change but she just says "I know youre willing to change but I just don't want to be with you anymore"
I did the no contact rule. He seemed fine talking to me in person now. I overacted pushed him away so had to apologize. He accepted my apology and said if i need to talk to him or just want to just ask him. I told him sure but need a little space from time to time. Is this good start? Please notify me. I miss us being together.
Hi Chris, I feel like I have messed everything up. I did not do a proper no contact and we always had a little contact here and there through texts, he would always end up saying “leave me alone” or “please stop texting me” and id come off annoying. I have already begged and pleased about a month ago, it has been 36 days since the little contact was going on, (i mostly generated a contact and would talk about my feelings and it would annoy me) do you think that I still have a chance? Or I have messed everything up?
Chris Seiter I didn’t talk to him for a while, he said “I have found someone very special and genuine and I want you to keep your distance and not text me never ever. I don’t want to talk to you at all” I don’t know why he hates me
Hi Chris! Love your videos. My ex of 8 years and I just split a couple weeks ago. Did some no contact as much as possible but it was difficult because we have classes together. A few days ago he told me he missed me but he still needs time to process things. I hurt him, and we broke up because of it. Well, since then we have been flirting and talking and even hooked up once. He says he doesn’t want to lead me on because he is unsure whether he will want to get back in a relationship, but that he isn’t closed off to it. Anything you can think of to help me in this situation?
Hey Chris, im getting hooked to your videos and articles on the website. My ex and I had a 4 years on-off relationship and my ex thinks that our relationship is just a FWB type of relationship, though it is not. My ex went to a stay-in work last august but the truth was my ex was in another relationship. (The new guy just provide my ex with a lot of wealth and my ex is committed with their love.) 2 months after, we broke up. Now, the new relationship is going 2 months this december. My ex and i are now talking over facebook messenger but obviously he’s not emotionally attached to the conversations. We cant do the no contact rule coz we have a shared business. Im trying to apply the Being There Method and trying my best to be at Secure Attachment. Does this make sense?
I've noticed my ex only responds when I crack the shits. I'll have messaged a few nice messages, asking for friendship, or asking about how to repair something then asking how his weeks going and get nothing then It'll go something like this; "Ok, that's fine. You don't wanna talk to me even though you said you wanted some dialogue, you being a flake, not my problem. Just give me some notice when you want to meet to give me back my stuff and don't expect me to drop everything for you on the day. Goodbye" I got a response within 2 hours. After about a week of being ignored saying he's happy to chat from time to time as friends and giving me an exact date (16/3) of when he wants to meet to give me back my stuff. FYI he has a new gf he left me for her and she's really insecure and she sounds like a ballbreaker. He's just weird... are there any dudes out there who know how another dude thinks?
Hey there, so it sounds as if he is ignoring your texts looking for conversation to not upset the new girlfriend, but is replying when you seem angry to keep you talking to him overall. Have you completed a No Contact yet? You need to be doing one for 45 days if you want him back. As for meeting to exchange belongings. Make sure you look amazing and also make sure you dont hang around too long, make out like you have plans and you need to get going sharpish
Hi Chris, after I caught my boyfriend cheating and I confronted him with full evidence, he had nothing to say and he started ignoring me. He stopped taking my calls and wouldn't reply to my texts, I acted a bit crazy after that and became needy and desperate. I then found out about the no contact rule and I decided to give it a try. I went into radio silence for 35 days, then on Christmas day I initiated contact and sent him a Christmas wish and he responded within a minute of receiving my text. I really didn't think he would respond, is this a good sign? Do we still have a chance to get back together? I went back into silence though coz I really don't know what to say to him again.
Hi Sibongile! I know that's a tough thing to deal with. So if you pick up my Program (visit my website), you will learn how you should go about trying to connect on a more consistent basis. The key is little steps, starting with select and strategic texts. The is more to it than that of course, but I am limited to how much I can explain here on this platform. But I have tons of videos, articles, podcasts, and resources on my website if you wish to get up to speed.
Hi Chris. We just recently broke up with my bf a month ago. We are in a 5-year relationship. We fight hard that day. We are in a LDR relationship situation at that moment. And a day after our break up he already flirting with his co worker whom has a crush on him. From that time he gets attracted to the girl also. And now they are officially dating. It's hard on my situation because he is far away and the girl was the one beside him. I can't talk to him personally to settle things up. We need to be far away from each other because of his work. But he will return home after his contract. I still want him back. What advice would you give me Chris?
Hey Chris, does no contact work for short term relationship? Around three months? We spent a lot of time together and she used to beg for me. The more we argued and the more I asked for a break out of nowhere she decided to break up with me. She used to tell me she still loves me and all and we would still call each other every night. After one night where I cried about how much I love her she says we should not talk about stuff like that to make it easier for us to both move on.
Hey Alan...Yes, it can. Best to understand how to do it properly though. Pop on over to my website as I have a lot of tools and resources. that can help you thru all this.
So what do I do after we've been through a divorce? She is ok with people walking out so no contact to her is you wanna walk away. Her mind is if your intrested you give effort and she believes in matching that effort. We've been open and honest with each other about how we feel. She knows I love/miss her and she admitted she still loves me just not as a husband and misses me at times. She says she has moved on and is interested in someone already. We as friends still cuddle and hang out alone but we don't kiss or anything. She also says she doesn't view me as who I was during the marriage we are starting fresh. So I'm kinda confused on what to do here. We're hanging out, we sometimes cuddle, we're open and honest with each other, etc. But how long should I wait until I approach her about going on a possible date?
What if you shared virgin ground information already ? Like shared everything and also know everything about them ?can you bring up something they know already but don’t talk about much ?
My ex... Took me out for movie and lunch... Started texting me a bit more than before after I started pulling away. I am confused.... He hasn't said anything to clear this up..... He said I am his soulmate when we broke up...
There is no way we can script a text as each ex is unique so where one interest works for one ex, it wouldnt for another. The advice is really useful when you put in the work. Good Luck with your reach outs
My ex says she doesn't love me but keeps talking to me and asking me what I'm doing for the day. We also live with eachother and doing no contact is hard when she keeps coming into the room im in.
Coach Chris Seiter me and my ex fiance were Together for 11 long years and separated for 7 month now we're still friends and text and talk 3 days out the week and see each other twice a month all her belongings are still at the house besides two baskets of clothes she took and that's it all her important mail still comes here too and left the electric on in her name and I pay the bill are these all good signs in your opinion that she will come back too me? I miss her alot and love her way more than just a friend your advice and help would be greatly appreciated Thanks
my gf broke up with me and has moved on to his former bf but I still love her is there anything I can do to bring her back,imagine we even in a same class at university,she wants me to b talking to her and she's busy telling me she loves me and I still see them with his bf what should I do.
It depends on the circumstances. Can you give me a situation and I can tell you if it's too late? If your ex is married, I'd say that's to late but if you've been broken up for a year and they are single, it's still not to late.
Chris Seiter i’ve been on NC for about a month and i started to see signs of my ex opening up and missing me. he started watching my stories almost as soon as they were posted and one day i even saw him from the window in my room looking at my window. (we live pretty near each other so it’s not as creepy as it sounds haha) i tried to reach out upon seeing him but he rejected my dinner request. the next week i got drunk and ended up calling him, he did not reject my call (he has been cold and distant since the break) and when i asked him if he could come get me he told me he would come immediately. he ended up confessing to me he missed me a lot and that time when i saw him at the window was not the first time he was at my house. however he said that he had troubles forgetting all the fights we had and even tho he believes me that i have changed for the better he’s not sure if he is ready. what can i do so that he’s not so afraid of getting back tgt with me? it’s so clear he still cares and loves me and it hurts that i hurt him so much previously that he still has trouble forgetting our bad times. please help
My ex left me after 4 years and now living with her co worker on day 2 of me being gone. It's been 8 months now. Should I give up or continue to pursue?
I have talk to her when she needed me as far as problems or any sort of conflict she's had. I still get to see the daughter on Mondays and I chat with her. She occasionally send me selfies, regular selfies, not anything nude. She also says I love you to me. But more frequent when him and her are having problems. When their good, she stays to herself. She hasn't been very responsive the last couple of weeks. But they've had big fights that she broke out a window, one where she was getting threatening to be tazed while they where yelling. How I know this is because the daughter tells me these things because she is scared. Also he's a drinker and she's now drinking everyday with him. She's back and forth with me. How do you think I should handle it?
Yes it was my score. We were engaged and he broke up with me after a big fight almost 3 weeks ago. I reached out a lot the first week. Now I never do. He has a couple of times. Last time he told me of all the positive changes he’s making and what a rough time he’s having. He right away told me how much he still cared about me. I was a bit aloof not really sure what to make of it. It’s been a couple of days and he hasn’t reached out and of course neither have I. I know he’ll reach out again but it really doesn’t matter unless he’s ready to work things out. I feel like he’s close honestly but he’s also embarrassed considering our split is known by all the families and friends. It’s so odd that he felt the need to tell me of details about what he’s doing without me asking a thing but they were things I’ve wanted him to do.
Hi May....it sounds like he really let you down and you are in a NC period and he is wresting, perhaps with his guilt in reconciling what he feels and what it all means. Time can help us heal and enlighten us, and prepare us for constructive and positive solutions. My Program recommends you reach out at the end of the No Contact period. You can swing by my website if you wish to learn more about all of that and more.
