this is so helpful! i love how clear her examples are. one idiom i noticed i wanted to address. a few times stacy references this thing that is SO common in speech about relationships but is really unproductive/unhealthy : “x ‘made’ me feel” and “x’s behavior ‘made’ me feel”. it’s a disempowering, false narrative that other people’s words literally cause our own feelings. it’s helpful to understand that we can stand up for ourselves without giving so much of our own agency over to others by blaming them for our feelings. for example, what if we stand up for our boundaries but someone else thinks we “made them” feel guilty? instead of “you made me feel” we can try “when you say that i feel unsupported” and “i’d rather you not share opinions about x”. i hope this is helpful. i’m not a therapist, i just used to do that myself a Ton & after it was pointed out to me have appreciated how empowering the shift is in helping to own my own feelings about things & let ppl have feelings i don’t agree with. again, thanks so much for this great video!
