Settle or Play 

From observation, being a player looks like a waste of too much time (chasing is the best method of wasting your life). And settling down, I'd preferred she get on my program and build with me. Attracting attractive females isn't an issue when you're on point. The challenge is only a small percentage of females can handle being with a high performance healthy masculine man.

im just turning 30 and i can see this all coming into play... especially now that im picking up my workout game again

I have 3 uncles who will never get that player out their system. Currently in my old neighborhood in the country part of Jamaica as I'm watching this and one uncle here still slaying everything in sight(he's a tailor by profession) so that should say it all.

GM brethren! ☕this is very true. I know this well, the office, the church, apartment complex, business conventions. Im 44 divorced I make it clear im focused on my career, health and finances, your 100%correct be upfront and honest!

I'm in my late 30's and going through this NOW.

spot on Rom, this could also relate to the kevin harts of the world, who didn't get much play when they were younger, but as soon as they hit the jackpot, every girl is checking for them, so they feel entitled to make up for lost time

We as man are only as faithful as our options .

Man this video is spot on! I decided to settle. Did my wild stupid side in college and grad school! Got tired of jugggling women and meeting women that were either rachet or stuck up.

From what I know about players, they end up getting played at the end so there is no reward in this. I came to this world through a player and boy, does he have regrets. There is no reward in a man running around playing with a women 's heart. The sad thing about it is that they end up hurting good innocent women. The bad women never get caught in the players game, because they are out playing the good men. Then eventually what happens, the good women wakes up and turn their backs on the players the good men also wake up and turn their backs on the bad women.. what happens at the end, the players and the bad women end with each other and the bad men/women play them. This is karma. Think about it gentemem. Also, looking at this from a different perspective, lots of fatherless kids and angry baby mamas and a bunch of innocent people with broken hearts. I think it is better for a man or a woman to find someone who is compatible and settle with that one person. There are more blessings that comes from doing the right thing. This is what I have seen.

That's true it's hard to be faithful when they are throwing their panties at you .

I got it out of my system from early 20s to mid 20s. Now Im in my late 20s and Im not missing anything because I how it is. Im only focused on my goals and being the best version of me. I get looks from women all the time and I ignore them, dont care any more because my mindset is different now, there are more important things to do in life than waste my time chasing women that are seeking attention from me. Im enjoying a peaceful and quiet single life.

Variety is the spice of life. A man should always have more than 1 woman! #SALUTE ROM

I know a couple that got married in 1971 when they were 19 and 20. The husband cheated on the wife almost immediately after joining the navy. He cheated when he got out of the navy. He never gave himself the chance to explore women on his own without the responsibility of a wife and children. He is a great provider and his daughters all chose men like him when it came to the cheating on women.

You ever stop playing and they start reaching? Then you get that itch to play again? Maybe until you find one worth holding on to.

That's why historically speaking the King used to marry many wives(because if options) and the random pauper dude could only hold down one and she'd cheat on him with the King LMAO

Morning true Uncle Rom if you have to chase her she don't want you . I'm not talking about a little effort or effort but chasing she don't want you . I learned that the hard way that's part of the game though . If you find a good one hold on to her though . I say don't play with a good ones heart . If you want to play a little do it . Just don't play with a good ones heart. Also stay away from the ones that have been abused though . You can never please them . Every man should have his player stage .

*The dilemma & reality with settling down is once women get into their upper thirties and forties they can't keep up sexually with their Man. They simply wear down. Thus leaving him deprived, frustrated & hella prone to cheating. So either Men become polygamist or play. IMO*

You have to change your wording from hard to tough . If you use the word hard you usually won't want to do it but if you use the word tough your more willing to see it as a challenge and know that it will be difficult but its attainable

Very good video. To settle or play is a personal choice. Screw what society says because it’s not about them. It’s about you. Personally, I said to myself “I’ll settle down when I’m dead.” In my personal life, I am a BDSM Dom with several “subs” and I always lay the cards on the table. The women can either accept or reject it. And I choose multiple sex partners not because I feel the need to “sow my wild oats”, but because I am not naturally monogamous. I know men in their 50s and 60s who either play or PAY. At the end of the day, it’s a personal choice.

Ya because some women altho they dont know it are just meant to be the side chicks

I chose play. I've had my fair share of good women (one I ruined permanently), but in all honesty, it's not about me chasing and humping every leg that moves (like in my 20's). Now, (especially post red-pill) it's about freedom...mental, spiritual, and most definitely financial. I'm just striving to become the best me known to myself. I'm not going to sacrifice the possibility of having quality experiences with women, but the lure of self-actualization and ultimate autonomy are too great to be beholden to one woman, or to enslave myself to flawed institutions for social approval.

Excellent. Just excellent. You made me smile with this one my brother!

A man can looks great and healthy into his 70's and even 80's. Why rush ?

It has been my experience that when you try to go after things you feel you have missed out on it's not worth the price of your time and money

Yyyyoooooooo! Unc out here telling ppl their life story in these streets 🤣🤣🤣.

The point when men get high quality options is when men experience the abundance young women experience. As it turns out, we are no better at handling it. Young women and men coming into abundance need to have a damage control code. Honesty and respect are the best policies to keep good prospects around for the "second interview" call later on.

I've been bulking for 2 months now I can't wait till I'm finally 200 lbs

Realism , specially when you mentioned if he have to persue her too much , I've witness soo many friends do this and when they did give him a chance , as soon as he messed up they left , and then they questioned why

Rom, Real talk as always! As a man, it's always about your values, your principles and honor. I don't play!

On Point video Rom like always! I know and understand exactly what you're talking! I'm a serious example of what you're talking about. So I know definitely when things take off for me financially I'm not going to be that brother that want to settle , I'm telling you right now! I know I going to be that brother that's definitely going to make up for lost time but at the same time be cautious too, you still have to use your wisdom and not get to off track as far as being on top of your game when dealing with these women but at the same time it's going to be fun. Like I said, I did this by choice because I knew what I want out of life, I had a serious Direction and I wouldn't even let nothing knock me off my Square, I was focusing on what's important. I'm just being honest because I don't front or lie, I wasn't out there like that either. I could have been but I had to be smart because there's no telling what would have happened if I hadn't stayed focused , I didn't want no distractions! My goal was to work hard and play later. Really once you go through those years stay focused and really get to a level where you want to be financially when you in your mid or late 30s is when you really start having the most fun from what I heard and seen. When you have big dreams that requires a lot of work and is very time-consuming, focus and dedication, you don't have time to be a player and deal with women like that, you really don't, see that's when the real discipline of a man kicks in! Like I mentioned before, I've gotten attention from some attractive women now without no money and I get told that I'm very handsome. Imagine once things take off for me financially, especially the level that I'm going to be on financially, I'll probably experience that ten times more from women! Even though I'm wise and very sharp like you told me, if things get too out of hand with the women, then I'll have to come to you for some counseling Grandmaster. I know you'll get me right LOL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I thoroughly enjoyed this video!!

Excellent video, salute idk how I missed this one 🎯💪🏾

Im 24 and was messing around with a 40 year old single milf shes a 7, she was literally tryna get me up in her, she would buy me food and wanna get me gifts and shit but after a while I ended it because I released I'm young and need to focus on my life and get a good woman.... Settling is best... after you've played around it becomes hard to stick to commitment, thats like eating all and anything you want in your youth and then plan to get healthy when you are old.. a waste of time..

Listen i love women but don't get it twisted i can resist any woman any day of the weak. It's about mindset and i actually don't put them on a pedestal.

preachers and ministers are the biggest players

Oooooohhhh snap...messy..messy...lol..Good Morning Rom..missed u for a bit..but still lurk a bitt..hahha...hope u are well and life is trreating you kindly..cheers..✈😘

Yeah I'm in that phase now. I'm honest with them and they still come around. Not into breaking any hearts or having them have any ill feelings towards me.

Awesome. Rom

Great message for the brothers play hard and work smart global domination for global economic balance for the masculinity mens👍✊🌞💯🌍💲

It's always a difficult choice, but such situations do build character.

Indeed I did,I knew he wasn't ready.

What's up Big Rom, since I divorced I'v learn to settle and play because female's today are very confused one minute she wants to be settled and the next she want her freedom slavery has been abolished so let freedom ring sometimes bring more beautiful cream you'll winedup living your dream.

I’m 25 and I just hit this phase after my last break up where I became aware of the true nature of women. So I stopped checking and just focused on myself, my business took off, my body got even better and I’ve just been absorbing all the info on personal development and related to my career and I feel more confident than ever. What also helps me is in the looks department I am not a bad looking guy. Is there a point where it becomes too many women? Like I have women finding me, sending their friends for me to take my number or give their number, young women, older women, women in relationships and a lot of them are my type. It’s hard to resist a woman with a fat ass for me... but seeing women with men and how hard they come at me is actually making me wary of ever settling. Like shit, I wonder how many of my exes were like this with other men before I became aware? Even some exes saw me after and say I look and act different and they try to slide back in the picture but fuck them. They can’t get with me now. I feel like I’m at a cross roads with my old self and my new self. I like the idea of one loyal woman but my new self doesn’t believe it actually exists anymore. Like it’s a facade before they start their bad behavior, I’m not even sure if I even want to get married anymore after seeing what my father went through. I’ve been going through all of your videos Rom, thanks for helping me sort through some stuff.

I'm definitely gonna play when I get my weight down - I'm focused on myself now.

Hey Rom, will you do a video on the class divide between black men and black women when you get the chance? That's an important discussion that needs to be had.

Man I honestly try to ignore them but it makes it worst one of them showed up at my wife's bachelorette party and started constantly stopping her in the grocery store asking about me, it's like when they hear that your married, it triggers something inside them as if you become more desirable to them.

Good stuff

gotta be HONEST...and have fun..HAHHAAHHA....yes they will hang out...

So true Rom, told my Ex that he needed to go play or have sex with more Women,because he hadn't had enough Pootang.He keep showing the signs,so after 4 years I left.

Unc Rom The Godfather of many levels of the game.

To me this applies to the whole Kevin Hart situation, I wouldn't really consider him a "player" for other reasons. But his situation is a good example of what not to do, when your in his position, just my opinion. Good vid. by the way, and yes, alot of men don't know what its like to have options.

Great game for us . Im 24, Ive hit alot of bitches and my number could be over 60 if I choose to hit all of them but on the real alot of dudes need this talk. They do drugs and spend their money like its no tomorrow. When you hit that 30 you still young as hell if you did your body right. And if the bread is there its def time to take your mack game to another level. Good shit Rom

Great video Uncle Rom love gratitude as always I have women throwing it at me even though I'm a rude cocky a****** cause I honor my lady and I still can't get them to leave me the f*** alone Love as always great message!!!

rom is talking about my life. omg.lmao.

Anything before the word but is meaningless. Who agrees with this sometimes?

It's funny how a woman doesn’t want you until other women want you and then get mad at you for getting another women’s attention.

LoL If she's and asset then keep her. If she's a liability cut her loose. now your assets for her liabilities is how to Settle or lose the game.

Professor Rom you couldn't say it better. I'm in that stage now. Women are checking me everywhere. The different is had i that player phase 10 years ago. I'm ready to settle down period. Women for me as a bad boy like myself are predictable but i'm fine with it. It's time to move on. Kids and marriage sooner or later.

How bout brothers in their 40's?

Nice look ...definitely some gems u thru out there so keep the vids poop"n O.G Rom hold it down 4 the tru Geez''

the most important phase of a man is breaking free from mother phase not the playa phase, if he does not do that he is a boy for the rest of the life well he may be a playa seeking a womens validation certainly not a mr goodbar

Yeah. Respect the good woman. If she's for you, don't cheat on her because you're now getting attention from women you had always wanted. That's why I am not looking for marriage. I have a thing for big booty Berndas with the tattoos, so I would have an affair if one was after me. That's why I am learning game to be a goodbar a couple of "Brendas" to get it out my system. Have to be honest.

I try to be the good guy but the women keep on coming. When the women become the predator and you become the prey - you can run but you cant hide from them. Especially if they are 6s,7s,8s,9s and the elusive dime.....yikes - 100% game

Interesting video......even though I fall on another side. To find a great wife is settling for a male that cannot make a definitive decision (or immature). I would take it as a blessing to NOT have been a player throughout adolescence and young adulthood. I see players as BUILDERS of the Family Support Division court system..... PS......childhood lusts should subside by 22-27 but hey (shrug)....

You right rom guys get hitched early or shack early they be pouncing on anything I always say if u go cheat or run streets stay single I got a homie like this he shacked n still wanted more but he wouldn't leave he was scared to be on his own

Settle or play? Shit, I'm doing my own thing. Staking bread and enjoy myself to the fullest keeping drama filled women at a football fields reach. We only get one life make the most of it.